WEBVTT - Ivy’s sleep + feed routine 🍼 how Ivy has slept 12hrs a night by 12 weeks old 0:00:00.160 --> 0:00:03.960 Before her routine, Ivy was not a happy baby. She 0:00:04.080 --> 0:00:08.399 was honestly very grumpy. She was colloquy, she cried all 0:00:08.440 --> 0:00:13.040 the time, and all all that went away when we 0:00:13.160 --> 0:00:15.160 put her in this sleep and feed routine. 0:00:15.200 --> 0:00:29.920 And Welcome back to the Rise and Conquered Podcast. I'm 0:00:29.960 --> 0:00:34.440 your host, Georgie Stevenson, former lawyer turned entrepreneur, social media 0:00:34.520 --> 0:00:39.479 personality and personal development junkie. This podcast is for my 0:00:39.600 --> 0:00:42.880 girl gang who want to feed their mind with positive 0:00:42.960 --> 0:00:46.280 and expansive thoughts to help them step into their power 0:00:46.680 --> 0:00:50.040 and live their most authentic life. We chat a variety 0:00:50.040 --> 0:00:56.400 of topics including mindset, business, relationships, health, and so much more. Basically, 0:00:56.560 --> 0:00:59.240 wherever you are on your journey, I want to help 0:00:59.280 --> 0:01:02.560 you feel in, buyed and empowered to rise up and 0:01:02.600 --> 0:01:05.640 conquer your next bold move. I know that's going to 0:01:05.680 --> 0:01:08.679 look different for everyone, but just no, I'm right here 0:01:08.720 --> 0:01:11.880 by your side and that you have the RNC community 0:01:11.959 --> 0:01:12.440 behind you. 0:01:13.120 --> 0:01:24.600 Let's do this. Hello and welcome back to the Rise 0:01:24.640 --> 0:01:28.680 and Conker Podcast. It is your host, Georgie Stevenson and 0:01:28.959 --> 0:01:34.800 I have another mum potty for you guys. I'm sorry 0:01:34.840 --> 0:01:37.920 that it has been a lot of mum content but 0:01:38.120 --> 0:01:41.600 as you guys know, I'm a new mum and it's 0:01:41.720 --> 0:01:45.039 literally my life right now, and as we are planning 0:01:45.040 --> 0:01:48.360 for the next season and oh my god, planning some 0:01:48.600 --> 0:01:52.120 very very exciting things, I just wanted to bring you 0:01:52.200 --> 0:01:56.040 this content here and now, you know, while it's at 0:01:56.080 --> 0:01:59.280 the top of my brain and fairly and really relevant 0:01:59.400 --> 0:02:03.520 for me and I. So yeah, let's get straight into 0:02:03.560 --> 0:02:07.520 this episode. And this is a much requested episode about 0:02:08.200 --> 0:02:13.600 Ivy's sleep and feed routine. So before we do get 0:02:13.639 --> 0:02:18.440 into it, a little disclaimer is obviously I am not 0:02:18.919 --> 0:02:23.960 a professional. I am simply just explaining to you guys 0:02:24.040 --> 0:02:27.920 what we are doing with our baby and the advice 0:02:28.200 --> 0:02:33.600 I have received from a professional sleep consultant and the 0:02:33.639 --> 0:02:37.359 resources we're using, you know, like like I say in 0:02:37.400 --> 0:02:41.040 all my episodes, like this is just me telling you guys. 0:02:41.320 --> 0:02:45.280 And I guess why I'm kind of putting that disclaimer 0:02:45.400 --> 0:02:52.160 in is I didn't realize this, but like routines for 0:02:52.280 --> 0:02:56.560 newborns is a bit of a polarizing issue. Like when 0:02:56.639 --> 0:03:00.639 I first spoke about it on my Instagram, I didn't realize, 0:03:00.639 --> 0:03:03.200 but I got a lot of comments like you shouldn't 0:03:03.200 --> 0:03:06.880 be putting a newborn on a routine, and yeah, I 0:03:06.960 --> 0:03:09.880 realized that there's two camps. And it's like you're either 0:03:10.160 --> 0:03:13.920 for the routine or you're someone who doesn't like routine 0:03:13.919 --> 0:03:18.639 for newborn. And I'm just of the view that everyone's 0:03:18.919 --> 0:03:24.520 parenthood and motherhood journey is different and valid. You know, 0:03:24.720 --> 0:03:28.280 every human is different, every baby is different. And as 0:03:28.320 --> 0:03:31.720 long as you're doing what works for you, as long 0:03:31.760 --> 0:03:35.960 as you're happy your baby's happy, I think that is 0:03:36.080 --> 0:03:38.440 like totally fine. So if you know, if you listen 0:03:38.480 --> 0:03:41.600 to this and you do not agree, that is so fine. 0:03:41.880 --> 0:03:45.480 I you know, I'm not saying this is the only 0:03:45.560 --> 0:03:48.160 thing you should do. I'm just simply saying this is 0:03:48.200 --> 0:03:52.000 what we did. And to be completely honest, I am 0:03:52.080 --> 0:03:56.120 someone who loves routine. I am, you know, a tiepai person. 0:03:56.440 --> 0:03:59.320 I'm a bit of a control freak. And the first 0:03:59.480 --> 0:04:03.040 six like, if you haven't already listened to my episode, 0:04:03.040 --> 0:04:07.560 the first six weeks, it is the most intense shocking thing. 0:04:07.800 --> 0:04:11.840 It's like a death of yourself. And I found that 0:04:12.000 --> 0:04:17.120 this routine for Ivy and me has made me such 0:04:17.760 --> 0:04:22.240 a happier mum and honestly has made Ivy such a 0:04:22.279 --> 0:04:26.320 happier baby. I'll get into it. But before her routine, 0:04:26.800 --> 0:04:30.680 Ivy was not a happy baby. She was honestly very grumpy. 0:04:31.240 --> 0:04:34.440 She was collar quy, she cried all the time, and 0:04:35.880 --> 0:04:39.400 all all that went away when we put her in 0:04:39.480 --> 0:04:42.039 this sleep and feed routine. And I honestly think it's 0:04:42.120 --> 0:04:46.799 because she was either hungry or she was overtired. Poor 0:04:46.839 --> 0:04:50.720 girl was not sleeping enough for sure, because yeah, she 0:04:50.839 --> 0:04:53.680 just didn't know how to self soothe. And when she 0:04:53.800 --> 0:04:59.040 started sleeping more and getting more sleep, she literally changed. Guys, like, 0:04:59.120 --> 0:05:03.600 she is such happy baby, and sleep for babies is 0:05:03.720 --> 0:05:10.159 so important for their brain development. So yeah, anyway, long 0:05:10.240 --> 0:05:15.880 story short, let's get into so the reason that I 0:05:15.960 --> 0:05:19.480 had kind of heard of routines because I come from 0:05:19.600 --> 0:05:23.640 you know, like my mom had four babies and she 0:05:24.440 --> 0:05:26.159 had you know, she was a stay at home mom, 0:05:27.120 --> 0:05:29.560 and she was very of the view of, like, you know, 0:05:29.720 --> 0:05:33.200 sleep and feeding on demand and doing things that way. 0:05:34.080 --> 0:05:38.000 And I only sort of knew about routines because a 0:05:38.080 --> 0:05:41.839 girlfriend gave me a book called I think It's like 0:05:41.960 --> 0:05:46.120 the Baby Bible, and it's by Rebecca Judd, and she's 0:05:46.160 --> 0:05:48.680 got four kids and she wrote a book about pregnancy 0:05:48.920 --> 0:05:52.919 and babies. And I remember in that book what And 0:05:53.000 --> 0:05:56.719 I read this while I was pregnant. Definitely a good book, 0:05:56.760 --> 0:05:58.680 Like there was kind of stuff in there which I 0:05:58.880 --> 0:06:01.799 didn't really agree with, but anyway, it was a good book. 0:06:02.160 --> 0:06:09.159 And I remember her in that book saying she put 0:06:09.400 --> 0:06:13.680 her firstborn like she got help from a sleep consultant 0:06:13.760 --> 0:06:18.279 and she put her firstborn on a routine at six weeks, 0:06:18.760 --> 0:06:22.240 And by the time he was twelve weeks, he was 0:06:22.279 --> 0:06:27.200 sleeping seven seven pm to seven am, like twelve hours, 0:06:27.720 --> 0:06:33.919 which I thought, holy crap, that's incredible, and I remembered that. 0:06:34.080 --> 0:06:40.360 And then when Ivy was eight weeks. Also another popular 0:06:40.400 --> 0:06:45.799 influencer I follow, savann Ahla. She also has two babies 0:06:45.880 --> 0:06:50.000 and spoke about them being on routine since they were like, 0:06:50.080 --> 0:06:53.200 you know, come straight from the hospital, and how amazing 0:06:53.320 --> 0:06:56.560 it was for their sleep and just their routine. So 0:06:56.600 --> 0:06:59.120 I had those ideas floating in my head and so 0:06:59.320 --> 0:07:02.279 let's chat about what kind of made me go to this. 0:07:02.480 --> 0:07:06.279 So at eight weeks, Ivy was just a man feeding 0:07:06.320 --> 0:07:09.800 and sleeping through the night. She would wake usually every 0:07:09.880 --> 0:07:13.120 three hours, so you know, it was like six pm, 0:07:13.200 --> 0:07:16.120 we would feed her, put her down than nine pm. 0:07:16.480 --> 0:07:19.760 Then she would have a longer stretch till maybe two am, 0:07:20.240 --> 0:07:22.760 and then she would get up again at five am. 0:07:23.320 --> 0:07:26.760 And so you can imagine like when you were getting 0:07:26.880 --> 0:07:29.960 up that amount of times per night, like your brain 0:07:30.040 --> 0:07:33.640 is just not functioning. And even I had Tim helping 0:07:33.680 --> 0:07:37.240 me doing a bottle some of those feeds, and it 0:07:37.320 --> 0:07:42.320 was just it was wild and I just thought, surely, 0:07:43.600 --> 0:07:46.200 I just thought, is there a better way? Like I 0:07:46.280 --> 0:07:48.200 was kind of losing my mind a bit with the 0:07:48.240 --> 0:07:52.040 no sleep because I just, yeah, it was it was 0:07:52.080 --> 0:07:54.560 a lot for us. And I found, you know, when 0:07:54.600 --> 0:07:58.560 I wasn't sleeping, I was quite I don't want to 0:07:58.560 --> 0:08:02.400 say unhappy, but when you're not sleeping, you obviously don't 0:08:02.400 --> 0:08:05.640 have full capacity. You're not functioning. It's like, you know, 0:08:05.680 --> 0:08:07.920 it's just harder to do life. Like I found that 0:08:07.960 --> 0:08:10.880 me and Tim were fighting a lot, and it just 0:08:11.080 --> 0:08:15.200 it felt really hard. And also she just was not 0:08:15.240 --> 0:08:17.960 a happy baby. She was crying all the time, like 0:08:18.040 --> 0:08:20.960 she just Ivy did not seem good. And I remember 0:08:20.960 --> 0:08:24.400 saying to Tim, I feel like something is wrong. I 0:08:24.400 --> 0:08:27.480 feel like we're doing things wrong. And you know, the 0:08:27.880 --> 0:08:30.120 control freaking me was like, I need to sort this 0:08:30.200 --> 0:08:34.440 out because I see other people with their baby sleeping 0:08:34.480 --> 0:08:38.200 through and sleeping longer periods and just being a lot happier, 0:08:38.720 --> 0:08:41.440 and so yeah, I want to kind of get into this. 0:08:41.600 --> 0:08:44.560 And then I remember I went back to that book, 0:08:44.760 --> 0:08:48.160 The Baby Bible, when Rebecca was talking about like her 0:08:48.240 --> 0:08:51.800 routine and whatnot, and one of like a piece of 0:08:51.840 --> 0:08:54.320 advice in there she said, one piece of advice I'd 0:08:54.320 --> 0:08:59.480 give you is if your baby isn't sleeping like, go 0:08:59.720 --> 0:09:03.040 and help from a professional. It will be the best 0:09:03.040 --> 0:09:06.440 thing you do. And so I thought, that's it. I'm 0:09:06.440 --> 0:09:10.320 gonna like, I'm gonna seek help from a professional. So 0:09:10.920 --> 0:09:15.000 I found one and I will put her details in 0:09:15.160 --> 0:09:19.440 the show notes. Her name is Susie and let me 0:09:19.640 --> 0:09:22.760 just let me look at my last invoice from her 0:09:22.880 --> 0:09:26.040 so I can see where she's from. So she's from 0:09:26.400 --> 0:09:34.080 Happy Baby Consultancy and she is Brisbane based. I'll put 0:09:34.080 --> 0:09:36.679 her details in the show notes and I just like 0:09:36.880 --> 0:09:42.360 text her. We jumped on a call and it was 0:09:43.200 --> 0:09:46.880 just such a relief because she she explained so many 0:09:46.880 --> 0:09:49.840 things to me where she was like, you know, babies 0:09:49.920 --> 0:09:55.120 biologically should feed and sleep and they should know basically 0:09:55.160 --> 0:09:59.120 what to do. And at this point to oh this, sorry, 0:09:59.120 --> 0:10:01.360 I missed a whole part of this story. So a 0:10:01.400 --> 0:10:05.400 big part was so Ivy would sleep in a cop 0:10:05.440 --> 0:10:08.240 by herself during the night, which was really good, and 0:10:08.240 --> 0:10:10.240 we would obviously just get up to feed her every 0:10:10.280 --> 0:10:13.160 three hours, which was still painful, but you know, we 0:10:13.160 --> 0:10:16.720 were getting little bits of sleep, but through the day 0:10:18.400 --> 0:10:21.200 just because like from when she was a newborn, we 0:10:21.240 --> 0:10:24.360 would just kind of carry her around, you know, how 0:10:24.400 --> 0:10:28.000 do you do with a little baby, And what we 0:10:28.000 --> 0:10:32.199 were finding at eight weeks is she just wouldn't sleep 0:10:32.400 --> 0:10:36.240 through the day unless she was on you, and so 0:10:37.400 --> 0:10:39.839 it was just really hard because me and Tim were like, 0:10:40.040 --> 0:10:42.560 you can't get anything done. So if I was home 0:10:42.600 --> 0:10:45.959 alone with Ivy, you literally couldn't really get anything done 0:10:46.040 --> 0:10:49.640 during the day. And obviously vice versa if Tim was 0:10:49.679 --> 0:10:52.400 at home with Ivy and I was just like, oh 0:10:52.440 --> 0:10:56.199 my god, like yeah, it was just a lot, very 0:10:56.320 --> 0:10:59.840 very clingy. And she also wouldn't go to sleep unless 0:10:59.840 --> 0:11:02.360 she was like yeah, on me or being rocked to sleep. 0:11:02.880 --> 0:11:05.800 And I remember I just like I felt super anxious 0:11:05.840 --> 0:11:08.560 all the time because it's like you never knew how 0:11:08.600 --> 0:11:10.760 long it would take to get her to sleep, and 0:11:10.800 --> 0:11:13.680 then she was not sleeping more than forty five minutes, 0:11:13.720 --> 0:11:17.840 which is like a sleep cycle for newborns. And yeah, 0:11:17.920 --> 0:11:20.440 it was just like this. It was a lot, and 0:11:20.480 --> 0:11:22.040 I was just like, I feel like there is a 0:11:22.040 --> 0:11:25.920 better way, and I had my first consult with Susie, 0:11:25.960 --> 0:11:28.440 and guys, this is not you know, sponsored or anything 0:11:28.520 --> 0:11:32.080 at all paid for Susie's services, and holly shit, best 0:11:32.080 --> 0:11:36.280 thing I do, but best thing I did, Like that book. 0:11:36.920 --> 0:11:39.520 The best advice I can give you is if your 0:11:39.520 --> 0:11:42.079 baby is not sleeping for more than forty five minutes 0:11:42.520 --> 0:11:45.320 through the day, like they can't link their sleep cycles, 0:11:45.480 --> 0:11:48.440 or they're not sleeping through the night, like, just get 0:11:48.480 --> 0:11:53.439 some professional help, because it literally if you want, it 0:11:53.559 --> 0:11:57.880 literally changed the game for us. So basically, just to 0:11:58.240 --> 0:12:01.480 you know, bring it back to the present day. After 0:12:01.679 --> 0:12:05.600 three weeks of Ivy being on this feed and sleep routine, 0:12:06.080 --> 0:12:09.880 she was sleeping from her nine thirty feet till seven 0:12:09.920 --> 0:12:13.160 am in the morning, and then just recently in the 0:12:13.280 --> 0:12:17.840 last week, she is now sleeping seven pm till seven 0:12:17.960 --> 0:12:21.240 am and we have to go in and wake her 0:12:21.320 --> 0:12:24.320 up at seven am, like she's just sleeping so well. 0:12:24.360 --> 0:12:28.720 And then throughout the day she has two one and 0:12:28.720 --> 0:12:31.560 a half to two hour naps and one forty five 0:12:31.600 --> 0:12:36.240 minute nap in the afternoon, so she is like getting 0:12:36.280 --> 0:12:38.720 all her sleeps in. And she was a baby who 0:12:38.800 --> 0:12:43.160 did not sleep much when she was a newborn, and honestly, 0:12:43.640 --> 0:12:45.920 I honestly think that's why she was so grumpy, because 0:12:45.920 --> 0:12:48.320 she was like overtired all the time and she really 0:12:48.400 --> 0:12:53.120 needed help, you know, to get to sleep. So I'm 0:12:53.160 --> 0:12:57.360 not gonna lie, guys, it was a little tough getting 0:12:57.400 --> 0:13:01.040 her into this routine. So it was definitely a tough 0:13:01.240 --> 0:13:05.400 you know, two to three weeks. The biggest kind of 0:13:05.440 --> 0:13:09.360 advice that we got from this sleep consultant was if 0:13:09.360 --> 0:13:11.680 you want your baby to sleep well during the night, 0:13:11.800 --> 0:13:14.560 you have to make sure they're getting all their food 0:13:14.679 --> 0:13:18.080 during the day. So I just used to leave Ivy 0:13:18.280 --> 0:13:21.960 until she told me she was hungry, whereas now she 0:13:22.360 --> 0:13:26.199 feeds at certain times of the day and I basically 0:13:26.280 --> 0:13:29.560 know that she's getting all her calories in during the day, 0:13:30.040 --> 0:13:33.360 which is why she can sustain that twelve hour nap. 0:13:33.760 --> 0:13:36.840 I mean sleep well, it's definitely not an app And 0:13:36.880 --> 0:13:42.240 then another thing too is sleep breed sleep Like that's 0:13:42.240 --> 0:13:47.480 the saying the consult said, And basically I realize if 0:13:47.679 --> 0:13:51.320 Ivy is sleep during the day isn't good, her sleep 0:13:51.440 --> 0:13:55.880 at night isn't good. So when she sleeps, you know, 0:13:56.080 --> 0:13:58.559 quite good during the day and we make sure she's 0:13:58.679 --> 0:14:02.440 like not overtime and she's getting her naps, she sleeps 0:14:02.600 --> 0:14:05.680 even better at night. And it's weird because you would think, oh, 0:14:05.720 --> 0:14:08.080 if she sleeps all day, she's not gonna sleep all night, 0:14:08.480 --> 0:14:10.640 but it's the opposite. If she sleeps all day, she 0:14:10.800 --> 0:14:14.000 sleeps all night. Whereas if she has like, yeah, a 0:14:14.040 --> 0:14:17.080 bit of an unsettled day, will notice, it's so much 0:14:17.120 --> 0:14:21.760 harder to get her to bed. So basically some things 0:14:21.840 --> 0:14:26.640 that helped us was her awake windows. And there's also 0:14:26.680 --> 0:14:31.920 this really great resource called what what Baby like WoT 0:14:32.160 --> 0:14:37.760 baby and that stands for windows of time. You can 0:14:37.760 --> 0:14:41.520 find them on Instagram. And also really good resource I 0:14:41.520 --> 0:14:45.800 found on Instagram was the Sleep Teacher. Both of those 0:14:45.840 --> 0:14:48.360 were good, but like I said, I got an actual 0:14:48.400 --> 0:14:51.840 sleep consultant who worked with me in Ivy personally, and 0:14:51.880 --> 0:14:55.120 that was it was a game changer to actually have 0:14:55.280 --> 0:14:58.120 someone you know, texting Ivy's just working up. Should I 0:14:58.120 --> 0:15:01.120 go and resettle her or should I leave? Blah blah blah. 0:15:01.400 --> 0:15:04.320 So basically the biggest thing that we notice is her 0:15:04.360 --> 0:15:07.760 windows of time. So Ivy was eating and then she 0:15:07.840 --> 0:15:10.640 would stay awake for like two hours before we would 0:15:10.640 --> 0:15:13.400 try and get her to sleep, and by that time 0:15:13.560 --> 0:15:16.840 she was overtired and it would be even harder to 0:15:16.920 --> 0:15:19.840 get her to sleep. 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So basically, if she, 0:18:01.200 --> 0:18:03.760 you know, only has a forty five minute nap and 0:18:03.800 --> 0:18:07.320 she doesn't resettle, we would only keep her for a 0:18:07.359 --> 0:18:10.200 wake for forty five minutes and then we would put 0:18:10.240 --> 0:18:13.600 her back down to sleep and so on. So if 0:18:13.600 --> 0:18:16.439 she sleeps the full an hour and a half to 0:18:16.520 --> 0:18:19.480 two hours, we then keep her up for the hour 0:18:19.520 --> 0:18:22.639 and you know a half, But otherwise, if it's shorter, 0:18:22.800 --> 0:18:26.280 we match her nap to how long we keep her up. 0:18:27.440 --> 0:18:32.879 We also feed her every four hours, but we she 0:18:33.040 --> 0:18:36.439 has like quite She's actually fully bottle fed now, and 0:18:36.480 --> 0:18:41.360 that's because Ivy started refusing the boob at eight weeks, 0:18:41.800 --> 0:18:44.119 which was a little bit sad for me, but you know, 0:18:44.840 --> 0:18:48.440 it's Ivy's well, it's what she wanted, and I honestly 0:18:48.480 --> 0:18:51.720 think that's because we did introduce the bottle so early. 0:18:52.280 --> 0:18:55.720 But in saying that, we you know, I am back 0:18:55.760 --> 0:18:58.200 to work and Ivy is only three months old, so 0:18:58.600 --> 0:19:01.040 it's a little bit hard because we knew that Ivy 0:19:01.040 --> 0:19:03.960 would need to take the bottle because our plan was 0:19:04.000 --> 0:19:08.119 always Tim would spend this year at home with Ivy 0:19:08.200 --> 0:19:10.040 and I would go back to work. So of course 0:19:10.440 --> 0:19:13.960 we need her to take the bottle. So yeah, she's 0:19:14.000 --> 0:19:16.040 fully bottle fed now. So it does make it a 0:19:16.119 --> 0:19:19.800 bit easier for us because we know exactly how much 0:19:19.840 --> 0:19:23.600 she's getting. So this is another thing with resettling. Like 0:19:23.640 --> 0:19:26.520 I said, Ivy wasn't sleeping for longer than forty five 0:19:26.560 --> 0:19:30.040 minutes at a time, and she would wake up and 0:19:30.080 --> 0:19:32.920 cry and we would pick her up. So what we 0:19:33.960 --> 0:19:37.679 now do and she fully knows how to self settle, 0:19:37.720 --> 0:19:41.480 So basically our routine is we put her down in 0:19:41.520 --> 0:19:45.879 the cot, fully awake. You know, we make sure we 0:19:46.000 --> 0:19:49.320 fully prime the environment. So we put her little glow 0:19:49.400 --> 0:19:52.760 dreaming light on, she has a sound machine. We put 0:19:52.760 --> 0:19:56.240 her in a sleepsack, we have blockout blinds. We put 0:19:56.280 --> 0:19:59.199 her in her cot and we say, Nana, Ivy, this 0:19:59.240 --> 0:20:03.040 is during the day, and she goes in her cot 0:20:03.280 --> 0:20:07.080 fully awake, and we simply leave the room and we 0:20:07.280 --> 0:20:11.119 let her. We let her put herself to sleep. Because 0:20:11.160 --> 0:20:16.560 basically what was happening is before we were completely putting 0:20:16.640 --> 0:20:19.120 her to sleep. So we would rock her, we would 0:20:19.200 --> 0:20:23.480 bounce her, we would do all those things get her 0:20:23.520 --> 0:20:27.080 to sleep, and then like carefully put her in the cot. 0:20:27.280 --> 0:20:29.560 And then what she would do is she would wake 0:20:29.640 --> 0:20:32.760 up after one sleep cycle. And because when she went 0:20:32.800 --> 0:20:35.680 to sleep, I was there, we were rocking her, we 0:20:35.680 --> 0:20:37.800 were comforting her. When she would wake up and we 0:20:37.800 --> 0:20:41.199 weren't there, she wouldn't link her sleep cycles and she 0:20:41.200 --> 0:20:44.040 would cry for us. So basically, if you guys think 0:20:44.080 --> 0:20:48.760 about it, like babies are a clean slate, like they 0:20:48.920 --> 0:20:52.919 only know what they know. So or for the first 0:20:53.000 --> 0:20:56.320 eight weeks of Ivy's life, during the day she slept 0:20:56.320 --> 0:20:58.440 on me, we always rocked her to sleep, like all 0:20:58.480 --> 0:21:02.640 these things. So of course she would cry unless that 0:21:02.680 --> 0:21:06.000 thing happened. So this is where I say it was 0:21:06.160 --> 0:21:09.399 a little bit tough, and it feels a bit, you know, 0:21:09.600 --> 0:21:13.640 against your intuition. But at first, you know, we put 0:21:13.680 --> 0:21:17.760 Ivy in the cot fully awake, and she would cry. 0:21:18.400 --> 0:21:21.280 And when I say cry, I'm not talking like an 0:21:21.320 --> 0:21:25.119 emotional cry. I'm talking like they call it a protest 0:21:25.240 --> 0:21:32.320 cry when the baby simply you know, wants to have mum, 0:21:32.480 --> 0:21:35.080 if that makes sense, So what would we So what 0:21:35.080 --> 0:21:37.000 we would do is we would put her down. You know, 0:21:37.160 --> 0:21:40.040 she would cry, kick around the cot. I would always 0:21:40.119 --> 0:21:42.840 time it, and I wouldn't leave her for longer than 0:21:42.960 --> 0:21:47.600 six minutes. But ninety nine percent of the time she 0:21:47.960 --> 0:21:50.960 would cry for five minutes and then she would just 0:21:51.160 --> 0:21:54.359 go to sleep because she realized I wasn't coming back. 0:21:55.119 --> 0:21:57.200 If you know, she had been crying for a good 0:21:57.280 --> 0:21:59.800 five to ten minutes and I could see that she 0:22:00.119 --> 0:22:02.840 wasn't putting her to sleep. I would go in there 0:22:03.000 --> 0:22:06.360 and pat her bum and have my hand over her, 0:22:06.520 --> 0:22:09.240 just so she's like, she knows Mom's there. But I 0:22:09.240 --> 0:22:12.199 would never pick her up because the whole thing we 0:22:12.320 --> 0:22:15.479 realize is, you know, if you if she cries and 0:22:15.560 --> 0:22:18.440 you go in and pick her up, then she goes, oh, okay, 0:22:18.800 --> 0:22:20.679 anytime I want mom to come pick me up, I 0:22:20.760 --> 0:22:22.639 just cry. She picks me up and I can sleep 0:22:22.680 --> 0:22:26.040 on her. But what we kind of showed her was, no, 0:22:26.440 --> 0:22:29.080 you cry, I'll come in and comfort you, but you're 0:22:29.119 --> 0:22:31.159 going to sleep and you're cot and you'll you know, 0:22:31.280 --> 0:22:35.200 you have to link your sleep cycles. So, like I said, 0:22:35.320 --> 0:22:37.200 it was a little bit hard at the start, because 0:22:37.240 --> 0:22:39.400 no one wants to hear their baby cry. But once 0:22:39.440 --> 0:22:42.159 you realize, like, it's so funny because we have a 0:22:42.160 --> 0:22:45.439 baby camera and we'll literally watch Ivy and she'll cry, 0:22:46.000 --> 0:22:49.160 and once she realized no one's coming in, she'll look 0:22:49.200 --> 0:22:51.520 around and then just put her head down and go 0:22:51.640 --> 0:22:54.560 to sleep. And me and Tim are like, oh my god, 0:22:54.640 --> 0:22:58.920 she's so cheeky. So and that's the thing is it 0:22:58.960 --> 0:23:01.440 was only hard at the start, And she only did 0:23:01.440 --> 0:23:05.120 that at the start because previously she would cry, we'd 0:23:05.200 --> 0:23:07.200 come in, we'd put her to sleep, and that's all 0:23:07.280 --> 0:23:09.840 she knew, and that's what she thought she had to 0:23:09.840 --> 0:23:12.760 do to get to sleep. Whereas now she knows I 0:23:12.760 --> 0:23:16.159 can put myself to sleep, I know. And this is 0:23:16.200 --> 0:23:19.920 the big thing that I love about routine is Ivy 0:23:20.000 --> 0:23:24.320 barely cries because she doesn't need to cry for me 0:23:24.400 --> 0:23:27.520 to feed her. She gets fed every three to four hours, 0:23:28.640 --> 0:23:32.159 you know, once her two hour nap is over, or 0:23:32.320 --> 0:23:35.439 once you know it's seven am, I come in and 0:23:35.480 --> 0:23:38.800 I pick her up. I don't wait for her to cry, 0:23:38.920 --> 0:23:42.440 if that makes sense. So what we have found since 0:23:42.440 --> 0:23:46.119 putting this routine into place, we've found are, like, you know, 0:23:46.240 --> 0:23:49.479 the whole witching hour thing. So Ivy used to cry 0:23:49.680 --> 0:23:52.960 NonStop in the afternoon. She no longer does that. We 0:23:53.080 --> 0:23:56.400 do not have witching hour, and I honestly think that's 0:23:56.440 --> 0:23:59.080 because she's getting enough sleep during the day and she's 0:23:59.119 --> 0:24:02.320 getting enough calor during the day, so she literally has 0:24:02.400 --> 0:24:05.600 no reason to cry. And I think what was happening 0:24:05.640 --> 0:24:10.200 previously is because I wasn't being very like onto her 0:24:10.240 --> 0:24:13.639 feeding time. She was either overtired or she was hungry 0:24:13.680 --> 0:24:16.000 in the afternoon, because I get more hungry in the afternoon. 0:24:17.080 --> 0:24:21.080 So basically she doesn't cry at all because yeah, like 0:24:21.160 --> 0:24:23.760 I said, once her NAP's over, we come in, we 0:24:23.840 --> 0:24:27.800 pick her up, and when like we feed her before 0:24:27.840 --> 0:24:30.800 she's even needing to cry to tell us she's hungry 0:24:30.840 --> 0:24:35.520 because she's fed. And for us it has just been 0:24:35.560 --> 0:24:40.000 an absolute game changer to see how happy she is. 0:24:40.119 --> 0:24:43.639 But also it's been a game changer because we know 0:24:43.840 --> 0:24:46.520 when we're feeding her, we know when her naps are, 0:24:46.560 --> 0:24:50.040 so we can completely plan the day. I've gone back 0:24:50.080 --> 0:24:53.200 to work, so this routine has made it so much 0:24:53.280 --> 0:24:57.440