Speaker 1: Before her routine, Ivy was not a happy baby. She
Speaker 1: was honestly very grumpy. She was colloquy, she cried all
Speaker 1: the time, and all all that went away when we
Speaker 1: put her in this sleep and feed routine.
Speaker 2: And Welcome back to the Rise and Conquered Podcast. I'm
Speaker 2: your host, Georgie Stevenson, former lawyer turned entrepreneur, social media
Speaker 2: personality and personal development junkie. This podcast is for my
Speaker 2: girl gang who want to feed their mind with positive
Speaker 2: and expansive thoughts to help them step into their power
Speaker 2: and live their most authentic life. We chat a variety
Speaker 2: of topics including mindset, business, relationships, health, and so much more. Basically,
Speaker 2: wherever you are on your journey, I want to help
Speaker 2: you feel in, buyed and empowered to rise up and
Speaker 2: conquer your next bold move. I know that's going to
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Speaker 1: Let's do this. Hello and welcome back to the Rise
Speaker 1: and Conker Podcast. It is your host, Georgie Stevenson and
Speaker 1: I have another mum potty for you guys. I'm sorry
Speaker 1: that it has been a lot of mum content but
Speaker 1: as you guys know, I'm a new mum and it's
Speaker 1: literally my life right now, and as we are planning
Speaker 1: for the next season and oh my god, planning some
Speaker 1: very very exciting things, I just wanted to bring you
Speaker 1: this content here and now, you know, while it's at
Speaker 1: the top of my brain and fairly and really relevant
Speaker 1: for me and I. So yeah, let's get straight into
Speaker 1: this episode. And this is a much requested episode about
Speaker 1: Ivy's sleep and feed routine. So before we do get
Speaker 1: into it, a little disclaimer is obviously I am not
Speaker 1: a professional. I am simply just explaining to you guys
Speaker 1: what we are doing with our baby and the advice
Speaker 1: I have received from a professional sleep consultant and the
Speaker 1: resources we're using, you know, like like I say in
Speaker 1: all my episodes, like this is just me telling you guys.
Speaker 1: And I guess why I'm kind of putting that disclaimer
Speaker 1: in is I didn't realize this, but like routines for
Speaker 1: newborns is a bit of a polarizing issue. Like when
Speaker 1: I first spoke about it on my Instagram, I didn't realize,
Speaker 1: but I got a lot of comments like you shouldn't
Speaker 1: be putting a newborn on a routine, and yeah, I
Speaker 1: realized that there's two camps. And it's like you're either
Speaker 1: for the routine or you're someone who doesn't like routine
Speaker 1: for newborn. And I'm just of the view that everyone's
Speaker 1: parenthood and motherhood journey is different and valid. You know,
Speaker 1: every human is different, every baby is different. And as
Speaker 1: long as you're doing what works for you, as long
Speaker 1: as you're happy your baby's happy, I think that is
Speaker 1: like totally fine. So if you know, if you listen
Speaker 1: to this and you do not agree, that is so fine.
Speaker 1: I you know, I'm not saying this is the only
Speaker 1: thing you should do. I'm just simply saying this is
Speaker 1: what we did. And to be completely honest, I am
Speaker 1: someone who loves routine. I am, you know, a tiepai person.
Speaker 1: I'm a bit of a control freak. And the first
Speaker 1: six like, if you haven't already listened to my episode,
Speaker 1: the first six weeks, it is the most intense shocking thing.
Speaker 1: It's like a death of yourself. And I found that
Speaker 1: this routine for Ivy and me has made me such
Speaker 1: a happier mum and honestly has made Ivy such a
Speaker 1: happier baby. I'll get into it. But before her routine,
Speaker 1: Ivy was not a happy baby. She was honestly very grumpy.
Speaker 1: She was collar quy, she cried all the time, and
Speaker 1: all all that went away when we put her in
Speaker 1: this sleep and feed routine. And I honestly think it's
Speaker 1: because she was either hungry or she was overtired. Poor
Speaker 1: girl was not sleeping enough for sure, because yeah, she
Speaker 1: just didn't know how to self soothe. And when she
Speaker 1: started sleeping more and getting more sleep, she literally changed. Guys, like,
Speaker 1: she is such happy baby, and sleep for babies is
Speaker 1: so important for their brain development. So yeah, anyway, long
Speaker 1: story short, let's get into so the reason that I
Speaker 1: had kind of heard of routines because I come from
Speaker 1: you know, like my mom had four babies and she
Speaker 1: had you know, she was a stay at home mom,
Speaker 1: and she was very of the view of, like, you know,
Speaker 1: sleep and feeding on demand and doing things that way.
Speaker 1: And I only sort of knew about routines because a
Speaker 1: girlfriend gave me a book called I think It's like
Speaker 1: the Baby Bible, and it's by Rebecca Judd, and she's
Speaker 1: got four kids and she wrote a book about pregnancy
Speaker 1: and babies. And I remember in that book what And
Speaker 1: I read this while I was pregnant. Definitely a good book,
Speaker 1: Like there was kind of stuff in there which I
Speaker 1: didn't really agree with, but anyway, it was a good book.
Speaker 1: And I remember her in that book saying she put
Speaker 1: her firstborn like she got help from a sleep consultant
Speaker 1: and she put her firstborn on a routine at six weeks,
Speaker 1: And by the time he was twelve weeks, he was
Speaker 1: sleeping seven seven pm to seven am, like twelve hours,
Speaker 1: which I thought, holy crap, that's incredible, and I remembered that.
Speaker 1: And then when Ivy was eight weeks. Also another popular
Speaker 1: influencer I follow, savann Ahla. She also has two babies
Speaker 1: and spoke about them being on routine since they were like,
Speaker 1: you know, come straight from the hospital, and how amazing
Speaker 1: it was for their sleep and just their routine. So
Speaker 1: I had those ideas floating in my head and so
Speaker 1: let's chat about what kind of made me go to this.
Speaker 1: So at eight weeks, Ivy was just a man feeding
Speaker 1: and sleeping through the night. She would wake usually every
Speaker 1: three hours, so you know, it was like six pm,
Speaker 1: we would feed her, put her down than nine pm.
Speaker 1: Then she would have a longer stretch till maybe two am,
Speaker 1: and then she would get up again at five am.
Speaker 1: And so you can imagine like when you were getting
Speaker 1: up that amount of times per night, like your brain
Speaker 1: is just not functioning. And even I had Tim helping
Speaker 1: me doing a bottle some of those feeds, and it
Speaker 1: was just it was wild and I just thought, surely,
Speaker 1: I just thought, is there a better way? Like I
Speaker 1: was kind of losing my mind a bit with the
Speaker 1: no sleep because I just, yeah, it was it was
Speaker 1: a lot for us. And I found, you know, when
Speaker 1: I wasn't sleeping, I was quite I don't want to
Speaker 1: say unhappy, but when you're not sleeping, you obviously don't
Speaker 1: have full capacity. You're not functioning. It's like, you know,
Speaker 1: it's just harder to do life. Like I found that
Speaker 1: me and Tim were fighting a lot, and it just
Speaker 1: it felt really hard. And also she just was not
Speaker 1: a happy baby. She was crying all the time, like
Speaker 1: she just Ivy did not seem good. And I remember
Speaker 1: saying to Tim, I feel like something is wrong. I
Speaker 1: feel like we're doing things wrong. And you know, the
Speaker 1: control freaking me was like, I need to sort this
Speaker 1: out because I see other people with their baby sleeping
Speaker 1: through and sleeping longer periods and just being a lot happier,
Speaker 1: and so yeah, I want to kind of get into this.
Speaker 1: And then I remember I went back to that book,
Speaker 1: The Baby Bible, when Rebecca was talking about like her
Speaker 1: routine and whatnot, and one of like a piece of
Speaker 1: advice in there she said, one piece of advice I'd
Speaker 1: give you is if your baby isn't sleeping like, go
Speaker 1: and help from a professional. It will be the best
Speaker 1: thing you do. And so I thought, that's it. I'm
Speaker 1: gonna like, I'm gonna seek help from a professional. So
Speaker 1: I found one and I will put her details in
Speaker 1: the show notes. Her name is Susie and let me
Speaker 1: just let me look at my last invoice from her
Speaker 1: so I can see where she's from. So she's from
Speaker 1: Happy Baby Consultancy and she is Brisbane based. I'll put
Speaker 1: her details in the show notes and I just like
Speaker 1: text her. We jumped on a call and it was
Speaker 1: just such a relief because she she explained so many
Speaker 1: things to me where she was like, you know, babies
Speaker 1: biologically should feed and sleep and they should know basically
Speaker 1: what to do. And at this point to oh this, sorry,
Speaker 1: I missed a whole part of this story. So a
Speaker 1: big part was so Ivy would sleep in a cop
Speaker 1: by herself during the night, which was really good, and
Speaker 1: we would obviously just get up to feed her every
Speaker 1: three hours, which was still painful, but you know, we
Speaker 1: were getting little bits of sleep, but through the day
Speaker 1: just because like from when she was a newborn, we
Speaker 1: would just kind of carry her around, you know, how
Speaker 1: do you do with a little baby, And what we
Speaker 1: were finding at eight weeks is she just wouldn't sleep
Speaker 1: through the day unless she was on you, and so
Speaker 1: it was just really hard because me and Tim were like,
Speaker 1: you can't get anything done. So if I was home
Speaker 1: alone with Ivy, you literally couldn't really get anything done
Speaker 1: during the day. And obviously vice versa if Tim was
Speaker 1: at home with Ivy and I was just like, oh
Speaker 1: my god, like yeah, it was just a lot, very
Speaker 1: very clingy. And she also wouldn't go to sleep unless
Speaker 1: she was like yeah, on me or being rocked to sleep.
Speaker 1: And I remember I just like I felt super anxious
Speaker 1: all the time because it's like you never knew how
Speaker 1: long it would take to get her to sleep, and
Speaker 1: then she was not sleeping more than forty five minutes,
Speaker 1: which is like a sleep cycle for newborns. And yeah,
Speaker 1: it was just like this. It was a lot, and
Speaker 1: I was just like, I feel like there is a
Speaker 1: better way, and I had my first consult with Susie,
Speaker 1: and guys, this is not you know, sponsored or anything
Speaker 1: at all paid for Susie's services, and holly shit, best
Speaker 1: thing I do, but best thing I did, Like that book.
Speaker 1: The best advice I can give you is if your
Speaker 1: baby is not sleeping for more than forty five minutes
Speaker 1: through the day, like they can't link their sleep cycles,
Speaker 1: or they're not sleeping through the night, like, just get
Speaker 1: some professional help, because it literally if you want, it
Speaker 1: literally changed the game for us. So basically, just to
Speaker 1: you know, bring it back to the present day. After
Speaker 1: three weeks of Ivy being on this feed and sleep routine,
Speaker 1: she was sleeping from her nine thirty feet till seven
Speaker 1: am in the morning, and then just recently in the
Speaker 1: last week, she is now sleeping seven pm till seven
Speaker 1: am and we have to go in and wake her
Speaker 1: up at seven am, like she's just sleeping so well.
Speaker 1: And then throughout the day she has two one and
Speaker 1: a half to two hour naps and one forty five
Speaker 1: minute nap in the afternoon, so she is like getting
Speaker 1: all her sleeps in. And she was a baby who
Speaker 1: did not sleep much when she was a newborn, and honestly,
Speaker 1: I honestly think that's why she was so grumpy, because
Speaker 1: she was like overtired all the time and she really
Speaker 1: needed help, you know, to get to sleep. So I'm
Speaker 1: not gonna lie, guys, it was a little tough getting
Speaker 1: her into this routine. So it was definitely a tough
Speaker 1: you know, two to three weeks. The biggest kind of
Speaker 1: advice that we got from this sleep consultant was if
Speaker 1: you want your baby to sleep well during the night,
Speaker 1: you have to make sure they're getting all their food
Speaker 1: during the day. So I just used to leave Ivy
Speaker 1: until she told me she was hungry, whereas now she
Speaker 1: feeds at certain times of the day and I basically
Speaker 1: know that she's getting all her calories in during the day,
Speaker 1: which is why she can sustain that twelve hour nap.
Speaker 1: I mean sleep well, it's definitely not an app And
Speaker 1: then another thing too is sleep breed sleep Like that's
Speaker 1: the saying the consult said, And basically I realize if
Speaker 1: Ivy is sleep during the day isn't good, her sleep
Speaker 1: at night isn't good. So when she sleeps, you know,
Speaker 1: quite good during the day and we make sure she's
Speaker 1: like not overtime and she's getting her naps, she sleeps
Speaker 1: even better at night. And it's weird because you would think, oh,
Speaker 1: if she sleeps all day, she's not gonna sleep all night,
Speaker 1: but it's the opposite. If she sleeps all day, she
Speaker 1: sleeps all night. Whereas if she has like, yeah, a
Speaker 1: bit of an unsettled day, will notice, it's so much
Speaker 1: harder to get her to bed. So basically some things
Speaker 1: that helped us was her awake windows. And there's also
Speaker 1: this really great resource called what what Baby like WoT
Speaker 1: baby and that stands for windows of time. You can
Speaker 1: find them on Instagram. And also really good resource I
Speaker 1: found on Instagram was the Sleep Teacher. Both of those
Speaker 1: were good, but like I said, I got an actual
Speaker 1: sleep consultant who worked with me in Ivy personally, and
Speaker 1: that was it was a game changer to actually have
Speaker 1: someone you know, texting Ivy's just working up. Should I
Speaker 1: go and resettle her or should I leave? Blah blah blah.
Speaker 1: So basically the biggest thing that we notice is her
Speaker 1: windows of time. So Ivy was eating and then she
Speaker 1: would stay awake for like two hours before we would
Speaker 1: try and get her to sleep, and by that time
Speaker 1: she was overtired and it would be even harder to
Speaker 1: get her to sleep. So now her a wake windows
Speaker 1: during the day are an hour and fifteen minutes from
Speaker 1: the time she woke up to an hour and a half,
Speaker 1: And like I said, if we put her to bed
Speaker 1: any later than this, it's harder to get her to sleep.
Speaker 1: So really tightening up those awake windows and making sure
Speaker 1: if she's been awake for that manner time she's back
Speaker 1: down for a nap and you know, lining up her
Speaker 1: feed times and whatnot. So that's like, for example, if
Speaker 1: Ivy only has a forty five minute nap during the day,
Speaker 1: we don't keep her for a wake a longer longer
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Speaker 1: now let's get back into today's episode. So basically, if she,
Speaker 1: you know, only has a forty five minute nap and
Speaker 1: she doesn't resettle, we would only keep her for a
Speaker 1: wake for forty five minutes and then we would put
Speaker 1: her back down to sleep and so on. So if
Speaker 1: she sleeps the full an hour and a half to
Speaker 1: two hours, we then keep her up for the hour
Speaker 1: and you know a half, But otherwise, if it's shorter,
Speaker 1: we match her nap to how long we keep her up.
Speaker 1: We also feed her every four hours, but we she
Speaker 1: has like quite She's actually fully bottle fed now, and
Speaker 1: that's because Ivy started refusing the boob at eight weeks,
Speaker 1: which was a little bit sad for me, but you know,
Speaker 1: it's Ivy's well, it's what she wanted, and I honestly
Speaker 1: think that's because we did introduce the bottle so early.
Speaker 1: But in saying that, we you know, I am back
Speaker 1: to work and Ivy is only three months old, so
Speaker 1: it's a little bit hard because we knew that Ivy
Speaker 1: would need to take the bottle because our plan was
Speaker 1: always Tim would spend this year at home with Ivy
Speaker 1: and I would go back to work. So of course
Speaker 1: we need her to take the bottle. So yeah, she's
Speaker 1: fully bottle fed now. So it does make it a
Speaker 1: bit easier for us because we know exactly how much
Speaker 1: she's getting. So this is another thing with resettling. Like
Speaker 1: I said, Ivy wasn't sleeping for longer than forty five
Speaker 1: minutes at a time, and she would wake up and
Speaker 1: cry and we would pick her up. So what we
Speaker 1: now do and she fully knows how to self settle,
Speaker 1: So basically our routine is we put her down in
Speaker 1: the cot, fully awake. You know, we make sure we
Speaker 1: fully prime the environment. So we put her little glow
Speaker 1: dreaming light on, she has a sound machine. We put
Speaker 1: her in a sleepsack, we have blockout blinds. We put
Speaker 1: her in her cot and we say, Nana, Ivy, this
Speaker 1: is during the day, and she goes in her cot
Speaker 1: fully awake, and we simply leave the room and we
Speaker 1: let her. We let her put herself to sleep. Because
Speaker 1: basically what was happening is before we were completely putting
Speaker 1: her to sleep. So we would rock her, we would
Speaker 1: bounce her, we would do all those things get her
Speaker 1: to sleep, and then like carefully put her in the cot.
Speaker 1: And then what she would do is she would wake
Speaker 1: up after one sleep cycle. And because when she went
Speaker 1: to sleep, I was there, we were rocking her, we
Speaker 1: were comforting her. When she would wake up and we
Speaker 1: weren't there, she wouldn't link her sleep cycles and she
Speaker 1: would cry for us. So basically, if you guys think
Speaker 1: about it, like babies are a clean slate, like they
Speaker 1: only know what they know. So or for the first
Speaker 1: eight weeks of Ivy's life, during the day she slept
Speaker 1: on me, we always rocked her to sleep, like all
Speaker 1: these things. So of course she would cry unless that
Speaker 1: thing happened. So this is where I say it was
Speaker 1: a little bit tough, and it feels a bit, you know,
Speaker 1: against your intuition. But at first, you know, we put
Speaker 1: Ivy in the cot fully awake, and she would cry.
Speaker 1: And when I say cry, I'm not talking like an
Speaker 1: emotional cry. I'm talking like they call it a protest
Speaker 1: cry when the baby simply you know, wants to have mum,
Speaker 1: if that makes sense, So what would we So what
Speaker 1: we would do is we would put her down. You know,
Speaker 1: she would cry, kick around the cot. I would always
Speaker 1: time it, and I wouldn't leave her for longer than
Speaker 1: six minutes. But ninety nine percent of the time she
Speaker 1: would cry for five minutes and then she would just
Speaker 1: go to sleep because she realized I wasn't coming back.
Speaker 1: If you know, she had been crying for a good
Speaker 1: five to ten minutes and I could see that she
Speaker 1: wasn't putting her to sleep. I would go in there
Speaker 1: and pat her bum and have my hand over her,
Speaker 1: just so she's like, she knows Mom's there. But I
Speaker 1: would never pick her up because the whole thing we
Speaker 1: realize is, you know, if you if she cries and
Speaker 1: you go in and pick her up, then she goes, oh, okay,
Speaker 1: anytime I want mom to come pick me up, I
Speaker 1: just cry. She picks me up and I can sleep
Speaker 1: on her. But what we kind of showed her was, no,
Speaker 1: you cry, I'll come in and comfort you, but you're
Speaker 1: going to sleep and you're cot and you'll you know,
Speaker 1: you have to link your sleep cycles. So, like I said,
Speaker 1: it was a little bit hard at the start, because
Speaker 1: no one wants to hear their baby cry. But once
Speaker 1: you realize, like, it's so funny because we have a
Speaker 1: baby camera and we'll literally watch Ivy and she'll cry,
Speaker 1: and once she realized no one's coming in, she'll look
Speaker 1: around and then just put her head down and go
Speaker 1: to sleep. And me and Tim are like, oh my god,
Speaker 1: she's so cheeky. So and that's the thing is it
Speaker 1: was only hard at the start, And she only did
Speaker 1: that at the start because previously she would cry, we'd
Speaker 1: come in, we'd put her to sleep, and that's all
Speaker 1: she knew, and that's what she thought she had to
Speaker 1: do to get to sleep. Whereas now she knows I
Speaker 1: can put myself to sleep, I know. And this is
Speaker 1: the big thing that I love about routine is Ivy
Speaker 1: barely cries because she doesn't need to cry for me
Speaker 1: to feed her. She gets fed every three to four hours,
Speaker 1: you know, once her two hour nap is over, or
Speaker 1: once you know it's seven am, I come in and
Speaker 1: I pick her up. I don't wait for her to cry,
Speaker 1: if that makes sense. So what we have found since
Speaker 1: putting this routine into place, we've found are, like, you know,
Speaker 1: the whole witching hour thing. So Ivy used to cry
Speaker 1: NonStop in the afternoon. She no longer does that. We
Speaker 1: do not have witching hour, and I honestly think that's
Speaker 1: because she's getting enough sleep during the day and she's
Speaker 1: getting enough calor during the day, so she literally has
Speaker 1: no reason to cry. And I think what was happening
Speaker 1: previously is because I wasn't being very like onto her
Speaker 1: feeding time. She was either overtired or she was hungry
Speaker 1: in the afternoon, because I get more hungry in the afternoon.
Speaker 1: So basically she doesn't cry at all because yeah, like
Speaker 1: I said, once her NAP's over, we come in, we
Speaker 1: pick her up, and when like we feed her before
Speaker 1: she's even needing to cry to tell us she's hungry
Speaker 1: because she's fed. And for us it has just been
Speaker 1: an absolute game changer to see how happy she is.
Speaker 1: But also it's been a game changer because we know
Speaker 1: when we're feeding her, we know when her naps are,
Speaker 1: so we can completely plan the day. I've gone back
Speaker 1: to work, so this routine has made it so much
Speaker 1: easier for Tim, you know, to look after her and
Speaker 1: also like her sleep pep through the night even at
Speaker 1: ten weeks, like from that nine thirty till seven am.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, guys, I need sleep. And it changed
Speaker 1: like it was a game changer for us. And I'm
Speaker 1: a big believer. Is like if mom's happy, baby is happy,
Speaker 1: and it's it's just it has been so much better
Speaker 1: for us. Like I said, it was a little bit
Speaker 1: tough at the start figuring it out letting herself soothe.
Speaker 1: I do want to be like deliberate though, and just
Speaker 1: say we don't do the crying out method, Like if
Speaker 1: you do that, amazing, you do you, But it's not
Speaker 1: like we leave her and she's crying for hours. The
Speaker 1: simple protest cry was just to teach her to self soothe,
Speaker 1: and it honestly only took a week or so and
Speaker 1: she understood it. And now she completely puts herself to
Speaker 1: bed and even I will watch the camera after forty
Speaker 1: five minutes she wakes up in her morning naps, she'll
Speaker 1: wake up, she'll move around the cod a little, she'll
Speaker 1: make some noises, and then she'll put herself back to
Speaker 1: sleep because she knows, oh, I've got another sleep, and
Speaker 1: then Mum will come and get me and we'll feed.
Speaker 1: So like she's she's super smart, like babies are really
Speaker 1: smart and they they know you know what they want
Speaker 1: and they know, oh if I cry, Mum will come
Speaker 1: get me and I can sleep on her. Whereas, yeah,
Speaker 1: if you don't teach them, they you know, they only
Speaker 1: know what you can know, if that makes sense. But yeah,
Speaker 1: A couple other things that we did is I started
Speaker 1: reading the book Save Our Sleep. This is a musk, guys,
Speaker 1: So this very much. If you can't you know, afford
Speaker 1: the Sleep Consultant, or you just like you don't feel
Speaker 1: like you're at that step yet, go and read this book.
Speaker 1: Get it on audible, get it on Kindle, because very
Speaker 1: much everything that I was taught from the Sleep Consultant
Speaker 1: was in this book. And I will go back to
Speaker 1: the book. It's a little bit different with their awake times,
Speaker 1: but in this book they have example routines that tell
Speaker 1: you exactly you know, when to feed, when to put
Speaker 1: baby down, and this and that. So if you're wanting
Speaker 1: direction about routines, that's definitely what I recommend. But to
Speaker 1: give you guys a rough idea, currently what Ivy's routine
Speaker 1: looks like. This is what we do. So we wake
Speaker 1: Ivy up at seven a m. She's usually always sleeping
Speaker 1: at this point, and so we go in and wake
Speaker 1: her up. We never leave her past this point because
Speaker 1: generally there's a twelve hour window, so whatever time you
Speaker 1: wake baby up, that's the time they'll go to bed.
Speaker 1: So we never want her to put her We never
Speaker 1: want to put her later than seven pm to bed
Speaker 1: because we eat after that. It's like wait too wait
Speaker 1: for us. So just think, whatever time you wake baby
Speaker 1: up is generally the time that they will go to sleep.
Speaker 1: So we wake her up at seven am. We say, hi, Ivy,
Speaker 1: you've had such a good sleep, you know, kisses, cuddles,
Speaker 1: change her, bring her downstairs, and she has her first
Speaker 1: bottle of the day. A quick tidbit guys with feeding.
Speaker 1: A guy that my pediatrician told me is you go
Speaker 1: off your baby's weight times one fifty, which is like
Speaker 1: how many mills, and then you divide that by how
Speaker 1: many feeds you do a day. So we do four
Speaker 1: feeds for her at the moment, so she has around
Speaker 1: two hundred mills in each bottle. So yeah, seven am feed.
Speaker 1: We then keep her awake for an hour and fifteen
Speaker 1: to an hour and a half. We have playtime in
Speaker 1: the Mama Roo that sort of thing, and then she
Speaker 1: is down in her cot. We put her in a
Speaker 1: cot completely awake, and we let her self soothe and
Speaker 1: go to sleep. So often we'll look the camera and
Speaker 1: she won't go to sleep for like fifteen minutes. She
Speaker 1: will like mess around her cock cot, talk to herself
Speaker 1: that sort of thing, but eventually she'll go to sleep.
Speaker 1: If she does cry and she doesn't go to sleep,
Speaker 1: I'll simply go in there, tap her bottom, help her
Speaker 1: to sleep, and she'll go to sleep. But usually, you know,
Speaker 1: she knows how to self soothe now, and then she'll
Speaker 1: usually have an hour and fifteen to two hours for
Speaker 1: her first two naps. Again, if she wakes up after
Speaker 1: one cycle and she doesn't link it and she cries,
Speaker 1: I go in there and I pat her bum. I
Speaker 1: never had. I never take her out of the cock.
Speaker 1: If she's hysterically crying, I generally know okay, she you know,
Speaker 1: is either have has a burp or she needs her
Speaker 1: nappy changed, and obviously I will, you know, do those things.
Speaker 1: I'm not like a robot. Her next feed is at
Speaker 1: eleven am, and then we do the exact same thing
Speaker 1: with the awake times. How we put it to bed
Speaker 1: and and then her next feed is at three PM
Speaker 1: and then six point thirty and then in the afternoon.
Speaker 1: She doesn't usually sleep longer than forty five minutes, which
Speaker 1: is fine because she usually gets a good three or
Speaker 1: four hours before that. And then we do her bedtime routine,
Speaker 1: so we give her a bath, we have a little play,
Speaker 1: we get her in her pajamas, and then we do
Speaker 1: her last bottle at six point thirty, and then she
Speaker 1: gets put in bed at seven and goes to sleep,
Speaker 1: and at the moment she's sleeping the twelve hours touch wood.
Speaker 1: So that's just a little bit about what has helped us,
Speaker 1: what we're currently doing with her routine. But yeah, I
Speaker 1: hope that helps. Definitely check out what Baby, which is
Speaker 1: Windows of Time. The sleep teacher on Instagram has some
Speaker 1: great resources. The book This is a Musk Guy's The
Speaker 1: book Save Our Sleep has been such an amazing tool
Speaker 1: for us. Again, we don't do everything in the book,
Speaker 1: but take what you want. It's just really great, you know,
Speaker 1: to know. And then getting help from the sleep consultant Susie.
Speaker 1: I'll put her details in the show notes. Oh my God,
Speaker 1: like game changer. I text Susie all the time. And
Speaker 1: I go, oh my god, you know, Ivy's had the
Speaker 1: best sleep day, thank you so much. And she's like
Speaker 1: Susie's very old school and she yeah, she's like she
Speaker 1: was a bit brutal. I'm not gonna lie, but she
Speaker 1: was awesome. And she just gave me so much confidence.
Speaker 1: And that is like the biggest thing. Since we've got
Speaker 1: Ivy into this routine, I just feel so much more
Speaker 1: confident as a mum because, you know, because I know
Speaker 1: if she's crying, it's like I know that you know,
Speaker 1: I know she's been fed, i know her nappy has changed,
Speaker 1: I know that she's had enough sleep. So if she's crying,
Speaker 1: I'm like, all right, what's wrong? And it's just like
Speaker 1: her routine eliminates so many things and she doesn't really
Speaker 1: have a lot of reasons to cry. And then also
Speaker 1: it's just it's made me and Tim's relationship so much
Speaker 1: better because everyone knows, you know, what they're doing when
Speaker 1: they're doing it, what she needs. It's so amazing for
Speaker 1: me going back to work. It's so amazing for both
Speaker 1: me and Tim's sleep, Ivy sleep, Like obviously you can
Speaker 1: see I'm a big fan of routine. Yeah, it has
Speaker 1: been a game changeer for us, so obviously I wanted
Speaker 1: to share this. But again, I know this is not
Speaker 1: for everyone, and that is so okay, but please do
Speaker 1: not DM me and you know, come at me about routine,
Speaker 1: because like I said, everyone's journey with parenthood is different
Speaker 1: and valid and whatever works for you, that's amazing. I'm
Speaker 1: just telling you, guys, what has worked for me and Tim.
Speaker 1: And also I'm telling you because I kind of wish
Speaker 1: I had started this whole route thing earlier. I know,
Speaker 1: and save this, save our sleep. She has routines from newborn,
Speaker 1: and one hundred percent with our next baby, I will
Speaker 1: be doing her routines from day dot because I just
Speaker 1: feel like, you know, newborn stage is hectic enough to
Speaker 1: eliminate you know, these sorts of things. It's it's super helpful,
Speaker 1: but again that's because I'm someone who loves routine, and
Speaker 1: of course my baby loves routine. But yes, anyway, guys,
Speaker 1: I hope that answers your questions. I know I've kind
Speaker 1: of just like blabbed on, but yeah, I hope that
Speaker 1: is helpful. Make sure you check out those resources. I
Speaker 1: will link everything in the show notes and I'll definitely
Speaker 1: update you guys, because I know the whole four month
Speaker 1: sleep regression is coming and I will let you know
Speaker 1: how we go with that. But for now, everyone's sleeping
Speaker 1: in the Crouch household and it is just bliss. And
Speaker 1: if your baby's currently not sleep, definitely definitely look into
Speaker 1: us again. It took us a good couple weeks before
Speaker 1: we saw the results. I have another girlfriend who is
Speaker 1: currently just starting a routine and she has said, you know,
Speaker 1: the first couple weeks is hard, but stick to it. Yeah,
Speaker 1: we saw amazing results, and yeah, we're all very happy.
Speaker 1: But I hope this episode is helpful and I will
Speaker 1: chat to you in my next episode. Thank you so much. Bye.
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