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Speaker 1: once we wrap things up today on the Happy Families podcast.

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Speaker 1: Real Parenting Solutions every day on Australia's most downloaded and

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Speaker 1: can I say today Real Parenting Podcast with me, Justin

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Speaker 1: Coulson and my wife Kylie. All right, Kylie, here's the deal.

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Speaker 1: I'll do better tomorrow. It's where we have a look

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Speaker 1: at parents tomorrow. You're sighing. You're looking at me like,

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Speaker 1: that I'm going to share good stuff because you don't

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Speaker 1: So much anyway, this week we've relaunched the Happy Families

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Speaker 1: Lonesome Dove series Lonesome Dove, My goodness, incredible, I'm watching.

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Speaker 1: the MAHA movement in the United States. Maham so MAGA

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Speaker 1: Older Better Tomorrow is the we're doing, and it was

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Speaker 1: We went dancing dancing. We went dancing on the dance floor.

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Speaker 2: I am envious. She said, I'm envious, she said because,

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you've got that booked in for me for November.

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Speaker 1: There's always next week. Invest in your relationships, love one another.

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