WEBVTT - 10 Lessons From This Decade // What I'll Be Taking Into 2020! 0:00:05.680 --> 0:00:08.879 Hi, and welcome to the Rise and Conquer Podcast. I'm 0:00:08.920 --> 0:00:12.280 your host, Georgie Stevenson. I am a lawyer and health coach, 0:00:12.560 --> 0:00:17.079 social media influencer, wife, and dog mum. On the Rise 0:00:17.120 --> 0:00:22.840 and Conquer Podcast, we dive deep into all things mindset, habits, career, health, 0:00:23.000 --> 0:00:26.680 relationships and more. This is a podcast for women who 0:00:26.720 --> 0:00:29.560 want to rise up to be the best version of themselves, 0:00:29.840 --> 0:00:32.120 who have big dreams in who are willing to put 0:00:32.120 --> 0:00:34.320 in the work to get there. I want to bring 0:00:34.360 --> 0:00:38.080 you the tools and actionable steps to feel confident in yourself, 0:00:38.640 --> 0:00:43.240 inspired to take bold action, and motivated to conquer your goals. 0:00:43.680 --> 0:00:46.680 Are you with me? Your friends, Let's Rise and conquer. 0:00:57.960 --> 0:01:01.480 Hi guys, and welcome back to the Rise Conquer Podcasts. 0:01:01.880 --> 0:01:06.760 So I cannot believe it, but we are about to 0:01:06.840 --> 0:01:10.920 go into twenty twenty, which is just I don't know, 0:01:11.000 --> 0:01:14.440 it's a bit crazy. We are finishing a decade. As 0:01:14.440 --> 0:01:17.760 I'm recording this episode, we are seven days away from 0:01:17.840 --> 0:01:21.440 twenty twenty, so still in twenty nineteen. But I wanted 0:01:21.480 --> 0:01:23.480 to do an episode. I actually want to do an 0:01:23.520 --> 0:01:27.559 episode where I've reflected on twenty nineteen and go through 0:01:27.680 --> 0:01:30.360 like my lessons that I've learned. But then I was like, 0:01:30.920 --> 0:01:33.880 oh my god, let's just do the whole decade. Because 0:01:33.920 --> 0:01:37.200 I was actually looking at photos. I wanted to do that, 0:01:38.280 --> 0:01:40.280 you know that like ten year challenge where you post 0:01:40.319 --> 0:01:44.200 a photo of when you were like ten years ago, obviously, 0:01:44.800 --> 0:01:48.440 and it was just bringing back all these mems and whatnot. 0:01:48.560 --> 0:01:52.280 So I thought, hell, I'm going to go through ten 0:01:52.360 --> 0:01:56.400 life lessons of the whole decade. So I'm going to 0:01:56.480 --> 0:01:59.760 do a quick kind of timeline just so it makes 0:01:59.800 --> 0:02:03.080 it more since. So ten years ago, I well, I'm 0:02:03.120 --> 0:02:06.120 twenty five now, so I would have been fifteen, so 0:02:06.160 --> 0:02:09.160 little baby Georgie I would have been in grade eleven. 0:02:09.200 --> 0:02:13.960 I'm pretty sure. Yeah. So obviously this decade has been 0:02:14.120 --> 0:02:17.560 a big one of my life, the most important, heaps 0:02:17.600 --> 0:02:21.000 of stuff happening. So obviously twenty ten, I was in 0:02:21.000 --> 0:02:25.240 Grade eleven, nothing that exciting. So twenty eleven was when 0:02:25.280 --> 0:02:28.799 I finished Grade twelve. Twenty eleven is also when I 0:02:28.840 --> 0:02:32.919 met Timothy, who is now my husband. And then twenty 0:02:33.120 --> 0:02:38.240 twelve to twenty sixteen I studied and graduated my law degree. 0:02:38.720 --> 0:02:42.160 Around twenty thirteen, I started my igene, a more kind 0:02:42.200 --> 0:02:45.920 of blogging way that I do now. I also moved 0:02:45.919 --> 0:02:48.720 out of home when I was nineteen and mostly worked 0:02:48.760 --> 0:02:52.480 full time during that period of studying my law degree, 0:02:53.400 --> 0:02:56.959 and then twenty sixteen me and Tim bought our townhouse. 0:02:57.360 --> 0:03:02.480 Twenty seventeen I started YouTube. Twenty eighteen I got admitted 0:03:02.600 --> 0:03:06.880 as a lawyer. Twenty eighteen I got married. I left 0:03:06.919 --> 0:03:09.760 the law firm I was at. I went off and 0:03:09.800 --> 0:03:14.080 did my own thing, hired mail and got more serious 0:03:14.160 --> 0:03:18.600 within my personal brand. And then twenty nineteen has been 0:03:18.639 --> 0:03:21.920 a big year of I started this podcast, I co 0:03:22.000 --> 0:03:24.560 founded Naked Harvest with my brother. We did the live 0:03:24.680 --> 0:03:28.520 events a lot, a lot, and I moved to the Golkos. 0:03:28.520 --> 0:03:33.240 So a lot happening. So let's get straight into ten 0:03:33.360 --> 0:03:37.800 life lessons for the decade. So number one, and it's 0:03:37.920 --> 0:03:41.120 nothing new or exciting, but this is very much a 0:03:41.200 --> 0:03:46.240 principle that I now live my life by, and it's 0:03:46.560 --> 0:03:50.040 everything happens for a reason, and I need to be 0:03:50.280 --> 0:03:54.360 trusting in the process. So the reason why bringing this 0:03:54.560 --> 0:03:59.080 up is obviously I started my law degree and finished 0:03:59.080 --> 0:04:01.600 out for like six years, god admit as a lawyer, 0:04:01.760 --> 0:04:06.400 did my pot and now I'm doing something so different 0:04:06.560 --> 0:04:09.880 and I often get asked if you know I regret 0:04:10.560 --> 0:04:14.680 doing that, and the answer is definitely no. I am 0:04:14.760 --> 0:04:19.240 such a big believer in that needed to happen for 0:04:19.320 --> 0:04:22.880 me to become the person I am today, and even 0:04:22.960 --> 0:04:25.600 kind of looking at it a little bit closer, like 0:04:26.200 --> 0:04:31.080 the skills I developed through working for the law firm 0:04:31.120 --> 0:04:34.360 I did, even through working through my law degree, I 0:04:34.360 --> 0:04:37.440 had various jobs where I developed a lot of skills. 0:04:37.480 --> 0:04:40.440 And then obviously the law degree also comes in handy 0:04:40.560 --> 0:04:44.560 just with various skills and life skills. And just like 0:04:44.640 --> 0:04:48.200 a little example, so I hired mel in twenty eighteen, 0:04:48.760 --> 0:04:53.039 and she really helped me transform my business from this 0:04:53.200 --> 0:04:56.640 kind of like influencer personal brand to what it is 0:04:56.720 --> 0:05:01.440 now where it's very multifacet and you know, there's lots 0:05:01.480 --> 0:05:04.160 going on, and to be honest, I think a lot 0:05:04.320 --> 0:05:08.040 of that was me taking myself more seriously and giving 0:05:08.080 --> 0:05:11.880 myself more responsibility because I now had someone on my team. 0:05:12.080 --> 0:05:15.960 A lot of that was also realizing when I was 0:05:16.040 --> 0:05:19.600 working in the law firm that people worked so much 0:05:19.600 --> 0:05:23.039 better than a team. You know, that whole saying. If 0:05:23.160 --> 0:05:25.760 I want to go quick, I'll go by myself. If 0:05:25.800 --> 0:05:28.000 I want to go far, I'll go with the team. 0:05:28.360 --> 0:05:31.120 I think that's right, but I'm such a big believer 0:05:31.200 --> 0:05:33.880 in that. And then even kind of little thing. So 0:05:34.200 --> 0:05:38.560 for example, I obviously work with brands and partnerships within 0:05:38.640 --> 0:05:43.039 my personal brand, whether that's in a sponsorships on Instagram 0:05:43.160 --> 0:05:46.640 or YouTube, or even if it's you know, to do 0:05:46.720 --> 0:05:50.960 with the podcast or Naked Harvest, And the biggest feedback 0:05:51.080 --> 0:05:55.680 that I have ever gotten is how professional my communication 0:05:56.160 --> 0:05:59.120 is just in regards to you know, emailing people, getting 0:05:59.160 --> 0:06:02.960 back to people and that sort of thing. And the 0:06:03.080 --> 0:06:06.479 kind of most common thing that comes up is people 0:06:06.640 --> 0:06:11.839 give me the feedback. With other social media influencers, sometimes 0:06:11.920 --> 0:06:15.839 it's a little bit hard to work with them. And 0:06:16.320 --> 0:06:19.560 I've even noticed this within Naked Harvest, because we obviously 0:06:19.640 --> 0:06:25.000 work with influencers. Is you can really notice the people 0:06:25.120 --> 0:06:29.039 who kind of don't have the skills of even just 0:06:29.160 --> 0:06:31.919 writing an email and getting back to you, you know, 0:06:32.080 --> 0:06:36.080 within a good standard amount of time. And I think 0:06:36.120 --> 0:06:40.760 that's because a lot of social media influencers these days 0:06:41.120 --> 0:06:45.000 probably go straight from high school and like Instagram is 0:06:45.080 --> 0:06:47.080 kind of like their part time job, and they go 0:06:47.240 --> 0:06:50.880 straight into doing it full time, and it really shows 0:06:50.920 --> 0:06:54.280 that they haven't got those basic kind of life skills 0:06:54.480 --> 0:06:58.320 of working in a team or you know, having customers 0:06:58.720 --> 0:07:02.040 and that sort of thing. So so honestly my path, 0:07:02.240 --> 0:07:04.839 everything that has happened, I would not change a thing. 0:07:05.360 --> 0:07:10.080 Everything has happened exactly how it should and even things 0:07:10.160 --> 0:07:13.360 happening now, I just always tell myself, I'm like, trust 0:07:13.400 --> 0:07:15.960 in the process. This is all happening for a reason. 0:07:16.800 --> 0:07:20.679 So that's a very broad, big one, hitting it straight out. 0:07:21.320 --> 0:07:23.520 And the next one is kind of an odd one 0:07:23.640 --> 0:07:26.800 bit something I don't really talk about, but I really 0:07:26.880 --> 0:07:31.800 live by, and it is that delayed gratification is key. 0:07:32.640 --> 0:07:35.760 So I feel like in this kind of generation as this, 0:07:36.120 --> 0:07:38.960 in this day and age, especially with kind of iPhones 0:07:39.040 --> 0:07:43.720 and social media, things come to us very instant, whether 0:07:43.760 --> 0:07:47.760 that's simply as talking to a friend, getting Uber eats, 0:07:48.400 --> 0:07:53.320 or kind of on a broader scale. So for example, previously, 0:07:53.360 --> 0:07:55.600 if you wanted to go traveling, you would have to 0:07:55.640 --> 0:07:58.400 say that the money wait a certain amount of time 0:07:58.560 --> 0:08:01.560 and then you could go traveling, whereas you know a 0:08:01.600 --> 0:08:03.640 lot of young people now they will get a credit 0:08:03.640 --> 0:08:06.280 card and they can go straight away or even like 0:08:06.360 --> 0:08:09.000 symbol as you know after pay, which don't get me wrong, 0:08:09.040 --> 0:08:12.000 I've used after pay but if you want something now, 0:08:12.200 --> 0:08:14.120 even if you don't have the money, you can use 0:08:14.160 --> 0:08:17.040 after pay and you can get it. It's an instant gratification. 0:08:17.800 --> 0:08:21.680 And something that I think was a life lesson definitely 0:08:21.760 --> 0:08:25.560 learned from my parents is delayed gratification is key. So 0:08:26.080 --> 0:08:29.760 I even remember having this key memory of when I 0:08:29.800 --> 0:08:32.880 was doing my law degree, the amount of times that, 0:08:33.559 --> 0:08:35.719 you know, especially when I was eighteen or nineteen, the 0:08:35.760 --> 0:08:39.880 amount of times that my friends were off who weren't 0:08:39.920 --> 0:08:42.840 studying or doing degrees or anything like that, and they 0:08:42.920 --> 0:08:46.720 just had nine to five jobs and their weekends were 0:08:47.040 --> 0:08:49.080 like a lot of going out, a lot of going 0:08:49.120 --> 0:08:52.160 to the coast at the beach, sorry, and that sort 0:08:52.160 --> 0:08:56.200 of thing. I remember being so jealous and so like, 0:08:56.360 --> 0:08:58.440 oh my god, I just want to go have fun 0:08:58.520 --> 0:09:00.440 and you know, go to the beach and not have 0:09:00.480 --> 0:09:04.360 to worry about this assessment. But you know, I wouldn't. 0:09:04.400 --> 0:09:07.040 I would stay home, I do the assessment. I wouldn't 0:09:07.080 --> 0:09:09.960 go have fun. But then I remember the day that 0:09:10.040 --> 0:09:14.440 I graduated my degree, like it was so sweet because 0:09:14.480 --> 0:09:17.880 I was like, oh my god, so much hard work 0:09:18.000 --> 0:09:22.240 has gone into this and so many sacrifices, and I 0:09:22.280 --> 0:09:26.720 think a big thing is making sacrifices in the short 0:09:26.840 --> 0:09:31.280 term for the bigger purpose or the bigger goal in 0:09:31.360 --> 0:09:33.800 the long term. And it's kind of like we don't 0:09:33.840 --> 0:09:36.920 really talk about it too often, but I think it's 0:09:37.080 --> 0:09:39.440 like I don't know. For my life, it has been 0:09:39.640 --> 0:09:42.720 such a big thing, and it's also has taught me 0:09:43.000 --> 0:09:47.320 now even now, I use this in every single day. 0:09:47.440 --> 0:09:50.080 Like I this year, I have noticed that I am 0:09:50.160 --> 0:09:54.280 quite addicted to my phone. So like I'm working, I'm 0:09:54.280 --> 0:09:56.320 in this really good flow, I'll pick up my phone 0:09:56.440 --> 0:09:59.120 and then accidentally be on Instagram for half an hour. 0:09:59.520 --> 0:10:02.400 Especially working for myself where I don't have someone like 0:10:02.440 --> 0:10:05.200 looking over my shoulder or anything like that. I have 0:10:05.480 --> 0:10:07.640 come to the terms where I'm like, okay, I'm actually 0:10:07.679 --> 0:10:11.320 addicted and I can't use the excuse its work because 0:10:11.559 --> 0:10:14.240 it's just a poor excuse. And so a big thing 0:10:14.320 --> 0:10:18.120 for me this year has been like giving myself time 0:10:18.160 --> 0:10:20.240 limits where I can't look at my phone and then 0:10:20.240 --> 0:10:22.679 I can look at it after and they it might 0:10:22.720 --> 0:10:26.160 seem so silly to you, but it's like these small 0:10:26.200 --> 0:10:29.679 little things that add up, and now looking back, I 0:10:29.720 --> 0:10:32.920 haven't gotten so much better at not just or reaching 0:10:32.960 --> 0:10:35.240 for my phone and getting on it like so much 0:10:35.240 --> 0:10:39.800 more productive. That life lesson is just avoiding a temptation 0:10:40.080 --> 0:10:42.600 that's standing right in front of you so you can 0:10:42.640 --> 0:10:46.560 hold out for something substantially bettered down the line. So 0:10:46.600 --> 0:10:49.360 the next one is something that I've learned this year, 0:10:50.120 --> 0:10:54.960 and it's realizing that having mental health issues or disorders 0:10:55.480 --> 0:10:59.280 is not weak. And so, I don't know about you guys, 0:10:59.280 --> 0:11:02.560 a bit cross up, and I think this is because 0:11:03.120 --> 0:11:07.360 in my family life, we didn't really have anyone with 0:11:07.600 --> 0:11:11.160 any mental illnesses or issues, or didn't really know too 0:11:11.160 --> 0:11:15.760 many people, and indirectly it was kind of pushed on 0:11:15.840 --> 0:11:19.160 to me from my parents and the people who surrounded 0:11:19.200 --> 0:11:24.520 me that if you did have a disorder like anxiety 0:11:24.640 --> 0:11:28.520 or depression or something like that, it was seen as 0:11:28.559 --> 0:11:32.920 a weakness and it almost wasn't, you know, this proper thing. 0:11:33.720 --> 0:11:36.720 And so I wasn't around many people who experienced it, 0:11:36.760 --> 0:11:41.280 and I personally just didn't really get it myself. And 0:11:41.360 --> 0:11:45.920 it wasn't until this year where I really struggled with 0:11:45.960 --> 0:11:50.040 my mental health and I actually I had anxiety so 0:11:50.200 --> 0:11:53.400 bad and I have talked about this in this podcast 0:11:53.400 --> 0:11:56.120 and on my Instagram and YouTube, but I suffered from 0:11:56.160 --> 0:11:58.800 anxiety so bad that I actually had to go see 0:11:58.800 --> 0:12:01.679 a psychologist. And it was to the point where I 0:12:01.720 --> 0:12:04.920 was having trouble sleeping, I was having panic attacksbout the 0:12:05.000 --> 0:12:09.760 day and I finally went and saw someone, and oh 0:12:09.800 --> 0:12:14.280 my god, it just made the biggest difference seeing someone 0:12:14.480 --> 0:12:17.840 being able to get some tools to you know, just 0:12:17.960 --> 0:12:23.360 help out. And that helped my anxiety so much. And 0:12:24.040 --> 0:12:27.800 it was like this big reality check where I realized that, 0:12:28.840 --> 0:12:31.640 you know, like mental health issues or disorders or anything 0:12:31.760 --> 0:12:35.280 like that are not weak and like so for example, 0:12:35.320 --> 0:12:37.920 like if you have a broken leg, you don't just 0:12:38.520 --> 0:12:42.960 stay home and hope that it fixes itself. You go 0:12:43.080 --> 0:12:46.400 and seek medical help, You go and get it banded 0:12:46.520 --> 0:12:49.880 up and all that sort of jazz. And mental health 0:12:50.240 --> 0:12:53.520 is the exact same. And I really want to encourage 0:12:54.040 --> 0:12:57.160 you guys if you're having issues with your mental health 0:12:57.640 --> 0:13:01.960 to seek professional help. Big thing that I didn't actually realize. 0:13:02.000 --> 0:13:04.960 But in Australia, actually I don't know if this is 0:13:05.000 --> 0:13:08.960 just Queensland the state that I live, but Medicare you 0:13:09.040 --> 0:13:11.520 can go to the doctor, explain to them what you 0:13:11.559 --> 0:13:16.160 were experiencing and they will give you a mental health plan. 0:13:16.720 --> 0:13:20.679 And in that mental health plan, you will get discounted 0:13:20.960 --> 0:13:27.600 or free services to seek professional advice from psychologists or 0:13:27.880 --> 0:13:30.720 whoever they recommend you to, which is such a big 0:13:30.800 --> 0:13:33.319 help because I know a lot of people it can 0:13:33.400 --> 0:13:38.240 be the financial side of not wanting to seek help. 0:13:39.360 --> 0:13:43.360 So that was a big thing for me, is just 0:13:43.480 --> 0:13:47.080 realizing it realizing that, and it also made me so 0:13:47.920 --> 0:13:52.760 open minded because before that, it's not that I thought 0:13:52.920 --> 0:13:55.680 other people were weak, but it was very much a 0:13:55.720 --> 0:13:58.439 personal thing where you know, I thought, oh no, I 0:13:58.480 --> 0:14:00.920 don't get depression, I don't get anxiety, Like that's not 0:14:01.040 --> 0:14:05.720 something I get. Whereas I've started to realize it's not 0:14:05.960 --> 0:14:10.080 like that at all. And also for me, I think 0:14:10.120 --> 0:14:12.520 at the start there was almost a bit of shame 0:14:12.720 --> 0:14:16.800 because I do sort of see myself as this really 0:14:17.000 --> 0:14:20.880 strong person, like mentally a really strong person I always 0:14:20.920 --> 0:14:23.000 have been, and so I think at the start, like 0:14:23.040 --> 0:14:26.000 I had almost a bit of shame, thinking, oh my gosh, 0:14:26.000 --> 0:14:28.600 like I can't handle life, Like why am I so weak? 0:14:28.680 --> 0:14:31.720 But it is just not like that, And really sort 0:14:31.720 --> 0:14:35.320 of learning that was a massive turning point for me. 0:14:36.480 --> 0:14:40.920 All right, So the next lesson is really changing my 0:14:41.160 --> 0:14:46.360 mindset on things happen for me, not to me. So 0:14:46.520 --> 0:14:50.640 when I left high school, I definitely wasn't like a 0:14:50.800 --> 0:14:54.720 negative person or too much in a negative mindset. But 0:14:54.800 --> 0:14:58.600 I wasn't exactly positive, and I wasn't I don't know, 0:14:58.640 --> 0:15:00.400 like I kind of the only way I can describe 0:15:00.440 --> 0:15:04.240 it is I was kind of just going through the motions. 0:15:04.640 --> 0:15:07.240 So you know, when something bad happened, I would blame 0:15:07.280 --> 0:15:11.240 it on bad luck or get annoyed or something like that, 0:15:11.600 --> 0:15:15.200 and if something good happens again, it would just be like, oh, 0:15:15.320 --> 0:15:20.040 that's good luck. And I look back, and there's certain 0:15:20.120 --> 0:15:23.000 times that you know, I didn't get the job I wanted, 0:15:23.160 --> 0:15:27.360 or I didn't get some opportunity I wanted. But in reality, 0:15:27.400 --> 0:15:30.960 when I look back, these things happen for me, not 0:15:31.200 --> 0:15:35.440 to me, because something else better was just around the corner. 0:15:35.840 --> 0:15:38.600 So I've got two example stories for you. The first 0:15:38.600 --> 0:15:42.480 one is with Timothy, my husband. So when I met 0:15:42.560 --> 0:15:46.560 tim a little backstory is maybe two months before that, 0:15:47.040 --> 0:15:50.880 I was with my high school boyfriend for three maybe 0:15:50.880 --> 0:15:55.120 three years, off and on, and he completely broke my heart, 0:15:55.160 --> 0:15:59.720 like right before formal and QCs, like that big test 0:16:00.080 --> 0:16:02.800 that everyone does in grade twelve, right before that, and 0:16:02.840 --> 0:16:09.800 I was like a mess. I was like proper. I 0:16:09.920 --> 0:16:13.400 just have this clear vision of my parents coming into 0:16:13.440 --> 0:16:17.000 my room and me just being like hysterically crying like 0:16:17.040 --> 0:16:21.520 the most dramatic little person ever. But anyway, and I 0:16:21.600 --> 0:16:25.480 just thought it was the worst thing ever. I just thought, 0:16:25.600 --> 0:16:28.320 how can this happen to me? I was meant to 0:16:28.400 --> 0:16:31.920 with this person? Blah blah blah. Anyway, a couple of 0:16:31.920 --> 0:16:34.360 months later, I met Tim. And the only reason why 0:16:34.360 --> 0:16:38.120 I met Tim was because of the ex. I kind 0:16:38.120 --> 0:16:42.000 of started talking to Tim in spite, and look, I 0:16:42.080 --> 0:16:47.160 married him. So looking back, I'm a big believer on 0:16:47.280 --> 0:16:50.640 like realizing that things happen for me, not to me. 0:16:51.160 --> 0:16:54.760 And so another story actually that has just come to light, 0:16:55.440 --> 0:16:57.720 and I'll be a little bit coy on the details, 0:16:57.760 --> 0:17:00.600 but it was a couple of years ago. Go And 0:17:01.480 --> 0:17:03.400 I don't know if you guys notice this, but I 0:17:03.440 --> 0:17:07.480 don't really go to a lot of influencer events like 0:17:07.600 --> 0:17:11.000 brand events, and for me, it's kind of just not 0:17:11.119 --> 0:17:15.160 my scene, like and no shade on those events at all, 0:17:15.240 --> 0:17:18.880 but they're very much you go there to get pictures 0:17:18.960 --> 0:17:23.640 with other influencers to kind of leverage off each other's audiences, 0:17:23.720 --> 0:17:26.240 you know, to grow your following. That's like one of 0:17:26.240 --> 0:17:29.159 the biggest reasons, and obviously, you know, to meet people 0:17:29.400 --> 0:17:32.440 in that sort of sea and the brands and whatnot, 0:17:32.960 --> 0:17:38.600 and I have just never been that comfortable at those events. 0:17:38.680 --> 0:17:42.800 Like some events for sure, but I am very picky 0:17:42.920 --> 0:17:47.000 and certain events, especially with kind of Oh I don't 0:17:47.040 --> 0:17:50.119 know if I should say this, but with like bigger YouTubers, 0:17:50.200 --> 0:17:53.560 I don't know, Like I'm just I'm so different and 0:17:53.880 --> 0:17:57.359 a lot of them can be very out of touch 0:17:57.480 --> 0:17:59.720 with reality. And I think just because I come from 0:17:59.760 --> 0:18:03.080 such a different background of you know, I've been in 0:18:03.119 --> 0:18:06.520 the workforce, I've done my degree. I'm very much I 0:18:06.560 --> 0:18:09.159 consider myself and I'm doing this in air quotes like 0:18:09.280 --> 0:18:13.000 a normal person. I feel very normal, and when I'm 0:18:13.040 --> 0:18:16.679 around these other people, they don't feel normal to me. 0:18:16.920 --> 0:18:19.760 I hope that makes sense. And I'm really really not 0:18:19.800 --> 0:18:22.600 trying to through shade or anything like that, just my 0:18:22.680 --> 0:18:26.560 personal experience. And also I am so busy that like 0:18:26.920 --> 0:18:30.000 the little time that I do get to socialize, I 0:18:30.160 --> 0:18:33.359 like doing with my close friends. That's just what fills 0:18:33.359 --> 0:18:37.359 my cup up. Anyway, long story short, I didn't really 0:18:37.400 --> 0:18:39.000 want to go to this event, but it was a 0:18:39.040 --> 0:18:41.640 brand that I was working closely with and I really 0:18:41.720 --> 0:18:44.680 enjoyed the brand and I ended up going to the 0:18:44.720 --> 0:18:48.560 event with Mel. I took her along as my little buddy. Basically, 0:18:48.640 --> 0:18:51.440 we went to the event. It was fine, but leaving 0:18:51.720 --> 0:18:54.000 I was like, Oh, that was such a waste of time. 0:18:54.200 --> 0:18:57.159 I hate these events. And it's because we met a 0:18:57.200 --> 0:19:01.240 couple of influencers and bigger YouTubers and they just like, 0:19:03.160 --> 0:19:05.840 I don't know, it's almost like they can be very fake, 0:19:06.000 --> 0:19:07.399 and I'm like, oh, I just don't want to be 0:19:07.440 --> 0:19:09.679 in this situation. It's just it doesn't feel good to me. 0:19:09.840 --> 0:19:14.400 I'm just not interested. Anyway, I remember winging and complaining 0:19:14.440 --> 0:19:16.240 to Mel on the way back and I'm like, oh, 0:19:16.280 --> 0:19:18.560 that was such a waste of time. I hated doing that. 0:19:18.880 --> 0:19:22.280 I'm never going to events like this. Blah blah blah. Anyway, 0:19:22.400 --> 0:19:25.919 long story shorts, we met a girl there who was 0:19:26.000 --> 0:19:28.480 working with one of the brands that I was working with, 0:19:29.080 --> 0:19:32.160 and long story short, she now works for Naked Harvest 0:19:32.880 --> 0:19:36.280 doing our sort of influencer marketing side of things, and 0:19:36.320 --> 0:19:39.919 we actually met her after that event and it's because 0:19:39.960 --> 0:19:43.440 of that event that she now works in Naked Harvest. 0:19:43.800 --> 0:19:46.679 So looking back, like I needed to go to that 0:19:46.760 --> 0:19:51.000 event and have that kind of uncomfortable experience, because what 0:19:51.160 --> 0:19:54.560 came out out of it was finding this really amazing 0:19:54.600 --> 0:19:57.280 person and she's so amazing at her job, Like we're 0:19:57.320 --> 0:20:00.520 so lucky to have her naked harvest. It's just like 0:20:00.600 --> 0:20:03.840 a little example, and I think, you know, if you 0:20:03.880 --> 0:20:06.760 were currently going through a hard time and you're just like, 0:20:06.960 --> 0:20:11.439 there are no positives to the situation, almost sit with 0:20:11.520 --> 0:20:17.880 it and have faith that eventually something good will come 0:20:17.960 --> 0:20:20.880 out of it. And if it's not necessarily good, it's 0:20:20.920 --> 0:20:24.400 a lesson that you can learn from. That's. Yeah, that's 0:20:24.440 --> 0:20:27.000 a really big thing for me. Okay, So the next 0:20:27.000 --> 0:20:31.160 little life lesson is to sit with the feeling. So again, 0:20:31.240 --> 0:20:35.399 this is something that I learn by seeing my psychologists, 0:20:35.440 --> 0:20:39.320 and we kind of uncovered that I'm someone who hates 0:20:39.720 --> 0:20:43.560 feeling feelings. Like I remember during my law degree, I 0:20:43.560 --> 0:20:46.600 had a professor who said I would be great at 0:20:46.680 --> 0:20:51.480 family law because I was like emotionless, which is like now, 0:20:51.680 --> 0:20:56.600 really rude when I think back, But basically I can 0:20:56.880 --> 0:21:01.440 detach to my feelings quite well compared to other people. 0:21:01.960 --> 0:21:05.800 And so this has actually been a positive in numerous ways. 0:21:05.880 --> 0:21:08.879 Like I actually did work in family law, and we 0:21:08.920 --> 0:21:12.480 went through, you know, like we had cases where it 0:21:12.520 --> 0:21:15.960 was really sad things that were happening and I didn't 0:21:16.200 --> 0:21:20.080 attach myself to the client or the outcome or anything 0:21:20.200 --> 0:21:23.200 like that. So it's helpful in those situations. And then 0:21:23.320 --> 0:21:25.959 also I think it has helped me just be a 0:21:26.000 --> 0:21:29.000 really strong person in general, Like I am someone who's 0:21:29.680 --> 0:21:34.120 so strong, so persistent, so determined, and I think that 0:21:34.359 --> 0:21:37.719 side of me comes into that. So it's almost like 0:21:38.119 --> 0:21:42.600 a positive and a negative. Obviously the negative. I've realized 0:21:42.640 --> 0:21:47.000 that when I feel feelings, I straightway shut them down 0:21:47.119 --> 0:21:50.920 and I suppress them. I don't actually let myself feel them, 0:21:51.440 --> 0:21:56.719 which then means I am constantly suppressing these feelings and 0:21:56.800 --> 0:22:01.200 they are manifesting in quite toxic way. So a lot 0:22:01.240 --> 0:22:05.000 of my anxiety was actually to do with suppressed feelings 0:22:05.000 --> 0:22:08.480 that I hadn't dealt with over the years, which I 0:22:08.520 --> 0:22:11.560 had never really sort of understood or heard of that term, 0:22:11.920 --> 0:22:15.040 and it was really interesting to me. And also just 0:22:15.240 --> 0:22:20.840 other ways of manifesting in toxic ways. So when I 0:22:20.880 --> 0:22:25.360 am feeling negative or sad, I no longer just suppress 0:22:25.400 --> 0:22:28.359 and don't feel it. I now sit with the feeling 0:22:28.440 --> 0:22:31.840 and I will actually put a timer on, it's something 0:22:32.040 --> 0:22:36.959 like sixty to ninety seconds that feeling will pass. So 0:22:37.200 --> 0:22:40.480 for that amount of time it is really uncomfortable. I 0:22:40.520 --> 0:22:43.880 am someone who finds it so uncomfortable, but I sit 0:22:43.960 --> 0:22:46.240 with it and I feel it, and then I get 0:22:46.280 --> 0:22:49.840 the feeling out. And that has been a game changer 0:22:50.600 --> 0:22:54.080 just in sort of feeling feelings and being more connected 0:22:54.119 --> 0:22:56.719 to my inner self. So another thing that I found 0:22:56.960 --> 0:23:01.560 was because I was suppressing these feelings, I was very 0:23:02.000 --> 0:23:05.159 disconnected from my inner self. And when I say my 0:23:05.320 --> 0:23:09.200 inner self, like I kind of mean my intuition and 0:23:09.280 --> 0:23:12.359 my most authentic self. I feel like that is a 0:23:12.440 --> 0:23:15.800 whole other podcast in itself, because the term may not 0:23:15.960 --> 0:23:19.560 be very usual, but I can definitely get into that 0:23:19.720 --> 0:23:24.399 with another podcast. But to feel my most authentic self 0:23:24.440 --> 0:23:27.200 and to be really in tune with my intuition, which 0:23:27.240 --> 0:23:30.639 has been what this year has been about for me 0:23:30.880 --> 0:23:34.400 personally and business wise, I've really had to actually start 0:23:34.400 --> 0:23:37.880 feeling my feelings. And it's actually like sometimes I will 0:23:37.920 --> 0:23:41.440 sit with the feeling and I literally like cry feel 0:23:41.440 --> 0:23:44.960 the feeling, and then sixty seconds later, like I'll be fine. 0:23:45.160 --> 0:23:47.359 And it's really funny because like if tim or something 0:23:47.480 --> 0:23:52.280 is around, He's like, what the fuck just happened? But oh, guys, like, 0:23:52.640 --> 0:23:56.399 stop suppressing your feelings. Feel your feelings because it's such 0:23:56.440 --> 0:23:59.280 a game changer, and then they won't come out in 0:23:59.320 --> 0:24:06.760 these like negative ways. Okay, next one is habits are everything, 0:24:07.400 --> 0:24:11.720 you guys know. I love my habits. I love my rituals. 0:24:11.760 --> 0:24:14.879 I love my morning routine, my night routine. I've got 0:24:14.920 --> 0:24:20.240 little habits for everything, And like, guys, we are our habits. 0:24:20.359 --> 0:24:22.959 I remember reading something and I think it was something 0:24:23.160 --> 0:24:28.639 like forty percent of our actions daily we don't even 0:24:28.720 --> 0:24:32.520 think about. We just do out of habit. That is 0:24:32.800 --> 0:24:36.320 a lot of our day. And if we have developed 0:24:36.560 --> 0:24:40.880 poor habits or negative habits, we are just automatically doing 0:24:40.920 --> 0:24:45.120 these things without thinking about them. So a big thing 0:24:45.200 --> 0:24:48.640 for me, and I'm going to be completely honest with you, 0:24:49.000 --> 0:24:52.800 this is something I slip in and out of, and 0:24:52.840 --> 0:24:56.040 I do notice a massive difference when I'm in it. Bit. 0:24:56.200 --> 0:25:01.320 Creating a morning and night routine and just healthy habits, 0:25:01.920 --> 0:25:05.159 good habits during the day is such a game changer. 0:25:05.320 --> 0:25:08.360 It just yeah, I don't know, you guys know, I'm 0:25:08.359 --> 0:25:10.119