Speaker 1: Hi, and welcome to the Rise and Conquer Podcast. I'm
Speaker 1: your host, Georgie Stevenson. I am a lawyer and health coach,
Speaker 1: social media influencer, wife, and dog mum. On the Rise
Speaker 1: and Conquer Podcast, we dive deep into all things mindset, habits, career, health,
Speaker 1: relationships and more. This is a podcast for women who
Speaker 1: want to rise up to be the best version of themselves,
Speaker 1: who have big dreams in who are willing to put
Speaker 1: in the work to get there. I want to bring
Speaker 1: you the tools and actionable steps to feel confident in yourself,
Speaker 1: inspired to take bold action, and motivated to conquer your goals.
Speaker 1: Are you with me? Your friends, Let's Rise and conquer.
Speaker 1: Hi guys, and welcome back to the Rise Conquer Podcasts.
Speaker 1: So I cannot believe it, but we are about to
Speaker 1: go into twenty twenty, which is just I don't know,
Speaker 1: it's a bit crazy. We are finishing a decade. As
Speaker 1: I'm recording this episode, we are seven days away from
Speaker 1: twenty twenty, so still in twenty nineteen. But I wanted
Speaker 1: to do an episode. I actually want to do an
Speaker 1: episode where I've reflected on twenty nineteen and go through
Speaker 1: like my lessons that I've learned. But then I was like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, let's just do the whole decade. Because
Speaker 1: I was actually looking at photos. I wanted to do that,
Speaker 1: you know that like ten year challenge where you post
Speaker 1: a photo of when you were like ten years ago, obviously,
Speaker 1: and it was just bringing back all these mems and whatnot.
Speaker 1: So I thought, hell, I'm going to go through ten
Speaker 1: life lessons of the whole decade. So I'm going to
Speaker 1: do a quick kind of timeline just so it makes
Speaker 1: it more since. So ten years ago, I well, I'm
Speaker 1: twenty five now, so I would have been fifteen, so
Speaker 1: little baby Georgie I would have been in grade eleven.
Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure. Yeah. So obviously this decade has been
Speaker 1: a big one of my life, the most important, heaps
Speaker 1: of stuff happening. So obviously twenty ten, I was in
Speaker 1: Grade eleven, nothing that exciting. So twenty eleven was when
Speaker 1: I finished Grade twelve. Twenty eleven is also when I
Speaker 1: met Timothy, who is now my husband. And then twenty
Speaker 1: twelve to twenty sixteen I studied and graduated my law degree.
Speaker 1: Around twenty thirteen, I started my igene, a more kind
Speaker 1: of blogging way that I do now. I also moved
Speaker 1: out of home when I was nineteen and mostly worked
Speaker 1: full time during that period of studying my law degree,
Speaker 1: and then twenty sixteen me and Tim bought our townhouse.
Speaker 1: Twenty seventeen I started YouTube. Twenty eighteen I got admitted
Speaker 1: as a lawyer. Twenty eighteen I got married. I left
Speaker 1: the law firm I was at. I went off and
Speaker 1: did my own thing, hired mail and got more serious
Speaker 1: within my personal brand. And then twenty nineteen has been
Speaker 1: a big year of I started this podcast, I co
Speaker 1: founded Naked Harvest with my brother. We did the live
Speaker 1: events a lot, a lot, and I moved to the Golkos.
Speaker 1: So a lot happening. So let's get straight into ten
Speaker 1: life lessons for the decade. So number one, and it's
Speaker 1: nothing new or exciting, but this is very much a
Speaker 1: principle that I now live my life by, and it's
Speaker 1: everything happens for a reason, and I need to be
Speaker 1: trusting in the process. So the reason why bringing this
Speaker 1: up is obviously I started my law degree and finished
Speaker 1: out for like six years, god admit as a lawyer,
Speaker 1: did my pot and now I'm doing something so different
Speaker 1: and I often get asked if you know I regret
Speaker 1: doing that, and the answer is definitely no. I am
Speaker 1: such a big believer in that needed to happen for
Speaker 1: me to become the person I am today, and even
Speaker 1: kind of looking at it a little bit closer, like
Speaker 1: the skills I developed through working for the law firm
Speaker 1: I did, even through working through my law degree, I
Speaker 1: had various jobs where I developed a lot of skills.
Speaker 1: And then obviously the law degree also comes in handy
Speaker 1: just with various skills and life skills. And just like
Speaker 1: a little example, so I hired mel in twenty eighteen,
Speaker 1: and she really helped me transform my business from this
Speaker 1: kind of like influencer personal brand to what it is
Speaker 1: now where it's very multifacet and you know, there's lots
Speaker 1: going on, and to be honest, I think a lot
Speaker 1: of that was me taking myself more seriously and giving
Speaker 1: myself more responsibility because I now had someone on my team.
Speaker 1: A lot of that was also realizing when I was
Speaker 1: working in the law firm that people worked so much
Speaker 1: better than a team. You know, that whole saying. If
Speaker 1: I want to go quick, I'll go by myself. If
Speaker 1: I want to go far, I'll go with the team.
Speaker 1: I think that's right, but I'm such a big believer
Speaker 1: in that. And then even kind of little thing. So
Speaker 1: for example, I obviously work with brands and partnerships within
Speaker 1: my personal brand, whether that's in a sponsorships on Instagram
Speaker 1: or YouTube, or even if it's you know, to do
Speaker 1: with the podcast or Naked Harvest, And the biggest feedback
Speaker 1: that I have ever gotten is how professional my communication
Speaker 1: is just in regards to you know, emailing people, getting
Speaker 1: back to people and that sort of thing. And the
Speaker 1: kind of most common thing that comes up is people
Speaker 1: give me the feedback. With other social media influencers, sometimes
Speaker 1: it's a little bit hard to work with them. And
Speaker 1: I've even noticed this within Naked Harvest, because we obviously
Speaker 1: work with influencers. Is you can really notice the people
Speaker 1: who kind of don't have the skills of even just
Speaker 1: writing an email and getting back to you, you know,
Speaker 1: within a good standard amount of time. And I think
Speaker 1: that's because a lot of social media influencers these days
Speaker 1: probably go straight from high school and like Instagram is
Speaker 1: kind of like their part time job, and they go
Speaker 1: straight into doing it full time, and it really shows
Speaker 1: that they haven't got those basic kind of life skills
Speaker 1: of working in a team or you know, having customers
Speaker 1: and that sort of thing. So so honestly my path,
Speaker 1: everything that has happened, I would not change a thing.
Speaker 1: Everything has happened exactly how it should and even things
Speaker 1: happening now, I just always tell myself, I'm like, trust
Speaker 1: in the process. This is all happening for a reason.
Speaker 1: So that's a very broad, big one, hitting it straight out.
Speaker 1: And the next one is kind of an odd one
Speaker 1: bit something I don't really talk about, but I really
Speaker 1: live by, and it is that delayed gratification is key.
Speaker 1: So I feel like in this kind of generation as this,
Speaker 1: in this day and age, especially with kind of iPhones
Speaker 1: and social media, things come to us very instant, whether
Speaker 1: that's simply as talking to a friend, getting Uber eats,
Speaker 1: or kind of on a broader scale. So for example, previously,
Speaker 1: if you wanted to go traveling, you would have to
Speaker 1: say that the money wait a certain amount of time
Speaker 1: and then you could go traveling, whereas you know a
Speaker 1: lot of young people now they will get a credit
Speaker 1: card and they can go straight away or even like
Speaker 1: symbol as you know after pay, which don't get me wrong,
Speaker 1: I've used after pay but if you want something now,
Speaker 1: even if you don't have the money, you can use
Speaker 1: after pay and you can get it. It's an instant gratification.
Speaker 1: And something that I think was a life lesson definitely
Speaker 1: learned from my parents is delayed gratification is key. So
Speaker 1: I even remember having this key memory of when I
Speaker 1: was doing my law degree, the amount of times that,
Speaker 1: you know, especially when I was eighteen or nineteen, the
Speaker 1: amount of times that my friends were off who weren't
Speaker 1: studying or doing degrees or anything like that, and they
Speaker 1: just had nine to five jobs and their weekends were
Speaker 1: like a lot of going out, a lot of going
Speaker 1: to the coast at the beach, sorry, and that sort
Speaker 1: of thing. I remember being so jealous and so like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, I just want to go have fun
Speaker 1: and you know, go to the beach and not have
Speaker 1: to worry about this assessment. But you know, I wouldn't.
Speaker 1: I would stay home, I do the assessment. I wouldn't
Speaker 1: go have fun. But then I remember the day that
Speaker 1: I graduated my degree, like it was so sweet because
Speaker 1: I was like, oh my god, so much hard work
Speaker 1: has gone into this and so many sacrifices, and I
Speaker 1: think a big thing is making sacrifices in the short
Speaker 1: term for the bigger purpose or the bigger goal in
Speaker 1: the long term. And it's kind of like we don't
Speaker 1: really talk about it too often, but I think it's
Speaker 1: like I don't know. For my life, it has been
Speaker 1: such a big thing, and it's also has taught me
Speaker 1: now even now, I use this in every single day.
Speaker 1: Like I this year, I have noticed that I am
Speaker 1: quite addicted to my phone. So like I'm working, I'm
Speaker 1: in this really good flow, I'll pick up my phone
Speaker 1: and then accidentally be on Instagram for half an hour.
Speaker 1: Especially working for myself where I don't have someone like
Speaker 1: looking over my shoulder or anything like that. I have
Speaker 1: come to the terms where I'm like, okay, I'm actually
Speaker 1: addicted and I can't use the excuse its work because
Speaker 1: it's just a poor excuse. And so a big thing
Speaker 1: for me this year has been like giving myself time
Speaker 1: limits where I can't look at my phone and then
Speaker 1: I can look at it after and they it might
Speaker 1: seem so silly to you, but it's like these small
Speaker 1: little things that add up, and now looking back, I
Speaker 1: haven't gotten so much better at not just or reaching
Speaker 1: for my phone and getting on it like so much
Speaker 1: more productive. That life lesson is just avoiding a temptation
Speaker 1: that's standing right in front of you so you can
Speaker 1: hold out for something substantially bettered down the line. So
Speaker 1: the next one is something that I've learned this year,
Speaker 1: and it's realizing that having mental health issues or disorders
Speaker 1: is not weak. And so, I don't know about you guys,
Speaker 1: a bit cross up, and I think this is because
Speaker 1: in my family life, we didn't really have anyone with
Speaker 1: any mental illnesses or issues, or didn't really know too
Speaker 1: many people, and indirectly it was kind of pushed on
Speaker 1: to me from my parents and the people who surrounded
Speaker 1: me that if you did have a disorder like anxiety
Speaker 1: or depression or something like that, it was seen as
Speaker 1: a weakness and it almost wasn't, you know, this proper thing.
Speaker 1: And so I wasn't around many people who experienced it,
Speaker 1: and I personally just didn't really get it myself. And
Speaker 1: it wasn't until this year where I really struggled with
Speaker 1: my mental health and I actually I had anxiety so
Speaker 1: bad and I have talked about this in this podcast
Speaker 1: and on my Instagram and YouTube, but I suffered from
Speaker 1: anxiety so bad that I actually had to go see
Speaker 1: a psychologist. And it was to the point where I
Speaker 1: was having trouble sleeping, I was having panic attacksbout the
Speaker 1: day and I finally went and saw someone, and oh
Speaker 1: my god, it just made the biggest difference seeing someone
Speaker 1: being able to get some tools to you know, just
Speaker 1: help out. And that helped my anxiety so much. And
Speaker 1: it was like this big reality check where I realized that,
Speaker 1: you know, like mental health issues or disorders or anything
Speaker 1: like that are not weak and like so for example,
Speaker 1: like if you have a broken leg, you don't just
Speaker 1: stay home and hope that it fixes itself. You go
Speaker 1: and seek medical help, You go and get it banded
Speaker 1: up and all that sort of jazz. And mental health
Speaker 1: is the exact same. And I really want to encourage
Speaker 1: you guys if you're having issues with your mental health
Speaker 1: to seek professional help. Big thing that I didn't actually realize.
Speaker 1: But in Australia, actually I don't know if this is
Speaker 1: just Queensland the state that I live, but Medicare you
Speaker 1: can go to the doctor, explain to them what you
Speaker 1: were experiencing and they will give you a mental health plan.
Speaker 1: And in that mental health plan, you will get discounted
Speaker 1: or free services to seek professional advice from psychologists or
Speaker 1: whoever they recommend you to, which is such a big
Speaker 1: help because I know a lot of people it can
Speaker 1: be the financial side of not wanting to seek help.
Speaker 1: So that was a big thing for me, is just
Speaker 1: realizing it realizing that, and it also made me so
Speaker 1: open minded because before that, it's not that I thought
Speaker 1: other people were weak, but it was very much a
Speaker 1: personal thing where you know, I thought, oh no, I
Speaker 1: don't get depression, I don't get anxiety, Like that's not
Speaker 1: something I get. Whereas I've started to realize it's not
Speaker 1: like that at all. And also for me, I think
Speaker 1: at the start there was almost a bit of shame
Speaker 1: because I do sort of see myself as this really
Speaker 1: strong person, like mentally a really strong person I always
Speaker 1: have been, and so I think at the start, like
Speaker 1: I had almost a bit of shame, thinking, oh my gosh,
Speaker 1: like I can't handle life, Like why am I so weak?
Speaker 1: But it is just not like that, And really sort
Speaker 1: of learning that was a massive turning point for me.
Speaker 1: All right, So the next lesson is really changing my
Speaker 1: mindset on things happen for me, not to me. So
Speaker 1: when I left high school, I definitely wasn't like a
Speaker 1: negative person or too much in a negative mindset. But
Speaker 1: I wasn't exactly positive, and I wasn't I don't know,
Speaker 1: like I kind of the only way I can describe
Speaker 1: it is I was kind of just going through the motions.
Speaker 1: So you know, when something bad happened, I would blame
Speaker 1: it on bad luck or get annoyed or something like that,
Speaker 1: and if something good happens again, it would just be like, oh,
Speaker 1: that's good luck. And I look back, and there's certain
Speaker 1: times that you know, I didn't get the job I wanted,
Speaker 1: or I didn't get some opportunity I wanted. But in reality,
Speaker 1: when I look back, these things happen for me, not
Speaker 1: to me, because something else better was just around the corner.
Speaker 1: So I've got two example stories for you. The first
Speaker 1: one is with Timothy, my husband. So when I met
Speaker 1: tim a little backstory is maybe two months before that,
Speaker 1: I was with my high school boyfriend for three maybe
Speaker 1: three years, off and on, and he completely broke my heart,
Speaker 1: like right before formal and QCs, like that big test
Speaker 1: that everyone does in grade twelve, right before that, and
Speaker 1: I was like a mess. I was like proper. I
Speaker 1: just have this clear vision of my parents coming into
Speaker 1: my room and me just being like hysterically crying like
Speaker 1: the most dramatic little person ever. But anyway, and I
Speaker 1: just thought it was the worst thing ever. I just thought,
Speaker 1: how can this happen to me? I was meant to
Speaker 1: with this person? Blah blah blah. Anyway, a couple of
Speaker 1: months later, I met Tim. And the only reason why
Speaker 1: I met Tim was because of the ex. I kind
Speaker 1: of started talking to Tim in spite, and look, I
Speaker 1: married him. So looking back, I'm a big believer on
Speaker 1: like realizing that things happen for me, not to me.
Speaker 1: And so another story actually that has just come to light,
Speaker 1: and I'll be a little bit coy on the details,
Speaker 1: but it was a couple of years ago. Go And
Speaker 1: I don't know if you guys notice this, but I
Speaker 1: don't really go to a lot of influencer events like
Speaker 1: brand events, and for me, it's kind of just not
Speaker 1: my scene, like and no shade on those events at all,
Speaker 1: but they're very much you go there to get pictures
Speaker 1: with other influencers to kind of leverage off each other's audiences,
Speaker 1: you know, to grow your following. That's like one of
Speaker 1: the biggest reasons, and obviously, you know, to meet people
Speaker 1: in that sort of sea and the brands and whatnot,
Speaker 1: and I have just never been that comfortable at those events.
Speaker 1: Like some events for sure, but I am very picky
Speaker 1: and certain events, especially with kind of Oh I don't
Speaker 1: know if I should say this, but with like bigger YouTubers,
Speaker 1: I don't know, Like I'm just I'm so different and
Speaker 1: a lot of them can be very out of touch
Speaker 1: with reality. And I think just because I come from
Speaker 1: such a different background of you know, I've been in
Speaker 1: the workforce, I've done my degree. I'm very much I
Speaker 1: consider myself and I'm doing this in air quotes like
Speaker 1: a normal person. I feel very normal, and when I'm
Speaker 1: around these other people, they don't feel normal to me.
Speaker 1: I hope that makes sense. And I'm really really not
Speaker 1: trying to through shade or anything like that, just my
Speaker 1: personal experience. And also I am so busy that like
Speaker 1: the little time that I do get to socialize, I
Speaker 1: like doing with my close friends. That's just what fills
Speaker 1: my cup up. Anyway, long story short, I didn't really
Speaker 1: want to go to this event, but it was a
Speaker 1: brand that I was working closely with and I really
Speaker 1: enjoyed the brand and I ended up going to the
Speaker 1: event with Mel. I took her along as my little buddy. Basically,
Speaker 1: we went to the event. It was fine, but leaving
Speaker 1: I was like, Oh, that was such a waste of time.
Speaker 1: I hate these events. And it's because we met a
Speaker 1: couple of influencers and bigger YouTubers and they just like,
Speaker 1: I don't know, it's almost like they can be very fake,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, oh, I just don't want to be
Speaker 1: in this situation. It's just it doesn't feel good to me.
Speaker 1: I'm just not interested. Anyway, I remember winging and complaining
Speaker 1: to Mel on the way back and I'm like, oh,
Speaker 1: that was such a waste of time. I hated doing that.
Speaker 1: I'm never going to events like this. Blah blah blah. Anyway,
Speaker 1: long story shorts, we met a girl there who was
Speaker 1: working with one of the brands that I was working with,
Speaker 1: and long story short, she now works for Naked Harvest
Speaker 1: doing our sort of influencer marketing side of things, and
Speaker 1: we actually met her after that event and it's because
Speaker 1: of that event that she now works in Naked Harvest.
Speaker 1: So looking back, like I needed to go to that
Speaker 1: event and have that kind of uncomfortable experience, because what
Speaker 1: came out out of it was finding this really amazing
Speaker 1: person and she's so amazing at her job, Like we're
Speaker 1: so lucky to have her naked harvest. It's just like
Speaker 1: a little example, and I think, you know, if you
Speaker 1: were currently going through a hard time and you're just like,
Speaker 1: there are no positives to the situation, almost sit with
Speaker 1: it and have faith that eventually something good will come
Speaker 1: out of it. And if it's not necessarily good, it's
Speaker 1: a lesson that you can learn from. That's. Yeah, that's
Speaker 1: a really big thing for me. Okay, So the next
Speaker 1: little life lesson is to sit with the feeling. So again,
Speaker 1: this is something that I learn by seeing my psychologists,
Speaker 1: and we kind of uncovered that I'm someone who hates
Speaker 1: feeling feelings. Like I remember during my law degree, I
Speaker 1: had a professor who said I would be great at
Speaker 1: family law because I was like emotionless, which is like now,
Speaker 1: really rude when I think back, But basically I can
Speaker 1: detach to my feelings quite well compared to other people.
Speaker 1: And so this has actually been a positive in numerous ways.
Speaker 1: Like I actually did work in family law, and we
Speaker 1: went through, you know, like we had cases where it
Speaker 1: was really sad things that were happening and I didn't
Speaker 1: attach myself to the client or the outcome or anything
Speaker 1: like that. So it's helpful in those situations. And then
Speaker 1: also I think it has helped me just be a
Speaker 1: really strong person in general, Like I am someone who's
Speaker 1: so strong, so persistent, so determined, and I think that
Speaker 1: side of me comes into that. So it's almost like
Speaker 1: a positive and a negative. Obviously the negative. I've realized
Speaker 1: that when I feel feelings, I straightway shut them down
Speaker 1: and I suppress them. I don't actually let myself feel them,
Speaker 1: which then means I am constantly suppressing these feelings and
Speaker 1: they are manifesting in quite toxic way. So a lot
Speaker 1: of my anxiety was actually to do with suppressed feelings
Speaker 1: that I hadn't dealt with over the years, which I
Speaker 1: had never really sort of understood or heard of that term,
Speaker 1: and it was really interesting to me. And also just
Speaker 1: other ways of manifesting in toxic ways. So when I
Speaker 1: am feeling negative or sad, I no longer just suppress
Speaker 1: and don't feel it. I now sit with the feeling
Speaker 1: and I will actually put a timer on, it's something
Speaker 1: like sixty to ninety seconds that feeling will pass. So
Speaker 1: for that amount of time it is really uncomfortable. I
Speaker 1: am someone who finds it so uncomfortable, but I sit
Speaker 1: with it and I feel it, and then I get
Speaker 1: the feeling out. And that has been a game changer
Speaker 1: just in sort of feeling feelings and being more connected
Speaker 1: to my inner self. So another thing that I found
Speaker 1: was because I was suppressing these feelings, I was very
Speaker 1: disconnected from my inner self. And when I say my
Speaker 1: inner self, like I kind of mean my intuition and
Speaker 1: my most authentic self. I feel like that is a
Speaker 1: whole other podcast in itself, because the term may not
Speaker 1: be very usual, but I can definitely get into that
Speaker 1: with another podcast. But to feel my most authentic self
Speaker 1: and to be really in tune with my intuition, which
Speaker 1: has been what this year has been about for me
Speaker 1: personally and business wise, I've really had to actually start
Speaker 1: feeling my feelings. And it's actually like sometimes I will
Speaker 1: sit with the feeling and I literally like cry feel
Speaker 1: the feeling, and then sixty seconds later, like I'll be fine.
Speaker 1: And it's really funny because like if tim or something
Speaker 1: is around, He's like, what the fuck just happened? But oh, guys, like,
Speaker 1: stop suppressing your feelings. Feel your feelings because it's such
Speaker 1: a game changer, and then they won't come out in
Speaker 1: these like negative ways. Okay, next one is habits are everything,
Speaker 1: you guys know. I love my habits. I love my rituals.
Speaker 1: I love my morning routine, my night routine. I've got
Speaker 1: little habits for everything, And like, guys, we are our habits.
Speaker 1: I remember reading something and I think it was something
Speaker 1: like forty percent of our actions daily we don't even
Speaker 1: think about. We just do out of habit. That is
Speaker 1: a lot of our day. And if we have developed
Speaker 1: poor habits or negative habits, we are just automatically doing
Speaker 1: these things without thinking about them. So a big thing
Speaker 1: for me, and I'm going to be completely honest with you,
Speaker 1: this is something I slip in and out of, and
Speaker 1: I do notice a massive difference when I'm in it. Bit.
Speaker 1: Creating a morning and night routine and just healthy habits,
Speaker 1: good habits during the day is such a game changer.
Speaker 1: It just yeah, I don't know, you guys know, I'm
Speaker 1: really into habits. I think I'm going to do a
Speaker 1: whole podcast on just sort of actually how to create
Speaker 1: a habit and stick to it because it's you know,
Speaker 1: you hear so many people and they tell you your
Speaker 1: morning routine or their nighttime routine, and it's great, but
Speaker 1: there is definitely an art to actually sticking to a habit.
Speaker 1: So I might do a whole nother podcast on that
Speaker 1: in twenty twenty because I think it's something that is
Speaker 1: so important. Okay, next life lesson, and I don't want
Speaker 1: to say it's the most important, but okay, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: say it. It's the most important. No, okay. So it's
Speaker 1: like this and I keep saying game changer. I'm sorry,
Speaker 1: but this life lesson like game changer and it's so simple.
Speaker 1: But I swear not as many people as you think
Speaker 1: are doing it, Okay, and it's getting clear is the key.
Speaker 1: So the timeline that I mentioned at the start, so
Speaker 1: obviously it's ten years, it's a decade. I have achieved
Speaker 1: the same, if not double or triple in the last
Speaker 1: two three years, I reckon two years then before in
Speaker 1: that eight years because in the last two years I
Speaker 1: have started goal writing and being very goal orientated and
Speaker 1: getting very clear on who I want to be what
Speaker 1: I want to achieve and why. So the last couple
Speaker 1: of years, I think you would have even noticed if
Speaker 1: you're an og you know, follower, there was this massive
Speaker 1: shift on Instagram, on YouTube where I started to become
Speaker 1: very goal orientated. I remember, you know, I made sort
Speaker 1: of like I met a YouTube about like a vision
Speaker 1: and board about goalwriting. Like the first episode of this
Speaker 1: Rise and Conker podcast is how to make a goal
Speaker 1: and stick to it. I really urge you guys to
Speaker 1: go back and listen to that if you haven't for
Speaker 1: the new year, because it is so simple. But there's
Speaker 1: definitely an art to these things. And so what I
Speaker 1: have achieved over the last two years, like even just
Speaker 1: starting your own business, starting the podcast, starting Naked Harvest,
Speaker 1: the live events, all these things honestly would not have
Speaker 1: happened if I wasn't so clear on them happening. So
Speaker 1: I write goals probably every three to six months. I
Speaker 1: write personal goals, I write business goals. I have a
Speaker 1: vision board. Me and Mel constantly have goal meetings. Me
Speaker 1: and the Naked Harvest team constantly have goal meetings. Basically,
Speaker 1: I am constantly getting clear on who I want to be,
Speaker 1: what purpose I want to bring and guys, it is
Speaker 1: no accident that I am achieving these goals if you
Speaker 1: think about it. So I was actually looking into this
Speaker 1: because this sort of stuff really sort of gets me going,
Speaker 1: and I was looking into it and so scientifically, if
Speaker 1: you're a more scientific person, that sounded weird. So I
Speaker 1: definitely am like, if I know kind of the workings
Speaker 1: behind something, I believe it way more. So I was
Speaker 1: kind of researching it. And we actually have this thing
Speaker 1: in our brain called the reticular activator system. So basically,
Speaker 1: this is something in our brain that is switched on
Speaker 1: that it is actually like created to make us not
Speaker 1: go insane. So it's to keep us sane. And basically
Speaker 1: it filters everything that you hear and you know, you
Speaker 1: touch and everything that is going on around you. It
Speaker 1: filters it to ownly the important things, and it's basically
Speaker 1: just to help us not go insane. So for example,
Speaker 1: there's things that we just don't hear or see because
Speaker 1: it's almost like not important. So for example, we don't
Speaker 1: hear the blood rushing through our ear. We don't hear
Speaker 1: like you know, once you sit down, it's not like
Speaker 1: you're constantly thinking about the seat underneath you but it's
Speaker 1: clearly underneath you, if that makes sense. And so basically,
Speaker 1: what this system does is it tells our brain what
Speaker 1: is important and what we should focus on, and we
Speaker 1: get to create. We get to tell this system what
Speaker 1: is important and what it should focus on. And so
Speaker 1: a clearer example is you know when you want a
Speaker 1: new car, and before you wanted that car, you never
Speaker 1: saw it, and then you're like, okay, I like, for example,
Speaker 1: when I bought the car I have. Now I have
Speaker 1: a white Mercedes Benz It's a CLA two hundred, and
Speaker 1: I never saw that car. And then I started researching
Speaker 1: the car I wanted, and then I saw this white
Speaker 1: Mercedes literally everywhere, and I was like, oh my god,
Speaker 1: everyone has this car. But it's not. It's just because
Speaker 1: you have told your brain what you want to focus
Speaker 1: on and what's important, and now it picks it up
Speaker 1: for you. And I think we've always done that. Like
Speaker 1: it's like you never notice something and then you think
Speaker 1: about it and you start seeing it everywhere or noticing
Speaker 1: on it. And it's also the saying on what you
Speaker 1: focus on grows. So, for example, if we have this
Speaker 1: system in our brain and you haven't told it what
Speaker 1: to focus on what is important or what you want
Speaker 1: to be clear on. How is it going to know,
Speaker 1: how is it going to filter and get you towards
Speaker 1: your goal if you're not even clear on it. So
Speaker 1: I again, I want to do a whole podcast on
Speaker 1: goalwriting and this sort of thing because it is so important.
Speaker 1: But if you are someone who doesn't write down their
Speaker 1: goals or like have like a planning goal day, I
Speaker 1: really urge you to do that because something as simple
Speaker 1: as that can literally change your life. And I know
Speaker 1: that's so dramatic, but it's so true, and it's even
Speaker 1: like I guess I always talk about in a business sense,
Speaker 1: but even in a personal sense. So for example, me
Speaker 1: and Tim's relationship, what it is now is so different
Speaker 1: and so much better to what it was like when
Speaker 1: we first met, or even then in the beginning. And
Speaker 1: that's because in the last couple of years since we've
Speaker 1: been engaged, I have been very clear on what I
Speaker 1: want in a relationship, how I want to feel, and
Speaker 1: what I expect from him. And from there, I guess
Speaker 1: it's definitely the whole What you focus on grows. I
Speaker 1: have seen our relationship blossom so much compared to before
Speaker 1: like we've always had such an amazing relationship. Obviously we've
Speaker 1: been together for so long. But again, before it's almost
Speaker 1: like I was just going through the emotions and I
Speaker 1: was constantly reacting to things, whereas now my life is
Speaker 1: very planned and very clear on who I want to
Speaker 1: be and the sort of life I want to have,
Speaker 1: including who's in it. So you can definitely come from
Speaker 1: a personal view, not just like a business or career
Speaker 1: sense with goals all right. The next one is realizing
Speaker 1: that you are an average of the five people you
Speaker 1: hang around. Mostly so this is obviously in regards to
Speaker 1: the amount of money you make, your mindset, really everything.
Speaker 1: So if you think about it, if you were hang
Speaker 1: around people who constantly make you feel like shit, who
Speaker 1: aren't very nice to you about your goals or dreams,
Speaker 1: or who were just like toxic people in general, who
Speaker 1: maybe they're just like really negative, and you're realizing they're
Speaker 1: constantly being negative, but you're still hanging around them. Eventually
Speaker 1: you become the average of these people. And it's so
Speaker 1: so true. Like I'm even thinking back to some of
Speaker 1: my friendships that I've had over the years, and I'm like, wow,
Speaker 1: I was an actual different person. When I was friends
Speaker 1: with this person, and I wasn't a very nice person.
Speaker 1: I was actually very negative and I thought about these
Speaker 1: I actually, I'll tell you a story. I actually had
Speaker 1: this friend, and you know, she could be so different
Speaker 1: to this now, but at the time, she was very
Speaker 1: body focused. She was already like very tiny, very toned.
Speaker 1: In my eyes, she was literally like perfection. But I
Speaker 1: remember she would just constantly talk down about herself, whinge
Speaker 1: about her body, complain and just be really negative. And
Speaker 1: she was very obsessed with how she looked. And looking back,
Speaker 1: we were friends for a good year. I started sort
Speaker 1: of to transform into that mindset, and it was a
Speaker 1: year where I was very negative towards myself. I was
Speaker 1: in a really bad place, like I had no self
Speaker 1: love and that sort of thing. So who you hang
Speaker 1: around with, it's almost like you need to do a
Speaker 1: bit of a friend check. And it doesn't mean that
Speaker 1: you have to completely like not be friends with them,
Speaker 1: Like you don't have to text them be like, look,
Speaker 1: we're not hanging out anymore, you're a shit person or
Speaker 1: anything like that. It's just about maybe you need to
Speaker 1: distance yourself from that person or add in more people
Speaker 1: of the life that you want to leave, the mindset
Speaker 1: you want to have, the goals and dreams that you
Speaker 1: want to have. I think that was like, it's a
Speaker 1: big thing is realizing how much the people around you
Speaker 1: impact you. So the second last one is realizing that
Speaker 1: it doesn't matter if they don't like you, you must
Speaker 1: like you. That was a bit of a quote, and
Speaker 1: so basically I spent the first half, at least the
Speaker 1: first half, if not more, of this decade, really trying
Speaker 1: to fit myself into a box of what I thought
Speaker 1: I should be, whether that is how I should act,
Speaker 1: what career I should do, how I should look, whether
Speaker 1: it was for society eyes or you know, in my parents'
Speaker 1: eyes or my friend's eyes. I very much lived my
Speaker 1: life trying to please other people and other people's ideals,
Speaker 1: rather than listening inwards and asking myself, what do I like?
Speaker 1: What am I passionate about? And I think, to be
Speaker 1: completely honest, like I chose my law degree because I
Speaker 1: knew that it would make my parents happy. I knew
Speaker 1: that in the eyes of society, it was something that
Speaker 1: people you know, would encourage and like and think was
Speaker 1: suitable for me, rather than doing something because it made
Speaker 1: me happy or fulfilled. And don't get me wrong, like
Speaker 1: I said, I do not regret that at all, but
Speaker 1: I just spent a lot of years trying to be
Speaker 1: someone that I am not, and really, guys like I
Speaker 1: felt so unfulfilled and just not happy, and that in
Speaker 1: the last couple of years, I've been doing a lot
Speaker 1: of self development. You guys know, I love my self
Speaker 1: development and learning about myself and transforming my life into
Speaker 1: how I want it, transforming myself into what makes me happy,
Speaker 1: what makes me feel good, what makes me feel inspired
Speaker 1: and motivated, and really not worrying too much about other
Speaker 1: people because we are never going to be everyone's cup
Speaker 1: of tea. We are never going to please everyone, and
Speaker 1: if we try to do that, we will never be
Speaker 1: happy and fulfilled ourselves. And the last one, really short
Speaker 1: and sharp, is I have realized that we never stop
Speaker 1: learning and growing as people, and we should always be
Speaker 1: looking for the lessons, always be looking of, you know,
Speaker 1: how we can better ourselves and learn something new, and
Speaker 1: kind of just not be closed minded. I guess the
Speaker 1: reason why I put this in is my mindset has
Speaker 1: just transformed so much, and I've also seen a lot
Speaker 1: of people around me I've seen their mindset transform. So
Speaker 1: a little example is my brother So I co founded
Speaker 1: Naked Harvest with him, and literally a couple of years ago,
Speaker 1: he had his own plumbing business. He was very into
Speaker 1: the party scene. Nothing dramatic, like I liked a party
Speaker 1: and all that sort of thing. I liked to party well,
Speaker 1: but he just had very different goals and ideals and
Speaker 1: a way of living. And then to look at him
Speaker 1: now and see his work ethic and what he's passionate about,
Speaker 1: and to completely turn his back on something that I
Speaker 1: know was very hard to do. So if you guys
Speaker 1: didn't know, I have three older brothers and all my
Speaker 1: older brothers and my dad were all plumbers. So for
Speaker 1: Coopa to turn his back on that and do something
Speaker 1: like completely a completely different business is really inspiring. And
Speaker 1: a big part of that is because he started learning
Speaker 1: and growing as a person. Another big one is actually Tim.
Speaker 1: Like Tim used to be very close minded, and I
Speaker 1: have really seen him blossom in the last couple of years,
Speaker 1: which is like, it's weird to say, but yeah, I
Speaker 1: don't know. Guys, just really be open minded about who
Speaker 1: you are, Really be open minded about learning new things
Speaker 1: and growing as a person because I really think that
Speaker 1: we are all constantly changing and transforming, and nothing makes
Speaker 1: me happier. I want to finish this podcast by saying
Speaker 1: Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to the Rise and
Speaker 1: Conker Gang. Thank you so much for listening and supporting
Speaker 1: the podcast this year. I actually got a notification the
Speaker 1: other day and on Apple iTunes, this podcast is in
Speaker 1: twenty nineteen's most popular New Shows, which is just crazy.
Speaker 1: And nothing makes me happier than talking to you guys
Speaker 1: about these really important conversations and just having a community
Speaker 1: where we can about the same things. I personally wish
Speaker 1: I had something like this, you know, back in the
Speaker 1: day in twenty eleven when I was going through my
Speaker 1: degree and really kind of felt a bit lost, to
Speaker 1: be honest. So nothing makes me happier. And I just
Speaker 1: really want to say a big thank you from the
Speaker 1: bottom of my heart of you know, if you listen
Speaker 1: to the podcast, support it, share it all, that sort
Speaker 1: of thing. It really really means a lot. Twenty nineteen
Speaker 1: has me epic and I'm so excited two thousand and
Speaker 1: twenty twenty twenty twenty, we have some really exciting things
Speaker 1: happening for the podcast, we're doing a bit of a revamp.
Speaker 1: I know we're having a bit of a break for
Speaker 1: a couple of weeks and then we'll have some new
Speaker 1: exciting stuff for you guys. So I hope you have
Speaker 1: a safe merry Christmas, a happy New Year, and I'll
Speaker 1: talk to you guys in twenty twenty. Bye. Now, thanks
Speaker 1: so much for listening into this week's episode. If you
Speaker 1: love to Rise and Conquer and you're craving more community,
Speaker 1: I have got you, girlfriend, I just feel the exact same.
Speaker 1: So I'm very excited to announce that we have made
Speaker 1: a close Rise and Conquer Facebook community group. To join
Speaker 1: our girl gang, head to Facebook and search Rise and
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