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Speaker 1: Hi, and welcome to the Rise and Conquer Podcast. I'm

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Speaker 1: your host, Georgie Stevenson. I am a lawyer and health coach,

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Speaker 1: social media influencer, wife, and dog mum. On the Rise

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Speaker 1: and Conquer Podcast, we dive deep into all things mindset, habits, career, health,

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Speaker 1: relationships and more. This is a podcast for women who

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Speaker 1: want to rise up to be the best version of themselves,

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Speaker 1: who have big dreams in who are willing to put

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Speaker 1: in the work to get there. I want to bring

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Speaker 1: you the tools and actionable steps to feel confident in yourself,

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Speaker 1: inspired to take bold action, and motivated to conquer your goals.

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Speaker 1: Are you with me? Your friends, Let's Rise and conquer.

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Speaker 1: Hi guys, and welcome back to the Rise Conquer Podcasts.

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Speaker 1: So I cannot believe it, but we are about to

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Speaker 1: go into twenty twenty, which is just I don't know,

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Speaker 1: it's a bit crazy. We are finishing a decade. As

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Speaker 1: I'm recording this episode, we are seven days away from

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Speaker 1: twenty twenty, so still in twenty nineteen. But I wanted

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Speaker 1: to do an episode. I actually want to do an

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Speaker 1: episode where I've reflected on twenty nineteen and go through

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Speaker 1: like my lessons that I've learned. But then I was like,

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Speaker 1: oh my god, let's just do the whole decade. Because

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Speaker 1: I was actually looking at photos. I wanted to do that,

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Speaker 1: you know that like ten year challenge where you post

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Speaker 1: a photo of when you were like ten years ago, obviously,

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Speaker 1: and it was just bringing back all these mems and whatnot.

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Speaker 1: So I thought, hell, I'm going to go through ten

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Speaker 1: life lessons of the whole decade. So I'm going to

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Speaker 1: do a quick kind of timeline just so it makes

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Speaker 1: it more since. So ten years ago, I well, I'm

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Speaker 1: twenty five now, so I would have been fifteen, so

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Speaker 1: little baby Georgie I would have been in grade eleven.

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Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure. Yeah. So obviously this decade has been

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Speaker 1: a big one of my life, the most important, heaps

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Speaker 1: of stuff happening. So obviously twenty ten, I was in

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Speaker 1: Grade eleven, nothing that exciting. So twenty eleven was when

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Speaker 1: I finished Grade twelve. Twenty eleven is also when I

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Speaker 1: met Timothy, who is now my husband. And then twenty

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Speaker 1: twelve to twenty sixteen I studied and graduated my law degree.

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Speaker 1: Around twenty thirteen, I started my igene, a more kind

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Speaker 1: of blogging way that I do now. I also moved

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Speaker 1: out of home when I was nineteen and mostly worked

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Speaker 1: full time during that period of studying my law degree,

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Speaker 1: and then twenty sixteen me and Tim bought our townhouse.

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Speaker 1: Twenty seventeen I started YouTube. Twenty eighteen I got admitted

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Speaker 1: as a lawyer. Twenty eighteen I got married. I left

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Speaker 1: did my own thing, hired mail and got more serious

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Speaker 1: within my personal brand. And then twenty nineteen has been

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Speaker 1: a big year of I started this podcast, I co

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Speaker 1: founded Naked Harvest with my brother. We did the live

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Speaker 1: events a lot, a lot, and I moved to the Golkos.

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Speaker 1: So a lot happening. So let's get straight into ten

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Speaker 1: life lessons for the decade. So number one, and it's

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Speaker 1: everything happens for a reason, and I need to be

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Speaker 1: trusting in the process. So the reason why bringing this

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Speaker 1: kind of looking at it a little bit closer, like

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Speaker 1: the skills I developed through working for the law firm

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Speaker 1: now where it's very multifacet and you know, there's lots

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Speaker 1: Everything has happened exactly how it should and even things

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Speaker 1: Like I this year, I have noticed that I am

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Speaker 1: and stick to it. I really urge you guys to

432
00:27:10,320 --> 00:27:12,880
Speaker 1: go back and listen to that if you haven't for

433
00:27:12,920 --> 00:27:16,080
Speaker 1: the new year, because it is so simple. But there's

434
00:27:16,160 --> 00:27:20,320
Speaker 1: definitely an art to these things. And so what I

435
00:27:20,400 --> 00:27:23,840
Speaker 1: have achieved over the last two years, like even just

436
00:27:24,280 --> 00:27:28,160
Speaker 1: starting your own business, starting the podcast, starting Naked Harvest,

437
00:27:28,560 --> 00:27:33,280
Speaker 1: the live events, all these things honestly would not have

438
00:27:33,480 --> 00:27:37,879
Speaker 1: happened if I wasn't so clear on them happening. So

439
00:27:38,119 --> 00:27:43,320
Speaker 1: I write goals probably every three to six months. I

440
00:27:43,400 --> 00:27:47,359
Speaker 1: write personal goals, I write business goals. I have a

441
00:27:47,480 --> 00:27:51,399
Speaker 1: vision board. Me and Mel constantly have goal meetings. Me

442
00:27:51,600 --> 00:27:55,320
Speaker 1: and the Naked Harvest team constantly have goal meetings. Basically,

443
00:27:55,400 --> 00:27:58,800
Speaker 1: I am constantly getting clear on who I want to be,

444
00:27:59,080 --> 00:28:02,679
Speaker 1: what purpose I want to bring and guys, it is

445
00:28:02,880 --> 00:28:06,639
Speaker 1: no accident that I am achieving these goals if you

446
00:28:06,720 --> 00:28:09,199
Speaker 1: think about it. So I was actually looking into this

447
00:28:09,240 --> 00:28:12,639
Speaker 1: because this sort of stuff really sort of gets me going,

448
00:28:12,840 --> 00:28:15,640
Speaker 1: and I was looking into it and so scientifically, if

449
00:28:15,640 --> 00:28:21,880
Speaker 1: you're a more scientific person, that sounded weird. So I

450
00:28:21,920 --> 00:28:24,879
Speaker 1: definitely am like, if I know kind of the workings

451
00:28:24,920 --> 00:28:28,639
Speaker 1: behind something, I believe it way more. So I was

452
00:28:28,720 --> 00:28:32,240
Speaker 1: kind of researching it. And we actually have this thing

453
00:28:32,359 --> 00:28:38,880
Speaker 1: in our brain called the reticular activator system. So basically,

454
00:28:39,000 --> 00:28:42,080
Speaker 1: this is something in our brain that is switched on

455
00:28:42,960 --> 00:28:47,240
Speaker 1: that it is actually like created to make us not

456
00:28:47,440 --> 00:28:51,200
Speaker 1: go insane. So it's to keep us sane. And basically

457
00:28:51,360 --> 00:28:57,200
Speaker 1: it filters everything that you hear and you know, you

458
00:28:57,440 --> 00:29:01,760
Speaker 1: touch and everything that is going on around you. It

459
00:29:01,840 --> 00:29:06,400
Speaker 1: filters it to ownly the important things, and it's basically

460
00:29:06,440 --> 00:29:10,000
Speaker 1: just to help us not go insane. So for example,

461
00:29:10,720 --> 00:29:13,880
Speaker 1: there's things that we just don't hear or see because

462
00:29:13,880 --> 00:29:16,880
Speaker 1: it's almost like not important. So for example, we don't

463
00:29:17,080 --> 00:29:20,960
Speaker 1: hear the blood rushing through our ear. We don't hear

464
00:29:21,400 --> 00:29:24,320
Speaker 1: like you know, once you sit down, it's not like

465
00:29:24,400 --> 00:29:28,000
Speaker 1: you're constantly thinking about the seat underneath you but it's

466
00:29:28,040 --> 00:29:32,000
Speaker 1: clearly underneath you, if that makes sense. And so basically,

467
00:29:32,160 --> 00:29:36,760
Speaker 1: what this system does is it tells our brain what

468
00:29:36,960 --> 00:29:40,280
Speaker 1: is important and what we should focus on, and we

469
00:29:41,000 --> 00:29:44,720
Speaker 1: get to create. We get to tell this system what

470
00:29:44,840 --> 00:29:47,560
Speaker 1: is important and what it should focus on. And so

471
00:29:47,760 --> 00:29:51,400
Speaker 1: a clearer example is you know when you want a

472
00:29:51,440 --> 00:29:54,960
Speaker 1: new car, and before you wanted that car, you never

473
00:29:55,040 --> 00:29:58,200
Speaker 1: saw it, and then you're like, okay, I like, for example,

474
00:29:58,240 --> 00:30:01,040
Speaker 1: when I bought the car I have. Now I have

475
00:30:01,280 --> 00:30:05,120
Speaker 1: a white Mercedes Benz It's a CLA two hundred, and

476
00:30:05,520 --> 00:30:08,320
Speaker 1: I never saw that car. And then I started researching

477
00:30:08,360 --> 00:30:12,000
Speaker 1: the car I wanted, and then I saw this white

478
00:30:12,040 --> 00:30:15,480
Speaker 1: Mercedes literally everywhere, and I was like, oh my god,

479
00:30:15,680 --> 00:30:19,320
Speaker 1: everyone has this car. But it's not. It's just because

480
00:30:19,760 --> 00:30:22,840
Speaker 1: you have told your brain what you want to focus

481
00:30:22,880 --> 00:30:26,560
Speaker 1: on and what's important, and now it picks it up

482
00:30:26,560 --> 00:30:28,719
Speaker 1: for you. And I think we've always done that. Like

483
00:30:28,760 --> 00:30:30,680
Speaker 1: it's like you never notice something and then you think

484
00:30:30,720 --> 00:30:33,240
Speaker 1: about it and you start seeing it everywhere or noticing

485
00:30:33,480 --> 00:30:36,280
Speaker 1: on it. And it's also the saying on what you

486
00:30:36,440 --> 00:30:40,600
Speaker 1: focus on grows. So, for example, if we have this

487
00:30:40,720 --> 00:30:44,520
Speaker 1: system in our brain and you haven't told it what

488
00:30:44,720 --> 00:30:48,400
Speaker 1: to focus on what is important or what you want

489
00:30:48,400 --> 00:30:51,520
Speaker 1: to be clear on. How is it going to know,

490
00:30:51,880 --> 00:30:55,440
Speaker 1: how is it going to filter and get you towards

491
00:30:55,480 --> 00:30:59,200
Speaker 1: your goal if you're not even clear on it. So

492
00:30:59,360 --> 00:31:02,560
Speaker 1: I again, I want to do a whole podcast on

493
00:31:03,200 --> 00:31:06,400
Speaker 1: goalwriting and this sort of thing because it is so important.

494
00:31:06,680 --> 00:31:09,680
Speaker 1: But if you are someone who doesn't write down their

495
00:31:09,720 --> 00:31:13,400
Speaker 1: goals or like have like a planning goal day, I

496
00:31:13,440 --> 00:31:17,520
Speaker 1: really urge you to do that because something as simple

497
00:31:17,760 --> 00:31:20,880
Speaker 1: as that can literally change your life. And I know

498
00:31:20,960 --> 00:31:24,160
Speaker 1: that's so dramatic, but it's so true, and it's even

499
00:31:24,800 --> 00:31:28,840
Speaker 1: like I guess I always talk about in a business sense,

500
00:31:29,200 --> 00:31:33,400
Speaker 1: but even in a personal sense. So for example, me

501
00:31:33,480 --> 00:31:38,400
Speaker 1: and Tim's relationship, what it is now is so different

502
00:31:39,000 --> 00:31:42,040
Speaker 1: and so much better to what it was like when

503
00:31:42,080 --> 00:31:45,160
Speaker 1: we first met, or even then in the beginning. And

504
00:31:45,200 --> 00:31:48,840
Speaker 1: that's because in the last couple of years since we've

505
00:31:48,840 --> 00:31:53,240
Speaker 1: been engaged, I have been very clear on what I

506
00:31:53,320 --> 00:31:56,520
Speaker 1: want in a relationship, how I want to feel, and

507
00:31:56,600 --> 00:32:01,680
Speaker 1: what I expect from him. And from there, I guess

508
00:32:01,760 --> 00:32:05,200
Speaker 1: it's definitely the whole What you focus on grows. I

509
00:32:05,320 --> 00:32:10,840
Speaker 1: have seen our relationship blossom so much compared to before

510
00:32:10,960 --> 00:32:14,120
Speaker 1: like we've always had such an amazing relationship. Obviously we've

511
00:32:14,160 --> 00:32:18,160
Speaker 1: been together for so long. But again, before it's almost

512
00:32:18,200 --> 00:32:20,200
Speaker 1: like I was just going through the emotions and I

513
00:32:20,280 --> 00:32:25,320
Speaker 1: was constantly reacting to things, whereas now my life is

514
00:32:25,560 --> 00:32:28,680
Speaker 1: very planned and very clear on who I want to

515
00:32:28,720 --> 00:32:30,920
Speaker 1: be and the sort of life I want to have,

516
00:32:31,160 --> 00:32:35,720
Speaker 1: including who's in it. So you can definitely come from

517
00:32:36,000 --> 00:32:38,960
Speaker 1: a personal view, not just like a business or career

518
00:32:39,080 --> 00:32:44,320
Speaker 1: sense with goals all right. The next one is realizing

519
00:32:44,440 --> 00:32:48,160
Speaker 1: that you are an average of the five people you

520
00:32:48,200 --> 00:32:52,959
Speaker 1: hang around. Mostly so this is obviously in regards to

521
00:32:53,760 --> 00:32:58,040
Speaker 1: the amount of money you make, your mindset, really everything.

522
00:32:58,160 --> 00:33:00,160
Speaker 1: So if you think about it, if you were hang

523
00:33:00,240 --> 00:33:04,280
Speaker 1: around people who constantly make you feel like shit, who

524
00:33:04,800 --> 00:33:08,400
Speaker 1: aren't very nice to you about your goals or dreams,

525
00:33:08,760 --> 00:33:11,520
Speaker 1: or who were just like toxic people in general, who

526
00:33:11,520 --> 00:33:15,360
Speaker 1: maybe they're just like really negative, and you're realizing they're

527
00:33:15,400 --> 00:33:21,600
Speaker 1: constantly being negative, but you're still hanging around them. Eventually

528
00:33:22,120 --> 00:33:26,520
Speaker 1: you become the average of these people. And it's so

529
00:33:26,520 --> 00:33:29,720
Speaker 1: so true. Like I'm even thinking back to some of

530
00:33:29,760 --> 00:33:34,000
Speaker 1: my friendships that I've had over the years, and I'm like, wow,

531
00:33:34,120 --> 00:33:37,640
Speaker 1: I was an actual different person. When I was friends

532
00:33:37,640 --> 00:33:40,400
Speaker 1: with this person, and I wasn't a very nice person.

533
00:33:40,440 --> 00:33:43,480
Speaker 1: I was actually very negative and I thought about these

534
00:33:44,080 --> 00:33:46,280
Speaker 1: I actually, I'll tell you a story. I actually had

535
00:33:46,280 --> 00:33:49,040
Speaker 1: this friend, and you know, she could be so different

536
00:33:49,240 --> 00:33:52,880
Speaker 1: to this now, but at the time, she was very

537
00:33:53,200 --> 00:33:58,160
Speaker 1: body focused. She was already like very tiny, very toned.

538
00:33:58,320 --> 00:34:01,280
Speaker 1: In my eyes, she was literally like perfection. But I

539
00:34:01,320 --> 00:34:06,160
Speaker 1: remember she would just constantly talk down about herself, whinge

540
00:34:06,200 --> 00:34:10,919
Speaker 1: about her body, complain and just be really negative. And

541
00:34:10,960 --> 00:34:14,960
Speaker 1: she was very obsessed with how she looked. And looking back,

542
00:34:15,520 --> 00:34:18,879
Speaker 1: we were friends for a good year. I started sort

543
00:34:18,880 --> 00:34:22,640
Speaker 1: of to transform into that mindset, and it was a

544
00:34:22,760 --> 00:34:26,200
Speaker 1: year where I was very negative towards myself. I was

545
00:34:26,239 --> 00:34:29,760
Speaker 1: in a really bad place, like I had no self

546
00:34:29,840 --> 00:34:33,279
Speaker 1: love and that sort of thing. So who you hang

547
00:34:33,360 --> 00:34:35,440
Speaker 1: around with, it's almost like you need to do a

548
00:34:35,440 --> 00:34:38,360
Speaker 1: bit of a friend check. And it doesn't mean that

549
00:34:38,440 --> 00:34:40,920
Speaker 1: you have to completely like not be friends with them,

550
00:34:40,960 --> 00:34:42,800
Speaker 1: Like you don't have to text them be like, look,

551
00:34:42,840 --> 00:34:45,560
Speaker 1: we're not hanging out anymore, you're a shit person or

552
00:34:45,560 --> 00:34:48,520
Speaker 1: anything like that. It's just about maybe you need to

553
00:34:48,560 --> 00:34:52,720
Speaker 1: distance yourself from that person or add in more people

554
00:34:53,200 --> 00:34:56,480
Speaker 1: of the life that you want to leave, the mindset

555
00:34:56,560 --> 00:34:59,360
Speaker 1: you want to have, the goals and dreams that you

556
00:34:59,400 --> 00:35:01,520
Speaker 1: want to have. I think that was like, it's a

557
00:35:01,560 --> 00:35:06,000
Speaker 1: big thing is realizing how much the people around you

558
00:35:06,280 --> 00:35:11,000
Speaker 1: impact you. So the second last one is realizing that

559
00:35:11,800 --> 00:35:15,920
Speaker 1: it doesn't matter if they don't like you, you must

560
00:35:16,000 --> 00:35:19,359
Speaker 1: like you. That was a bit of a quote, and

561
00:35:19,880 --> 00:35:25,319
Speaker 1: so basically I spent the first half, at least the

562
00:35:25,360 --> 00:35:30,320
Speaker 1: first half, if not more, of this decade, really trying

563
00:35:30,360 --> 00:35:33,920
Speaker 1: to fit myself into a box of what I thought

564
00:35:34,040 --> 00:35:38,080
Speaker 1: I should be, whether that is how I should act,

565
00:35:38,480 --> 00:35:42,600
Speaker 1: what career I should do, how I should look, whether

566
00:35:42,640 --> 00:35:45,600
Speaker 1: it was for society eyes or you know, in my parents'

567
00:35:45,600 --> 00:35:50,160
Speaker 1: eyes or my friend's eyes. I very much lived my

568
00:35:50,320 --> 00:35:55,799
Speaker 1: life trying to please other people and other people's ideals,

569
00:35:56,360 --> 00:36:01,680
Speaker 1: rather than listening inwards and asking myself, what do I like?

570
00:36:01,800 --> 00:36:04,799
Speaker 1: What am I passionate about? And I think, to be

571
00:36:04,880 --> 00:36:09,279
Speaker 1: completely honest, like I chose my law degree because I

572
00:36:09,400 --> 00:36:13,480
Speaker 1: knew that it would make my parents happy. I knew

573
00:36:13,520 --> 00:36:16,279
Speaker 1: that in the eyes of society, it was something that

574
00:36:16,480 --> 00:36:21,759
Speaker 1: people you know, would encourage and like and think was

575
00:36:21,800 --> 00:36:25,879
Speaker 1: suitable for me, rather than doing something because it made

576
00:36:25,960 --> 00:36:28,880
Speaker 1: me happy or fulfilled. And don't get me wrong, like

577
00:36:28,920 --> 00:36:32,000
Speaker 1: I said, I do not regret that at all, but

578
00:36:32,239 --> 00:36:35,560
Speaker 1: I just spent a lot of years trying to be

579
00:36:35,760 --> 00:36:39,759
Speaker 1: someone that I am not, and really, guys like I

580
00:36:39,960 --> 00:36:45,680
Speaker 1: felt so unfulfilled and just not happy, and that in

581
00:36:45,719 --> 00:36:48,080
Speaker 1: the last couple of years, I've been doing a lot

582
00:36:48,280 --> 00:36:50,960
Speaker 1: of self development. You guys know, I love my self

583
00:36:51,000 --> 00:36:57,640
Speaker 1: development and learning about myself and transforming my life into

584
00:36:57,880 --> 00:37:03,640
Speaker 1: how I want it, transforming myself into what makes me happy,

585
00:37:04,040 --> 00:37:07,960
Speaker 1: what makes me feel good, what makes me feel inspired

586
00:37:08,640 --> 00:37:12,399
Speaker 1: and motivated, and really not worrying too much about other

587
00:37:12,480 --> 00:37:17,200
Speaker 1: people because we are never going to be everyone's cup

588
00:37:17,239 --> 00:37:20,560
Speaker 1: of tea. We are never going to please everyone, and

589
00:37:20,640 --> 00:37:23,040
Speaker 1: if we try to do that, we will never be

590
00:37:23,239 --> 00:37:27,959
Speaker 1: happy and fulfilled ourselves. And the last one, really short

591
00:37:28,000 --> 00:37:32,880
Speaker 1: and sharp, is I have realized that we never stop

592
00:37:33,160 --> 00:37:36,719
Speaker 1: learning and growing as people, and we should always be

593
00:37:36,840 --> 00:37:40,319
Speaker 1: looking for the lessons, always be looking of, you know,

594
00:37:40,480 --> 00:37:43,920
Speaker 1: how we can better ourselves and learn something new, and

595
00:37:44,040 --> 00:37:47,640
Speaker 1: kind of just not be closed minded. I guess the

596
00:37:47,680 --> 00:37:51,799
Speaker 1: reason why I put this in is my mindset has

597
00:37:52,000 --> 00:37:55,759
Speaker 1: just transformed so much, and I've also seen a lot

598
00:37:55,800 --> 00:37:59,759
Speaker 1: of people around me I've seen their mindset transform. So

599
00:38:00,160 --> 00:38:03,240
Speaker 1: a little example is my brother So I co founded

600
00:38:03,360 --> 00:38:06,759
Speaker 1: Naked Harvest with him, and literally a couple of years ago,

601
00:38:07,520 --> 00:38:11,919
Speaker 1: he had his own plumbing business. He was very into

602
00:38:11,960 --> 00:38:15,600
Speaker 1: the party scene. Nothing dramatic, like I liked a party

603
00:38:15,600 --> 00:38:17,560
Speaker 1: and all that sort of thing. I liked to party well,

604
00:38:18,080 --> 00:38:23,640
Speaker 1: but he just had very different goals and ideals and

605
00:38:23,719 --> 00:38:26,000
Speaker 1: a way of living. And then to look at him

606
00:38:26,040 --> 00:38:31,880
Speaker 1: now and see his work ethic and what he's passionate about,

607
00:38:32,320 --> 00:38:35,279
Speaker 1: and to completely turn his back on something that I

608
00:38:35,360 --> 00:38:38,799
Speaker 1: know was very hard to do. So if you guys

609
00:38:38,840 --> 00:38:41,360
Speaker 1: didn't know, I have three older brothers and all my

610
00:38:41,480 --> 00:38:44,040
Speaker 1: older brothers and my dad were all plumbers. So for

611
00:38:44,120 --> 00:38:47,120
Speaker 1: Coopa to turn his back on that and do something

612
00:38:47,320 --> 00:38:53,000
Speaker 1: like completely a completely different business is really inspiring. And

613
00:38:53,239 --> 00:38:56,240
Speaker 1: a big part of that is because he started learning

614
00:38:56,320 --> 00:39:00,560
Speaker 1: and growing as a person. Another big one is actually Tim.

615
00:39:00,680 --> 00:39:04,440
Speaker 1: Like Tim used to be very close minded, and I

616
00:39:04,600 --> 00:39:07,920
Speaker 1: have really seen him blossom in the last couple of years,

617
00:39:08,320 --> 00:39:11,279
Speaker 1: which is like, it's weird to say, but yeah, I

618
00:39:11,320 --> 00:39:15,759
Speaker 1: don't know. Guys, just really be open minded about who

619
00:39:15,800 --> 00:39:20,000
Speaker 1: you are, Really be open minded about learning new things

620
00:39:20,040 --> 00:39:23,920
Speaker 1: and growing as a person because I really think that

621
00:39:24,000 --> 00:39:28,640
Speaker 1: we are all constantly changing and transforming, and nothing makes

622
00:39:28,640 --> 00:39:32,080
Speaker 1: me happier. I want to finish this podcast by saying

623
00:39:32,440 --> 00:39:35,040
Speaker 1: Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to the Rise and

624
00:39:35,040 --> 00:39:39,840
Speaker 1: Conker Gang. Thank you so much for listening and supporting

625
00:39:39,880 --> 00:39:42,880
Speaker 1: the podcast this year. I actually got a notification the

626
00:39:42,920 --> 00:39:47,239
Speaker 1: other day and on Apple iTunes, this podcast is in

627
00:39:47,280 --> 00:39:51,600
Speaker 1: twenty nineteen's most popular New Shows, which is just crazy.

628
00:39:51,680 --> 00:39:54,839
Speaker 1: And nothing makes me happier than talking to you guys

629
00:39:54,960 --> 00:39:59,200
Speaker 1: about these really important conversations and just having a community

630
00:39:59,239 --> 00:40:02,919
Speaker 1: where we can about the same things. I personally wish

631
00:40:03,000 --> 00:40:04,960
Speaker 1: I had something like this, you know, back in the

632
00:40:05,040 --> 00:40:07,920
Speaker 1: day in twenty eleven when I was going through my

633
00:40:08,080 --> 00:40:11,160
Speaker 1: degree and really kind of felt a bit lost, to

634
00:40:11,200 --> 00:40:14,120
Speaker 1: be honest. So nothing makes me happier. And I just

635
00:40:14,239 --> 00:40:16,000
Speaker 1: really want to say a big thank you from the

636
00:40:16,040 --> 00:40:19,040
Speaker 1: bottom of my heart of you know, if you listen

637
00:40:19,080 --> 00:40:21,480
Speaker 1: to the podcast, support it, share it all, that sort

638
00:40:21,560 --> 00:40:25,040
Speaker 1: of thing. It really really means a lot. Twenty nineteen

639
00:40:25,120 --> 00:40:28,120
Speaker 1: has me epic and I'm so excited two thousand and

640
00:40:28,360 --> 00:40:32,359
Speaker 1: twenty twenty twenty twenty, we have some really exciting things

641
00:40:32,400 --> 00:40:35,600
Speaker 1: happening for the podcast, we're doing a bit of a revamp.

642
00:40:35,840 --> 00:40:37,400
Speaker 1: I know we're having a bit of a break for

643
00:40:37,440 --> 00:40:40,000
Speaker 1: a couple of weeks and then we'll have some new

644
00:40:40,040 --> 00:40:42,400
Speaker 1: exciting stuff for you guys. So I hope you have

645
00:40:42,640 --> 00:40:47,040
Speaker 1: a safe merry Christmas, a happy New Year, and I'll

646
00:40:47,080 --> 00:40:51,680
Speaker 1: talk to you guys in twenty twenty. Bye. Now, thanks

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Speaker 1: so much for listening into this week's episode. If you

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Speaker 1: So I'm very excited to announce that we have made

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Speaker 1: instagram at Georgie Stevenson. I hope you have an amazing

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