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Speaker 4: Are you soaking up to me?

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Speaker 2: Missus Happy Families, Kylie. So we've been doing the podcast

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Speaker 2: Kylie like, we talk about stuff, but so much of

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Speaker 2: family life is transaction, all right. We're talking about who's

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Speaker 2: We're the parents of coundum, six daughters, six girls. For

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Speaker 2: We're so glad to have you here. I've written six

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Speaker 2: books about raising happy families, and today we thought we'd

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Speaker 3: We're not going to give you the whole thing, but

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Speaker 2: Insight into what we do on a weekly basis to

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Speaker 4: Well, happy families don't just happen.

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Speaker 2: Oh that's good. Happy families don't just happen. That's our

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Speaker 3: I haven't even that wasn't even the planned or anything.

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Speaker 2: So what happened last Friday was we talked about that

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Speaker 2: We call it the drum Roll Weekly Couple's Infantry. I

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Speaker 2: This is our weekly couple's inventory. We do it every

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Speaker 1: We've had a couple of things, but the main one

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so I'm blaming Netflix and Apple TV. We've got

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Speaker 4: Are you in, I'm in that sound that's awesome.

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Speaker 4: Next week, well, I'm looking forward to doing better.

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