WEBVTT - FULL SHOW: Manifesting & Chat GPT Couples Counselling 0:00:01.320 --> 0:00:05.200 A good pickup with Britt Hockley and Laura Burn. 0:00:05.600 --> 0:00:10.719 Bady your work, our windows that my worris in the dust, 0:00:10.880 --> 0:00:12.559 only good zabs all day. 0:00:13.600 --> 0:00:17.800 I don't much, but yeah, I'm not our big and 0:00:17.840 --> 0:00:18.840 what I want. 0:00:18.880 --> 0:00:21.840 It don't matter where. This is the pickup. 0:00:22.360 --> 0:00:25.840 Happy Friday afternoon, everybody. It's the pickup with Britt Hockley 0:00:25.840 --> 0:00:26.439 and Laura Burn. 0:00:26.600 --> 0:00:29.800 And how exciting. I often don't have very exciting things 0:00:29.800 --> 0:00:30.360 on the weekend. 0:00:30.440 --> 0:00:32.880 You have a very exciting thing this weekend, so do you. Yeah, 0:00:32.880 --> 0:00:34.800 but you're in a box and I'm in the club seats. 0:00:34.920 --> 0:00:37.559 Oh, Laura and I are both going to the dual 0:00:37.640 --> 0:00:38.360 liper concept. 0:00:38.520 --> 0:00:39.280 You're going tonight. 0:00:39.400 --> 0:00:40.760 I'm going tonight with my sister. 0:00:40.960 --> 0:00:42.760 Yeah, and I'm going tomorrow in a suite. 0:00:42.600 --> 0:00:46.320 We bought our tickets, like the good supporting patrons that 0:00:46.360 --> 0:00:46.680 we are. 0:00:47.040 --> 0:00:47.919 And Brittany I. 0:00:47.840 --> 0:00:48.680 Did get invited. 0:00:48.760 --> 0:00:50.840 You got invited and she's going to be in a box. Sweet, 0:00:50.960 --> 0:00:54.360 you are invited? Me super jealous. 0:00:54.640 --> 0:00:56.880 No, you didn't get invited by Jua Lipa stopped trying 0:00:56.920 --> 0:00:58.200 to spread these rumors that aren't true. 0:00:58.280 --> 0:00:58.800 Yes I did. 0:00:58.920 --> 0:01:01.400 She DMed me and I'd love to have you sing 0:01:01.440 --> 0:01:03.240 with me, and I said, I wouldn't want to take 0:01:03.280 --> 0:01:05.200 that attention away from you, but I'll come to the box. 0:01:05.280 --> 0:01:07.160 To be fair, you got invited to the box as well. 0:01:07.200 --> 0:01:07.920 You didn't want to come. 0:01:08.040 --> 0:01:08.800 No, that's not true. 0:01:09.680 --> 0:01:12.040 My tongue, Oh my god, you literally I just watched 0:01:12.040 --> 0:01:15.800 you bite your tongue. You'd sent me that was actually stuck. 0:01:15.880 --> 0:01:19.160 Funny for someone that talks for a living. Your tongue 0:01:19.240 --> 0:01:20.520 just didn't go back into your. 0:01:21.000 --> 0:01:25.360 Say that what just happened? I had a malfunction. Oh 0:01:25.400 --> 0:01:25.720 my god. 0:01:25.760 --> 0:01:27.960 I'm going with my sister to draw ALB and she 0:01:28.000 --> 0:01:29.640 bought the tickets for my birthday, so. 0:01:29.680 --> 0:01:32.000 I wasn't going to ditch her to go into a box. 0:01:32.680 --> 0:01:34.520 You could have gone two nights. I put your tongue. 0:01:34.640 --> 0:01:38.520 I'm so excited. That's what it is, brit Laura. 0:01:38.880 --> 0:01:42.440 I think it's a bit too early to tell, or 0:01:42.480 --> 0:01:44.520 only a couple of days in, but I think I 0:01:44.520 --> 0:01:47.200 have cracked the code for parents out there who want 0:01:47.200 --> 0:01:48.240 to get their kids off the. 0:01:48.280 --> 0:01:51.800 Dummy, the dummy fairy. The dummy fairy so hit us 0:01:51.800 --> 0:01:52.560 a few days ago. 0:01:52.840 --> 0:01:55.600 Yeah, okay, my daughter, she's four years old, Lola. There 0:01:55.640 --> 0:01:57.840 has never been a child that's more obsessed with their 0:01:57.880 --> 0:02:01.320 dummy than Lola. Like. It has been an obsession since 0:02:01.360 --> 0:02:03.600 the day she was born. And she was a very, 0:02:03.760 --> 0:02:06.920 very very fussy baby. She didn't sleep in a cot, 0:02:07.040 --> 0:02:10.400 She only slept in a carrier with me, sitting upright 0:02:10.440 --> 0:02:12.400 with her on me. And that was the first six 0:02:12.440 --> 0:02:15.560 weeks of her life. Like, it was hard work. And 0:02:15.600 --> 0:02:19.000 the only thing in her, like you know, little four 0:02:19.080 --> 0:02:21.720 years of life that has ever brought her comfort is 0:02:21.760 --> 0:02:25.200 her dummy. She will happily take a dummy over being cuddled. 0:02:25.440 --> 0:02:27.560 She will take her dummy over her dad, like, she 0:02:27.560 --> 0:02:28.800 will take her dummy over anything. 0:02:28.840 --> 0:02:30.160 She loves it so much. 0:02:30.600 --> 0:02:33.000 If you ask her her favorite thing, she will say 0:02:33.000 --> 0:02:36.360 her dummy. So we've tried quite a few times getting 0:02:36.400 --> 0:02:39.240 her off it. You know, she turned four in February, 0:02:39.400 --> 0:02:41.120 So we tried when she was two. We tried when 0:02:41.160 --> 0:02:41.840 she was three. 0:02:42.400 --> 0:02:43.160 You remember, it. 0:02:43.200 --> 0:02:44.720 Was like I was rough man. 0:02:45.000 --> 0:02:46.959 Yeah, it was like she turned into a dementor she 0:02:47.040 --> 0:02:51.680 my contraception. She screamed NonStop for six weeks. Anyway, we've 0:02:51.680 --> 0:02:54.360 gotten to a point where we're like, she's four years old. 0:02:54.880 --> 0:02:57.560 This is getting embarrassing. Now she's going to school next year. 0:02:57.600 --> 0:02:59.520 She's got a boyfriend, she's moving out of home. We've 0:02:59.520 --> 0:03:01.360 got to get her the dummy university. 0:03:01.680 --> 0:03:06.200 So we decided it was time to implement the dummy Fairy. Now, 0:03:06.200 --> 0:03:09.160 the dummy Fairy seems to do different things in different households, 0:03:09.240 --> 0:03:12.480 but in our household we have had four nights now 0:03:13.040 --> 0:03:16.880 of no crying, no dummy huge and it has been 0:03:17.320 --> 0:03:18.280 a raving success. 0:03:18.360 --> 0:03:21.040 Well, then tell us the people in the car that 0:03:21.120 --> 0:03:22.880 might be wanting the dummy Fairy to come to their house, 0:03:22.880 --> 0:03:23.960 what did your dummy fairy do? 0:03:24.120 --> 0:03:25.919 You've got a caller. She's got to call the dummy 0:03:25.919 --> 0:03:27.280 Fairy on the phone. You gotta give he a ring 0:03:27.560 --> 0:03:29.120 because she needs to know when you're ready for her 0:03:29.120 --> 0:03:29.399 to come. 0:03:29.720 --> 0:03:33.920 She doesn't, dumb fairy. 0:03:32.520 --> 0:03:35.280 It's not like Santa Claus. 0:03:35.440 --> 0:03:35.920 Change that now. 0:03:36.080 --> 0:03:37.800 And it's not like they're Easter money. They don't have it. 0:03:37.840 --> 0:03:39.480 She doesn't have a set date. She'll come when you're 0:03:39.520 --> 0:03:41.480 ready for her to come. So you make sure that 0:03:41.520 --> 0:03:43.160 you've set the date. You've got to planned down on 0:03:43.160 --> 0:03:46.480 a calendar, you do the countdown. It's really exciting. The 0:03:46.560 --> 0:03:48.720 dummy Fairy coming is an exciting. 0:03:48.320 --> 0:03:49.320 Thing like Christmas. 0:03:49.320 --> 0:03:51.480 So it's like you're going to get a present from 0:03:51.520 --> 0:03:55.720 the dummy fairy for giving away your dummies. And yeah, 0:03:55.760 --> 0:03:57.960 we replaced it. So we made like a little ceremony 0:03:58.040 --> 0:04:00.360 about it. We got all the dummies to get we 0:04:00.400 --> 0:04:01.360 put them outside. 0:04:01.840 --> 0:04:03.920 There was five. We collected them around the house. 0:04:04.000 --> 0:04:05.720 She's been stashing them like under pillows. 0:04:05.760 --> 0:04:07.360 Well it's just in case we lose one, o caase 0:04:07.400 --> 0:04:09.320 she doesn't have five at a time. So we put 0:04:09.320 --> 0:04:11.120 them all outside. We made a little letter to the 0:04:11.160 --> 0:04:14.000 dummy Fairy. I told her that, you know, the dummy 0:04:14.000 --> 0:04:16.960 Fairy is going to take them to castle. And the 0:04:17.000 --> 0:04:20.080 story just kept getting bigger and more elaborate. But Lola 0:04:20.160 --> 0:04:23.000 got really excited about it, and she knew that she 0:04:23.040 --> 0:04:24.800 was going to get rewarded for giving away something that 0:04:24.880 --> 0:04:27.120 was really important. But it really was the cutest little thing. 0:04:27.120 --> 0:04:27.680 I'll play you. 0:04:27.600 --> 0:04:31.920 This, hey, Lola, who's coming tonight? 0:04:32.760 --> 0:04:37.480 There is Are you ready to say bye bye bye 0:04:37.520 --> 0:04:46.120 bye dummies? Giving them a kiss by ball by bye dummies? 0:04:46.680 --> 0:04:48.400 So she made out with that last watch. 0:04:49.440 --> 0:04:50.600 I really didn't want to get that one out. 0:04:50.680 --> 0:04:53.040 She kissed him awkodbye. We put them in a bowl. 0:04:53.200 --> 0:04:54.920 I put her to bed and I gave her a 0:04:55.000 --> 0:04:56.800 present from me and Dad for her to go to 0:04:56.800 --> 0:04:58.120 bed with that night, because I was like, I know 0:04:58.160 --> 0:04:59.760 you're going to be really sad. He's a little toy 0:04:59.800 --> 0:05:01.479 from Ummy and Daddy for you to cuddle when you 0:05:01.480 --> 0:05:02.039 feel sad. 0:05:02.400 --> 0:05:04.839 And she woke up in the morning, she got her presence. 0:05:05.640 --> 0:05:07.719 We made it like a really special time and she 0:05:07.800 --> 0:05:10.599 was so stoked. So I thought, Okay, day one that 0:05:10.680 --> 0:05:13.039 was going to be easy. Day two is gonna be hard. 0:05:13.200 --> 0:05:15.920 Day two is gonna suck. Anyway, Day two rolled around 0:05:16.520 --> 0:05:17.520 completely fine. 0:05:17.600 --> 0:05:18.520 She said one thing. 0:05:18.440 --> 0:05:19.720 To me where I put it to bed and she 0:05:19.760 --> 0:05:21.440 had it like her two little toys that she got, 0:05:21.440 --> 0:05:22.919 the one from the dummy Fairy and the one from me, 0:05:23.520 --> 0:05:25.960 and she goes, mom, I'm thinking And I was like, 0:05:25.960 --> 0:05:26.760 what are you thinking about it? 0:05:26.800 --> 0:05:29.120 She goes, I'm thinking a. 0:05:29.240 --> 0:05:32.200 Dummy would be pretty nice, and I was like, sweetheart, 0:05:32.240 --> 0:05:33.719 we don't have any. The dummy fairy took them, and 0:05:33.720 --> 0:05:36.080 she goes, I know that's why I said, I'm just 0:05:36.120 --> 0:05:36.680 thinking it. 0:05:36.760 --> 0:05:39.120 I'm not doing it. I'm thinking it. She's just more 0:05:39.120 --> 0:05:40.800 self aware now. And that was it. 0:05:40.920 --> 0:05:43.000 Like I genuinely thought it was going to be a 0:05:43.000 --> 0:05:45.279 horror show. And it's been four days now, and it 0:05:45.400 --> 0:05:47.839 has just been weirdly amazing. 0:05:48.120 --> 0:05:49.160 It's because. 0:05:50.480 --> 0:05:52.680 It's like I've got kids, It's because she's twenty five. 0:05:54.160 --> 0:05:55.480 It's because this. 0:05:55.400 --> 0:05:57.520 Time she came to the conclude she's old enough to 0:05:57.520 --> 0:05:59.520 come to the conclusion of making it herself. And she 0:05:59.720 --> 0:06:01.320 I think just because she doesn't feel like you guys 0:06:01.360 --> 0:06:03.680 are taking something from her, she made the decision like 0:06:03.680 --> 0:06:05.000 she's like, cool, I'm ready and. 0:06:04.960 --> 0:06:07.719 I understand what this exchange is. 0:06:07.800 --> 0:06:09.400 Yeah, but I think that that's it. I think it's 0:06:09.400 --> 0:06:11.600 the secret in the thoughts, right, like, my secret is. 0:06:11.520 --> 0:06:12.760 Not to let your kids still have dumby. 0:06:12.960 --> 0:06:14.840 No, you're not shamey. 0:06:15.200 --> 0:06:16.960 I'm not shaming you, but I don't want the listeners 0:06:17.000 --> 0:06:18.479 to be like, hey, Lauris said, the secret is to 0:06:18.520 --> 0:06:19.880 keep a dummy to your face. 0:06:19.760 --> 0:06:20.520 Sounds for shaming. 0:06:20.600 --> 0:06:23.000 I think it's about letting the kids have a little 0:06:23.000 --> 0:06:26.040 bit of sense of control and feeling as though you're 0:06:26.080 --> 0:06:28.159 not just taking away from them, but that it's something 0:06:28.200 --> 0:06:30.599 to be excited about when the dummy fairy comes that 0:06:30.640 --> 0:06:33.239 even though they're losing that thing they want, they feed 0:06:33.279 --> 0:06:35.679 off how you react to something. And the other times 0:06:35.720 --> 0:06:38.640 it's been super stressful, it's been like a countdown and 0:06:38.640 --> 0:06:40.679 then it's like, Okay, no more dummy, and it felt 0:06:40.680 --> 0:06:43.680 like a punishment, whereas this felt like a reward. I 0:06:43.760 --> 0:06:45.560 know I'm too early to tell you exactly how it's 0:06:45.560 --> 0:06:48.480 going to go down, but it has been surprisingly amazing 0:06:48.520 --> 0:06:50.840 so far. I'm happy for you, and I'm actually more 0:06:50.839 --> 0:06:53.200 happy for Lola same and I'm happy for our dental 0:06:53.240 --> 0:06:54.400 bills for the future. 0:06:54.720 --> 0:06:56.200 The vinears she doesn't need to get. 0:06:56.080 --> 0:06:59.120 Now, we've been talking about them a bit of. 0:06:59.080 --> 0:07:00.800 A content subject. 0:07:00.800 --> 0:07:02.960 I would say here in the break at the pickup, 0:07:03.520 --> 0:07:07.440 manifestation that idea of like putting out to the universe 0:07:07.520 --> 0:07:09.640 what you want and it bringing you everything that you 0:07:09.720 --> 0:07:14.600 need and everything you desire. I personally believe in manifestation, 0:07:15.160 --> 0:07:17.800 and Laura, you sort of caught. 0:07:17.600 --> 0:07:18.640 Bullshit on it when I. 0:07:18.600 --> 0:07:20.760 Talk about it. I don't caught bullshit on it. I 0:07:20.840 --> 0:07:21.320 just don't. 0:07:21.520 --> 0:07:24.480 I don't necessarily believe that, like thinking good things will 0:07:24.480 --> 0:07:27.400 make good things happen. And I've watched The Secret, I've 0:07:27.400 --> 0:07:29.480 read the book, and like, I don't know if you 0:07:29.480 --> 0:07:31.120 guys know what I'm talking about, but The Secret is 0:07:31.160 --> 0:07:33.640 like the there was a very big book and TV 0:07:33.920 --> 0:07:35.800 series that came out or It was like one episode 0:07:35.800 --> 0:07:39.280 that came out quite a few years ago all around manifesting, 0:07:39.680 --> 0:07:41.920 and the essence of that was kind of like, think 0:07:42.000 --> 0:07:44.760 good things and good things will happen. Think about money 0:07:45.280 --> 0:07:47.280 raining down on you and you'll get really wealthy. And 0:07:47.320 --> 0:07:49.200 I was just for me, it's just too simple. 0:07:49.320 --> 0:07:50.840 That's not what manifestation is. 0:07:51.040 --> 0:07:53.960 Okay, well, another doing it wrong? Why is the money 0:07:54.000 --> 0:07:55.000 not raining down on me? 0:07:55.360 --> 0:07:56.840 That explains a lot that checks out. 0:07:57.120 --> 0:07:59.240 Let me give you this is not an example of manifestation, 0:07:59.280 --> 0:08:01.640 but this is what started the conversation, the idea of 0:08:01.920 --> 0:08:04.440 sometimes willing something into the universe. But it doesn't always 0:08:04.480 --> 0:08:06.000 have to be positive. It could be something that you've 0:08:06.000 --> 0:08:08.720 thought about or been talking about or putting that energy 0:08:08.720 --> 0:08:10.480 out so many times, so it can be negative. 0:08:10.520 --> 0:08:12.400 But the other day, when if you've. 0:08:12.240 --> 0:08:14.880 Been following along, my dog Delilah got really really sick. 0:08:14.960 --> 0:08:18.560 But that morning, driving to work with a work colleague, 0:08:19.000 --> 0:08:20.640 I was like, do you know what's crazy? I was like, 0:08:20.760 --> 0:08:21.320 my dog. 0:08:21.160 --> 0:08:23.560 Delilah, she's four years old. I said. 0:08:23.600 --> 0:08:26.000 She has never been sick. I have never had to 0:08:26.040 --> 0:08:28.040 take her to the bet, She's never had anything wrong 0:08:28.080 --> 0:08:30.240 with her. She's been the perfect dog and my friend 0:08:30.280 --> 0:08:32.720 was like, yeah, that's amazing. Then I got home from 0:08:32.720 --> 0:08:35.920 work that day and Delilah, I've never seen her more 0:08:35.920 --> 0:08:36.600 sick in my life. 0:08:36.840 --> 0:08:39.520 She was not manifesting. No, that's not a coincidence. 0:08:39.720 --> 0:08:40.040 It's not. 0:08:40.120 --> 0:08:42.920 But it is a form of willing something into the 0:08:43.000 --> 0:08:45.960 universe and it's not manifesting. But it started the conversation. 0:08:46.400 --> 0:08:48.440 And then producer, Gracie, you were saying you did something 0:08:48.440 --> 0:08:49.240 crazy the other day too. 0:08:49.280 --> 0:08:51.920 Yeah, literally yesterday I was talking to someone in the office. 0:08:51.920 --> 0:08:54.000 I was like, I've never been asked to do jury 0:08:54.080 --> 0:08:56.160 duty and I'd kind of love to do it. And 0:08:56.200 --> 0:08:59.120 then I got home that day to a letter telling 0:08:59.160 --> 0:09:00.600 me that I'm officially the jury duty. 0:09:00.679 --> 0:09:03.320 Rolls crazy. Hey, everyone, I'd really like to win the lotto. 0:09:03.720 --> 0:09:04.640 It doesn't work like that. 0:09:05.080 --> 0:09:07.800 I just to me, I understand. 0:09:07.440 --> 0:09:09.480 What you're saying, and I understand that there's situations where 0:09:09.480 --> 0:09:11.400 people like, don't jinx it, don't say that, or it 0:09:11.440 --> 0:09:13.040 might happen, yeah, a personal jinx. 0:09:13.160 --> 0:09:15.120 But I think that this is a coincidence. 0:09:15.200 --> 0:09:17.320 More so with those sorts of situations, I know that 0:09:17.360 --> 0:09:20.760 it's very unlikely. The likelihood of that happening might be 0:09:20.800 --> 0:09:24.240 one and a bazillion. However, like horrible coincidences and great 0:09:24.280 --> 0:09:27.240 coincidences happen all the time. So I'm just kind of 0:09:27.240 --> 0:09:29.959 think that sometimes we look for things that validate and 0:09:30.000 --> 0:09:32.200 like reinforce this idea that we have more control than 0:09:32.240 --> 0:09:32.480 we do. 0:09:32.600 --> 0:09:34.920 But don't think you can speak something into an existence. 0:09:35.280 --> 0:09:38.360 No, Okay, I did a proper manifestation course years ago. 0:09:38.360 --> 0:09:40.520 I spent some time with a monk, learnt so much stuff. 0:09:40.559 --> 0:09:41.840 Then I started. 0:09:41.960 --> 0:09:44.240 Actually putting it into practice years ago, and I don't 0:09:44.240 --> 0:09:47.800 do it so much anymore. I believe I manifested my 0:09:47.880 --> 0:09:50.800 fiance Ben when I did this manifestation course. I wrote 0:09:50.880 --> 0:09:52.600 down in my notes because a big part of it 0:09:52.640 --> 0:09:54.680 is it's not just writing down what you want, but 0:09:54.720 --> 0:09:56.240 it's then consciously thinking it. 0:09:56.240 --> 0:09:59.559 You still work towards it. You still it's the putting what. 0:09:59.440 --> 0:10:02.120 You want into existence, like you still have to work 0:10:02.120 --> 0:10:02.880 and put efforting. 0:10:03.000 --> 0:10:06.360 This is the thing that I think is the very 0:10:06.400 --> 0:10:08.679 clear determiner of Like when you say you can't speak 0:10:08.720 --> 0:10:11.120 things into existence, I don't think you can speak things 0:10:11.160 --> 0:10:11.920 into existence. 0:10:12.280 --> 0:10:14.040 I think you can have an intention. 0:10:14.320 --> 0:10:16.520 You can write that intention down and then you can 0:10:16.559 --> 0:10:18.480 focus all your goals to align. 0:10:18.160 --> 0:10:18.840 To that intention. 0:10:19.360 --> 0:10:23.280 But that to me is not just like spontaneously going I. 0:10:23.200 --> 0:10:25.400 Want to go on a holiday to the Mail Dives 0:10:25.400 --> 0:10:26.800 and then all of a sudden you win one and 0:10:26.800 --> 0:10:29.040 you're there, Like, I don't think that that's what happens. Well, 0:10:29.120 --> 0:10:31.040 I wrote, I think you've got a book the ticket yourself, 0:10:31.040 --> 0:10:32.839 and then get your ass to the Mount Dives and 0:10:32.880 --> 0:10:34.320 then wow, that's a coincidence. 0:10:34.440 --> 0:10:36.920 I wrote down years ago, thank you for giving me 0:10:37.480 --> 0:10:40.840 my partner B because your name's Brittany. 0:10:40.960 --> 0:10:43.440 No, my brother initial, my fiancee's name is Ben. I 0:10:43.559 --> 0:10:44.560 manifested Ben yearsgo. 0:10:44.559 --> 0:10:47.640 I don't care what anyone says that was the manifestation 0:10:47.880 --> 0:10:49.559 I am. 0:10:49.720 --> 0:10:50.760 This hasn't convinced me. 0:10:52.440 --> 0:10:55.839 You just said you sort of thought you manifested your 0:10:56.480 --> 0:10:57.600 Maddie Jay, your husband. 0:10:57.800 --> 0:10:59.320 Yeah, but I'm different to that though. 0:10:59.360 --> 0:11:01.400 When I say, I don't mean manifested in the way 0:11:01.440 --> 0:11:02.160 of like thinking it. 0:11:02.240 --> 0:11:02.920 Then it happened. 0:11:03.400 --> 0:11:05.880 You guys know, we had a moment where we met prior, 0:11:06.160 --> 0:11:09.560 so we had like a real moment in chemistry prior 0:11:09.640 --> 0:11:12.400 to being on the Bachelor, and then I think it 0:11:12.480 --> 0:11:15.319 was a massive coincidence that he was there and that 0:11:15.360 --> 0:11:17.720 he was the person who was the bachelor. But I 0:11:17.720 --> 0:11:20.160 think it was like the fact that I was in there, 0:11:20.200 --> 0:11:22.520 that I was like very intented in staying that. 0:11:22.600 --> 0:11:24.640 I very much in my head was like I'm going 0:11:24.679 --> 0:11:25.720 to end up with this person. 0:11:26.160 --> 0:11:28.839 That would be my definition of saying okay, I manifested 0:11:28.840 --> 0:11:31.320 that in happening because but in the same way, I'm like, 0:11:31.760 --> 0:11:32.520 is it or isn't it. 0:11:32.559 --> 0:11:34.680 I just like I set my eyes on a goal 0:11:34.760 --> 0:11:37.920 and I achieved my goal, and in that case, the 0:11:37.960 --> 0:11:40.760 goal was my husband, and here we are. I don't know. 0:11:41.720 --> 0:11:42.440 I think I am. 0:11:42.520 --> 0:11:44.320 I think I am, But that's not just a mystic, 0:11:44.600 --> 0:11:45.160 it's synic. 0:11:45.280 --> 0:11:47.680 It's not to say that I'm not and can't be 0:11:47.720 --> 0:11:49.719 positive about these things. And I'm sure that there are 0:11:49.760 --> 0:11:53.160 so many people who have really incredibly positive manifestation stories. 0:11:53.559 --> 0:11:56.400 I think the reason why I feel so unsure about 0:11:56.440 --> 0:11:59.040 it is because there's so many people who have really 0:11:59.120 --> 0:12:02.439 challenging lives, really horrible things happen, and I don't think 0:12:02.480 --> 0:12:04.360 that those things happen because they're not good enough at 0:12:04.360 --> 0:12:05.679 manifesting themselves out of it. 0:12:05.840 --> 0:12:06.559 Of course not. 0:12:06.720 --> 0:12:08.960 So that's why I'm I kind of it's not a 0:12:08.960 --> 0:12:11.439 good enough solution for me, if that makes sense. 0:12:11.880 --> 0:12:13.800 Well, it's not. It's not my solution for world peace. 0:12:13.840 --> 0:12:15.080 That's not what the conversation is. 0:12:15.080 --> 0:12:20.640 Here today anyway. But I'm sorry, that's serious. Great. 0:12:20.679 --> 0:12:22.600 I have a question for you, hear me. Have you 0:12:22.760 --> 0:12:24.760 ever been to couples therapy? 0:12:26.160 --> 0:12:26.360 No? 0:12:26.760 --> 0:12:29.000 I have been to therapy, and my partner has been 0:12:29.040 --> 0:12:31.320 to therapy, but we've not been at the same time together. 0:12:31.880 --> 0:12:33.079 It was an individual thing. 0:12:33.200 --> 0:12:34.720 What was the reasoning for not wanting to go to 0:12:34.920 --> 0:12:36.240 Like did you need to go together for. 0:12:36.200 --> 0:12:37.280 Your relationship extent? 0:12:37.320 --> 0:12:37.800 We should have? 0:12:37.880 --> 0:12:38.080 Yes? 0:12:38.520 --> 0:12:40.440 And then and then why they just. 0:12:40.400 --> 0:12:42.640 Didn't want to They were going for something else as well, 0:12:42.679 --> 0:12:44.559 And I said, we obviously had our own problems, and 0:12:44.600 --> 0:12:46.120 I was like, hey, we should go together sometimes I 0:12:46.080 --> 0:12:46.760 think'd be really great. 0:12:46.800 --> 0:12:49.240 And he was like, no, no, hang on, have you 0:12:49.520 --> 0:12:51.320 I have been to couples therapy with an X? 0:12:51.440 --> 0:12:52.240 I didn't know that. 0:12:52.400 --> 0:12:52.640 Yeah. 0:12:52.679 --> 0:12:55.400 So I went to two sessions with an ex boyfriend 0:12:55.600 --> 0:12:59.280 and I had a really tricky experience because he had 0:12:59.360 --> 0:13:01.560 cheated on me if times, actually a lot of times, 0:13:01.600 --> 0:13:04.760 and he was very narcissistic with his behavior. And I 0:13:04.960 --> 0:13:08.520 found that in the therapy session he managed to victimize 0:13:08.600 --> 0:13:11.760 himself and talk about all the reasons why he can't 0:13:11.840 --> 0:13:14.320 be faithful and it's so hard for him, and life 0:13:14.360 --> 0:13:16.920 is blah blah blah. And I found myself just sitting 0:13:16.960 --> 0:13:20.959 there feeling as though I was somehow being made to 0:13:21.000 --> 0:13:25.480 not be the supportive enough personal It was a bizarre experience, honestly, 0:13:26.040 --> 0:13:27.920 and I think for you, not good for me. But 0:13:28.000 --> 0:13:30.040 look the reason why we're talking about this. A couple 0:13:30.040 --> 0:13:32.920 of weeks ago, we were speaking to Tara Pavlovich. She 0:13:33.520 --> 0:13:36.400 was advocating for couples to go to therapy and talking 0:13:36.440 --> 0:13:39.000 about how it had been a life saver for her 0:13:39.040 --> 0:13:42.079 and her relationship with her husband. But I came across 0:13:42.120 --> 0:13:45.520 an article which was talking about couple therapy, firstly, how 0:13:45.559 --> 0:13:48.880 expensive it can be, how it's not accessible to everyone, 0:13:49.000 --> 0:13:51.600 and so how a lot of couples are now turning 0:13:51.640 --> 0:13:56.720 to chat GPT for their relationship advice and relationship therapy. 0:13:56.960 --> 0:13:59.400 My first thought when I hear that is that that 0:13:59.600 --> 0:14:03.559 is wild that you would go and put your relationship 0:14:03.559 --> 0:14:04.840 in the hands of a robot. 0:14:04.960 --> 0:14:07.719 Like to me, they've never been in a relationship, You're 0:14:07.760 --> 0:14:10.319 a phone, Like, what experience do you have? 0:14:10.679 --> 0:14:14.240 You have a hard drive, not a hard drive. Oh sorry, 0:14:14.320 --> 0:14:15.360 that was off the spot, off the car. 0:14:15.400 --> 0:14:16.199 Was really a free plan. 0:14:16.360 --> 0:14:20.040 That's okay, But my first thought is that that's insane. 0:14:21.200 --> 0:14:24.680 Having said that, I do wonder if there is a 0:14:24.680 --> 0:14:27.280 part of it where people might feel more inclined to 0:14:27.360 --> 0:14:30.920 go or might feel more inclined to be really honest 0:14:30.960 --> 0:14:34.360 to get like an unbiased opinion from someone that's not human. 0:14:34.440 --> 0:14:38.120 I think sometimes people feel like a bit of shame 0:14:38.200 --> 0:14:40.160 and a bit shy and bit reserved when they're actually 0:14:40.200 --> 0:14:42.480 speaking to another human, like that's gonna be laced in judgment, 0:14:42.560 --> 0:14:45.520 even though we know psychologists and therapists don't have that judgment. 0:14:45.560 --> 0:14:48.200 People find it hard sometimes to talk to other people. 0:14:48.440 --> 0:14:50.320 And also, you know, you go to a psychologist and 0:14:50.320 --> 0:14:53.400 you expect them to be unbiased, but they're people. People 0:14:53.400 --> 0:14:56.840 can be biased. And I will also always feel like 0:14:56.880 --> 0:14:59.480 I have to like be careful around my experience because 0:14:59.480 --> 0:15:01.840 I think it was a very unique one and I 0:15:01.920 --> 0:15:04.480 was dealing with a very unique type of partner at 0:15:04.480 --> 0:15:07.280 the time, which was like the issue I had is 0:15:07.320 --> 0:15:08.840 that I kind of sat there and felt like it 0:15:08.880 --> 0:15:10.200 was all I was in a bit of a twilight 0:15:10.280 --> 0:15:12.000 zone with how it had managed to be flipped on me. 0:15:12.560 --> 0:15:14.960 Do you think because I'm not the problem clearly, got 0:15:15.480 --> 0:15:16.080 do you think that. 0:15:17.720 --> 0:15:20.640 Chat GPT can be biased? 0:15:20.960 --> 0:15:22.840 Well, this is the thing, right, There was a couple 0:15:22.880 --> 0:15:25.320 who has been talking about using it. So his name's Marcus, 0:15:25.320 --> 0:15:28.280 her name is Brie, and they didn't want to go 0:15:28.400 --> 0:15:31.200 to an actual therapist or to a psychologist, and so 0:15:31.240 --> 0:15:34.160 they've been using chat GPT. They said that the responses 0:15:34.160 --> 0:15:37.440 from the AI therapist are soft and non judgmental, and 0:15:37.520 --> 0:15:39.800 also that it's allowed them to kind of air out 0:15:39.840 --> 0:15:41.560