Speaker 1: Hi, guys, and welcome back to another episode of Life.
Speaker 1: I'm Cut, I'm Laura, I'm Brittany, and this is ask
Speaker 1: gun cut where we answer you're deep, you're dark, and
Speaker 1: you're burning questions, but usually talk about a whole lot
Speaker 1: of shit at the start. I love this episode speaking
Speaker 1: of shit. Sorry, oh yeah, no, perfect segue. Laura's been
Speaker 1: shitting itself for days. I want a segue to know
Speaker 1: about it.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 1: I thought I had gastro and that it went in circles,
Speaker 1: and I think I just had a viral bug because
Speaker 1: after it all.
Speaker 2: Stopped, I came out in a rash.
Speaker 1: There's nothing like having gastro and then coming out in
Speaker 1: a rash to really humble you.
Speaker 3: Yeah. I don't know if you listened to the episode
Speaker 3: that Keisha and I did while you're away, but we
Speaker 3: did talk in depth about your.
Speaker 1: Did you, because I haven't listened yet, But guys, I
Speaker 1: am going to into how much depth did you go?
Speaker 3: No, we just said you're unwell and poopin and then
Speaker 3: I did say that I confirmed you unwell because you
Speaker 3: sent me your phone on it where you've definitely looked better.
Speaker 4: Said that you had sent her a photo and she's like, here,
Speaker 4: I'll show you, and I was like, I don't fucking
Speaker 4: need to see that. It's not a photo of the
Speaker 4: toilet or of anything like that. It's a photo of Laura.
Speaker 4: And I was like, yeah, okay, they're too very I
Speaker 4: wasn't just.
Speaker 2: Head to doe rolling around in my own gas row, no, because.
Speaker 4: I could see how it was taken the wrong way.
Speaker 1: Because we were talking about how I was like, oh,
Speaker 1: she's proper un well, like her poops are proper un well.
Speaker 1: Actually us actually sent me a photo and he she's like, well,
Speaker 1: I don't need a stool photo to be fair. Though
Speaker 1: I was so nauseous. I was very sick on Monday.
Speaker 1: It kind of hit me on Sunday night, Sunday at
Speaker 1: like seven pm, and then it just continued, and then
Speaker 1: Monday morning came around and was supposed to come in
Speaker 1: and record for was it a public holiday?
Speaker 2: It's the case.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I wasn't sure if it was the King's birth.
Speaker 1: I can't keep up.
Speaker 4: People couldn't believe that we had forgotten that there was
Speaker 4: a long weekend, and I was like, oh, if you
Speaker 4: don't believe for us to not realize it's a public holiday,
Speaker 4: coming up, stay ahead of time. I feel as though
Speaker 4: maybe you don't know us as well as what I
Speaker 4: thought you did.
Speaker 1: I think it's different when you run your own business
Speaker 1: because public holidays, weekends, they don't mean anything to you.
Speaker 2: And Kesha's like, they mean something to me.
Speaker 4: So Laura and I, public holidays don't exist.
Speaker 2: She's like, what help me?
Speaker 1: Fuck Christmas? You will work award wage on Christmas Day. Hey,
Speaker 1: I have a question. Okay, this is something that I
Speaker 1: do want your thoughts, advice, feelings on.
Speaker 2: So on the weekend, I was talking to a girlfriend.
Speaker 1: She is in the throes of dating right and she's
Speaker 1: just come out of a long term relationship and well
Speaker 1: not just come out, but she's been half about six
Speaker 1: months and she's now like back into the dating game
Speaker 1: and she started seeing this guy and he's definitely not
Speaker 1: right for her, but she is quite happy having the
Speaker 1: physical side of a connection and a relationship again. And
Speaker 1: she asked the question because she's like, Oh, I can
Speaker 1: see myself starting to get feelings with this guy, even
Speaker 1: though I know he is not the person that I
Speaker 1: want to be in a relationship with. She's like, it's just,
Speaker 1: you know, we're doing the hangs and pain, the hangs
Speaker 1: and bad thank you got that really missed up my mouth.
Speaker 1: We're doing the hangs and bangs and it's turning into
Speaker 1: me catching feels. So the question is, how do you
Speaker 1: have a friends with benefits relationship without catching feelings at all?
Speaker 2: I mean, I think we have spoken about.
Speaker 3: This in different capacities so many times, but I think
Speaker 3: you just have to set the boundaries with each other
Speaker 3: and with yourself straight up. Like if you want to
Speaker 3: friends with benefits and just a bang, well then you
Speaker 3: can't lay in bed stroking their face after and like
Speaker 3: giving them little hair massages and like little sweet nothings
Speaker 3: in the ear. You can't do the extra like romantic stuff.
Speaker 3: You just gotta fuck and fuck off.
Speaker 1: But the FNF, this is the thing, right because I
Speaker 1: remember back in the day, I used to always catch
Speaker 1: the fields. So I'm like, do as I say, don't
Speaker 1: do as I do, because I would date them, but
Speaker 1: be like, oh, this is just casual.
Speaker 2: But we would go out for dinner, we would wine
Speaker 2: and dine. I'd like sleep over their house for the night.
Speaker 1: We were literally acting like we were boyfriend and girlfriend,
Speaker 1: but then trying to convince each other that this was
Speaker 1: just hangs and bangs. It was for them and for me,
Speaker 1: Like I'd get six months into it and be like,
Speaker 1: what's what's happening?
Speaker 2: Why don't you Why don't you love me yet?
Speaker 1: Why?
Speaker 2: Why do I so much? Why are we getting married?
Speaker 2: I don't understand why we're not committed.
Speaker 1: It's because you're doing relationship things. When it's been clear,
Speaker 1: like even if you say to yourself, humans are not
Speaker 1: smart enough to differentiate. So even if you say to yourself,
Speaker 1: this is not going anywhere, this is just sex. If
Speaker 1: every other aspect of your life is leading towards relationships.
Speaker 4: So if you're actually doing relationship.
Speaker 1: Things and going to dinners and hanging with friends and
Speaker 1: going to the beach and swimming together and doing all
Speaker 1: this extra stuff that you've been doing when you're dating,
Speaker 1: you are gonna catch feelings, whether you like it or not. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you're also doing things that are like core memory stuff.
Speaker 1: You're like spending like beautiful time and creating memories. Cause
Speaker 1: she's like, I don't catch feelings.
Speaker 4: I'm laughing because I walking into this conversation, I was like, Oh,
Speaker 4: it's just personality dependent, Like it just depends on the
Speaker 4: type of person you are, because I cannot tell you
Speaker 4: how opposite I feel. I feel as though more often
Speaker 4: than not, when I've slept with someone, I get that
Speaker 4: like post nut clarity, and I'm just like, oh, now
Speaker 4: I've got the ick for you, I think.
Speaker 3: I mean, I've done that too, but I think and
Speaker 3: I don't want to out you, hear Keisha, but we've
Speaker 3: been besties for a long time, and I can recall
Speaker 3: so many times that you've started hooking up with someone
Speaker 3: casually and caught.
Speaker 4: Feelings definitely, Like there would be people that I've caught
Speaker 4: feelings for because I like thought that, you know, you
Speaker 4: could progress into something absolutely, but we would also be
Speaker 4: going on dates and that kind of thing. However, there
Speaker 4: would be the opposite of that too, where maybe I'd
Speaker 4: been on some dates with someone or we were hanging
Speaker 4: out in like a friendship group, and then we'd slept
Speaker 4: together and I'd be like, oh, no, this is not it. Yeah,
Speaker 4: like it's naught it. And for me, if someone fucked
Speaker 4: and then fucked off like you said, I would find
Speaker 4: that really offensive. I'd be like, that's disrespectful.
Speaker 2: What are you doing.
Speaker 1: I think that there's a fine line, right because obviously
Speaker 1: if you're going to have an ongoing There's a difference
Speaker 1: between one night's dad, which if you get the ick
Speaker 1: after having sex with someone once, you're not going to
Speaker 1: go back and have like a friends with benefit relationship,
Speaker 1: because you don't want to have sex with someone and
Speaker 1: then feel repulsed afterwards.
Speaker 2: That's a terrible feeling.
Speaker 1: But if you're having like a casual relationship with them,
Speaker 1: there is a fine line between at the end of it,
Speaker 1: when you're finished, navigating that in a respectful way, right, Like,
Speaker 1: what's the appropriate amount of time that you need to
Speaker 1: spend with them to do the after care of the
Speaker 1: sex so that you're not just being like cool, thanks
Speaker 1: for that. You're like wiping yourself off with the towel
Speaker 1: as you're walking out the door. The detail, No, but
Speaker 1: you don't have to spend the night and you wansker
Speaker 1: yourself off with a sock and he's like, I need that,
Speaker 1: I need to leave. But you don't have to have
Speaker 1: a sleepover, is what I'm saying. You don't have to
Speaker 1: cuddle for hours. Like the cuddling for hours is where
Speaker 1: the relationship starts to form. It's where when you're laying
Speaker 1: there and you're all cocooned after like having a great orgasma.
Speaker 1: Then you're like, oh my god, maybe I really like
Speaker 1: this guy who has just a pile of clothes on
Speaker 1: the floor that we're sleeping on, and just I do
Speaker 1: want to clarify, no sheets on his mattress.
Speaker 3: I don't want to swear anymore because I mean he's
Speaker 3: weearing a lot. But when I say the f and
Speaker 3: f off, I don't.
Speaker 1: Literally mean like you've just pulled out and leave, like
Speaker 1: do a runner out the door with like a semi
Speaker 1: hard on steal. It's just I just more mean like
Speaker 1: coole a spade of spade, like it is what it is.
Speaker 1: So obviously you always are going to stay and be respectful.
Speaker 1: Not everyone will do that, but that's what I mean
Speaker 1: by like, let's just do what we're here to do.
Speaker 1: You be respectful.
Speaker 3: Maybe you want to have dinner whatever, but you don't
Speaker 3: further it with the cuddles and the sleepovers.
Speaker 4: And making getting coffees in the morning, and like the.
Speaker 1: No hand holding, the no kisses in public, like the
Speaker 1: things as well that are just but.
Speaker 2: People doing that with their friends with better at me what. Okay,
Speaker 2: here's a story.
Speaker 4: So when I met Ben, like that beautiful weekend.
Speaker 3: A couple of years ago, but twelve months when I
Speaker 3: met Ben, this wonderful weekend a couple of years ago.
Speaker 4: When I met Ben a couple of.
Speaker 2: A couple of years ago. No, but it was because twenty.
Speaker 3: Twenty four anyway, when I met Ben calendy is financially.
Speaker 3: When I met Ben on that glorious weekend, it was you, guys,
Speaker 3: have you been following along?
Speaker 2: You remember?
Speaker 3: It was supposed to be a one night stand, Like
Speaker 3: I was supposed to be getting back on the horse.
Speaker 3: I was gonna ride that into the sunset, then he
Speaker 3: was gonna leave. We ended up seeing each other for
Speaker 3: a couple of days.
Speaker 1: I remember him, and I appreciate it at the time
Speaker 1: very clearly laying out the rules.
Speaker 2: But it was not rules.
Speaker 3: It was like, I just want you to know that
Speaker 3: I'm getting into this for nothing but sex. Basically, He's like,
Speaker 3: I'm only here for a few days. I just want
Speaker 3: you to know I'm not looking for anything. This is
Speaker 3: gonna be what is going to be, and if you're
Speaker 3: not okay with that, that's super cool. And I was like, yeah,
Speaker 3: I want the same thing. And I really appreciated that
Speaker 3: there's not gonna be any lines.
Speaker 4: That are crossed.
Speaker 3: Then he like doubled down, and the whole time it
Speaker 3: was like, I don't do PDA, Like I don't want to,
Speaker 3: you know, I don't want to cuddle laughter, I don't
Speaker 3: want it. And it wasn't in a nasty way. He
Speaker 3: just knew that if he did, he might catch feelings.
Speaker 1: And I know that in hindsight, And he says to
Speaker 1: this day, we spent three days together and then he left,
Speaker 1: and he says he knows the moment that we were
Speaker 1: going to be together and that he was in trouble
Speaker 1: was because we had had sex in the day and
Speaker 1: we left to go across the road to get a
Speaker 1: coffee and banana bread, and as we were crossing the road,
Speaker 1: we reached out because it was really busy traffic, and
Speaker 1: we grabbed each other's hand just to like run across
Speaker 1: the road. And he's like, as soon as we held
Speaker 1: hands in public, in public.
Speaker 4: He goes, I was fucked. I was like, this is it.
Speaker 3: And that's because he's like, this is why I set
Speaker 3: the boundaries.
Speaker 4: Not to have those like romantic moments.
Speaker 2: Yeah got you, Yes, I think.
Speaker 4: This is the problem. And I spent so much of
Speaker 4: my twenties, thinking that I'd be the one who changed
Speaker 4: their mind, you know, like it would be the player
Speaker 4: who you know, had so many girls on the go
Speaker 4: and they were always non committal, and like you had
Speaker 4: that idea in your mind that you were going to
Speaker 4: be the exception. And I think a lot of people,
Speaker 4: whether they're cognizant of it or not, I think a
Speaker 4: lot of them hope that that is going to be
Speaker 4: the case, that they're going to be the one who changes.
Speaker 4: And that is the situation for you, because like Ben
Speaker 4: was like, I don't want to commit to this, and
Speaker 4: then yeah, you're like, I'm going to change your mind.
Speaker 4: Maybe it comes down to picking the person that you
Speaker 4: are going to be friends with benefits with. Maybe you've
Speaker 4: got to pick someone who wouldn't be like top tier
Speaker 4: date candidate. Maybe you've got to bring it down a
Speaker 4: bit so that you're not like, they've got to have flaws,
Speaker 4: you know, they've got to be like, not that attractive
Speaker 4: to you in a romantic sense.
Speaker 1: I had this conversation with Matt, and Matt was like,
Speaker 1: because Matt has said in passing many times that he
Speaker 1: had many friends with benefits back in the day and
Speaker 1: managed to not catch feelings right, which he says that
Speaker 1: his trick was always to date people who he didn't
Speaker 1: have like an intellectual or emotional as in, and I
Speaker 1: don't mean intellectuals in like they're not smart. Some of
Speaker 1: them were incredibly smart, but as in that he didn't
Speaker 1: feel like he intellectually clicked with or like had humor with,
Speaker 1: and all those sorts of things. He's like, we were
Speaker 1: just like very very fundamentally different. But obviously I thought
Speaker 1: they were hot as hell or whatever, so we physically
Speaker 1: got along.
Speaker 2: But he's like, we just didn't vibe.
Speaker 1: So for me, the conversation wasn't free flowing, it didn't
Speaker 1: feel easy, but like we didn't have to talk because
Speaker 1: all the other things were good.
Speaker 2: So that's kind of how he described it.
Speaker 1: But I think for me, I was trying to think, like, functionally,
Speaker 1: how I managed to have like the friends with benefits
Speaker 1: that didn't turn into anything romantic for me. One of
Speaker 1: them was like I called him my Wednesday Night guy.
Speaker 1: You guys might remember I've spoken about him for a
Speaker 1: long time, many years. Wednesday night guy. He was great.
Speaker 1: He was so beautiful, right, and at the very start
Speaker 1: I caught feels.
Speaker 2: And that's because we were dating. We met on dating app.
Speaker 1: We were dating, but then as things kind of progressed,
Speaker 1: I relegated him to Wednesday nights to keep my weekends
Speaker 1: free for the first time I might actually date.
Speaker 2: And that's it.
Speaker 1: Don't have your hangs and bangs on a Saturday night,
Speaker 1: get satisfied on a weeknight. Look for your relationship on
Speaker 1: a weekend. That's like a good that's a good solution
Speaker 1: to the problem. It's also like just to delve into
Speaker 1: that a little bit deeper.
Speaker 3: But it's also like if you've been seeing someone and
Speaker 3: you're wondering what it is and you're wondering if there's
Speaker 3: anything more there, if they don't want to give you
Speaker 3: their time on the weekend, that is that is the reason.
Speaker 3: That is an to be like, oh, I'm a Wednesday
Speaker 3: night girl or I'm a Wednesday night guy. Like people
Speaker 3: that give up their time on a weekend are invested
Speaker 3: in you in some capacity.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I agree.
Speaker 1: Anyway, good luck for a hoe out there dating and
Speaker 1: trying to not catch feels.
Speaker 2: It's a dangerous space. Get it, get it, get it,
Speaker 2: get it. It is time for vibes and unsubscribes. Britt
Speaker 2: what is your vibe?
Speaker 3: I'm going to give you the lightest, most wholesome little
Speaker 3: vibe this week. It's a Netflix show that I've been watching.
Speaker 3: It is trending, so you've probably seen it. It's in
Speaker 3: the top ten. It's not what most of you.
Speaker 4: Would probably watch. You've probably clicked on it and thought
Speaker 4: not for me.
Speaker 3: I was hook line and sinker and so obsessed. It's
Speaker 3: called Geek Girl. Have you guys seen it? Haven't seen it?
Speaker 4: It is such a feel good I feel like it's probably.
Speaker 3: Aimed more at the younger like maybe early twenties, but
Speaker 3: it's so good. The storyline is basically surrounding this girl
Speaker 3: that's a geek right at school. She's in the last couple.
Speaker 3: She's in high school, and she gets picked on a lot,
Speaker 3: like really really bullied. She's really intelligent, beautiful, and it
Speaker 3: just follows her life being scouted as a model outside
Speaker 3: of school and her coming into her own on the
Speaker 3: outside whilst you'll being bullied at school and just this
Speaker 3: full circle moment of like a bit of a really
Speaker 3: nice kind of like fuck you, I'm gonna overcome all
Speaker 3: of these obstacles. And she had a lot of other
Speaker 3: things going on into personal life.
Speaker 4: I loved it. I loved every second.
Speaker 1: Ben loved it. Ben was watching it, he goes, can
Speaker 1: we finish the end of Geek Girl? So that's my
Speaker 1: recommendation this week. It's super easy.
Speaker 4: You don't need a lot of brain power to watch it.
Speaker 3: It's one of those sort of like the Bold Type
Speaker 3: or Younger, you know, those kind of shows that we
Speaker 3: used to all talk about all the time.
Speaker 4: So that's it Netflix, Geek Girl. Can I tell you
Speaker 4: why I didn't watch it?
Speaker 2: Why?
Speaker 4: Because I watched the trailer and I was like, oh,
Speaker 4: I've just seen it, Like you know those trailers that
Speaker 4: give too much away the whole storyline. I was like,
Speaker 4: now I don't need to watch the show. I know
Speaker 4: what happened. Well, I didn't watch the trailer. I was like,
Speaker 4: this looks cute.
Speaker 2: Let's put it on.
Speaker 4: Yeah. I haven't unsubscribed this week, and I feel as
Speaker 4: though it could actually be something that maybe a few
Speaker 4: people were a couple of years ahead of me to
Speaker 4: unsubscribe from. The Kardashians have dropped another season, and this
Speaker 4: is the first year that I have absolutely no interest
Speaker 4: in watching it. You have watched every season, not every season.
Speaker 4: I kind of picked it up maybe like five years ago,
Speaker 4: like I would watch an episode here and there, and
Speaker 4: then last year I would watch it, but maybe all
Speaker 4: in one go. You know, it wouldn't be week by week.
Speaker 4: And I was kind of hanging on by a thread.
Speaker 4: This season, I just actually couldn't give a shit anymore.
Speaker 1: You know, what do you think has changed? Do you
Speaker 1: think it's just that it's there on the way out now?
Speaker 1: Do you think that it's your appetite for what you
Speaker 1: want to consume is changed? Like?
Speaker 4: Do you think it is a reflection of how most
Speaker 4: people are feeling?
Speaker 2: What is different?
Speaker 4: I can go to saturation? Yeah, a bit of all
Speaker 4: of the above. I think also how contrived it is
Speaker 4: and how we know it's so contrived. I know that,
Speaker 4: you know, over the past couple of years, everyone's like, oh,
Speaker 4: it's not real reality TV. But it just seemed as
Speaker 4: though it was becoming this massive advertisement for each of
Speaker 4: their businesses, and it wasn't interesting, and it wasn't fun,
Speaker 4: and they didn't really like go into anything that they
Speaker 4: hadn't already done on I don't know, for me, it
Speaker 4: just feels so staged.
Speaker 1: I also think when you have to mind your life
Speaker 1: for content that furiously but also want to have some
Speaker 1: privacy at the same time. It's there are two parallels
Speaker 1: that can't be achieved, and so I guess it comes
Speaker 1: to a point where it has to feel contrived because
Speaker 1: it simply is.
Speaker 4: And I also think that what would be real about
Speaker 4: their lives now has a lot to do with their children,
Speaker 4: and the children are on the show, but without it
Speaker 4: being exploitative of those kids and of their lives, I
Speaker 4: don't think that you would be able to actually get
Speaker 4: into the depths of their lives anymore.
Speaker 1: But I also think that the world is caught up
Speaker 1: and and what I mean by that is when the
Speaker 1: Kardashians broke onto our screens, there were no other ginormous
Speaker 1: reality shows where you had such an insight into the
Speaker 1: other half Hollywood how they live. Now there are so
Speaker 1: many reality shows, so so many families doing reality shows.
Speaker 4: I do, however, if you're also unsubscribing from the Kardashians,
Speaker 4: have a really good podcast recommendation. It is one that
Speaker 4: I've recommended before. It's the Subtle Art podcast Not Giving
Speaker 4: a Fark by Mark Manson. They did an episode with
Speaker 4: Rich Roll. Have you guys heard of ritual before he's
Speaker 4: one of the OG podcasters. No, okay, so he was
Speaker 4: a full alcoholic, like an addict. He's very very open
Speaker 4: about his flaws and his downfalls, and he in his
Speaker 4: forties turned into this ultra endurance athlete. And I know
Speaker 4: that when you kind of paint that picture, you get
Speaker 4: an idea of this person who's going to be really
Speaker 4: preachy and very like, I don't.
Speaker 2: Know, a bit cringe.
Speaker 1: No. For me, it almost makes me think that he's
Speaker 1: someone who's got like a hyper addictive personality. So he's
Speaker 1: taken his addiction for alcohol and put it into being
Speaker 1: an athlete.
Speaker 4: So interesting you say that, because that is exactly what
Speaker 4: this episode was about. So it's called The Harsh Truths
Speaker 4: about Self Discipline. And Mark opened the episode by saying, hey, question,
Speaker 4: have you just turned a bad addiction into a healthy one?
Speaker 4: Is that what we're doing when we create habits?
Speaker 3: Well?
Speaker 4: Are we just trying to numb and distract ourselves from
Speaker 4: something whenever we make any type of habit, whether it
Speaker 4: be healthy or healthy. And that's kind of the main
Speaker 4: topic of conversation of the entire podcast. They talk about
Speaker 4: pain being a catalyst for change, how addiction exists, on
Speaker 4: a spectrum. They go into all different types of addictions,
Speaker 4: but it's it's just so easily consumed. Like saying these
Speaker 4: topics makes me think that it would be this quite
Speaker 4: heavy conversation. It wasn't at all. It was such an
Speaker 4: enjoyable listen. Rich is such a likable person, and I
Speaker 4: think it's because he's so open and truthful about his
Speaker 4: own flaws and he comes to it with like a
Speaker 4: really non judgmental attitude. I fucking loved this episode. I
Speaker 4: listened to it from Woe to Go. It was like
Speaker 4: an hour and a half and I just put it
Speaker 4: on while I was in the shower, and I put
Speaker 4: it on while as on on a walk, and I
Speaker 4: just didn't want.
Speaker 2: It to stop. I love that conversation.
Speaker 1: It also like circles back to what Emily we spoke
Speaker 1: about when we talked to her around sobriety and around
Speaker 1: how she realized that once you're an alcoholic, you're always
Speaker 1: an alcoholic. You just transfer addiction into other things and
Speaker 1: being cognizant of that is so important. The way she
Speaker 1: spoke about it, if you want to go back and
Speaker 1: listen to that episode is truly amazing as well.
Speaker 4: It's the subtleert of not Giving a Fuck podcast Harsh
Speaker 4: truths about self discipline with Ritual. You can also watch
Speaker 4: it on YouTube and then you can put like funk
Speaker 4: cut or after subscribe.
Speaker 1: I have a very dumb recommendation, so it's going to
Speaker 1: keep it brief and tight.
Speaker 2: It is a food.
Speaker 1: It is something that I have become obsessed with, and
Speaker 1: it is called Tony's Chocoloni. And if you have seen
Speaker 1: it in the shops, go on fucking buy it. This
Speaker 1: is not sponsored. It is the salted caramel specifically. Not
Speaker 1: all of the chocolates are great, but the Tony Strocaloni
Speaker 1: salted caramel.
Speaker 4: It is absolutely bloody delicious.
Speaker 1: In our office at Tony May it's like the hit
Speaker 1: thing at the moment, and one of our staff went
Speaker 1: and bought like fifteen blocks of it sitting in the cup.
Speaker 2: But it's so fucking good.
Speaker 1: So if you want a new addiction that's not alcohol,
Speaker 1: Tony Strocaloni.
Speaker 2: Get onto it.
Speaker 4: I've literally you showed me the package.
Speaker 3: I've never heard of it or seen it, and I
Speaker 3: don't know how, because you know I love a sugar.
Speaker 2: You can get up a Wollos, you get it from everywhere.
Speaker 2: I'm sure.
Speaker 1: Johno's not on board. He doesn't like it because the
Speaker 1: squares are super chaotic. They're not like normal squares. It's
Speaker 1: like a weird, like organicy looking with what I even Yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't even know how to describe it. Anyways, if
Speaker 1: you're someone who likes things to be super symmetrical, the
Speaker 1: block's gonna wig you out. It is not highbrow, but
Speaker 1: that's my recommendation perfect. Let's get into the questions. Question
Speaker 1: number one my friends have a two point five year
Speaker 1: old toddler.
Speaker 2: One two.
Speaker 4: Question one, my friends have a two and a half.
Speaker 3: Year old toddler and a newborn. To help them out,
Speaker 3: I agreed to look after their puppy for eighteen months
Speaker 3: as they raise their kids. The puppy can be a
Speaker 3: bit much, so it made sense. I'm currently two months
Speaker 3: in and realizing I did not think this through. The
Speaker 3: thought of giving him back in a year is really upsetting.
Speaker 3: The timing of me taking on their dog has come
Speaker 3: after a the death of our family dog, and b
Speaker 3: I'm healing from a toxic relationship, so I really needed
Speaker 3: a little buddy to latch onto, and that has come
Speaker 3: as my friend's dog. I also feel like I'm a
Speaker 3: better home for him, as he has my full attention
Speaker 3: and has made so many friends at the local beach
Speaker 3: and dog park. The husband is keen on me having him,
Speaker 3: but the wife is on a very different page and
Speaker 3: wants the dog back in a year. I genuinely will
Speaker 3: be heartbroken if I have to give this dog back.
Speaker 3: How should I approach this with them and convince them
Speaker 3: that I should keep their talk.
Speaker 1: This is tough, this to me, and I know that
Speaker 1: a lot of like animal lovers are going to feel
Speaker 1: strongly about this. It is very hard when you have
Speaker 1: a newborn to give the same amount of attention to
Speaker 1: your animals as what you would have given them prior
Speaker 1: to having children. It's hard to give your first child
Speaker 1: the same amount of attention that you would give your
Speaker 1: child before having another one. And so I understand a
Speaker 1: little bit why she felt as though, especially with a newborn,
Speaker 1: maybe she was not coping. Is that an excuse?
Speaker 2: No, you know?
Speaker 1: And I say this as we had two children really
Speaker 1: close together, and we have a dog who is literally
Speaker 1: our third child.
Speaker 4: But I'm a first child. He's my first child, he's
Speaker 4: my baby, my buster.
Speaker 1: But I also saw how, and especially during COVID when
Speaker 1: things were is absolutely fucked. In general, I did see
Speaker 1: how he didn't get as much of my attention as
Speaker 1: what he got when he was my only child. So
Speaker 1: part of me is like, I can understand a little
Speaker 1: bit while this mother has been like, look, can you
Speaker 1: help me to be able to make sure that my puppy,
Speaker 1: because puppies take a lot of attention, get as much
Speaker 1: attention as possible whilst I focus on my kids. The
Speaker 1: thing I don't understand by this arrangement is the length
Speaker 1: of time. Eighteen months is such a huge amount of
Speaker 1: time to have somebody else take care of your dog
Speaker 1: and then expect to have it back. But the reason
Speaker 1: why I am actually on the dog owner's side is
Speaker 1: because they have made those parameters, They have explained that,
Speaker 1: and you have accepted it. Even if I think it's weird,
Speaker 1: even if I don't think that someone should be giving
Speaker 1: up their dog for eighteen months, the fact that the
Speaker 1: two of you agreed on that situation to start with,
Speaker 1: and now two months in your saying, oh, I want
Speaker 1: to keep this dog, I think that unfortunately, it's probably
Speaker 1: not going to go your way. Now what I would
Speaker 1: think is probably the smartest way for you to navigate
Speaker 1: this because it isn't your dog, and you don't have
Speaker 1: microchip ownership of it, you don't have legal ownership of it.
Speaker 1: You didn't pay for the dog. I'm sure they're still
Speaker 1: financially contributing to you having the dog at your house.
Speaker 1: What I think you need to do is if you
Speaker 1: feel as though you're getting so emotionally invested that you
Speaker 1: are going to be completely bereft when you have to
Speaker 1: give this puppy back in eighteen months time, I would
Speaker 1: say you give the puppy back. Now, I would say, look,
Speaker 1: I didn't think this through. I didn't realize I was
Speaker 1: going to get this emotionally attached. But this is not
Speaker 1: going to be good for my mental health.
Speaker 3: Well yeah, because the difference is you're not helping your
Speaker 3: friends out with their family dog that they've had for
Speaker 3: five years.
Speaker 2: This is a puppy puppy.
Speaker 1: It's a brand new puppy who is learning everything about life.
Speaker 1: It's learning who its family is.
Speaker 3: It's going to need a lot of training, a lot
Speaker 3: of attention, and it's going to get its own attachment
Speaker 3: issues to you. So both ways, I think this is
Speaker 3: a strange setup, and I agree with you Britt.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 3: So it's strange because as the family that's giving the
Speaker 3: puppy up for a small amount of time, I understand
Speaker 3: why for sure, But the dog because you paid for
Speaker 3: it doesn't make it yours in a way where it's
Speaker 3: like this other person, this other woman is going to
Speaker 3: be raising it like it's going to be nearly two
Speaker 3: years old and you haven't even had it. The other
Speaker 3: family hasn't even had it at all. It's got no
Speaker 3: attachment to that family. So I don't even think it's
Speaker 3: fair on the dog to start with, before we even
Speaker 3: get into humans, the dog's not going to know what
Speaker 3: ways up.
Speaker 4: Secondly, I agree with you, Laura.
Speaker 3: If you think you're going to get an attachment to
Speaker 3: this dog, which you already have after only like two
Speaker 3: or three months, then I would say I don't think
Speaker 3: I can take this dog because I already don't want
Speaker 3: to give it back to you, like as a joke,
Speaker 3: you know, like I'm already obsessed and thinking of moving
Speaker 3: away with it anyway, like ha ha ha. But seriously,
Speaker 3: I don't think I can take this dog because in
Speaker 3: eighteen months, like I'm going to have a real attachment
Speaker 3: to it.
Speaker 4: There is a part of me.
Speaker 3: That And I don't want to say this because there's
Speaker 3: a high chance that doesn't happen. But there's a part
Speaker 3: of me that thinks, like eighteen months might come around
Speaker 3: and they might understand that, wow, this is actually your dog,
Speaker 3: and they might start fresh and get their own dog.
Speaker 4: You don't know, but you can't bank on that.
Speaker 2: Yeah, is such a weird.
Speaker 1: But also I wanted to say, like, and I'm not
Speaker 1: on the owner's side, like I think this whole setup
Speaker 1: is so fucking weird. If you've got a two and
Speaker 1: a half year old and you've just had a newborn baby,
Speaker 1: why are you getting a puppy? Like why are you
Speaker 1: purchasing a puppy for your family or acquiring a puppy
Speaker 1: for your family and then shipping it off? And when
Speaker 1: I say I understand that, you know they're not able
Speaker 1: to take care of it, I do understand because it's
Speaker 1: such a huge responsibility to have a newborn it's such
Speaker 1: a huge responsibility to have a puppy. Put those two
Speaker 1: things together, it's like it's unmanageable. But the thing is is,
Speaker 1: why would you make that decision when you knew you
Speaker 1: were having a baby, or assume you, and you knew
Speaker 1: you were having a baby, So there is part of
Speaker 1: me that kind of thinks that that was such stupid
Speaker 1: management on the dog owner's side. The only other thing
Speaker 1: I do want to say, though, is like, I know
Speaker 1: that you've had these things happen, like you've had the
Speaker 1: death of your family dog. You've also been through a
Speaker 1: really hard time, which is why you're feeling more connected
Speaker 1: to this puppy and you really really like emotionally need him.
Speaker 2: But that's not their problem, you know.
Speaker 1: And I think what you need to do is sit
Speaker 1: down and explain to them that because of these big
Speaker 1: things that have happened in your life, you're feeling way
Speaker 1: more connected and you're feeling way more attached than what
Speaker 1: you thought you were going to be. And I know
Speaker 1: you say that you've already spoken to the husband. The
Speaker 1: husband's okay with it, but the wife has very different plans.
Speaker 1: I just would be having some very very honest conversations
Speaker 1: because it sounds like everyone is on completely different pages.
Speaker 1: And maybe if you turned around and said, hey, look,
Speaker 1: if it comes to the eighteen month mark, I would
Speaker 1: want to keep this dog, maybe the owners would say, okay,
Speaker 1: well we'll take it. Back now then because they might
Speaker 1: not realize the severity of this view.
Speaker 2: The whole situation is weird.
Speaker 1: Also, I do want to say, don't get animals that
Speaker 1: you can't take care of if you're having kids, because
Speaker 1: it's so unfair on those animals. And just because you
Speaker 1: have children, your pets shouldn't become like second grade citizens.
Speaker 3: And at the end of the day, you're close enough
Speaker 3: with this woman and this family to take their animal
Speaker 3: for eighteen months, so you're close enough to say, hey,
Speaker 3: I actually think I made a mistake and I can't
Speaker 3: do it. You're close enough to have that hard conversation.
Speaker 3: And you've also, if anything, you figured out that you
Speaker 3: are ready for a pet, which is great. Like if
Speaker 3: it doesn't work out with this dog, you know that
Speaker 3: you can go and get a dog for yourself that's
Speaker 3: going to help you get through whatever it is that
Speaker 3: you're going through, because they do, like there's a reason
Speaker 3: we call them emotional support animals because you do get
Speaker 3: attached to them and they do help you through so
Speaker 3: many things of life. But you've got to do what's
Speaker 3: right for you because if you know in eighteen months,
Speaker 3: it's going to be so much more detrimental to your
Speaker 3: mental health at that time.
Speaker 4: Bite the bullet now, Britt, I have a question for you.
Speaker 1: What are your thoughts, And this is going to irksome people,
Speaker 1: what are your thoughts around people who have dogs or
Speaker 1: cats or animals in general, and then they rehome them
Speaker 1: once they've had children.
Speaker 3: It makes me really angry, and I understand why some
Speaker 3: people might do it. If I know of a friend
Speaker 3: that did it because they had a cattle dog that
Speaker 3: had it for a long time. So it's not like
Speaker 3: they got it. They already had it. Then they got
Speaker 3: a child and the cattle dog.
Speaker 1: They had a child. Then they got a child. They
Speaker 1: they've got a child. No, but they had a child
Speaker 1: and the cattle dog's behavior changed. It was too and
Speaker 1: they had to make a decision there that broke their
Speaker 1: heart to rehome it to a farm because they're like,
Speaker 1: we can't actually trust our animal now around our child.
Speaker 1: That breaks my heart still, But I understand that more.
Speaker 1: But when people get an animal, you have to understand
Speaker 1: that is for life.
Speaker 4: Like that's how I feel about it.
Speaker 1: I feel like an animal comes into your life as
Speaker 1: a family member.
Speaker 2: I completely agree.
Speaker 1: I also and I do want to be careful with
Speaker 1: this because I know that there will be people listening
Speaker 1: to this who may have had to rehome their dog
Speaker 1: who they loved so much because it was the best thing.
Speaker 1: Also for the animals, maybe it was it was stressed out,
Speaker 1: maybe it became aggressive when it was around kids. And
Speaker 1: also as a parent, you have to prioritize the safety
Speaker 1: of your children. You don't know how or you know,
Speaker 1: some dogs are not compatible with small children, right, It's
Speaker 1: just the case. But I do think it is a
Speaker 1: very very stressful situation. And I also think that sometimes
Speaker 1: we are a bit too casual in how we deprioritize
Speaker 1: animals when we have kids come into our lives, like
Speaker 1: some people are, and that I have a real problem with.
Speaker 1: And I know that for us, there was definitely a
Speaker 1: period that was challenging, like when our kids were really
Speaker 1: really little. It was challenging to give Buster like all
Speaker 1: the love and affection and nurturing that he deserved and
Speaker 1: that he'd always received alongside our kids. But that was
Speaker 1: only a small period of time, you know, And now
Speaker 1: we're back to a really great balance where everyone is
Speaker 1: everyone is happy, everyone feels loved, and we've also been
Speaker 1: able to raise our children in a way that they
Speaker 1: know how much Busters are part of our family and
Speaker 1: how much they respect him. So they get up in
Speaker 1: the morning, they go and hug him. Then they come
Speaker 1: and hug us. You know, they treat him as though
Speaker 1: he's a family member as well.
Speaker 3: It is tricky though, and I now that we're talking
Speaker 3: about I want to highlight it. There are definitely so
Speaker 3: many reasons that people do need animals, and there are
Speaker 3: you know, I know some.
Speaker 4: Elderly people that weren't old when they got their dog.
Speaker 3: You know, they've aged with it, but they've gotten to
Speaker 3: the point where they've taken turns in their health and
Speaker 3: they physically can't look after that dog anymore. And them
Speaker 3: giving their dog up is because they love it enough
Speaker 3: to give it the life it needs. So I have
Speaker 3: seen that as well, cost of living, like you might
Speaker 3: get a pet or have your family when things are amazing,
Speaker 3: and then financially we've seen over the last few years
Speaker 3: so much has happened and there are a lot of
Speaker 3: people that can't afford to live, and so the first
Speaker 3: thing that's going to probably go in that situation, unfortunately,
Speaker 3: is maybe a pet that has cost you too much money,
Speaker 3: because there are things in your life you can't change, right,
Speaker 3: You need the roof over your head, you need to
Speaker 3: feature family, and you've got kids. I'm not saying that
Speaker 3: like I support that, but I one hundred percent understand
Speaker 3: why sometimes it has to happen.
Speaker 1: Yeah, And look, I do agree completely with you, and
Speaker 1: I know that there are going to be, like I said,
Speaker 1: people who were listening to this episode who had to
Speaker 1: give up their animal after having children. And often it's
Speaker 1: because behaviorally it doesn't match up with having kids, it's noncompatible,
Speaker 1: and it's not safe for everybody in our household. So
Speaker 1: I totally understand those instances. But far out it's really hard,
Speaker 1: and I do think that some people, maybe to a
Speaker 1: lesser extent, but some people are too casual around the
Speaker 1: place in which an animal sits within their fam All right,
Speaker 1: question number two. This one's a little bit spicy. My
Speaker 1: husband was in the shower and I needed to go
Speaker 1: and do it. We so I went to the bathroom
Speaker 1: and as I was on the loo, I was having
Speaker 1: a bit of perv on him in the shower. He
Speaker 1: looked so good and he had a potential semi so
Speaker 1: I decided to strip off and jump in. We had
Speaker 1: sex in the shower. When we finished, I turned to
Speaker 1: get out and something dropped onto the floor. It was
Speaker 1: his phone. It had been propped up in the shower,
Speaker 1: so essentially, when I had come in to use the bathroom,
Speaker 1: he was watching porn on his phone in the shower
Speaker 1: and he was about to have a wank, hence his
Speaker 1: semi he was interrupted, and I felt kind of weird
Speaker 1: about it, like I had been a bit used, because
Speaker 1: you know, he already had a heart on and he
Speaker 1: was watching someone else and then I was just there
Speaker 1: to finish the job. Should I feel weird about this
Speaker 1: and have I been used? I just find it strange
Speaker 1: you were turned on while you're doing a week now,
Speaker 1: I don't. You're on the toilet and then you look
Speaker 1: over and you're like, oh, that man I married him?
Speaker 4: Because definitely not the moment that I would get the
Speaker 4: juices flowing. But I understand it. If you yeah, if
Speaker 4: you check Pervin, you're on your husband.
Speaker 2: Anyway.
Speaker 3: This is interesting because I think this is going to
Speaker 3: be different for everyone and their thoughts around porn as
Speaker 3: a whole, Like not even the fact that you've finished
Speaker 3: it for him. I think some people are against porn
Speaker 3: some people it doesn't matter if their partner watches porn,
Speaker 3: and we've spoken about that in the part. For me,
Speaker 3: I don't care. I don't care if my partner's watching
Speaker 3: porn unless it was going to impact my life. He
Speaker 3: doesn't want to have sex with me anymore. That sexy
Speaker 3: is worse, it's changed, it's turned into porn type sex,
Speaker 3: whatever it is. But for me, if I walked in
Speaker 3: and found my partner watching porn in the shower, I'd
Speaker 3: probably be turned on. I'd probably like damn and want
Speaker 3: to get in on it. So for me, when I
Speaker 3: hear this and here you say you felt a bit used,
Speaker 3: that makes me a bit sad because I don't think
Speaker 3: that that's the case at all. Like he didn't do
Speaker 3: it and then invite you in to finish it.
Speaker 4: It was very.
Speaker 3: Situational, like he was having the time of his life.
Speaker 3: You stumbled in and he was like, hey, seize the day,
Speaker 3: sees the opportunity, let's roll with it.
Speaker 4: It makes me sad that you feel used by your partner, husband, boyfriend, whatever, Like,
Speaker 4: if you're in this situation, this isn't screaming used for me,
Speaker 4: this is screaming opportunist.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I agree.
Speaker 1: Also, I think it would be a way bigger problem
Speaker 1: and a much different question if you were to say
Speaker 1: you walked into the bathroom your partner was watching porn,
Speaker 1: he had a semi You tried to have sex with him,
Speaker 1: and he was like, actually, I just would rather finish
Speaker 1: myself watching the porn. Like that's exactly That's when I
Speaker 1: would feel upset. That's when I'm like, oh, okay, well now,
Speaker 1: I mean unfortunately in this situation, this is a lose
Speaker 1: lose situation for your husband, and you have to think
Speaker 1: of it like that, right, Like he well, so, okay,
Speaker 1: you're upset with him because he was watching porn and
Speaker 1: he was going to jack off, but then you came
Speaker 1: in and he was like, oh my god, my beautiful
Speaker 1: wife who I want to have sex with.
Speaker 2: Yes, I'll do that.
Speaker 1: Right, you're upset about that scenario, But you would be
Speaker 1: equally as upset if he turned around and said, oh,
Speaker 1: actually I'm not that interested and then finished himself off
Speaker 1: in the shower, right, Like, he can't win in this situation.
Speaker 2: He he did, did he finish?
Speaker 4: I mean, he won, But now you're angry at him.
Speaker 1: So I'm like, I understand that you might feel the
Speaker 1: way that you feel, and I'm not invalidating that at all,
Speaker 1: But what I'm saying is is the alternate option is
Speaker 1: way worse, Like that would.
Speaker 4: Have made me feel far more insecure.
Speaker 1: I don't think that in his mind at all, he
Speaker 1: was like thinking, oh, yeah, I'm still watching porn. Like
Speaker 1: I think that was just an easy option for him
Speaker 1: to get off. He was in the shower. He didn't
Speaker 1: think you were up for it. You walked in to
Speaker 1: do a week, you know, and no part of no
Speaker 1: part of that situation was he like, yes, yeah, we'll play,
Speaker 1: that's my point. So he was probably shocked that you
Speaker 1: actually were like yeah, you were like ready to get
Speaker 1: it on. And then he was like, cool, that's way
Speaker 1: better than having a watch porn in the shower.
Speaker 2: I don't know.
Speaker 1: I wouldn't be annoyed. Good on you for like snapping
Speaker 1: into it. I would just I would have seen him
Speaker 1: and I would have been like, God, that's solid effort
Speaker 1: right there. But that's because you got chid kids are
Speaker 1: downstairs watching Goco Melon had for a couple of days.
Speaker 1: I was like, I'm emotionally spent, but yeah, I personally
Speaker 1: don't think that this is a problem, although at the
Speaker 1: same time, I don't want to invalidate you when you
Speaker 1: say that you feel this way. It is okay that
Speaker 1: you feel this way. And it does also come down
Speaker 1: to what are your views on porn? Like you said, Britt,
Speaker 1: what are the rules in your relationship around porn? But
Speaker 1: I definitely personally wouldn't be taking this as a personal insult.
Speaker 3: As we said, this is us speaking surrounding our thoughts
Speaker 3: on a relationship and porn. We don't know that you
Speaker 3: haven't had discussions with your partner before around porn, like
Speaker 3: just watch it too much and it is an issue.
Speaker 3: There are so many things like this is a surface
Speaker 3: level answer for you, but with the information you gave us,
Speaker 3: I think embrace it.
Speaker 1: The sex was probably better to be honest, sure, okay?
Speaker 1: Question number three. This one came in on email. I've
Speaker 1: been single for the better part of ten years and
Speaker 1: I was always a single friend watching all my friends
Speaker 1: fall in love, which made me so happy, but it
Speaker 1: was definitely hard because I love love and I started
Speaker 1: to think maybe it wasn't for me.
Speaker 4: Oh, I love love, love love.
Speaker 3: Then in twenty twenty two, I met this amazing guy,
Speaker 3: but he lived overseas. My friends were really concerned because
Speaker 3: long distance is never easy and I've always had commitment issues,
Speaker 3: but this time it felt different and I thought he
Speaker 3: was worth it. Flash forward to now and I've never
Speaker 3: been happier. And last week, on a beautiful island, he
Speaker 3: asked me to be his wife.
Speaker 2: You know, I don't want to know.
Speaker 3: What's a cute way to tell my friends that I'm
Speaker 3: getting married?
Speaker 2: Spoiler it's me.
Speaker 4: How did you leave it to the third question?
Speaker 2: Because she's got diarrhea?
Speaker 1: I was going to tell you on Monday, I'd lied.
Speaker 3: I wanted to be.
Speaker 2: In the question.
Speaker 4: I've been waiting so long to you because you've got diarrhea.
Speaker 4: A ship ruined, Your diarrhea ruin my moment.
Speaker 3: Your diarrhea overshadowed my engagement in true life and time?
Speaker 4: Can you believe it?
Speaker 1: My gosh, I have no.
Speaker 2: What are we gonna do? What are we doing now?
Speaker 1: Because there's so much and this is not getting tacked
Speaker 1: onto the back of an asking.
Speaker 2: Stay tuned for Tuesday's episode. Yes No, we are Tuesday.
Speaker 2: Oh my fucking god.
Speaker 4: I literally was just thinking, we don't get this email
Speaker 4: the whole episode, and I can't put my hand in
Speaker 4: it because it's not sure yet.
Speaker 2: I keep put in my hand. Is it still no?
Speaker 4: This I'm shaking.
Speaker 2: I've been waiting to tell you, Oh my god, Honey,
Speaker 2: I can't believe you kept it in.
Speaker 1: Then.
Speaker 2: We're so happy for you. Were so happy for you.
Speaker 2: Johnno with the confetti. John knew you talked John before
Speaker 2: you hold us.
Speaker 3: I talked John before you told me John, you're the cutest.
Speaker 1: Oh jees.
Speaker 2: That is so.
Speaker 4: I hate, okay, Britt, I hate how much. I was
Speaker 4: just like doing admin work on my laptop and I
Speaker 4: was like listening to this and then when you got emotional,
Speaker 4: I was like, maybe she's emotional because, like, you know,
Speaker 4: she really hopes that this is her. And I looked
Speaker 4: up and I could just see this massive ring on
Speaker 4: your finger, and I was like, see it because it's
Speaker 4: late the microphone what.
Speaker 3: I was reading the question and maybe when you go
Speaker 3: on the back you'll hear it, like we're looking for
Speaker 3: it in our email so I could copy it over
Speaker 3: into the show.
Speaker 4: Because I was like, what, you know, I've went my
Speaker 4: dire life for this moment.
Speaker 3: Five years of this podcast, we've spoken out love. I
Speaker 3: can't stop shaking. So I was like I need to
Speaker 3: tell them in a really cute way.
Speaker 4: So Laura's.
Speaker 2: I'm still.
Speaker 3: You've overshadowed my moment once with you poo keep it
Speaker 3: in this, ain't it? O? God?
Speaker 4: Oh my god, I'm leaking from everywhere.
Speaker 1: I'm so happy for you. I love you so much.
Speaker 1: I'm I'm so happy for you.
Speaker 2: Oh my god. I have so many things. But we
Speaker 2: have to keep it for Tuesday.
Speaker 4: That's a real clock hang out guys, Crumb Tuesday.
Speaker 3: Yeah, we'll unpack it all on Tuesday, because all I
Speaker 3: will say is like it was the most incredible ever.
Speaker 2: He can't believe you kept this is secret for a week, dude,
Speaker 2: it's been eating me up in sight.
Speaker 3: I only told John oh because when it fell through
Speaker 3: on Monday, he didn't know first, and when he felt
Speaker 3: when it fell through on Tuesday's episode, I was like, Okay, John,
Speaker 3: I'm just going to tell you because let's just make
Speaker 3: this a thing. I'm gonna have to restructure how I
Speaker 3: tell them. I'm gonna put it into an ask gun cut.
Speaker 3: That's why I told him. It's funny, it's more content.
Speaker 3: So John is amazing. So I told him. I was like,
Speaker 3: I just want you to make sure the camera's on.
Speaker 3: He's like, I'm gonna one up you. He's like, I'm
Speaker 3: gonna a confetti. I didn't know about this.
Speaker 4: I'm wearing a veil. Guys, Johnna brought me a bride
Speaker 4: to peer. So yeah that, Oh my gosh, that ring
Speaker 4: looks so good on your finger.
Speaker 1: Dude, dude, dude, are we to We're not answering any
Speaker 1: more questions that.
Speaker 4: I'm not even doing any more work. This is going
Speaker 4: out all He's just quitting. We're all leaking from every hole.
Speaker 2: I'm shocked that neither. I'm shocked neither of you. I'm
Speaker 2: not taking off, no pas. Yeah, so how do I
Speaker 2: sign off now?
Speaker 4: Is it like? Hi, guys, bye, fiance signing off?
Speaker 1: All right, everyone that listened to Tuesday's episode for more
Speaker 1: and you know the drill.
Speaker 3: So your mum, tell your dad, tell your friends to
Speaker 3: your fiancees, and share the love.