WEBVTT - Ask Uncut - Britt has a HUGE SURPRISE 💍 💍 💍 0:00:09.680 --> 0:00:11.840 Hi, guys, and welcome back to another episode of Life. 0:00:11.840 --> 0:00:15.120 I'm Cut, I'm Laura, I'm Brittany, and this is ask 0:00:15.160 --> 0:00:17.959 gun cut where we answer you're deep, you're dark, and 0:00:18.000 --> 0:00:20.240 you're burning questions, but usually talk about a whole lot 0:00:20.239 --> 0:00:23.200 of shit at the start. I love this episode speaking 0:00:23.200 --> 0:00:25.959 of shit. Sorry, oh yeah, no, perfect segue. Laura's been 0:00:25.960 --> 0:00:30.040 shitting itself for days. I want a segue to know 0:00:30.080 --> 0:00:30.520 about it. 0:00:31.080 --> 0:00:31.520 Okay. 0:00:31.680 --> 0:00:34.040 I thought I had gastro and that it went in circles, 0:00:34.040 --> 0:00:35.920 and I think I just had a viral bug because 0:00:36.000 --> 0:00:36.920 after it all. 0:00:36.760 --> 0:00:38.520 Stopped, I came out in a rash. 0:00:38.960 --> 0:00:41.120 There's nothing like having gastro and then coming out in 0:00:41.120 --> 0:00:42.640 a rash to really humble you. 0:00:42.720 --> 0:00:44.280 Yeah. I don't know if you listened to the episode 0:00:44.320 --> 0:00:46.120 that Keisha and I did while you're away, but we 0:00:46.159 --> 0:00:48.080 did talk in depth about your. 0:00:48.200 --> 0:00:50.239 Did you, because I haven't listened yet, But guys, I 0:00:50.280 --> 0:00:52.680 am going to into how much depth did you go? 0:00:52.920 --> 0:00:55.480 No, we just said you're unwell and poopin and then 0:00:55.680 --> 0:00:57.840 I did say that I confirmed you unwell because you 0:00:57.840 --> 0:00:59.800 sent me your phone on it where you've definitely looked better. 0:01:00.040 --> 0:01:02.400 Said that you had sent her a photo and she's like, here, 0:01:02.440 --> 0:01:04.640 I'll show you, and I was like, I don't fucking 0:01:04.720 --> 0:01:07.880 need to see that. It's not a photo of the 0:01:07.920 --> 0:01:10.919 toilet or of anything like that. It's a photo of Laura. 0:01:10.959 --> 0:01:14.520 And I was like, yeah, okay, they're too very I 0:01:14.680 --> 0:01:15.200 wasn't just. 0:01:15.240 --> 0:01:18.560 Head to doe rolling around in my own gas row, no, because. 0:01:20.040 --> 0:01:21.520 I could see how it was taken the wrong way. 0:01:21.560 --> 0:01:23.800 Because we were talking about how I was like, oh, 0:01:23.800 --> 0:01:25.759 she's proper un well, like her poops are proper un well. 0:01:25.760 --> 0:01:28.040 Actually us actually sent me a photo and he she's like, well, 0:01:28.120 --> 0:01:30.440 I don't need a stool photo to be fair. Though 0:01:30.800 --> 0:01:33.000 I was so nauseous. I was very sick on Monday. 0:01:33.200 --> 0:01:36.160 It kind of hit me on Sunday night, Sunday at 0:01:36.160 --> 0:01:38.680 like seven pm, and then it just continued, and then 0:01:38.720 --> 0:01:40.399 Monday morning came around and was supposed to come in 0:01:40.400 --> 0:01:42.720 and record for was it a public holiday? 0:01:42.800 --> 0:01:43.160 It's the case. 0:01:43.840 --> 0:01:45.560 Yeah, I wasn't sure if it was the King's birth. 0:01:45.600 --> 0:01:46.400 I can't keep up. 0:01:46.800 --> 0:01:49.320 People couldn't believe that we had forgotten that there was 0:01:49.360 --> 0:01:51.840 a long weekend, and I was like, oh, if you 0:01:51.920 --> 0:01:54.800 don't believe for us to not realize it's a public holiday, 0:01:54.840 --> 0:01:57.880 coming up, stay ahead of time. I feel as though 0:01:57.920 --> 0:01:59.400 maybe you don't know us as well as what I 0:01:59.400 --> 0:01:59.920 thought you did. 0:02:00.040 --> 0:02:02.000 I think it's different when you run your own business 0:02:02.080 --> 0:02:05.320 because public holidays, weekends, they don't mean anything to you. 0:02:05.320 --> 0:02:06.840 And Kesha's like, they mean something to me. 0:02:08.400 --> 0:02:11.040 So Laura and I, public holidays don't exist. 0:02:11.960 --> 0:02:13.000 She's like, what help me? 0:02:13.360 --> 0:02:18.920 Fuck Christmas? You will work award wage on Christmas Day. Hey, 0:02:19.080 --> 0:02:21.400 I have a question. Okay, this is something that I 0:02:21.440 --> 0:02:23.880 do want your thoughts, advice, feelings on. 0:02:24.440 --> 0:02:27.600 So on the weekend, I was talking to a girlfriend. 0:02:27.720 --> 0:02:30.239 She is in the throes of dating right and she's 0:02:30.280 --> 0:02:32.520 just come out of a long term relationship and well 0:02:32.680 --> 0:02:34.160 not just come out, but she's been half about six 0:02:34.200 --> 0:02:36.800 months and she's now like back into the dating game 0:02:37.280 --> 0:02:40.520 and she started seeing this guy and he's definitely not 0:02:40.680 --> 0:02:44.960 right for her, but she is quite happy having the 0:02:44.960 --> 0:02:48.240 physical side of a connection and a relationship again. And 0:02:48.280 --> 0:02:50.079 she asked the question because she's like, Oh, I can 0:02:50.080 --> 0:02:52.399 see myself starting to get feelings with this guy, even 0:02:52.480 --> 0:02:54.680 though I know he is not the person that I 0:02:54.680 --> 0:02:56.760 want to be in a relationship with. She's like, it's just, 0:02:57.360 --> 0:02:59.200 you know, we're doing the hangs and pain, the hangs 0:02:59.200 --> 0:03:02.880 and bad thank you got that really missed up my mouth. 0:03:03.000 --> 0:03:05.280 We're doing the hangs and bangs and it's turning into 0:03:05.400 --> 0:03:08.000 me catching feels. So the question is, how do you 0:03:08.040 --> 0:03:12.519 have a friends with benefits relationship without catching feelings at all? 0:03:12.800 --> 0:03:14.919 I mean, I think we have spoken about. 0:03:14.680 --> 0:03:16.679 This in different capacities so many times, but I think 0:03:16.720 --> 0:03:19.880 you just have to set the boundaries with each other 0:03:19.960 --> 0:03:22.200 and with yourself straight up. Like if you want to 0:03:22.240 --> 0:03:25.120 friends with benefits and just a bang, well then you 0:03:25.120 --> 0:03:28.200 can't lay in bed stroking their face after and like 0:03:28.280 --> 0:03:31.440 giving them little hair massages and like little sweet nothings 0:03:31.480 --> 0:03:34.240 in the ear. You can't do the extra like romantic stuff. 0:03:34.240 --> 0:03:36.080 You just gotta fuck and fuck off. 0:03:39.240 --> 0:03:41.360 But the FNF, this is the thing, right because I 0:03:41.400 --> 0:03:43.400 remember back in the day, I used to always catch 0:03:43.440 --> 0:03:45.080 the fields. So I'm like, do as I say, don't 0:03:45.080 --> 0:03:48.120 do as I do, because I would date them, but 0:03:48.280 --> 0:03:49.720 be like, oh, this is just casual. 0:03:50.000 --> 0:03:52.200 But we would go out for dinner, we would wine 0:03:52.200 --> 0:03:54.960 and dine. I'd like sleep over their house for the night. 0:03:55.040 --> 0:03:57.280 We were literally acting like we were boyfriend and girlfriend, 0:03:57.280 --> 0:03:58.920 but then trying to convince each other that this was 0:03:58.960 --> 0:04:01.680 just hangs and bangs. It was for them and for me, 0:04:02.360 --> 0:04:04.000 Like I'd get six months into it and be like, 0:04:04.080 --> 0:04:04.960 what's what's happening? 0:04:05.000 --> 0:04:06.480 Why don't you Why don't you love me yet? 0:04:06.520 --> 0:04:06.640 Why? 0:04:06.840 --> 0:04:10.000 Why do I so much? Why are we getting married? 0:04:10.040 --> 0:04:11.400 I don't understand why we're not committed. 0:04:11.440 --> 0:04:14.280 It's because you're doing relationship things. When it's been clear, 0:04:14.400 --> 0:04:17.040 like even if you say to yourself, humans are not 0:04:17.080 --> 0:04:20.159 smart enough to differentiate. So even if you say to yourself, 0:04:20.360 --> 0:04:23.960 this is not going anywhere, this is just sex. If 0:04:24.040 --> 0:04:27.120 every other aspect of your life is leading towards relationships. 0:04:27.120 --> 0:04:29.000 So if you're actually doing relationship. 0:04:28.600 --> 0:04:31.120 Things and going to dinners and hanging with friends and 0:04:31.480 --> 0:04:33.600 going to the beach and swimming together and doing all 0:04:33.600 --> 0:04:35.640 this extra stuff that you've been doing when you're dating, 0:04:35.839 --> 0:04:38.480 you are gonna catch feelings, whether you like it or not. Yeah, 0:04:38.520 --> 0:04:40.599 you're also doing things that are like core memory stuff. 0:04:40.600 --> 0:04:42.960 You're like spending like beautiful time and creating memories. Cause 0:04:42.960 --> 0:04:44.080 she's like, I don't catch feelings. 0:04:45.400 --> 0:04:49.479 I'm laughing because I walking into this conversation, I was like, Oh, 0:04:49.520 --> 0:04:51.919 it's just personality dependent, Like it just depends on the 0:04:51.960 --> 0:04:55.919 type of person you are, because I cannot tell you 0:04:56.000 --> 0:04:58.560 how opposite I feel. I feel as though more often 0:04:58.600 --> 0:05:02.400 than not, when I've slept with someone, I get that 0:05:02.440 --> 0:05:05.200 like post nut clarity, and I'm just like, oh, now 0:05:05.200 --> 0:05:07.720 I've got the ick for you, I think. 0:05:07.800 --> 0:05:09.880 I mean, I've done that too, but I think and 0:05:10.000 --> 0:05:11.760 I don't want to out you, hear Keisha, but we've 0:05:11.760 --> 0:05:14.480 been besties for a long time, and I can recall 0:05:14.560 --> 0:05:16.640 so many times that you've started hooking up with someone 0:05:16.680 --> 0:05:17.719 casually and caught. 0:05:17.560 --> 0:05:20.560 Feelings definitely, Like there would be people that I've caught 0:05:20.640 --> 0:05:23.159 feelings for because I like thought that, you know, you 0:05:23.200 --> 0:05:26.240 could progress into something absolutely, but we would also be 0:05:26.279 --> 0:05:28.720 going on dates and that kind of thing. However, there 0:05:28.720 --> 0:05:31.120 would be the opposite of that too, where maybe I'd 0:05:31.160 --> 0:05:33.960 been on some dates with someone or we were hanging 0:05:33.960 --> 0:05:36.080 out in like a friendship group, and then we'd slept 0:05:36.080 --> 0:05:39.680 together and I'd be like, oh, no, this is not it. Yeah, 0:05:40.080 --> 0:05:43.159 like it's naught it. And for me, if someone fucked 0:05:43.200 --> 0:05:46.440 and then fucked off like you said, I would find 0:05:46.480 --> 0:05:49.719 that really offensive. I'd be like, that's disrespectful. 0:05:49.760 --> 0:05:50.400 What are you doing. 0:05:50.680 --> 0:05:53.120 I think that there's a fine line, right because obviously 0:05:53.120 --> 0:05:55.039 if you're going to have an ongoing There's a difference 0:05:55.040 --> 0:05:57.760 between one night's dad, which if you get the ick 0:05:57.880 --> 0:05:59.840 after having sex with someone once, you're not going to 0:05:59.880 --> 0:06:02.680 go back and have like a friends with benefit relationship, 0:06:02.720 --> 0:06:04.839 because you don't want to have sex with someone and 0:06:04.839 --> 0:06:06.240 then feel repulsed afterwards. 0:06:06.240 --> 0:06:07.400 That's a terrible feeling. 0:06:08.000 --> 0:06:11.279 But if you're having like a casual relationship with them, 0:06:11.680 --> 0:06:14.080 there is a fine line between at the end of it, 0:06:14.120 --> 0:06:17.080 when you're finished, navigating that in a respectful way, right, Like, 0:06:17.120 --> 0:06:19.080 what's the appropriate amount of time that you need to 0:06:19.080 --> 0:06:20.919 spend with them to do the after care of the 0:06:20.960 --> 0:06:23.279 sex so that you're not just being like cool, thanks 0:06:23.279 --> 0:06:25.479 for that. You're like wiping yourself off with the towel 0:06:25.520 --> 0:06:31.039 as you're walking out the door. The detail, No, but 0:06:31.080 --> 0:06:32.680 you don't have to spend the night and you wansker 0:06:32.760 --> 0:06:34.640 yourself off with a sock and he's like, I need that, 0:06:35.040 --> 0:06:39.080 I need to leave. But you don't have to have 0:06:39.120 --> 0:06:40.599 a sleepover, is what I'm saying. You don't have to 0:06:40.640 --> 0:06:43.560 cuddle for hours. Like the cuddling for hours is where 0:06:43.720 --> 0:06:46.760 the relationship starts to form. It's where when you're laying 0:06:46.800 --> 0:06:49.320 there and you're all cocooned after like having a great orgasma. 0:06:49.320 --> 0:06:51.240 Then you're like, oh my god, maybe I really like 0:06:51.320 --> 0:06:53.640 this guy who has just a pile of clothes on 0:06:53.640 --> 0:06:56.120 the floor that we're sleeping on, and just I do 0:06:56.160 --> 0:06:57.800 want to clarify, no sheets on his mattress. 0:06:57.839 --> 0:06:59.280 I don't want to swear anymore because I mean he's 0:06:59.279 --> 0:07:01.040 weearing a lot. But when I say the f and 0:07:01.160 --> 0:07:02.919 f off, I don't. 0:07:02.680 --> 0:07:05.719 Literally mean like you've just pulled out and leave, like 0:07:05.839 --> 0:07:08.200 do a runner out the door with like a semi 0:07:08.240 --> 0:07:11.160 hard on steal. It's just I just more mean like 0:07:11.440 --> 0:07:13.240 coole a spade of spade, like it is what it is. 0:07:13.280 --> 0:07:15.760 So obviously you always are going to stay and be respectful. 0:07:15.920 --> 0:07:17.480 Not everyone will do that, but that's what I mean 0:07:17.480 --> 0:07:19.640 by like, let's just do what we're here to do. 0:07:20.080 --> 0:07:20.880 You be respectful. 0:07:20.880 --> 0:07:22.920 Maybe you want to have dinner whatever, but you don't 0:07:23.000 --> 0:07:25.520 further it with the cuddles and the sleepovers. 0:07:24.960 --> 0:07:27.720 And making getting coffees in the morning, and like the. 0:07:27.800 --> 0:07:30.920 No hand holding, the no kisses in public, like the 0:07:31.000 --> 0:07:34.080 things as well that are just but. 0:07:34.200 --> 0:07:37.960 People doing that with their friends with better at me what. Okay, 0:07:37.960 --> 0:07:38.720 here's a story. 0:07:38.800 --> 0:07:42.360 So when I met Ben, like that beautiful weekend. 0:07:42.360 --> 0:07:49.000 A couple of years ago, but twelve months when I 0:07:49.040 --> 0:07:52.760 met Ben, this wonderful weekend a couple of years ago. 0:07:54.240 --> 0:07:55.920 When I met Ben a couple of. 0:07:57.520 --> 0:08:00.760 A couple of years ago. No, but it was because twenty. 0:08:00.560 --> 0:08:04.400 Twenty four anyway, when I met Ben calendy is financially. 0:08:05.520 --> 0:08:08.760 When I met Ben on that glorious weekend, it was you, guys, 0:08:08.800 --> 0:08:09.640 have you been following along? 0:08:09.640 --> 0:08:10.160 You remember? 0:08:10.240 --> 0:08:12.440 It was supposed to be a one night stand, Like 0:08:12.480 --> 0:08:14.120 I was supposed to be getting back on the horse. 0:08:14.440 --> 0:08:16.240 I was gonna ride that into the sunset, then he 0:08:16.320 --> 0:08:18.360 was gonna leave. We ended up seeing each other for 0:08:18.400 --> 0:08:19.160 a couple of days. 0:08:19.480 --> 0:08:22.240 I remember him, and I appreciate it at the time 0:08:22.840 --> 0:08:24.280 very clearly laying out the rules. 0:08:24.400 --> 0:08:25.360 But it was not rules. 0:08:25.400 --> 0:08:27.200 It was like, I just want you to know that 0:08:27.360 --> 0:08:29.680 I'm getting into this for nothing but sex. Basically, He's like, 0:08:29.760 --> 0:08:31.640 I'm only here for a few days. I just want 0:08:31.720 --> 0:08:33.280 you to know I'm not looking for anything. This is 0:08:33.280 --> 0:08:34.839 gonna be what is going to be, and if you're 0:08:34.840 --> 0:08:36.840 not okay with that, that's super cool. And I was like, yeah, 0:08:36.920 --> 0:08:39.600 I want the same thing. And I really appreciated that 0:08:39.640 --> 0:08:40.920 there's not gonna be any lines. 0:08:40.720 --> 0:08:41.280 That are crossed. 0:08:41.559 --> 0:08:43.719 Then he like doubled down, and the whole time it 0:08:43.840 --> 0:08:46.600 was like, I don't do PDA, Like I don't want to, 0:08:46.880 --> 0:08:48.600 you know, I don't want to cuddle laughter, I don't 0:08:48.640 --> 0:08:50.440 want it. And it wasn't in a nasty way. He 0:08:50.559 --> 0:08:53.120 just knew that if he did, he might catch feelings. 0:08:53.160 --> 0:08:55.640 And I know that in hindsight, And he says to 0:08:55.720 --> 0:08:58.400 this day, we spent three days together and then he left, 0:08:58.520 --> 0:09:02.400 and he says he knows the moment that we were 0:09:02.400 --> 0:09:04.160 going to be together and that he was in trouble 0:09:04.280 --> 0:09:06.880 was because we had had sex in the day and 0:09:06.920 --> 0:09:08.880 we left to go across the road to get a 0:09:08.920 --> 0:09:12.319 coffee and banana bread, and as we were crossing the road, 0:09:13.160 --> 0:09:15.200 we reached out because it was really busy traffic, and 0:09:15.200 --> 0:09:17.240 we grabbed each other's hand just to like run across 0:09:17.240 --> 0:09:19.040 the road. And he's like, as soon as we held 0:09:19.040 --> 0:09:21.800 hands in public, in public. 0:09:21.520 --> 0:09:23.480 He goes, I was fucked. I was like, this is it. 0:09:23.600 --> 0:09:25.640 And that's because he's like, this is why I set 0:09:25.720 --> 0:09:27.120 the boundaries. 0:09:26.559 --> 0:09:28.640 Not to have those like romantic moments. 0:09:28.840 --> 0:09:30.679 Yeah got you, Yes, I think. 0:09:30.520 --> 0:09:32.920 This is the problem. And I spent so much of 0:09:32.960 --> 0:09:37.840 my twenties, thinking that I'd be the one who changed 0:09:37.880 --> 0:09:39.720 their mind, you know, like it would be the player 0:09:39.800 --> 0:09:42.319 who you know, had so many girls on the go 0:09:42.480 --> 0:09:44.520 and they were always non committal, and like you had 0:09:44.559 --> 0:09:46.360 that idea in your mind that you were going to 0:09:46.400 --> 0:09:48.200 be the exception. And I think a lot of people, 0:09:48.240 --> 0:09:50.480 whether they're cognizant of it or not, I think a 0:09:50.520 --> 0:09:52.280 lot of them hope that that is going to be 0:09:52.360 --> 0:09:54.280 the case, that they're going to be the one who changes. 0:09:54.320 --> 0:09:58.200 And that is the situation for you, because like Ben 0:09:58.320 --> 0:10:00.040 was like, I don't want to commit to this, and 0:10:00.080 --> 0:10:03.080 then yeah, you're like, I'm going to change your mind. 0:10:03.440 --> 0:10:07.280 Maybe it comes down to picking the person that you 0:10:07.320 --> 0:10:09.720 are going to be friends with benefits with. Maybe you've 0:10:09.720 --> 0:10:12.440 got to pick someone who wouldn't be like top tier 0:10:12.600 --> 0:10:14.920 date candidate. Maybe you've got to bring it down a 0:10:14.960 --> 0:10:18.360 bit so that you're not like, they've got to have flaws, 0:10:18.440 --> 0:10:20.880 you know, they've got to be like, not that attractive 0:10:20.960 --> 0:10:22.840 to you in a romantic sense. 0:10:23.000 --> 0:10:25.000 I had this conversation with Matt, and Matt was like, 0:10:25.080 --> 0:10:29.480 because Matt has said in passing many times that he 0:10:29.600 --> 0:10:32.120 had many friends with benefits back in the day and 0:10:32.280 --> 0:10:35.520 managed to not catch feelings right, which he says that 0:10:35.600 --> 0:10:38.200 his trick was always to date people who he didn't 0:10:38.200 --> 0:10:40.880 have like an intellectual or emotional as in, and I 0:10:40.920 --> 0:10:42.839 don't mean intellectuals in like they're not smart. Some of 0:10:42.880 --> 0:10:44.839 them were incredibly smart, but as in that he didn't 0:10:44.840 --> 0:10:48.520 feel like he intellectually clicked with or like had humor with, 0:10:48.640 --> 0:10:50.240 and all those sorts of things. He's like, we were 0:10:50.280 --> 0:10:53.079 just like very very fundamentally different. But obviously I thought 0:10:53.120 --> 0:10:55.040 they were hot as hell or whatever, so we physically 0:10:55.040 --> 0:10:55.520 got along. 0:10:55.880 --> 0:10:57.840 But he's like, we just didn't vibe. 0:10:57.960 --> 0:11:01.040 So for me, the conversation wasn't free flowing, it didn't 0:11:01.080 --> 0:11:03.600 feel easy, but like we didn't have to talk because 0:11:03.640 --> 0:11:04.760 all the other things were good. 0:11:05.120 --> 0:11:06.560 So that's kind of how he described it. 0:11:06.640 --> 0:11:09.280 But I think for me, I was trying to think, like, functionally, 0:11:09.360 --> 0:11:11.440 how I managed to have like the friends with benefits 0:11:11.440 --> 0:11:15.120 that didn't turn into anything romantic for me. One of 0:11:15.120 --> 0:11:17.040 them was like I called him my Wednesday Night guy. 0:11:17.120 --> 0:11:18.920 You guys might remember I've spoken about him for a 0:11:18.960 --> 0:11:22.200 long time, many years. Wednesday night guy. He was great. 0:11:22.280 --> 0:11:25.800 He was so beautiful, right, and at the very start 0:11:25.920 --> 0:11:27.000 I caught feels. 0:11:26.720 --> 0:11:29.200 And that's because we were dating. We met on dating app. 0:11:29.200 --> 0:11:31.679 We were dating, but then as things kind of progressed, 0:11:31.880 --> 0:11:34.400 I relegated him to Wednesday nights to keep my weekends 0:11:34.400 --> 0:11:36.240 free for the first time I might actually date. 0:11:36.400 --> 0:11:36.959 And that's it. 0:11:37.200 --> 0:11:39.160 Don't have your hangs and bangs on a Saturday night, 0:11:39.360 --> 0:11:41.880 get satisfied on a weeknight. Look for your relationship on 0:11:41.920 --> 0:11:44.520 a weekend. That's like a good that's a good solution 0:11:44.600 --> 0:11:47.839 to the problem. It's also like just to delve into 0:11:47.880 --> 0:11:48.560 that a little bit deeper. 0:11:48.840 --> 0:11:51.080 But it's also like if you've been seeing someone and 0:11:51.120 --> 0:11:53.720 you're wondering what it is and you're wondering if there's 0:11:53.720 --> 0:11:56.360 anything more there, if they don't want to give you 0:11:56.400 --> 0:11:59.440 their time on the weekend, that is that is the reason. 0:11:59.520 --> 0:12:01.959 That is an to be like, oh, I'm a Wednesday 0:12:02.040 --> 0:12:04.200 night girl or I'm a Wednesday night guy. Like people 0:12:04.200 --> 0:12:06.400 that give up their time on a weekend are invested 0:12:06.440 --> 0:12:07.599 in you in some capacity. 0:12:07.800 --> 0:12:08.600 Yeah, I agree. 0:12:08.679 --> 0:12:11.240 Anyway, good luck for a hoe out there dating and 0:12:11.240 --> 0:12:12.680 trying to not catch feels. 0:12:12.720 --> 0:12:16.720 It's a dangerous space. Get it, get it, get it, 0:12:16.800 --> 0:12:20.280 get it. It is time for vibes and unsubscribes. Britt 0:12:20.320 --> 0:12:21.160 what is your vibe? 0:12:21.240 --> 0:12:24.120 I'm going to give you the lightest, most wholesome little 0:12:24.200 --> 0:12:26.640 vibe this week. It's a Netflix show that I've been watching. 0:12:27.160 --> 0:12:28.880 It is trending, so you've probably seen it. It's in 0:12:28.960 --> 0:12:31.320 the top ten. It's not what most of you. 0:12:31.240 --> 0:12:33.680 Would probably watch. You've probably clicked on it and thought 0:12:33.760 --> 0:12:34.160 not for me. 0:12:34.920 --> 0:12:38.120 I was hook line and sinker and so obsessed. It's 0:12:38.240 --> 0:12:41.800 called Geek Girl. Have you guys seen it? Haven't seen it? 0:12:41.800 --> 0:12:45.080 It is such a feel good I feel like it's probably. 0:12:45.120 --> 0:12:48.880 Aimed more at the younger like maybe early twenties, but 0:12:48.920 --> 0:12:52.440 it's so good. The storyline is basically surrounding this girl 0:12:52.480 --> 0:12:54.520 that's a geek right at school. She's in the last couple. 0:12:54.600 --> 0:12:57.400 She's in high school, and she gets picked on a lot, 0:12:57.440 --> 0:13:01.400 like really really bullied. She's really intelligent, beautiful, and it 0:13:01.559 --> 0:13:05.440 just follows her life being scouted as a model outside 0:13:05.440 --> 0:13:08.280 of school and her coming into her own on the 0:13:08.320 --> 0:13:11.080 outside whilst you'll being bullied at school and just this 0:13:11.160 --> 0:13:13.760 full circle moment of like a bit of a really 0:13:13.840 --> 0:13:16.120 nice kind of like fuck you, I'm gonna overcome all 0:13:16.160 --> 0:13:17.720 of these obstacles. And she had a lot of other 0:13:17.760 --> 0:13:19.120 things going on into personal life. 0:13:19.240 --> 0:13:20.640 I loved it. I loved every second. 0:13:20.679 --> 0:13:22.480 Ben loved it. Ben was watching it, he goes, can 0:13:22.480 --> 0:13:24.600 we finish the end of Geek Girl? So that's my 0:13:24.679 --> 0:13:26.600 recommendation this week. It's super easy. 0:13:26.640 --> 0:13:28.240 You don't need a lot of brain power to watch it. 0:13:28.240 --> 0:13:30.880 It's one of those sort of like the Bold Type 0:13:30.960 --> 0:13:33.000 or Younger, you know, those kind of shows that we 0:13:33.080 --> 0:13:34.360 used to all talk about all the time. 0:13:34.679 --> 0:13:37.480 So that's it Netflix, Geek Girl. Can I tell you 0:13:37.520 --> 0:13:38.600 why I didn't watch it? 0:13:38.720 --> 0:13:39.000 Why? 0:13:39.280 --> 0:13:41.280 Because I watched the trailer and I was like, oh, 0:13:41.320 --> 0:13:44.160 I've just seen it, Like you know those trailers that 0:13:44.320 --> 0:13:46.680 give too much away the whole storyline. I was like, 0:13:46.720 --> 0:13:48.320 now I don't need to watch the show. I know 0:13:48.360 --> 0:13:50.960 what happened. Well, I didn't watch the trailer. I was like, 0:13:51.120 --> 0:13:51.880 this looks cute. 0:13:52.120 --> 0:13:52.720 Let's put it on. 0:13:52.920 --> 0:13:57.040 Yeah. I haven't unsubscribed this week, and I feel as 0:13:57.080 --> 0:13:59.760 though it could actually be something that maybe a few 0:13:59.760 --> 0:14:01.880 people were a couple of years ahead of me to 0:14:02.000 --> 0:14:06.680 unsubscribe from. The Kardashians have dropped another season, and this 0:14:06.840 --> 0:14:10.480 is the first year that I have absolutely no interest 0:14:10.520 --> 0:14:13.600 in watching it. You have watched every season, not every season. 0:14:13.600 --> 0:14:17.120 I kind of picked it up maybe like five years ago, 0:14:17.200 --> 0:14:19.280 like I would watch an episode here and there, and 0:14:19.320 --> 0:14:22.280 then last year I would watch it, but maybe all 0:14:22.320 --> 0:14:24.440 in one go. You know, it wouldn't be week by week. 0:14:24.760 --> 0:14:26.640 And I was kind of hanging on by a thread. 0:14:26.920 --> 0:14:30.640 This season, I just actually couldn't give a shit anymore. 0:14:30.720 --> 0:14:32.360 You know, what do you think has changed? Do you 0:14:32.400 --> 0:14:34.720 think it's just that it's there on the way out now? 0:14:34.840 --> 0:14:37.120 Do you think that it's your appetite for what you 0:14:37.160 --> 0:14:38.560 want to consume is changed? Like? 0:14:38.880 --> 0:14:40.480 Do you think it is a reflection of how most 0:14:40.520 --> 0:14:41.320 people are feeling? 0:14:41.400 --> 0:14:42.120 What is different? 0:14:42.240 --> 0:14:44.080 I can go to saturation? Yeah, a bit of all 0:14:44.080 --> 0:14:46.200 of the above. I think also how contrived it is 0:14:46.320 --> 0:14:48.240 and how we know it's so contrived. I know that, 0:14:48.440 --> 0:14:50.200 you know, over the past couple of years, everyone's like, oh, 0:14:50.240 --> 0:14:53.480 it's not real reality TV. But it just seemed as 0:14:53.520 --> 0:14:56.360 though it was becoming this massive advertisement for each of 0:14:56.400 --> 0:14:59.280 their businesses, and it wasn't interesting, and it wasn't fun, 0:14:59.320 --> 0:15:01.760 and they didn't really like go into anything that they 0:15:01.800 --> 0:15:04.000 hadn't already done on I don't know, for me, it 0:15:04.120 --> 0:15:05.680 just feels so staged. 0:15:05.840 --> 0:15:07.560 I also think when you have to mind your life 0:15:07.560 --> 0:15:10.840 for content that furiously but also want to have some 0:15:11.000 --> 0:15:13.200 privacy at the same time. It's there are two parallels 0:15:13.200 --> 0:15:15.680 that can't be achieved, and so I guess it comes 0:15:15.680 --> 0:15:18.440 to a point where it has to feel contrived because 0:15:18.480 --> 0:15:19.320 it simply is. 0:15:19.680 --> 0:15:21.960 And I also think that what would be real about 0:15:21.960 --> 0:15:24.080 their lives now has a lot to do with their children, 0:15:24.120 --> 0:15:26.720 and the children are on the show, but without it 0:15:26.760 --> 0:15:30.160 being exploitative of those kids and of their lives, I 0:15:30.200 --> 0:15:31.920 don't think that you would be able to actually get 0:15:31.960 --> 0:15:33.440 into the depths of their lives anymore. 0:15:33.440 --> 0:15:35.280 But I also think that the world is caught up 0:15:35.320 --> 0:15:37.360 and and what I mean by that is when the 0:15:37.440 --> 0:15:41.080 Kardashians broke onto our screens, there were no other ginormous 0:15:41.160 --> 0:15:44.760 reality shows where you had such an insight into the 0:15:44.800 --> 0:15:48.120 other half Hollywood how they live. Now there are so 0:15:48.240 --> 0:15:51.120 many reality shows, so so many families doing reality shows. 0:15:51.480 --> 0:15:54.600 I do, however, if you're also unsubscribing from the Kardashians, 0:15:54.960 --> 0:15:57.600 have a really good podcast recommendation. It is one that 0:15:57.640 --> 0:16:00.760 I've recommended before. It's the Subtle Art podcast Not Giving 0:16:00.760 --> 0:16:03.720 a Fark by Mark Manson. They did an episode with 0:16:03.880 --> 0:16:06.200 Rich Roll. Have you guys heard of ritual before he's 0:16:06.240 --> 0:16:09.640 one of the OG podcasters. No, okay, so he was 0:16:09.840 --> 0:16:13.480 a full alcoholic, like an addict. He's very very open 0:16:13.480 --> 0:16:16.560 about his flaws and his downfalls, and he in his 0:16:16.720 --> 0:16:21.080 forties turned into this ultra endurance athlete. And I know 0:16:21.200 --> 0:16:23.880 that when you kind of paint that picture, you get 0:16:23.880 --> 0:16:26.240 an idea of this person who's going to be really 0:16:26.320 --> 0:16:29.080 preachy and very like, I don't. 0:16:28.880 --> 0:16:29.720 Know, a bit cringe. 0:16:29.880 --> 0:16:31.560 No. For me, it almost makes me think that he's 0:16:31.560 --> 0:16:34.080 someone who's got like a hyper addictive personality. So he's 0:16:34.120 --> 0:16:36.760 taken his addiction for alcohol and put it into being 0:16:36.760 --> 0:16:37.320