Speaker 1: Flex and Frooms, Flex and Frooms. This is the Flex
Speaker 1: and Frooms catch up podcast.
Speaker 2: Happy Monday, Sweetie Pies. You know, I'm still talking to
Speaker 2: people about why I didn't like the Barbie movie. It
Speaker 2: really hit people, and I've come to a few conclusions
Speaker 2: for generalizations really based on the people who are querying
Speaker 2: me and what I didn't like. And what I can
Speaker 2: confirm is that the ven diagram between intense Taylors with
Speaker 2: fans and Barbie fans is a circle. Not derogatory, just
Speaker 2: an observation.
Speaker 1: I hated being contrary. It didn't suit me.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but well I thought, I thought I ate with
Speaker 2: that first hat you did. I stand by you, I.
Speaker 1: Mean Mickey, and they were in the cinema together, and
Speaker 1: you know we have one brain, so if she was yeah.
Speaker 2: Today we talk about how you refer to yourself in
Speaker 2: your head, and I pose the question, do you really
Speaker 2: have full responsibility or full ownership of your home if
Speaker 2: you live in a sharehouse. It's controversial, but we must
Speaker 2: discuss it.
Speaker 1: Let's go. You're listening to Flex and Rooms on cater
Speaker 1: often in this landscape in Australia, I'm thinking, have new
Speaker 1: sites run out of things to write about.
Speaker 2: I mean, you know how I feel about new sites.
Speaker 2: And then when I say new sites, I mean broadcasters
Speaker 2: who publish stuff online. I'm talking Channel seven, Channel ten,
Speaker 2: Channel nine. It's all just sadness and misery. If I
Speaker 2: see one more news story of a freak accident or
Speaker 2: someone getting murdered by their loved one, I'm like, just
Speaker 2: tell me what the stock market is doing. I'll take
Speaker 2: that into said.
Speaker 1: Tom Petrowski for life. Look and this isn't me taking
Speaker 1: a dig at the ABC because actually not like a
Speaker 1: little bit of fruitiness.
Speaker 2: I don't know.
Speaker 1: And they went full free with this one. They had
Speaker 1: like a live it was like an election, a live
Speaker 1: feed where people could rank Australian animal sounds from top
Speaker 1: to bottom. This is like, yeah, the election, They've got
Speaker 1: the role in coverage.
Speaker 2: I told you the world is getting weirder and weirder
Speaker 2: and weirder. And that made me sound like a traditional crude.
Speaker 1: But this is just this is it's not looking good.
Speaker 1: So can you just take around and guess, I mean,
Speaker 1: you've read it now, but.
Speaker 2: Well I keep glancing at the word magpie, so I
Speaker 2: haven't read it.
Speaker 1: With all due respect, that was the number one animal
Speaker 1: sound magpie. Magpie is like the squawking. It's a horrible,
Speaker 1: horrible sound.
Speaker 2: He was a little something like, what.
Speaker 1: All right, he's getting a up, y'all while she's doing that.
Speaker 1: Some other ones that were considered good was a frog,
Speaker 1: and I must say I had a bit of an
Speaker 1: investigation while ago.
Speaker 2: I love a frog in Queensland.
Speaker 1: Oh no, but I was in Bondi the other day, Bye,
Speaker 1: the other day, I mean two years ago, and I
Speaker 1: could hear this like croaking, and allegedly it is frogs.
Speaker 1: I went looking for the frogs. They were nowhere to
Speaker 1: be seen. I love that.
Speaker 2: What about a sokata?
Speaker 1: Cicadas are my number one favorite sound. It's the sound
Speaker 1: of summer. I also have some reminiscent nostalgia vibes. When
Speaker 1: I was a kid, my grandparents had a tree in
Speaker 1: their front yard which the cicadas would take their clothes
Speaker 1: off on even they shed takeo j I'm saying, you've
Speaker 1: seen a cicator. Yeah, you've not seen a cicada shell
Speaker 1: two thousand and three, guys.
Speaker 2: I haven't seen dog pool on the street in a
Speaker 2: while either, all right, But that's for the good reasons.
Speaker 1: To end this break, guys, Mickey's got a sound of
Speaker 1: a magpie?
Speaker 2: Are you ready?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 2: Rat, yeah, see. I don't know if that's the best
Speaker 2: sound we have on offer. I think that's just birds.
Speaker 2: I think yeah, those were like birds to me. This
Speaker 2: feels like quintessential Australiana if you were building a scene
Speaker 2: of Australia. That's the sound I want to hear. But
Speaker 2: is it the best sound? I don't know if it's
Speaker 2: the best sound.
Speaker 1: Often we joke in a Shoe, which we did mean
Speaker 1: minutes ago, that whenever there comes a time for a
Speaker 1: mental health query at the flex Froom show, it is
Speaker 1: firmly directed at Freemi Friminda Lucina Frim's price. I thought
Speaker 1: that I was keeping the mental health foibles under the
Speaker 1: wraps leaking. We were saying earlier, how like if Flexi
Speaker 1: takes fu days off the internet, people are like knocking
Speaker 1: on you everything okay?
Speaker 2: And now I'm having a question myself, is everything okay?
Speaker 2: I'm not quite sure.
Speaker 1: Look, we had someone send a voice not in, which
Speaker 1: always is our preferred method of communication. I think it's
Speaker 1: also great to get your This sounds condescending, but I'm
Speaker 1: a stick by it always great to get your voice
Speaker 1: note skills up to scratch.
Speaker 2: She said, maybe don't send us the first tape. No, no, no,
Speaker 2: Is that what you're saying?
Speaker 1: No, no, no, maybe practice.
Speaker 2: No.
Speaker 1: I'm saying, this is like a safe space to try
Speaker 1: your public speaking, oh situations, because I find I find
Speaker 1: you know, if I'm in a dating scenario, send a
Speaker 1: little voice message. You've got to do it back and
Speaker 1: forth a couple of times. You're doing it in like
Speaker 1: the voice memos. I's supposed to straight into the chat. However,
Speaker 1: I will say the unsent function on most devices. Now
Speaker 1: the unsung hero. Now, Mickey, please play the tape.
Speaker 3: Hey, ladies, I am doing you the honor of a
Speaker 3: voice message because I know you girls prepare that. I'm
Speaker 3: a mass fan of The Potty and I feel like
Speaker 3: I'm always having a chat with my besties in the
Speaker 3: car when I listen to it.
Speaker 1: It's amazing.
Speaker 3: But I was wondering what the girls would think about
Speaker 3: something that Threumy said on The Potty that kind of
Speaker 3: triggered a cascade in my brain about living up to
Speaker 3: your potential. And she said she always did that, and
Speaker 3: I feel like I always do that in myself. But
Speaker 3: I've had a lot of people around me say you
Speaker 3: always take on too much and you know, are you
Speaker 3: trying to fill a void or something like that, and
Speaker 3: it is up for different opinions, but I feel like
Speaker 3: I just have so much potential to be creative and
Speaker 3: I want to spread that love. So that's kind of
Speaker 3: where I stand on it. But there's also burning out
Speaker 3: and take you on too much. So I just wondered
Speaker 3: whether that's something they want to chat about. And I
Speaker 3: want to hear the thoughts. Thank you so much, ladies,
Speaker 3: love your lots.
Speaker 1: Immaculate, obsessed, maculate voice, not skills, a little bit of
Speaker 1: like a compliment up top.
Speaker 2: Yeap, get to it. Definitely sandwich of the compliment top
Speaker 2: and tail is always great.
Speaker 1: She wasn't demanding no no called action is great.
Speaker 2: Let us feel what you want to do with this information?
Speaker 2: Can this be anonymous and you respond to it. It's
Speaker 2: just a thought I wanted to share. That's always really helpful.
Speaker 1: Let's have a look what I've written. We came up
Speaker 1: with this concept a couple of weeks ago, and I
Speaker 1: wrote down something and then this morning I was looking
Speaker 1: at our braks and I read through what I wrote
Speaker 1: and I thought this was someone sending us in some advice. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I was as saying this is eating so I'm a
Speaker 1: repeat it verbatim. Wow, hard relate on this question. Love
Speaker 1: the fact that you.
Speaker 2: Changed the depth of your voice to be yourself.
Speaker 3: Wow.
Speaker 1: I think you should take stock of what exactly you
Speaker 1: think your potential is and then see if chasing after
Speaker 1: that will align to your values. It is also helpful
Speaker 1: to look back at your achievements and times you felt
Speaker 1: you lived up to your potential. How did that make
Speaker 1: you feel? For me? When I did well in school,
Speaker 1: always willing to drop the atar, but I won't please
Speaker 1: not some point of ninety seven point ninety five. I've
Speaker 1: never heard that it was a bumper year ninety seven
Speaker 1: point ninety five, that some tutoring involved. Who care for me?
Speaker 2: A silent academic? But this is.
Speaker 1: Throwing the hat in the air.
Speaker 2: Guys, all right, I'm telling the internet this.
Speaker 1: I felt so surprised and proud. This is me. I
Speaker 1: felt so surprised and proud. I remember I got my
Speaker 1: atar over text. My sage was like the first year
Speaker 1: when they came on text and I was in anyway,
Speaker 1: I won't tell you, sorry, Yeah, but the person I
Speaker 1: was we was shocked to their core, and it definitely
Speaker 1: gave me a major amount of confidence in my capabilities
Speaker 1: going forward. However, in other instances, take oh, I won't
Speaker 1: go there. But let's say you have some sort of
Speaker 1: mental health foible and you do something like you take
Speaker 1: it too far. Then living up to your potential is
Speaker 1: actually quite a limiting experience because the ideal version of
Speaker 1: yourself is a tricky thing to move towards. You'll also
Speaker 1: never know if you really lived up to your potential.
Speaker 1: I don't have direct advice regarding what I even though
Speaker 1: I just said all that, but I would say from
Speaker 1: my POV, the idea of my quote unquote potential is
Speaker 1: definitely still there a bit, but it's being superseded by
Speaker 1: wanting to enjoy the moment, which I think is difficult
Speaker 1: to do when you're quote unquote striving.
Speaker 2: Yeah, also yearninghining.
Speaker 1: Yeah, productivity is an illusion and a F word may
Speaker 1: just stitch up due to the industrial revolution vibes smiley
Speaker 1: face with a nose.
Speaker 2: So yeah, that was impeccable.
Speaker 1: Thanks, Thanks so anyway, I'm with you, sis. This actually
Speaker 1: came out quite a pertinent time, as per usual, because
Speaker 1: we're all in the same brain wave.
Speaker 2: And when I say at the end is near, that's
Speaker 2: why it's come up for everyone. You don't have to
Speaker 2: think about your purpose for living when you think you've
Speaker 2: got securies to go climate change, that I was gonna
Speaker 2: fix a baby, Yeah a, I will fix it.
Speaker 1: You're listening to Flex and Rooms on kit.
Speaker 2: Got a question that needs an honest answer, honest and
Speaker 2: earnest if you would. I need to understand how you
Speaker 2: refer to yourself in your head? Is it by name?
Speaker 2: Do you say, oh, Rooms? If I was Rooms, No,
Speaker 2: I'll be myself. Flex needs to go to or do
Speaker 2: you say I? Or is it me? Or is it we?
Speaker 2: Once I saw this originally on TikTok, the videos gone,
Speaker 2: so I can't even reference the original creator. And that's
Speaker 2: what happens when you delete the con don't you post okay,
Speaker 2: we can't give you credit. Anonymity is a myth. So initially,
Speaker 2: once I had listened to the video, I psyched myself
Speaker 2: out and I couldn't think of how I refer to
Speaker 2: myself because they all sounded fine. I will say if
Speaker 2: it's to do with something communal for my house, I'll say,
Speaker 2: like we need to we need more drinks, the house
Speaker 2: you living alone? Yeah, me and all my personalities. But
Speaker 2: if it's if it can be used by other people,
Speaker 2: or we need more we need more toilet paper, Oh,
Speaker 2: we need more drinks. Yeah, you know. But if it's
Speaker 2: like individuals, Oh, I need to eat and you say
Speaker 2: I in your head, I need to eat.
Speaker 1: I didn't think that you had a dialogue. No, it's
Speaker 1: the visual Oh, okay, you don't have visuals. I have both,
Speaker 1: I say which is?
Speaker 2: And when I say I don't have the visuals, it
Speaker 2: means I can't conjure out something I haven't seen before,
Speaker 2: so I can whack together elements of things.
Speaker 1: So I'm saying we're walking down a cobblestone street with
Speaker 1: plane trees that are overhanging over the thing.
Speaker 2: You know, your brain doesn't go to I'm still suck
Speaker 2: on cobblestone.
Speaker 1: So okay. When I refer to myself, it's a little
Speaker 1: bit deranged. However, I have started calling myself through me.
Speaker 1: Oh like when I'm on the internet too much, I
Speaker 1: think of my life in terms of Instagram stories.
Speaker 2: Did I give you the name for me?
Speaker 1: Maybe?
Speaker 2: Yeah, because you gave me FLEXI. I mean people would
Speaker 2: have used it casually. But I feel like you gave
Speaker 2: me flexi, and I quite like flexi because before, before flexi,
Speaker 2: it was just flex and then it used to be
Speaker 2: like flex Miami, felix whatever. Flexi is a fresh one.
Speaker 2: People would assume that was a slur for me. Okay,
Speaker 2: so back to what you were saying, so for me,
Speaker 2: But otherwise, I what you say to work. We needs
Speaker 2: to work. We needs to.
Speaker 1: Get my nickname out of your mouth, needs to sur
Speaker 1: how does it work? We need to get her up
Speaker 1: and do something. It's when I'm thinking about funny things
Speaker 1: I want to do, like free needs to like do
Speaker 1: a dance in my brain where I'm doing a dance
Speaker 1: battle against the family that lives in milkba storied moment
Speaker 1: in the froom of these So yeah, I guess as well.
Speaker 1: Because I'm a writer, like I will think in terms
Speaker 1: of if I'm writing a story about myself, does does
Speaker 1: that kind of make like I'm often thinking in sentences
Speaker 1: that I can say, oh, I also write the way
Speaker 1: that I speak.
Speaker 2: So an actually skill's let's say, and we'll end on
Speaker 2: this note. Very few people I can't even do it.
Speaker 2: I don't often write the way do I speak? Depending
Speaker 2: in some contexts, you know like you do it effortlessly
Speaker 2: because I get the emotion attached to what you're saying.
Speaker 2: I get the tone very easily. I never misunderstand what
Speaker 2: you're typing to me in any context, whereas I feel
Speaker 2: like I can flip between it a few different styles
Speaker 2: of writing that are quintessentially me, But depending on the context,
Speaker 2: it might feel more playful than I intend to come across,
Speaker 2: or more excited than I intend to come across. Because
Speaker 2: I type in all caps when I'm feeling quite neutral,
Speaker 2: you know, CEEO, see am.
Speaker 1: I AM, I am I the asshole.
Speaker 2: I close the question. It's really your house when you
Speaker 2: live in a sharehouse. This is not me being facetious.
Speaker 2: It's me realizing that very often when we talk about
Speaker 2: sharehouse dynamics, what comes to the forefront is this friction
Speaker 2: between what you, as people who live in this dwelling,
Speaker 2: are allowed to do and not do based on the
Speaker 2: other people who live there. Right, And you could say, well,
Speaker 2: you have those rules in any kind of house, but
Speaker 2: in a traditional family house you have not just rules
Speaker 2: for existing, but you have permission to do certain thing
Speaker 2: and that's innate. It doesn't change, sharehouse vibe don't really
Speaker 2: make sense anyway. We did get a listener letter in
Speaker 2: and when I say listener letter, it's a d M
Speaker 2: via Instagram.
Speaker 1: Let's bring back letter send us letters?
Speaker 2: Hey, can we drop the address now? You know?
Speaker 1: Someone sent me an email the other day because I
Speaker 1: close out of nowhere.
Speaker 2: And I like that people are sending through me emails
Speaker 2: when they can't get through their dms. Because for what
Speaker 2: happened for I would say about four months is if
Speaker 2: people couldn't get through through me, they dear me and
Speaker 2: get me to pass on the message. Just with my schedule,
Speaker 2: I wasn't getting there on time. Listen to this Hello
Speaker 2: girl bosses, Hello, I need help. I feel a confrontation pending.
Speaker 2: Who oh, and I need your sage expertise to get
Speaker 2: me through it. My housemate and friend, Cindy not her
Speaker 2: real name.
Speaker 1: Is oh okay, I said it to me.
Speaker 2: Licinda Yeah, is dating her colleague. She works at a
Speaker 2: local pub. And it's a bit incesty in that everyone
Speaker 2: dates everyone. I'm not as big as a fam. He
Speaker 2: comes over after work like two am on a weeknight
Speaker 2: and starts slamming doors using our shower, sometimes even using
Speaker 2: the microwave and it's loud. I've told her before that
Speaker 2: if he's over, he needs to be a little quiet.
Speaker 2: I work nine to five and I'm a light sleeper. Anyways,
Speaker 2: these little sleepovers have up in frequency in the last
Speaker 2: four months. It was twice a week, so to now
Speaker 2: five to six days a week. And the other day
Speaker 2: Cindy very nonchalantly mentioned that the boyfriend has nowhere to live,
Speaker 2: that he's been kicked out of his sharehouse, which got
Speaker 2: me thinking, wait a second, is he living here? I've
Speaker 2: noticed his stuff is in the living room and I
Speaker 2: stuck into her room and he's put his whole desktop
Speaker 2: computer in there. I feel like she should have told
Speaker 2: me that he was moving in, and I feel so
Speaker 2: nosey having to ask. But at the end of the day,
Speaker 2: you can't have someone move into our house and not
Speaker 2: tell me. Am I the asshole for thinking this way?
Speaker 2: Am I crazy?
Speaker 1: Please help quite a precarious situation.
Speaker 2: It's not looking good, brav, But look, we do have
Speaker 2: some sage advice for you, so I can understand why. Fundamentally,
Speaker 2: sharehouse dynamics are set up to fail because a lot
Speaker 2: of us escape the sharehouse dynamic of traditional home for
Speaker 2: this freedom that you lose when you live with strangers.
Speaker 2: My question is, and I just want your honest answer,
Speaker 2: do you have to run your life by the people
Speaker 2: you live with because you happen to live in the
Speaker 2: same house? You know, for all intentsive purposes, If this
Speaker 2: person is paying rent to be there, let's say two
Speaker 2: p fifty to fifty, they're idle to fifty percent of
Speaker 2: whatever they want to do in the house. Like, what
Speaker 2: is the math there? And then if you pay more,
Speaker 2: are you more entitled?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 2: Floor space wise, because this person could say, well, I
Speaker 2: live here, it's my house, it's my rent, it's my partner.
Speaker 2: They're in my room. Yep, what's the issue.
Speaker 1: I gotta say, I've never really lived in a sharehouse
Speaker 1: where there was a partner who would come over a
Speaker 1: lot scary. I don't know how i'd deal with it.
Speaker 1: So I think that.
Speaker 2: Would be a perpetrator of that.
Speaker 1: Oh oh yeah, Actually I went through a little faith. No,
Speaker 1: I'd go to his house just as much.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1: But I can see how it get quite grating. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you don't want another body in your house? Well, you
Speaker 1: gotta have a conversation to giry how I reckon like
Speaker 1: started over text because she knows what she's doing, she
Speaker 1: knows she's put in the boundaries, but you got to
Speaker 1: let her know because she might just think that you're
Speaker 1: chill with it.
Speaker 2: I feel that it could definitely come across as well.
Speaker 2: She hasn't mentioned anything yet. If it's an issue, she
Speaker 2: would have said something, which we're gonna chat about this
Speaker 2: in future, because they've seen a lot of advice floating
Speaker 2: around the internet, and I don't know where it's come from,
Speaker 2: but it's cropped up quite frequently, people saying that if
Speaker 2: someone hasn't come to you directly, assume there isn't a problem.
Speaker 2: Don't measure their body language, don't catch a vibe, don't
Speaker 2: just suss their Instagram and draw conclusions. If they haven't
Speaker 2: told you directly directly, there is no problem. I would disagree,
Speaker 2: but that's not all we're discussing today. In this instance
Speaker 2: of what to do with this sharehouse. I like Fumy's
Speaker 2: advice of sending a text first, barumeda vibe, get a
Speaker 2: vibe check. It could just be like, oh my god, sorry, yep,
Speaker 2: I was gonna mention it he's actually leaving tomorrow or
Speaker 2: good or It could be the start of a never
Speaker 2: ending conversation and you might need to leave or sabotage them.
Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, how would you do that? Just make it
Speaker 2: really uncomfortable for them.
Speaker 1: You know what you should do, This is a classic one.
Speaker 1: Boil an egg and then put the egg in the room.
Speaker 1: I can't find it, and then all sat ron, I've
Speaker 1: done it before. You have accidentally when I was a kid,
Speaker 1: I've told you, oh, accidentally, yeah yeah, never on purpose.
Speaker 2: She's a victim.
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