WEBVTT - ⭐ Froomie Got A 97.95 ATAR ⭐

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<v Speaker 1>Flex and Frooms, Flex and Frooms. This is the Flex

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<v Speaker 1>and Frooms catch up podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>Happy Monday, Sweetie Pies. You know, I'm still talking to

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<v Speaker 2>people about why I didn't like the Barbie movie. It

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<v Speaker 2>really hit people, and I've come to a few conclusions

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<v Speaker 2>for generalizations really based on the people who are querying

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<v Speaker 2>me and what I didn't like. And what I can

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<v Speaker 2>confirm is that the ven diagram between intense Taylors with

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<v Speaker 2>fans and Barbie fans is a circle. Not derogatory, just

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<v Speaker 2>an observation.

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<v Speaker 1>I hated being contrary. It didn't suit me.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but well I thought, I thought I ate with

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<v Speaker 2>that first hat you did. I stand by you, I.

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<v Speaker 1>Mean Mickey, and they were in the cinema together, and

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<v Speaker 1>you know we have one brain, so if she was yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Today we talk about how you refer to yourself in

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<v Speaker 2>your head, and I pose the question, do you really

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<v Speaker 2>have full responsibility or full ownership of your home if

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<v Speaker 2>you live in a sharehouse. It's controversial, but we must

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<v Speaker 2>discuss it.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's go. You're listening to Flex and Rooms on cater

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<v Speaker 1>often in this landscape in Australia, I'm thinking, have new

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<v Speaker 1>sites run out of things to write about.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, you know how I feel about new sites.

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<v Speaker 2>And then when I say new sites, I mean broadcasters

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<v Speaker 2>who publish stuff online. I'm talking Channel seven, Channel ten,

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<v Speaker 2>Channel nine. It's all just sadness and misery. If I

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<v Speaker 2>see one more news story of a freak accident or

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<v Speaker 2>someone getting murdered by their loved one, I'm like, just

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<v Speaker 2>tell me what the stock market is doing. I'll take

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<v Speaker 2>that into said.

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<v Speaker 1>Tom Petrowski for life. Look and this isn't me taking

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<v Speaker 1>a dig at the ABC because actually not like a

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<v Speaker 1>little bit of fruitiness.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>And they went full free with this one. They had

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<v Speaker 1>like a live it was like an election, a live

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<v Speaker 1>feed where people could rank Australian animal sounds from top

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<v Speaker 1>to bottom. This is like, yeah, the election, They've got

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<v Speaker 1>the role in coverage.

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<v Speaker 2>I told you the world is getting weirder and weirder

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<v Speaker 2>and weirder. And that made me sound like a traditional crude.

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<v Speaker 1>But this is just this is it's not looking good.

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<v Speaker 1>So can you just take around and guess, I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>you've read it now, but.

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<v Speaker 2>Well I keep glancing at the word magpie, so I

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<v Speaker 2>haven't read it.

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<v Speaker 1>With all due respect, that was the number one animal

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<v Speaker 1>sound magpie. Magpie is like the squawking. It's a horrible,

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<v Speaker 1>horrible sound.

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<v Speaker 2>He was a little something like, what.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, he's getting a up, y'all while she's doing that.

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<v Speaker 1>Some other ones that were considered good was a frog,

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<v Speaker 1>and I must say I had a bit of an

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<v Speaker 1>investigation while ago.

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<v Speaker 2>I love a frog in Queensland.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh no, but I was in Bondi the other day, Bye,

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<v Speaker 1>the other day, I mean two years ago, and I

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<v Speaker 1>could hear this like croaking, and allegedly it is frogs.

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<v Speaker 1>I went looking for the frogs. They were nowhere to

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<v Speaker 1>be seen. I love that.

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<v Speaker 2>What about a sokata?

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<v Speaker 1>Cicadas are my number one favorite sound. It's the sound

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<v Speaker 1>of summer. I also have some reminiscent nostalgia vibes. When

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<v Speaker 1>I was a kid, my grandparents had a tree in

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<v Speaker 1>their front yard which the cicadas would take their clothes

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<v Speaker 1>off on even they shed takeo j I'm saying, you've

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<v Speaker 1>seen a cicator. Yeah, you've not seen a cicada shell

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<v Speaker 1>two thousand and three, guys.

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<v Speaker 2>I haven't seen dog pool on the street in a

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<v Speaker 2>while either, all right, But that's for the good reasons.

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<v Speaker 1>To end this break, guys, Mickey's got a sound of

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<v Speaker 1>a magpie?

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<v Speaker 2>Are you ready?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>Rat, yeah, see. I don't know if that's the best

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<v Speaker 2>sound we have on offer. I think that's just birds.

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<v Speaker 2>I think yeah, those were like birds to me. This

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<v Speaker 2>feels like quintessential Australiana if you were building a scene

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<v Speaker 2>of Australia. That's the sound I want to hear. But

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<v Speaker 2>is it the best sound? I don't know if it's

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<v Speaker 2>the best sound.

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<v Speaker 1>Often we joke in a Shoe, which we did mean

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<v Speaker 1>minutes ago, that whenever there comes a time for a

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<v Speaker 1>mental health query at the flex Froom show, it is

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<v Speaker 1>firmly directed at Freemi Friminda Lucina Frim's price. I thought

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<v Speaker 1>that I was keeping the mental health foibles under the

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<v Speaker 1>wraps leaking. We were saying earlier, how like if Flexi

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<v Speaker 1>takes fu days off the internet, people are like knocking

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<v Speaker 1>on you everything okay?

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<v Speaker 2>And now I'm having a question myself, is everything okay?

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not quite sure.

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<v Speaker 1>Look, we had someone send a voice not in, which

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<v Speaker 1>always is our preferred method of communication. I think it's

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<v Speaker 1>also great to get your This sounds condescending, but I'm

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<v Speaker 1>a stick by it always great to get your voice

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<v Speaker 1>note skills up to scratch.

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<v Speaker 2>She said, maybe don't send us the first tape. No, no, no,

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<v Speaker 2>Is that what you're saying?

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<v Speaker 1>No, no, no, maybe practice.

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<v Speaker 2>No.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm saying, this is like a safe space to try

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<v Speaker 1>your public speaking, oh situations, because I find I find

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<v Speaker 1>you know, if I'm in a dating scenario, send a

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<v Speaker 1>little voice message. You've got to do it back and

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<v Speaker 1>forth a couple of times. You're doing it in like

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<v Speaker 1>the voice memos. I's supposed to straight into the chat. However,

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<v Speaker 1>I will say the unsent function on most devices. Now

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<v Speaker 1>the unsung hero. Now, Mickey, please play the tape.

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<v Speaker 3>Hey, ladies, I am doing you the honor of a

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<v Speaker 3>voice message because I know you girls prepare that. I'm

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<v Speaker 3>a mass fan of The Potty and I feel like

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<v Speaker 3>I'm always having a chat with my besties in the

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<v Speaker 3>car when I listen to it.

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<v Speaker 1>It's amazing.

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<v Speaker 3>But I was wondering what the girls would think about

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<v Speaker 3>something that Threumy said on The Potty that kind of

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<v Speaker 3>triggered a cascade in my brain about living up to

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<v Speaker 3>your potential. And she said she always did that, and

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<v Speaker 3>I feel like I always do that in myself. But

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<v Speaker 3>I've had a lot of people around me say you

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<v Speaker 3>always take on too much and you know, are you

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<v Speaker 3>trying to fill a void or something like that, and

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<v Speaker 3>it is up for different opinions, but I feel like

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<v Speaker 3>I just have so much potential to be creative and

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<v Speaker 3>I want to spread that love. So that's kind of

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<v Speaker 3>where I stand on it. But there's also burning out

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<v Speaker 3>and take you on too much. So I just wondered

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<v Speaker 3>whether that's something they want to chat about. And I

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<v Speaker 3>want to hear the thoughts. Thank you so much, ladies,

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<v Speaker 3>love your lots.

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<v Speaker 1>Immaculate, obsessed, maculate voice, not skills, a little bit of

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<v Speaker 1>like a compliment up top.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeap, get to it. Definitely sandwich of the compliment top

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<v Speaker 2>and tail is always great.

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<v Speaker 1>She wasn't demanding no no called action is great.

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<v Speaker 2>Let us feel what you want to do with this information?

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<v Speaker 2>Can this be anonymous and you respond to it. It's

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<v Speaker 2>just a thought I wanted to share. That's always really helpful.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's have a look what I've written. We came up

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<v Speaker 1>with this concept a couple of weeks ago, and I

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<v Speaker 1>wrote down something and then this morning I was looking

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<v Speaker 1>at our braks and I read through what I wrote

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<v Speaker 1>and I thought this was someone sending us in some advice. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I was as saying this is eating so I'm a

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<v Speaker 1>repeat it verbatim. Wow, hard relate on this question. Love

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<v Speaker 1>the fact that you.

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<v Speaker 2>Changed the depth of your voice to be yourself.

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<v Speaker 3>Wow.

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<v Speaker 1>I think you should take stock of what exactly you

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<v Speaker 1>think your potential is and then see if chasing after

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<v Speaker 1>that will align to your values. It is also helpful

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<v Speaker 1>to look back at your achievements and times you felt

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<v Speaker 1>you lived up to your potential. How did that make

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<v Speaker 1>you feel? For me? When I did well in school,

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<v Speaker 1>always willing to drop the atar, but I won't please

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<v Speaker 1>not some point of ninety seven point ninety five. I've

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<v Speaker 1>never heard that it was a bumper year ninety seven

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<v Speaker 1>point ninety five, that some tutoring involved. Who care for me?

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<v Speaker 2>A silent academic? But this is.

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<v Speaker 1>Throwing the hat in the air.

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<v Speaker 2>Guys, all right, I'm telling the internet this.

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<v Speaker 1>I felt so surprised and proud. This is me. I

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<v Speaker 1>felt so surprised and proud. I remember I got my

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<v Speaker 1>atar over text. My sage was like the first year

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<v Speaker 1>when they came on text and I was in anyway,

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<v Speaker 1>I won't tell you, sorry, Yeah, but the person I

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<v Speaker 1>was we was shocked to their core, and it definitely

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<v Speaker 1>gave me a major amount of confidence in my capabilities

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<v Speaker 1>going forward. However, in other instances, take oh, I won't

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<v Speaker 1>go there. But let's say you have some sort of

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<v Speaker 1>mental health foible and you do something like you take

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<v Speaker 1>it too far. Then living up to your potential is

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<v Speaker 1>actually quite a limiting experience because the ideal version of

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<v Speaker 1>yourself is a tricky thing to move towards. You'll also

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<v Speaker 1>never know if you really lived up to your potential.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't have direct advice regarding what I even though

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<v Speaker 1>I just said all that, but I would say from

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<v Speaker 1>my POV, the idea of my quote unquote potential is

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<v Speaker 1>definitely still there a bit, but it's being superseded by

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<v Speaker 1>wanting to enjoy the moment, which I think is difficult

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<v Speaker 1>to do when you're quote unquote striving.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, also yearninghining.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, productivity is an illusion and a F word may

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<v Speaker 1>just stitch up due to the industrial revolution vibes smiley

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<v Speaker 1>face with a nose.

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<v Speaker 2>So yeah, that was impeccable.

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<v Speaker 1>Thanks, Thanks so anyway, I'm with you, sis. This actually

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<v Speaker 1>came out quite a pertinent time, as per usual, because

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<v Speaker 1>we're all in the same brain wave.

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<v Speaker 2>And when I say at the end is near, that's

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<v Speaker 2>why it's come up for everyone. You don't have to

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<v Speaker 2>think about your purpose for living when you think you've

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<v Speaker 2>got securies to go climate change, that I was gonna

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<v Speaker 2>fix a baby, Yeah a, I will fix it.

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<v Speaker 1>You're listening to Flex and Rooms on kit.

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<v Speaker 2>Got a question that needs an honest answer, honest and

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<v Speaker 2>earnest if you would. I need to understand how you

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<v Speaker 2>refer to yourself in your head? Is it by name?

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<v Speaker 2>Do you say, oh, Rooms? If I was Rooms, No,

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<v Speaker 2>I'll be myself. Flex needs to go to or do

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<v Speaker 2>you say I? Or is it me? Or is it we?

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<v Speaker 2>Once I saw this originally on TikTok, the videos gone,

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<v Speaker 2>so I can't even reference the original creator. And that's

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<v Speaker 2>what happens when you delete the con don't you post okay,

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<v Speaker 2>we can't give you credit. Anonymity is a myth. So initially,

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<v Speaker 2>once I had listened to the video, I psyched myself

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<v Speaker 2>out and I couldn't think of how I refer to

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<v Speaker 2>myself because they all sounded fine. I will say if

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<v Speaker 2>it's to do with something communal for my house, I'll say,

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<v Speaker 2>like we need to we need more drinks, the house

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<v Speaker 2>you living alone? Yeah, me and all my personalities. But

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<v Speaker 2>if it's if it can be used by other people,

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<v Speaker 2>or we need more we need more toilet paper, Oh,

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<v Speaker 2>we need more drinks. Yeah, you know. But if it's

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<v Speaker 2>like individuals, Oh, I need to eat and you say

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<v Speaker 2>I in your head, I need to eat.

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't think that you had a dialogue. No, it's

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<v Speaker 1>the visual Oh, okay, you don't have visuals. I have both,

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<v Speaker 1>I say which is?

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<v Speaker 2>And when I say I don't have the visuals, it

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<v Speaker 2>means I can't conjure out something I haven't seen before,

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<v Speaker 2>so I can whack together elements of things.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm saying we're walking down a cobblestone street with

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<v Speaker 1>plane trees that are overhanging over the thing.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, your brain doesn't go to I'm still suck

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<v Speaker 2>on cobblestone.

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<v Speaker 1>So okay. When I refer to myself, it's a little

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<v Speaker 1>bit deranged. However, I have started calling myself through me.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh like when I'm on the internet too much, I

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<v Speaker 1>think of my life in terms of Instagram stories.

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<v Speaker 2>Did I give you the name for me?

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, because you gave me FLEXI. I mean people would

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<v Speaker 2>have used it casually. But I feel like you gave

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<v Speaker 2>me flexi, and I quite like flexi because before, before flexi,

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<v Speaker 2>it was just flex and then it used to be

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<v Speaker 2>like flex Miami, felix whatever. Flexi is a fresh one.

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<v Speaker 2>People would assume that was a slur for me. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>so back to what you were saying, so for me,

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<v Speaker 2>But otherwise, I what you say to work. We needs

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<v Speaker 2>to work. We needs to.

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<v Speaker 1>Get my nickname out of your mouth, needs to sur

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<v Speaker 1>how does it work? We need to get her up

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<v Speaker 1>and do something. It's when I'm thinking about funny things

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<v Speaker 1>I want to do, like free needs to like do

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<v Speaker 1>a dance in my brain where I'm doing a dance

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<v Speaker 1>battle against the family that lives in milkba storied moment

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<v Speaker 1>in the froom of these So yeah, I guess as well.

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<v Speaker 1>Because I'm a writer, like I will think in terms

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<v Speaker 1>of if I'm writing a story about myself, does does

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<v Speaker 1>that kind of make like I'm often thinking in sentences

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<v Speaker 1>that I can say, oh, I also write the way

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<v Speaker 1>that I speak.

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<v Speaker 2>So an actually skill's let's say, and we'll end on

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<v Speaker 2>this note. Very few people I can't even do it.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't often write the way do I speak? Depending

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<v Speaker 2>in some contexts, you know like you do it effortlessly

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<v Speaker 2>because I get the emotion attached to what you're saying.

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<v Speaker 2>I get the tone very easily. I never misunderstand what

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<v Speaker 2>you're typing to me in any context, whereas I feel

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<v Speaker 2>like I can flip between it a few different styles

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<v Speaker 2>of writing that are quintessentially me, But depending on the context,

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<v Speaker 2>it might feel more playful than I intend to come across,

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<v Speaker 2>or more excited than I intend to come across. Because

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<v Speaker 2>I type in all caps when I'm feeling quite neutral,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, CEEO, see am.

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<v Speaker 1>I AM, I am I the asshole.

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<v Speaker 2>I close the question. It's really your house when you

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<v Speaker 2>live in a sharehouse. This is not me being facetious.

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<v Speaker 2>It's me realizing that very often when we talk about

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<v Speaker 2>sharehouse dynamics, what comes to the forefront is this friction

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<v Speaker 2>between what you, as people who live in this dwelling,

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<v Speaker 2>are allowed to do and not do based on the

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<v Speaker 2>other people who live there. Right, And you could say, well,

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<v Speaker 2>you have those rules in any kind of house, but

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<v Speaker 2>in a traditional family house you have not just rules

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<v Speaker 2>for existing, but you have permission to do certain thing

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<v Speaker 2>and that's innate. It doesn't change, sharehouse vibe don't really

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<v Speaker 2>make sense anyway. We did get a listener letter in

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<v Speaker 2>and when I say listener letter, it's a d M

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<v Speaker 2>via Instagram.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's bring back letter send us letters?

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<v Speaker 2>Hey, can we drop the address now? You know?

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<v Speaker 1>Someone sent me an email the other day because I

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<v Speaker 1>close out of nowhere.

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<v Speaker 2>And I like that people are sending through me emails

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<v Speaker 2>when they can't get through their dms. Because for what

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<v Speaker 2>happened for I would say about four months is if

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<v Speaker 2>people couldn't get through through me, they dear me and

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<v Speaker 2>get me to pass on the message. Just with my schedule,

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<v Speaker 2>I wasn't getting there on time. Listen to this Hello

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<v Speaker 2>girl bosses, Hello, I need help. I feel a confrontation pending.

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<v Speaker 2>Who oh, and I need your sage expertise to get

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<v Speaker 2>me through it. My housemate and friend, Cindy not her

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<v Speaker 2>real name.

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<v Speaker 1>Is oh okay, I said it to me.

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<v Speaker 2>Licinda Yeah, is dating her colleague. She works at a

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<v Speaker 2>local pub. And it's a bit incesty in that everyone

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<v Speaker 2>dates everyone. I'm not as big as a fam. He

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<v Speaker 2>comes over after work like two am on a weeknight

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<v Speaker 2>and starts slamming doors using our shower, sometimes even using

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<v Speaker 2>the microwave and it's loud. I've told her before that

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<v Speaker 2>if he's over, he needs to be a little quiet.

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<v Speaker 2>I work nine to five and I'm a light sleeper. Anyways,

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<v Speaker 2>these little sleepovers have up in frequency in the last

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<v Speaker 2>four months. It was twice a week, so to now

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<v Speaker 2>five to six days a week. And the other day

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<v Speaker 2>Cindy very nonchalantly mentioned that the boyfriend has nowhere to live,

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<v Speaker 2>that he's been kicked out of his sharehouse, which got

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<v Speaker 2>me thinking, wait a second, is he living here? I've

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<v Speaker 2>noticed his stuff is in the living room and I

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<v Speaker 2>stuck into her room and he's put his whole desktop

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<v Speaker 2>computer in there. I feel like she should have told

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<v Speaker 2>me that he was moving in, and I feel so

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<v Speaker 2>nosey having to ask. But at the end of the day,

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<v Speaker 2>you can't have someone move into our house and not

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<v Speaker 2>tell me. Am I the asshole for thinking this way?

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<v Speaker 2>Am I crazy?

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<v Speaker 1>Please help quite a precarious situation.

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<v Speaker 2>It's not looking good, brav, But look, we do have

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<v Speaker 2>some sage advice for you, so I can understand why. Fundamentally,

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<v Speaker 2>sharehouse dynamics are set up to fail because a lot

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<v Speaker 2>of us escape the sharehouse dynamic of traditional home for

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<v Speaker 2>this freedom that you lose when you live with strangers.

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<v Speaker 2>My question is, and I just want your honest answer,

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<v Speaker 2>do you have to run your life by the people

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<v Speaker 2>you live with because you happen to live in the

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<v Speaker 2>same house? You know, for all intentsive purposes, If this

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<v Speaker 2>person is paying rent to be there, let's say two

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<v Speaker 2>p fifty to fifty, they're idle to fifty percent of

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<v Speaker 2>whatever they want to do in the house. Like, what

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<v Speaker 2>is the math there? And then if you pay more,

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<v Speaker 2>are you more entitled?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>Floor space wise, because this person could say, well, I

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<v Speaker 2>live here, it's my house, it's my rent, it's my partner.

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<v Speaker 2>They're in my room. Yep, what's the issue.

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<v Speaker 1>I gotta say, I've never really lived in a sharehouse

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<v Speaker 1>where there was a partner who would come over a

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<v Speaker 1>lot scary. I don't know how i'd deal with it.

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<v Speaker 1>So I think that.

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<v Speaker 2>Would be a perpetrator of that.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh oh yeah, Actually I went through a little faith. No,

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<v Speaker 1>I'd go to his house just as much.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>But I can see how it get quite grating. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>you don't want another body in your house? Well, you

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<v Speaker 1>gotta have a conversation to giry how I reckon like

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<v Speaker 1>started over text because she knows what she's doing, she

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<v Speaker 1>knows she's put in the boundaries, but you got to

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<v Speaker 1>let her know because she might just think that you're

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<v Speaker 1>chill with it.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel that it could definitely come across as well.

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<v Speaker 2>She hasn't mentioned anything yet. If it's an issue, she

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<v Speaker 2>would have said something, which we're gonna chat about this

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<v Speaker 2>in future, because they've seen a lot of advice floating

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<v Speaker 2>around the internet, and I don't know where it's come from,

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<v Speaker 2>but it's cropped up quite frequently, people saying that if

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<v Speaker 2>someone hasn't come to you directly, assume there isn't a problem.

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<v Speaker 2>Don't measure their body language, don't catch a vibe, don't

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<v Speaker 2>just suss their Instagram and draw conclusions. If they haven't

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<v Speaker 2>told you directly directly, there is no problem. I would disagree,

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<v Speaker 2>but that's not all we're discussing today. In this instance

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<v Speaker 2>of what to do with this sharehouse. I like Fumy's

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<v Speaker 2>advice of sending a text first, barumeda vibe, get a

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<v Speaker 2>vibe check. It could just be like, oh my god, sorry, yep,

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<v Speaker 2>I was gonna mention it he's actually leaving tomorrow or

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<v Speaker 2>good or It could be the start of a never

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<v Speaker 2>ending conversation and you might need to leave or sabotage them.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah yeah, how would you do that? Just make it

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<v Speaker 2>really uncomfortable for them.

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<v Speaker 1>You know what you should do, This is a classic one.

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<v Speaker 1>Boil an egg and then put the egg in the room.

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<v Speaker 1>I can't find it, and then all sat ron, I've

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<v Speaker 1>done it before. You have accidentally when I was a kid,

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<v Speaker 1>I've told you, oh, accidentally, yeah yeah, never on purpose.

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<v Speaker 2>She's a victim.

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