WEBVTT - 3 life lessons you need to hear for 2022 🦋 0:00:00.040 --> 0:00:03.480 I'm someone who finds it so uncomfortable, but I sit 0:00:03.560 --> 0:00:05.840 with it and I feel it, and then I get 0:00:05.880 --> 0:00:09.440 the feeling out. And that has been a game changer, 0:00:10.200 --> 0:00:13.840 justin sort of feeling feelings and being more connected to 0:00:13.880 --> 0:00:35.680 my inner self. Hello and welcome back to the Riz 0:00:35.760 --> 0:00:40.840 and Conker Podcast. It is your host, Georgie Stephenson. As 0:00:40.920 --> 0:00:45.600 some of you may know, I'm currently on maternity leave, 0:00:46.240 --> 0:00:50.239 so Tim and I are soaking up the newborn bubble 0:00:50.800 --> 0:00:54.600 and new parent life with our little baby girl. But 0:00:54.760 --> 0:00:57.000 I did not want to leave my ron C fan 0:00:57.120 --> 0:01:02.040 with nothing, so we are back the best bits of 0:01:02.120 --> 0:01:05.440 the Rise and Conquer podcast. We have nearly over two 0:01:05.520 --> 0:01:07.920 hundred episodes, so I thought it would be a cool 0:01:07.959 --> 0:01:11.920 idea to bring you snippets from the most listened to, 0:01:12.800 --> 0:01:16.920 the most talked about episodes and just give you the 0:01:16.959 --> 0:01:21.440 best bits in a mini episode. So be prepared to 0:01:21.560 --> 0:01:27.400 get straight into juicy topics, to feel inspired, to feel motivated, empowered, 0:01:27.480 --> 0:01:32.240 and of course informed. These episodes are shorter, but they're 0:01:32.280 --> 0:01:35.520 just full of the best bits. If you did like 0:01:35.600 --> 0:01:38.559 this mini app, make sure you go to the show 0:01:38.600 --> 0:01:42.039 notes where we have linked the full episode. And I 0:01:42.160 --> 0:01:44.800 just want to say I really appreciate you guys still 0:01:44.880 --> 0:01:48.040 supporting the show while I'm taking some time off to 0:01:48.240 --> 0:01:51.520 enjoy Baby Girl, and I just can't wait to be 0:01:51.600 --> 0:01:54.880 back in your ears with fresh episodes in the new year. 0:01:55.600 --> 0:01:58.560 We have been planning the next season and there are 0:01:58.800 --> 0:02:03.320 so many exciting guests and surprises coming up, so I 0:02:03.400 --> 0:02:07.160 really hope you enjoy this mini episode. Let's get straight 0:02:07.240 --> 0:02:11.480 into the show. So number one, and it's nothing new 0:02:11.680 --> 0:02:14.720 or exciting, but this is very much a principle that 0:02:15.000 --> 0:02:20.200 I now live my life by, and it's everything happens 0:02:20.240 --> 0:02:24.160 for a reason, and I need to be trusting in 0:02:24.240 --> 0:02:27.440 the process. So the reason why I'm bringing this up 0:02:27.720 --> 0:02:31.919 is obviously I started my law degree and finished out 0:02:31.919 --> 0:02:34.600 for like six years. God admit, as a lawyer, did 0:02:34.600 --> 0:02:39.280 my pot and now I'm doing something so different and 0:02:39.320 --> 0:02:43.720 I often get asked if you know I regret doing that, 0:02:44.240 --> 0:02:47.760 and the answer is definitely no. I am such a 0:02:47.760 --> 0:02:52.240 big believer in that needed to happen for me to 0:02:52.280 --> 0:02:55.920 become the person I am today, and even kind of 0:02:55.960 --> 0:02:59.519 looking at it a little bit closer, like the skills 0:02:59.639 --> 0:03:04.640 I developed through working for the law firm I did 0:03:04.800 --> 0:03:07.680 even through working through my law degree, I had various 0:03:08.280 --> 0:03:10.320 jobs where I developed a lot of skills, and then 0:03:10.360 --> 0:03:13.520 obviously the law degree also comes in handy, just with 0:03:14.680 --> 0:03:18.119 various skills and life skills. And just like a little example, 0:03:18.240 --> 0:03:22.400 so I hired mel in twenty eighteen and she really 0:03:22.440 --> 0:03:26.520 helped me transform my business from this kind of like 0:03:26.960 --> 0:03:30.480 influencer personal brand to what it is now where it's 0:03:30.560 --> 0:03:35.080 very multifacet and you know, there's lots going on, and 0:03:35.160 --> 0:03:37.800 to be honest, I think a lot of that was 0:03:37.920 --> 0:03:42.160 me taking myself more seriously and giving myself more responsibility 0:03:42.160 --> 0:03:45.000 because I now had someone on my team. A lot 0:03:45.040 --> 0:03:49.320 of that was also realizing when I was working in 0:03:49.360 --> 0:03:52.839 the law firm that people worked so much better than 0:03:53.000 --> 0:03:56.200 a team. You know, that whole saying if I want 0:03:56.200 --> 0:03:58.720 to go quick, I'll go by myself. If I want 0:03:58.760 --> 0:04:01.480 to go far, I'll go with the team. I think 0:04:01.520 --> 0:04:04.080 that's right. But I'm such a big believer in that. 0:04:04.200 --> 0:04:07.640 And then even kind of little thing, so for example, 0:04:08.240 --> 0:04:12.400 I obviously work with brands and partnerships within my personal brand, 0:04:12.880 --> 0:04:17.200 whether that's in a sponsorships on Instagram or YouTube, or 0:04:17.240 --> 0:04:20.040 even if it's you know, to do with the podcast 0:04:20.160 --> 0:04:24.240 or Naked Harvest and the biggest feedback that I have 0:04:24.360 --> 0:04:29.800 ever gotten is how professional my communication is, just in 0:04:29.839 --> 0:04:32.520 regards to you know, emailing people, getting back to people 0:04:33.120 --> 0:04:36.440 and that sort of thing. And the kind of most 0:04:36.520 --> 0:04:40.360 common thing that comes up is people give me the feedback. 0:04:40.520 --> 0:04:45.479 With other social media influences, sometimes it's a little bit 0:04:45.600 --> 0:04:50.040 hard to work with them. And I've even noticed this 0:04:50.240 --> 0:04:54.760 within Naked Harvest, because we obviously work with influencers. Is 0:04:55.320 --> 0:04:59.240 you can really notice the people who kind of don't 0:04:59.320 --> 0:05:03.279 have the skill of even just writing an email and 0:05:03.320 --> 0:05:07.040 getting back to you, you know, within a good standard 0:05:07.080 --> 0:05:10.760 amount of time. And I think that's because a lot 0:05:10.839 --> 0:05:15.080 of social media influences these days probably go straight from 0:05:15.240 --> 0:05:18.360 high school and like Instagram is kind of like their 0:05:18.400 --> 0:05:20.880 part time job, and they go straight into doing it 0:05:20.960 --> 0:05:24.640 full time, and it really shows that they haven't got 0:05:24.680 --> 0:05:28.440 those basic kind of life skills of working in a 0:05:28.520 --> 0:05:32.320 team or you know, having customers and that sort of thing. 0:05:32.480 --> 0:05:36.479 So honestly, my path, everything that has happened, I would 0:05:36.480 --> 0:05:40.320 not change a thing. Everything has happened exactly how it 0:05:40.400 --> 0:05:45.040 should and even things happening now, I just always tell myself, 0:05:45.080 --> 0:05:48.039 I'm like, trust in the process. This is all happening 0:05:48.040 --> 0:05:51.240 for a reason. So that's a very broad, big one, 0:05:51.520 --> 0:05:55.520 hitting it straight out, all right. So the next lesson 0:05:56.400 --> 0:06:01.839 is really changing my mindset on things happen for me 0:06:02.360 --> 0:06:06.359 not to me. So when I left high school, I 0:06:06.520 --> 0:06:10.159 definitely wasn't like a negative person or too much in 0:06:10.240 --> 0:06:14.279 a negative mindset, But I wasn't exactly positive, and I 0:06:14.440 --> 0:06:16.880 wasn't I don't know, like I kind of the only 0:06:16.920 --> 0:06:19.760 way I can describe it is I was kind of 0:06:19.800 --> 0:06:23.200 just going through the motions. So you know, when something 0:06:23.240 --> 0:06:25.720 bad happened, I would blame it on bad luck or 0:06:25.760 --> 0:06:30.160 get annoyed or something like that, and if something good 0:06:30.200 --> 0:06:33.760 happens again, it would just be like, oh, that's good luck. 0:06:34.520 --> 0:06:38.839 And I look back, and there's certain times that you know, 0:06:38.880 --> 0:06:40.960 I didn't get the job I wanted, or I didn't 0:06:41.000 --> 0:06:45.039 get some opportunity I wanted. But in reality, when I 0:06:45.080 --> 0:06:48.960 look back, these things happened for me, not to me, 0:06:49.480 --> 0:06:53.279 because something else better was just around the corner. So 0:06:53.640 --> 0:06:56.159 I've got two example stories for you. The first one 0:06:56.320 --> 0:07:00.280 is with Timothy, my husband, So when I met him, 0:07:00.680 --> 0:07:04.520 A little backstory is maybe two months before that, I 0:07:04.680 --> 0:07:08.800 was with my high school boyfriend for three maybe three years, 0:07:08.839 --> 0:07:12.600 off and on and he completely broke my heart, like 0:07:12.760 --> 0:07:17.400 right before formal and QCs, like that big test that 0:07:17.480 --> 0:07:20.320 everyone does in grade twelve, right before that, and I 0:07:20.440 --> 0:07:27.320 was like a mess. I was like, proper, I just 0:07:27.400 --> 0:07:30.840 have this clear vision of my parents coming into my 0:07:30.920 --> 0:07:34.440 room and me just being like hysterically crying like the 0:07:34.480 --> 0:07:39.040 most dramatic little person ever. But anyway, and I just 0:07:39.120 --> 0:07:42.800 thought it was the worst thing ever. I just thought, 0:07:42.920 --> 0:07:45.680 how can this happen to me? I was meant to 0:07:45.720 --> 0:07:49.240 with this person? Blah blah blah. Anyway, a couple of 0:07:49.280 --> 0:07:51.640 months later, I met Tim And the only reason why 0:07:51.680 --> 0:07:55.440 I met Tim was because of the X. I kind 0:07:55.440 --> 0:07:59.320 of started talking to Tim in spite and look, I 0:07:59.400 --> 0:08:04.480 married him. So looking back, I'm a big believer on 0:08:04.640 --> 0:08:07.960 like realizing that things happen for me, not to me. 0:08:08.360 --> 0:08:10.960 And I think, you know, if you are currently going 0:08:11.000 --> 0:08:13.560 through a hard time and you're just like, there are 0:08:13.680 --> 0:08:18.320 no positives to the situation, almost sit with it and 0:08:18.840 --> 0:08:24.520 have faith that eventually something good will come out of it, 0:08:24.560 --> 0:08:27.920 and if it's not necessarily good, it's a lesson that 0:08:27.960 --> 0:08:31.120 you can learn from. That's. 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Okay, now let's get back into today's episode. Okay, 0:10:34.840 --> 0:10:38.000 So the next little life lesson is to sit with 0:10:38.080 --> 0:10:41.800 the feeling. So again, this is something that I learn 0:10:42.480 --> 0:10:45.480 by seeing my psychologists, and we kind of uncovered that 0:10:46.320 --> 0:10:51.240 I'm someone who hates feeling feelings. Like I remember during 0:10:51.280 --> 0:10:54.200 my law degree, I had a professor who said I 0:10:54.240 --> 0:10:59.160 would be great at family law because I was like emotionless, 0:10:59.320 --> 0:11:02.199 which is like, now, how really rude when I think back. 0:11:03.600 --> 0:11:08.880 But basically I can detach to my feelings quite well 0:11:08.920 --> 0:11:12.000 compared to other people. And so this has actually been 0:11:12.040 --> 0:11:16.160 a positive in numerous ways. Like I actually did work 0:11:16.200 --> 0:11:19.480 in family law and we went through you know, like 0:11:19.520 --> 0:11:22.439 we had cases where it was really sad things that 0:11:22.600 --> 0:11:27.559 were happening, and I didn't attach myself to the client 0:11:27.720 --> 0:11:30.360 or the outcome or anything like that. So it's helpful 0:11:30.360 --> 0:11:33.199 in those situations. And then also I think it has 0:11:33.280 --> 0:11:36.280 helped me just be a really strong person in general, 0:11:36.320 --> 0:11:41.400 Like I am someone who's so strong, so persistent, so determined, 0:11:41.480 --> 0:11:44.760 and I think that side of me comes into that. 0:11:45.440 --> 0:11:48.880 So it's almost like a positive and a negative. Obviously 0:11:48.920 --> 0:11:53.880 the negative. I've realized that when I feel feelings, I 0:11:54.000 --> 0:11:57.760 straightway shut them down and I suppress them. I don't 0:11:57.800 --> 0:12:02.160 actually let myself feel them, which then means I am 0:12:02.440 --> 0:12:07.560 constantly suppressing these feelings and they are manifesting in quite 0:12:07.720 --> 0:12:11.680 toxic ways. So a lot of my anxiety was actually 0:12:11.720 --> 0:12:14.839 to do with suppressed feelings that I hadn't dealt with 0:12:14.920 --> 0:12:18.520 over the years, which I had never really sort of 0:12:18.720 --> 0:12:21.240 understood or heard of that term, and it was really 0:12:21.280 --> 0:12:25.880 interesting to me, and also just other ways of manifesting 0:12:26.080 --> 0:12:32.360 in toxic ways. So when I am feeling negative or sad, 0:12:32.440 --> 0:12:35.320 I no longer just suppress and don't feel it. I 0:12:35.480 --> 0:12:38.439 now sit with the feeling and I will actually put 0:12:38.480 --> 0:12:43.680 a timer on. It's something like sixty ninety seconds that 0:12:43.720 --> 0:12:47.680 feeling will pass. So for that amount of time it 0:12:47.760 --> 0:12:51.480 is really uncomfortable. I am someone who finds it so uncomfortable, 0:12:51.880 --> 0:12:54.200 but I sit with it and I feel it and 0:12:54.240 --> 0:12:57.319 then I get the feeling out. And that has been 0:12:57.440 --> 0:13:01.240 a game changer just in sort of feeling feelings and 0:13:01.320 --> 0:13:04.640 being more connected to my inner self. So another thing 0:13:04.679 --> 0:13:08.880 that I found was because I was suppressing these feelings, 0:13:09.280 --> 0:13:13.360 I was very disconnected from my inner self. And when 0:13:13.400 --> 0:13:15.640 I say my inner self, like I kind of mean 0:13:16.200 --> 0:13:20.520 my intuition and my most authentic self. I feel like 0:13:20.520 --> 0:13:23.640 that is a whole other podcast in itself, because the 0:13:23.760 --> 0:13:27.560 term may not be very usual, but I can definitely 0:13:27.600 --> 0:13:31.400 get into that with another podcast. But to feel my 0:13:31.600 --> 0:13:34.640 most authentic self and to be really in tune with 0:13:34.720 --> 0:13:38.560 my intuition, which has been what this year has been 0:13:38.640 --> 0:13:42.240 about for me personally and business wise. I've really had 0:13:42.280 --> 0:13:45.600 to actually start feeling my feelings. And it's actually like 0:13:45.679 --> 0:13:48.440 sometimes I will sit with the feeling and I literally 0:13:48.480 --> 0:13:52.560 like cry feel the feeling, and then sixty seconds later, 0:13:52.679 --> 0:13:55.000 like I'll be fine. And it's really funny because like 0:13:55.040 --> 0:13:57.319 if Tim or something is around, he's like, what the 0:13:57.360 --> 0:14:02.880 fuck just happened, but oh God, like, stop suppressing your feelings. 0:14:03.040 --> 0:14:06.720 Feel your feelings because it's such a game changer, and 0:14:06.760 --> 0:14:09.920 then they won't come out in these like negative ways. 0:14:10.400 --> 0:14:13.440 Thank you for listening for another rn C episode. I 0:14:13.559 --> 0:14:16.760 really appreciate taking the time to be here with me, 0:14:17.000 --> 0:14:20.120 and also for taking the time for yourself. If you 0:14:20.160 --> 0:14:24.080 found this episode helpful, it would be so amazing if 0:14:24.120 --> 0:14:26.760 you shared it on your stories and tagged us, or 0:14:26.800 --> 0:14:29.400 simply just send it on to a girlfriend or family 0:14:29.520 --> 0:14:33.560 member who would benefit from listening. 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