WEBVTT - MINI: Britt's emotional chat with her Nan is really inspiring

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<v Speaker 1>So I had this really beautiful conversation on the weekend

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<v Speaker 1>with my nan. And I don't get to see my

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<v Speaker 1>nan often. She lives in Portant Quarry. She's eighty seven.

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<v Speaker 1>She is on her own. She's been on her own

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<v Speaker 1>for many, many years, and she lives on her own

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<v Speaker 1>in a village like assisted living, but not you know,

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<v Speaker 1>it's not assisted. It's completely independent, like you live alone

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<v Speaker 1>in a house, but the house is amongst other houses.

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<v Speaker 1>It's just like a suburb. So it's a retirement village,

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<v Speaker 1>but you're in your own house. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a real community there. It's really nice. Got you.

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<v Speaker 1>But I had this conversation with her. We were up

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<v Speaker 1>there for my mum's birthday, and makes me upside to

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<v Speaker 1>think about actually now that I'm thinking about it, but

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<v Speaker 1>maybe there's a message in this for you guys now,

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<v Speaker 1>if you're with your grandparents or you have someone in

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<v Speaker 1>your life. I was asking her what is left on

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<v Speaker 1>her bucket list? And not that she's dying or anything,

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<v Speaker 1>but she'll often bring it up, like, hey, what do

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<v Speaker 1>you want of mind before I'm going to cark it

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<v Speaker 1>one day? Like you know, what joy do you want?

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<v Speaker 1>And I said, hey, Nan, what's your what's on your

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<v Speaker 1>bucket list? Like I want to do something for you,

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<v Speaker 1>You tell me and I will tick it off for you.

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<v Speaker 1>I will make whatever you want happen. And I was

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<v Speaker 1>prepared for anything, right, like, you know that's fair balloon anything,

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<v Speaker 1>take me to Morocco.

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<v Speaker 2>Now.

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<v Speaker 1>My Nan has raised four kids on her own since

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<v Speaker 1>she was twenty. She has one arm. She lost one

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<v Speaker 1>arm to polio when she was twenty, and she has

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<v Speaker 1>just not had an easy life. She didn't have a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of family around. She was a teacher, she is.

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<v Speaker 1>She only retired a couple of years ago. She worked

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<v Speaker 1>a really long time and I don't know what I

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<v Speaker 1>was expecting. But she thought about it for a second

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<v Speaker 1>and she said, you know what, I don't have a

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<v Speaker 1>bucket list, and I said, well, let's make one. She

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<v Speaker 1>thought about it again. She said, there is nothing that

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<v Speaker 1>I would want to do that I haven't already done,

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<v Speaker 1>or that I'm not doing right now. You know. She

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<v Speaker 1>looked around and it was my mum's birthday, so all

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<v Speaker 1>the nieces and nephews were there, like her great grandchildren,

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<v Speaker 1>her children were there, and we were there, so normal grandchildren.

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<v Speaker 1>So every layer she had and she said, I've just

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<v Speaker 1>done everything I want to do, and everything that I

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<v Speaker 1>want to do left in life I can do right here,

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<v Speaker 1>right now. And it was this moment where I was like, wow, Like,

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<v Speaker 1>you have had it so hard, You've had nothing given

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<v Speaker 1>to you, you have faced so many challenges, and still

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<v Speaker 1>to this day you're not complaining and you are finding

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<v Speaker 1>such happiness in the little things. And it really made

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<v Speaker 1>me just think, maybe we just set these expectations so

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<v Speaker 1>high for ourselves and we're finding all these things for

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<v Speaker 1>like adrenaline, like we almost need to make ourselves feel

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<v Speaker 1>something instead of thinking of all these really little moments

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<v Speaker 1>that are the important moments in the every day.

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<v Speaker 2>I think there's something really beautiful in that around perspective, right, Like,

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, we're definitely we definitely subscribe to the hustle

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<v Speaker 2>culture or like what's the next thing, the next success,

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<v Speaker 2>the next thing you're going to tick off. I mean,

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<v Speaker 2>I also think we're just the generation of lists in general.

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<v Speaker 2>But I think there's something beautiful in perspective of getting

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<v Speaker 2>to that age and being able to feel as though

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<v Speaker 2>all the things that you want in your life you

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<v Speaker 2>already have. What a beautiful place to be rather than

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<v Speaker 2>getting to eighty seven and thinking I have so many

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<v Speaker 2>things that I want to do and haven't done and

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<v Speaker 2>will never do, like what you know.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, And then the other thing that she said was

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<v Speaker 1>and this is what makes me upset. I guess that

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<v Speaker 1>maybe life just passes us by. But she said thanks

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<v Speaker 1>for asking me that. She's like, no one will pray.

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<v Speaker 1>She's like, no one really talks to me about life anymore,

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<v Speaker 1>and not.

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<v Speaker 2>Like in a what's coming.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, She's like, it's just sometimes you think like people

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<v Speaker 1>in your life have lived a whole life. She's eighty seven,

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<v Speaker 1>she's lived through pandemics, she's lived through wars, she has

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<v Speaker 1>one arm, she's you know, she's done so much. She's

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<v Speaker 1>survived polio, and there must be so much to talk about.

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<v Speaker 1>But sometimes I think you're a little forgotten. And I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not saying that my family forgets so absolutely not, they're

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<v Speaker 1>all so close. But it was just this moment where

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<v Speaker 1>she's like, yeah, think you know, like people don't ask

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<v Speaker 1>me about those things or reflections on my life or yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>so I don't know. I just thought it was like

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<v Speaker 1>one of those really important pivotal moments where I was like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, I want to talk about this and I

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<v Speaker 1>want to remind people that if you have those people

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<v Speaker 1>in your life to have those conversations and find out

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<v Speaker 1>about you know, the most interesting people in the world

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<v Speaker 1>are people that have lived.

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<v Speaker 2>What did it do for you though, in terms of

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<v Speaker 2>perspective when you think, like all the things that you

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<v Speaker 2>want to do, or like the goals that you have

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<v Speaker 2>and everything else, did it change anything about how you

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<v Speaker 2>see the priorities in your life?

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<v Speaker 1>One hundred percent? It definitely makes me think. My priorities

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<v Speaker 1>right now have been very heavily and for probably the

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<v Speaker 1>last decade, have been work related. I've always been very

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<v Speaker 1>career driven and it's been the number one thing. And

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<v Speaker 1>she did make me think that career and work is

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<v Speaker 1>only important if you're sharing it with people or if

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<v Speaker 1>you're you know, it's like a puzzle. Your life is

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<v Speaker 1>a jigsaw puzzle, and you need all these things to

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<v Speaker 1>go together, so as long as ones not overtaking the other.

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<v Speaker 1>So it's just one of those food for thought perspective

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<v Speaker 1>things where I thought, you know what, I want everyone

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<v Speaker 1>to think about it now and go and ask your

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<v Speaker 1>your parents or your grandparents, go and ask them something

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<v Speaker 1>about their life, or something that you really want to know,

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<v Speaker 1>something you might regret if they did leave this world

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<v Speaker 1>and you never ask them.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that's the opposite to it, isn't it. Usually they're

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<v Speaker 2>all the questions that you want to ask. When they're

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<v Speaker 2>not around to ask anymore, or they're not able to

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<v Speaker 2>answer those questions anymore, that's when you really start thinking

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<v Speaker 2>about it. But it's really sweet.

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<v Speaker 1>I know, I didn't expect to cry then I really

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<v Speaker 1>took me over