Speaker 1: So I had this really beautiful conversation on the weekend
Speaker 1: with my nan. And I don't get to see my
Speaker 1: nan often. She lives in Portant Quarry. She's eighty seven.
Speaker 1: She is on her own. She's been on her own
Speaker 1: for many, many years, and she lives on her own
Speaker 1: in a village like assisted living, but not you know,
Speaker 1: it's not assisted. It's completely independent, like you live alone
Speaker 1: in a house, but the house is amongst other houses.
Speaker 1: It's just like a suburb. So it's a retirement village,
Speaker 1: but you're in your own house. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1: It's a real community there. It's really nice. Got you.
Speaker 1: But I had this conversation with her. We were up
Speaker 1: there for my mum's birthday, and makes me upside to
Speaker 1: think about actually now that I'm thinking about it, but
Speaker 1: maybe there's a message in this for you guys now,
Speaker 1: if you're with your grandparents or you have someone in
Speaker 1: your life. I was asking her what is left on
Speaker 1: her bucket list? And not that she's dying or anything,
Speaker 1: but she'll often bring it up, like, hey, what do
Speaker 1: you want of mind before I'm going to cark it
Speaker 1: one day? Like you know, what joy do you want?
Speaker 1: And I said, hey, Nan, what's your what's on your
Speaker 1: bucket list? Like I want to do something for you,
Speaker 1: You tell me and I will tick it off for you.
Speaker 1: I will make whatever you want happen. And I was
Speaker 1: prepared for anything, right, like, you know that's fair balloon anything,
Speaker 1: take me to Morocco.
Speaker 2: Now.
Speaker 1: My Nan has raised four kids on her own since
Speaker 1: she was twenty. She has one arm. She lost one
Speaker 1: arm to polio when she was twenty, and she has
Speaker 1: just not had an easy life. She didn't have a
Speaker 1: lot of family around. She was a teacher, she is.
Speaker 1: She only retired a couple of years ago. She worked
Speaker 1: a really long time and I don't know what I
Speaker 1: was expecting. But she thought about it for a second
Speaker 1: and she said, you know what, I don't have a
Speaker 1: bucket list, and I said, well, let's make one. She
Speaker 1: thought about it again. She said, there is nothing that
Speaker 1: I would want to do that I haven't already done,
Speaker 1: or that I'm not doing right now. You know. She
Speaker 1: looked around and it was my mum's birthday, so all
Speaker 1: the nieces and nephews were there, like her great grandchildren,
Speaker 1: her children were there, and we were there, so normal grandchildren.
Speaker 1: So every layer she had and she said, I've just
Speaker 1: done everything I want to do, and everything that I
Speaker 1: want to do left in life I can do right here,
Speaker 1: right now. And it was this moment where I was like, wow, Like,
Speaker 1: you have had it so hard, You've had nothing given
Speaker 1: to you, you have faced so many challenges, and still
Speaker 1: to this day you're not complaining and you are finding
Speaker 1: such happiness in the little things. And it really made
Speaker 1: me just think, maybe we just set these expectations so
Speaker 1: high for ourselves and we're finding all these things for
Speaker 1: like adrenaline, like we almost need to make ourselves feel
Speaker 1: something instead of thinking of all these really little moments
Speaker 1: that are the important moments in the every day.
Speaker 2: I think there's something really beautiful in that around perspective, right, Like,
Speaker 2: I mean, we're definitely we definitely subscribe to the hustle
Speaker 2: culture or like what's the next thing, the next success,
Speaker 2: the next thing you're going to tick off. I mean,
Speaker 2: I also think we're just the generation of lists in general.
Speaker 2: But I think there's something beautiful in perspective of getting
Speaker 2: to that age and being able to feel as though
Speaker 2: all the things that you want in your life you
Speaker 2: already have. What a beautiful place to be rather than
Speaker 2: getting to eighty seven and thinking I have so many
Speaker 2: things that I want to do and haven't done and
Speaker 2: will never do, like what you know.
Speaker 1: Yeah, And then the other thing that she said was
Speaker 1: and this is what makes me upset. I guess that
Speaker 1: maybe life just passes us by. But she said thanks
Speaker 1: for asking me that. She's like, no one will pray.
Speaker 1: She's like, no one really talks to me about life anymore,
Speaker 1: and not.
Speaker 2: Like in a what's coming.
Speaker 1: Yeah, She's like, it's just sometimes you think like people
Speaker 1: in your life have lived a whole life. She's eighty seven,
Speaker 1: she's lived through pandemics, she's lived through wars, she has
Speaker 1: one arm, she's you know, she's done so much. She's
Speaker 1: survived polio, and there must be so much to talk about.
Speaker 1: But sometimes I think you're a little forgotten. And I'm
Speaker 1: not saying that my family forgets so absolutely not, they're
Speaker 1: all so close. But it was just this moment where
Speaker 1: she's like, yeah, think you know, like people don't ask
Speaker 1: me about those things or reflections on my life or yeah,
Speaker 1: so I don't know. I just thought it was like
Speaker 1: one of those really important pivotal moments where I was like, oh,
Speaker 1: you know, I want to talk about this and I
Speaker 1: want to remind people that if you have those people
Speaker 1: in your life to have those conversations and find out
Speaker 1: about you know, the most interesting people in the world
Speaker 1: are people that have lived.
Speaker 2: What did it do for you though, in terms of
Speaker 2: perspective when you think, like all the things that you
Speaker 2: want to do, or like the goals that you have
Speaker 2: and everything else, did it change anything about how you
Speaker 2: see the priorities in your life?
Speaker 1: One hundred percent? It definitely makes me think. My priorities
Speaker 1: right now have been very heavily and for probably the
Speaker 1: last decade, have been work related. I've always been very
Speaker 1: career driven and it's been the number one thing. And
Speaker 1: she did make me think that career and work is
Speaker 1: only important if you're sharing it with people or if
Speaker 1: you're you know, it's like a puzzle. Your life is
Speaker 1: a jigsaw puzzle, and you need all these things to
Speaker 1: go together, so as long as ones not overtaking the other.
Speaker 1: So it's just one of those food for thought perspective
Speaker 1: things where I thought, you know what, I want everyone
Speaker 1: to think about it now and go and ask your
Speaker 1: your parents or your grandparents, go and ask them something
Speaker 1: about their life, or something that you really want to know,
Speaker 1: something you might regret if they did leave this world
Speaker 1: and you never ask them.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's the opposite to it, isn't it. Usually they're
Speaker 2: all the questions that you want to ask. When they're
Speaker 2: not around to ask anymore, or they're not able to
Speaker 2: answer those questions anymore, that's when you really start thinking
Speaker 2: about it. But it's really sweet.
Speaker 1: I know, I didn't expect to cry then I really
Speaker 1: took me over