WEBVTT - FULL SHOW: Wedding STRESS & Bribing Your Kids 0:00:10.379 --> 0:00:14.219 Hi Heart podcasts, hear more Kiss Podcast playlist and listen 0:00:14.259 --> 0:00:15.859 live on the Free iHeart app. 0:00:18.299 --> 0:00:23.139 Are you ready pickup with Britt Hockley and Laura Bird Radio? 0:00:23.339 --> 0:00:26.939 What our windows done? My word risen? 0:00:27.099 --> 0:00:27.699 The dust? 0:00:27.859 --> 0:00:33.059 Only good tabs all down? I don't much, but yeah, 0:00:33.139 --> 0:00:35.979 I know our big get and what I want. It 0:00:36.099 --> 0:00:39.899 don't matter where. This is the pick up, Hi guys, 0:00:39.939 --> 0:00:43.139 it's the pickup with Bred Hockey and Laura Birth. Question. Yeah, 0:00:43.219 --> 0:00:43.659 go hear me. 0:00:43.819 --> 0:00:46.059 How often should we mix up our intro songs? 0:00:46.299 --> 0:00:46.418 Oh? 0:00:46.499 --> 0:00:48.899 As in the do we change the intro song? Yeah? 0:00:48.939 --> 0:00:51.499 What do you reckon? I don't know, like next year 0:00:51.539 --> 0:00:52.539 maybe maybe? 0:00:52.619 --> 0:00:54.179 I mean I think it's a whole thing though, to 0:00:54.179 --> 0:00:56.259 get them to change that music. The reason why we're 0:00:56.259 --> 0:00:58.939 talking about this is because producer Grace just pointed out 0:00:58.979 --> 0:01:00.419 that inner intro song music. 0:01:00.579 --> 0:01:03.619 If we should point this, someone coughs cough. 0:01:03.779 --> 0:01:06.619 It's very subtle. You have to listen really carefully. 0:01:06.619 --> 0:01:09.938 But we've convinced ourselves that there's a little micro like coffin. 0:01:10.099 --> 0:01:12.339 We're gonna isolate the cough and that's gonna come back 0:01:12.339 --> 0:01:14.539 tomorrow on tomorrow's show, where we isolate and play the 0:01:14.578 --> 0:01:18.538 cough for you from our bosses for highlighting the cough 0:01:18.619 --> 0:01:20.419 potentially potentially, but who cares? 0:01:20.419 --> 0:01:22.578 Look, do you know what has happened and is exciting news? 0:01:23.018 --> 0:01:25.978 The met Gala. It's been everywhere all over the news today. 0:01:26.018 --> 0:01:29.938 But I am always fascinated about how the guests invite 0:01:29.979 --> 0:01:33.139 list to this thing works, Like how do how does 0:01:33.139 --> 0:01:36.098 Anna Wintor just decide who she's gonna have come and 0:01:36.139 --> 0:01:37.299 then she They pay. 0:01:37.139 --> 0:01:40.219 A ludicrous amount to attend, do they? Yes, like a 0:01:40.298 --> 0:01:42.739 ludicrous amount for a table, It's like eighty thousand. No, 0:01:42.779 --> 0:01:44.578 it's hundreds of thousands of dollars produce a. 0:01:44.578 --> 0:01:45.539 Grace is googling now? 0:01:45.578 --> 0:01:46.779 I thought it was an I thought it was an 0:01:46.818 --> 0:01:48.139 invite only situations. 0:01:48.299 --> 0:01:48.819 Situation. 0:01:49.219 --> 0:01:51.019 No, you still have to be invited, but a lot 0:01:51.019 --> 0:01:53.259 of people don't go because it's like hundreds of thousands 0:01:53.259 --> 0:01:53.579 of dollars. 0:01:53.619 --> 0:01:54.139 How much is it? 0:01:54.139 --> 0:01:57.019 Grace? So it has seventy five thousand dollars as the 0:01:57.019 --> 0:01:59.939 ticket price. But I think a lot of designers invite 0:01:59.979 --> 0:02:02.579 people to wear their fashions, but it all has to 0:02:02.579 --> 0:02:03.698 be approved by Anna Wintoor. 0:02:03.859 --> 0:02:06.739 Yes, So I watched a really funny little segment that 0:02:06.859 --> 0:02:08.258 was on. It was just a real that was going 0:02:08.339 --> 0:02:11.139 vi from at the Graham Norton show. And you know 0:02:11.379 --> 0:02:15.859 Helena Bonham Carter, she was everything she was from Harry Potter. 0:02:16.219 --> 0:02:19.298 So she was sitting on the couch with Rihanna and 0:02:19.339 --> 0:02:22.379 like a whole heap of other just like absolute aless celebrities, 0:02:22.739 --> 0:02:25.179 and Graham Norton was saying like, oh, you guys have 0:02:25.219 --> 0:02:26.978 all been to the met to the met gala before. 0:02:27.019 --> 0:02:29.059 And Helena was the only one who hadn't have listened 0:02:29.059 --> 0:02:32.339 to this all been at the real METCARTA No, yes 0:02:32.459 --> 0:02:35.579 you have it. You haven't. No, you have not, because 0:02:35.939 --> 0:02:36.779 dress like that. 0:02:39.379 --> 0:02:39.659 Old. 0:02:41.299 --> 0:02:43.978 So that was Rihanna just absolutely slaying. 0:02:44.579 --> 0:02:45.299 It was so funny. 0:02:45.459 --> 0:02:49.339 Is some Brihanna's brown called savage that that was savage? 0:02:49.379 --> 0:02:51.339 Yeah, it really was. But also they all just laughed 0:02:51.418 --> 0:02:52.859 and she was like, yeah fair. She was sitting there 0:02:52.859 --> 0:02:54.978 in this big, like voluminous pattern. 0:02:54.739 --> 0:02:57.779 Dress because she's quite alternate, like she al so she 0:02:57.819 --> 0:02:59.538 wears is quiet and she doesn't care. 0:02:59.819 --> 0:03:01.298 She gives no fs, she doesn't care. 0:03:02.739 --> 0:03:04.459 I don't know if I'm the minority Laura, and I 0:03:04.459 --> 0:03:07.299 don't you tell me your experience, but I'm getting married 0:03:07.379 --> 0:03:12.259 very very very soon. I have not enjoyed wedding planning 0:03:12.819 --> 0:03:15.819 one bit, like not maybe four percent, if I had 0:03:15.819 --> 0:03:17.538 to pull a number out of my butt, four percent, 0:03:17.619 --> 0:03:20.138 Like I have disliked the entire process. 0:03:20.219 --> 0:03:22.578 I don't like admin or planning of anything. So I mean, 0:03:22.779 --> 0:03:26.179 I was very lucky when it came to my wedding 0:03:26.179 --> 0:03:29.138 with Matt. Because Matt in a past life before he 0:03:29.219 --> 0:03:30.659 did what he does now, he. 0:03:30.659 --> 0:03:32.499 Used to be an event organizer, so. 0:03:32.459 --> 0:03:35.459 He has so many I know, I know, and he 0:03:35.579 --> 0:03:39.738 was like the unicorn person to marry because I hate organization, 0:03:40.219 --> 0:03:42.979 I hate admin, and he is so good at it, 0:03:43.019 --> 0:03:45.259 so he just took over and pretty much, you know, 0:03:45.939 --> 0:03:48.579 I hear horror stories about so many women who are 0:03:48.619 --> 0:03:50.979 left doing all the planning for the wedding and the 0:03:50.979 --> 0:03:52.618 guy just rocks up in his tucks on the day. 0:03:53.059 --> 0:03:54.419 That was not the case to me. I was like 0:03:54.659 --> 0:03:56.939 a wedding princess. I just rocked up in my wedding 0:03:57.019 --> 0:03:58.859 dress and someone pointing me in the direction. 0:03:58.619 --> 0:03:59.979 Oh you're turning me on, stop it? 0:04:00.139 --> 0:04:02.219 Like that is that is all I could have dreamt of. 0:04:02.379 --> 0:04:03.899 I don't know how I feel about that. The banks 0:04:04.259 --> 0:04:05.699 just roll with it. But I even have a. 0:04:05.619 --> 0:04:07.899 Wedding plan like, I have these amazing planners from Easy 0:04:07.899 --> 0:04:10.139 Weddings that are helping me so much because it is 0:04:10.179 --> 0:04:11.219 an international wedding. 0:04:11.259 --> 0:04:12.579 But that doesn't sound very easy for you. 0:04:12.699 --> 0:04:15.179 But no, but it's because even with a planner, they 0:04:15.179 --> 0:04:17.019 don't make the whole wedding for you, like you to 0:04:17.019 --> 0:04:19.819 make make a decision. Yeah, my fiante Ben, he got 0:04:19.859 --> 0:04:21.618 the date mixed up, Like when I quized him on 0:04:21.619 --> 0:04:23.259 the date, he didn't even know what date he was 0:04:23.259 --> 0:04:25.219 supposed to turn up, which was very worrying. 0:04:25.939 --> 0:04:28.579 So it's really soon. He doesn't have a suit. 0:04:28.739 --> 0:04:29.939 He does not have a suit. 0:04:30.539 --> 0:04:32.859 He did not have his groomsman suits until a week ago, 0:04:33.419 --> 0:04:36.579 and they've just arrived and they don't fit Britt. 0:04:36.579 --> 0:04:38.619 Can I also point out that, so for anyone who 0:04:38.619 --> 0:04:41.059 doesn't know this, like the celebrant that BRIT's gonna use 0:04:41.379 --> 0:04:43.859 is one of my best friends. She was a celebrant 0:04:43.859 --> 0:04:45.939 at my wedding and I saw her on the weekend 0:04:45.979 --> 0:04:48.419 and she was like, I'm really glad that Britt actually 0:04:48.419 --> 0:04:51.779 finally messaged me about getting the paperwork underway, because I 0:04:51.779 --> 0:04:53.299 don't know if she realizes that you can't just show 0:04:53.339 --> 0:04:54.859 up on the day and get married. You have to 0:04:54.939 --> 0:04:57.659 have a it's called an intent to marry already pre 0:04:57.819 --> 0:04:59.139 done yep, and Britt had. 0:04:59.059 --> 0:04:59.739 Not done that yet. 0:04:59.939 --> 0:05:02.179 So Britt intends to marry, but just hadn't actually done 0:05:02.219 --> 0:05:02.659 the paperwork. 0:05:02.699 --> 0:05:05.499 Yeah, the intent's there, but legally it's not. No, it's 0:05:05.539 --> 0:05:05.939 a whole thing. 0:05:05.939 --> 0:05:06.699 And I didn't know that. 0:05:06.739 --> 0:05:07.819 I just thought you could get married. 0:05:07.819 --> 0:05:09.059 I thought love ruled all. 0:05:09.539 --> 0:05:11.339 So I think it's to try and shop, like to 0:05:11.379 --> 0:05:13.379 try and stop those like Vegas shotgun weddings. 0:05:13.419 --> 0:05:14.059 It's to try and. 0:05:13.979 --> 0:05:16.019 Stop people from eloping on a drunk night out and 0:05:16.059 --> 0:05:17.899 then you know, an nulling it the next day. 0:05:18.299 --> 0:05:21.059 So Ben suit haven't hasn't arrived yet, right, and he's 0:05:21.099 --> 0:05:23.539 six foot five, so it's. 0:05:23.459 --> 0:05:25.699 Highly likely it is not going to fit him. But 0:05:25.779 --> 0:05:27.819 we have no time to change it. 0:05:27.859 --> 0:05:31.099 So just be a little bit cropped like alot work 0:05:31.179 --> 0:05:31.579 a lot. 0:05:33.339 --> 0:05:35.859 The ankle bit is three quarters, or maybe we can 0:05:35.899 --> 0:05:37.339 just we might just have to cut the pants off 0:05:37.339 --> 0:05:40.139 and just make them sure cute cute, okay whatever. 0:05:40.259 --> 0:05:41.979 The groomsman suits arrived, did they fit? 0:05:42.179 --> 0:05:44.939 No, they didn't so cute, So we sent those back 0:05:44.979 --> 0:05:45.299 as well. 0:05:45.339 --> 0:05:46.819 I'm hoping that they come back in time. 0:05:47.339 --> 0:05:49.619 And the big thing is and there's there's no one 0:05:49.619 --> 0:05:52.939 to blame here, and I have faith Laura is making 0:05:52.939 --> 0:05:55.659 my wedding rings, which I have seen pictures of them. 0:05:56.019 --> 0:05:59.139 They are stunning, Thank you, But do I have them yet? 0:05:59.299 --> 0:05:59.619 No? 0:06:00.979 --> 0:06:03.059 When you say there's no one to blame here, So 0:06:03.219 --> 0:06:06.019 for context in when I'm not moonlighting as a radio person, 0:06:06.099 --> 0:06:07.339 I'm also a jewlry designer. 0:06:08.299 --> 0:06:09.579 Yeah, swipe up temp socent off. 0:06:09.899 --> 0:06:11.699 No, but really, so Brit came to me and said, 0:06:11.819 --> 0:06:13.819 you know what she wanted to get her engagement rings made. 0:06:13.899 --> 0:06:15.859 I would never get them from anybody else. 0:06:16.099 --> 0:06:19.099 That was almost a year ago. Wait they're free, right, 0:06:21.099 --> 0:06:22.099 that was almost a year ago. 0:06:22.139 --> 0:06:24.579 And then it took you so long to actually get 0:06:24.659 --> 0:06:27.019 organized on what you wanted that it was only a 0:06:27.019 --> 0:06:29.059 couple of weeks ago that Britt was like, Okay, I've. 0:06:28.939 --> 0:06:30.539 Finally decided this is what I want. 0:06:30.699 --> 0:06:32.459 Which is fine, Like, we know we can hustle, we 0:06:32.459 --> 0:06:33.379 can get things done. 0:06:33.459 --> 0:06:34.579 But when you have months of. 0:06:34.579 --> 0:06:36.619 Preparation and then someone rocks up and they're like, hey, 0:06:36.659 --> 0:06:40.899 I actually need three rings now for Ben and two rings, yeah, 0:06:41.739 --> 0:06:45.699 she really overstretched it. So anyway, I want to reassure you, though, Britt, 0:06:45.779 --> 0:06:49.419 your rings look amazing, and they are almost finished and 0:06:49.459 --> 0:06:51.019 you will have them for your wedding day, so you 0:06:51.019 --> 0:06:51.939 don't need to worry about that. 0:06:52.019 --> 0:06:53.899 I will come through with those goods, don't you worry. 0:06:53.939 --> 0:06:56.219 The almost part gives me a little bit of anxiety. 0:06:56.379 --> 0:06:58.699 What did I say? Almost? Yes, they'll almost be ready 0:06:58.739 --> 0:06:59.219 for your wedding. 0:06:59.299 --> 0:07:00.819 Yep, and they'll almost be perfect. 0:07:00.819 --> 0:07:02.419 No, I think not. No, I said they're almost here. 0:07:02.539 --> 0:07:03.499 They're almost finished. 0:07:03.619 --> 0:07:05.379 And you know what, it's at the point now where 0:07:05.619 --> 0:07:08.419 the littlest things are making me so upset. 0:07:08.579 --> 0:07:10.179 But it's I wouldn't normally be upset. 0:07:10.219 --> 0:07:13.499 I couldn't really care about it, but because of the accumulation, 0:07:13.659 --> 0:07:16.659 it is like a wedding stress snowball build up, you 0:07:16.659 --> 0:07:19.379 know where they all piler. So the other day my 0:07:19.539 --> 0:07:21.859 cake person wrote and said that they didn't have the 0:07:21.899 --> 0:07:24.539 pastry that I needed anymore, and I cried, that is 0:07:24.539 --> 0:07:27.299 how ridiculous I've been crying over a cake. 0:07:27.419 --> 0:07:29.419 Now you need to listen to some mel Robbins and 0:07:29.419 --> 0:07:30.299 you just need to let go. 0:07:30.499 --> 0:07:32.499 What is that? What's her thing? Let them? Let them, 0:07:32.539 --> 0:07:33.059 just let them. 0:07:33.179 --> 0:07:35.419 Well, I am so now I'm not having my pastry cake, 0:07:35.419 --> 0:07:38.899 which I'm very upset about But at this point, I 0:07:39.179 --> 0:07:42.579 genuinely believe that if somebody said I could design a 0:07:42.579 --> 0:07:44.259 wedding for you, you won't know one thing and I 0:07:44.299 --> 0:07:46.219 could turn up. I would turn up like I do 0:07:46.219 --> 0:07:48.819 not care about the decisions anymore. I'm like Ben, as 0:07:48.819 --> 0:07:50.659 long as you figure out the date, and I'm going 0:07:50.739 --> 0:07:52.539 to test him again to make sure he's got it. 0:07:52.619 --> 0:07:54.179 As long as you figure out the date. Oh my god, 0:07:54.179 --> 0:07:56.379 I've just realized I don't even have my flight. I 0:07:56.419 --> 0:07:57.579 don't even have my flight. 0:07:58.299 --> 0:08:00.699 You need to sort your life out, Brittany. And I 0:08:00.699 --> 0:08:02.619 don't think live on air is the place to do it. 0:08:02.979 --> 0:08:04.739 I reckon that this is something that you might need 0:08:04.779 --> 0:08:06.019 to do in your own personal time. 0:08:06.259 --> 0:08:08.259 Sorry, because I it's so many flights, I always could 0:08:08.259 --> 0:08:09.139 confus what I've booked. 0:08:09.139 --> 0:08:10.019 I haven't booked it. 0:08:11.659 --> 0:08:12.699 Okay, watch this space. 0:08:12.739 --> 0:08:13.619 I may or may not. 0:08:13.539 --> 0:08:14.619 Be getting married soon. 0:08:16.099 --> 0:08:18.819 The other day, I was on Instagram and I was 0:08:18.859 --> 0:08:20.899 looking through the news. Not for anything hard hitting, let 0:08:20.939 --> 0:08:22.699 me tell you, but I was like flicking through a 0:08:22.699 --> 0:08:26.219 couple of news sides, and then I saw a familiar 0:08:26.219 --> 0:08:27.059 face pop up. 0:08:27.459 --> 0:08:28.579 So there's an. 0:08:28.579 --> 0:08:30.859 Article that's going viral at the moment about a woman 0:08:30.899 --> 0:08:34.419 who went and had a massage. Unfortunately, it wasn't a 0:08:34.419 --> 0:08:37.179 massage parlor that she walked into, but as I was 0:08:37.219 --> 0:08:39.299 watching it, it literally came up first and I was like, 0:08:39.699 --> 0:08:42.939 hold on, that's Sophie. Sophie is someone I work with 0:08:43.019 --> 0:08:45.139 through my business tony mate. She's got a small business 0:08:45.139 --> 0:08:47.579 her self called Talent Tied Beautiful. But have a listen 0:08:47.979 --> 0:08:49.379 to this, guys. 0:08:49.419 --> 0:08:52.379 Guess what. I accidentally had a massage out of broth. 0:08:57.259 --> 0:09:00.059 So currently Sophie is she's blowing up new sides all 0:09:00.099 --> 0:09:02.619 across the country because an unfortunate mishap. 0:09:02.219 --> 0:09:04.979 In a massage parlor. So welcome to the show. 0:09:05.539 --> 0:09:08.059 Hi, how are you going good? 0:09:08.179 --> 0:09:12.499 So? How does one end up in an adult massage pilor? 0:09:12.499 --> 0:09:13.139 Shall I say? 0:09:14.019 --> 0:09:16.499 Oh? Well, I had hurt my neck going for a swim. 0:09:16.539 --> 0:09:19.458 That's what happens when you're over thirty and had been 0:09:19.499 --> 0:09:22.419 to the gym and was desperate to get my neck fixed. 0:09:23.259 --> 0:09:26.299 I literally just went into my small coastal town. There 0:09:26.339 --> 0:09:30.059 was a massage place open. I walked in. I didn't 0:09:30.099 --> 0:09:33.019 really think too much of it until like three weeks later. 0:09:33.219 --> 0:09:35.179 There was a lady asleep in the window, but I 0:09:35.259 --> 0:09:35.899 just thought she was. 0:09:38.219 --> 0:09:41.738 Sleep in the window, and that wasn't the tell, No. 0:09:41.859 --> 0:09:45.339 Not at all. I just thought tired, like we've all. 0:09:45.219 --> 0:09:46.458 Been working hard. 0:09:46.579 --> 0:09:49.739 Yeah great, So what happens? Did you walk in you 0:09:49.819 --> 0:09:52.099 like asked for a massage? Did everyone look confused? 0:09:52.259 --> 0:09:56.459 Was it like you know, everyone seemed really surprised to 0:09:56.459 --> 0:09:58.099 see me there, And then I went in to explain 0:09:58.139 --> 0:10:01.339 how small my neck was. They kind of rushed me 0:10:01.379 --> 0:10:04.019 through the process really quickly. I had to do pay 0:10:04.099 --> 0:10:07.578 ID rather than like tush or card, which I also 0:10:07.619 --> 0:10:10.619 didn't think was like that out of the ordinary. Everyone 0:10:10.659 --> 0:10:14.619 has tech issues. In hindsight, there was so many red 0:10:14.659 --> 0:10:17.179 flags like waving right in my face, like I'm a 0:10:17.179 --> 0:10:19.699 busy mom, I have three businesses. I was desperate for 0:10:19.739 --> 0:10:21.899 a massage. I had forty five minutes before a meeting. 0:10:21.979 --> 0:10:24.699 I just was didn't even seek they were would have 0:10:24.739 --> 0:10:25.899 been so confused. 0:10:25.939 --> 0:10:27.659 So how Isa, what are the I don't want to 0:10:27.659 --> 0:10:29.059 know what the red flags were that you saw? 0:10:29.699 --> 0:10:34.219 Okay bed on the floor for the ladies sleep in 0:10:34.219 --> 0:10:36.139 the window, and she was like done up to the nine. 0:10:36.179 --> 0:10:40.259 She looked so beautiful. Then once I'd paid via PAYID, 0:10:40.499 --> 0:10:43.659 the massage therapist called a man and got him to 0:10:43.699 --> 0:10:47.499 confirm that my payment had come through. The biggest red 0:10:47.539 --> 0:10:51.979 flag at the time for me was like they didn't 0:10:52.019 --> 0:10:54.899 change the bedding. Once I'd left. She was like out out, 0:10:55.019 --> 0:10:57.339 go go, and I was like, she didn't leave the room. 0:10:57.379 --> 0:11:01.179 I was there with my top off and everything, and 0:11:01.259 --> 0:11:03.619 she didn't change anything, and she just showed me out that. 0:11:03.699 --> 0:11:05.699 I was like, well, my next field heat's better. 0:11:07.179 --> 0:11:08.458 Okay, they did a good job at least. 0:11:08.899 --> 0:11:11.539 Yeah, he did an amazing job. And then in hindsight 0:11:11.579 --> 0:11:14.419 now I'm like, oh, you were like touching my bums 0:11:14.499 --> 0:11:15.619 a fair bit, But. 0:11:15.779 --> 0:11:16.939 Do you think that they were waiting. 0:11:17.819 --> 0:11:19.499 Yeah, maybe they were waiting for you to turn around 0:11:19.539 --> 0:11:21.339 to actually ask for more of a full service. 0:11:21.459 --> 0:11:24.539 I thought, Oh, I mean, I'm the biggest believer in 0:11:24.939 --> 0:11:27.458 other people are professionals in their profession. I thought, this 0:11:27.499 --> 0:11:30.219 is a new technique, so you're really good at look. 0:11:30.259 --> 0:11:32.099 I feel for you. I've sort of accidentally done it 0:11:32.139 --> 0:11:32.659 as well. 0:11:33.299 --> 0:11:36.219 I was in this massage parlor once, just a random 0:11:36.219 --> 0:11:38.619 one that I went into, and there was a man 0:11:38.659 --> 0:11:41.099 massage in me, which I only ever usually get females, 0:11:41.539 --> 0:11:45.419 and I remember thinking like he started to massage me 0:11:45.939 --> 0:11:48.218 in a really funny way, like he would massage. 0:11:47.819 --> 0:11:50.299 At my back, but he would lean his chest onto 0:11:50.379 --> 0:11:53.379 my back, and really his chest wasn't actually on it, 0:11:53.419 --> 0:11:53.699 but I. 0:11:53.619 --> 0:11:56.299 Could feel the closes, I could feel the closest and 0:11:56.339 --> 0:11:57.619 he kept going up and up and up, and I 0:11:57.659 --> 0:11:59.098 was like, I was so uncomfortable. 0:11:59.099 --> 0:12:00.779 But it was so many years ago where. 0:12:00.659 --> 0:12:02.139 Now I would have run out of the room, right, 0:12:02.139 --> 0:12:03.979 I would have said stop. But then I was like, oh, 0:12:04.419 --> 0:12:06.459 it was overseas. I was like, just see it out, yeah, 0:12:06.499 --> 0:12:09.379 And then towards the end he started we spree my ear. 0:12:09.459 --> 0:12:12.699 So every time it's horrified. 0:12:12.899 --> 0:12:14.699 Yes, every time he went out my back from like 0:12:14.739 --> 0:12:15.739 the top of my butt all the. 0:12:15.739 --> 0:12:19.379 Way up, he was like sex. And I was like, 0:12:19.699 --> 0:12:21.899 and I was so awkward. I was like planking, you 0:12:21.899 --> 0:12:23.219 know when your body goes so stiff. 0:12:23.699 --> 0:12:27.179 This is like evilly horribly predatory. I can't even laugh 0:12:27.179 --> 0:12:27.499 about this. 0:12:27.859 --> 0:12:31.379 That's definitely a line drawn all the red flags. 0:12:31.659 --> 0:12:35.499 I wonder if this is not as like, you know, infrequent, yeah, infrequent, 0:12:35.539 --> 0:12:36.699 as what maybe we might. 0:12:36.539 --> 0:12:37.019 Think it is. 0:12:37.219 --> 0:12:39.219 My video would suggest. 0:12:39.379 --> 0:12:39.579 Yeah. 0:12:39.579 --> 0:12:41.099 I remember when I was in my twenties, I went 0:12:41.139 --> 0:12:42.979 in to get a massage. I didn't think anything of it, 0:12:43.019 --> 0:12:44.659 which just shows how naive I was. 0:12:44.699 --> 0:12:45.459 I was so young. 0:12:45.739 --> 0:12:47.379 I was with my boyfriend at the time, and I 0:12:47.459 --> 0:12:50.019 walked into a massage parlor. Thinking back, it was just 0:12:50.059 --> 0:12:52.339 two mattresses on the floor, So let me tell you, 0:12:52.379 --> 0:12:52.979 I don't think. 0:12:52.859 --> 0:12:56.819 That that was a qualified massage parlor. But nothing bad happened. 0:12:57.379 --> 0:13:00.859 Yeah, well look, and I just feel like egg on me. 0:13:01.059 --> 0:13:04.219 You know. Everyone else on the internet was like, there's 0:13:04.379 --> 0:13:06.539 so many tells, you know, if they've got a flashing 0:13:06.579 --> 0:13:08.019 light out the front, and I was like, I didn't 0:13:08.019 --> 0:13:10.339 even notice it's a massage place. 0:13:10.539 --> 0:13:12.419 So all I have to say is I really hope 0:13:12.419 --> 0:13:13.619 that your neck is feeling better. 0:13:13.739 --> 0:13:16.179 And I want to go back. 0:13:16.899 --> 0:13:22.339 You go back on viral all over the internet. 0:13:23.059 --> 0:13:28.259 So we recently were talking about the fact that my 0:13:28.539 --> 0:13:30.619 two daughters, Marley and Lola, five. 0:13:30.379 --> 0:13:34.139 And four, are both still sleeping in my bed, which 0:13:34.179 --> 0:13:37.419 is not ideal. It's insane. 0:13:36.859 --> 0:13:39.779 Yea queen bed as well, so like, no one's sleeping 0:13:39.819 --> 0:13:42.739 in our household too big. Five's too big. So Marley 0:13:42.859 --> 0:13:46.139 only gets in sometimes because she realizes that her little sister, 0:13:46.139 --> 0:13:48.059 because they share a room and they share bunk beds, 0:13:48.219 --> 0:13:50.299 she realizes her little sister has come and gotten in 0:13:50.299 --> 0:13:52.458 our bed. So she's like, well, stuff this, I'm not 0:13:52.459 --> 0:13:54.338 gonna stay in here by myself. So then she finds 0:13:54.339 --> 0:13:56.059 her way into our bed as well. She's got foe 0:13:56.099 --> 0:13:56.859 mo she does. 0:13:56.939 --> 0:13:57.899 But the problem is Lola. 0:13:58.059 --> 0:14:02.499 Lola is ground zero because up until recently, Lola, since 0:14:02.619 --> 0:14:05.299 since she was like I'm talking eighteen months and she could, 0:14:05.699 --> 0:14:07.739 since she could get out of her own cot, she 0:14:07.819 --> 0:14:10.139 has not a night in her own bed. It doesn't 0:14:10.139 --> 0:14:12.059 matter where I am, it doesn't matter what I'm doing. 0:14:12.099 --> 0:14:13.779 She will sniff me out and she will find me 0:14:13.819 --> 0:14:15.419 in the middle of the night, she will climb into bed, 0:14:15.699 --> 0:14:17.619 and it just means that no one gets good sleep 0:14:17.659 --> 0:14:20.899 in our household. So we had a pediatrician named doctor 0:14:20.899 --> 0:14:22.979 Gollye come on the show a couple of weeks back, 0:14:23.219 --> 0:14:25.499 and he was talking about a method to get your 0:14:25.579 --> 0:14:27.499 kids to sleep in their own bed called the camp 0:14:27.579 --> 0:14:28.019 out method. 0:14:28.059 --> 0:14:28.699 Have to listen to this. 0:14:29.499 --> 0:14:32.379 Put Lolly in her bedroom, in her bed where you 0:14:32.379 --> 0:14:34.699 intend for her to sleep the way you're currently doing it. 0:14:34.739 --> 0:14:37.299 But then at the same time you go to bed 0:14:37.659 --> 0:14:40.579 in the same room. So you actually move a single 0:14:40.619 --> 0:14:44.979 mattress into her room, but ever so slowly you move 0:14:45.059 --> 0:14:48.459 that mattress closer and closer to the door, eventually on 0:14:48.499 --> 0:14:50.339 the other side of the door in the hallway, and 0:14:50.379 --> 0:14:54.699 then again you inch it every night or two further away, 0:14:54.779 --> 0:14:58.419 until eventually it's in the corridor and then magically just 0:14:58.779 --> 0:15:00.339 returned to your own bedroom. 0:15:00.419 --> 0:15:01.299 You have to edge away. 0:15:01.979 --> 0:15:04.739 Okay, My fear is that this is an absolute stitch 0:15:04.779 --> 0:15:06.699 up and we will both be sleeping in a trundle 0:15:06.699 --> 0:15:07.459 bed in the hallway. 0:15:08.499 --> 0:15:10.459 I did source doctor Gollie for you. 0:15:10.539 --> 0:15:12.339 I did bring him for you, and I did think 0:15:12.379 --> 0:15:14.179 that I was you know, not all heroes were cave 0:15:14.219 --> 0:15:16.219 so I thought you'd be celebrating me, thanking me. 0:15:16.539 --> 0:15:17.699 But it's not quite what happened. 0:15:17.779 --> 0:15:19.819 No, because when I heard this, and look, I. 0:15:19.739 --> 0:15:21.379 Am not an expert. Let it be known. I am 0:15:21.379 --> 0:15:21.859 the woman. 0:15:21.659 --> 0:15:23.059 Who's had a child's sleep in their bed for the 0:15:23.139 --> 0:15:24.579 last three years five years. 0:15:24.659 --> 0:15:25.859 But the thing is. 0:15:25.619 --> 0:15:28.219 Is, I just know that if I did this method, 0:15:28.259 --> 0:15:30.339 Lola and I are both sleeping on a pull out 0:15:30.339 --> 0:15:32.459 bed in the hallway, like, she'll sniff me out, doesn't 0:15:32.459 --> 0:15:35.019 matter where I go. If I inched ten centimeters further away, 0:15:35.339 --> 0:15:36.219 she'll just roll there. 0:15:36.259 --> 0:15:37.059 She'll find her way. 0:15:37.139 --> 0:15:38.939 Yes, she'll leave at eighteen when she graduates. 0:15:39.099 --> 0:15:40.939 So I was actually in the park and this woman 0:15:40.979 --> 0:15:42.699 came up to me who listened to the show. She 0:15:42.779 --> 0:15:45.219 heard it and she was like, did you try the 0:15:45.339 --> 0:15:47.419 camp out method? And I was like, I can't do it. 0:15:47.899 --> 0:15:49.699 So what I want to share with you guys is, look, 0:15:49.699 --> 0:15:51.379 I haven't done the camp out method, and if it's 0:15:51.379 --> 0:15:54.619 worked for you, amazing. But I have come across another 0:15:54.659 --> 0:15:56.659 thing that is working fantastic in our household. 0:15:56.939 --> 0:15:59.419 So we have started the rewards chart. 0:15:59.819 --> 0:16:02.859