WEBVTT - 💛 Why Do Your Friends Like You? 👭

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<v Speaker 1>Que Flex and Frooms, Flex and Frooms. This is the

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<v Speaker 1>Flex and Frooms catch up podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>Ladies and gentlemen, it's time for Flexi's Big Question.

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<v Speaker 1>Of the Week.

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<v Speaker 3>We have our segment Flexi's Big Question. I like to

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<v Speaker 3>ask questions, and I like when people answer them. Unfortunately,

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<v Speaker 3>or fortunately, Frumi is the only person who's subject to

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<v Speaker 3>my questions, and I think, with all due informed consents,

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<v Speaker 3>she shouldn't have to ask answer everything I ask.

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<v Speaker 1>That's how much fair? However, she does every time every time.

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<v Speaker 3>We've now outsourced further and gone to our Instagram dms.

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<v Speaker 1>It's Flex and Frooms.

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<v Speaker 3>You want to get involved to ask our fans, followers

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<v Speaker 3>and friends what they think. Today's question of the week

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<v Speaker 3>is why do your friends like you? And you might

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<v Speaker 3>wonder why would you ask such a thing? Why would

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<v Speaker 3>you ask such a thing? The older I get, the

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<v Speaker 3>more I realize how people's own euroticisms and insecurities really

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<v Speaker 3>filter the way they see entire world. Of course before

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<v Speaker 3>they've even recognized it, right and so. And it's like

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<v Speaker 3>not to say it's good or bad, it's just the

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<v Speaker 3>reality of it. The way that you see the world

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<v Speaker 3>informs you the world enforces you. People informs how you

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<v Speaker 3>measure their motives. But I don't think we take enough

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<v Speaker 3>time to like critically analyze anything positive. We just kind

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<v Speaker 3>of assume it's incidental and then let it be. But

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<v Speaker 3>I wanted to see if I challenged people to think

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<v Speaker 3>about themselves from another person's perspective in a positive light.

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<v Speaker 1>Could they do it? And they did, and they did

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<v Speaker 1>it well.

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<v Speaker 3>So I'll give you a sneak peek of three of

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<v Speaker 3>I would say about twenty responses, and you can catch

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<v Speaker 3>a vibe. Why do you think your friends like you?

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<v Speaker 3>Because I'm fairly chilled and calm, I let people talk,

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<v Speaker 3>and I'm funny. Okay, I like that because I'm caring, funny, considerate,

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<v Speaker 3>and I slay this one. I'm a yes girl, always

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<v Speaker 3>reliable and down for plans. This is interesting because so

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<v Speaker 3>far people assume that what is liked about them is

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<v Speaker 3>what they offer to other people. So like, why do

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<v Speaker 3>people like you because I'm smart? Right, That's like neither

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<v Speaker 3>here nor there. Because I'm a yes girl because I'm reliable.

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<v Speaker 3>It's like, oh, it's your servitude that you think people

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<v Speaker 3>like about you. Fascinating and maybe you're right? Why is

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<v Speaker 3>that fascinating well, because I hear a lot of critiques

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<v Speaker 3>when people I don't know if you've seen those kind

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<v Speaker 3>of like TikTok on the street videos where a person

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<v Speaker 3>goes to an unassuming couple and says, oh, you a couple,

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<v Speaker 3>and if you are, can I ask you about your relationship?

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<v Speaker 3>And then they say yes? And a question that always

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<v Speaker 3>comes up is why do you love your partner? And

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<v Speaker 3>what happens overwhelmingly is that they say, oh, I don't know,

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<v Speaker 3>and then they go into a diatribe about what the

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<v Speaker 3>person does for us. Yes, Oh, she's always so helpful,

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<v Speaker 3>and she like always reminds me when I need to

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<v Speaker 3>do stuff. She's always there when I need her. She

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<v Speaker 3>cooks really well, la la lah. And then the comments

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<v Speaker 3>will be like, well, so you just like her because

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<v Speaker 3>of what she does for you. What if she didn't

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<v Speaker 3>do anything for you? What about her that exists on

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<v Speaker 3>her own, isolated from her servitude?

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<v Speaker 1>Do you actually like? Which I think is a tricky question.

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<v Speaker 2>Because literally thinking about this last night in bed, tossing

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<v Speaker 2>and turning because the upstairs neighbors won't shut the front door.

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<v Speaker 1>What number name amount call me? We'll talk about later.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm honestly mad But I was thinking about how you

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<v Speaker 2>pose this question to me, because okay, I was talking

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<v Speaker 2>about Madison, my best friend, yes, and you were like,

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<v Speaker 2>what do you like about her? So I don't know

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<v Speaker 2>if this was like a precursor to this, and I

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<v Speaker 2>was like, what did I say? I'm pretty sure I

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<v Speaker 2>said that she listens to me. She like you validate

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<v Speaker 2>your smart Okay, that's different, but essentially I remember all

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<v Speaker 2>the things I said were pretty much like that, you

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<v Speaker 2>know that she does for me? And then I was thinking, damn,

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<v Speaker 2>you really got me there, and that's okay, yeah, because it's.

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<v Speaker 1>The truth, guinea pig. Why do your friends like you?

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<v Speaker 1>I don't hide how I feel.

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<v Speaker 3>It's also why they're scared to tell me things, because

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<v Speaker 3>I'm supportive of whatever makes them happy and I'm always

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<v Speaker 3>down to go out. Okay, at the start, I was

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<v Speaker 3>funny and nice. Then I got tired of being funny,

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<v Speaker 3>and now we don't hang.

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<v Speaker 2>Sorry, that's amazing, amazing to say.

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<v Speaker 1>I have a calming energy and make people feel safe.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh.

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't mean to laugh at them.

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<v Speaker 2>I just meant like, it's funny, how like straight you

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<v Speaker 2>are with that?

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<v Speaker 1>Don't bring me? I laughed in a response.

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<v Speaker 2>To It's funny that person was with that answer, they said,

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<v Speaker 2>this is my villain story.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, you only got a few characters in the Instagram

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<v Speaker 3>question box. I'm a chill person who is reliable and

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<v Speaker 3>will go with the flow, but also follow up and

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<v Speaker 3>make plans if required. I'm open to listening to anything

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<v Speaker 3>on their minds. I'm loyal, I'm reliable. I'm a good listener.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm non threatening because I'm not a slag. I'm honest, trustworthy, loving,

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<v Speaker 3>because I'm the best at doing impressions of other people.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm a storyteller.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm funny, I'm upbeat, I'm down for chaos, and I

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<v Speaker 3>always have a good attitude.

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<v Speaker 1>Very interesting, very.

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<v Speaker 2>Very I'm seeing themes here.

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<v Speaker 1>Things talk to me.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, obviously this is indicative of our audience, I would say,

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<v Speaker 2>which we need to keep in mind. I really like

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<v Speaker 2>the bits where everyone's talking about being reliable, because, as

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<v Speaker 2>we know in this modern day and age, reliable friends

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<v Speaker 2>often come and go, and they go and they don't come.

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<v Speaker 2>So I think that says a lot about the wherewithal

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<v Speaker 2>of our audience. I also think I like the person

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<v Speaker 2>who said that they do good impressions because I believe

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<v Speaker 2>that bits, as we say if we're seen on the internet,

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<v Speaker 2>we need more bits in life. We need more funny things.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's create some more in subjects.

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<v Speaker 2>I think that in order to be a good friend,

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<v Speaker 2>you have to be the person that like some of

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<v Speaker 2>the most like unique friends that I really like, like

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<v Speaker 2>make plans, but also like throw parties and stuff and like.

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<v Speaker 3>Really okay, so you've ruled out a big part of

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<v Speaker 3>the population in order to be a good friend, like

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<v Speaker 3>a lot of the friends I like person throw parties.

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<v Speaker 1>I've hand two parties in my whole life. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>think I would throw a party.

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<v Speaker 2>Actually, no, yeah, you definitely wouldn't. I have like a

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<v Speaker 2>small intimate gathering.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I do a gathering. I don't think I'm reliable.

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<v Speaker 3>It says consistently good in quality or performance, and I'm not, Like,

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<v Speaker 3>I don't want to be reliable. The way that I

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<v Speaker 3>view friendship is if I'm going to give you energy

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<v Speaker 3>and attention, I'm giving it to you like I'm seeing

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<v Speaker 3>it through.

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<v Speaker 1>But if I can't, I'm not going to.

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<v Speaker 3>And something about reliability feels like it is not based

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<v Speaker 3>on what you're actually needing at the time, like you

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<v Speaker 3>open yourself up to being a receptacle for other people's stuff,

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<v Speaker 3>Like they need me, so I come, doesn't matter what

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<v Speaker 3>I'm feeling. You know, they're venting, so like they need

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<v Speaker 3>someone to speak to. I'll be Then it's like, well

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<v Speaker 3>what about you, Bob, you need to fill your cup first. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>I guess in a weird way. The friends that I

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<v Speaker 3>would deem to be reliable, I think they're conceptually reliable

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<v Speaker 3>in the sense if I needed something, they would be there.

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<v Speaker 3>But I don't think I test them challenge at reliability

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<v Speaker 3>on a daily basis. For example, hypothetically, if I needed

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<v Speaker 3>to borrow a friend's car, I'm sure my friends would

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<v Speaker 3>let me borrow their car, but would I ask no.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I don't think I'm not reliable. I mean, I

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<v Speaker 2>take it back, Oh, I don't really believe in sharing cars.

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<v Speaker 2>Given my fifty years experience in the car industry.

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<v Speaker 1>Going through going through.

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<v Speaker 2>Every time, I'm like, you are going to bloody crash

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<v Speaker 2>that car and I'm going to have to deal with it,

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<v Speaker 2>and that's going to create a rift anyway, miss you

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