Speaker 1: Flex and Frooms, Flex and Fromes.
Speaker 2: This is the Flex and Frooms catch Up podcast.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, throwing my hand in front of my face.
Speaker 1: It's Flexi's birthday. Are you whispering?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 4: That was a bit soft, wasn't it.
Speaker 2: What's going on?
Speaker 4: I think I can need to go twillli.
Speaker 1: No, I'm saying no. Brookie's motioning no, pulling.
Speaker 4: The energy down towards my pelvis.
Speaker 1: No, but you can overcome.
Speaker 4: And I'm hungry's standing out?
Speaker 1: What do you want to eat? Chocolate? I need to
Speaker 1: it out of the blue, you know what I mean?
Speaker 1: It's fifty minutes away from here, though, Can I do
Speaker 1: that for a burger?
Speaker 4: Look? What I feel like eating right now is a
Speaker 4: Cabri regular chocolate bar. The block of the circles the block.
Speaker 4: But yeah, that's what I feel like. I don't feel
Speaker 4: like a Bueno or anything, so I don't want anything
Speaker 4: too like rich. I just like the classic taste of
Speaker 4: the Cabri.
Speaker 1: What's for dinner?
Speaker 4: Well, I've actually been having met Donald's once a week, which.
Speaker 1: Has been so I have been eating.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I think I'll get that all my way home.
Speaker 4: Large double cheesebgg and meal with a diet lemonade and
Speaker 4: a sweetened our sauce. It's so good, like I just
Speaker 4: love it. That's like I'm living my life. I'm an adult.
Speaker 4: I can get me Johns whenever I want, so I'm
Speaker 4: gonna get it.
Speaker 1: I want McDonald's to change their menu. It's so played
Speaker 1: out like we've had our entire lives. You can't switch
Speaker 1: it up. You can't switch it up. And is this
Speaker 1: really the best we can do? Because realistically, I don't
Speaker 1: want to start any into junk food beef. But when
Speaker 1: Hungry Jacks popped their bussy and made the Mega Mac,
Speaker 1: I said, this is better than the Big Mac and
Speaker 1: macas should be scared. I haven't had it. It was
Speaker 1: a limited edition item. They called it. What do they
Speaker 1: call it? No, they called it a Big Jack and
Speaker 1: a Mega Jack. So the Big Jack was literally the
Speaker 1: best fast food burg I've ever had because it tasted
Speaker 1: like you know, it flame grilled. It tasted real. I said,
Speaker 1: McDonald's need to be scared, and they were. They sewed them, Yeah,
Speaker 1: so they should. Anyway, here's a putty. This is flex
Speaker 1: and free on Keida. Apparently, allegedly, possibly, there is a
Speaker 1: scientific reason why the talking stage is so draining for
Speaker 1: women seeking heterosexual relationships. Listen to this.
Speaker 5: I've seen a bunch of tiktoks lately about like the
Speaker 5: talking stage, about how to manage and interpret and analyze
Speaker 5: men's emotional cues when you're in the talking stage, and
Speaker 5: it's all got me thinking about this concept of not
Speaker 5: emotional labor, but of hermaenutic labor, which I learned about
Speaker 5: first on this like very good podcast episode, and then
Speaker 5: I followed up and read this like very accessible paper
Speaker 5: about the concept by one of the podcasts hosts to
Speaker 5: the philosopher. So the paper argues that men and women
Speaker 5: in like heterosexual relationships aren't necessarily doing different amounts of
Speaker 5: emotional labor, taking like for granted that emotional labor isn't
Speaker 5: only something that can happen in the context of like
Speaker 5: waged work. But what women do have to do the
Speaker 5: bulk of is this thing called hermaudic labor. Hermautics is
Speaker 5: the process and the discipline of interpreting texts, and so
Speaker 5: in a romantic context, it's women who are doing the
Speaker 5: bulk of interpretive cognitive work on the relationship, like, whereas
Speaker 5: emotional labor is sort of affective emotional work. Hermeneutic labor
Speaker 5: is intellectual cognitive work, and women doing this job. Unfortunately,
Speaker 5: it works out very badly for them and creates a
Speaker 5: lot of extra work for them, but it works out
Speaker 5: amazing for the men in their lives. I'm going to
Speaker 5: read this to you. I know the prince is tiny,
Speaker 5: and I'm sorry, but when women do this, men gain
Speaker 5: tidally packaged interpretations of their own feelings, desires, intentions, and
Speaker 5: motivations and those of women partners, as well as the
Speaker 5: delivery of these interpretations and carefully chosen conversations and the
Speaker 5: keeping of them to oneself when women partners think that
Speaker 5: sharing them might add to men's burdens. So women are
Speaker 5: just doing this interpretation and explaining it. They're also deciding
Speaker 5: when it's not worth talking about and when it's a
Speaker 5: good idea to talk about it. In short, women serve
Speaker 5: both as informal therapists for men and as informal couples
Speaker 5: therapists for the relationship. All of these videos that I'm
Speaker 5: seeing about how to make sense of what you're picking
Speaker 5: up on in the talking stage are prime examples of
Speaker 5: this type of hermeneutic labor.
Speaker 1: In them, you see these.
Speaker 5: Like interpretive frameworks taking shape with women interpreting and analyzing
Speaker 5: what men are saying. Is if those men and the
Speaker 5: words and the text that they offer are like the
Speaker 5: Bible or like like Finnegan's Week or something. This is
Speaker 5: hard work.
Speaker 1: This is intellectual work.
Speaker 5: And when women do it, they are to use a
Speaker 5: quote from the paper acting as relationship maintenance experts.
Speaker 4: Wow, that's interesting. One, that's intellectual. That's an intellectual moment.
Speaker 1: Isn't that something? I feel as though what we are
Speaker 1: misinterpreting as emotional labor is that like hermonetic curmen utic labor,
Speaker 1: This idea of interpreting and reinterpreting messages but also phrasing
Speaker 1: your messages in a way where the person does not
Speaker 1: have to do that labor. And so often these men
Speaker 1: are the beneficiaries of the effort that you've already done.
Speaker 1: You've already assessed. Is this a good thing to send?
Speaker 1: Is it not a good thing to send? What's the
Speaker 1: best way to get this message across? What's the best time?
Speaker 1: Is it gonna work out well for them? I know
Speaker 1: they were busy at work. Maybe now it's not good
Speaker 1: And later on they have their friends' birthdays, maybe I
Speaker 1: won't to send it later, and you've done all this stuff,
Speaker 1: you've repackaged it in a perfect way, and often you're
Speaker 1: getting the sum of like a flippant text like oh
Speaker 1: just send it, it's come through, or I won't take
Speaker 1: the time to express fully what I'm trying to say.
Speaker 1: I'm hoping you'll read between the lines, whatever, whatever, whatever.
Speaker 1: And this is why it's really tricky to end up
Speaker 1: in like a text situationship where the bulk of the
Speaker 1: interaction you're having is through text, and then you start
Speaker 1: to measure the quality or the validity of your relationship
Speaker 1: through the text messages sent and exchange, as opposed to
Speaker 1: being like the quickest way to know if it's going
Speaker 1: to work. So we get out of the text messages
Speaker 1: and we interact in person, and also so you get
Speaker 1: more contact with the way people are, not the way
Speaker 1: they tell you they're gonna be, because it's something about
Speaker 1: being in the physical space. Obviously you can do your charming,
Speaker 1: charming whatever, but the mask has to fall. And also
Speaker 1: you have very few opportunities to be like, oh that's
Speaker 1: what I thought it was. No like you caught the
Speaker 1: body language or lack thereof, you caught the vible lack thereof.
Speaker 1: But in text you're like, if he says, how's your weekend,
Speaker 1: you're hearing how's your weekend? And he's like, yeah, how's
Speaker 1: your weekend? And you're like, oh, okay, what's going on?
Speaker 4: This is South Black episode that I watched recently about
Speaker 4: Chad GBT, and it still make South Park babes every
Speaker 4: we spoke about they create them weekly about the week
Speaker 4: the world. Yeah, that's since two thousand or ninety seven,
Speaker 4: like no days, three years, and it's always he always hits.
Speaker 1: So is it funny?
Speaker 4: It's fucking funny.
Speaker 1: Do you think it's my kind of funny? They're probably not,
Speaker 1: because I'm observed. Yeah, I just know it is.
Speaker 4: It is funny. It is funny, it's not it's not
Speaker 4: true on this one. Well, it's crass obviously, but it's
Speaker 4: clever social commentary.
Speaker 1: I just get your cliff notes. Okay, So what do
Speaker 1: they say in this one?
Speaker 4: It's about chat GBT and Stan is texting Wendy, his girlfriend,
Speaker 4: and like his butters has put him onto it because
Speaker 4: like Wendy's always messaging him and he can't be fucked,
Speaker 4: so he like writes messages.
Speaker 1: Not all the first names that flex is like who yeah, Processing,
Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, Butters. Butter's Wendy Wendy.
Speaker 4: So he's getting chat GBT to like send all these
Speaker 4: beautiful messages and she's like in heaven. She's like dancing
Speaker 4: with her friends, like he's measuring me, and then she
Speaker 4: ends up like getting in trouble because she's got chat GBT. Everyone,
Speaker 4: like Cartman, everyone in the school's using chat GBT to
Speaker 4: like write these amazing essays about wars and stuff. And
Speaker 4: they're in fourth grade.
Speaker 1: They're in fourth grade. It's just they're children.
Speaker 4: They're in fourth grade. It's the best show on it.
Speaker 4: It's it's the smartest show I've ever watched.
Speaker 1: Put it that way, WHOA. That reminds me and I
Speaker 1: don't know if we've talked about it before. I meant
Speaker 1: to tell you about it. But there's this dating app
Speaker 1: or not this dating app even it's an app that
Speaker 1: helps you build relationships. And essentially what you do is
Speaker 1: you can either text someone through the app or copy
Speaker 1: and paste data from your messages or your message thread
Speaker 1: into this app, and it'll generate three different responses based
Speaker 1: on your intention. So if you want a flirty one
Speaker 1: or a happy one or a chill one. You put
Speaker 1: in a bit of the message thread and it'll use
Speaker 1: AI to create a response for you. And obviously the
Speaker 1: conversation is that ethical because you're not having the relationship
Speaker 1: with someone, the AI is building the relationship. Shout out
Speaker 1: to my robot boyfriend. But also I think that what
Speaker 1: would make dating easier is if we were acting like people,
Speaker 1: not ideal partners.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 1: So when you're in that initial talking stage, you're putting
Speaker 1: on a performance. And sometimes I think people don't necessarily know.
Speaker 1: They think they're being extremely genuine because they've learned how
Speaker 1: to do dating. So like I say this, and you
Speaker 1: say this. If you don't ask me a question, I
Speaker 1: think that's rude. And you don't say an emojis, that's
Speaker 1: not nice. If you don't ask me out within the
Speaker 1: next three days, it's not good or whatever it might be.
Speaker 1: And then you start to think, hmm, how do I
Speaker 1: talk to people I know and like very well? Might
Speaker 1: not talk to them at all often, you know, Like
Speaker 1: I would say through me, like how often do we speak?
Speaker 1: Some weeks a lot, some weeks not at all. But
Speaker 1: I don't measure the validity of our relationship based on that,
Speaker 1: I say, well, when we hang out, we're like get here,
Speaker 1: and we make sure we keep each other updated, and
Speaker 1: we're also participating in each other's lives. I'm like, I
Speaker 1: need your help with this. Do you have any advice?
Speaker 1: You do the same. We're building. But then when we
Speaker 1: move into these talking stage dynamics, I'm doing performance art
Speaker 1: of like personal girl who doesn't mind if you text,
Speaker 1: and who is also keeping my calendar open just in
Speaker 1: case you want to hang out, but we'll not express
Speaker 1: It's just like it's too tiring. It's too tiring if you've.
Speaker 4: Just met someone and you're trying to clear space in
Speaker 4: the cow.
Speaker 1: And if you ever think about canceling on a friend
Speaker 1: because it's the only day they're free, don't do it. Never.
Speaker 1: But also, you can't trust everything. I like, I remember
Speaker 1: one of the measures I would use to be like
Speaker 1: this thing is a thing, is he would cancel stuff
Speaker 1: for me. I'd be like, oh my goodness, he would
Speaker 1: cancel on whatever. And I'd be like, that's so crazy,
Speaker 1: Like he didn't go to so and so for me
Speaker 1: doesn't mean anything. Babe, just means that they're not great
Speaker 1: with resolve just means that one day you'll be the
Speaker 1: thing they cancel on for the next exciting thing that's
Speaker 1: popping up.
Speaker 4: Watch your back, Watch your back, babe.
Speaker 1: Let's remember this the next time we're trying to do
Speaker 1: some uh mental gymnastic mental gymnastics. Ruin his day, I
Speaker 1: did it the other day. It felt really good.
Speaker 4: Ruin his day.
Speaker 1: I recommend it.
Speaker 4: Lost your fair froo meno, boommmy, let smile.
Speaker 1: You're listening to flex and Rooms on kata.
Speaker 4: Welcome back to flex and frooms.
Speaker 1: Now. I don't know where you are in the world.
Speaker 4: Perhaps you are somewhere in an uber, and if you are,
Speaker 4: I want you to turn this all the way up,
Speaker 4: miss or missus person driving the uber, please, this is attention. Please,
Speaker 4: like you're in a tunnel, turn this all the way up. Okay,
Speaker 4: make it awkward for the person in the back. Tell
Speaker 4: them if they're ing AirPods, take him out, sis, because
Speaker 4: you're gonna want to hear this. I believe that there
Speaker 4: are two people in the world. Number one people who
Speaker 4: take an uber with their betrothed yep and kiss, and
Speaker 4: those who take an uber with their betrothed and stay
Speaker 4: firmly in their seats, no PDA, no PDA. Which camp
Speaker 4: do you land in? Flex?
Speaker 1: I want to know you first. When I first.
Speaker 4: Started kissing boys, this is around the time when taxis
Speaker 4: were a thing. Uber had not yet Australia, okay, And
Speaker 4: I have a distinct memory of driving all the way
Speaker 4: home thirty kilometers from the Melbourne.
Speaker 1: CBD to a undisclosed, dashed suburb.
Speaker 4: I remember him kissing me and he was a talk
Speaker 4: king and his dress shoe which was like one of
Speaker 4: them laced up shoes. You've got a nightclub's here, pet leather? Yeah,
Speaker 4: I think I saw snapper okay, soft namber. Moment was
Speaker 4: like hitting the vent and like possibly breaking it. The
Speaker 4: taxi diver was getting so pissed off.
Speaker 1: And then fast.
Speaker 4: Forward to now, as a mature woman sex in the
Speaker 4: city style, A man goes to kiss me in the
Speaker 4: back of a Nuba, Like, no, there's another full human
Speaker 4: being in the front. He's not getting paid a tip
Speaker 4: for this. We're not gonna have show and Telsea. Literally
Speaker 4: I'm like, he's in the front effing seat and we're
Speaker 4: in the back kissing all over each other, obviously going somewhere. Yuck,
Speaker 4: put it away and stop and wait until we're out
Speaker 4: of the car. Oh, sickening?
Speaker 1: Should we finding a downway way teller for her weekend?
Speaker 1: So I was in the backs even but with the
Speaker 1: man I was, and he wanted to kiss me said no,
Speaker 1: you can't kiss me. Okay, we get it. You eligible sis.
Speaker 1: People want to taste I will say, I agree. Kissing
Speaker 1: in the back seat was very taxi behavior. It happened
Speaker 1: far too many times because there was the illusion of anonymity,
Speaker 1: like you don't know my name, you don't know where
Speaker 1: I'm going, you don't have my information. I'm just in.
Speaker 1: You're an NPC, I'm an NPC. We're converging briefly to
Speaker 1: never meet each other again. I don't know about you.
Speaker 1: But the few times I catch you, but now I
Speaker 1: get the same drivers often ites like oh, I dropped
Speaker 1: out to the airport last time. Where are you going?
Speaker 1: I'm like, again, how is this possible? So not only
Speaker 1: that you run the risk of them seeing you, but
Speaker 1: they have your information, they know where you're going, and
Speaker 1: we're encouraged to bridge the gap where no longer just
Speaker 1: strangers in the car. You are the task master taking
Speaker 1: me to my next quest. I shall acknowledge you as
Speaker 1: a person. Yeh, have some decorum please. I think it's
Speaker 1: also an age thing, you age out of those antics,
Speaker 1: because I do recall the kissing in the taxi was
Speaker 1: because you weren't going to a destination where the kissing
Speaker 1: was going to continue. You were going home and they
Speaker 1: were going home, so you have to get it in
Speaker 1: the taxi. Now you have a place to lay pipe.
Speaker 4: You sick in me every time kits flex and frooms,
Speaker 4: Flex and frooms.
Speaker 1: When do you stop gift giving as a family. That's
Speaker 1: the question we're answering today on flex and frooms. I
Speaker 1: don't know how we came to this, but I think
Speaker 1: I mentioned that my family and I don't really give gifts,
Speaker 1: and that I distinctly remember it stopping when I turned
Speaker 1: eighteen nineteen and when I moved out of home. I'm
Speaker 1: the youngest sibling, so I assume that all those kind
Speaker 1: of really traditional traditions were kept because of me, not
Speaker 1: because anybody wanted to participate. And when I opted out,
Speaker 1: everybody stopped opting out. Now, if we're pretty sure we
Speaker 1: were talking about this because you had just had your birthday,
Speaker 1: not well, today's my birthday, so but when it was
Speaker 1: your birthday. You forgetting Happy birthday, lil relax when don't
Speaker 1: dox me. It's not the government name. Please you discuss
Speaker 1: receiving gifts from your parents. Is that still happening at
Speaker 1: your ripe old haggard age.
Speaker 4: Yes, she's barren and yet the gifts continue. How is
Speaker 4: that possible? I don't know, Like how is it in
Speaker 4: the budget?
Speaker 1: Yeah? I don't know. I feel a bit bad. Not
Speaker 1: that bad. You just developed empathy.
Speaker 4: The mortgage can wait for them, your retirement put it
Speaker 4: on hold. I need this silver choker which I'm getting
Speaker 4: for my birthday, little silver heart on a black string.
Speaker 4: We're from a random jury shop in Chapel Street.
Speaker 1: Not the jury shop. It's meitty you literally why because
Speaker 1: is it just a tradition that's never stopped or it?
Speaker 1: Would you feel bad if they were like we don't
Speaker 1: have it this year? Like I would be really upset.
Speaker 4: And also I live into state, so my parents are like,
Speaker 4: we pay for a lot of stuff for your sister.
Speaker 1: So when they pay for your sister, I don't give me.
Speaker 1: Give me an example like paint for insurance? Nah, a registration.
Speaker 4: Maybe meals like she'll go over to their house visits
Speaker 4: and then I'm not part of the dinner, so I
Speaker 4: got to make my own vodka pasta.
Speaker 1: Can we get a third party to wag in Brookie?
Speaker 1: Does your family do gifts?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 3: I get three hundred for Birthday and Christmas and.
Speaker 1: Cash or the value of a gift.
Speaker 3: The value so I could choose what I want to
Speaker 3: do with. Okay, So a lot of the time I'll say, hey,
Speaker 3: can I get this, this and this? But yeah, I
Speaker 3: also don't pay for my car stuff either. Oh, it's giving,
Speaker 3: You're on the family plan. Still, it's giving dependent gal literally.
Speaker 1: Fun, don't give that up.
Speaker 4: I don't.
Speaker 1: Don't you for being honest about it?
Speaker 5: You know I are.
Speaker 1: We still struggling with that for me, still trying to play.
Speaker 1: I'm just like the rest of you, right, I'd be
Speaker 1: very upset if Mamy and Daddy didn't get me a
Speaker 1: kiss the CI in that cafe lost song. Okay DJ
Speaker 1: every Friday in primary school, I understand.
Speaker 4: Don't you're listening to Flex and Frooms, I'm Kaita.
Speaker 1: Today we're discussing friendship and jealousy. What do you do
Speaker 1: if a friend reveals to you that they're jealous of you?
Speaker 1: Don't answer that listen to this first.
Speaker 2: If you had a friend who confessed to you that
Speaker 2: she didn't have the capacity to be happy for you,
Speaker 2: and that even though she loved you, being around you
Speaker 2: was painful and she was jealous of what you had,
Speaker 2: would you keep her around because you were impressed by
Speaker 2: her honesty? Would you recognize that a snake that you
Speaker 2: aid will always still bite you in the hand.
Speaker 1: Let her go.
Speaker 6: There's a way to reward honestly, yes, But there's a
Speaker 6: way to accept someone being honest and realizing how there's
Speaker 6: absolutely nothing you can do to change that person, no
Speaker 6: matter how much you love them. Now that I know this,
Speaker 6: would this fulfill me to maintain this relationship moving forward?
Speaker 7: And everyone that you show up for as a friend
Speaker 7: is not your friend.
Speaker 1: Ooh, this is just drag me. When we talk.
Speaker 7: About envy and we talk about jealousy, nine times out
Speaker 7: of ten, the older we get, the less material it is.
Speaker 1: I know we think it's.
Speaker 7: Material, it is soldier we get the more the envy
Speaker 7: and the jealousy is around the way people love you,
Speaker 7: the way spirits celebrate you, the way people choose to
Speaker 7: show up for you, worthy of it or not. If
Speaker 7: people are enveloping you in love and support constantly. That
Speaker 7: is enough for somebody on the outside to be jealous
Speaker 7: of that.
Speaker 1: That was an exact in the podcast See the Thing Is,
Speaker 1: And that was a word because initially I was of
Speaker 1: the belief that like, oh, you know, there is something
Speaker 1: to reward when someone's honest with you about a really
Speaker 1: embarrassing or revealing secret. It's like, damn, that's a big
Speaker 1: of you to say thank you for sharing. You have
Speaker 1: to exit my life immediately because that energy, you know,
Speaker 1: like it's one thing to have, like your anxiety come up,
Speaker 1: or your anxiety and you're like, oh, nobody likes me
Speaker 1: or what or I felt a weird vibe? Or is
Speaker 1: that person envious for them to reveal you can't be
Speaker 1: trusted you really think, well, not that you can't be trusted,
Speaker 1: but also it's just it makes me question the validity
Speaker 1: of our dynamic now because if you can't see passed,
Speaker 1: because I often think envy and jealousy is usually based
Speaker 1: on the illusion of how something looks like. I'm jealous
Speaker 1: of what your job looks like. I'm jealous of how
Speaker 1: I feel like I see people respond to you. You know,
Speaker 1: it's it's like the superficiality of it all. And sometimes
Speaker 1: if you can't separate yourself from the reality of what
Speaker 1: it is to be like it's just them, Like, it's
Speaker 1: not even about you. I don't know how you're gonna
Speaker 1: work on bypassing how you feel to be a good friend.
Speaker 1: And I don't need friend who aren't good friends. What's
Speaker 1: that like? Just be an acquaintance. I disagree, be a stranger.
Speaker 4: I think it shows that you really want to work
Speaker 4: through these feelings. I'm someone who's very honest about this stuff,
Speaker 4: and there's nothing wrong with being honest and being like
Speaker 4: I'm jealous of I'm finding it really hard. And then
Speaker 4: they can open up and be like, oh, it's not
Speaker 4: even that great.
Speaker 1: See but look at that, look at that serious events.
Speaker 1: I can tell them this thing so they can validate
Speaker 1: my insecurity. Nah, that's not helpful. I think it is
Speaker 1: for you, not for them. And like we're talking, I'm
Speaker 1: someone like I don't feel very envious of people, and
Speaker 1: I've experience people who are envious of me, and it's
Speaker 1: a weird burden to shoulder because like, what I'm living
Speaker 1: has nothing to do with you. But you've never been
Speaker 1: jealous of someone not in the way that I feel.
Speaker 1: I'm a very self interested person. I care a lot
Speaker 1: about myself and what I think and how I feel.
Speaker 1: And the pipeline from that person has the thing I want,
Speaker 1: I'm like, why I need to forget it? So now
Speaker 1: we both have it.
Speaker 4: Damn you're a bit different.
Speaker 1: Yeah, So when someone's like, I'm really jealous of you,
Speaker 1: I'm thinking, like, don't bring me down with you, baby,
Speaker 1: sort it out. Let me know how you go, because,
Speaker 1: like I can understand, for a lot of people, experiencing
Speaker 1: envy and experiencing jealousy is debilitating. It's not this like
Speaker 1: amplifying propelling activity. It can get you down. Now you're
Speaker 1: in the dumps and your company. I can't be in
Speaker 1: there with you. Yeah, I'm not doing that, No, but
Speaker 1: I don't think it's a soft ghost. It's definitely not
Speaker 1: like a we're not friends anything. That's a horrible way
Speaker 1: to go say that. But then you are the envious
Speaker 1: person in the dynamic, babe. So like from your end,
Speaker 1: you're like, I just feel like people should help me,
Speaker 1: and it's like, yeah, but like not every not every
Speaker 1: person is like your full responsibility. And in that issue,
Speaker 1: I'm like props for sharing, But you gotta figure that
Speaker 1: out because like, it's not even about me at that point,
Speaker 1: it's literally about you. So to now make it a
Speaker 1: joint activity, a group adventure, I'm taking on too much.
Speaker 1: Some people gotta like gotta shoulder the responsibility of their
Speaker 1: own burdens on their own.
Speaker 4: Seek some free therapy.
Speaker 1: Okay, seek help.
Speaker 4: Jeez, it's a few Reddit threads for this said.
Speaker 1: Seek help. You've been listening to The Flex and Froom's
Speaker 1: daily podcast.
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