WEBVTT - In bed with Australia's highest paid escort - UNCUT WITH SAMANTHA X 0:00:19.200 --> 0:00:22.760 Hi, guys, and welcome back to another episode of Life Uncut. 0:00:22.800 --> 0:00:26.079 I'm Laura and I'm Brittany, and Happy Tuesday. Life is. 0:00:26.200 --> 0:00:28.080 It is a good week to be alive. 0:00:28.280 --> 0:00:30.600 It is a good week. Do you know what a 0:00:30.600 --> 0:00:33.199 lot is happening? Melbourne? You're about to join us in 0:00:33.240 --> 0:00:37.560 freedom And I honestly cannot tell you how friggin' happy 0:00:37.640 --> 0:00:40.239 I am that New South Wales is out of lockdown. 0:00:40.440 --> 0:00:42.800 That's Melbourne's about to be out of lockdown and join us. 0:00:42.960 --> 0:00:45.080 I know that there were so many people on social 0:00:45.159 --> 0:00:48.519 media this week who've just been celebrating that's happening on Thursday. 0:00:48.760 --> 0:00:53.640 We have the Bachelorette starting on Wednesday, which also means, guys, 0:00:54.280 --> 0:00:56.600 we may or may not, but I think it's more 0:00:56.720 --> 0:01:00.440 may undecided. No, no, no, we've decided made Jay is 0:01:00.480 --> 0:01:04.560 making a comeback and we will be doing some bachelorette. Ah. 0:01:07.920 --> 0:01:10.600 Okay, how long has Matt been standing at the door 0:01:10.600 --> 0:01:11.559 waiting for that moment? 0:01:12.480 --> 0:01:17.000 You just scared the absolute shoot out of me just then. 0:01:17.760 --> 0:01:21.319 I haven't brushed my teeth, so very conking me. 0:01:21.440 --> 0:01:23.320 This is real close. We're sharing a microphone. 0:01:23.520 --> 0:01:25.600 Matt lucky that none of the listeners can actually smell 0:01:25.640 --> 0:01:27.560 your breath. But thanks for letting Australia know that you 0:01:27.600 --> 0:01:29.680 haven't brush your teeth. Well, I'm more so worried about 0:01:29.760 --> 0:01:32.160 Laura because we're sharing the one mike here. But yeah, 0:01:32.280 --> 0:01:33.200 very excited to come back. 0:01:33.240 --> 0:01:33.640 Can't wait. 0:01:33.720 --> 0:01:35.800 It's gonna be great. How long were you waiting at 0:01:35.800 --> 0:01:37.400 the door for us to mention that so you could 0:01:37.400 --> 0:01:39.399 burst in and have your moment. I've been there for 0:01:39.400 --> 0:01:43.080 an hour and a half. My legs are cramping. I 0:01:43.080 --> 0:01:45.440 had to go to the bathroom, but it was worth it. 0:01:45.560 --> 0:01:46.560 I had to wet my pants. 0:01:47.280 --> 0:01:51.520 There's a puddle on the floor outside. Okay, so look 0:01:51.560 --> 0:01:54.200 that is happening. That Chohan cut is coming on Thursday. 0:01:54.280 --> 0:01:56.520 Brit is out of quarantine and very soon we'll be 0:01:56.560 --> 0:01:58.920 reunited in real life. It's just a good week, guys. 0:01:59.080 --> 0:02:02.120 It's like we're so close, but we're so fast. I 0:02:02.440 --> 0:02:04.480 came out of quarantine last week. As you know, I 0:02:04.760 --> 0:02:07.120 quarantined in Adelaide. Well actually maybe some of you don't know, 0:02:07.160 --> 0:02:09.240 but I quarantined in Adelaide and that was just because 0:02:09.240 --> 0:02:10.800 that was the only flight I could get back. The 0:02:10.800 --> 0:02:13.200 only place in Australia that would take me was Adelaide, 0:02:13.280 --> 0:02:16.040 So I was like, wherever, I will go anywhere. But 0:02:16.400 --> 0:02:18.960 what it means is because I was in Adelaide, which 0:02:19.080 --> 0:02:21.800 isn't classified as a hotspot, I was able to fly 0:02:22.200 --> 0:02:24.600 to Queensland and see my family. So if I went 0:02:24.600 --> 0:02:26.640 back to New South Wales to see you immediately, Laura, 0:02:26.639 --> 0:02:28.880 which I wanted to do, I wouldn't have been able 0:02:28.880 --> 0:02:30.600 to see the fam. So I just like, I just 0:02:30.720 --> 0:02:32.359 grabbed the opportunity why it was there, and I flew 0:02:32.360 --> 0:02:34.400 straight up to see my sister Sherry, my brother Mitch. 0:02:34.400 --> 0:02:36.239 I haven't seen him in a year, so that was 0:02:36.320 --> 0:02:38.600 quite nice. And I'll be back in just a few 0:02:38.680 --> 0:02:40.919 days and then we'll be doing this face to face 0:02:40.960 --> 0:02:42.600 after what feels like forever. 0:02:42.919 --> 0:02:44.560 Maybe you could just sit in another room and we 0:02:44.600 --> 0:02:46.520 can still record over zoom. I've gotten so used to 0:02:46.520 --> 0:02:47.920 it now. Don't know what it's going to be like 0:02:47.960 --> 0:02:49.799 to see you in real life and touch you. I'll 0:02:49.800 --> 0:02:50.919 have like first date, Jitters. 0:02:50.919 --> 0:02:53.520 We probably won't be we probably won't be able to talk. 0:02:53.919 --> 0:02:55.520 We're gonna be like what do we do now? What 0:02:55.560 --> 0:02:56.480 do we do in real life? 0:02:56.520 --> 0:02:58.880 Well, also just on the whole, like you know, I mean, 0:02:58.960 --> 0:03:00.959 everything else feels like it's getting back to normal. I 0:03:01.000 --> 0:03:02.880 can't tell you. Yesterday, Matt and I we went for 0:03:02.919 --> 0:03:06.000 a walk down in Bondai and there were people outside 0:03:06.040 --> 0:03:08.400 doing salsa, dancing on the promenade. There were people with 0:03:08.480 --> 0:03:12.519 bongo drums. It was honestly just the happiest, the happiest 0:03:12.600 --> 0:03:16.000 I have ever seen Bonda. Everyone was celebrating. But we 0:03:16.240 --> 0:03:19.240 have still had to postpone the wedding because unfortunately with 0:03:19.360 --> 0:03:22.280 the Queensland and the borders being shut, Matt's family, Matt's mum, 0:03:22.320 --> 0:03:24.880 MAT's brothers and my dad, everybody is still in Queensland, 0:03:24.919 --> 0:03:26.720 so we didn't want to still have the wedding in 0:03:26.760 --> 0:03:28.080 the next couple of weeks. 0:03:27.800 --> 0:03:31.480 When half your family can't come, the family can't be there. 0:03:31.760 --> 0:03:33.480 So that's one thing I can't believe. 0:03:33.520 --> 0:03:36.120 You were supposed to be married in a few weeks. 0:03:36.640 --> 0:03:38.000 That is bonkers. 0:03:38.280 --> 0:03:40.040 So for all you life, that's gonna let you in 0:03:40.040 --> 0:03:41.640 on a little secret. We were supposed to be getting 0:03:41.640 --> 0:03:44.240 married on the eleventh of November. And it's crazy because 0:03:44.240 --> 0:03:46.640 now essentially we could get married, the wedding could go 0:03:46.680 --> 0:03:49.320 ahead in exactly the way that we wanted it to, 0:03:49.760 --> 0:03:52.040 except just our family wouldn't be there, so we've had 0:03:52.040 --> 0:03:53.520 to post. 0:03:53.640 --> 0:03:56.200 So not quite exactly the way you wanted to minor 0:03:56.240 --> 0:03:59.640 technicality with half of the family missing. It sucks from 0:03:59.680 --> 0:04:01.600 multiple reasons, like it sucks because you can't get married, 0:04:01.640 --> 0:04:03.320 but it sucks because it was a really good date. 0:04:03.400 --> 0:04:06.480 It was eleven eleven twenty one. Like Matt would never 0:04:06.520 --> 0:04:07.120 have forgotten that. 0:04:07.240 --> 0:04:09.480 He probably would still forget it. I mean, to be fair, 0:04:09.640 --> 0:04:12.120 neither of us are very good with dates. It's not 0:04:12.160 --> 0:04:14.240 a forte. I don't even know when our anniversary is. 0:04:14.360 --> 0:04:16.160 I mean you do, because it was on a national 0:04:16.160 --> 0:04:19.320 TV show and we still managed to forget. 0:04:20.360 --> 0:04:22.400 Well, now that we're talking about big news, there is 0:04:22.600 --> 0:04:25.120 also some other really positive and massive news that has 0:04:25.120 --> 0:04:27.560 happened in Australia, which Brittain I wanted to touch on today. 0:04:27.600 --> 0:04:27.760 Now. 0:04:27.760 --> 0:04:31.280 It's definitely more serious news, but it's something that I mean, 0:04:31.320 --> 0:04:33.000 you guys know if you've listened to the podcast for 0:04:33.040 --> 0:04:36.800 a while that speaking about domestic violence has been something 0:04:36.839 --> 0:04:39.440 that's been a reoccurring theme on the podcast. It's something 0:04:39.520 --> 0:04:41.839 that both Britta and I are really passionate about. We 0:04:41.920 --> 0:04:44.640 did a really important episode with Jess Hill recently. If 0:04:44.680 --> 0:04:46.680 you haven't listened to that, I'd recommend going back and 0:04:46.680 --> 0:04:49.760 listening to it. But Australia as of today has just 0:04:49.800 --> 0:04:52.440 brought out some huge changes, and that is that women 0:04:52.480 --> 0:04:55.440 who are fleeing domestic violence and who have been subjected 0:04:55.480 --> 0:04:58.320 to domestic violence in their household will be able and 0:04:58.400 --> 0:05:01.400 eligible to get a five thousand dollar payout from the 0:05:01.440 --> 0:05:03.960 government in order to help them to be able to 0:05:04.040 --> 0:05:05.320 leave and set up a new life. 0:05:05.320 --> 0:05:06.280 And we all know. 0:05:06.440 --> 0:05:10.080 That one of the biggest barriers for women leaving toxic 0:05:10.480 --> 0:05:14.240 and violent situations, especially in their family home, is that 0:05:14.279 --> 0:05:17.240 so many of them have been financially restricted and this 0:05:17.279 --> 0:05:19.760 will allow women to be able to make that next 0:05:19.760 --> 0:05:22.240 step and to be able to leave a perpetrator. And honestly, 0:05:22.520 --> 0:05:24.240 I read this in the news today and I just 0:05:24.279 --> 0:05:28.080 felt so happy that this has finally happened. I mean 0:05:28.120 --> 0:05:30.320 a long time coming, but I wanted to share that 0:05:30.360 --> 0:05:31.160 with you guys as well. 0:05:31.240 --> 0:05:33.359 It is absolutely huge and like you just said, Laura, 0:05:33.400 --> 0:05:36.120 we are so passionate about it, and I guess what 0:05:36.240 --> 0:05:39.440 is happening is is becoming more spoken about so people 0:05:39.480 --> 0:05:41.960 like podcasts like us Jess Hill, who is advocating for it. 0:05:42.000 --> 0:05:44.480 I feel like for a long time people didn't really 0:05:44.520 --> 0:05:47.919 know what understand what was happening in relationships with domestic vials, 0:05:47.960 --> 0:05:49.720 what women and children were going through. And I feel 0:05:49.720 --> 0:05:51.800 like the more we're speaking about it, the more we're 0:05:51.839 --> 0:05:54.600 making changes. Now this is a five thousand dollars one 0:05:54.640 --> 0:05:56.960 off payment and it is actually part of a one 0:05:56.960 --> 0:06:00.839 point one billion dollar women's safety package, so there's a 0:06:00.839 --> 0:06:03.360 lot more going on behind the scenes. Like I'm stoked 0:06:03.400 --> 0:06:05.360 for it, but I guess my little worry is that 0:06:05.400 --> 0:06:08.240 the five thousand dollars is broken into one thy five 0:06:08.320 --> 0:06:10.480 hundred in cash, and then the remainder of that money 0:06:10.520 --> 0:06:14.000 is things for food or payment for bonds and school fees, 0:06:14.160 --> 0:06:15.720 trying to help them get back on their feet with 0:06:15.800 --> 0:06:20.120 a house, like establish themselves, which is amazing, But my 0:06:20.320 --> 0:06:24.320 worry is when a woman leaves a situation in domestic violence, 0:06:25.000 --> 0:06:27.080 ninety percent of the time they leave with nothing but 0:06:27.120 --> 0:06:29.640 the clothes on their back, a bag for their kids, 0:06:29.640 --> 0:06:31.320 and n is it like a small bag. They just 0:06:31.440 --> 0:06:33.680 leave they have nothing. So my worry is that as 0:06:33.839 --> 0:06:37.080 amazing as this is, fifteen hundred dollars of the cash, 0:06:37.320 --> 0:06:40.320 it's better than nothing, But we still have a long 0:06:40.360 --> 0:06:42.280 way to go in how we can support these women. 0:06:42.400 --> 0:06:45.360 So we're definitely moving in the right direction, but still 0:06:45.360 --> 0:06:46.279 some things that worry me. 0:06:46.320 --> 0:06:48.640 I guess, Oh, I absolutely agree. I don't think that 0:06:48.720 --> 0:06:51.159 this is this isn't a solution, and this isn't going 0:06:51.240 --> 0:06:53.240 to be here. Here's five thousand dollars. This will fix 0:06:53.279 --> 0:06:56.240 the problem by any means. But I think it's like 0:06:56.440 --> 0:06:59.800 having something, having some sort of security and financial security 0:06:59.839 --> 0:07:02.000 to know that if you do leave with just the 0:07:02.040 --> 0:07:05.159 clothes on your back, that there is some finances there 0:07:05.160 --> 0:07:06.800 that's going to get you through the first week or 0:07:06.839 --> 0:07:09.560 the second week. Just why you figure out your next move. 0:07:09.720 --> 0:07:12.840 Oh, this payment alone could be the difference with a 0:07:12.880 --> 0:07:14.960 woman feeling like she can leave and she can't leave, 0:07:15.080 --> 0:07:16.400 like this could be the decide. 0:07:16.560 --> 0:07:18.000 And I guess the other part of this is that 0:07:18.040 --> 0:07:20.880 it's so important to have services, it's so important to 0:07:20.960 --> 0:07:24.400 have support at the back end of domestic violence, But 0:07:24.440 --> 0:07:26.480 there also needs to be just as much money and 0:07:26.640 --> 0:07:29.560 just as much focus being put onto prevention and how 0:07:29.560 --> 0:07:32.440 do we educate young boys so that they're not continuing 0:07:32.440 --> 0:07:35.480 this same pattern behavior. The more that we have conversations 0:07:35.520 --> 0:07:37.640 about it, the more that people become aware of how 0:07:37.680 --> 0:07:40.920 prolific it is how many women will experience this in 0:07:40.960 --> 0:07:43.560 their lifetime, and so I mean, I guess it's just 0:07:43.920 --> 0:07:47.559 another step in the right direction. But Britt, you also 0:07:47.600 --> 0:07:51.000 have a recommendation for us for today's episode, and I 0:07:51.080 --> 0:07:52.840 know that this ties in quite nicely. 0:07:53.360 --> 0:07:55.480 Yeah, it actually is, and this wasn't planned at all. 0:07:55.480 --> 0:07:58.400 I was always coming in with this recommendation. But speaking 0:07:58.400 --> 0:08:00.320 about how important it is for us to speak about 0:08:00.320 --> 0:08:04.520 these issues more often, I cannot recommend the Netflix series 0:08:04.840 --> 0:08:05.679 Made enough. 0:08:05.760 --> 0:08:05.920 Now. 0:08:05.920 --> 0:08:07.920 I know that a lot of you probably have watched 0:08:07.960 --> 0:08:10.560 it already. I binge watched it when I was in quarantine. 0:08:10.600 --> 0:08:13.360 I think maybe two days Max I watched it probably 0:08:13.360 --> 0:08:15.480 in the day. I put some stories up on my 0:08:15.520 --> 0:08:18.280 Instagram just saying how great the series was about halfway through, 0:08:18.280 --> 0:08:19.880 and I had a lot of people riding back saying, Oh, 0:08:19.880 --> 0:08:22.000 I've just started it. It's so amazing. I loved it, 0:08:22.360 --> 0:08:24.080 and I have since seen it trending. There are a 0:08:24.120 --> 0:08:27.160 lot of publications and a lot of people talking about it, 0:08:27.160 --> 0:08:30.200 and I wanted to add myself into that mix. I 0:08:30.200 --> 0:08:32.360 cannot recommend it enough. If you don't know what made 0:08:32.360 --> 0:08:34.679 it is about. It is based on a true story 0:08:34.920 --> 0:08:37.240 and it is just about this twenty three year old 0:08:37.240 --> 0:08:40.080 girl in America. Her name is Alex and the whole 0:08:40.160 --> 0:08:42.600 series is about her. She has a two year old 0:08:42.679 --> 0:08:46.120 daughter and she's trying to escape an abusive relationship. Now, 0:08:46.240 --> 0:08:50.439 the abusive relationship, it's emotional abuse and coercive control. There 0:08:50.480 --> 0:08:53.400 are aspects of violence within it, but it's more about 0:08:53.520 --> 0:08:57.440 him having really violent outbursts and punching holes in walls 0:08:57.440 --> 0:08:59.480 and pushing her a little bit like that. And it's 0:08:59.480 --> 0:09:02.000 about how the next step if she stayed in that 0:09:02.040 --> 0:09:06.680 relationship would be very, very serious physical domestic violence. Now, 0:09:06.720 --> 0:09:09.360 what it highlights is and the reason it is so 0:09:09.559 --> 0:09:13.520 powerful is it shows her struggle to escape and how 0:09:13.920 --> 0:09:17.680 fucking hard it is she leaves this relationship, and it 0:09:17.760 --> 0:09:21.560 is almost It highlights the poverty system in America and 0:09:21.600 --> 0:09:23.480 how hard it is for anybody to get back on 0:09:23.520 --> 0:09:25.600 their feet and live in a safe environment. It's about 0:09:25.840 --> 0:09:28.240 she goes around in circles trying to get payments for 0:09:28.280 --> 0:09:30.640 benefits to help, which is why it's so important we 0:09:30.679 --> 0:09:32.720 talk about this five thousand dollar payment. It's about her 0:09:32.760 --> 0:09:35.160 trying to get a job, but jobs won't employ her 0:09:35.240 --> 0:09:37.320 until she has a residential address. She's like, well, how 0:09:37.320 --> 0:09:40.040 do I get a residential address without a job. It's 0:09:40.080 --> 0:09:42.800 constantly highlighting. It has these little thing throughout it, where 0:09:42.800 --> 0:09:44.800 like every time she spends money, which is like two 0:09:44.880 --> 0:09:47.120 dollars on some petrol, she'll put like five dollars a 0:09:47.120 --> 0:09:49.520 petrol in a car and a little bank balance comes up, 0:09:49.520 --> 0:09:51.800 and it constantly shows how much money she has left, 0:09:52.040 --> 0:09:54.880 and every single day she gets down to like the 0:09:54.960 --> 0:09:58.320 twenty cents and she eventually gets a job as a 0:09:58.360 --> 0:10:01.640 cleaner and a maid. And it just shows the insidious 0:10:01.720 --> 0:10:05.079 nature of what happens in these relationships when you're trying 0:10:05.080 --> 0:10:06.319 to leave and how you try and get back on 0:10:06.360 --> 0:10:09.120 your feet, and nobody is speaking about it. No, there 0:10:09.120 --> 0:10:11.680 are no Netflix shows, no one has really coveted in 0:10:11.760 --> 0:10:16.800 this aspect before, and it's honestly mind boggling, and I 0:10:16.800 --> 0:10:19.000 do not understand how anyone in this situation is supposed 0:10:19.000 --> 0:10:21.400 to get back on their feet. And I honestly think everyone, 0:10:21.480 --> 0:10:24.520 every man, every woman, needs to watch this show. I 0:10:24.520 --> 0:10:27.520 think you can hear how passionate I am in my voice, Laura, like, 0:10:27.600 --> 0:10:30.000 please watch it. You will just be blown away. 0:10:30.200 --> 0:10:32.800 I haven't seen it yet, and it has come recommended, 0:10:32.840 --> 0:10:35.000 not just by you, but by every other media outlet 0:10:35.120 --> 0:10:37.600 recently that I've kind of tuned into. But one of 0:10:37.600 --> 0:10:39.160 the things that I saw, and Britt correct me if 0:10:39.160 --> 0:10:43.360 this is wrong, but kind of nothing big happens, as 0:10:43.400 --> 0:10:47.680 in like there's no prolific or cataclysmic storyline. It's just 0:10:47.800 --> 0:10:50.840 exploring the very normal. And when I say normal, I 0:10:50.880 --> 0:10:53.439 mean like the everyday struggles that someone who's trying to 0:10:53.520 --> 0:10:57.600 leave a coercive control relationship or a domestic violent situation. 0:10:57.880 --> 0:11:00.320 I think sometimes when we think about domestic violent, we 0:11:00.440 --> 0:11:04.240 think it has to be violent, like actual physical violence. 0:11:04.640 --> 0:11:06.800 But from the conversations we had with Jess Hill, from 0:11:06.800 --> 0:11:10.200 the conversations that we've had with doctor Angela Ja, that's 0:11:10.200 --> 0:11:13.079 not where it starts. It's this small it's verbal abuse, 0:11:13.160 --> 0:11:16.480 it's the small put downs, It's the toxicity, and that's 0:11:16.480 --> 0:11:18.400 how it grows. And I think that the fact that 0:11:18.440 --> 0:11:21.600 this TV show has been created around the start of 0:11:21.600 --> 0:11:24.520 what that can look like and not necessarily on the 0:11:24.520 --> 0:11:27.360 big cataclysmic events that kind of can evolve from a 0:11:27.400 --> 0:11:30.800 toxic relationship adds a lot of power and adds a 0:11:30.840 --> 0:11:33.440 lot of weight for women who are in situations where 0:11:33.440 --> 0:11:36.040 they sit there and they go I don't know if 0:11:36.080 --> 0:11:38.840 this is considered domestic violence. I don't know if what 0:11:38.840 --> 0:11:42.360 I'm being subjected to or what I'm experiencing is actually DV, 0:11:42.880 --> 0:11:45.040 or whether I can make an excuse for it, or 0:11:45.040 --> 0:11:47.800 whether he's just very hyper emotional or he sometimes has 0:11:47.840 --> 0:11:50.480 outbursts but he's never actually hit me. I think there's 0:11:50.480 --> 0:11:52.480 a real gray area there for a lot of people, 0:11:52.600 --> 0:11:56.160 and seeing it reflected back on a Netflix series makes 0:11:56.200 --> 0:11:59.240 that gray area and that ambiguity a lot less and 0:11:59.280 --> 0:12:00.000 a lot more black. 0:12:00.559 --> 0:12:02.320 Yeah, And what it does is and this is why 0:12:02.360 --> 0:12:04.880 it's so powerful. Like you just said, you're right, nothing 0:12:05.240 --> 0:12:08.880 big happens in terms of there's nothing explosive in every episode. 0:12:08.960 --> 0:12:12.559 It really is just a looking to somebody's reality, the 0:12:12.640 --> 0:12:14.640 day to day struggles. And even though I'm saying nothing 0:12:14.640 --> 0:12:17.120 big is happening, you're still hooked. It's still very gripping, 0:12:17.160 --> 0:12:19.920 it's still very raw. But what I loved the most is, 0:12:20.040 --> 0:12:22.079 and I'm going to talk about it. This isn't a spoiler, 0:12:22.080 --> 0:12:23.960 but I'm going to talk about some things. But what 0:12:24.000 --> 0:12:27.600 I love the most is it really highlights what goes 0:12:27.600 --> 0:12:31.000 on in these relationships in terms of women. Going back 0:12:31.200 --> 0:12:34.640 to domestic violence, relationships because we all know it takes 0:12:34.640 --> 0:12:36.960 well maybe we don't all know, but it does take 0:12:37.000 --> 0:12:40.640 women up to seven times to leave a relationship for 0:12:40.679 --> 0:12:43.280 good an abusive relationship. That's how many times that they 0:12:43.320 --> 0:12:45.880 will go back, five to seven times, which is huge. 0:12:45.920 --> 0:12:49.480 So it highlights that and it highlights how the justice 0:12:49.520 --> 0:12:53.240 system still is still a little bit more skewed to 0:12:53.320 --> 0:12:55.320 the men, and how hard it is to prove your 0:12:55.360 --> 0:12:57.760 domestic violence. So she didn't know that she had to 0:12:57.760 --> 0:12:59.559 go straight and file a police report. She thought she 0:12:59.600 --> 0:13:02.880 could leave straight away and get to safety. But ultimately 0:13:02.920 --> 0:13:05.439 they were saying, well, you know, did anyone see this happen? 0:13:05.520 --> 0:13:07.360 And she was like, well, no, it was at home. 0:13:07.679 --> 0:13:09.640 Did you file a police report? Well no, because I 0:13:09.720 --> 0:13:11.840 run straight to a shelter. I didn't. I was scared. 0:13:12.440 --> 0:13:15.800 And because of that, the law leant more towards the 0:13:15.840 --> 0:13:18.640 male in this situation. And these are things that I mean, 0:13:18.679 --> 0:13:20.760 we're up in arms about it, but this is happening 0:13:20.800 --> 0:13:22.640 to women every single day, and I think a lot 0:13:22.679 --> 0:13:25.000 of the world doesn't know what women are facing every 0:13:25.000 --> 0:13:26.920 single day when they try and leave these situations. 0:13:26.960 --> 0:13:30.240 Platforming is on a world wide streamer also helps to 0:13:30.320 --> 0:13:33.520 debunk the stigma and the unnecessary rhetoric around like why 0:13:33.520 --> 0:13:35.559 didn't you she just leave? You know? And I think 0:13:35.559 --> 0:13:38.040 that that's what we know is that that's a constant 0:13:38.080 --> 0:13:41.000 conversation and a constant question that gets asked is like, well, 0:13:41.040 --> 0:13:43.400 if it was so bad, why didn't you just leave? 0:13:43.800 --> 0:13:47.680 And there's so many reasons as to why someone doesn't leave. 0:13:47.760 --> 0:13:50.120 I mean, I haven't seen the series yet, Britt, thanks 0:13:50.160 --> 0:13:52.560 for bringing You're gonna go watch it now, I'm gonna 0:13:52.559 --> 0:13:55.560 go watch it. Thank you for bringing the recommendation. Also, guys, 0:13:55.559 --> 0:13:57.400 if you've been watching it, slide into our DMS if 0:13:57.400 --> 0:13:59.280 you have any thoughts feelings towards it as well. 0:13:59.360 --> 0:14:01.280 Yeah, I'd love some people to start chatting about it 0:14:01.320 --> 0:14:03.440 on the discussion group too, because I've been talking about 0:14:03.480 --> 0:14:05.480 it with people in my DMS singly, but I'd love 0:14:05.520 --> 0:14:07.480 to see a thread of it, so maybe we can 0:14:07.520 --> 0:14:09.959 start something in the discussion group. Okay, well, there were 0:14:10.000 --> 0:14:12.280 some big issues that we got out of the way early. 0:14:12.480 --> 0:14:16.160 But let's tell you about what today's episode actually is about. Now, 0:14:16.200 --> 0:14:19.600 today's episode, we are speaking to a woman named Samantha X. 0:14:19.720 --> 0:14:21.880 Maybe you guys have heard the name of Samantha X. 0:14:21.920 --> 0:14:24.680 Maybe you know who she is, maybe you don't. Samantha 0:14:24.960 --> 0:14:28.360 X is one of Australia's well actually, she is Australia's 0:14:28.360 --> 0:14:32.680 top paid and most well known escort. She came out 0:14:32.680 --> 0:14:36.520 publicly as an escort probably ten years ago, now quite 0:14:36.560 --> 0:14:38.600 a long time ago. She was a journalist. She's a 0:14:38.720 --> 0:14:42.320 very intelligent woman. She's written two best selling books. She 0:14:42.480 --> 0:14:44.600 was incredible to talk about. We had a lot of 0:14:44.600 --> 0:14:47.080 requests to actually get her on, or someone in this 0:14:47.240 --> 0:14:49.960 sex working space on now. It is a space that 0:14:50.000 --> 0:14:51.840 Laura and I we don't know a lot about. We've 0:14:51.840 --> 0:14:54.880 obviously never worked in the industry. I've never known anyone 0:14:54.920 --> 0:14:57.000 to work in the industry, but it is a very 0:14:57.240 --> 0:15:00.680 very popular industry and we were really in about it. 0:15:00.720 --> 0:15:03.440 So we thought what better way to learn about it 0:15:03.520 --> 0:15:05.520 than to get somebody on that has lived it for 0:15:05.520 --> 0:15:06.320 a very long time. 0:15:06.680 --> 0:15:10.640 So Samantha X being Australia's most high paid escort. I 0:15:10.680 --> 0:15:14.320 think the thing I loved about this conversation is the 0:15:14.360 --> 0:15:16.840 fact that we all, and I think all of us, 0:15:16.960 --> 0:15:19.600 regardless of whether we're conscious of it or not, we 0:15:19.680 --> 0:15:22.920 all have a perception around what sex work is. We all, 0:15:23.280 --> 0:15:25.840 you know, I think it's very stigmatized. I think that 0:15:26.000 --> 0:15:29.120 we can have some very negative thoughts around why people 0:15:29.120 --> 0:15:31.880 get into working in the industry, what the industry actually is, 0:15:32.320 --> 0:15:35.120 and speaking to her, I even found that some of 0:15:35.160 --> 0:15:37.520 my beliefs, some of the things that I thought about it, 0:15:37.560 --> 0:15:41.280 which had been formed without any real information or knowledge, 0:15:41.520 --> 0:15:44.600 were being challenged. One of those beliefs is that, you know, Samantha, 0:15:44.960 --> 0:15:48.680 this is an occupation that she has chosen wholeheartedly, and 0:15:48.720 --> 0:15:52.160 she also fucking loves it. There's no ambiguity around how 0:15:52.200 --> 0:15:54.600 she feels about working in the sex industry. She loves 0:15:54.600 --> 0:15:56.880 being an escort. And I guess one of the parts 0:15:56.920 --> 0:15:59.080 of this is that she talks about how there is 0:15:59.120 --> 0:16:01.880 this preconceived idea that everybody who works in the sex 0:16:01.880 --> 0:16:05.800 industry works in the sex industry because they are dependent 0:16:05.840 --> 0:16:08.920 on drugs or they need money, they're in a dire 0:16:09.440 --> 0:16:13.240 place of destitute in their lives, Whereas Samantha X comes 0:16:13.240 --> 0:16:15.600 into this conversation saying that there is a dark side. 0:16:15.640 --> 0:16:18.320 There absolutely is a dark side to the sex industry, 0:16:18.600 --> 0:16:21.560 but there also is a side where so many women, 0:16:21.800 --> 0:16:25.160 especially in today's society, are choosing to get into sex 0:16:25.200 --> 0:16:28.240 work because it's empowering for them, it's liberating for them, 0:16:28.280 --> 0:16:30.480 and it makes them a hell of a lot of money. Now, 0:16:30.560 --> 0:16:34.280 this conversation in no way is us advocating for you 0:16:34.320 --> 0:16:36.480 guys to go and get into sex work. This is 0:16:36.560 --> 0:16:41.720 more so just a really honest and interesting conversation with 0:16:41.800 --> 0:16:44.440 someone who works in the industry that majority of us 0:16:44.560 --> 0:16:46.720 don't know anything about. And I think if we're going 0:16:46.760 --> 0:16:48.720 to make our minds up about something, and we're going 0:16:48.760 --> 0:16:52.240 to have ideas about our beliefs around something, it's really 0:16:52.320 --> 0:16:54.680 important to be educated on those ideas and beliefs as 0:16:54.720 --> 0:16:57.880 well and speak to someone who maybe sits outside of 0:16:58.160 --> 0:17:01.080 your normal contacts of conversation that you would normally have. 0:17:01.480 --> 0:17:03.880 And I know, for me, I've never spoken to somebody 0:17:04.040 --> 0:17:07.040 who is a sex worker and who also speaks about 0:17:07.040 --> 0:17:09.119 it in a way that they absolutely love it. So 0:17:09.240 --> 0:17:11.679 I found this a really eye opening and also a 0:17:11.840 --> 0:17:16.200 very fun conversation. Sex work is still such a stigmatized conversation, 0:17:16.280 --> 0:17:18.040 and I think for so many people who work in 0:17:18.040 --> 0:17:22.160 the industry there is still feelings of like, oh, why 0:17:22.520 --> 0:17:24.240 why would you want to do that? Why would you 0:17:24.320 --> 0:17:27.040 choose that for a living? But I do also see 0:17:27.080 --> 0:17:29.720 that your sexuality is having a real moment in the 0:17:29.760 --> 0:17:33.159 media at the moment, especially female sexuality and female empowerment 0:17:33.520 --> 0:17:37.040 and also conversations around only fans and so many women 0:17:37.080 --> 0:17:40.159 are choosing to move into this industry from their own volition. 0:17:40.400 --> 0:17:43.320 So I hope you guys enjoyed the episode. And before 0:17:43.359 --> 0:17:45.920 we get into the chat with Samanth X, we have 0:17:46.480 --> 0:17:49.840 our favorite part of every episode and that is accidentally 0:17:49.960 --> 0:17:51.639 I'm filtered and awesome. 0:17:55.880 --> 0:17:58.280 We really need to plan that more accidentally unfiltered in 0:17:58.480 --> 0:18:01.159 the new Confessionals. We love this, We absolutely love you 0:18:01.200 --> 0:18:03.680 guys have been writing in the funniest shit, but Laura 0:18:03.800 --> 0:18:05.720 is gonna kick it off this week with an accidentally 0:18:05.720 --> 0:18:06.320 I'm filtered. 0:18:06.359 --> 0:18:09.280 I am just so happy that two years on, we 0:18:09.359 --> 0:18:12.119 are still getting so many cooked things that happen, and 0:18:12.119 --> 0:18:14.560 that as they happen to you, you think I'm gonna 0:18:14.560 --> 0:18:16.560 write that end to the life on cut Girls, if 0:18:16.600 --> 0:18:18.520 you have had an embarrassing thing happen to you and 0:18:18.560 --> 0:18:21.400 you've been holding onto it for the past like year 0:18:21.600 --> 0:18:23.879