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Speaker 1: And Amanda jam I like Thursdays because not only Ryan

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Speaker 1: comes back to the fold of the show.

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Speaker 2: Double A Chattery drops.

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Speaker 3: Today, special one Today. This is our hundredth episode. That's

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Speaker 3: a big deal, isn't it. That is a huge two

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Speaker 3: hundred episodes and we've got a big cake. We're given

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Speaker 3: this incredible cake. It looked like a teenage girl's dream,

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Speaker 3: like a Barbie one almost but all the colors of

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Speaker 3: the Double A Chattery logo, it was just brilliant.

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Speaker 2: What colors of the Double A Chattery logo, all blue

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Speaker 2: and pink and lovely thing. Oh that's very yeah, that's

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Speaker 2: very straddling all the sexes.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I like to straddle.

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Speaker 1: It is a good and I say this in all sincerity,

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Speaker 1: is a very good chat to listen to you and

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Speaker 1: your friend of Niedia McGregor talk. I did like the

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Speaker 1: talk about because a lot of people would say about

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Speaker 1: you that you're easy to cry. Well this is and

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Speaker 1: I've even made the joke you will cry at the

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Speaker 1: drop of barometric.

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Speaker 3: Well, we did ask people because our hundredth episode we

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Speaker 3: said ask us anything, and a lot of the questions

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Speaker 3: there were really fabulous, insightful questions. But this one I love.

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Speaker 3: This was from Julie, who said, my question is about crying, Amanda.

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Speaker 3: You seem to be a Anita.

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Speaker 2: You're not.

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Speaker 3: Maybe, She said, what are your thoughts about this? Are

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Speaker 3: you okay with showing emotions? Because this is what Julia said,

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Speaker 3: as she gets older, she cries.

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Speaker 2: A lot more.

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Speaker 3: And it hadn't really occurred to me that Anita's not

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Speaker 3: much of a crier, and so this is how she

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Speaker 3: answered it. It hadn't even occurred to me, Anita, I

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Speaker 4: It's you know. I had a conversation the other day

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Speaker 4: with somebody who's crying, and they were very embarrassed that

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Speaker 4: they were in crying in front of me. And I

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Speaker 4: actually said it would be a goal for me to

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Speaker 4: actually cry more, because I've had thirty some years of

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Speaker 4: listening to clients and some really hard stuff, and I

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Speaker 4: have worked very hard at kind of holding that back.

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Speaker 4: So I don't know whether by my nature I'm a

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Speaker 4: crier or not, but I actually really it would be

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Speaker 4: a goal for me to go and cry more, and

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Speaker 4: it'd be more vulnerable. And now that I'm not as

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Speaker 4: actively seeing clients, I am actually thinking about is that

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Speaker 4: something that's in my character because I'm not much of

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Speaker 4: a crier.

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Speaker 3: Interesting, isn't it? Because I blob blab or go the

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Speaker 3: blood struggle with mavows or you know all the time.

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Speaker 2: As you know, But you're a sweet person. You're very sensitive.

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Speaker 3: But so is Anita. But what an interesting perspective that

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Speaker 3: she's had to hide that vulnerability for thirty years and

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Speaker 3: now she thinks is that who she was before?

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Speaker 2: Or is that who she's be But.

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Speaker 1: If you're a forensic psychologist, you just can't go the

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Speaker 1: blood when someone comes in and tells their story of

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Speaker 1: a dreadful story.

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Speaker 2: No, absolutely, you have to be that. Yeah, but I'm

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Speaker 2: not much of a crier like I do. But I've

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Speaker 2: got better at it because I was from me.

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Speaker 1: You've got better at crime being vulnerable. But I'm from

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Speaker 1: the era where you know, boys don't cry. That was

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Speaker 1: what we're raised on. If you, if you cried, you

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Speaker 1: were some sort of sook, you know, And we're getting

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Speaker 1: better with that these days.

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Speaker 3: Do you encourage your sons to be vulnerable?

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Speaker 2: Not really, No, I don't, But you don't if.

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Speaker 3: They were vulnerable, you wouldn't.

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Speaker 2: I wouldn't. No, I would not say, no, goodness, no,

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Speaker 2: But I don't tell how come on mate, discuss your feelings,

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Speaker 2: but I do talk openly with them.

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Speaker 1: I would say this, the younger generation are better and

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Speaker 1: better at expressing their feelings absolutely, and as the generations

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Speaker 1: before my father's generation and his father's generation, yeah, we're.

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Speaker 3: All getting better at that. So Double a Chattery lots

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Speaker 3: of insights into us and our friendship and to the show.

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Speaker 2: It drops today