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Speaker 1: Running late is stressful. You worry that you're going to

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Speaker 1: get in trouble, let someone down, or miss something important.

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Speaker 1: Your heart rate rises, adrenaline runs through your body, and

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Speaker 1: then someone wants to get in front of you on

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Speaker 1: the road. Oh my gosh, But what if it wasn't

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Speaker 1: that stressful? It sounds too good to be true, right, Like,

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Speaker 1: what if it's all in your head? Comedian Michelle Laurie,

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Speaker 1: who is also a podcaster and author, believes that it

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Speaker 1: is all in your head and that actually that's a

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Speaker 1: good thing because if it's in your head, it's in

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Speaker 1: your control. So how can we reframe the experience of

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Speaker 1: running late to becoming happier, kinder, and calmer. My name

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Speaker 1: is doctor Amantha Imber. I'm an organizational psychologist and founder

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Speaker 1: of bahe Vial Science Consultancy Inventium, and this is how

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Speaker 1: I work a show about how to help you do

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Speaker 1: your best work. On today's My Favorite Tip episode, we

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Speaker 1: go back to an interview from the past and I

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Speaker 1: pick out my favorite tip from the interview. In today's show,

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Speaker 1: I speak with Michelle Laurie about the Buddhist practice of

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Speaker 1: letting other people go first.

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Speaker 2: It's that simple, Just let other people go first. I

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Speaker 2: mean everywhere in traffic, when you're walking through doors, everywhere

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Speaker 2: you go, when you're getting on an escalator, when you're

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Speaker 2: getting in a lift. Just the simple act of standing

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Speaker 2: back and gesturing for other people to go in front

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Speaker 2: of you is a really great exercising humility and it

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Speaker 2: just makes people happy. It's a great habit to get

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Speaker 2: into putting other people first. It's just a good practice,

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Speaker 2: I think, and it kind of sets you up. That's

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Speaker 2: up your intention, and I think it carries through in

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Speaker 2: other parts of your life. And and it's a simple

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Speaker 2: I mean every as I say, every habit's tricky to

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Speaker 2: start to remember.

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Speaker 3: But it's a good one too.

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Speaker 2: That you can you can implement every day and you

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Speaker 2: can get practicing really really quickly and easily. And in

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Speaker 2: traffic it's a great one. It's just because we're all

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Speaker 2: in traffic all the time, and you start to realize, Yeah,

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Speaker 2: why why am I such a tired ass in traffic?

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Speaker 3: Like?

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Speaker 2: Why am I like so mean in traffic? And so

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Speaker 2: like pretending I'm not seeing that person who's trying to

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Speaker 2: get in here?

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Speaker 3: Why am I doing that? Why don't I just let

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Speaker 3: them in? It's gonna be an extra five minutes for me.

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Speaker 3: Why don't I just let them in? And it's so

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Speaker 3: massive to them, They're like, I can't believe you do that.

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Speaker 3: Thank you so much.

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Speaker 1: That's so true, isn't it that I want to ask?

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Speaker 1: I mean, this is I feel like this is an

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Speaker 1: obvious question. But just say you're in a rush.

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Speaker 3: Just say you're running Leland. I mean like, yeah, that's

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Speaker 3: the other thing.

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Speaker 2: Is like, wisdom and compassion are the two sides of

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Speaker 2: the one coin.

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Speaker 3: We say, so.

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Speaker 2: Obviously, there are times, you know, use your wisdom. There

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Speaker 2: are times when it's not appropriate to let everybody in.

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Speaker 3: I get that. But when it is, when it's okay,

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Speaker 3: then do it. You know.

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Speaker 2: I was just saying the other day and this other

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Speaker 2: podcast I have Calm your Farm. You know, our guest

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Speaker 2: was a brain surgeon or something, and I was like, normally,

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Speaker 2: I say to people who cares, if you're running late,

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Speaker 2: no one's going to die.

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Speaker 3: Well, okay, if she's running late, someone might die, you know, but.

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Speaker 2: Normally for the rest of us, you know, if you're

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Speaker 2: late for work, no one's going to die. So usually

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Speaker 2: it's going to be fine if you just let people in.

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Speaker 2: But sometimes it's not, and that's when you just have to.

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Speaker 3: Use your wisdom. Okay, be reasonable.

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Speaker 1: So as you go about your day today, perhaps you

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Speaker 1: might want to set the intention to try to let

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Speaker 1: someone else go first, maybe in traffic, maybe it's when

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