WEBVTT - Conquering Imposter Syndrome & Self-Doubt 0:00:05.440 --> 0:00:08.639 Hi, and welcome to the Rise and Conquer Podcast. I'm 0:00:08.680 --> 0:00:12.040 your host, Georgie Stephenson. I'm a lawyer, ten health coach, 0:00:12.320 --> 0:00:16.840 social media influencer, wife, and dog mum. On the Rise 0:00:16.880 --> 0:00:22.639 and Conquer Podcast, we dive deep into all things mindset, habits, career, health, 0:00:22.760 --> 0:00:26.439 relationships and more. This is a podcast for women who 0:00:26.480 --> 0:00:29.320 want to rise up to be the best version of themselves, 0:00:29.640 --> 0:00:31.880 who have big dreams in who are willing to put 0:00:31.920 --> 0:00:34.120 in the work to get there. I want to bring 0:00:34.120 --> 0:00:37.920 you the tools and actionable steps to feel confident in yourself, 0:00:38.400 --> 0:00:43.000 inspired to take bold action, and motivated to conquer your goals. 0:00:43.440 --> 0:00:58.440 Are you with me, girl friends, Let's rise and Conquer. Hi, guys, 0:00:58.520 --> 0:01:02.200 and welcome back to the Rise of Conquer Podcasts. Today's 0:01:02.320 --> 0:01:08.240 episode is a solo podcast and it's very unplanned and 0:01:08.319 --> 0:01:11.280 I'm kind of just feeling very inspired and I wanted 0:01:11.319 --> 0:01:13.920 to just jump on here and chat about it because 0:01:15.000 --> 0:01:20.039 today we are talking about a feeling that I get 0:01:20.120 --> 0:01:24.640 like a lot, and it's kind of weird, and I 0:01:24.640 --> 0:01:29.039 feel like it's this unspoken thing where a lot of 0:01:29.080 --> 0:01:33.840 women get it and it can't be super crippling, and 0:01:34.240 --> 0:01:37.880 basically it's a form of self doubt and it has 0:01:37.920 --> 0:01:41.880 an actual name. It's called imposta syndrome. So today we're 0:01:41.880 --> 0:01:46.440 gonna talk about impostera syndrome and how I've kind of 0:01:46.560 --> 0:01:49.960 dealt with it over the years, and how you guys 0:01:49.960 --> 0:01:53.559 can deal with it, because something that I realized when 0:01:53.880 --> 0:01:57.400 I spoke to Mel and spoke to other friends is 0:01:57.480 --> 0:02:01.560 we all feel it a lot, and sometimes it can 0:02:01.600 --> 0:02:05.279 really consume us. And when that happens, it often gets 0:02:05.320 --> 0:02:10.280 in the way of really rising up and conquering your goal, 0:02:10.400 --> 0:02:13.079 which we don't want. This is the Rising Conca podcast, 0:02:13.600 --> 0:02:15.880 So I'm going to talk about how you can get 0:02:15.919 --> 0:02:20.240 over imposta syndrome and how I do. Before we get 0:02:20.280 --> 0:02:23.720 into that, though, I do want to make a little 0:02:23.800 --> 0:02:28.000 announcement and this is very real time. So last week 0:02:28.080 --> 0:02:32.400 I announced and introduced a company that I founded and 0:02:32.440 --> 0:02:36.400 started with my big brother Cooper, that we have been 0:02:36.440 --> 0:02:41.000 working on for almost a year. It's an all natural, 0:02:41.520 --> 0:02:47.800 vegan sports supplement company that focuses on women. So I 0:02:47.880 --> 0:02:50.920 announced this last week and I was so excited to 0:02:51.000 --> 0:02:54.800 tell you guys. I announced it on Instagram and I 0:02:54.880 --> 0:02:57.960 was just so excited to tell you guys because we've 0:02:58.000 --> 0:03:01.560 been working on it for so long, and it's just 0:03:01.600 --> 0:03:04.480 been under wraps for obvious reasons, and I finally get 0:03:04.520 --> 0:03:07.600 to tell you, and I just wanted to go in 0:03:07.840 --> 0:03:10.280 a little bit about it, a little bit of a background, 0:03:10.639 --> 0:03:13.839 just because it does really tie into this episode, and 0:03:13.919 --> 0:03:17.440 then we'll get into the actual episode. But basically, this 0:03:17.520 --> 0:03:23.360 company started because actually there's two reasons. So I'm just 0:03:23.360 --> 0:03:25.960 going to tell you guys, going to be very raw 0:03:26.160 --> 0:03:29.600 and real on here. And so basically, as you guys 0:03:29.680 --> 0:03:35.600 know on Instagram, I hate this name, but I'm an influencer, 0:03:35.680 --> 0:03:40.160 which I'm doing with my air quotes, and so basically 0:03:40.200 --> 0:03:43.880 that means is I partner with brands and I will 0:03:43.920 --> 0:03:47.800 promote their stuff and something for me. I have this 0:03:47.840 --> 0:03:50.840 big process when I work with a brand of trying 0:03:50.920 --> 0:03:54.000 their product for a while and making sure I love 0:03:54.040 --> 0:03:56.640 their values and all this sort of stuff before I 0:03:56.760 --> 0:03:59.480 tell you guys about it. I actually get sent so 0:03:59.640 --> 0:04:02.280 much that you guys would just never hear about because 0:04:02.600 --> 0:04:05.480 basically I wouldn't use it myself, so you're not going 0:04:05.520 --> 0:04:09.800 to see it anyway. So I worked with this supplement company. 0:04:09.840 --> 0:04:13.360 This is a good obviously, like over a year ago, 0:04:13.760 --> 0:04:18.880 and it's no company I've worked with recently and I 0:04:19.080 --> 0:04:23.359 was taking their protein vegan protein. Loved it. I shared 0:04:23.400 --> 0:04:27.160 it with all us guys. Use guys loved it. Anyway, 0:04:27.200 --> 0:04:30.600 long story shorts, tests were done and I actually found 0:04:30.640 --> 0:04:35.040 out that they were lying on their packaging and they 0:04:35.040 --> 0:04:40.120 were lying about the ingredients inside, and I obviously dropped 0:04:40.160 --> 0:04:43.200 them as a partner, and I told all you guys, 0:04:43.279 --> 0:04:45.640 I told you guys on Instagram or one of my 0:04:45.680 --> 0:04:48.359 stories and all that sort of stuff. But that was 0:04:48.480 --> 0:04:51.400 just a kick in the teeth because at this time, 0:04:51.480 --> 0:04:53.760 me and my brother are very close. We were talking 0:04:53.800 --> 0:04:56.240 about all these subjects together and I just said to him, 0:04:56.240 --> 0:05:00.479 I was like, it's just really sucky because I believed 0:05:00.520 --> 0:05:03.520 in this brand. I really believed in their values, like 0:05:04.000 --> 0:05:07.200 I was really invested, and then I was telling you 0:05:07.240 --> 0:05:09.400 guys about it, and then something like this happens, and 0:05:09.440 --> 0:05:12.919 I just thought, surely, it's not that hard not to 0:05:13.160 --> 0:05:17.120 lie on your packaging to consumers and just to like 0:05:17.320 --> 0:05:21.000 make good stuff without having to sneakly put in sugar 0:05:21.160 --> 0:05:26.080 or you know, anything like that. So that was really disheartening, 0:05:26.120 --> 0:05:30.400 and I just thought, guys, the supplement industry needs to 0:05:30.400 --> 0:05:35.320 be better. And so that thought was all around my head. Also, guys, 0:05:35.400 --> 0:05:38.600 I'm so sorry Tim is mowing the lawn, So I'm 0:05:38.640 --> 0:05:40.159 sorry if you can hear that, But I was just 0:05:40.200 --> 0:05:43.719 feeling really inspired to record this episode, so hopefully you 0:05:43.760 --> 0:05:47.160 can't anyway back to it. And so another reason why 0:05:47.240 --> 0:05:50.520 I had this idea for this company is, as you 0:05:50.520 --> 0:05:54.640 guys know, I'm more of the fitness side of social media. 0:05:54.760 --> 0:05:57.599 So I kind of got into social media because of 0:05:57.600 --> 0:06:01.359 my health journey, and I've always been into health and fitness, 0:06:01.800 --> 0:06:03.840 and if you look back in the day at like 0:06:03.920 --> 0:06:06.400 my first sort of YouTube videos, I'm in the kitchen 0:06:06.800 --> 0:06:10.839 and I'm making my own pre workout because I basically 0:06:10.880 --> 0:06:14.120 couldn't find supplements that could do what I wanted them 0:06:14.160 --> 0:06:17.960 to do. I then also went through this period where 0:06:18.080 --> 0:06:22.039 I had to start thinking more holistically and I made 0:06:22.080 --> 0:06:27.960 a shift into having more holistic, wholesome products because I 0:06:28.080 --> 0:06:30.160 needed to because of my hormones and I had all 0:06:30.200 --> 0:06:32.760 these health issues and all that sort of stuff. And 0:06:32.800 --> 0:06:36.719 so basically for a while, I was just like, why 0:06:36.880 --> 0:06:41.920 isn't there supplements like focused on females that have really 0:06:42.000 --> 0:06:46.880 good active ingredients that aren't filled with fillers and filled 0:06:46.880 --> 0:06:52.440 with crap and no misinformation, and so this was a 0:06:52.520 --> 0:06:54.839 moment where I sat back and I was like, I 0:06:54.920 --> 0:06:58.000 want to change this anyway. I teamed up with my 0:06:58.080 --> 0:07:03.520 brother and obviously food techs and really amazing wholesome food manufacturers, 0:07:04.160 --> 0:07:08.120 and we have built this supplement company together. And it's 0:07:08.160 --> 0:07:11.960 so surreal because, like I said, we have been doing 0:07:12.000 --> 0:07:13.840 this for so long and I finally get to share 0:07:13.880 --> 0:07:17.280 my baby with you guys. And so our first product 0:07:17.400 --> 0:07:22.000 that we are bringing out is dropping very soon in May, 0:07:22.080 --> 0:07:25.800 and it's a pre workout plus fat burning blend designed 0:07:26.000 --> 0:07:28.680 with a woman's body and mind. So it's got no 0:07:28.840 --> 0:07:34.440 hidden nasties. It's a formula with ingredients to enhance your performance, 0:07:34.600 --> 0:07:38.040 but it's natural. It's got an epic tase, no crash, 0:07:38.120 --> 0:07:43.280 an effective fat burning component that is really focused on females. 0:07:43.480 --> 0:07:47.160 And basically, when I say it's focused on females, I 0:07:47.240 --> 0:07:50.760 really want to explain this part. So, because I love 0:07:50.880 --> 0:07:56.040 pre workouts, I've honestly tried them all and what I've 0:07:56.120 --> 0:08:00.800 really found is the natural ones didn't do enough of me, 0:08:00.960 --> 0:08:06.480 Like I really didn't get any sort of pre workout feelings. 0:08:06.960 --> 0:08:10.280 But the you know, the pre workouts which would work, 0:08:10.320 --> 0:08:13.640 which I'm putting again in air quotes would often be 0:08:13.880 --> 0:08:17.000 way too strong for my body, like for a woman's 0:08:17.080 --> 0:08:22.160 sized body, and I would get anxiety, I'd get the shakes, 0:08:22.520 --> 0:08:26.000 and then I would get a crash. So basically with 0:08:26.080 --> 0:08:29.360 this product, we did months of testing to find the 0:08:29.400 --> 0:08:33.000 perfect formula that in between where you actually get a 0:08:33.040 --> 0:08:36.240 feeling to smash your workout that puts you in a 0:08:36.280 --> 0:08:39.800 good mood. It's a mood enhancer. It gives you energy, 0:08:40.360 --> 0:08:43.760 but it isn't going to hurt and upset your nervous system. 0:08:44.360 --> 0:08:47.000 So it's not going to spike in anxiety. It's not 0:08:47.200 --> 0:08:51.040 going to get a crash at ten am. So that's 0:08:51.120 --> 0:08:54.800 kind of what I mean by female focused. So yeah, 0:08:54.840 --> 0:08:58.600 that's our first product. I'm so excited. We've been doing 0:08:58.760 --> 0:09:01.480 so many like test in samples and we've got the 0:09:01.520 --> 0:09:05.640 perfect formula, perfect formula, so I'm so excited. This blend 0:09:05.720 --> 0:09:08.959 is also like no artificial colors, flavors, or sweetness. It's 0:09:09.080 --> 0:09:13.320 vegan friendly and free from gluten, dairy and refined sugar. 0:09:13.840 --> 0:09:17.840 So it's just like this really good raw blend that 0:09:18.080 --> 0:09:22.559 actually works. The flavor. The first flavor is sweet strawberry, 0:09:23.000 --> 0:09:26.280 and then we have another flavor coming out soon. That's 0:09:26.280 --> 0:09:29.200 a bit under wraps, but there will be another flavor 0:09:29.240 --> 0:09:33.160 coming out soon too. So the first launch and drop 0:09:33.240 --> 0:09:36.320 for this is in May, and there will be a 0:09:36.440 --> 0:09:40.000 limited amount of stock. So me and Cooper have like 0:09:40.080 --> 0:09:43.079 really built this company from the bottom up. I haven't 0:09:43.080 --> 0:09:46.000 collaborated with another company, and they're sort of like doing 0:09:46.080 --> 0:09:49.920 all the work and like putting everything down. It's literally 0:09:50.000 --> 0:09:53.840 me and Cooper doing everything ourselves, which I love. That's 0:09:53.880 --> 0:09:57.480 exactly what we wanted to do. But obviously there will 0:09:57.520 --> 0:09:59.880 be more stock to come, but our first drop is 0:10:00.000 --> 0:10:02.960 the smallest. So if you want to be the first 0:10:03.040 --> 0:10:07.079 to know when we are launching and when you can 0:10:07.120 --> 0:10:10.360 get your hands on the first product from Naked Harvest, 0:10:10.800 --> 0:10:13.520 all you have to do is go and sign up 0:10:13.559 --> 0:10:17.400 to our newsletter. This will be so helpful for us 0:10:17.480 --> 0:10:21.320 because we'll be able to cater for everyone, and also 0:10:22.000 --> 0:10:24.360 you guys will be the first to know there will 0:10:24.400 --> 0:10:29.000 be any deals. And also with the newsletter, we will 0:10:29.040 --> 0:10:31.240 be sort of talking to you guys, so you know, 0:10:31.280 --> 0:10:34.120 when we want to bring out our next product or 0:10:34.160 --> 0:10:37.240 a new flavor, we're going to go to this email list. 0:10:37.320 --> 0:10:40.360 So it's really like a community and I'm really excited 0:10:40.360 --> 0:10:42.800 about it. So if you do want to be the 0:10:42.840 --> 0:10:47.280 first to know, please go to Georgie Stevenson dot net 0:10:47.360 --> 0:10:51.560 ford slash Naked Harvest or go to the Naked Harvest 0:10:51.600 --> 0:10:55.480 Supplements Instagram. The link is in that bio, or I 0:10:55.559 --> 0:10:58.640 will put the link in these show notes so that 0:10:58.679 --> 0:11:00.560 will sign you up to the newsletter, so you'll be 0:11:00.600 --> 0:11:03.079 the first to know, you'll be in the Naked Harvest 0:11:03.120 --> 0:11:06.560 Gang and all those cool things. So yeah, it's a 0:11:06.559 --> 0:11:10.200 bit of adamin and exciting news to start the episode. 0:11:10.600 --> 0:11:15.520 But let's get into talking about imposta syndrome. So this 0:11:15.600 --> 0:11:20.320 really intertwines for obvious reasons, but I wanted to talk 0:11:20.360 --> 0:11:25.280 about basically what imposta syndrome is. So it is defined 0:11:25.520 --> 0:11:31.240 as the persistent inability to believe that one's success is 0:11:31.360 --> 0:11:36.720 deserved or has been legitimately achieved as a result of 0:11:36.800 --> 0:11:43.400 one's own efforts or skills. So basically, imposta syndrome is 0:11:43.440 --> 0:11:47.800 that feeling that even after you've got the promotion or 0:11:47.880 --> 0:11:51.440 you've had some success in life, you feel like you 0:11:51.559 --> 0:11:56.400 don't deserve it, or that you're like a fraud, or 0:11:56.440 --> 0:11:58.440 that you know it will be found out that you 0:11:58.520 --> 0:12:04.160 don't deserve this, and it really affects like high achievers 0:12:04.200 --> 0:12:08.160 and creators, and well, it really affects everyone. I actually 0:12:08.160 --> 0:12:12.120 did a bit of research and from an article in 0:12:12.200 --> 0:12:16.640 the International Journal of Behavior Science, it's estimated that seventy 0:12:16.679 --> 0:12:20.600 percent of people experience and positive feelings at some point 0:12:20.640 --> 0:12:24.920 in their lives, and it can literally be anyone. It's 0:12:24.960 --> 0:12:29.679 actually often more successful people experience it more, which is 0:12:29.760 --> 0:12:33.120 kind of weird when you think about it. So I 0:12:33.200 --> 0:12:36.240 really wanted to talk about this because this is a 0:12:36.280 --> 0:12:39.599 feeling I get all the time, and me and melwitchatting 0:12:39.640 --> 0:12:43.000 about this and she really gets it and she struggles 0:12:43.040 --> 0:12:46.160 to deal with it, and to be honest, I think 0:12:46.240 --> 0:12:51.560 it's something women often get because for some reason, we 0:12:51.760 --> 0:12:57.040 never think we are worthy enough of our success, which 0:12:57.080 --> 0:13:01.080 is so sad and basically then needs to be a change. 0:13:01.120 --> 0:13:06.320 We need to shift this mindset because it's holding us back. 0:13:07.240 --> 0:13:10.920 And so I wanted to explain to you guys' situations 0:13:11.240 --> 0:13:15.520 where I have felt this imposter syndrome and basically how 0:13:15.559 --> 0:13:17.600 I've dealt with that. I think I've got around five 0:13:17.880 --> 0:13:22.520 points that I will kind of go through. So let's 0:13:22.520 --> 0:13:26.240 talk about my experience and you can kind of think 0:13:26.240 --> 0:13:29.800 about your experiences in life and if you've ever felt 0:13:29.800 --> 0:13:34.400 these feelings. So I was thinking about it, and the 0:13:34.440 --> 0:13:40.960 first time that I felt impostera syndrome was in grade five. 0:13:41.559 --> 0:13:46.920 And so I grew up and I went to a 0:13:47.040 --> 0:13:50.319 public school. My three older brothers or went to public schools. 0:13:50.360 --> 0:13:53.800 I went to a public school. At this stage. My 0:13:53.920 --> 0:13:57.839 parents very much grew up like poor. I wouldn't say 0:13:57.880 --> 0:14:00.560 we were poor, but you know, we're just getting by 0:14:01.240 --> 0:14:04.160 when we were younger, and then things got better for 0:14:04.200 --> 0:14:06.840 my parents. But anyway, so we went to a state school, 0:14:07.400 --> 0:14:10.880 and I told my parents that I wanted to be 0:14:10.920 --> 0:14:15.960 a lawyer in grade five or four or something like that, 0:14:16.640 --> 0:14:19.400 and basically they asked me if I would like to 0:14:19.400 --> 0:14:21.760 go to a private school. They had, you know, they 0:14:21.760 --> 0:14:25.600 had enough money at this stage, and my cousins went 0:14:25.640 --> 0:14:28.600 to this private school, and I was like, yes, please, 0:14:29.320 --> 0:14:32.480 I want to do this. What a cool new experience. Anyway, 0:14:32.560 --> 0:14:36.520 I went to this private school and I just felt 0:14:37.160 --> 0:14:41.120 not good enough. I wasn't rich enough, I wasn't smart 0:14:41.200 --> 0:14:44.600 enough to be in the school. It's so weird because 0:14:44.640 --> 0:14:47.520 I was in grade five, so I was like really young, 0:14:47.640 --> 0:14:50.960 but I felt this feeling that basically I wasn't good 0:14:51.040 --> 0:14:53.840 enough to be in the school. And it's funny because 0:14:53.840 --> 0:14:57.320 I actually left the private school after three years and 0:14:57.320 --> 0:15:00.360 I went back to the public school where I felt 0:15:00.400 --> 0:15:03.680 really comfortable and did really well. Anyway, so that's the 0:15:03.680 --> 0:15:08.960 first time I experienced that. Another time is basically throughout 0:15:09.080 --> 0:15:13.440 my whole law degree. So in Australia or No, it's 0:15:13.440 --> 0:15:18.120 probably more just in Queensland. Basically you have to do 0:15:18.160 --> 0:15:22.280 this big test and then year eleven and twelve your 0:15:22.320 --> 0:15:26.360 sort of senior years. The marks you get decide if 0:15:26.440 --> 0:15:29.560 you go to university, if you get in the course 0:15:29.600 --> 0:15:31.840 you want to do. I wanted to do law and 0:15:31.880 --> 0:15:36.280 I needed an OP five and the ops go from 0:15:36.360 --> 0:15:39.200 one to twenty five, I think, so it was a 0:15:39.240 --> 0:15:44.160 pretty hard op and I worked extremely hard because I 0:15:44.240 --> 0:15:46.960 knew I wanted to do law, and I got an 0:15:46.960 --> 0:15:49.800 OP five, so I got in. That's what I needed, 0:15:49.800 --> 0:15:52.440 a five, and I got a five. Anyway, throughout my 0:15:52.560 --> 0:15:56.640 whole law degree, I felt not good enough. I felt 0:15:56.640 --> 0:15:59.200 like I wasn't smart enough. I felt like everyone else 0:15:59.280 --> 0:16:02.560 around me was smart enough. Even though I got the 0:16:02.600 --> 0:16:06.120 grades and I got accepted and I got into the university, 0:16:06.160 --> 0:16:09.640 I wanted to get into. I constantly felt like everyone 0:16:09.720 --> 0:16:13.400 was working harder, everyone was smarter, and basically like I 0:16:13.520 --> 0:16:19.520 wasn't worth enough to be there. Then I also got 0:16:19.560 --> 0:16:23.680 this feeling when I got my first clerkship at a 0:16:23.840 --> 0:16:27.800 really good law firm in the city. And how I 0:16:27.880 --> 0:16:31.320 got this job is a friend who I used to 0:16:31.320 --> 0:16:34.680 work at a real estate and a friend who worked there. 0:16:34.880 --> 0:16:37.920 He knew one of the principles and got me an interview. 0:16:38.280 --> 0:16:41.400 I had my interview and I got the job, and 0:16:42.360 --> 0:16:45.240 that brought on these feelings that even though I got 0:16:45.280 --> 0:16:47.160 the job, even though I did the interview and got 0:16:47.160 --> 0:16:50.840 the job, I wasn't good enough and I only got 0:16:50.880 --> 0:16:53.800 it because of who I knew. You know, I felt 0:16:53.800 --> 0:16:59.880 imposter syndrome. Then then I've also felt imposter syndrome basically 0:17:00.040 --> 0:17:03.480 throughout my whole kind of social media life. I'll put 0:17:03.520 --> 0:17:06.160 it in vert commas. So I've been on social media 0:17:06.200 --> 0:17:09.720 for seven years, and when my following was really growing, 0:17:10.320 --> 0:17:12.720 like I always felt these feelings, I was like, you know, 0:17:12.960 --> 0:17:16.160 and I think I've said this more than once, which 0:17:16.240 --> 0:17:19.160 it's funny, guys, because now I even say these things 0:17:19.240 --> 0:17:22.600 out loud. Like I realized how ridiculous. Some of my 0:17:22.720 --> 0:17:26.400 thoughts are, but I was, I'm gonna tell you. And 0:17:26.480 --> 0:17:29.680 so with social media, I always thought, there's so many 0:17:29.880 --> 0:17:32.960 prettier girls than me, Like there's so many girls with 0:17:33.080 --> 0:17:36.080 better bodies, there's so many girls who are putting out 0:17:36.160 --> 0:17:40.560 better photos, better content. I always like, and I've definitely 0:17:40.560 --> 0:17:42.719 said this, like two tim and two friends, I'm like, 0:17:43.040 --> 0:17:46.399 I'm just so average, Like why would anyone want to 0:17:46.440 --> 0:17:49.880 follow me? And so I had so much Aposta syndrome 0:17:50.000 --> 0:17:54.600 around that even though you know, like I was increasing followers, 0:17:54.640 --> 0:17:58.760 people obviously liked my content. They obviously liked my photos 0:17:58.800 --> 0:18:00.840 and my videos and all that sort of stuff. And 0:18:01.480 --> 0:18:04.560 a lot of the time also my imposter syndrome, I 0:18:04.600 --> 0:18:09.560 thought to myself, Oh, I'm just lucky. Obviously sometimes a 0:18:09.600 --> 0:18:13.720 lut can be involved, but I really don't think people 0:18:13.760 --> 0:18:16.919 are just lucky, especially me, when I look back, and 0:18:16.960 --> 0:18:20.440 I look back how much I worked and was invested 0:18:20.600 --> 0:18:24.040 in everything that I did. Another thing that I felt 0:18:24.040 --> 0:18:29.359 imposter syndrome was on social media as I was getting bigger. 0:18:29.440 --> 0:18:31.679 And this doesn't happen often at all. It's not like 0:18:31.720 --> 0:18:34.400 I can't leave my house, but you know, if I'm 0:18:34.480 --> 0:18:38.080 out with my girlfriends or just like somewhere randomly, I'll 0:18:38.080 --> 0:18:39.760 have people come up to me and be like, hey, 0:18:39.800 --> 0:18:42.400 I follow on you on Instagram, I like the podcast 0:18:42.440 --> 0:18:45.399 I Love You YouTube's like that sort of thing. And 0:18:45.680 --> 0:18:49.960 every time I think to myself, this person has literally 0:18:50.040 --> 0:18:53.199 taken time out of their day to praise me or 0:18:53.240 --> 0:18:56.240 say hello to me, Like how am I even worthy 0:18:56.240 --> 0:18:59.639 of that? Like I'm just so me and normal, Like 0:18:59.680 --> 0:19:02.679 I just like I don't feel special enough for someone 0:19:02.760 --> 0:19:05.520 to do that, Like I feel it doesn't feel right 0:19:05.600 --> 0:19:08.600 to me. And then I felt it when I was 0:19:08.720 --> 0:19:11.840 leaving my corporate job and I was pursuing this job 0:19:11.880 --> 0:19:15.439 full time. I thought to myself, who am I to be? 0:19:15.600 --> 0:19:19.080 You know, this creative entrepreneur. You know I've done no 0:19:19.280 --> 0:19:21.440 degree in it. I've got a law degree. I can't 0:19:21.480 --> 0:19:24.399 be doing something like this, Like who am I to 0:19:24.520 --> 0:19:27.239 be doing this? And also I very much felt like 0:19:27.359 --> 0:19:31.439 everyone knew what they were doing, and because I was 0:19:31.560 --> 0:19:35.119 just winging it, that everyone else was somehow better than me. 0:19:35.720 --> 0:19:38.840 And that's also another thing with imposter syndrome is I've 0:19:38.920 --> 0:19:42.720 talked to people and I've found that you often feel 0:19:42.800 --> 0:19:45.840 like you think everyone else has it figured out and 0:19:45.880 --> 0:19:49.000 you're like the only one, whereas in reality, like everyone's 0:19:49.080 --> 0:19:52.959 kind of winging it. And then I felt it again 0:19:53.040 --> 0:19:56.120 when I made my ebook, I Find Your Healthy Ebook, 0:19:56.400 --> 0:19:58.720 I thought, who am I to do a cookbook? I 0:19:58.760 --> 0:20:01.720 only started cooking too years ago because I did not 0:20:01.880 --> 0:20:03.879 cook growing up, guys, like I begked a lot with 0:20:03.880 --> 0:20:06.240 my mom and I saw her cook a lot. But 0:20:06.600 --> 0:20:08.320 even when I moved out of home, like I got 0:20:08.320 --> 0:20:10.680 those like meals you put in the microwave, I only 0:20:10.720 --> 0:20:13.840 got into cooking like two years before I even made 0:20:14.000 --> 0:20:17.000 my cooking ebook, and I thought, who am I to 0:20:17.080 --> 0:20:20.360 do this? You know, I'm not a chef, blah blah blah. 0:20:20.400 --> 0:20:23.600 And then also because it's about intuitive eating and I 0:20:23.680 --> 0:20:26.919 had only you know, got over my food issues, and 0:20:26.960 --> 0:20:28.720 I thought, who am I to be doing this? I've 0:20:28.720 --> 0:20:31.720 only just got over my food issues. And then with 0:20:31.800 --> 0:20:36.880 the podcast, I thought, no one's going to even want 0:20:36.920 --> 0:20:39.720 to listen to a twenty four year old talk about 0:20:39.760 --> 0:20:42.800 these sorts of issues. They're not important. And then I 0:20:42.840 --> 0:20:46.600 felt it again when the podcast reached top charts, and 0:20:46.640 --> 0:20:49.359 I thought, like, there's podcasts out there that are way 0:20:49.359 --> 0:20:53.240 better than me, Like it's just these sorts are so 0:20:53.440 --> 0:20:58.000 consuming anyway. And lastly, oh my god, I had so 0:20:58.280 --> 0:21:02.840 much imposter syndrome when we were creating basically the whole 0:21:02.920 --> 0:21:07.120 process of Naked Harvest, and I just thought to myself, 0:21:07.160 --> 0:21:10.240 like constantly, like who am I to do this? Who 0:21:10.240 --> 0:21:12.119 do I think that I can just go and create 0:21:12.160 --> 0:21:15.679 this company and create a product, even though it's not 0:21:15.720 --> 0:21:17.720 like I did it myself. I did it with my brother. 0:21:18.040 --> 0:21:22.800 We outsourced, We've got professionals, food technicians, and we went 0:21:22.840 --> 0:21:26.360 through so many processes and so much time and effort 0:21:26.400 --> 0:21:28.800 and work. But the whole time, I just kept on 0:21:28.840 --> 0:21:31.439 thinking like, who am I to do this? When you 0:21:31.480 --> 0:21:38.159 think about it, everyone starts somewhere. So just because we 0:21:38.359 --> 0:21:42.119 are not the experts or the gurus, that doesn't mean 0:21:42.359 --> 0:21:46.000 we cannot do these things. And that's something I know 0:21:46.240 --> 0:21:50.159 a lot of you you're probably not doing something or 0:21:50.200 --> 0:21:53.679 not pursuing a dream because you're thinking, who am I 0:21:53.800 --> 0:21:57.320 to do this? I'm not valuable enough, I haven't got 0:21:57.400 --> 0:22:00.080 enough self worth, or like you know, who am I 0:22:00.119 --> 0:22:02.280 to do this? No one's going to care, no one's 0:22:02.320 --> 0:22:04.960 going to listen, no one's going to want this. I'm 0:22:04.960 --> 0:22:08.840 not good enough, which is like, guys, we are letting 0:22:08.880 --> 0:22:13.040 this impostas syndrome consume us and cripple us and it's 0:22:13.119 --> 0:22:17.760 just not okay. So let's get into how we can 0:22:17.800 --> 0:22:22.360 deal with this. So I've written down some dot points 0:22:22.480 --> 0:22:25.000 and these are just like little things that I will 0:22:25.040 --> 0:22:29.120 do when I'm having these feelings, So kind of sit 0:22:29.200 --> 0:22:33.080 with each one and see what works best for you. 0:22:33.200 --> 0:22:35.800 Like I kind of say in all my episodes, you 0:22:35.920 --> 0:22:39.159 really need to sort of try these things on and 0:22:39.600 --> 0:22:42.040 see what works best for you, because they're not all 0:22:42.080 --> 0:22:44.280 going to work and they're not going to feel right 0:22:44.320 --> 0:22:48.040 for everyone. But basically, something I want you to think 0:22:48.119 --> 0:22:53.240 about is realizing that you have control over your thoughts. 0:22:54.240 --> 0:22:57.280 So one of the first things I do is I 0:22:57.359 --> 0:23:00.720 take a step back and I go, Okay, this is 0:23:00.760 --> 0:23:05.320 a thought I'm having if I believe it. Because guys, remember, 0:23:05.600 --> 0:23:09.440 we create our own reality with our thoughts, so everything 0:23:09.560 --> 0:23:13.800 you are thinking, you then create your reality. So you 0:23:13.840 --> 0:23:17.119 can have this thought, and you need to decide whether 0:23:17.200 --> 0:23:19.840 you are going to believe it or not. So it's 0:23:19.920 --> 0:23:24.040 basically taking back the control and going, hey, look, I 0:23:24.080 --> 0:23:28.560 realized this is coming up for me. That's fine, observe it. 0:23:28.560 --> 0:23:31.119 It's kind of like I hear a lot in meditation 0:23:31.440 --> 0:23:34.479 about you'll have this thought come up and don't engage 0:23:34.480 --> 0:23:36.240 with it. You just observe it and you let it 0:23:36.280 --> 0:23:39.200 float by. That's also kind of the same thing here, 0:23:39.320 --> 0:23:43.440 So you observe you're having these feelings, you're having these thoughts, 0:23:43.840 --> 0:23:47.800 but don't let it consume you. You have this choice, 0:23:47.960 --> 0:23:50.800 and you are strong enough to make the choice and 0:23:51.280 --> 0:23:54.399 to pick the option to help you rather than to 0:23:54.520 --> 0:23:57.600 hinder you. So that's just kind of like a quick 0:23:57.600 --> 0:24:01.680 and easy thing. I know that's very much easier said 0:24:02.200 --> 0:24:05.679 than done, but I think that's even just being self 0:24:05.720 --> 0:24:09.679 aware enough to realize that you actually have control to pick. 0:24:11.160 --> 0:24:13.760 The next thing I want you to think about is 0:24:13.840 --> 0:24:18.520 to really trust in the process and the facts. So 0:24:18.840 --> 0:24:21.960 instead of listening to this negative voice in your head, 0:24:22.440 --> 0:24:26.280 listen to the feedback. You may actually have to like 0:24:26.400 --> 0:24:30.440 go and talk to someone or you need to look 0:24:30.480 --> 0:24:35.080 at the fact. So for example, when I got into 0:24:35.200 --> 0:24:38.600 this law firm, in this clerkship, I actually remember I 0:24:38.680 --> 0:24:41.160 got like a sort of like an admin sort of job, 0:24:41.240 --> 0:24:43.040 and then I actually got a law clerk job. So 0:24:43.080 --> 0:24:45.919 I actually went for two interviews and got both. This 0:24:46.119 --> 0:24:48.199 was a good six months after and I was like, 0:24:48.240 --> 0:24:50.520 now friends with everyone in the office and my boss, 0:24:50.520 --> 0:24:53.159 and I actually asked my boss and I was like, hey, like, 0:24:53.320 --> 0:24:56.200