WEBVTT - MINI: Is it okay to loudly criticise a stranger's parenting? ⁉️

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<v Speaker 1>I want to know, do you think there's ever a

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<v Speaker 1>time where it's appropriate to publicly criticize someone else's parenting.

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<v Speaker 1>So if you see a parent doing something that you

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<v Speaker 1>don't think is a good idea with their own children

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<v Speaker 1>in a public space.

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<v Speaker 2>We have to find public you're going to get up

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<v Speaker 2>on a soapbox and yell it out.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe you're at the park, maybe you're at the pub,

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<v Speaker 1>like wherever you are, they're doing something and you're like,

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<v Speaker 1>that's terrible parenting.

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<v Speaker 3>I should tell them, Mitch, do you reckon?

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<v Speaker 4>This story is going to be Laura criticizing someone or

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<v Speaker 4>someone criticizing Laura.

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<v Speaker 2>She's been criticized for sure.

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<v Speaker 3>No I haven't. It's the other way around, you criticize.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, No I didn't, And that's why I have a

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<v Speaker 1>big question to ask. So we were at the pub

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<v Speaker 1>on Saturday night. I was there with my husband, with

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<v Speaker 1>my two kids, and also with my mum.

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<v Speaker 3>Now, Kimbo loves the wine.

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<v Speaker 1>She is also a school teacher and she's very very

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<v Speaker 1>active in our kids' life, like she's you know, she's

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<v Speaker 1>very good at parenting and she's also very responsible. So

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<v Speaker 1>we're at the pub and we walked in we sat

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<v Speaker 1>down at our table, and at the table directly next

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<v Speaker 1>to us, we there's three kids. They were like three boys,

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<v Speaker 1>maybe around ten years old. They were really young, and

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<v Speaker 1>they were sitting there like really excited about a game

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<v Speaker 1>that they were playing, and they were, you know, writing

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<v Speaker 1>something down and looking up at the screen. And then

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<v Speaker 1>we realized they were playing Keno. Not only were they

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<v Speaker 1>just pretending to play, their parents had bought them Keino tabs,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, like when you go up and you get

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<v Speaker 1>the little paper that you enter your numbers on.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't play. I'm also not seventy, but they played Keno.

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<v Speaker 3>Isn't Keno just like a bingo?

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<v Speaker 2>But it is adults. It's still gambling.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, it's full gambling.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, okay, take away the money. Kids can still play that.

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<v Speaker 4>It's like memory no.

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<v Speaker 2>But this is it's still illegal.

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<v Speaker 3>So the kids were sitting there playing Keno.

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<v Speaker 1>Their family was on the other table, so we were

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<v Speaker 1>kind of sandwiched in between. We were the meat between

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<v Speaker 1>the parents and the kids playing Keno. So my mum

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<v Speaker 1>realized that they were playing it properly and not just

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<v Speaker 1>a pretend game that their parents had obviously paid for

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<v Speaker 1>money for them to have active games, and my mom

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<v Speaker 1>was outraged and I was like, Mum, don't say anything.

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<v Speaker 3>Don't say a single thing, and she was like, I

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<v Speaker 3>can't believe it.

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<v Speaker 1>She didn't directly talk to the table, but she talked

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<v Speaker 1>so loudly about her disapproval of this child gambling that

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<v Speaker 1>she made sure that the table next to us heard her,

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<v Speaker 1>to the point that they then turned around and said,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sorry.

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<v Speaker 3>But if you have a problem with it, you can

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<v Speaker 3>mind your own business.

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<v Speaker 4>To my mother that actually, I feel so incredibly uncomfortable.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm on the side of the parents. I think Britain gambling.

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<v Speaker 4>I think we're smarter, not harder. Why do we have

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<v Speaker 4>to be at our kids beck and call twenty four

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<v Speaker 4>to seven.

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<v Speaker 3>They're ten years old. They can amuse themselves.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm not saying yes to gambling, but I wouldn't say

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<v Speaker 4>it's lazy parenting because you've said, amuse yourself.

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<v Speaker 3>I think that that's.

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<v Speaker 1>Why it's lazy parenting, because the only thing that they

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<v Speaker 1>could come up with to get the kids to amuse

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<v Speaker 1>themselves in that place is something that is actually not

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<v Speaker 1>child appropriate.

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<v Speaker 3>But the question that I.

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<v Speaker 1>Really wanted to know is is do you think there's

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<v Speaker 1>ever a situation where or a way that you can

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<v Speaker 1>criticize someone's parenting with them, you know, like directly to them, or.

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<v Speaker 2>Do you just have to always I think no. I

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<v Speaker 2>think you do not know what is going on inside

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<v Speaker 2>someone's family. You don't know the child parent relationship. I

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<v Speaker 2>don't think you can. It's such a personal dig that

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<v Speaker 2>you know one percent. You know the tip of the iceberg, right,

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<v Speaker 2>you see one moment or a couple of bad Keino

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<v Speaker 2>taps and then and then you think, oh my god,

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<v Speaker 2>you know the full story. You might not.

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<v Speaker 3>You don't know.

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<v Speaker 4>I only think you can when it is a very

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<v Speaker 4>serious issue. If there's physical violence or things like that,

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<v Speaker 4>I think it's okay to step Like if you're watching

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<v Speaker 4>somebody reprimand someone that everyone knows is too.

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<v Speaker 3>Far, I think one hundred percent you step in.

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<v Speaker 4>But for it's normal parenting, No, you can't go and

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<v Speaker 4>say anything to me.

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<v Speaker 5>I used to roll my dad's cigarettes at the local park.

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<v Speaker 5>He had a cigarette machine. I used to get the

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<v Speaker 5>little pouch and I ustill only had to whit the tip.

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<v Speaker 5>I could have created a fact short did If ETSI

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<v Speaker 5>was a thing back in the day, I would have

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<v Speaker 5>been making money I was rolling those things so quick.

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<v Speaker 3>I used to go to auctions with my dad. It

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<v Speaker 3>was an auctioneer. I was like, do I have two

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<v Speaker 3>hundred and twenty fives? Do I have two hundred and thirty?

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<v Speaker 3>It's about eight years old.

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<v Speaker 2>And we're fine. We're desperate for attention now as adults,

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<v Speaker 2>but we're fine.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm still selling myself off. Do I have two un

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<v Speaker 3>turn twenty five thousand dollars?

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<v Speaker 2>He's just traffic