WEBVTT - Would You Go To An Adults Only Suburb? 👨 🏘️ 0:00:01.480 --> 0:00:04.400 Flex and Frooms, Flex and Firms. This is the Flex 0:00:04.440 --> 0:00:06.440 and Frooms catch up podcast. 0:00:08.480 --> 0:00:10.800 Happy Wednesday or whatever el state is. You're in the 0:00:10.800 --> 0:00:13.400 Flex and Firms podcast. Can I just say, don't want 0:00:13.400 --> 0:00:15.360 to shout at another podcast, but they're not really in 0:00:15.400 --> 0:00:19.680 our lane. I've been listening to Humman podcast. He is 0:00:19.720 --> 0:00:22.480 a Gandery human Andrew human. This US guy is like 0:00:22.560 --> 0:00:25.119 professor at Stanford. He talks about the brain and the 0:00:25.120 --> 0:00:28.200 body and optimization. But I would say, like in a 0:00:28.360 --> 0:00:32.000 very physiological and biological way, there's none of this like 0:00:33.120 --> 0:00:37.480 be healthy for this xyz. It's more explain yourself. It's 0:00:37.520 --> 0:00:39.640 none of that. It's explaining the physics and what not, 0:00:40.000 --> 0:00:41.320 the science behind things. 0:00:41.360 --> 0:00:43.640 And also because what they often do is go through 0:00:43.680 --> 0:00:46.839 like peer reviewed or trending information in like the science 0:00:46.920 --> 0:00:50.680 world that might might be too like cerebral for us 0:00:50.680 --> 0:00:53.000 to understand, and they break it down and say like 0:00:53.400 --> 0:00:54.960 this is what that means, and this is how you 0:00:54.960 --> 0:00:56.840 can implement it, and this is what you can do. 0:00:57.560 --> 0:00:59.360 If you're to google his videos, I think you would 0:00:59.400 --> 0:01:02.640 initially get a very much like Bro podcast Vibe, which 0:01:02.720 --> 0:01:06.000 we are not opposed to absolutely not, if anything, we 0:01:06.040 --> 0:01:08.559 advocate for Bro podcasts. When I see one, I see 0:01:08.959 --> 0:01:09.720 they are my brothers. 0:01:09.800 --> 0:01:12.840 Yeah, kin for sure, Ah, but yeah, just stick with it. 0:01:13.600 --> 0:01:15.199 He did a really good interview with the chick who's 0:01:15.240 --> 0:01:16.840 a her fertility specialist. 0:01:16.880 --> 0:01:19.679 I can't remember a name, of course, and. 0:01:19.560 --> 0:01:22.680 She kept correcting him and it was amazing to hear 0:01:22.800 --> 0:01:25.199 because he took it really well. I was like, this 0:01:25.280 --> 0:01:29.080 is a genderless conversation, Like you're getting a school and 0:01:29.160 --> 0:01:31.160 you keep apologizing, and I'm like, oh my god, this 0:01:31.240 --> 0:01:35.320 is so refreshing to hear it from such a authority. 0:01:35.360 --> 0:01:37.800 He's not authoritative, but like, but an authority in his 0:01:37.800 --> 0:01:39.240 fe authority is field. 0:01:38.959 --> 0:01:41.480 And he's getting schooled by this woman and it's very 0:01:41.520 --> 0:01:43.880 mutually respectful. Yeah, and I thought, this is what it's 0:01:43.920 --> 0:01:47.680 like to have a conversation where there's no niceties. We're 0:01:47.720 --> 0:01:50.320 just two expects, experts exchanging conversation. 0:01:50.560 --> 0:01:52.920 Yeah. If you are the listener, rather anyway, let's get 0:01:52.960 --> 0:01:56.520 into it. You're listening to Flex and Rooms on cater. 0:01:56.560 --> 0:01:58.600 I've got a really big question that I don't think 0:01:58.600 --> 0:02:00.880 has a definitive answer, but I'm happy to try. If 0:02:00.920 --> 0:02:06.400 you are, Please imagine you see a friend, close friend, 0:02:06.520 --> 0:02:15.400 best friend, partner, sibling, parent cousin post on Instagram on 0:02:15.440 --> 0:02:17.880 their Instagram story peraps something that will lose them having 0:02:17.919 --> 0:02:20.680 a hard time, but in a way that might incriminate 0:02:20.720 --> 0:02:23.040 you as their friends. So when a friend's like I 0:02:23.080 --> 0:02:25.840 just don't have anyone I can trust, or like, I 0:02:25.919 --> 0:02:29.680 just feel like, you know, I'm just overwhelmed there's no 0:02:29.680 --> 0:02:33.200 one I can lean on, or they say something like 0:02:33.520 --> 0:02:38.360 I just feel like, you know, you give me an 0:02:38.360 --> 0:02:40.920 example for me. You know, the types of things. 0:02:41.919 --> 0:02:45.000 Okay, I don't know who to turn to. I'm having 0:02:45.040 --> 0:02:46.679 a health issue that nobody understands. 0:02:46.760 --> 0:02:50.120 Yeah, you know, why is it that nobody reaches out 0:02:50.120 --> 0:02:52.519 when you need them the most? Things like that? Right, 0:02:52.639 --> 0:02:58.200 Things that are quite pointedly expressing that they're not doing well. 0:02:59.639 --> 0:03:02.520 But it doesn't necessarily feel like an invitation to reach 0:03:02.560 --> 0:03:05.320 out either. So I've seen a few people who I 0:03:05.360 --> 0:03:09.360 wouldn't really describe as friends to me anyway post things 0:03:09.400 --> 0:03:11.200 like this, and I obviously don't feel the need to 0:03:11.200 --> 0:03:13.399 reach out. I don't know you like that, But I'm 0:03:13.480 --> 0:03:16.400 thinking if one of my friends did this, would it 0:03:16.480 --> 0:03:19.520 have the desired effect, Like if someone I deemed to 0:03:19.520 --> 0:03:22.120 be close enough that we talk often enough, if I 0:03:22.160 --> 0:03:27.440 saw you do a vague subtweet esque post would I 0:03:27.560 --> 0:03:30.600 reach out? Because when I saw it, I'm like, I 0:03:30.639 --> 0:03:32.600 feel like you don't want anyone to reach out. This 0:03:32.639 --> 0:03:37.040 feels repelling in nature, you know. It kind of reminds 0:03:37.040 --> 0:03:41.640 me of every year when r Uakday comes around and 0:03:41.720 --> 0:03:46.560 people who have great support systems like this day is 0:03:46.600 --> 0:03:49.720 so silly, like who would need this? La la la la. 0:03:49.880 --> 0:03:52.080 Then people who have actually needed that are like, Oh, 0:03:52.120 --> 0:03:53.640 I just wish someone would have asked me if I 0:03:53.720 --> 0:03:56.280 was okay when I was going through a breakdown or 0:03:56.280 --> 0:03:59.440 when I was obviously acting in an erratic way or whatever, 0:04:00.040 --> 0:04:02.640 And I can never tell because I guess so much 0:04:02.680 --> 0:04:07.000 of like social media consumption is seeing TMI, like seeing 0:04:07.040 --> 0:04:10.200 people share so much and still knowing that like it's 0:04:10.280 --> 0:04:12.840 only meant for consumption. I'm not meant to break the 0:04:12.880 --> 0:04:15.880 fourth wall and engage with this girl doing a get 0:04:15.880 --> 0:04:18.240 ready with me to break with my boyfriend video? 0:04:19.760 --> 0:04:22.520 The Internet's interneting too hard? What do you reckon? I 0:04:22.520 --> 0:04:24.000 didn't think people still do this. 0:04:24.200 --> 0:04:27.840 Yeah, but for me these days, the closest approximation I 0:04:27.880 --> 0:04:31.120 would see of that would be people resharing like some 0:04:31.200 --> 0:04:33.680 kind of depression meme that's like semi jo. 0:04:34.680 --> 0:04:36.440 I didn't see anyone do with this stuff. 0:04:36.880 --> 0:04:40.800 Gosh, And maybe it's because of I follow My network 0:04:40.880 --> 0:04:43.760 is probably a lot more like content creators and industry 0:04:43.800 --> 0:04:44.719 peers or stuff. 0:04:44.720 --> 0:04:46.360 But what do you think mine is? 0:04:47.040 --> 0:04:51.400 I don't know what yours is, freaks, but I definitely 0:04:51.400 --> 0:04:53.719 know what you're saying, Like I remember because of my 0:04:55.440 --> 0:04:58.800 choice meme curation, people like do you have BPD? And 0:04:58.800 --> 0:05:00.800 I'm like, what makes you say that? Like you always 0:05:00.839 --> 0:05:03.520 repost from this BPD account. I'm like, the memes hit. 0:05:04.240 --> 0:05:06.920 I don't know what to tell you, like the memes are, 0:05:07.480 --> 0:05:10.080 but I understand what you're saying. At a time, memes 0:05:10.120 --> 0:05:13.719 were a conversational tool. Now I'm like, these are funny, 0:05:14.080 --> 0:05:19.719 not necessarily relatable, but funny either way. But I feel 0:05:19.720 --> 0:05:22.919 like this is a dilemma because I keep reckoning with 0:05:22.960 --> 0:05:25.400 the idea of like durbut time when you were at 0:05:25.440 --> 0:05:28.880 a cafe for me and you overheard this conversation with 0:05:28.960 --> 0:05:30.799 those two guys and they said something like really cooked, 0:05:30.800 --> 0:05:32.800 and you didn't know whether or not to say anything 0:05:32.920 --> 0:05:35.360 or not to say anything, and we were kind of debating, like, well, 0:05:35.360 --> 0:05:37.839 if you don't actually care, then like, don't bother yourself, 0:05:37.839 --> 0:05:40.520 you know, like let yourself rest and then but also 0:05:40.560 --> 0:05:43.440 like wait, but then, what situations do we deem appropriate 0:05:43.520 --> 0:05:46.359 to step in and be the bigger person, the better person, 0:05:46.400 --> 0:05:49.720 the optimal person, or just the one who operates in. 0:05:49.680 --> 0:05:51.280 A way that is good. 0:05:51.640 --> 0:05:54.000 And so when I see people like crying for help 0:05:54.000 --> 0:05:56.160 in some capacity, and this is like a broad term, 0:05:56.600 --> 0:06:00.000 I'm like, damn, I don't know how to step in. 0:06:00.440 --> 0:06:02.320 I don't know if it's appropriate. I don't know what 0:06:02.320 --> 0:06:05.200 I'm signing myself up for. And I was trying to think, well, 0:06:05.200 --> 0:06:07.400 what's the worst that could happen? And I was like, 0:06:07.960 --> 0:06:09.800 the worst that could happen is I put myself in 0:06:09.800 --> 0:06:14.720 a position to offer someone help and rescind it, you know, 0:06:15.480 --> 0:06:18.320 like take it back, you know, put myself in a 0:06:18.360 --> 0:06:20.880 position where I'm like whoa, Like, hey man, what's going on? 0:06:21.000 --> 0:06:22.000 Like this looks hectic? 0:06:22.400 --> 0:06:24.160 And then it is actually quite hectic or I don't 0:06:24.160 --> 0:06:26.599 have the capacity or I feel like I don't actually 0:06:26.600 --> 0:06:28.480 don't want to deal with this because I didn't know 0:06:28.880 --> 0:06:31.560 that you were going through something that feels inherently personal 0:06:31.640 --> 0:06:33.440 that I don't have the capacity to help you in on. 0:06:33.839 --> 0:06:37.359 And then I'm just like okay, yikes, I got to go. 0:06:38.839 --> 0:06:41.200 This time to me before I think I've told you this. 0:06:41.600 --> 0:06:43.760 Where this chick who I talk about like certain things, 0:06:43.800 --> 0:06:47.239 like a colleague, and we talk about like mental health stuff. 0:06:47.279 --> 0:06:49.160 And then one time I came to her about this 0:06:49.160 --> 0:06:50.560 thing that we've spoken about. She's like, I just don't 0:06:50.600 --> 0:06:53.120 really have the capacity right now. And I went and 0:06:53.160 --> 0:06:56.320 I oop, and I oop and I'm scared. 0:06:56.640 --> 0:06:58.600 Oop and it ooped all the way back. 0:06:58.720 --> 0:07:02.360 So I just say, if you want to be it's. 0:07:02.240 --> 0:07:04.600 Not because you don't want to be a hero. You 0:07:04.600 --> 0:07:05.360 don't want to be a hero. 0:07:05.480 --> 0:07:09.240 But also like sometimes you have to put your I 0:07:09.360 --> 0:07:11.480 just like I'm in the wrong space, like put that 0:07:11.600 --> 0:07:14.600 language aside and fucking help somebody. 0:07:14.800 --> 0:07:18.280 Yeah yeah, Like if they come to you, that's for sure. 0:07:18.560 --> 0:07:23.800 But it's the observational thing, like as the viewer, I'm 0:07:23.880 --> 0:07:27.120 observing a post you made, is that are you giving 0:07:27.120 --> 0:07:29.600 me permission? Do you want me to ask? I don't 0:07:29.640 --> 0:07:31.840 know what's happening here. I feel like I'm losing my 0:07:31.920 --> 0:07:35.440 digital social skills. Is this just for clout or you 0:07:35.480 --> 0:07:36.320 want me to reach out? 0:07:37.760 --> 0:07:39.679 We need to make it lessons on how to deal 0:07:39.800 --> 0:07:44.120 with overshares. I like that I never thought about are 0:07:44.120 --> 0:07:46.040 you kday like that. I just to have this joke 0:07:46.080 --> 0:07:50.120 with someone saying it is it's you are Okay Day, 0:07:50.160 --> 0:07:52.520 like when people you know, how are you ok Day? 0:07:52.600 --> 0:07:54.800 Like ten years or whatever in a workplace, was like 0:07:55.200 --> 0:07:57.720 bring the cupcakes. It was that very like sanitized version 0:07:57.720 --> 0:07:59.920 of mental health. And so my friend would call it 0:08:00.160 --> 0:08:02.280 you are Okay Day because they'd like do what it works. 0:08:02.280 --> 0:08:05.280 So obviously you can't say I'm not okay. I don't 0:08:05.320 --> 0:08:07.080 even let you go to see everyone's good. 0:08:07.240 --> 0:08:11.000 Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, great, okay. 0:08:10.640 --> 0:08:12.320 One hundred per But I never thought about it like 0:08:12.320 --> 0:08:14.120 that that for some people that actually is helpful. 0:08:14.200 --> 0:08:15.640 Yeah, And I only knew that from having a conversation 0:08:15.680 --> 0:08:17.480 with a close friend who I was like, yeah, this 0:08:17.680 --> 0:08:19.760 like I wonder who, like who is this for? 0:08:19.960 --> 0:08:21.040 And she was like I. 0:08:20.960 --> 0:08:23.200 Don't know, man, Like I've been going through some tough 0:08:23.240 --> 0:08:25.280 times and like I would have wished that someone had 0:08:25.320 --> 0:08:27.280 be like, hey, like what's good? What are you going through? 0:08:27.800 --> 0:08:30.160 And I was like, yeah, people really are looking for permission. 0:08:30.480 --> 0:08:34.760 And when you're someone who's like overtly exerted or outgoing 0:08:34.920 --> 0:08:38.120 or feels like you have permission to ask for help 0:08:38.160 --> 0:08:41.280 when you need help or reach out when you need assistance. 0:08:41.440 --> 0:08:43.679 I'm like, oh, yeah, I hadn't considered that there are 0:08:44.240 --> 0:08:47.680 truly people there who do have the support system who 0:08:47.760 --> 0:08:49.800 still feel like, yeah, no, I could never and I 0:08:49.880 --> 0:08:52.760 just need someone to like come to me anyway one 0:08:52.800 --> 0:08:54.720 tim ale over. I'm sure there'd be a thousand examples 0:08:54.720 --> 0:08:56.680 by next week, because the girl is to stay suffering. 0:08:57.800 --> 0:09:02.560 We're out here, yeah, Keeter flex and Froobs flex and frooms. 0:09:02.880 --> 0:09:06.760 If you're sensitive about hearing people say they don't like kids, 0:09:06.840 --> 0:09:10.800 this is not for you. I forever am a child supremacist, 0:09:11.240 --> 0:09:14.040 baby supremacists, even I think babies are probably like the 0:09:14.080 --> 0:09:18.280 most important people second to that redactive, redective, redactive, redacted, rejected. 0:09:18.360 --> 0:09:20.920 Everyone can go. Let's listen to this clip on TikTok 0:09:20.960 --> 0:09:22.080 though it'll sum it up for you. 0:09:22.480 --> 0:09:24.959 I would like to know when somebody is planning on 0:09:25.080 --> 0:09:28.800 opening an adults only suburb where everything in it is 0:09:28.840 --> 0:09:32.840 only for adults, because I'm so sick of going places 0:09:32.880 --> 0:09:35.920 and kids are just everywhere screaming and I just have 0:09:36.000 --> 0:09:37.960 to put up with it. At its own For a swim, 0:09:38.080 --> 0:09:40.760 they have their own pool and they're in the lap 0:09:40.960 --> 0:09:45.000 lean pool. Not swimming labs, just jumping in, screaming, and 0:09:45.320 --> 0:09:48.720 that's just allowed because they're allowed everywhere. I just feel like, 0:09:49.120 --> 0:09:51.680 for people like me that are evil and hate kids, 0:09:51.840 --> 0:09:54.120 we should have our own suburb where we can just 0:09:54.200 --> 0:09:56.520 be quiet and undisturbed. 0:09:56.800 --> 0:09:59.400 What I'm hearing is that we should start finding children. 0:10:00.240 --> 0:10:01.439 Definitely what came to mind. 0:10:01.280 --> 0:10:03.880 For punishments for all those undertakes. 0:10:04.640 --> 0:10:05.440 Get him in jail. 0:10:05.720 --> 0:10:09.120 No, I understand this theory, though I don't adult only 0:10:09.240 --> 0:10:10.680 suburbs like those. 0:10:10.720 --> 0:10:12.280 I don't really see kids around. 0:10:12.360 --> 0:10:15.200 Am I not in the right places unless they're my 0:10:15.240 --> 0:10:18.040 own family. I don't really see them around. Pick your 0:10:18.080 --> 0:10:21.320 place is better, though, I will say there is something 0:10:21.400 --> 0:10:25.079 to say about spaces that should be shared with kids 0:10:25.320 --> 0:10:27.520 need to be more defined. So even if you're going 0:10:27.520 --> 0:10:29.640 to like a family friendly restaurant, I was trying to 0:10:29.640 --> 0:10:32.520 find one the other day for my family, very vague. 0:10:32.800 --> 0:10:35.600 What about this establishment makes it friendly for a family 0:10:36.040 --> 0:10:38.600 because the kids, the seats are too low? You know, 0:10:38.840 --> 0:10:41.560 you're not playing pepper pig, you know what I'm saying? 0:10:41.920 --> 0:10:42.600 What's the other one? 0:10:42.600 --> 0:10:42.960 They love? 0:10:43.360 --> 0:10:46.920 Bluey starts with seeing he's French? Ruther do we no 0:10:47.000 --> 0:10:48.120 starts to see and he's French. 0:10:48.960 --> 0:10:53.480 What's his name? What's his name? Cahillippi? I've never heard 0:10:53.520 --> 0:10:55.880 of it. Do no go on there? What do you think? 0:10:56.120 --> 0:10:57.400 I will say? 0:10:57.440 --> 0:10:59.480 This sounds really good in theory, but what happens when 0:10:59.520 --> 0:11:02.280 you take chill out of a situation? Humans still will 0:11:02.320 --> 0:11:05.040 always have an element of play within them. What happened 0:11:05.080 --> 0:11:06.839 when I went to Bali last year. My sister and 0:11:06.880 --> 0:11:10.520 I had an adults only resort. Yeah, what ends up happening? 0:11:10.840 --> 0:11:11.480 You shut up? 0:11:13.200 --> 0:11:17.440 We're very cut up, and we started wrestling on the 0:11:17.840 --> 0:11:19.520 side next to the pool to push each other into 0:11:19.520 --> 0:11:19.840 the pool. 0:11:20.040 --> 0:11:24.480 Hours hours of fun. Everyone's going thirty thirty year old 0:11:24.800 --> 0:11:25.880 having wrestle fights. 0:11:25.960 --> 0:11:28.480 That's what happens when you know, I think we all 0:11:28.520 --> 0:11:31.320 need a playful vibe. We do, we do need to play, 0:11:31.400 --> 0:11:34.560 and so therefore I adjudicate and I say they should 0:11:34.600 --> 0:11:36.080 have a kid only neighborhood. 0:11:36.280 --> 0:11:38.600 Can I interject please really quickly. 0:11:38.840 --> 0:11:42.560 I think the reason why people don't dislike kids is 0:11:42.600 --> 0:11:46.199 because they keep on measuring kids behavior by adult standards. 0:11:46.559 --> 0:11:49.160 I can guarantee I've interacted with more annoying adults in 0:11:49.200 --> 0:11:51.520 a day to day than annoying kid. Kids operate from 0:11:51.559 --> 0:11:54.440 the same four needs and ones. I want to play, 0:11:54.800 --> 0:11:56.880 I want to eat, I want to be quiet, I 0:11:56.920 --> 0:11:59.720 want to be entertained, And you're not getting the vibe. 0:11:59.840 --> 0:12:02.680 If we learned how to deal with kids better, we 0:12:02.920 --> 0:12:05.240 learn how to deal with adults better, Because what are 0:12:05.440 --> 0:12:06.120 what are adults? 0:12:06.440 --> 0:12:07.480 Kids with me? Kids? 0:12:07.720 --> 0:12:12.439 People who were once identifiable as kids, who are still 0:12:12.559 --> 0:12:14.800 kids but not identifiable as kids. 0:12:15.000 --> 0:12:16.239 And that is the issue. 0:12:16.280 --> 0:12:20.000 Everybody I know that's not identifiably a kid is a 0:12:20.040 --> 0:12:20.800 big baby. 0:12:21.080 --> 0:12:24.000 And what do babies want to be swaddled? They want 0:12:24.520 --> 0:12:30.640 betty sickening. You're listening to flex and rooms on kata. 0:12:30.920 --> 0:12:33.080 I feel like we often talk about things like intuition, 0:12:33.240 --> 0:12:36.120 but perhaps don't have the exact definition of it. I 0:12:36.120 --> 0:12:38.400 speak from my own experience, not yours. I came across 0:12:38.400 --> 0:12:40.679 the TikTok that perhaps explains it for once and for all. 0:12:40.760 --> 0:12:41.439 Let's have a listen. 0:12:41.480 --> 0:12:44.800 How do you know when it's truly intuition and not 0:12:44.960 --> 0:12:45.840 wish for thinking? 0:12:46.480 --> 0:12:51.160 Because intuition makes you feel uncomfortable, fantasy doesn't. 0:12:51.920 --> 0:12:53.160 Now, are you better say that again? 0:12:53.600 --> 0:12:58.840 Intuition makes you feel uncomfortable, fantasy doesn't. It's that kind 0:12:58.880 --> 0:13:02.959 of funky feeling you meet somebody and you think, I've 0:13:03.040 --> 0:13:06.199 got to get to know that person. You don't know why, 0:13:06.240 --> 0:13:10.439 and somehow or other, with clear intuition comes a package 0:13:10.480 --> 0:13:15.480 of courage that you don't get with fantasy. This package 0:13:15.520 --> 0:13:18.760 of strength that you get is like a little battery 0:13:19.040 --> 0:13:22.040 gets plugged into your gut and it begins to boom 0:13:22.040 --> 0:13:26.840 boom boom boom throb constantly until you start doing something 0:13:26.840 --> 0:13:29.560 about it. And when you start following it, then you 0:13:29.640 --> 0:13:35.360 begin to experience the phenomenon of synchronicity. Whereas if it's 0:13:35.360 --> 0:13:39.280 a manufactured fantasy, you don't get that kind of help. 0:13:40.080 --> 0:13:42.559 You absolutely don't get that kind of help. 0:13:43.040 --> 0:13:44.000 You get closed doors. 0:13:44.600 --> 0:13:47.959 Yeah, you get closed doors, or yeah, if you've done 0:13:47.960 --> 0:13:51.840 something wrong and your whole system knows to try to 0:13:52.000 --> 0:13:55.880 silence that voice, it will not leave you alone. 0:13:56.400 --> 0:13:58.320 That feels premium spooky for you. 0:13:58.360 --> 0:14:01.040 For me, that feels you're going to the depths of 0:14:01.160 --> 0:14:02.960 the spookiest thing you could find, and you poured it 0:14:03.000 --> 0:14:08.200 out the Russian deep sea fishermen of spooky tiktoks? 0:14:08.800 --> 0:14:12.600 Are you going to the look? I actually didn't. 0:14:12.360 --> 0:14:13.880 Even listen to that before I brought it into the 0:14:13.880 --> 0:14:15.680 studio because I thought I would have a live react. 0:14:15.920 --> 0:14:17.720 I thought it was going to be something more about 0:14:19.440 --> 0:14:21.240 I actually thought it'd be something different. 0:14:21.440 --> 0:14:24.680 I was expecting her to be. Like take it from 0:14:24.680 --> 0:14:27.320 the angle of trust your intuition when it comes to 0:14:27.360 --> 0:14:30.480 something bad. For example, you meet someone and you get, oh, 0:14:30.520 --> 0:14:33.400 that's a bit weird. Intuition is when you send things 0:14:33.400 --> 0:14:36.360 are wrong, and fantasy is a little is something that's 0:14:36.360 --> 0:14:37.400 a little less hard get. 0:14:37.480 --> 0:14:39.800 Intuition never be good, though, I don't like that framing 0:14:39.800 --> 0:14:42.320 that intuition is so skewed to Like when you sent 0:14:42.440 --> 0:14:44.920 something bad or not right, can you be intuitively positive, 0:14:44.960 --> 0:14:47.120 like I'm getting a good vibe about this. 0:14:47.480 --> 0:14:49.640 No, because I think your fantasy plays into it, like 0:14:49.920 --> 0:14:54.080 some people want things to be good that nobody wants to. 0:14:54.040 --> 0:14:57.640 Be bad, like I think people I think stay with me. 0:14:58.080 --> 0:15:01.640 I think people over identify with bad things and they 0:15:01.760 --> 0:15:04.880 look for science to validate that. Because if my intuition 0:15:05.240 --> 0:15:07.720 told me that I clocked it first, I can validate 0:15:07.800 --> 0:15:11.200 my anxious mind or that my worrying mind, my intuition 0:15:11.360 --> 0:15:11.800 clocked it. 0:15:11.840 --> 0:15:12.680 That's a good thing. 0:15:12.880 --> 0:15:16.000 Where it's like your intuition can't see good, your intuition 0:15:16.160 --> 0:15:21.200 breaking your intuition, don't know duality maybe hmm. 0:15:21.520 --> 0:15:22.680 But also I don't think they're on. 0:15:22.840 --> 0:15:25.080 I think they're comparable, But I don't think it's helpful 0:15:25.080 --> 0:15:27.600 to put intuition and fantasy on the same spectrum because 0:15:27.600 --> 0:15:30.320 fantasy is just not inherently like this can't be in 0:15:30.360 --> 0:15:32.600 the realm of possibility, and intuition's always like this has 0:15:32.640 --> 0:15:33.720 to be in the realm of possibility. 0:15:33.880 --> 0:15:36.800 They can overlap, true because I think sometimes fantasy can 0:15:36.840 --> 0:15:39.280 be rooted in real life. Yeah, we all live a 0:15:39.280 --> 0:15:45.320 fantastical life. My life right now, someone's fantasy on. I 0:15:45.320 --> 0:15:47.320 think I get it. I will say maybe next time 0:15:47.360 --> 0:15:49.360 I'll do a bit more research before I bring a TikTok. 0:15:49.480 --> 0:15:51.800 Yeah. Yeah, I was kind of going with the flow there. 0:15:51.800 --> 0:15:54.120 I must say I didn't completely said the music was 0:15:54.120 --> 0:15:55.160 getting me hyped up. 0:15:56.840 --> 0:15:59.000 But yeah, still, I think intuition is something. 0:15:59.040 --> 0:16:00.640 Why don't you give your own you know, like when 0:16:00.640 --> 0:16:02.400 you do that, it's usually spot on. Remember when you 0:16:02.400 --> 0:16:05.320 gave your definition of the distinction between hot, beautiful, and 0:16:05.360 --> 0:16:08.400 pretty and that was awesome. Your distinction between nice, good, 0:16:08.400 --> 0:16:11.520 and kind, that was great. When you try giving your distinction. 0:16:11.520 --> 0:16:12.920 Okay, how much time I got. 0:16:14.000 --> 0:16:16.800 I think that intuition and I'm just going off the 0:16:16.800 --> 0:16:18.920 top of my head right now. I actually I can't 0:16:18.920 --> 0:16:21.920 decide if it's something spooky or not, because in my mind, 0:16:22.040 --> 0:16:25.480 the things that I associate intuition with are women. I 0:16:25.480 --> 0:16:28.280 think women and intuition are the same thing. 0:16:30.200 --> 0:16:32.000 Do you know what I mean? Can I give you 0:16:32.040 --> 0:16:34.480 the Google definition? Please? I would love to do that 0:16:34.600 --> 0:16:35.040 for us. 0:16:35.240 --> 0:16:38.840 The ability to understand something instinctively without the need for 0:16:38.920 --> 0:16:39.880 conscious reasoning. 0:16:40.160 --> 0:16:44.640 I feel like that's a woman thing. Let's wrap, boys, 0:16:44.880 --> 0:16:47.200 let's rap. If you agree with me, you know why 0:16:47.240 --> 0:16:50.200 you agree with that. Only chicks can know. You know 0:16:50.520 --> 0:16:54.560 these are for girls only. I'll say that with my 0:16:54.640 --> 0:16:56.760 chest flex and frooms FLEXI. 0:16:56.880 --> 0:17:00.000 We have a listener submission. It's a voice note, no content. 0:17:00.200 --> 0:17:02.000 Let's play it hi plax. 0:17:03.600 --> 0:17:07.000 I was recently listening to the podcast where you were 0:17:07.000 --> 0:17:10.840 speaking about the corporate world and what's the best way 0:17:10.880 --> 0:17:14.199 to conduct yourself these days. I work in London and 0:17:14.240 --> 0:17:16.959 when I interview for jobs, I always try to be authentic. 0:17:17.440 --> 0:17:20.120 My theory is that often companies higher for the right 0:17:20.160 --> 0:17:23.400 fit of the team and the business. Like yes, experience counts, 0:17:23.600 --> 0:17:25.560 but I think that the culture fit is actually more 0:17:25.600 --> 0:17:29.119 important these days. But we've been taught to be so 0:17:29.240 --> 0:17:33.040 generic in these situations. Give the right answers, don't ask 0:17:33.080 --> 0:17:36.240 about the salary, where the pussy bo blouse kind of thing. 0:17:37.240 --> 0:17:39.520 But then if you get the job, what if you're 0:17:39.680 --> 0:17:43.160 the wrong fit because you actually don't fit in well 0:17:43.240 --> 0:17:45.919 with the teams, You can't collaborate well, and you end 0:17:46.000 --> 0:17:49.520 up hating it. So that's why I think be authentic 0:17:49.600 --> 0:17:51.920 and if they can't accept the tooth gym die Hare 0:17:52.080 --> 0:17:54.240 version of you, then you know it's not the right 0:17:54.600 --> 0:17:56.879 fit for you, and you can kind of be happy 0:17:56.920 --> 0:17:57.960 to get the job. 0:17:59.040 --> 0:18:02.080 Why does it sound like that chick recorded it while 0:18:02.119 --> 0:18:04.879 crawling under a carpet fighting. 0:18:04.600 --> 0:18:07.360 Turn minds that was crazy. 0:18:08.720 --> 0:18:11.680 And a little pussy bow blow moment. I gotta say 0:18:11.720 --> 0:18:12.680 I love that approach. 0:18:12.920 --> 0:18:16.440 I like that approach because I think that generally without 0:18:16.520 --> 0:18:19.960 context doesn't work for anyone or everyone. But I will 0:18:20.000 --> 0:18:23.840 say for a lot of people who being yourself isn't 0:18:23.880 --> 0:18:26.239 a blanket rule because too many of you people are 0:18:26.320 --> 0:18:28.320 terrible to be around. Okay, you should put on a 0:18:28.359 --> 0:18:30.520 mask every now and then. However, for a lot of 0:18:30.520 --> 0:18:33.119 these jobs, if you're the type of person who feels 0:18:33.119 --> 0:18:35.200 that they have the confidence and agency to leave when 0:18:35.240 --> 0:18:38.160 things aren't right. Then you should just be your exact 0:18:38.240 --> 0:18:40.720 self right because like you know that if it's not right, 0:18:40.760 --> 0:18:45.119 you'll leave. If you don't feel like you have the 0:18:45.280 --> 0:18:49.120 kahons to leave when things aren't right, then it would 0:18:49.160 --> 0:18:52.280 actually serve you to become the culture of the place 0:18:52.280 --> 0:18:52.879 you're entering. 0:18:52.960 --> 0:18:55.520 Right put on the mask where the pussy bo blouse 0:18:55.560 --> 0:18:57.520 and called a day. Let work be worked. 0:18:57.640 --> 0:19:00.439 Interesting though, because I do agree that companies higher for 0:19:00.520 --> 0:19:02.879 the personal fit or for like the vibe of the culture, 0:19:02.880 --> 0:19:04.000 because how many people do you work with? 0:19:04.040 --> 0:19:04.080 You? 0:19:04.200 --> 0:19:06.600 Like, how did you get this job? Scary do you do? 0:19:06.800 --> 0:19:08.840 Look here? I producer Brook get out Brook is the best? 0:19:08.840 --> 0:19:11.320 How dare you? How do you? Let's fight for it? 0:19:11.400 --> 0:19:12.600 I like thinking about it that way. 0:19:12.880 --> 0:19:14.879 I'd never thought about it as someone like, let's say 0:19:14.920 --> 0:19:16.920