WEBVTT - ASK UNCUT - Hens parties, bi-curios and friendship breakdowns 0:00:19.520 --> 0:00:22.439 Hi guys, and we'll welcome back to another episode of 0:00:22.520 --> 0:00:23.320 Black Uncut. 0:00:23.680 --> 0:00:27.360 I'm Laura, I'm Brittany, and it is therapy. There's day. 0:00:27.680 --> 0:00:30.960 It is our very first ask guncut back here off 0:00:31.000 --> 0:00:33.840 the ranks, ready to roll, answering all your deep, dark 0:00:33.880 --> 0:00:34.919 and burning questions. 0:00:35.000 --> 0:00:36.839 And we do have a couple of cracker questions where 0:00:36.880 --> 0:00:39.080 you're coming up later in the episode. But Laura wants 0:00:39.120 --> 0:00:41.160 to bring a bit of an article to kickstart. 0:00:41.280 --> 0:00:43.600 I mean, this is like the most low brow article 0:00:43.640 --> 0:00:45.680 that we're ever going to get. Sometimes we unpack really 0:00:45.720 --> 0:00:48.879 important things and sometimes they're really unimportant. Well, she's been 0:00:48.880 --> 0:00:51.000 sitting here giggling for the best part of half an hour, 0:00:51.000 --> 0:00:52.479 and I'm like, are you're going to tell me? You're 0:00:52.520 --> 0:00:54.440 going to preface what this is so I actually can 0:00:54.440 --> 0:00:56.560 get my head around it, and she refuses to please 0:00:56.960 --> 0:01:00.000 please share with me. So there is there's an article 0:01:00.160 --> 0:01:02.959 that's come out and it's around Leonardo DiCaprio. 0:01:03.080 --> 0:01:03.960 But I just want to give you. 0:01:03.960 --> 0:01:05.600 I want to give you the quote first, because that's 0:01:05.680 --> 0:01:07.560 kind of like where this awe stemmed from. It's got 0:01:07.640 --> 0:01:09.039 to be about him dating like a twenty year old 0:01:09.040 --> 0:01:15.000 supermodel breaking news. Leonardo DiCaprio's ex girlfriend, Camilla Moron details 0:01:15.040 --> 0:01:17.840 the worst date of my life with the actor. He 0:01:17.920 --> 0:01:20.720 rented out a whole cinema and maybe watch every single 0:01:20.760 --> 0:01:23.520 Star Wars movie while he ran around with his lightsaber 0:01:23.880 --> 0:01:25.520 pretending to fight bad guys. 0:01:27.480 --> 0:01:31.039 What, hang on, how is this breaking news? And hang on, 0:01:31.160 --> 0:01:33.840 hang on, how is this breaking news? And me, I'm 0:01:33.880 --> 0:01:36.880 pretty sure that Camilla Morone. 0:01:36.680 --> 0:01:38.800 Is his current girlfriend, not his ex girlfriend. 0:01:38.920 --> 0:01:42.440 So apparently this was originally posted by a satire Instagram 0:01:42.480 --> 0:01:45.200 page called I'm going to butcher this because I can't 0:01:45.200 --> 0:01:47.680 speak French, but I think it's Les sign Files. If 0:01:47.680 --> 0:01:50.720 it's not sure that, then don't come for me in 0:01:50.760 --> 0:01:54.200 the reviews. But it was posted by a satire Instagram 0:01:54.400 --> 0:01:57.520 and a whole lot of very reputable news sources actually 0:01:57.560 --> 0:02:00.360 picked up this post from like retweets and everything else 0:02:00.400 --> 0:02:03.520 and ran news articles around it saying that Leonardo has 0:02:03.560 --> 0:02:07.280 actually rented out this cinema, forced his girlfriend to watch 0:02:07.400 --> 0:02:10.680 him run around with a lightsaber, and people are reporting 0:02:10.680 --> 0:02:12.880 on this that it's a fact. People yes, to the 0:02:12.880 --> 0:02:15.640 point where Leonardo DiCaprio has had to come out and 0:02:15.720 --> 0:02:17.440 say that he never did that. 0:02:17.520 --> 0:02:18.440 It's all fake news. 0:02:21.320 --> 0:02:24.120 Imagine having to put a statement out saying I didn't 0:02:24.120 --> 0:02:26.320 make my girlfriend run around in a private cinema with 0:02:26.320 --> 0:02:27.000 a lightsaber. 0:02:27.400 --> 0:02:30.640 You know what, this actually reminds me. This is actually funny. 0:02:30.720 --> 0:02:34.240 And this is probably the reason that that satire story 0:02:34.320 --> 0:02:37.400 had legs because Joniah Hill, who is a friend of his, 0:02:37.520 --> 0:02:38.600 they've just done a movie together. 0:02:38.720 --> 0:02:40.560 Don't look up, I think it is. I only got 0:02:40.560 --> 0:02:42.200 through half of it. I couldn't do it. I've only 0:02:42.200 --> 0:02:45.160 started it too. Leo don'nut me was confused by the 0:02:45.200 --> 0:02:45.600 whole thing. 0:02:45.800 --> 0:02:48.280 But Joni Hill had put out a statement as well. 0:02:48.320 --> 0:02:50.240 Obviously I don't know if he was taking a piss too, 0:02:50.320 --> 0:02:52.680 but he said that Leo made him like get really 0:02:52.680 --> 0:02:55.480 involved in the Mandolin franchise and like have lightsabers and 0:02:55.480 --> 0:02:58.640 stuff as well. So there's obviously like a Star Wars 0:02:59.080 --> 0:03:00.320 lightsaber trend going on. 0:03:00.400 --> 0:03:02.079 So now people just think Leo it's crazy. 0:03:02.160 --> 0:03:04.200 But also I feel like actors are a bit kookie. 0:03:04.240 --> 0:03:06.080 So if you read that, you believe it, you believe 0:03:06.120 --> 0:03:08.959 it like it's fine. And also if Leonardo DiCaprio wanted 0:03:09.000 --> 0:03:10.400 to take me on a date and force me to 0:03:10.400 --> 0:03:12.720 watch eight hours of Star Wars, I'd fucking do it. 0:03:12.880 --> 0:03:14.840 Yes, if I had to wield a lightsaber as well 0:03:14.880 --> 0:03:17.360 with Leo in a private cinema, Sign me up, where's 0:03:17.400 --> 0:03:17.840 the ticket? 0:03:17.960 --> 0:03:20.080 I think it's the last part of it. While he 0:03:20.160 --> 0:03:23.680 ran around with his lightsaber pretending to fight bad guys. 0:03:23.840 --> 0:03:25.799 That was the sound of its sexy? Doesn't it too? 0:03:25.840 --> 0:03:28.840 We've got a privaccenma and he's training around with his lightsaber. Oh, 0:03:28.919 --> 0:03:31.280 I don't think it does. But okay, do you know what. 0:03:31.400 --> 0:03:33.600 I really wanted to throw this out because I was like, 0:03:33.760 --> 0:03:35.960 we've all experienced bad dates, and I know that we're 0:03:36.000 --> 0:03:37.840 here to answer your questions, but before we get into that, 0:03:37.880 --> 0:03:39.960 I chucked the thing up on my Instagram after reading this, 0:03:40.600 --> 0:03:42.080 and I was like, I just want to know. I 0:03:42.080 --> 0:03:45.360 want a couple of stories. I thought, there's going to 0:03:45.400 --> 0:03:47.080 be a few of you who have had dates that 0:03:47.120 --> 0:03:50.320 are actually real dates, not satire dates that are probably 0:03:50.400 --> 0:03:53.160 just as bad as this one. Anyone that hasn't had 0:03:53.200 --> 0:03:55.280 a bad date, you are not living. You need to 0:03:55.320 --> 0:03:56.840 go out there and get yourself a bad date. 0:03:56.920 --> 0:03:58.800 I mean, we've heard mine. Over the last years, I've 0:03:58.800 --> 0:04:00.760 had some hectic dates. I feel like it's the. 0:04:00.720 --> 0:04:03.000 Only way that you appreciate the good ones, and let 0:04:03.040 --> 0:04:06.000 me tell you, there was some fucking crackers that came through. Okay, 0:04:06.200 --> 0:04:07.760 I'm gonna read a couple of these out to you, 0:04:07.880 --> 0:04:11.760 but I actually think I received hundreds and hundreds, if 0:04:11.800 --> 0:04:14.000 not thousands, of messages. So I'm going to spend my 0:04:14.080 --> 0:04:16.080 day today going through them, and I think we actually 0:04:16.080 --> 0:04:18.160 need to do a bonus episode of all of these. 0:04:18.279 --> 0:04:20.240 We definitely need to do a bonus episode of these. 0:04:20.240 --> 0:04:21.800 Maybe we need to do one every two months or 0:04:21.839 --> 0:04:24.400 one a quarter, like one bad Date episode a quarter. 0:04:24.240 --> 0:04:25.160 Because they never stopped. 0:04:25.160 --> 0:04:26.920 Okay, so here are a couple that had me chuckling 0:04:26.920 --> 0:04:29.080 on the couch last night. I went on a double 0:04:29.160 --> 0:04:31.559 date to see a movie. It was all going pretty 0:04:31.600 --> 0:04:35.240 smooth until halfway through. He just ghosted me, like literally 0:04:35.240 --> 0:04:38.440 in person. It was not experienced watching the last half 0:04:38.480 --> 0:04:40.720 of the movie in silence and then leaving the cinema 0:04:40.760 --> 0:04:43.120 by myself. He went to the toilet and just never 0:04:43.160 --> 0:04:47.520 came back. Oh oh my god, Well did anyone check 0:04:47.560 --> 0:04:47.840 on him? 0:04:47.839 --> 0:04:50.440 Maybe he passed out in the bathroom. We just left. 0:04:51.000 --> 0:04:52.600 Okay. A guy peeked me up to go on an 0:04:52.600 --> 0:04:55.880 adventure which involved actually just going to the police station 0:04:56.040 --> 0:04:58.400 to pick up his lost phone. We waited for three 0:04:58.440 --> 0:05:00.800 hours at the police station. Did I mention that this 0:05:00.920 --> 0:05:03.440 was the first date? Also, by the time we got 0:05:03.440 --> 0:05:05.679 his phone back, we then went to go get Messina 0:05:05.760 --> 0:05:08.200 and it had closed. So literally just spent three hours 0:05:08.240 --> 0:05:10.880 sitting at a police station and then never heard from 0:05:10.920 --> 0:05:11.359 him again. 0:05:14.040 --> 0:05:16.440 He just wanted a ride to the copp shop so bad. 0:05:16.480 --> 0:05:18.080 Also, I feel like these give you a little bit 0:05:18.080 --> 0:05:20.000 of sense of like comfort. You're like, fuck, somebody else 0:05:20.080 --> 0:05:21.040 is doing it worse than I am. 0:05:21.200 --> 0:05:24.400 I literally had a friend come over here two days ago, 0:05:24.800 --> 0:05:27.000 sat right where you're seeing Laura, and she had just 0:05:27.080 --> 0:05:27.880 been on a date. 0:05:27.920 --> 0:05:29.160 She's like, I fuck, I need to tell you how 0:05:29.200 --> 0:05:29.919 bad this date was. 0:05:30.520 --> 0:05:31.360 She's been talking to this. 0:05:31.360 --> 0:05:33.840 Guy for a while online and they finally decided to 0:05:33.880 --> 0:05:35.440 meet up because he was pretty boring as fuck and 0:05:35.480 --> 0:05:36.919 he never wanted to do anything. She's like, fucking just 0:05:36.920 --> 0:05:39.080 finally meet me. So they finally met up. They went 0:05:39.120 --> 0:05:40.040 on a ferry ride. 0:05:40.120 --> 0:05:42.279 That's what my did. Random. They went on a ferry ride. 0:05:42.320 --> 0:05:44.840 Then they got back. He was really really boring. He 0:05:45.080 --> 0:05:45.920 was really really rude. 0:05:45.920 --> 0:05:47.640 They get back and he's like, I guess we could 0:05:47.680 --> 0:05:49.960 have a drink, and she's like, this is nighttime in 0:05:50.000 --> 0:05:53.039 the city in Sydney, and she's like, oh okay, Like, 0:05:53.160 --> 0:05:55.360 I guess whatever if I have to, She's like, well, 0:05:55.360 --> 0:05:57.200 how about we go somewhere a bit closer to like 0:05:57.240 --> 0:05:59.960 my home. And he's like, oh no, that's really convenient 0:06:00.040 --> 0:06:01.680 for me. Let's just go somewhere close to my home. 0:06:02.120 --> 0:06:03.320 She was like okay, and I was like. 0:06:03.240 --> 0:06:04.320 Why are you agreeing to this? 0:06:04.960 --> 0:06:07.120 So they find this random bar in the city. 0:06:07.400 --> 0:06:11.880 They walk in and he sits down and says to her, uh, 0:06:12.520 --> 0:06:14.400 just get me whatever you get. So first of all, 0:06:14.400 --> 0:06:16.400 he makes her get the drinks, so she goes and 0:06:16.400 --> 0:06:20.400 gets the drinks, brings them back, sits down. He goes, 0:06:20.400 --> 0:06:22.080 I'll have to So she got him two drinks, so 0:06:22.120 --> 0:06:25.200 she only got one. He's smashed the two drinks. She's 0:06:25.240 --> 0:06:28.480 only halfway through one nighttime in the city. He gets 0:06:28.480 --> 0:06:31.760 an alert on his phone that says the last train 0:06:31.839 --> 0:06:35.120 from Winyard is leaving in five minutes. He skulls the 0:06:35.160 --> 0:06:37.600 rest of his drink, goes, you'll be fine to get 0:06:37.600 --> 0:06:40.440 yourself home, want you and left and walked out, left 0:06:40.480 --> 0:06:43.000 her alone in the city with her drink that she 0:06:43.080 --> 0:06:44.800 had just bought him, that's it. 0:06:45.320 --> 0:06:50.400 I was like, what the who does this? Who does this? 0:06:50.480 --> 0:06:50.960 Do you know what? 0:06:51.120 --> 0:06:53.280 I think that we all need to have a little 0:06:53.320 --> 0:06:56.359 bit more confidence in saying no, and if you're on 0:06:56.400 --> 0:06:59.080 a terrible date. Sometimes I think we are scared about 0:06:59.120 --> 0:07:02.440 hurting someone's feelings, so we sit through a bad date 0:07:02.520 --> 0:07:05.040 or we sit through an uncomfortable encounter because we don't 0:07:05.080 --> 0:07:06.400 want to offend someone. 0:07:06.320 --> 0:07:09.240 You don't know them, if you don't like them. 0:07:09.760 --> 0:07:11.480 I think that there needs to be a little bit 0:07:11.520 --> 0:07:15.920 more of it being okay to like momentarily offend someone 0:07:16.000 --> 0:07:18.880 if they're making you uncomfortable, if someone's being rude, if 0:07:18.880 --> 0:07:21.400 you don't feel safe, if you don't like it, if 0:07:21.440 --> 0:07:23.640 you don't like them, if you know that there's absolutely 0:07:23.680 --> 0:07:26.240 no vibe just being upfront and saying, hey, do you 0:07:26.280 --> 0:07:26.560 know what? 0:07:26.880 --> 0:07:28.880 This isn't really what I expected. I don't think that 0:07:28.960 --> 0:07:29.480 this is going to. 0:07:29.520 --> 0:07:31.880 Be anything, and lee, I'll go to the toilet and 0:07:31.880 --> 0:07:33.840 don't come back. Yeah, I mean, like, maybe address it, 0:07:33.880 --> 0:07:36.920 but just leave. Don't stay at a first date longer 0:07:36.960 --> 0:07:39.320 than you need to if you're absolutely not interested in it. 0:07:39.560 --> 0:07:41.880 I just can't believe what gets me is and like 0:07:41.960 --> 0:07:43.720 I don't know why I'm so shook because I've been 0:07:43.720 --> 0:07:45.600 on these dates. I have been on these dates, but 0:07:45.640 --> 0:07:48.600 I'm so shook that a man would leave a woman 0:07:49.360 --> 0:07:52.360 alone in the city at night by herself instead of 0:07:52.400 --> 0:07:53.960 just all he had to say is, Hey, the train's 0:07:53.960 --> 0:07:55.440 gonna leave. I'll just make sure you get back to 0:07:55.440 --> 0:07:57.720 the station. I'll make sure you get on the train. 0:07:58.360 --> 0:07:59.240 I mean they say. 0:07:59.160 --> 0:08:02.120 Chivalry is dead, sometimes it actually is dead. It is 0:08:02.200 --> 0:08:03.000 dried up and dead. 0:08:03.840 --> 0:08:05.640 I have two more that I want to share with 0:08:05.680 --> 0:08:11.960 you before we actually do a full episode. Laura, I've 0:08:11.960 --> 0:08:14.120 had a few really strange dates, but this one takes 0:08:14.120 --> 0:08:16.360 the cake. It was my first date with a guy, 0:08:16.400 --> 0:08:18.360 and I went back to his place to watch a movie, 0:08:18.600 --> 0:08:18.800 you know. 0:08:19.280 --> 0:08:22.360 And while we were watching it and Mat. 0:08:22.000 --> 0:08:23.920 Well that's what you would think, but anyway, she was 0:08:23.920 --> 0:08:27.080 in for a surprise. She hears the microwave go off, ping. 0:08:27.600 --> 0:08:29.760 The guy gets up, then emerges with a bowl of 0:08:29.800 --> 0:08:32.720 steaming hot water. Then he reaches for a tea towel 0:08:32.920 --> 0:08:35.679 and performs a steam bath to cleanse his sinuses. 0:08:36.040 --> 0:08:37.720 Then he collects his nasal. 0:08:37.480 --> 0:08:40.760 Irrigation device and cleaned out his sinuses in front of me. 0:08:40.960 --> 0:08:44.280 On the couch. Finally, as he sits down again with 0:08:44.320 --> 0:08:47.280 me in absolute horror, a cockroach flies out of his 0:08:47.360 --> 0:08:50.760 blinds and onto his ship. If there's anything that's going 0:08:50.800 --> 0:08:52.800 to put your panties back on, and he's cleansing your 0:08:52.800 --> 0:08:55.640 sinuses and a cockroach, So she gets up and leaves. Okay, 0:08:55.640 --> 0:08:58.000 and last one went to dinner with the guy, and 0:08:58.040 --> 0:09:00.720 he flirted with the waitress straight off the back. Made 0:09:00.720 --> 0:09:03.400 me feel really guilty about how much the dinner cost, 0:09:03.520 --> 0:09:05.800 even though he chose the place and I offered to 0:09:05.800 --> 0:09:08.559 split the bill. We then went for a drink afterwards. 0:09:08.640 --> 0:09:10.960 Why I don't know, he asked me, and I just 0:09:11.000 --> 0:09:14.000 said yes, to be polite. Once again, stop being polite, 0:09:14.160 --> 0:09:16.480 And while we were drinking our beer, he leans in 0:09:16.600 --> 0:09:20.400 really close to my face, inspecting it and then says, 0:09:21.040 --> 0:09:30.920 have you ever broken your nose? I haven't, hot dick. Okay, 0:09:31.080 --> 0:09:33.880 enough of that, let's get into the more important part 0:09:33.880 --> 0:09:34.440 of this episode. 0:09:34.520 --> 0:09:38.440 Let's get into askun cards. All right, ask on a cut. 0:09:38.559 --> 0:09:40.480 I'm going to come in hot with number one. 0:09:41.240 --> 0:09:44.520 I'm engaged and my bridesmaids have recently started planning my 0:09:44.640 --> 0:09:46.920 hens and asked me who I want to invite? I 0:09:46.960 --> 0:09:50.480 know that typically people invite their close friend groups. However, 0:09:50.880 --> 0:09:53.440 there are one or two girls in this group who 0:09:53.480 --> 0:09:56.840 I'm no longer close to and one that I really 0:09:56.920 --> 0:09:59.320 don't get along with anymore and I don't like to 0:09:59.360 --> 0:09:59.840 be around. 0:10:00.559 --> 0:10:02.480 Should I invite the whole group. 0:10:02.280 --> 0:10:04.600 For the sake of not making things awkward for the group, 0:10:04.880 --> 0:10:07.800 or should I only invite the people I really want 0:10:07.840 --> 0:10:10.520 to and really like, even if it could make things 0:10:10.520 --> 0:10:13.000 super awkward. 0:10:12.400 --> 0:10:17.960 This is so awkward, especially if it's one person. It's 0:10:18.040 --> 0:10:20.679 like one particular person. Okay, what do you think. 0:10:21.640 --> 0:10:24.360 It's really awkward if there's only one person in your 0:10:24.640 --> 0:10:28.240 whole frame? Okay, I'm like, I have two opinions, and 0:10:28.320 --> 0:10:32.600 two pretty strong opinions. I really think for hen's engagement parties, 0:10:32.720 --> 0:10:36.080 weddings everything to do with your really big special day. 0:10:37.559 --> 0:10:39.439 I don't think you should have to have people there 0:10:39.440 --> 0:10:41.640 for the sake of other people's feelings and the sake 0:10:41.720 --> 0:10:44.240 of keeping peace. I think it's your special day. If 0:10:44.280 --> 0:10:47.640 you end up inviting people that you don't like, it's 0:10:47.640 --> 0:10:49.640 going to affect you in one way or the other. 0:10:49.679 --> 0:10:51.720 And ultimately, at the end of the day, for a wedding, 0:10:51.840 --> 0:10:54.440 you're paying for it. You're paying person per head. This 0:10:54.720 --> 0:10:56.439 is the Hen's party, so I feel like it's a 0:10:56.520 --> 0:10:59.880 little bit different. And you haven't said if this person 0:11:00.160 --> 0:11:03.640 will be going to the wedding or if this issue 0:11:03.679 --> 0:11:05.679 is the same for the wedding and the hens. Are 0:11:05.679 --> 0:11:07.199 you trying to decide if you invite them to the 0:11:07.240 --> 0:11:11.640 wedding as well? If it's just one person in the 0:11:11.840 --> 0:11:16.520 whole group for the Hens, I'd probably lean towards that 0:11:16.559 --> 0:11:18.960 you should probably just invite them and if there's enough 0:11:18.960 --> 0:11:21.679 people there, you might not notice it. But I don't 0:11:21.960 --> 0:11:25.040 have the same sentiment with the wedding. I think people 0:11:25.080 --> 0:11:26.959 can come to your hens that don't come to your wedding. 0:11:26.960 --> 0:11:28.360 I'm a big believer in that. I look at a 0:11:28.400 --> 0:11:29.640 HENS as like a big party. 0:11:29.960 --> 0:11:31.960 I don't think everybody has to go to the wedding, 0:11:32.040 --> 0:11:34.719 and I know people will disagree with that, but in 0:11:34.760 --> 0:11:38.080 this situation, imagine how much more awkward it's going to 0:11:38.120 --> 0:11:41.920 be when you invite nineteen of your twenty friends and 0:11:41.960 --> 0:11:43.559 that one girl, Like, what are you even going to 0:11:43.600 --> 0:11:45.640 say to us? I have to be honest, I'm sure 0:11:45.720 --> 0:11:46.400 that you think. 0:11:46.240 --> 0:11:48.040 That you could invite people to your HENS party and 0:11:48.040 --> 0:11:49.320 they'll not invite them to your wedding. 0:11:49.600 --> 0:11:51.520 Absolutely weird? 0:11:51.679 --> 0:11:54.640 Is that weird to be like, Hey, come to my party, 0:11:55.000 --> 0:11:57.080 but I don't like you enough to come to my wedding. 0:11:57.240 --> 0:11:58.800 Not in this day and age, because there are a 0:11:58.800 --> 0:12:00.640 lot of caps on weddings and things like that. 0:12:00.640 --> 0:12:02.160 True, So I feel like it's like, hey. 0:12:02.120 --> 0:12:03.839 I'm going to have thirty people at my wedding, but 0:12:03.840 --> 0:12:06.280 I'd love you to come and celebrate and like send 0:12:06.320 --> 0:12:08.000 me off into the married life and let's all get 0:12:08.080 --> 0:12:08.679 drunken party. 0:12:08.720 --> 0:12:10.560 Like that's what I think. I think now you can 0:12:10.600 --> 0:12:13.000 differentiate the two. I've always found it weird when people 0:12:13.040 --> 0:12:15.599 invite you to their engagement party but don't invite you 0:12:15.640 --> 0:12:17.920 to their wedding. That's a bit more weird because liens 0:12:18.000 --> 0:12:19.960 is like, let's just party because I'm like, okay, so 0:12:20.000 --> 0:12:23.040 you want me to come to your engagement party and 0:12:23.080 --> 0:12:26.200 believe you for a present, but you don't like me 0:12:26.360 --> 0:12:29.920 enough to invite me into your wedding. Okay, cool. Nowhere 0:12:29.960 --> 0:12:31.640 I stand in the ranking of our friendships. 0:12:31.840 --> 0:12:33.600 I guess. The only thing with this that I think 0:12:33.679 --> 0:12:34.600 is a bit difficult. 0:12:34.920 --> 0:12:36.880 I would understand if you had had a fight, if 0:12:36.920 --> 0:12:39.160 there's been like a reason that you've had a falling out, 0:12:39.280 --> 0:12:41.960 or if there's like something that she does, maybe she 0:12:42.000 --> 0:12:45.000 gets super drunk and is really inappropriate and it's just 0:12:45.040 --> 0:12:48.839 a total liability, in which case totally understand why you 0:12:48.880 --> 0:12:50.800 wouldn't want her there. If it's just someone in your 0:12:50.840 --> 0:12:53.440 friendship group who you don't like as much as the 0:12:53.480 --> 0:12:56.000 rest of your friends, and like it's a tight friendship group. 0:12:56.040 --> 0:12:58.080 I'm not talking about like you know, you've got a big, 0:12:58.160 --> 0:13:00.720 open acquaintance kind of group. You've got like a tight 0:13:00.760 --> 0:13:03.040 knit group of girls, and there's one person who you 0:13:03.120 --> 0:13:06.400 just don't mesh with as much as the others. I 0:13:06.440 --> 0:13:10.320 would personally still invite them, only because for me, the 0:13:10.480 --> 0:13:13.880 drama of not inviting them what that would cause would 0:13:13.920 --> 0:13:16.280 be way more stressful than just like having them there 0:13:16.280 --> 0:13:18.120 on the day. So I think that's the thing you 0:13:18.200 --> 0:13:19.599 got to weigh up, right, Like, what's going to be 0:13:19.640 --> 0:13:22.640 the bigger issue the drama that could follow on or 0:13:22.679 --> 0:13:24.840 could be the byproduct of not inviting them to the 0:13:24.880 --> 0:13:27.840 hens versus having them there in the first place. That's it, 0:13:27.960 --> 0:13:29.920 And it's different if there were like five or six 0:13:30.000 --> 0:13:31.960 or seven people that weren't invited and you were just 0:13:31.960 --> 0:13:34.000 saying look, I've just got a cap numbers. You know, 0:13:34.120 --> 0:13:36.480 I love you, but I have to have a smaller group. 0:13:36.520 --> 0:13:37.160 But it's just one. 0:13:37.240 --> 0:13:38.880 There's one or two, and I feel like it's just 0:13:39.320 --> 0:13:41.560 it's going to create way more trouble than it's probably 0:13:41.600 --> 0:13:43.679 worth because she doesn't. 0:13:43.440 --> 0:13:44.800 Know you don't like it, and you're gonna have to 0:13:44.800 --> 0:13:47.280 give her a reason. Yeah, that's like a really that's 0:13:47.280 --> 0:13:47.840 a statement. 0:13:47.880 --> 0:13:50.080 That's the line in the sand. That's you saying I 0:13:50.200 --> 0:13:53.040 don't like you. Like that's not really something that you 0:13:53.080 --> 0:13:55.440 can come back from. So if you want to make 0:13:55.480 --> 0:13:57.560 a really clear, definitive line in the sand as to 0:13:57.559 --> 0:14:00.720 where your friendship stands, which is we don't. 0:14:00.480 --> 0:14:03.640 Have one, yeah, this is your perfect opportunity. I don't know. 0:14:03.720 --> 0:14:06.360 I just feel like I know that not everybody's going 0:14:06.400 --> 0:14:08.160 to agree with this, because I do agree with what 0:14:08.200 --> 0:14:10.160 you said, Britt. I do think that when it comes 0:14:10.200 --> 0:14:13.160 to weddings and engagement parties and everything else, you can 0:14:13.160 --> 0:14:16.920 be a little bit selfish. I just worry that sometimes 0:14:16.960 --> 0:14:21.360 we use those big events and they can create more issues. 0:14:21.400 --> 0:14:24.320 They can create more stress, which actually means that on 0:14:24.360 --> 0:14:26.880 the day it's not as enjoyable because you've been so 0:14:26.880 --> 0:14:28.840 stressed out and so upset about all your family and 0:14:28.880 --> 0:14:32.360 all your friendships and connections that maybe those issues could 0:14:32.360 --> 0:14:33.520 have been avoided a little bit. 0:14:34.680 --> 0:14:39.880 Let us know what you do. I'm uncomfortable, Britt. 0:14:39.960 --> 0:14:42.040 Like, when Britt gets uncomfortable, she doesn't know where to 0:14:42.040 --> 0:14:44.160 put her hands. I don't She's like just sitting here 0:14:44.160 --> 0:14:47.080 with her hands in the air. Because I really involve 0:14:47.160 --> 0:14:48.680 myself in the situation. 0:14:48.840 --> 0:14:53.160 She masturbates. I I transport. But that was so random random. 0:14:53.360 --> 0:14:54.720 I was trying to think of something you could do 0:14:54.760 --> 0:14:55.600 with your hands. 0:14:56.360 --> 0:14:58.000 I mean, there's a multitude of things I could do 0:14:58.080 --> 0:15:00.880 other than masturbate over someone's asking cut about a wedding. 0:15:01.800 --> 0:15:03.040 Oh my gosh, do you know what? 0:15:03.120 --> 0:15:07.520 Though this is a total sidestep, we received a message recently. 0:15:07.560 --> 0:15:09.640 It was a confessional, and I'm just gonna slide it 0:15:09.640 --> 0:15:13.280 in here. One of our listeners sent us a confessional 0:15:13.360 --> 0:15:17.320 saying that they masturbated in their car listening to the 0:15:17.440 --> 0:15:20.200 episode on Kinks and I forgot about it. 0:15:20.440 --> 0:15:23.720 I'm so just reminded me. I'm so here for it. 0:15:23.800 --> 0:15:25.560 I love that you did that. I love that you 0:15:25.640 --> 0:15:28.280 told us you did that. Well done. You're living your 0:15:28.320 --> 0:15:31.480 best bloody life. Still shocked. Though, I'm still pretty shook 0:15:31.480 --> 0:15:35.680 by the whole Thing's not gonna lie anyway. As an update, 0:15:35.720 --> 0:15:37.400 I feel very uncomfortable for you. 0:15:37.520 --> 0:15:41.080 I think, not the masturbating girl, No girl's getting married, for. 0:15:41.040 --> 0:15:42.520 Both, for all people involved. 0:15:43.200 --> 0:15:49.840 Okay, I think going to the question number two. 0:15:48.880 --> 0:15:52.880 All right, question number two. This is also a friendship 0:15:52.920 --> 0:15:53.680 related question. 0:15:54.120 --> 0:15:57.160 And there were honestly so many friendship questions that came 0:15:57.200 --> 0:15:59.960 in across the DMS over the Christmas break, over New Year, 0:16:00.320 --> 0:16:03.760 and still now. And I think it's because January December 0:16:03.760 --> 0:16:05.880 it's a very transformative time. I think it's a time 0:16:05.920 --> 0:16:08.160 of a lot of self reflection where we kind of 0:16:08.200 --> 0:16:10.600 look at different parts of our lives that aren't necessarily 0:16:10.640 --> 0:16:14.000 making us happy. And that definitely goes for this one. 0:16:14.360 --> 0:16:14.720 Okay. 0:16:14.920 --> 0:16:16.440 I have been going through a bit of a falling 0:16:16.440 --> 0:16:18.960 out with a group of childhood friends. There are three 0:16:19.000 --> 0:16:21.080 of them, and I've known them since primary school. I'm 0:16:21.080 --> 0:16:24.280 twenty three, hustling and working full time, and I often 0:16:24.320 --> 0:16:26.680 do make time to meet up with my friends. However, 0:16:26.760 --> 0:16:29.160 I've noticed that I have not been enjoying the last 0:16:29.200 --> 0:16:31.640 few times we've hung out. I feel as though they 0:16:31.640 --> 0:16:32.400 do not respect me. 0:16:32.440 --> 0:16:32.920 Anymore. 0:16:33.080 --> 0:16:35.160 For example, they would shame me if I do not 0:16:35.280 --> 0:16:37.480 have time to meet up, as I do prefer some 0:16:37.720 --> 0:16:40.240 downtime and being alone after a long day of work. 0:16:40.400 --> 0:16:43.240 They sometimes talk about my salary in a degrading manner. 0:16:43.520 --> 0:16:46.040 The way they talk about my boyfriend of three years, 0:16:46.040 --> 0:16:49.080 mind you, is super disrespectful, like they forget his name, 0:16:49.200 --> 0:16:52.160 they judge his looks. I'm also seen as the quiet 0:16:52.200 --> 0:16:54.760 and clumsy one in the group. My other group of 0:16:54.760 --> 0:16:57.400 friends make me feel so happy and content, but I'm 0:16:57.440 --> 0:16:59.840 fed up with this bunch and have made excuses about 0:17:00.360 --> 0:17:03.440 to avoid hanging out with them recently. What should I do. 0:17:04.320 --> 0:17:06.720 Thank you next? 0:17:07.520 --> 0:17:07.840 No? 0:17:08.200 --> 0:17:12.040 Oh, no, Laura, what two minds is that? I'm sorry 0:17:12.040 --> 0:17:13.400