Speaker 1: Hey guys, and I'll welcome back to another episode of
Speaker 1: A Life on Cut. This is ask Gun Cut, your
Speaker 1: Thursday edition, You're down and dirty edition where you writing
Speaker 1: your deep duck burning questions and we do our best
Speaker 1: to answer them.
Speaker 2: I'm Brittany and I'm Laura, and I am coming to
Speaker 2: you guys from Byron Bay.
Speaker 3: Could I sound like any more of an influencer right now?
Speaker 2: But firstly, I just want to say, if I sound
Speaker 2: a little bit weird on this record, it is because
Speaker 2: I packed my road caster.
Speaker 1: I packed my microphones.
Speaker 2: Like Britta and I, we are well skilled at doing
Speaker 2: these remote recordings. Now, however, I got here and the
Speaker 2: whole thing is carved it. So I'm currently recording this
Speaker 2: over zoom, just like the old days.
Speaker 1: I just want to reiterate for you guys that don't know.
Speaker 1: The road cast is the machine we recording. It's like
Speaker 1: the size of a suitcase has got all these cords
Speaker 1: and we take our microphones. I managed to take mine, Laura,
Speaker 1: around the world with me. You had one trip to
Speaker 1: Byron Bay. God knows what has happened in your luggage.
Speaker 1: I don't know, but it carved it. Anyway. We are
Speaker 1: so determined to bring you guys the episode, so we've
Speaker 1: made do We've got a backup plan. It's gonna be fine.
Speaker 1: But what it does mean is that the start of
Speaker 1: this episode might sound a little bit different to the
Speaker 1: rest of the episode, but we're committed. We're here for
Speaker 1: you guys.
Speaker 3: Totally just persevere. I swear that this is just the
Speaker 3: intro chat.
Speaker 2: We actually recorded all of the questions before I left
Speaker 2: a couple of days ago, but we thought we wanted
Speaker 2: to make sure that the intro was in real time,
Speaker 2: just in case anything crazy or wild happened in the world.
Speaker 2: And something crazy and wild did happen in the world,
Speaker 2: and everybody's talking about it, and I honestly just can't
Speaker 2: even tell you. I was in tears today when the
Speaker 2: news broke that little Cleo in Western Australia was found.
Speaker 2: If anybody doesn't know this news, you've been living under
Speaker 2: a rock. But it was just the most incredible thing
Speaker 2: when that news broke.
Speaker 1: Honestly, there is no better news than anyone, I think
Speaker 1: in Australia or around the world that followed this case.
Speaker 1: There's nothing more that you want to hear than a
Speaker 1: child that has been missing has been found safe and well.
Speaker 1: But if anyone doesn't know, we'll give you a quick backstory.
Speaker 1: I am like, I'm making an assumption that Australia knows,
Speaker 1: but if you don't, Little Cleo Smith she's a four
Speaker 1: year old girl and on October sixteen, So I think
Speaker 1: I can't do the math right now, but it's about
Speaker 1: nineteen or twenty days ago. She was taken from her
Speaker 1: tent in a sleeping bag. Like at the start, it
Speaker 1: was a bit like what's happened? Has she gotten up
Speaker 1: and walked out of the tent on her own and
Speaker 1: then gotten lost in the middle of the night. That's
Speaker 1: actually what they thought happened. At the beginning. They were
Speaker 1: searching land everywhere, they were searching the ocean. They thought
Speaker 1: she had just wandered off. It just wasn't fathomable that
Speaker 1: somebody could go into the tent while the whole family
Speaker 1: is sleeping and take a child. It turned into a
Speaker 1: criminal case. They started to search for this man. Now
Speaker 1: I don't know, and I cannot wait until the police
Speaker 1: do release this information. I don't know how they managed
Speaker 1: to track her down, but it is the most amazing
Speaker 1: police work. And I think every single person that has
Speaker 1: searched non stop twenty four hours a day for the
Speaker 1: last few weeks. For this little girl needs a reward.
Speaker 1: It's absolutely incredible and it just goes to show you
Speaker 1: what can happen when everybody comes together and we do
Speaker 1: have some amazing police work. I'm just ecstatic and I
Speaker 1: actually can't believe we got this outcome.
Speaker 2: I think all of Australia yesterday cried tears of joy
Speaker 2: that Clara was found. And I know that there were
Speaker 2: so many people in our Facebook group who were sharing
Speaker 2: news articles and if you haven't been following the story, basically,
Speaker 2: yesterday the Deputy Police Commissioner Cole Blanche and i'd press
Speaker 2: release that was about four am in the morning to
Speaker 2: say that Claire had been found in a home in Carnarvon,
Speaker 2: which is the same area that she's from. It's the
Speaker 2: same area that she went missing from. They picked her
Speaker 2: up and the Police Commissioner said that the officer who
Speaker 2: found her went into the house. She was found in
Speaker 2: a bedroom in this house from a man who is
Speaker 2: completely unrelated to the family. So there is definitely so
Speaker 2: much more information that's going to come out there. But
Speaker 2: they picked her up and asked her what her name
Speaker 2: is and her response was, Hi, my name is Cleo.
Speaker 2: And that I think just is the most incredible thing.
Speaker 1: The craziest thing about this, And I guess I mean,
Speaker 1: it is crazy, but it's not. But for the first
Speaker 1: time ever, the state government offered a one million dollar
Speaker 1: reward to help find Clear. And now they haven't said yet,
Speaker 1: no one is released to say that the information which
Speaker 1: may have inevitably helped them find Clear and taken his
Speaker 1: men to custody. We don't know if that actually came
Speaker 1: because of the reward, but what they are saying is
Speaker 1: it's highly likely it did. Because a one million dollar reward.
Speaker 1: All of a sudden, people are remembering things. People are
Speaker 1: phoning up to talk about things that probably they didn't
Speaker 1: think were relevant, but all of a sudden, when there's
Speaker 1: money involved, and it should not be like that, but
Speaker 1: people start to think maybe that little bit of information
Speaker 1: is relevant. And the neighbors came forward and said, you
Speaker 1: know what, this is a thirty six year old man
Speaker 1: that they have in custody. They said, you know what,
Speaker 1: we actually did see him shopping and he was buying
Speaker 1: nappies and we thought, well, that's a bit weird because
Speaker 1: he doesn't have a kid. But at the time, you
Speaker 1: don't really think about it, and you don't think the
Speaker 1: person next door to In this tight knick community of
Speaker 1: canav and there's only four thousand people, there's no way
Speaker 1: you think that he would have done that, that he
Speaker 1: would have that little girl locked inside this room totally.
Speaker 2: And I guess, like one of the things that stood
Speaker 2: out so much from all the media and press releases
Speaker 2: that came out yesterday was, you know, and everyone wants
Speaker 2: to know how she is, Like, how is clear? What
Speaker 2: has happened? People want to know, they want answers to
Speaker 2: these questions. But the overarching statement that came out was
Speaker 2: that she is.
Speaker 1: Alive and well.
Speaker 2: And I think as absolutely joyful and happy that everybody
Speaker 2: is that she has been found. I just I read
Speaker 2: that and I was like, alive and well, like, what
Speaker 2: does that even mean when you've been abducted for eighteen days?
Speaker 2: And I know that there's privacy and everything else that
Speaker 2: goes around these sorts of things, and maybe we'll never
Speaker 2: know what happened, and maybe we shouldn't know, Like I mean,
Speaker 2: it's none of our business. Really.
Speaker 3: The most important thing is that she's safe. But I
Speaker 3: just read that sentence and I was like, alive, and well,
Speaker 3: how the fuck can you be well after you've been
Speaker 3: kidnapped for eighteen days from your home. My heart absolutely
Speaker 3: breaks for her family, and they've come out and spoken
Speaker 3: a lot about the online trolling that they'd experienced during
Speaker 3: this time. I can't imagine how incredibly.
Speaker 2: Difficult it would be surviving those eighteen nineteen days without
Speaker 2: your child and not knowing what had happened to them,
Speaker 2: but also experiencing the social and public commentary of people
Speaker 2: accusing you or thinking that you might have some involvement
Speaker 2: in this is just so harrowing and horrific. But all
Speaker 2: in all, and not to start this conversation off with
Speaker 2: a negative conversation, because it is honestly just the most
Speaker 2: wonderful news that she has been found. But this is
Speaker 2: the biggest thing that's happened in Australia and we can't
Speaker 2: not talk about it. Everybody is talking about it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, And just before we get into the episode, I
Speaker 1: just wanted to add one more thing. I can't stress
Speaker 1: enough something that Laurie just said. I absolutely don't think
Speaker 1: we will ever know what happened to her, and I
Speaker 1: don't think we should. I don't think any of us
Speaker 1: is entitled to know. I think that that is something
Speaker 1: that the family will deal with in private. Much as
Speaker 1: the public are invested, we should be invested to a
Speaker 1: point where we've helped get Clear back and we're happy
Speaker 1: for her welfare. We're happy that she's back home and safe,
Speaker 1: and I think that that's where it ends. So anyway, team,
Speaker 1: I know that that is probably a little bit of
Speaker 1: a different conversation and a different introduction than we usually
Speaker 1: do on Life on Cut, especially on Ask Guncut, but
Speaker 1: there's just no way we couldn't touch base on this
Speaker 1: because it is It is the best news we're going
Speaker 1: to hear, possibly this year, but definitely this week, and
Speaker 1: we're just so ecstatic that little Clear has been found.
Speaker 1: And on that note, it is time to get into
Speaker 1: the questions. So question and number one, I'm going to
Speaker 1: kick start this off, Laura. I was hoping you guys
Speaker 1: can give me some advice on how to ask my
Speaker 1: boss for a pay rise. I have been in the
Speaker 1: hospitality industry for ten years and have spent the last
Speaker 1: five in upper management and completing a degree in hospitality
Speaker 1: management in twenty seventeen. As I'm only young. I'm twenty four.
Speaker 1: I feel as though my skills are somewhat being taken
Speaker 1: for granted being a young female. I love my job,
Speaker 1: I love my employer, but I'm at the stage of
Speaker 1: my career where I'm really realizing my worth and I
Speaker 1: don't want to keep working for the salary that I'm
Speaker 1: on when I know I could be getting paid more elsewhere. Ps.
Speaker 1: My boss and I have become really close recently and
Speaker 1: we have a really jovial slash professional relationship. We often
Speaker 1: have a wine after work, she invites me over for dinner.
Speaker 1: I'm just a bit worried that asking for a pay
Speaker 1: your rise might hinder the great working relationship that I
Speaker 1: have with her. Please help. We all want more money. Oh,
Speaker 1: everyone wants more money. I want more money, and you
Speaker 1: sounds like you deserve it if you've done your due diligence,
Speaker 1: you've done your studies, you've been in it for ten years.
Speaker 1: But actually I have one little question. You're only twenty four,
Speaker 1: but you've been in for ten years. Were you working
Speaker 1: at fourteen?
Speaker 3: Yeah, she's probably been working hospitalities fourteen and six months.
Speaker 1: Is that?
Speaker 3: Oh?
Speaker 1: It is it fifteen nine months? Not fourteen years? Anyway,
Speaker 1: you're an absolute boss.
Speaker 2: Okay, So my thing is everybody finds it hard to
Speaker 2: ask for more money. Like everyone, it's so hard to
Speaker 2: go to your boss and ask for more money. It's
Speaker 2: hard to sit down and have those conversations. I guess
Speaker 2: that there's that big fear of like, well, what if
Speaker 2: they say no? And you know you don't want to
Speaker 2: offend them. But the reality is you can't offend somebody
Speaker 2: if you have the skill set, if you have worked
Speaker 2: and you've worked your way up, and you are a
Speaker 2: valued member of that company or of whatever it is,
Speaker 2: whatever place you work, asking for more money is not
Speaker 2: something that's going to be offensive. But you do have
Speaker 2: to get a little bit organized, and you do have
Speaker 2: to get a little bit strategic with how you do it.
Speaker 1: I agree, there's nothing that would make me more uncomfortable
Speaker 1: than going to my boss and asking for more money.
Speaker 1: And I think that everybody's on that page. It's never
Speaker 1: a comfortable conversation, but it's definitely something that you shouldn't
Speaker 1: be afraid to do. If you really think you're worth it,
Speaker 1: and you've said that, you think you can go somewhere
Speaker 1: else and get more money, not even you think you said,
Speaker 1: I know I can go somewhere else. Obviously you like
Speaker 1: your job and you'd rather stay. I think you've got
Speaker 1: nothing to lose. You one hundred percent need to be
Speaker 1: able to approach your boss. And you're friends with her,
Speaker 1: so you should be able to approach her. But you
Speaker 1: need to approach her not as a friend, as an
Speaker 1: employee and an employer relationship. What you need to do.
Speaker 1: And it's different for me because forever I have worked
Speaker 1: in the medical industry and we have a of criteria
Speaker 1: for every category. If you can meet the criteria, you
Speaker 1: go to your employer, your boss, and you say, look,
Speaker 1: I have ticked off every box, which means I'm in
Speaker 1: this next category, which means I get to pay rice.
Speaker 1: You just got to be able to prove you can
Speaker 1: do it. I would suggest doing the same thing. You
Speaker 1: probably don't have that kind of contract, but if you
Speaker 1: write down all the lists you're doing and showing that
Speaker 1: you're in a higher role than you're being paid, they
Speaker 1: can't really say no. Well they can, but if they
Speaker 1: do say no, you can leave and go somewhere else.
Speaker 1: It's just that you want to stay there. You're happy.
Speaker 1: So I would say that I would set up a
Speaker 1: meeting with my boss, and I'd be like, look, I
Speaker 1: am doing this, this, this, this, and this, which I
Speaker 1: think is above my pay grade. And I really really
Speaker 1: don't want to leave here because I love you guys.
Speaker 1: I love you, I love the job, I love my colleagues.
Speaker 1: Is there room to move and reassess my pay You're
Speaker 1: just asking the question. She's either going to say yes,
Speaker 1: let's look at that, or she's going to say no.
Speaker 1: And then you just have to be armed with what
Speaker 1: you're willing to do if the answer is no, Are
Speaker 1: you actually willing to leave if the answer is no,
Speaker 1: or are you willing to stay and continue your job?
Speaker 1: So I would decide within yourself what you will do
Speaker 1: with the answer is no before you go in there.
Speaker 2: I agree with everything you've said, Britt, and I think
Speaker 2: the first thing I want to say on this is
Speaker 2: going back to the first point where I said asking
Speaker 2: for a pay rise is scary. So many things are
Speaker 2: scary until you do them more times and then you
Speaker 2: become more comfortable with it. As a small business owner,
Speaker 2: I'm going to kind of tell you how I have
Speaker 2: in the past asked for pay rises and also when
Speaker 2: employees have come to me, how I like them to
Speaker 2: come to me.
Speaker 1: So so have you Have you had people come to
Speaker 1: you before and saying hey, I want more money absolutely
Speaker 1: makes me uncomfortable.
Speaker 2: Absolutely, And almost all of them I've given more money to.
Speaker 2: It depends on what the conversation has been, It depends
Speaker 2: on what their role is. But almost every single one
Speaker 2: who has asked for a pay rise has received it.
Speaker 1: I'm going to ask you after this pay me off.
Speaker 2: But it's because, Okay, a lot of my staff have
Speaker 2: been with me for many, many years and they've grown
Speaker 2: with the company. And sometimes I think when you have
Speaker 2: someone who grows with your company, their skill sets grow,
Speaker 2: you have to annually assess what their role is. And
Speaker 2: that's often what can be lacking in small businesses is
Speaker 2: sitting down and having like a review with your employer.
Speaker 2: So you sit down, you have a formal review where
Speaker 2: they say, I love that you're doing this, this and this,
Speaker 2: I think you can work on X, Y and Z,
Speaker 2: and that is the normal setting where you would say
Speaker 2: and put forward your case for a pay rise. The
Speaker 2: problem with some small businesses, especially I think things like
Speaker 2: hospitality retail, is that they don't always have the same
Speaker 2: formal review processes. So I would say go to your boss,
Speaker 2: whether it's you know, face to face or by email
Speaker 2: or by you can do it by text, but that's
Speaker 2: probably the least professional way, and just say I would
Speaker 2: really love to schedule a time to have a meeting
Speaker 2: with you to talk about pay review, so they know
Speaker 2: exactly what it is that they're going into that meeting discussing.
Speaker 2: And after that, once you set your date, you then
Speaker 2: put together all of your information. Put together all the
Speaker 2: things that you're doing in your job, in your role,
Speaker 2: like Britz said, put together what other companies are paying
Speaker 2: employees that do the similar job to you. Put together
Speaker 2: what you should be paid based on what your experiences,
Speaker 2: what your education levels are, and then you can set
Speaker 2: forward a really great case and be like, exactly what
Speaker 2: Brit said, I love working here. I think I'm a
Speaker 2: really valuable member to this team. This is what we
Speaker 2: have achieved since I've been here, this is what I've
Speaker 2: contributed to the company, and this is why I think
Speaker 2: I deserve a five percent or whatever it is. I
Speaker 2: think you go in there with an idea of what
Speaker 2: you want as a percentage increase and ask for it.
Speaker 1: The best thing you can do is going armed with information.
Speaker 1: So you have to know what you want, and you
Speaker 1: have to know why you want it, and you have
Speaker 1: to know what other people getting paid in the same job.
Speaker 1: If you can cover all those categories, there's not really
Speaker 1: room for an argument. So go in, think about it,
Speaker 1: write it down, learn it, be confident, go in address
Speaker 1: it in a respectful manner. Make sure you know what
Speaker 1: your decision is going to be depending on her answer.
Speaker 2: I don't think you need to have it in your
Speaker 2: head that you're going to leave, Like, for example, if
Speaker 2: you're really happy with your job, if you love or
Speaker 2: you work, and the only thing it's a consideration at
Speaker 2: the moment is pay and you have this conversation and
Speaker 2: then they're like, sorry, we're not going to pay you anymore.
Speaker 2: You may make the decision to leave down the track,
Speaker 2: but I don't think you have to walk in there
Speaker 2: with this mentality of like, if you don't pay me
Speaker 2: more money, I'm quitting. The reality is is that if
Speaker 2: they don't meet you at all, if there's no wiggle room,
Speaker 2: you probably will end up becoming a bit resentful and
Speaker 2: wanting to leave anyway because you will feel like, well,
Speaker 2: I put forward the best case, I'm not valued here
Speaker 2: and I want to work somewhere where I am valued.
Speaker 2: Everybody wants to feel valued where they work, and one
Speaker 2: of the best ways of feeling valued, not the only way,
Speaker 2: but a very important way is financially. The only other
Speaker 2: thing I want to say on this is maybe the
Speaker 2: business isn't in a situation where they're able to give
Speaker 2: pay rises because of financial constraints. COVID Hospitality, Like, there's
Speaker 2: so many reasons why a business may not be able
Speaker 2: to give you a pay rise right now. So I think, like,
Speaker 2: make sure that you have a full conversation around it.
Speaker 2: And if they say no now, and that's your boss's
Speaker 2: reply is like, no, you're not getting a pay rise
Speaker 2: at the moment, find out why and what you can
Speaker 2: do to work towards a pay rise.
Speaker 1: But this is also why I said, just know what
Speaker 1: you think you want to do in your mind, and
Speaker 1: it's not to go into your boss and if she
Speaker 1: says no, say cool, I'm quitting. That's not it, and
Speaker 1: you don't tell her. If it's a no, it's hitting.
Speaker 1: It's more fucking it out, bit flip a table on
Speaker 1: your way. It's more so that you know in your head, Okay, cool.
Speaker 1: If I'm not going to be met with what I
Speaker 1: need and what I think I deserve and the answer
Speaker 1: is no, then I know in myself I can start
Speaker 1: to look for another job totally.
Speaker 2: And the most important thing for anybody in the workplace
Speaker 2: is nobody is going to advocate for you the way
Speaker 2: that you need.
Speaker 1: To advocate for yourself.
Speaker 2: If you deserve a pay rise, you have to ask
Speaker 2: for it because very few employees, very few workplaces are
Speaker 2: just fucking given out pay rises, Willy. Nearly everyone wants
Speaker 2: to hold onto their bottom dollar. Everyone wants to run
Speaker 2: their business as efficiently as possible. And you know, even
Speaker 2: if your business or company does offer you a pay rise,
Speaker 2: because you're deserving of one, you can always ask for more.
Speaker 1: The only other thing I would suggest from and this
Speaker 1: is just from experience, is to try and make sure
Speaker 1: there is a pay per trayal of things. So even
Speaker 1: if you do go and have a verbal conversation, just say, hey,
Speaker 1: I'm just going to shoot you through an email just
Speaker 1: to reconfirm what we spoke about. That is my suggestion
Speaker 1: as well, because there's nothing more important than if you
Speaker 1: need to go. If you do decide to stay, and
Speaker 1: she says no, and in another year's time you want
Speaker 1: to go back, you can say, look like, this isn't
Speaker 1: the first time I've approached you. But if everything's just
Speaker 1: in a verbal conversation, it's a lot harder to prove
Speaker 1: these things. I just it just saves your ass.
Speaker 2: Totally, especially if they say, oh, if you work towards
Speaker 2: these things, we'll give you a pay rise.
Speaker 1: And now you're like, look, I did ticked it all off. Yeah,
Speaker 1: one hundred percent.
Speaker 3: Anyway, I feel like that that's our that's.
Speaker 1: My life advice. Good.
Speaker 3: Everybody needs to ask for what they.
Speaker 1: Want in life.
Speaker 2: It's very, very important and it can be scary, but
Speaker 2: it also is very rewarding.
Speaker 1: Question number two.
Speaker 2: All right, ladies, I have heard you answer this question
Speaker 2: in other ways before. However, I think my predicament is
Speaker 2: slightly different. My best friends and my closest girlfriend hate
Speaker 2: my boyfriend now uft. Yeah, And this is interesting because
Speaker 2: we have answered this question before where it's been like
Speaker 2: I don't like my friend's boyfriend, but never my friends
Speaker 2: hate my boyfriend. Okay, so she goes on my friends
Speaker 2: hate my boyfriend. At the beginning, when we first started dating,
Speaker 2: he was a bit of a dick to me. We
Speaker 2: had plenty of fights and it was a little bit
Speaker 2: of a rocky start. He never cheated on me, he
Speaker 2: never did anything that we couldn't overcome. However, now we're
Speaker 2: in a really, really good place and I really want
Speaker 2: my friends to be able to see the guy that
Speaker 2: I see. Unfortunately, they won't give him a chance, and
Speaker 2: it seems like we're never going to get to a
Speaker 2: place where we can all be friends. What can I
Speaker 2: do to create a little bit more peace and to
Speaker 2: make my friends like my boyfriend break up?
Speaker 1: Not joking dogs, get a new one, Yeah, get a
Speaker 1: new one. Thank you. Next. This is really tough, and
Speaker 1: it immediately takes me back to this thought of I've
Speaker 1: done it in the past, Laura, You've done in the past.
Speaker 1: It's just human nature. Everyone is guilty of it. When
Speaker 1: you have an argument or something negative happens in a relationship,
Speaker 1: you want to talk to your friends and you want
Speaker 1: to vent about it. You want to go and say, hey,
Speaker 1: this happened, can you like? It's always like you want
Speaker 1: a validation. Can you believe he did that? And then
Speaker 1: they're like, oh my god, he should never have done that.
Speaker 1: Then you have this whole little conversation. You very rarely
Speaker 1: go to your friends and say he is the most
Speaker 1: amazing guy. He has done everything for me. He brought
Speaker 1: me tea in bed last night. Like, you just don't
Speaker 1: say those little things because it's not something you feel
Speaker 1: like you need to overly share. And like sometimes you
Speaker 1: do at the start of a relationship. Of course, like
Speaker 1: I used to a lure all the cute things that
Speaker 1: Jordan did, But it's just human nature to go and
Speaker 1: complain and want to vent and get counseling from your
Speaker 1: friends on this kind of thing. What you do need
Speaker 1: to be really careful of and hyper aware of is
Speaker 1: that you don't feel like you're always just complaining about
Speaker 1: your partner to your friends. I mean, unless he's just
Speaker 1: a dig all the time, then sure, maybe you need
Speaker 1: to come to the realization that he's a dig all
Speaker 1: the time. There's a reason why your friends don't like it.
Speaker 1: If you're only ever saying the negative things, of course
Speaker 1: your friends are gonna get this idea. We're like, oh
Speaker 1: my god, every second week, he's doing something horrible, she's
Speaker 1: so upset all the time, and of course that's going
Speaker 1: to implant on them. It's gonna be and they're not
Speaker 1: gonna like him, and that's normal. I've got friends like that.
Speaker 1: But then when I've brought it up with my friends,
Speaker 1: they're like, yeah, but I don't ever tell you the
Speaker 1: good stuff, And this is the problem. What you can
Speaker 1: actually do about that is it's really really tough. I
Speaker 1: think what you need to do is have a sit
Speaker 1: down with your friends if they have said to you,
Speaker 1: if you know, if it's very openly like I don't
Speaker 1: like your partner, you need to sit down and ask why.
Speaker 1: You need to have a little bit of an intervention
Speaker 1: and say, look at you've seen something I don't or
Speaker 1: find out the reason, find out where this dislike, this disdaining,
Speaker 1: this hate, whatever it is, find out where it has
Speaker 1: come from. Maybe you can dispel some of these myths.
Speaker 1: Maybe you can correct them on some of the assumptions
Speaker 1: that they've made. But ultimately, if they just don't like
Speaker 1: your partner, I think you just need to have a
Speaker 1: level of separation. I think you just need to say cool,
Speaker 1: Maybe we just don't hang out as a group anymore.
Speaker 1: But I need you to know that I really love him,
Speaker 1: and I need you guys on my team on that,
Speaker 1: Like I think if you're just really honest with your friends,
Speaker 1: I really love my partner. I would love for you
Speaker 1: guys to love him. But if you do, let's just
Speaker 1: not all hang out in a group situation, and then
Speaker 1: maybe you can work towards it. But it's a really
Speaker 1: sticky situation.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean I agree mostly, I think I can
Speaker 2: see you, mate.
Speaker 1: She's like, like, what do I agree it?
Speaker 2: Okay? I think the big part of what you're talking about, Bree,
Speaker 2: is like boundaries. We all need to have boundaries in
Speaker 2: our relations There was a word for it, no, but
Speaker 2: it's true. Like if you are lacking in boundaries in
Speaker 2: that you go and you tell every single thing that
Speaker 2: happens in your relationship to your friends, then you are
Speaker 2: painting a one sided picture. And then the problem is
Speaker 2: is like the repair, Like when you get home from
Speaker 2: having a fight with your partner and your partner buys
Speaker 2: your flowers or does all these nice things. Your friends
Speaker 2: don't see that that's not an assumed thing. So unfortunately
Speaker 2: your relationship is better, it's repaired, but your friends are
Speaker 2: still living in a capsule of what's just happened and
Speaker 2: of what you've told them. So obviously, like that is
Speaker 2: and creates a huge disparity and a reason why so
Speaker 2: many people can get into these situations where their friends
Speaker 2: can cause these situations where you know, there's a rift
Speaker 2: between their friend and their boyfriends. I think there's more
Speaker 2: sides to this as well. I do think you need,
Speaker 2: like brit said, have a really honest conversation with your friends,
Speaker 2: sit down and ask them for reasons. You know, what
Speaker 2: is it that he's done, What is it that he's said,
Speaker 2: Is it the picture that I painted, or is it
Speaker 2: the person that you have met, like to explain a
Speaker 2: little bit more context around why you dislike him so much.
Speaker 2: There could be the possibility that you are blinded by
Speaker 2: the love and the orgasms and all of the great things.
Speaker 2: He could be a dick, like there is a chance
Speaker 2: that that's a possibility as well. And I think love
Speaker 2: is blind. This is true, and your friends mostly want
Speaker 2: the best for you, and sometimes our friends can see
Speaker 2: things that we can't see. Does that mean that you
Speaker 2: should throw the relationship in the bin? No, But I
Speaker 2: think sometimes it means there needs to be a little
Speaker 2: bit more context around those conversations with friends. If they
Speaker 2: genuinely are friends who love you and support you and
Speaker 2: aren't just friends who flip when something good is happening
Speaker 2: in your life and try to function up for you.
Speaker 2: If they're genuinely great peace people who want the best
Speaker 2: for you. I think sometimes we have to listen to
Speaker 2: what's happening. And the other part of that is if
Speaker 2: everything is fine, if your relationship is genuinely great, if
Speaker 2: you've gotten to a place where you think, no, you
Speaker 2: know what, all the dramas we have in the beginning,
Speaker 2: we're just teething problems. We are awesome now. I do
Speaker 2: honestly think that the relationship between your friends and him
Speaker 2: will catch up. Like I said, they're living in this
Speaker 2: capsule from six months ago or five months ago. The
Speaker 2: more that you know he proves, the more that you
Speaker 2: keep on giving them that positive validation around your relationship,
Speaker 2: the more that you when you hang out with him,
Speaker 2: you're like, oh, this happened, and we're really great and
Speaker 2: we're really happy. Over time, that shifts the perception that
Speaker 2: you originally painted or that he originally painted by his actions.
Speaker 1: Ultimately, you can't force anybody to like anybody. You can't
Speaker 1: sit down and say you will like him. It's just
Speaker 1: not going to happen, So all you can do is
Speaker 1: sit down, figure out why, where it comes from, and
Speaker 1: map out what you can do from it. From there,
Speaker 1: But one hundred percent what Laura said is start to
Speaker 1: just share with them some of the great things that
Speaker 1: he does for you, the good times, the happy times,
Speaker 1: and why you love him so much, and it might
Speaker 1: slowly start to shift without them feeling like you're putting
Speaker 1: pressure on them to like him.
Speaker 2: And I also think don't try and do group situations,
Speaker 2: Like if you're in a period right now where your
Speaker 2: girlfriends as a collective don't like him, just pit them
Speaker 2: off one by one, go for like a dinner with
Speaker 2: one of them.
Speaker 1: That sounds like you want to like it's fird of them,
Speaker 1: one point, win the mom.
Speaker 2: Just don't try and win them over as a group,
Speaker 2: because that's super overwhelming for your partner to then walk
Speaker 2: into the situation where he feels like, oh fuck, these
Speaker 2: five chicks hate me. Like, just go to the beach
Speaker 2: with one of them, go to the movies with one
Speaker 2: of them, go for dinner with one of them. And
Speaker 2: I think in smaller settings we're able to be a
Speaker 2: little bit more vulnerable, a little bit more honest and
Speaker 2: you can allow for like a bit more conversation and communication,
Speaker 2: and by doing that, maybe then they will start to
Speaker 2: see the side of him that you really love and
Speaker 2: see you guys as a couple and it's not just
Speaker 2: you verse them, which kind of can be set up
Speaker 2: when you do these big group settings. Have you ever
Speaker 2: been in a situation where your friends haven't liked your boyfriend?
Speaker 1: Yeah, the sociopath, the one that was cheating on me
Speaker 1: for like two years. They didn't like him. And did
Speaker 1: they tell you they didn't like him? No, they didn't.
Speaker 1: I could pick up that he wasn't their favorite human.
Speaker 1: But once it all came out two years later, so
Speaker 1: after the fact, my family, my friends, everyone was like,
Speaker 1: never really liked him. I could always sense he was
Speaker 1: a bad egg, and I was like, why don't you
Speaker 1: tell me? They said, your happiness is our happiness, and
Speaker 1: they just wanted they could see that I was happy,
Speaker 1: even though I was fake happy, Like I was so
Speaker 1: distraught throughout that whole relationship, but I just put on
Speaker 1: a brave face and they're like, we didn't want to
Speaker 1: burst your bubble. I wish they were more honest with me,
Speaker 1: but I wish they did it that's because that was
Speaker 1: an extreme situation. They all thought he was cheating on me,
Speaker 1: and I wish they probably brought it to me up
Speaker 1: my attention, But hindsight's a wonderful thing. If they actually
Speaker 1: came to me and said, hey, with his cheating on you,
Speaker 1: I probably would have said, no fucking way, you're starting stuff,
Speaker 1: and I would have been defensive. So it's a really
Speaker 1: really tricky situation.
Speaker 3: Minded by the orgasm bubble.
Speaker 1: Yeah, one percent, And that's a thing. The orgasm bubble
Speaker 1: is a thing. Really, Yes, I mean I feel like
Speaker 1: everyone hated your X too.
Speaker 3: Everyone.
Speaker 2: Okay, if you're new to this podcast and you haven't
Speaker 2: been listening for long, the episode that Britt is talking
Speaker 2: about is episode three. She dated a sociopath. Literally, she
Speaker 2: dated a guy who had a double life. And I
Speaker 2: feel like everybody who has listened to the podcast for
Speaker 2: any length of time knows about it. But if you're new,
Speaker 2: you need to go back and listen to it.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: I've definitely been in this situation before where I've had
Speaker 2: my friends hate my boyfriend. And that's why I say, sometimes,
Speaker 2: you know, you might think that your relationship is in
Speaker 2: a really good spot, but they might be seeing things
Speaker 2: that you can't say it's fair news. Yeah, they might
Speaker 2: know something, or sometimes we really can be blinded by
Speaker 2: what's happening around us and in our relationships, and mostly
Speaker 2: our friends and our family want the best for us.
Speaker 2: So I think it comes down to you to really judge.
Speaker 2: Did you paint that picture? Is it kind of your
Speaker 2: fault that they hate him? Or do they hate him
Speaker 2: for other reasons? And if so, you might need a
Speaker 2: little bit of time to unpack what that is. But
Speaker 2: communication is the most important thing, and I think having
Speaker 2: a really honest conversation with your girlfriends is the first
Speaker 2: place to start.
Speaker 1: Question number three.
Speaker 2: Question number three, I have a lot of feelings about
Speaker 2: question number three.
Speaker 1: Am I a bad feminist? I would say that I'm
Speaker 1: all for equality and rethinking the gender roles, but I
Speaker 1: hit a mental roadblock yesterday. My boyfriend and I recently
Speaker 1: graduated from the same degree. He decided to pursue an
Speaker 1: entrepreneurial career. However, he doesn't make any money yet and
Speaker 1: it seems also not in the near future. What is
Speaker 1: important to know is that he is also quite a
Speaker 1: free spirit and he sleeps in until noon, So I
Speaker 1: can't even say that he is working his ass off.
Speaker 1: I cannot even say he's out there giving it a go.
Speaker 1: I now got a job offer which will be very
Speaker 1: well paid. It will be a stressful job with forty
Speaker 1: plus hours, where most of the colleagues started around seven
Speaker 1: and worked till very late. Yesterday, after I said that
Speaker 1: I am so happy to finally earn some money and
Speaker 1: not rethink every single purchase four times, my boyfriend suggested
Speaker 1: that we should move into a big, fancy flat, with
Speaker 1: him paying six hundred euros and me paying fourteen hundred euros,
Speaker 1: so more than double him. It would be a very
Speaker 1: big chunk of money, even for my salary. Also just
Speaker 1: interrupting here, I love it. We've got someone from Europe.
Speaker 1: It's like talking about euros. I realized that I have
Speaker 1: an inherent problem with paying far more rent than my partner,
Speaker 1: especially since we have the same degree and in my eyes,
Speaker 1: the same chance as an opportunity to earn good money.
Speaker 1: I kind of think that I would feel different if
Speaker 1: he was just earning less money but doing something really
Speaker 1: passionately or working really hard, but he doesn't. What do
Speaker 1: you guys think of this situation? Would you be fine
Speaker 1: with him not working much and still asking me to
Speaker 1: pay more. I just want to jump in here real
Speaker 1: quick before we get into this and say it is
Speaker 1: absolutely irrelevant who earns more money in a relationship. Personally,
Speaker 1: I have been in a relationship where I have been
Speaker 1: the breadwinner and I have earned more, and I have
Speaker 1: been in a relationship where I earned far, far less.
Speaker 1: The thing that I really want to drive home here
Speaker 1: is it's about effort and motivation and what you're putting
Speaker 1: into the relationship. If you're not earning much money, but
Speaker 1: you're working really hard and you're doing something you're passionate about, brilliant,
Speaker 1: that's all you need to do. Especially if I was
Speaker 1: in a relationship if my partner was earning less than me,
Speaker 1: I couldn't care less if I knew they were getting
Speaker 1: up every day doing what they love and really really
Speaker 1: trying hard. But I just want to really push that
Speaker 1: point at the start before we jump into this. I
Speaker 1: think I know what your opinion is anyway, Laura, but
Speaker 1: because I would hate for anyone to think that we
Speaker 1: feel like money is the motivating factor, because it's absolutely not.
Speaker 1: Motivation is the motivating factor. The very first line where
Speaker 1: you said, am I a bad feminist. I would say
Speaker 1: that I'm all for equality and rethinking the gender roles,
Speaker 1: but I hit a mental roadblock yesterday. The reason why
Speaker 1: you hit a mental roadblock is because this is not equality.
Speaker 1: Women were not burning their bras so that your boyfriend
Speaker 1: consider around. I don't even wear a bra anymore, but
Speaker 1: I'm okay.
Speaker 2: It lows my mind that somehow we have been conditioned
Speaker 2: to think that, you know, earning more money being the
Speaker 2: bread winner in the house means like that's where the
Speaker 2: equality is. The reality is back in the day, women
Speaker 2: not being recognized for the unpaid labor that they were
Speaker 2: doing every day, the endless hours of housework and cleaning
Speaker 2: and raising children and organizing birthday parties and going and
Speaker 2: picking up shopping. Your boyfriend's not doing that. He's sleeping
Speaker 2: till noon. So this is not equality. I would hate
Speaker 2: for anybody to get into a situation where their partner
Speaker 2: rives on their hard work and dresses it up as Oh,
Speaker 2: it's okay for gender roles to be reversed, because women
Speaker 2: are not laying around the house not doing anything. We're
Speaker 2: not just being this free spirited version of ourselves whilst
Speaker 2: our partners go out and hustle hard and then live
Speaker 2: off their money. It made me so mad when I
Speaker 2: read the start of this, so I understand why you
Speaker 2: had this period of like, hold on, this doesn't feel
Speaker 2: right to me, and it's because it's not right.
Speaker 1: Now.
Speaker 3: We have spoken on this podcast before about when you have.
Speaker 2: Different incomes to your partner, how doing fifty to fifty
Speaker 2: monetarily down the.
Speaker 1: Middle is not fair or right.
Speaker 2: When you are in a relationship and your partner earns
Speaker 2: vastly more than you, regardless of gender, that you should
Speaker 2: pay percentage wise are more even split? That also comes
Speaker 2: with conversation if your partner is choosing not to earn money,
Speaker 2: if your partner is choosing not to contribute, what else
Speaker 2: are they contributing to the relationship? Are they cooking dinner
Speaker 2: every night? Are they cleaning? Are they doing other things
Speaker 2: in your relationship that add value that allow you to
Speaker 2: do the work that you do, in which case totally fair.
Speaker 2: If they are just mooching off you, then I think
Speaker 2: there's some much bigger problems in your relationship. And I'm
Speaker 2: sure as shit would not be wasting all of the
Speaker 2: money that you could be putting into a savings account
Speaker 2: for yourself to set yourself up for a future, to
Speaker 2: pay more on rent to live in a house. That
Speaker 2: means that you're then financially stretched, just so that he
Speaker 2: can continue to float around and figure out what it
Speaker 2: is he wants to do with himself.
Speaker 1: Cool, so we've answered that question. I'm like, so so
Speaker 1: everything she said, I'm like, okay, there's my point. Ah, yep,
Speaker 1: I've got nuh yep. Nonhing else to say. No, I
Speaker 1: think there's more, Like no, I do have more. I'm okay, right, Sorry.
Speaker 1: I was like, what about this? You just said everything
Speaker 1: that I was thinking, and every next thought I had
Speaker 1: you said it as well. I couldn't agree more. The
Speaker 1: thing that really gets me is the expectation that now
Speaker 1: you earn more money, that will upgrade our house. Like
Speaker 1: that's the bit that gets me. It'd be very different
Speaker 1: if he never said anything and you were like, you
Speaker 1: know what, like we could afford a nice place now.
Speaker 1: The idea was yours. There was no expectations, and he
Speaker 1: was grateful for it. I don't like the assumption of
Speaker 1: I can continue to sleep until midday and stay at
Speaker 1: home while you earn the money, and I can benefit
Speaker 1: from this lifestyle. I am all for equality, and I
Speaker 1: one hundred percent think that, like Laura mentioned that we
Speaker 1: have spoken about before, when it comes to finances, if
Speaker 1: both people are working equally as hard, but one person
Speaker 1: male or female, it's irrelevant one person's earning significantly more.
Speaker 1: Then yes, if they want a specific lifestyle, they can't
Speaker 1: expect it to be fifty to fifty. But it doesn't
Speaker 1: work in reverse. I would be more than happy if
Speaker 1: I was with somebody that was working their butt off
Speaker 1: and I earned twice as more. I would be happy
Speaker 1: to be paying for more. If he was doing what
Speaker 1: he wanted to do and he was passionate about it
Speaker 1: and he was really putting the effort in. That's so fine.
Speaker 1: The thing that gets me is and I couldn't do it.
Speaker 1: I take my hat off to you, but I could
Speaker 1: not be with someone that had no work ethic, no motivation,
Speaker 1: and slept until midday. For me, that's a bit of
Speaker 1: a red flag. And some people are fine with it,
Speaker 1: but I would not be comfortable. What I would do
Speaker 1: if you absolutely in love and want to say in
Speaker 1: that relationship, that's great. But what I would say to
Speaker 1: him if you're not happy with it is I think
Speaker 1: we just make good use of this situation. We stay
Speaker 1: where we are, and I'm just going to put this
Speaker 1: away and save it. And it may you could say,
Speaker 1: you might not end up with him. Who knows. You
Speaker 1: could say, I'm just gonna start to put it away.
Speaker 1: Maybe we can buy a house or something down the track.
Speaker 1: But ultimately those funds are yours. You are earning them
Speaker 1: until he goes out to pull his weight. I don't
Speaker 1: think you owe him anything. I've calmed down of it now.
Speaker 1: Oh thank god, I see the sand coming out of
Speaker 1: your ears.
Speaker 2: Just like the other part that I want to touch
Speaker 2: on quickly is this idea about entrepreneurship, right Like, I
Speaker 2: don't want anyone to think that I'm undervaluing what this
Speaker 2: guy's ambitions are, because I think there is nothing sexier
Speaker 2: or more inspiring than somebody who has an entrepreneurial brain.
Speaker 3: But I do not know one. I do not know
Speaker 3: one entrepreneur who sleeps until midday.
Speaker 1: Not one.
Speaker 3: They are working their.
Speaker 2: Asses off because they have to have to to start
Speaker 2: a business, to start a new idea, to really get
Speaker 2: that endeavor off the ground, you work your butt off.
Speaker 2: And in that case, I would fully understand the split
Speaker 2: between incomes and how you guys work. But the other
Speaker 2: part of this is you're working so hard to allow
Speaker 2: your partner to have the luxury of relaxation and time.
Speaker 2: But not only just relaxation as in he gets to
Speaker 2: sleep in all day, but as in like he is
Speaker 2: not being forced to make decisions around his career.
Speaker 1: He's got a luxury buffer.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I got this buffer where he's like, oh, maybe
Speaker 2: i'll try this, Maybe I'll try this, because you're the.
Speaker 3: One doing all the hard work.
Speaker 1: Well, there's no urgency in it, is there? Because he
Speaker 1: comes home to a roof over his head and he
Speaker 1: comes if you weren't there, what would he do? Ask
Speaker 1: yourself that if you weren't there, can he pay the rent?
Speaker 1: Can he put food on the table? Or is he
Speaker 1: relying on you that extremely.
Speaker 3: And that's the reality of it, right, Like that is
Speaker 3: not equality.
Speaker 2: And I think that, like I said at the beginning,
Speaker 2: that's why this got me so in the go when
Speaker 2: I first read this, And I think I've probably experienced
Speaker 2: something similar where one of my earlier relationships, my ex
Speaker 2: was very much like, I don't mind if you're the breadwinner.
Speaker 2: But at the time I didn't realize that me being
Speaker 2: the breadwinner just allowed him to be the struggling artist,
Speaker 2: and it meant that I struggled as well because I
Speaker 2: was then paying for two people. But I kind of
Speaker 2: at the time was like.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I love you, I'll do it city whatever I'm
Speaker 1: like making the money.
Speaker 2: No, it wasn't fair, and it would be a very
Speaker 2: different thing if you had kids and if he was
Speaker 2: at home raising the children and doing all or the
Speaker 2: unpaid household labor. Like I said, but that's just not
Speaker 2: the case. And I think that you have every right
Speaker 2: to feel a little bit taken advantage of in this situation.
Speaker 2: And I really think something that we've touched on on
Speaker 2: a finance podcast we did ages ago, but it is
Speaker 2: so important, especially as a woman, to put savings away.
Speaker 2: It's so important to have your own financial stability and
Speaker 2: to make sure that you are taking care of your
Speaker 2: one financial literacy and two financial future that is an
Speaker 2: independent future from your partner. And like brit said, I
Speaker 2: cannot recommend putting that money towards savings and not towards rental.
Speaker 1: Maybe you can even have a sit down with him
Speaker 1: and talk about it. Maybe you can say, hey, let's
Speaker 1: map out our goals let's where are we going to
Speaker 1: be in a year, Like, let's try and figure this out,
Speaker 1: because if we can both accumulate X amount of money
Speaker 1: a week and put that away, and obviously the X
Speaker 1: amount of money that you're suggesting to him is more
Speaker 1: than he earns. Now it's gonna involve him getting a job.
Speaker 1: But some people are visual people, and I've done this
Speaker 1: in the past. Maybe you can say, look what we
Speaker 1: could be putting away one year if we are both
Speaker 1: bringing this much home a week once. Sometimes once people
Speaker 1: can see it, they can get a little bit more
Speaker 1: drive and a little bit motivation. So maybe your partner
Speaker 1: is not as independent and fiercely is driven as you.
Speaker 1: Maybe he needs a little bit of a prompt But
Speaker 1: I don't think you have to go to him and
Speaker 1: say you're not pulling your weight. I'm not doing that, Like,
Speaker 1: you don't have to make it an aggressive conversation. But
Speaker 1: I think you can definitely sit down and see if
Speaker 1: he does have any motivation to earn more in the year,
Speaker 1: if he's got motivation to actually start this career, to
Speaker 1: get up and work nine to five, and maybe you
Speaker 1: can say, hey, you could send him video links. There
Speaker 1: are so many motivational speakers that are like my day
Speaker 1: starts at seven am. Anyone that wants to earn a
Speaker 1: business who knows what he needs. But once you've provided
Speaker 1: him all the tools he needs, if he's still not
Speaker 1: being proactive, if he's still sleeping until twelve o'clock and
Speaker 1: he's still expecting you to pay more, maybe you need
Speaker 1: to reconsider where your relationship's going. And I know that
Speaker 1: sounds I'm not saying break up with him. I'm absolutely not,
Speaker 1: because different relationships work. It's just something to consider if
Speaker 1: this is going to be your future for a long time.
Speaker 2: And I guess like as well, I want one hundred
Speaker 2: percent agree.
Speaker 1: I think there is a lot of consideration to happen here.
Speaker 2: But relationships change so much after university, especially relationships that
Speaker 2: are formed in UNI, because careers take place. You don't
Speaker 2: have the same sort of flexibility. It's not as fun.
Speaker 2: You're not going to Unibar every week like the real
Speaker 2: world kind of kicks you in the guts a little bit.
Speaker 1: When you grow up, you change and what you want
Speaker 1: changes totally.
Speaker 2: And there may come a point where maybe he is
Speaker 2: quite happy to live that university esque lifestyle far longer
Speaker 2: than what you are and that Peter Pan syndrome sets in.
Speaker 2: This could turn into a very big area of resentment
Speaker 2: if it's not something that's mapped out early. And if
Speaker 2: you guys kind of don't get on the same page
Speaker 2: with this, so communicate, communicate. I'm pretty much this is
Speaker 2: how we answer every question. Talk about your feelings. But
Speaker 2: do not think that you need to continue to contribute
Speaker 2: more to allow somebody to contribute less.
Speaker 1: Well said Laura. And also I just want to say
Speaker 1: to that person that rode in all the way from Europe,
Speaker 1: that really like makes me feel good that you're listening
Speaker 1: to us in Europe. They are an Australian who is
Speaker 1: living in the UK. No they No, they're definitely not,
Speaker 1: because a that's the pound, Laura, not Europe. Oh fin.
Speaker 2: Cute though, love that I haven't traveled in a really
Speaker 2: long time now, guys.
Speaker 1: But no, I just love that we've got some listeners
Speaker 1: from overseas. So you just shout out to everyone listening
Speaker 1: from another country.
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