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Speaker 1: Don't you just wish that mornings could be magic? Perfect

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Speaker 1: mornings in your house? Today? I'm a Happy Families podcast,

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Speaker 1: a slush of advice on simplifying the getting the school

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Speaker 1: routine back on track process? What are we supposed to

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Speaker 1: do to make things smooth? Because school it's just around

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Speaker 1: the corner.

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Speaker 2: Now.

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Speaker 1: Welcome to the Happy Families Podcast, Real parenting solutions every

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Speaker 1: day on Australia's most downloaded parenting podcast. We are Justin

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Speaker 1: and Kylie Colson, parents have six kids. We've had to

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Speaker 1: get this school routine going more than once.

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Speaker 2: We could talk about so many different things, but there

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Speaker 2: is only one tip on the top of my mind.

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Speaker 1: It is a long list, and the blogs are full

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Speaker 1: of them. So if you're going to pick one thing,

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Speaker 1: what would it be?

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Speaker 2: The morning begins the night before.

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Speaker 1: And you don't even see that in the blogs. That's

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Speaker 1: a Happy Families special. Let's unpack that because you and

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Speaker 1: I have experienced this. This is the It's it's the

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Speaker 1: magic the morning begins to night before. A question before

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Speaker 1: we unpack it, how consistent do you reckon? You and

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Speaker 1: I have been as we've got our kids ready for

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Speaker 1: school over the last twenty plus years.

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Speaker 2: You know, day one is awesome.

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Speaker 1: Day one is always so good. That's about it, though,

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Speaker 1: isn't it. It really is so hard to be consistent with it.

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Speaker 1: But we have found that whenever we remember it and say.

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Speaker 2: Okay, have a full day, you get to the end

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Speaker 2: of the day to exhausted. The next morning you can't

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Speaker 1: But when we when we prioritize the morning begins the

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Speaker 1: night before, oh my goodness, oh my goodness, it's like

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Speaker 1: the morning just makes sense. It flows. There's margin. You've

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Speaker 1: got time to enjoy your children, rub than shout at

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Speaker 1: them and say, for goodness sakes, how many times do

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Speaker 1: I have to tell you? So? Kylie, unpack it for me,

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Speaker 1: because the reality is I've been on the road telling

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Speaker 1: people about this while you've been at home doing it.

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Speaker 1: What as the morning begins to night before mean for you?

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Speaker 2: The first one is to know exactly where all the

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Speaker 2: pieces of the uniform are, like all of them shoes, socks,

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Speaker 2: and put them in one place, out at the end

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Speaker 2: of the bed, hanging up at the end of your wardrobe,

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Speaker 2: whatever it is, so it's easily found by anyone.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, because you send the kids in the rooms, say

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Speaker 1: put your uniform one of the two. I can't find it,

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Speaker 1: and it's like it is literally hanging on the back

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Speaker 1: left it. School uniform, every single part of it. Get

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Speaker 2: Pack your school bag the night before. If they've got

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Speaker 2: library day the next day, make sure that's in there.

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Speaker 2: If they've got homework they need to take back, make

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Speaker 2: sure that's in there.

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Speaker 1: So they're probably not first day things, but it'll become

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Speaker 2: That's right. The next one is probably one of my favorites,

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Speaker 2: and we did this for a reasonable amount of time

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Speaker 2: while the kids were young. Having a lunch menu, so

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Speaker 2: this can this can be done two different ways. You

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Speaker 2: could treat it like a dinner menu, in that everybody

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Speaker 2: get to have their burrito wrap that they love. But

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Speaker 2: you could also do what we did with five girls

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Speaker 2: who all had different wants and needs and create like

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Speaker 2: that you get in the hotels.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, when you stay like the roadside motel, and you say,

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Speaker 1: I want to have two pieces of toast, and I

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Speaker 2: That style, yeah, And so we did that with each

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Speaker 2: Because how many times have you packed your kids lunch

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Speaker 1: You pack it ends up in the bin and the

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Speaker 1: in and the decisions made like that, that's the biggest

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Speaker 1: impediment in the morning, making the decision. We did it

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Speaker 2: As part of that process, having a fully stocked fridge

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Speaker 2: actually doing things in bulk. You know, if you want

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Speaker 1: I can't see how many times I've raced out at

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Speaker 2: It don't have a nasty surprise in the morning, because.

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Speaker 1: No one wants to have to race down to the

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Speaker 1: There's some old business advice that's been going around for

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Speaker 1: this one critical slice of advice for making morning's magic,

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Speaker 1: and that is that your morning begins the night before. Sometimes,

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Speaker 2: So I love the idea of being prepared enough that

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Speaker 2: I have margined so that I can slow things down.

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Speaker 1: I don't know too many people with roses these days.

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Speaker 1: I was thinking about the research that shows that hope,

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Speaker 1: wonderful way to inoculate your kids against anxiety and oppression.

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Speaker 1: That's what I's going to say. Service increases the quality

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Speaker 1: got some way that they can make a contribution to

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Speaker 1: the lives of the people at school, they will look

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Speaker 2: A handful of times over the years, I've also made

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Speaker 2: little handouts for all of their classmates on the first day,

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Speaker 2: excitement to that first day. But if those things don't

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Speaker 2: work for you, maybe it is just making an adventure

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Speaker 2: just about finding a little pocket of time where you

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