Speaker 1: It is time for us to do this.
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Speaker 2: and tell us what's going on in your lives.
Speaker 3: Now.
Speaker 2: This week we have a caller. Her name is Mandy,
Speaker 2: and she wants to know whether she should be friends
Speaker 2: with her ex. Oh classic, Mandy, Welcome to the pickout, amens.
Speaker 4: Hi, how are you going guys?
Speaker 3: Hime Manby set the scene for us. What a you
Speaker 3: got going on?
Speaker 4: So? My partner and I were together for six years,
Speaker 4: very young, got together when we was seventeen sixteen, I think,
Speaker 4: and earlier this year we decided to part ways. He
Speaker 4: ended it, but it was very mutual. Unfortunately, these things
Speaker 4: we got very comfortable with each other kind of stopped
Speaker 4: trying in the relationship because we got very comfortable. Yeah yeah,
Speaker 4: and we're young, like, yeah, of course haven't experienced things.
Speaker 4: But we did the breakup. It was very hard, you know,
Speaker 4: still very much in love with each other because nothing
Speaker 4: really happens. However, we've kind of just become friends again
Speaker 4: after like we mended our broken heart and now our
Speaker 4: friends again, and he still sees the future with me,
Speaker 4: which is really hard to hear. But he doesn't want
Speaker 4: it now, He wants it in the future.
Speaker 2: So absolutely, do you want to be with him now?
Speaker 2: Like do you want to get back together or do
Speaker 2: you not want to be with him?
Speaker 4: Yes? And no?
Speaker 3: Just to get it clear, is he saying to you,
Speaker 3: you're the person for me and I want to be
Speaker 3: with you, just not now.
Speaker 4: Yeah, So he's saying like he's not saying it in
Speaker 4: a proud way. He's saying it in like a hurt's
Speaker 4: heart kind of way. He's saying, like, I see you
Speaker 4: as being my wife and the mother of my kids.
Speaker 4: But because we're twenty two and twenty three, he just
Speaker 4: thinks that, and there is merit and what he's saying,
Speaker 4: but he just thinks that being separate for a little
Speaker 4: bit longer would work to our favor. But I'm like, no,
Speaker 4: why are we torturing ourselves?
Speaker 1: This is essentially exactly the same as the breakup I've
Speaker 1: just been through. Five years, we've been together, we've been
Speaker 1: apart six months, and we toyed back and forth going
Speaker 1: should we or should we not? Get back together, and
Speaker 1: I was so close to and the best thing I
Speaker 1: ever did was not biting the bullet. You need more
Speaker 1: time to learn about yourself. Have you dated anyone else
Speaker 1: in your life? Man?
Speaker 4: Sure, I haven't. I haven't yet because I thought that
Speaker 4: I'm not open to it. It just I've just enjoyed
Speaker 4: being single.
Speaker 2: I also think Mandy at this point in time, I
Speaker 2: think that's really hard is when you're friends with an
Speaker 2: ex who you still have a lot of feelings for,
Speaker 2: who you're saying, oh, one day we're going to be
Speaker 2: back together. It means you're not in any way open
Speaker 2: to meeting someone new.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so you're not really.
Speaker 2: Doing single properly. You're kind of doing You've got one
Speaker 2: foot in one camp and one foot in the other camp.
Speaker 2: And I guess the issue is is where are his feet?
Speaker 2: Because if he's dating other people, if he's exploring other things,
Speaker 2: it just feels like an opportunity for you to get
Speaker 2: hurt all over again and for him to break your
Speaker 2: heart a second time.
Speaker 3: I actually get what he's saying though, in all honesty,
Speaker 3: I remember I was in a relationship for like eight
Speaker 3: years with someone I loved so much, and exactly the
Speaker 3: same thing. We were just young because we were only
Speaker 3: like sixteen, Mandy and I remember saying, me saying, we
Speaker 3: both said it to each other. We know we're going
Speaker 3: to be together forever, but we need to go and
Speaker 3: explore and do our own thing. And I think that
Speaker 3: your partner, your your ex boyfriend. Sorry, I think he
Speaker 3: genuinely believes that because he does love you, but he
Speaker 3: obviously really wants to have some life experiences and not
Speaker 3: in the process. So I don't think he's actually been
Speaker 3: a dickhead about it. I think he genuinely thinks you
Speaker 3: guys are going to come back full circle. Maybe you will,
Speaker 3: maybe you won't.
Speaker 2: Don't put your life on hold waiting for something that
Speaker 2: might be, because all you're doing is wasting time that
Speaker 2: you could be investing in something else or someone else
Speaker 2: for It'll be TI Mandy.
Speaker 1: Hope that helps all right, Thank you guys.
Speaker 4: Thanks.
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