Speaker 1: This is Outspoken. The podcast is not afraid to say
Speaker 1: exactly what you're thinking. Our names are Amy, Kate and
Speaker 1: Sophie Torba. We're identical triplets, but we often don't have
Speaker 1: identical opinions, so sometimes things can get heted. Outspoken covers
Speaker 1: all things reality TV, influences, entertainment, and issues facing women.
Speaker 2: That is so fat.
Speaker 1: Thank you. Welcome to a very special lockdown edition ab Outspoken.
Speaker 1: It's taken two years to get one of our boyfriends
Speaker 1: on the show, Dale, Welcome, thank you. So just to
Speaker 1: clear it up for people who don't know, because people
Speaker 1: keep saying they're getting Kate and Sophie and my voices confuse,
Speaker 1: this is Amy. Dale is my boyfriend, so I'm going
Speaker 1: to be interviewing him. Yeah, this is Dale. Firstly, Dale,
Speaker 1: do you actually find Kate, Sophie and my voices similar,
Speaker 1: because that's been a complaint so far.
Speaker 3: Um, No, not really. I suppose I only ever see
Speaker 3: you face to five when you're talking, so I don't
Speaker 3: get that confused. I'll just look at you.
Speaker 1: So you don't listen to the podcast, then that was
Speaker 1: another big question.
Speaker 3: I've listened to one or two and it's early in
Speaker 3: its infancy.
Speaker 1: No, but you do download them, don't you just show
Speaker 1: just to get some numbers up? Well, what did you
Speaker 1: think of the podcast when you listen to it? Because
Speaker 1: people are wondering, are you interested in the influencer world
Speaker 1: as well?
Speaker 2: No?
Speaker 3: Not at all. No, it's I understand that you all
Speaker 3: enjoy it, but it's not my thing.
Speaker 1: Okay, that's fair enough. Now people wanted a little bit
Speaker 1: of background information about you. So can you tell everybody
Speaker 1: what do you do for work? And then people might
Speaker 1: realize why you're not interested at all in the influencer world.
Speaker 3: Can we can we turn this quiz around? Can I
Speaker 3: ask you?
Speaker 2: Yeah? Well you can.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you can ask me things as well.
Speaker 3: Ok what do I do for work? Oh?
Speaker 1: Okay, you're asking me what I did for work? You're
Speaker 1: a fire engineer?
Speaker 3: What does that mean?
Speaker 1: It means that that you work out where different.
Speaker 3: This is good. Yeah, going, It's.
Speaker 1: Like I'm friends with Chan the Bing when no one
Speaker 1: actually knows what he does. It's basically, you work out
Speaker 1: where different fire alarms need to be, and you work out,
Speaker 1: you know, if something in a building burnt. I don't know,
Speaker 1: you explain it explained.
Speaker 3: It's hard to explain there's a few aspects to it.
Speaker 3: There's how bort Hew.
Speaker 2: No, that's right, that's alright.
Speaker 1: You're a fire engineer. Okay, so this is probably the
Speaker 1: last thing you would listen to because you're aways listening
Speaker 1: to sort of crime podcasts or fire podcasts.
Speaker 3: Yeah, there's a there's the Grenfelle Tower Inquiry. That's probably
Speaker 3: one of my favorite favorite podcasts at the moment.
Speaker 1: Now, I think we should take it back to December
Speaker 1: twenty seventeen because that's when we met, and I want
Speaker 1: to hear what were your first impressions of me? And
Speaker 1: I'm going to tell you my first impressions of you.
Speaker 3: Are we talking about our first day?
Speaker 1: Yeah, we're talking about our first date.
Speaker 3: Ummm. I thought that you were very pretty, if I recall.
Speaker 2: Correctly, that's very sweet.
Speaker 3: M I was happy that you liked pizza, because I
Speaker 3: like pizza a lot.
Speaker 1: Well, you suggested the place, and you ran late to
Speaker 1: the date because you said you had to water your
Speaker 1: lawn and I wasn't sure if you were taking the pits.
Speaker 3: No, yeah, no, I was doing renovations at my place
Speaker 3: at that point in time, and i'd recently completely stripped
Speaker 3: back the lawn with a Bobcat and yeah, I was
Speaker 3: hoping that it was going to start growing at some point,
Speaker 3: but it was midsummer and nothing was happening. Absolute dust bowl.
Speaker 1: I liked that because I always run late, so I
Speaker 1: was like, okay, that's a tick. He's running late any more.
Speaker 1: First impressions.
Speaker 3: But you're nice. I didn't go for a walk with
Speaker 3: you off, No, No, that was too good to go
Speaker 3: for a walk with me at night around a dark lake.
Speaker 1: Well, I thought I was talking to a friend about
Speaker 1: our date and we were trying to work out what
Speaker 1: was wrong with you, because you sort of quickly earned
Speaker 1: the nickname dreamboat by my sisters and a few friends.
Speaker 1: And I mean, I don't know whether our standards were
Speaker 1: really low or you are a real dream boat.
Speaker 3: But oh you didn't know me.
Speaker 1: No, I'd say you're still a dream boat. I did
Speaker 1: actually get you a hoodie printed at Christmas time with
Speaker 1: the word dreamboat across it, which again a.
Speaker 3: Barrack dreamboat because my middle with dB.
Speaker 1: No, not at all, just because you were dreaming. Because
Speaker 1: Dale came to our white party, and this is I
Speaker 1: think we'd only been out on was it two or
Speaker 1: three dates, and I think you thought it was a
Speaker 1: bigger party than it was because I said it was
Speaker 1: a white party. It's more of a small gathering. And
Speaker 1: you rocked up all in white and you brought a
Speaker 1: box of Caburry favorites and we all I thought that
Speaker 1: was so sweet.
Speaker 3: Do the viewers know what the white party is?
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, we've discussed it. It's just where everyone dresses
Speaker 1: up in white and celebrates Christmas. So well, I mean,
Speaker 1: that's pretty early to meet my sisters. What did you
Speaker 1: think of the whole triplet thing? Because you previously went
Speaker 1: out with the twins, so you knew a little bit
Speaker 1: about what to expect.
Speaker 3: I think it was you who tried to explain the
Speaker 3: ganging up and the sides and everything like that. That's
Speaker 3: the Yeah, that's the craziest thing about it. There's always
Speaker 3: two on one or something along those lines, and you
Speaker 3: don't know who's on whose side at any point in
Speaker 3: time because there could be three or four things going
Speaker 3: on and everyone's on each other's side on other things.
Speaker 1: It changes pretty quickly as well, who's on whose side?
Speaker 1: I do remember there.
Speaker 3: Was a fourth triplet as well, though, who's that?
Speaker 1: Oh? Yes, our mum, she's our best friends as well.
Speaker 1: I do remember on our first date you were telling
Speaker 1: me how you used to go out with a twin
Speaker 1: and you said to me, oh, the one I dated,
Speaker 1: she was the tomboy one and there was another one
Speaker 1: that was well, the other one was more Princessie. And
Speaker 1: I just had to laugh because I'm the tomboy one
Speaker 1: and Sophie is the princess. Yeah, so obviously you're more into.
Speaker 3: Women of action.
Speaker 1: Well, also, just to give a little background on our relationship,
Speaker 1: what was the big bombshell you dropped on Christmas Eve?
Speaker 1: Let's go through that, because I feel like people would
Speaker 1: be interested. I don't know, you might be turning off
Speaker 1: or you're listening to this.
Speaker 3: But oh, just a cute little surprise. I think you
Speaker 3: took it quite well that I was relocating to Sydney.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so this was what That's what.
Speaker 3: You wanted to hear, you know on Christmas women want
Speaker 3: to hear as you start dating someone.
Speaker 1: Well, I thought this would be good to talk about
Speaker 1: because we have had some questions sent in from women
Speaker 1: who want to kind of know a bit more what
Speaker 1: men are thinking and I mean, and there's always a
Speaker 1: question of you know, like the movie, he's just not
Speaker 1: that into you. When you sent that to me, I thought, oh, okay,
Speaker 1: here we go, like he's sort of dropped me. Yep,
Speaker 1: was that your Was that your intention?
Speaker 3: No, it wasn't. Oh bang, just quietly just got a
Speaker 3: piece of the puzzle. We're doing a puzzle next to
Speaker 3: us where we're sitting at the moment.
Speaker 1: I just I just of our faces.
Speaker 3: Ye got that. What was the question?
Speaker 1: What was your intention through sending that message?
Speaker 3: I think to be honest? Mm hmm, okay, Like I mean,
Speaker 3: I didn't want to hide behind that. You're obviously a
Speaker 3: nice individual, and I didn't want to I don't know.
Speaker 3: I suppose I wanted to be upfront and honest.
Speaker 1: So should people have hope? Though, you know? Because I
Speaker 1: thought that was it, that's the end of whatever was happening.
Speaker 3: I'm just conscious now I can hear my own nose whistles.
Speaker 1: So it is cold in here.
Speaker 2: I feel to avoid the question.
Speaker 3: No, No, No, I'm definitely not. I just I just
Speaker 3: got distracted. No, my intention was purely to advise you
Speaker 3: that I was moving interstate.
Speaker 1: But what happened on this individual and what happened next.
Speaker 3: It was soon to be my birthday, and you made
Speaker 3: me a cake. Although I thought that you were giving
Speaker 3: me distance, I thought you were giving me a bit
Speaker 3: of a cold shoulder. Yeah. Oop, that's the dryer. Did
Speaker 3: you want to get that?
Speaker 1: Okay, we're back from turning the washing machine off.
Speaker 3: Yep.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so what happened?
Speaker 2: Okay?
Speaker 1: Yeah, so you thought that I was trying to distance
Speaker 1: myself from you. Then I came over and I made
Speaker 1: you a big chocolate.
Speaker 3: Cake, Matilda inspired chocolate cake, and then sushi, and then
Speaker 3: you bought with the sushi roller thing and we made
Speaker 3: sushi too.
Speaker 2: Oh that's right.
Speaker 3: And you bought was it canned salmon or something, which
Speaker 3: just looked like cat food, So we ditch that.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and then you invited me to your thirty birthday party.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 3: It wasn't that fun.
Speaker 1: It was fun, but I just wanted to tell this
Speaker 1: story because I feel like if you, if someone had
Speaker 1: given me advice about, you know, dating you, they would
Speaker 1: have been like, oh, he's leaving, don't worry about it.
Speaker 1: So it shows we did like long distance for how long?
Speaker 1: It was like a year or something, a.
Speaker 3: Year and a half I was over there almost a
Speaker 3: year and a half. Was about ten months.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and then we traveled to Europe after and then
Speaker 1: we moved in together. What is it like living with
Speaker 1: a girl compared to living by yourself?
Speaker 3: I'm I mean, you saw my previous place of residence,
Speaker 3: and I believe your comment was it was one of
Speaker 3: the more bachelor places that you've ever seen. The I mean,
Speaker 3: I've got I had an old wooden drama as a
Speaker 3: cable dramas as a coffee table. I had a couple
Speaker 3: of recliner couches and everything like that, just a basic
Speaker 3: wooden table which my face was what the couch was
Speaker 3: from facebook place. Yeah, I didn't have any stains on.
Speaker 3: It's all right.
Speaker 1: Well, your style in furniture has been discussed a few
Speaker 1: times on the podcast, and finally you're able to defend
Speaker 1: yourself so timeless classic.
Speaker 3: I believe that's how we can just sum let the
Speaker 3: sum it up.
Speaker 1: Well, I was gonna I was going to ask you
Speaker 1: what your description was, but.
Speaker 3: You've really you're growing into my my style between myself
Speaker 3: and your mother, he's got very good furniture sense. I
Speaker 3: believe you're growing into it.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Well, we're currently looking to buy a house and I
Speaker 1: have been quite concerned about well, I think we've both
Speaker 1: been concerned about agreeing what kind of house we want
Speaker 1: and where we're going to live. I think we finally
Speaker 1: decided that we do like the old bungalows, and I do.
Speaker 1: I must admit some of your furniture will go quite
Speaker 1: nicely in there. It just doesn't go in our sort
Speaker 1: of modern white tiled house.
Speaker 3: At the moment.
Speaker 1: Anyway, I feel like we should move on to some questions.
Speaker 1: And as I said, people were interested in your influencer knowledge.
Speaker 1: So I want to ask you, can you rattle off
Speaker 1: any influencer names that you've that you remember me discussing.
Speaker 1: Is there anyone that stands out?
Speaker 2: Um?
Speaker 3: Who? This This might fail, but I think if you
Speaker 3: were to rattle off names to me, I would say, yeah,
Speaker 3: I recall them because that's probably easy.
Speaker 1: So you can't think of anyone? No one comes to mind.
Speaker 3: There's was Poppy Redbone one? Or was that someone who
Speaker 3: was you did some other.
Speaker 1: Okay, I interviewed her fortulation. Actually that's a very local
Speaker 1: Adelaide one. Yeah, okay, I watch on YouTube.
Speaker 3: Oh there's that one who's got like the brother of
Speaker 3: I remember the guy, the boy the brother's name Articus
Speaker 3: or something that's it?
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, well what.
Speaker 3: And then I watch.
Speaker 2: That?
Speaker 3: Is that is she on there?
Speaker 2: Okay?
Speaker 1: Yeah, you got You've got a few right there. So
Speaker 1: I thought i'd run you through some mas.
Speaker 3: Yes one, Yeah, that's a good one. That's not her
Speaker 3: last name though, was it?
Speaker 1: No, that's Stevenson, but that's her name of her channel.
Speaker 1: All right, I'm going to run through some other names,
Speaker 1: and I've put some fake names in and some genuine
Speaker 1: ones to see if you know.
Speaker 3: That you know that I wasn't going to know any
Speaker 3: and you've made this list?
Speaker 1: No, no, I would have.
Speaker 3: There was no prep on this. You've obviously thought ahead
Speaker 3: about this.
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, this is what tell so you can say,
Speaker 1: is this an influencer or is this a made up name?
Speaker 1: Ruby Tuesday Matthews.
Speaker 3: Sounds like a porn star.
Speaker 1: Is she made up or is she influenced? No, it's
Speaker 1: a real name. Okay, Michelle Zigby.
Speaker 3: Made up?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Yeah, Chloe's EPP.
Speaker 3: I'm going to say, not made up or real?
Speaker 1: Yep, she's an influencer. What about Anastasia kings North?
Speaker 3: Is that the one who you watch? Yes? Okay, yeah
Speaker 3: I knew that one.
Speaker 1: Seannie Grummond, Yeah, that's that's one I've heard you say
Speaker 1: that before, sepron star.
Speaker 3: That sounds like a porn star.
Speaker 1: It's not influence star. It's made up though.
Speaker 3: Okay, Bill Rugby, that sounds too much like the Zugby
Speaker 3: one that you said earlier.
Speaker 2: That one's fake.
Speaker 1: Yeah, all right, well.
Speaker 3: So hang on, can we let's just take a step
Speaker 3: back here? What can you define what an influencer is
Speaker 3: for those of your listeners out there who don't know
Speaker 3: what that is, which I believe would be absolutely zero.
Speaker 1: Or an influencer is somebody who influences the masses. So
Speaker 1: a lot of these people have mass followings, and a
Speaker 1: lot of brands pay their money to promote products because
Speaker 1: they feel like they have a lot of influence in society.
Speaker 1: So we told our community that you were coming onto
Speaker 1: the show, and a few people have written in some questions.
Speaker 1: So I think we're just going to start with some
Speaker 1: questions that are more related towards you, and then we'll
Speaker 1: go in to some relationship questions because I personally love
Speaker 1: listening to podcasts where they have boyfriends on and you
Speaker 1: get a bit of boy advice.
Speaker 3: How many of these are from my friends who found
Speaker 3: out I was doing this the other day?
Speaker 1: Well, they were one sent in and asked what kind
Speaker 1: of lover you were that was one of your friends.
Speaker 1: I don't know if we'll be going in some details
Speaker 1: of that, but so there were a lot of questions
Speaker 1: about Kate's engagement and whether you and Brandon felt pressured
Speaker 1: in that moment. My mum told me not to ask
Speaker 1: you this question, but we're just going to go there.
Speaker 1: Did you and Brandon feel a bit like?
Speaker 3: Oh no, I didn't. Okay, I can't ask an answer
Speaker 3: on behalf of Brandon, obviously, but I personally didn't. Okay.
Speaker 3: That's good, each their own speed.
Speaker 1: So this is a bit controversial. Someone said, who is
Speaker 1: Dale's fave sister in law?
Speaker 3: I don't think I should be answered big like that.
Speaker 3: I don't think, however, that is answered, that can't end.
Speaker 2: Well they both yeah, well they up.
Speaker 3: They've both got their individual traits.
Speaker 1: I Gabe, Yeah, so you kind of answered it before.
Speaker 1: But do your friends know of the podcast and do
Speaker 1: they understand the concept?
Speaker 3: I think if a few of them know about it,
Speaker 3: I mean I haven't ever been able to explain the
Speaker 3: concept to them. I'm assuming they know the concept. I
Speaker 3: think a lot of their girlfriends listen to it. They well,
Speaker 3: some of them do. Okay, can you should shout out
Speaker 3: to some of them?
Speaker 1: Shout out to some of them. I would shout out
Speaker 1: to Renee, but I know she doesn't listen because this
Speaker 1: isn't her things.
Speaker 3: Sally does.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, Sally, Yeah, Sally. I'm sure you'll be enjoying
Speaker 1: this episode.
Speaker 2: If you're listening, I'll get.
Speaker 3: Some smack given to me from Tim Good.
Speaker 1: And one of the other questions was what do you
Speaker 1: think Kate, sof and I should cover on the podcast?
Speaker 1: Any suggestions personally?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 3: Will you keep on talking about the Chappelle Corpy stuff.
Speaker 3: I want to hear you talk about that. I mean
Speaker 3: I might listen to it if you talk about that.
Speaker 2: Okay, excellent.
Speaker 1: Well we're hoping to get Chappelle on the podcast at
Speaker 1: some point. Okay, let's just go to the dating questions now.
Speaker 3: I thought we're almost done.
Speaker 1: No, we're not done.
Speaker 3: To keep me going much longer to do? I need
Speaker 3: another beer? Okay, that's all right?
Speaker 1: So what gives you the ick about girls? So when
Speaker 1: you're out on the dating scene, what gave you the ick? So?
Speaker 1: What are some deal breakers?
Speaker 3: I like people who are driven, people who so yeah,
Speaker 3: people who I suppose we're just sort of floating through
Speaker 3: life or expecting something for nothing. I don't. I didn't
Speaker 3: particularly ever click with.
Speaker 1: So what about other deal breakers, like as in, you know,
Speaker 1: when they say something gives you the ike about someone,
Speaker 1: It could be like something really fourteen for example, I
Speaker 1: think it was on Friends, Chanler.
Speaker 3: Got definitely not going to know this.
Speaker 1: Then, well, Channler got the ike about this woman Janice
Speaker 1: because she had gunky mascara in the middle of a
Speaker 1: gunk in her.
Speaker 3: I'm not that shallow, but I suppose a bit of
Speaker 3: self pride is always good.
Speaker 1: You're saying this is I'm sitting here in Oh sorry.
Speaker 1: Someone else asked, could you tell Kate soph and I
Speaker 1: apart straight away? Yeah, yeah you could. What are the
Speaker 1: differences for people.
Speaker 3: Who Well, I think at that point in time you
Speaker 3: had I think the hair was obviously the most striking difference,
Speaker 3: Sophie being blonde and Kate being brown, and you were
Speaker 3: sort of half in half out. You had your your
Speaker 3: streaks or something at that point in time. He streaks
Speaker 3: a correct highlights low lights.
Speaker 1: Oh see, this one's another awkward one I've stumbled across.
Speaker 3: Some more questions for you answer that question.
Speaker 1: You had lowl like yeah, yeah, yeah, I did so.
Speaker 3: No, I never got you confused.
Speaker 1: Do you find Kate and Sophie attractive.
Speaker 3: To your identical triplets? So physically there is a lot
Speaker 3: of the same attributes, But no, I think a lot
Speaker 3: has to do with personality as well, and I'm really
Speaker 3: quite attracted to your personality, so they.
Speaker 2: Thank you well.
Speaker 1: Someone also asked which three things personality traits do you
Speaker 1: love most about me?
Speaker 3: I like it when you're funny and silly. I like
Speaker 3: that you are very driven and can I don't know.
Speaker 3: You just put your head down and get shit sorted.
Speaker 1: Okay, what about my worst habit?
Speaker 3: I don't know. Ummm, you know, I've got an issue
Speaker 3: with things to do with cat mess and stuff, so
Speaker 3: that's probably I don't know how to answer that.
Speaker 1: The first situation in the house, we've got two rag
Speaker 1: dolls that leave a lot at first. Yes, okay, a
Speaker 1: lot is an understand it is if you're mad at me.
Speaker 1: Is it hard to be nice to Kate and Sophie.
Speaker 3: I don't think so. They might not think I'm ever
Speaker 3: nice to them. I don't know.
Speaker 2: You're not really mad to be.
Speaker 3: Quite cold have you. Oh, I come across quite cold,
Speaker 3: sometimes not by you, but just by other people.
Speaker 1: Oh, I don't think so, So we'll go back into
Speaker 1: the dating one. So do you dale believe in the
Speaker 1: one or is it more so right time and trying
Speaker 1: to make it work?
Speaker 3: I think how many billion people are there in the world.
Speaker 3: There's seven billion people. So to think to say that
Speaker 3: there's the one and that you are fortunate enough to
Speaker 3: meet them, I think is a bit of a stretch.
Speaker 3: I think that you meet, you know, there's a lot
Speaker 3: of situations where you might cross paths with people who
Speaker 3: you could be considered as potentially being very compatible with,
Speaker 3: but it might not be the right time. So I
Speaker 3: don't think that there is the one, the one, but
Speaker 3: there are people who you definitely want to be around,
Speaker 3: and definitely people who you want to grow with.
Speaker 1: Someone's asked how to subtly hint that you're ready for
Speaker 1: a proposal, And now I feel like you would know
Speaker 1: this quite well, not going.
Speaker 3: To propose to me.
Speaker 2: No, no, but.
Speaker 1: Your ex used to sketch her engagement ring. I mean
Speaker 1: that's kind of I don't know if that's a subtle
Speaker 1: hint that they want to get.
Speaker 3: Proposed it was a very open discussion with my previous relationship. Yes,
Speaker 3: but how which isn't. No, she's she was very vocal
Speaker 3: about it.
Speaker 2: That's yeah.
Speaker 1: That's so I'm assuming that this girl who's written in
Speaker 1: the question she might want to hear was it my ex? No, No,
Speaker 1: it wasn't. I'm not going to all the people are anonymous.
Speaker 1: But she wants to know how to subtly hint. I
Speaker 1: suppose that she's ready. What would be a good way
Speaker 1: for a boy? Because I feel like, I mean, if
Speaker 1: I was sorry as in me want sorry as in
Speaker 1: she does? Is in like, what's a good way from
Speaker 1: a boy's perspective where you're not going to feel like
Speaker 1: you're being hounded, but you're kind of like, oh, okay.
Speaker 3: I think I think understanding what certain milestone and drivers
Speaker 3: are in life. I mean, with us, I think it's
Speaker 3: I think a house is probably more important for us
Speaker 3: at this point.
Speaker 1: Oh no, I'm not the person who wrote this question,
Speaker 1: but I don't know, but.
Speaker 3: It's I think a house is more important at this
Speaker 3: point in time, and you know, for us, I think
Speaker 3: that's our next step. I think it's just understanding. You
Speaker 3: know a lot of people, some people have high values
Speaker 3: in family and everything like that, or some people might
Speaker 3: not be in a position where they're looking at a
Speaker 3: house or anything along those lines. How you would subtly
Speaker 3: drop that. I think just understanding that, understanding what your
Speaker 3: partner's goals are and understanding I suppose. I don't know.
Speaker 3: I think every couple's different.
Speaker 1: I feel bad answer it was good. I mean I
Speaker 1: feel bad for boys because if I had to propose
Speaker 1: to you. It's also a huge financial thing as well,
Speaker 1: considering you're having to buy a ring and then you're
Speaker 1: having to you know, save up for the actual wedding
Speaker 1: and whatever. So maybe it's best for this girl to
Speaker 1: chat with her partner about his financial well, not you know,
Speaker 1: to open the money or what like, to openly have
Speaker 1: a discussion of where they want to be in five
Speaker 1: years and that kind of thing and see if it
Speaker 1: aligns well.
Speaker 3: I think. I think just asking do you, I mean,
Speaker 3: do you see us together moving forward? To say what
Speaker 3: do you want to be where are we in five
Speaker 3: years time might be a bit presumptual. Yeah, I mean,
Speaker 3: once again, depending on the relationship, it might just be
Speaker 3: a question of you know, where do you see yourself
Speaker 3: in five years? Time as you're sitting there having a
Speaker 3: wine or something like that, as in like an alcoholic beverage,
Speaker 3: not a winge or wine.
Speaker 1: Just a k butcher or something butcher. What about there
Speaker 1: was a girl I knew that she downloaded the Tiffany's
Speaker 1: app and it had like a hand and she's a
Speaker 1: sit next to her boyfriend and try the rings on.
Speaker 3: No, I think the key word you're looking for was subtle,
Speaker 3: and that is not subtle.
Speaker 1: Someone else has asked why don't guys reply on dating apps?
Speaker 1: Why even match with girls and then not reply?
Speaker 3: I would potentially think that everyone wants to feel wanted.
Speaker 3: That's probably it if they I mean, a worse thing
Speaker 3: than that is to play them on I would have thought.
Speaker 3: So if they are to me, it's almost like Facebook marketplace.
Speaker 3: How many is it still available? I'll send out and
Speaker 3: then I don't respond once they say yeah, still available.
Speaker 1: So is it kind of like they you know, they
Speaker 1: think that you're attractive and that they might want to
Speaker 1: match with you, but then it's like I'm kind of
Speaker 1: not ready, so I'm not going to start the conversation,
Speaker 1: or we know you've thought about it, and I'm not
Speaker 1: really not really that Keen.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm not too sure. I suppose it depends on
Speaker 3: the individual once again itself. But I think what ye
Speaker 3: as I said, what it boils down to is probably
Speaker 3: people just want to feel wanted at some point in time.
Speaker 1: What about girls who reply, because I know on some
Speaker 1: dating apps like Bumble, the girl has to make the
Speaker 1: first move. Would you be put off by a girl
Speaker 1: messaging you first?
Speaker 3: Well, at the moment, I'm with you, so it might
Speaker 3: be a little bit of a stretch, especially Bumble at
Speaker 3: this point in time. Not do I have Tinder or
Speaker 3: any dating app for that matter, But if I was
Speaker 3: single and that happened, and I don't think it would
Speaker 3: put it off. Once again, I I mean when I
Speaker 3: was single, I was attracted to females who were who
Speaker 3: could take things on themselves, hold their own and everything
Speaker 3: like that. So to be expected to make the first
Speaker 3: move all the time, that can be yeah, a bit boring.
Speaker 1: And sounds like an ad for Bumble. I feel like
Speaker 1: it's about making the first meet.
Speaker 3: Are they a sponsor?
Speaker 2: No?
Speaker 1: I don't know. Should we approach thembe? Someone else has asked,
Speaker 1: how do you make your partner appreciate you more? I
Speaker 1: feel like I do everything with no gratitude.
Speaker 3: Sorry, I've just spotted another piece of the puzzle. I'm
Speaker 3: gonna put that on. Hangm how's the eyesight that was
Speaker 3: on the other side of the table? You like that multitasking?
Speaker 3: What's your question?
Speaker 1: I forgot see that's not mult How do you make
Speaker 1: your partner appreciate you more? I feel like I do
Speaker 1: everything with no gratitude.
Speaker 3: U can you change people? I don't think you can
Speaker 3: change people if they don't if they can't see you
Speaker 3: for what you are and what you're doing in that
Speaker 3: initial time or due to your actions, I don't know
Speaker 3: that you can actually change that if you keep on
Speaker 3: going harder and harder and doing more and more. Are
Speaker 3: they just going to get accustomed to that and then
Speaker 3: completely disregard you altogether or just expect everything.
Speaker 1: I feel like it's almost as well having a conversation
Speaker 1: with your partner and saying that you feel underappreciated, and
Speaker 1: do they realize that they're making you feel that way
Speaker 1: because they might not be aware of it.
Speaker 3: I think it's also just important to be conscious of
Speaker 3: the fact that we spoke about it before. There's seven
Speaker 3: billion people on this planet. You know, it's a hard
Speaker 3: thing to think. Shit, Okay, maybe I should just cut
Speaker 3: ties with this and actually try to find someone who
Speaker 3: appreciates me. But maybe that's sometimes what you need to do.
Speaker 2: So dum of them is.
Speaker 3: No, I'm not saying that, but I think you should
Speaker 3: be able to gauge at yourself if it's like, you know,
Speaker 3: three or four years in and you're literally getting up
Speaker 3: putting the slippers on their feet, you know, throwing rose
Speaker 3: pedals down the corridor as they're walking, and then cleaning
Speaker 3: them up behind them, cleaning up behind them and everything
Speaker 3: like that, and they're not saying thank you and then
Speaker 3: fuck them. Can I swear on this?
Speaker 1: Yeah you can.
Speaker 3: Oh thanks, might just need to put like a fifteen
Speaker 3: plus PG. Thirteen.
Speaker 1: There's another question here about where to meet good guys
Speaker 1: in your mid twenties, and we were discussing this the
Speaker 1: other day. I was saying that if I was single,
Speaker 1: I feel like I just go down to Bunnings and
Speaker 1: sort of look really lost. I feel like there's a
Speaker 1: lot of there's a lot of guys down there.
Speaker 3: Depends on what you're probably after as well, though, If
Speaker 3: you're wanting someone who's a bit more handyman than that,
Speaker 3: might be that might be the case if you're if
Speaker 3: you're after someone a bit more charitable or everything like that,
Speaker 3: or something like that, you could go work, go find
Speaker 3: a volunteer place. I think like gym's. Isn't that a
Speaker 3: good place to meet people? Or is that like just
Speaker 3: we're buffed up sleezy dudes here on?
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know, because I've heard a lot of
Speaker 1: people say that as guys, they wouldn't want to approach
Speaker 1: girls in the gym because it seems a bit sleazy.
Speaker 1: I mean, okay, I think though that there's a lot
Speaker 1: of sports bars out there if you're looking for where
Speaker 1: men congregate, and I feel like there's a lot of
Speaker 1: nice guys who would be out there and willing to
Speaker 1: have a chat to a girl. I do feel like
Speaker 1: a nightclub. I mean, we're in lockdown in the COVID era,
Speaker 1: probably not going out to nightclubs as much, But if
Speaker 1: you're going out to a bar when things have opened up,
Speaker 1: a sports bar, I feel like that would be such
Speaker 1: a good place.
Speaker 3: Do you reckon?
Speaker 1: Yeah, we had that discussion the other day.
Speaker 3: Yeah. Maybe, I mean, it depends on what kind of
Speaker 3: guy you're after. Again, I suppose what's wrong with the
Speaker 3: good old fashioned tinder and bumble that we're just talking about.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, well I think she wants somewhere new though, Oh, because.
Speaker 3: I suppose the good thing about bumble or the abs
Speaker 3: and stuff is that you are in control and you
Speaker 3: can go through and basically, if you don't like them
Speaker 3: from the get go, well then catch a mate off
Speaker 3: to attempt the next one. Yeah, Like it's quantity and
Speaker 3: then you can actually get through them. I mean, how
Speaker 3: long does it take to go out and find someone
Speaker 3: talk to them at night at a club or something
Speaker 3: when you're half cut, and then it's two or three
Speaker 3: days before you find out that you're not compatible. It's
Speaker 3: pretty difficult. So if you've got something where you can
Speaker 3: just swipe people away, have a quick chat to them,
Speaker 3: work out they're douche or not, and then keep on rolling.
Speaker 1: Do you think guys gossip about their partners to their friends?
Speaker 1: Or sorry I should rephrase that, do men gossip about
Speaker 1: their partners to their friends?
Speaker 3: I think I think different people say different things. I think,
Speaker 3: if I know a lot with all of my mates,
Speaker 3: there's a certain level of respect with their partners. I
Speaker 3: don't think that they're with them just for the sake
Speaker 3: of being with them, and then in that instance, so
Speaker 3: they don't sit there and complain about them. So, I mean,
Speaker 3: there's always like if you with someone, there's always going
Speaker 3: to be little things that you mentioned here and there.
Speaker 3: But I don't think anyone actually sits there and dwells
Speaker 3: on it. I suppose my mates are probably sick of
Speaker 3: hit me mentioning how much catfur I have on me
Speaker 3: all the time?
Speaker 1: Do you is that what you mentioned to them?
Speaker 3: I don't think any even mention it when I'm like
Speaker 3: choking on it or they're like wiping it out of
Speaker 3: their own eyes.
Speaker 1: How much pride do you think men have in being
Speaker 1: independent so doing all their cooking and washing and cleaning.
Speaker 1: And I must preface this, you actually do a lot
Speaker 1: of that yourself. You're very good at washing on your
Speaker 1: clothes and cooking for yourself. Do you take great pride
Speaker 1: in it?
Speaker 3: I got another bit of the puzzle, is that the right?
Speaker 3: Is that the right? A bit you're closer to that. Brilliant.
Speaker 3: Once again, I think it depends on the individual. The
Speaker 3: way I was brought up was do your own washing,
Speaker 3: do this, do that, which gave me a level of independence,
Speaker 3: and I like independence, I don't like being dependent individuals.
Speaker 3: You're the same. I mean, I don't think we've ever
Speaker 3: done a combined load of washing or shit. I mean
Speaker 3: half the time we'll make our own meals or something
Speaker 3: like that. There'll be times will make meals together, but
Speaker 3: there's so many only so many like Danish fetter salads
Speaker 3: I can have during the week.
Speaker 1: How do you know you have chemistry with someone or
Speaker 1: you just get along.
Speaker 3: You feel it?
Speaker 1: M I suppose they mean sort of like, what's the
Speaker 1: difference between knowing, like because you get along with you
Speaker 1: might get along with a girl, but as a friend,
Speaker 1: how do you know that this is more than a friendship?
Speaker 3: You feel it? I don't answer that.
Speaker 1: I suppose you get like butterflies. And initially I suppose, yeah,
Speaker 1: I think this. I think this girl is just having
Speaker 1: some struggles about how to know if she has chemistry
Speaker 1: with someone, and I think if you're questioning it, you
Speaker 1: probably don't.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's I mean, that's it as well, and it's
Speaker 3: I think it's there's a right level of I won't
Speaker 3: use the word pushing, but pursuing something and if it's
Speaker 3: not working, it's like it's not working.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but I also feel like it is really important
Speaker 1: to be friends with somebody because, like what, we're nearly
Speaker 1: what four years, it's nearly four years into dating each
Speaker 1: other's three and a half. Yeah, three and a half.
Speaker 1: You have to have a friendship. I mean we're stuck
Speaker 1: in lockdown together and you have to be joking around
Speaker 1: and being silly. I suppose, especially when you move in
Speaker 1: with somebody, you've got to have that.
Speaker 3: It's probably easy for you because I'm incredibly funny. Yeah,
Speaker 3: no Ah, that's taking the piss. Yeah, definitely, you have
Speaker 3: to be able to knock around.
Speaker 1: One listener says, I'm terrified of never meeting anyone again.
Speaker 3: This do you have? Yeah, a few.
Speaker 1: Yeah, there's a few people that have sent questions in.
Speaker 1: I'm terrified of never meeting anyone again after my last relationship.
Speaker 1: It gives me anxiety. How do I just chill? This
Speaker 1: one's a good one for you, Dale though, because you
Speaker 1: were before we met, you had a pretty serious relationship.
Speaker 1: You're engaged, and I'm sure there were feelings of being
Speaker 1: worried about never meeting anyone on both of your behalfs Yeah.
Speaker 3: I think you just when you're ready, you're ready. You
Speaker 3: shouldn't be trying to You shouldn't be trying to rush anything.
Speaker 3: You shouldn't be you know, taking on board things which
Speaker 3: other people are saying who've gone through the same process
Speaker 3: exactly like I'm doing right now. You shouldn't be taking
Speaker 3: on board what people say. Oh, actually, I don't know
Speaker 3: if that's true. I think you can take you can
Speaker 3: listen to people, but I mean you should be able
Speaker 3: to feel yourself when you're ready and everything like that.
Speaker 3: If you're anxious at the moment, then there might be
Speaker 3: some things that you need to work through yourself. And
Speaker 3: I think one thing that is important is to be
Speaker 3: I suppose happy with yourself before you move into a
Speaker 3: relationship and then sort of suppress any aspects of yourself
Speaker 3: that are hidden when you're in a relationship with something.
Speaker 2: Sense.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, that's a good one. And I also feel
Speaker 1: like people do go through stages where they feel like
Speaker 1: they're never going to meet anybody, and I feel like
Speaker 1: that's really natural, but it's I don't think you should
Speaker 1: dwell on that. As Dale said, like just take it
Speaker 1: time out for yourself and be happy with yourself, because
Speaker 1: I know this sounds really lame and cliche, but people
Speaker 1: do come along when you least expect it, and you
Speaker 1: want to be in a good state to I suppose
Speaker 1: go through that process of dating and working out whether
Speaker 1: they're right for you. Now we've got one last question.
Speaker 1: Should you tell someone if you know they're being cheated on?
Speaker 2: Juicy?
Speaker 3: Fortunately, I've never been in this situation. I suppose with
Speaker 3: the current group of mates that I have, and they're
Speaker 3: current partners and everything like that. But I would think
Speaker 3: that the people I surround myself with firstly wouldn't put
Speaker 3: themselves in that position firstly, but secondly, it's a really
Speaker 3: hard one. If you're getting drawn into the lie, then
Speaker 3: that's a really disrespectful act on behalf of the individual
Speaker 3: who is doing wrong. I would I would think if
Speaker 3: it's impacting you, negatively impacting you directly, then you probably
Speaker 3: have a right to say something. And I mean if
Speaker 3: you're closer to the if you're close with the partner
Speaker 3: as well. I mean I suppose that that means that
Speaker 3: it's impacting you directly. Yeah, I would think that you'd
Speaker 3: flag it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know. It's a tough one. I suppose
Speaker 1: there's a lot of reasons for telling and a lot
Speaker 1: of reasons not for telling, because sometimes if you're the
Speaker 1: person that goes and tells a friend that they're being
Speaker 1: cheated on, normally the guy is an absolute wanker for
Speaker 1: doing it, and sometimes they're in a toxic relationship and
Speaker 1: the girl is always going to defend the guy. So
Speaker 1: then you risk being the one that the anger is
Speaker 1: directed towards. So I think it is a really difficult situation. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but I would. I would tell a friend if they
Speaker 1: were being cheated on.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I suppose I sit there and think what would Oh? Bang,
Speaker 3: got another piece? You see that? That's pretty good. I
Speaker 3: was just only looking across on a spottling and connected
Speaker 3: the piece puzzle once again, Ladies and gentlemen, I suppose
Speaker 3: I sit there and think what I like to know?
Speaker 3: And yes I would, because I would be out of
Speaker 3: their quick smart and actually be wanting to find someone
Speaker 3: who wants to be.
Speaker 1: With me, especially as you get older. I mean, if
Speaker 1: we're all in our thirties and if someone's cheating on somebody. Yeah, okay,
Speaker 1: someone already said on Someone said on Instagram this morning
Speaker 1: that Kate, Sophie and I should stop doing the podcast
Speaker 1: and have children. They got a swift.
Speaker 3: Oh did they Yeah?
Speaker 1: Wow, okay, well they've been trolling. It's a bit personal
Speaker 1: and it's very I mean that it annoys me because
Speaker 1: have you ever heard that. Has anyone ever said that
Speaker 1: to you, like, oh, you're thirty three, aren't you going
Speaker 1: to have kids? As a man to people so.
Speaker 3: That No, I think my mum wouldn't mind a good grandchid, grandchid, grandchild,
Speaker 3: grandchin grandchild. Yes, but I don't. I suppose I'm maybe
Speaker 3: a bit different on male exactly.
Speaker 1: That actually just reminded me before we wrap this up,
Speaker 1: I personally just want to know this.
Speaker 3: You're pregnant. No, I'm not surprised.
Speaker 2: I'm definitely not.
Speaker 1: What were your first impressions when you met my mum
Speaker 1: and dad?
Speaker 3: Was that Ohen's wedding?
Speaker 2: No?
Speaker 3: No, basketball?
Speaker 2: That's right?
Speaker 3: Yeah, so I met your dad or had I met
Speaker 3: your dad?
Speaker 1: I think you've met him before a family dinner?
Speaker 3: Ah? Okay, yeah, your mum I met at the basketball
Speaker 3: when Kate was working at the basketball and we got tickets.
Speaker 3: I recall that she acted quite coy and played it
Speaker 3: pretty cool. And I know she listens to this and
Speaker 3: I have told her this before. We've had a joke
Speaker 3: about it, and it's knowing her like I know now
Speaker 3: she did very very well and suppressed herself.
Speaker 1: Because you thought her mum didn't really know anything about you.
Speaker 3: No, I was just like, oh, okay, maybe she'd maybe
Speaker 3: Amy hadn't quite mentioned something to her yet. That would
Speaker 3: be my approach, and I think that's maybe a boy approach.
Speaker 1: Flash back to Christmas Eve twenty seventeen, when we were
Speaker 1: discussing you and trying to work out what was wrong
Speaker 1: with you. Then I received the text message saying you
Speaker 1: were going to Sitney and I was like, right, okay,
Speaker 1: this is what is wrong.
Speaker 2: With the dream boat.
Speaker 1: What about Dad? Because I feel like we've spoken about
Speaker 1: Dad on the podcast before. He I feel like he'd
Speaker 1: be quite an intimidating figure to meet as someone's dad
Speaker 1: first off. But he's an old softy really he is.
Speaker 3: He's an interesting character. I suppose we have some common interests,
Speaker 3: being some travel aspects and I don't know, just just
Speaker 3: general older things. He loves, like anything to do with travel.
Speaker 3: He loves loves a wine and once again and alcoholic
Speaker 3: beverage being a wine a winge clarified and oh actually
Speaker 3: he doesn't wingey. He just writes letters to the editor. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I don't think we mentioned this the other day, but
Speaker 1: it was hilarious because Dad wrote a letter to the
Speaker 1: editor about how he was so happy to receive his
Speaker 1: Astrozeneka vaccine, and he got a six page letter in
Speaker 1: his letter box. Someone tracked him down from an anti vaxer.
Speaker 1: I mean, is that not just I found it hilarious
Speaker 1: because there's so many anti vaxers abusing people through social media,
Speaker 1: but this anti vax is gone. No, I'm going to
Speaker 1: send them a six page letter.
Speaker 3: That's how did they find them? Assume that they just
Speaker 3: pulled out is the white pages and things still pages?
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah they did. They found him in the
Speaker 1: in the in the yellow pages.
Speaker 3: So so answer your question, I think it was just
Speaker 3: general interests. Yeah, yeah, fortunately, I just well, I'd like
Speaker 3: to think I got along with them.
Speaker 1: Well, I think that's what we've got time for, because
Speaker 1: Dale and I have got a big night of activity.
Speaker 3: I don't even say that seriously, No, we do.
Speaker 1: We've got our puzzle, We've got our thousand piece puzzle.
Speaker 1: We'll just send I have to do some updates on
Speaker 1: the Outspoken Instagram account about it, and we also have
Speaker 1: a finished the last one, No we didn't, but this one,
Speaker 1: this is a photo Dale got it printed.
Speaker 3: We finished the last one.
Speaker 1: Oh sorry, the cat's weed in the puzzle box last time.
Speaker 1: This one, though, is really cool. It's a photo of
Speaker 1: Dale and I in a Christmas setting. So we'll definitely
Speaker 1: be finishing it because Dale wants to frame it. And
Speaker 1: then we're doing a quiz night with Kate and Reese
Speaker 1: and Sophie and Brandon and we've got a dress up
Speaker 1: for it. So Dale, this is going to be out
Speaker 1: after the quiz night. What are we going to wear
Speaker 1: to the quiz night?
Speaker 3: Didn't you have an idea?
Speaker 2: Or yeah? Yeah? No?
Speaker 1: Going to bed Penguins in hockey in NHL, Yeah yeah,
Speaker 1: So we're a little bit concerned.
Speaker 3: Who's your favorite Penguins player? Out of interest?
Speaker 1: I don't know any of them, but I just love penguins.
Speaker 1: So we're going to be have a penguin hockey.
Speaker 3: No you don't like hockey?
Speaker 1: No, no, we're going to have a penguin I just
Speaker 1: don't watch it a lot.
Speaker 3: Sorry. Can you imagine me on this constantly? Would you
Speaker 3: get anything done?
Speaker 1: Well, we were talking about doing our own tangent. We're
Speaker 1: talking about doing our own crime podcast. Man't we a
Speaker 1: true crime one?
Speaker 2: But I don't know.
Speaker 1: We'll see if people enjoying us talking together about this crap.
Speaker 1: And then, so thank you Dale for joining us.
Speaker 2: We do appreciate it.
Speaker 1: That's all right.
Speaker 3: Thank you