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Speaker 1: This is Outspoken. The podcast is not afraid to say

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Speaker 1: exactly what you're thinking. Our names are Amy, Kate and

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Speaker 1: Sophie Torba. We're identical triplets, but we often don't have

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Speaker 1: identical opinions, so sometimes things can get heted. Outspoken covers

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Speaker 1: all things reality TV, influences, entertainment, and issues facing women.

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Speaker 2: That is so fat.

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Speaker 1: Thank you. Welcome to a very special lockdown edition ab Outspoken.

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Speaker 1: It's taken two years to get one of our boyfriends

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Speaker 1: on the show, Dale, Welcome, thank you. So just to

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Speaker 1: clear it up for people who don't know, because people

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Speaker 1: keep saying they're getting Kate and Sophie and my voices confuse,

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Speaker 1: this is Amy. Dale is my boyfriend, so I'm going

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Speaker 1: to be interviewing him. Yeah, this is Dale. Firstly, Dale,

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Speaker 1: do you actually find Kate, Sophie and my voices similar,

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Speaker 1: because that's been a complaint so far.

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Speaker 3: Um, No, not really. I suppose I only ever see

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Speaker 3: you face to five when you're talking, so I don't

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Speaker 3: get that confused. I'll just look at you.

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Speaker 1: So you don't listen to the podcast, then that was

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Speaker 1: another big question.

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Speaker 3: I've listened to one or two and it's early in

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Speaker 3: its infancy.

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Speaker 1: No, but you do download them, don't you just show

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Speaker 1: just to get some numbers up? Well, what did you

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Speaker 1: think of the podcast when you listen to it? Because

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Speaker 1: people are wondering, are you interested in the influencer world

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Speaker 1: as well?

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Speaker 2: No?

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Speaker 3: Not at all. No, it's I understand that you all

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Speaker 3: enjoy it, but it's not my thing.

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Speaker 1: Okay, that's fair enough. Now people wanted a little bit

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Speaker 1: of background information about you. So can you tell everybody

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Speaker 1: what do you do for work? And then people might

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Speaker 1: realize why you're not interested at all in the influencer world.

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Speaker 3: Can we can we turn this quiz around? Can I

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Speaker 3: ask you?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? Well you can.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you can ask me things as well.

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Speaker 3: Ok what do I do for work? Oh?

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Speaker 1: Okay, you're asking me what I did for work? You're

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Speaker 1: a fire engineer?

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Speaker 3: What does that mean?

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Speaker 1: It means that that you work out where different.

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Speaker 3: This is good. Yeah, going, It's.

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Speaker 1: Like I'm friends with Chan the Bing when no one

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Speaker 1: actually knows what he does. It's basically, you work out

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Speaker 1: where different fire alarms need to be, and you work out,

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Speaker 1: you know, if something in a building burnt. I don't know,

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Speaker 1: you explain it explained.

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Speaker 3: It's hard to explain there's a few aspects to it.

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Speaker 3: There's how bort Hew.

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Speaker 2: No, that's right, that's alright.

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Speaker 1: You're a fire engineer. Okay, so this is probably the

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Speaker 1: last thing you would listen to because you're aways listening

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Speaker 1: to sort of crime podcasts or fire podcasts.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, there's a there's the Grenfelle Tower Inquiry. That's probably

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Speaker 3: one of my favorite favorite podcasts at the moment.

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Speaker 1: Now, I think we should take it back to December

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Speaker 1: twenty seventeen because that's when we met, and I want

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Speaker 1: to hear what were your first impressions of me? And

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Speaker 1: I'm going to tell you my first impressions of you.

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Speaker 3: Are we talking about our first day?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, we're talking about our first date.

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Speaker 3: Ummm. I thought that you were very pretty, if I recall.

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Speaker 2: Correctly, that's very sweet.

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Speaker 3: M I was happy that you liked pizza, because I

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Speaker 1: Well, you suggested the place, and you ran late to

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Speaker 3: No, yeah, no, I was doing renovations at my place

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Speaker 1: I liked that because I always run late, so I

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Speaker 3: But you're nice. I didn't go for a walk with

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Speaker 1: Well, I thought I was talking to a friend about

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Speaker 1: And I mean, I don't know whether our standards were

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Speaker 3: But oh you didn't know me.

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Speaker 1: No, I'd say you're still a dream boat. I did

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Speaker 3: Barrack dreamboat because my middle with dB.

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Speaker 1: No, not at all, just because you were dreaming. Because

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Speaker 1: Dale came to our white party, and this is I

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Speaker 1: up in white and celebrates Christmas. So well, I mean,

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Speaker 1: that's pretty early to meet my sisters. What did you

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Speaker 1: Oh? Yes, our mum, she's our best friends as well.

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Speaker 1: I do remember on our first date you were telling

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Speaker 1: Well, also, just to give a little background on our relationship,

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Speaker 1: Let's go through that, because I feel like people would

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Speaker 3: But oh, just a cute little surprise. I think you

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so this was what That's what.

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Speaker 3: You wanted to hear, you know on Christmas women want

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Speaker 1: Well, I thought this would be good to talk about

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Speaker 1: question of you know, like the movie, he's just not

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Speaker 1: that into you. When you sent that to me, I thought, oh, okay,

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Speaker 1: was that your Was that your intention?

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Speaker 3: No, it wasn't. Oh bang, just quietly just got a

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Speaker 1: I just I just of our faces.

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Speaker 3: Ye got that. What was the question?

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Speaker 1: What was your intention through sending that message?

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Speaker 3: I didn't want to hide behind that. You're obviously a

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Speaker 3: I suppose I wanted to be upfront and honest.

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Speaker 1: So should people have hope? Though, you know? Because I

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Speaker 3: I'm just conscious now I can hear my own nose whistles.

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Speaker 1: So it is cold in here.

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Speaker 2: I feel to avoid the question.

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Speaker 1: But what happened on this individual and what happened next.

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Speaker 3: It was soon to be my birthday, and you made

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Speaker 1: Okay, we're back from turning the washing machine off.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so what happened?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so you thought that I was trying to distance

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Speaker 3: Cake, Matilda inspired chocolate cake, and then sushi, and then

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Speaker 3: And you bought was it canned salmon or something, which

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and then you invited me to your thirty birthday party.

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Speaker 1: So it shows we did like long distance for how long?

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Speaker 3: Year and a half I was over there almost a

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and then we traveled to Europe after and then

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Speaker 1: we moved in together. What is it like living with

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Speaker 3: I'm I mean, you saw my previous place of residence,

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Speaker 3: It's all right.

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Speaker 1: Well, your style in furniture has been discussed a few

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Speaker 1: times on the podcast, and finally you're able to defend

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Speaker 1: yourself so timeless classic.

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Speaker 3: I believe that's how we can just sum let the

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Speaker 1: Well, I was gonna I was going to ask you

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Speaker 3: You've really you're growing into my my style between myself

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Speaker 3: and your mother, he's got very good furniture sense. I

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Speaker 3: believe you're growing into it.

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Speaker 1: Well, we're currently looking to buy a house and I

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Speaker 1: And as I said, people were interested in your influencer knowledge.

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Speaker 1: Okay, I interviewed her fortulation. Actually that's a very local

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Speaker 1: All right, I'm going to run through some other names,

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Speaker 3: That you know that I wasn't going to know any

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Speaker 1: No, no, I would have.

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Speaker 3: There was no prep on this. You've obviously thought ahead

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Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, this is what tell so you can say,

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Speaker 1: Ruby Tuesday Matthews.

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Speaker 3: Sounds like a porn star.

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Speaker 1: Is she made up or is she influenced? No, it's

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Speaker 1: Yep, she's an influencer. What about Anastasia kings North?

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Speaker 1: Or an influencer is somebody who influences the masses. So

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Speaker 3: How many of these are from my friends who found

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Speaker 3: Oh no, I didn't. Okay, I can't ask an answer

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Speaker 1: So this is a bit controversial. Someone said, who is

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Speaker 3: I don't think I should be answered big like that.

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Speaker 3: I don't think, however, that is answered, that can't end.

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Speaker 1: I Gabe, Yeah, so you kind of answered it before.

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Speaker 2: If you're listening, I'll get.

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Speaker 3: Will you keep on talking about the Chappelle Corpy stuff.

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Speaker 3: I thought we're almost done.

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Speaker 1: No, we're not done.

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Speaker 3: To keep me going much longer to do? I need

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Speaker 1: So what gives you the ick about girls? So when

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Speaker 1: You're saying this is I'm sitting here in Oh sorry.

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Speaker 1: Oh see, this one's another awkward one I've stumbled across.

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Speaker 3: Some more questions for you answer that question.

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Speaker 3: I like it when you're funny and silly. I like

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Speaker 3: You just put your head down and get shit sorted.

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Speaker 1: The first situation in the house, we've got two rag

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Speaker 3: I don't think so. They might not think I'm ever

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Speaker 3: Quite cold have you. Oh, I come across quite cold,

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Speaker 3: I think how many billion people are there in the world.

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Speaker 3: There's seven billion people. So to think to say that

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Speaker 1: Someone's asked how to subtly hint that you're ready for

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Speaker 2: No, no, but.

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Speaker 1: Your ex used to sketch her engagement ring. I mean

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Speaker 1: that's kind of I don't know if that's a subtle

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Speaker 3: Proposed it was a very open discussion with my previous relationship. Yes,

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Speaker 3: but how which isn't. No, she's she was very vocal

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Speaker 1: That's so I'm assuming that this girl who's written in

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Speaker 3: point in time, and you know, for us, I think

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00:21:47,680 --> 00:21:52,320
Speaker 3: that's our next step. I think it's just understanding. You

448
00:21:52,320 --> 00:21:54,640
Speaker 3: know a lot of people, some people have high values

449
00:21:54,640 --> 00:21:59,240
Speaker 3: in family and everything like that, or some people might

450
00:21:59,240 --> 00:22:00,600
Speaker 3: not be in a position where they're looking at a

451
00:22:00,600 --> 00:22:03,200
Speaker 3: house or anything along those lines. How you would subtly

452
00:22:03,280 --> 00:22:07,199
Speaker 3: drop that. I think just understanding that, understanding what your

453
00:22:07,200 --> 00:22:13,199
Speaker 3: partner's goals are and understanding I suppose. I don't know.

454
00:22:13,280 --> 00:22:15,639
Speaker 3: I think every couple's different.

455
00:22:16,160 --> 00:22:18,560
Speaker 1: I feel bad answer it was good. I mean I

456
00:22:18,640 --> 00:22:22,000
Speaker 1: feel bad for boys because if I had to propose

457
00:22:22,040 --> 00:22:25,639
Speaker 1: to you. It's also a huge financial thing as well,

458
00:22:25,680 --> 00:22:27,480
Speaker 1: considering you're having to buy a ring and then you're

459
00:22:27,480 --> 00:22:31,320
Speaker 1: having to you know, save up for the actual wedding

460
00:22:31,760 --> 00:22:35,320
Speaker 1: and whatever. So maybe it's best for this girl to

461
00:22:35,400 --> 00:22:39,080
Speaker 1: chat with her partner about his financial well, not you know,

462
00:22:39,200 --> 00:22:43,760
Speaker 1: to open the money or what like, to openly have

463
00:22:43,840 --> 00:22:45,600
Speaker 1: a discussion of where they want to be in five

464
00:22:45,680 --> 00:22:47,199
Speaker 1: years and that kind of thing and see if it

465
00:22:47,240 --> 00:22:48,560
Speaker 1: aligns well.

466
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Speaker 3: I think. I think just asking do you, I mean,

467
00:22:51,040 --> 00:22:54,280
Speaker 3: do you see us together moving forward? To say what

468
00:22:54,280 --> 00:22:56,880
Speaker 3: do you want to be where are we in five

469
00:22:56,960 --> 00:23:01,840
Speaker 3: years time might be a bit presumptual. Yeah, I mean,

470
00:23:01,880 --> 00:23:03,639
Speaker 3: once again, depending on the relationship, it might just be

471
00:23:03,640 --> 00:23:06,959
Speaker 3: a question of you know, where do you see yourself

472
00:23:07,000 --> 00:23:09,720
Speaker 3: in five years? Time as you're sitting there having a

473
00:23:09,720 --> 00:23:13,280
Speaker 3: wine or something like that, as in like an alcoholic beverage,

474
00:23:13,320 --> 00:23:14,640
Speaker 3: not a winge or wine.

475
00:23:14,920 --> 00:23:17,360
Speaker 1: Just a k butcher or something butcher. What about there

476
00:23:17,400 --> 00:23:20,080
Speaker 1: was a girl I knew that she downloaded the Tiffany's

477
00:23:20,119 --> 00:23:22,119
Speaker 1: app and it had like a hand and she's a

478
00:23:22,160 --> 00:23:24,399
Speaker 1: sit next to her boyfriend and try the rings on.

479
00:23:25,960 --> 00:23:28,760
Speaker 3: No, I think the key word you're looking for was subtle,

480
00:23:28,800 --> 00:23:29,760
Speaker 3: and that is not subtle.

481
00:23:30,440 --> 00:23:34,199
Speaker 1: Someone else has asked why don't guys reply on dating apps?

482
00:23:34,240 --> 00:23:36,800
Speaker 1: Why even match with girls and then not reply?

483
00:23:40,160 --> 00:23:43,840
Speaker 3: I would potentially think that everyone wants to feel wanted.

484
00:23:45,760 --> 00:23:49,800
Speaker 3: That's probably it if they I mean, a worse thing

485
00:23:49,840 --> 00:23:52,000
Speaker 3: than that is to play them on I would have thought.

486
00:23:52,359 --> 00:23:58,280
Speaker 3: So if they are to me, it's almost like Facebook marketplace.

487
00:23:58,359 --> 00:24:00,679
Speaker 3: How many is it still available? I'll send out and

488
00:24:00,720 --> 00:24:02,760
Speaker 3: then I don't respond once they say yeah, still available.

489
00:24:03,200 --> 00:24:05,720
Speaker 1: So is it kind of like they you know, they

490
00:24:05,840 --> 00:24:07,920
Speaker 1: think that you're attractive and that they might want to

491
00:24:07,960 --> 00:24:09,919
Speaker 1: match with you, but then it's like I'm kind of

492
00:24:09,920 --> 00:24:12,080
Speaker 1: not ready, so I'm not going to start the conversation,

493
00:24:12,200 --> 00:24:13,800
Speaker 1: or we know you've thought about it, and I'm not

494
00:24:13,880 --> 00:24:15,880
Speaker 1: really not really that Keen.

495
00:24:16,359 --> 00:24:22,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm not too sure. I suppose it depends on

496
00:24:22,640 --> 00:24:26,280
Speaker 3: the individual once again itself. But I think what ye

497
00:24:26,560 --> 00:24:28,160
Speaker 3: as I said, what it boils down to is probably

498
00:24:28,200 --> 00:24:29,920
Speaker 3: people just want to feel wanted at some point in time.

499
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Speaker 1: What about girls who reply, because I know on some

500
00:24:32,400 --> 00:24:35,199
Speaker 1: dating apps like Bumble, the girl has to make the

501
00:24:35,200 --> 00:24:38,080
Speaker 1: first move. Would you be put off by a girl

502
00:24:38,080 --> 00:24:39,000
Speaker 1: messaging you first?

503
00:24:39,400 --> 00:24:40,919
Speaker 3: Well, at the moment, I'm with you, so it might

504
00:24:40,960 --> 00:24:43,480
Speaker 3: be a little bit of a stretch, especially Bumble at

505
00:24:43,480 --> 00:24:46,280
Speaker 3: this point in time. Not do I have Tinder or

506
00:24:46,280 --> 00:24:50,800
Speaker 3: any dating app for that matter, But if I was

507
00:24:50,880 --> 00:24:52,800
Speaker 3: single and that happened, and I don't think it would

508
00:24:52,800 --> 00:24:58,000
Speaker 3: put it off. Once again, I I mean when I

509
00:24:58,040 --> 00:25:01,879
Speaker 3: was single, I was attracted to females who were who

510
00:25:01,960 --> 00:25:05,080
Speaker 3: could take things on themselves, hold their own and everything

511
00:25:05,119 --> 00:25:08,000
Speaker 3: like that. So to be expected to make the first

512
00:25:08,040 --> 00:25:13,280
Speaker 3: move all the time, that can be yeah, a bit boring.

513
00:25:12,960 --> 00:25:15,000
Speaker 1: And sounds like an ad for Bumble. I feel like

514
00:25:15,000 --> 00:25:16,160
Speaker 1: it's about making the first meet.

515
00:25:16,240 --> 00:25:16,959
Speaker 3: Are they a sponsor?

516
00:25:17,119 --> 00:25:18,560
Speaker 2: No?

517
00:25:18,680 --> 00:25:22,400
Speaker 1: I don't know. Should we approach thembe? Someone else has asked,

518
00:25:22,440 --> 00:25:25,320
Speaker 1: how do you make your partner appreciate you more? I

519
00:25:25,359 --> 00:25:28,040
Speaker 1: feel like I do everything with no gratitude.

520
00:25:29,960 --> 00:25:32,199
Speaker 3: Sorry, I've just spotted another piece of the puzzle. I'm

521
00:25:32,200 --> 00:25:36,359
Speaker 3: gonna put that on. Hangm how's the eyesight that was

522
00:25:36,400 --> 00:25:39,720
Speaker 3: on the other side of the table? You like that multitasking?

523
00:25:40,680 --> 00:25:41,280
Speaker 3: What's your question?

524
00:25:41,320 --> 00:25:44,920
Speaker 1: I forgot see that's not mult How do you make

525
00:25:44,960 --> 00:25:47,320
Speaker 1: your partner appreciate you more? I feel like I do

526
00:25:47,400 --> 00:25:48,920
Speaker 1: everything with no gratitude.

527
00:25:50,720 --> 00:25:56,080
Speaker 3: U can you change people? I don't think you can

528
00:25:56,160 --> 00:26:01,480
Speaker 3: change people if they don't if they can't see you

529
00:26:01,520 --> 00:26:03,360
Speaker 3: for what you are and what you're doing in that

530
00:26:04,200 --> 00:26:09,280
Speaker 3: initial time or due to your actions, I don't know

531
00:26:09,359 --> 00:26:12,800
Speaker 3: that you can actually change that if you keep on

532
00:26:12,840 --> 00:26:14,760
Speaker 3: going harder and harder and doing more and more. Are

533
00:26:14,800 --> 00:26:16,680
Speaker 3: they just going to get accustomed to that and then

534
00:26:17,359 --> 00:26:20,240
Speaker 3: completely disregard you altogether or just expect everything.

535
00:26:20,520 --> 00:26:23,200
Speaker 1: I feel like it's almost as well having a conversation

536
00:26:23,359 --> 00:26:27,359
Speaker 1: with your partner and saying that you feel underappreciated, and

537
00:26:27,400 --> 00:26:30,000
Speaker 1: do they realize that they're making you feel that way

538
00:26:30,119 --> 00:26:31,720
Speaker 1: because they might not be aware of it.

539
00:26:32,280 --> 00:26:35,840
Speaker 3: I think it's also just important to be conscious of

540
00:26:35,880 --> 00:26:42,399
Speaker 3: the fact that we spoke about it before. There's seven

541
00:26:42,560 --> 00:26:46,480
Speaker 3: billion people on this planet. You know, it's a hard

542
00:26:46,480 --> 00:26:51,200
Speaker 3: thing to think. Shit, Okay, maybe I should just cut

543
00:26:51,240 --> 00:26:52,920
Speaker 3: ties with this and actually try to find someone who

544
00:26:52,920 --> 00:26:55,199
Speaker 3: appreciates me. But maybe that's sometimes what you need to do.

545
00:26:55,960 --> 00:26:56,760
Speaker 2: So dum of them is.

546
00:26:57,160 --> 00:26:58,920
Speaker 3: No, I'm not saying that, but I think you should

547
00:26:58,920 --> 00:27:00,880
Speaker 3: be able to gauge at yourself if it's like, you know,

548
00:27:01,160 --> 00:27:04,159
Speaker 3: three or four years in and you're literally getting up

549
00:27:04,200 --> 00:27:07,359
Speaker 3: putting the slippers on their feet, you know, throwing rose

550
00:27:07,720 --> 00:27:10,560
Speaker 3: pedals down the corridor as they're walking, and then cleaning

551
00:27:10,560 --> 00:27:12,760
Speaker 3: them up behind them, cleaning up behind them and everything

552
00:27:12,800 --> 00:27:14,760
Speaker 3: like that, and they're not saying thank you and then

553
00:27:14,840 --> 00:27:16,480
Speaker 3: fuck them. Can I swear on this?

554
00:27:16,560 --> 00:27:17,040
Speaker 1: Yeah you can.

555
00:27:17,119 --> 00:27:20,959
Speaker 3: Oh thanks, might just need to put like a fifteen

556
00:27:20,960 --> 00:27:22,880
Speaker 3: plus PG. Thirteen.

557
00:27:23,320 --> 00:27:25,880
Speaker 1: There's another question here about where to meet good guys

558
00:27:26,040 --> 00:27:28,159
Speaker 1: in your mid twenties, and we were discussing this the

559
00:27:28,200 --> 00:27:30,760
Speaker 1: other day. I was saying that if I was single,

560
00:27:31,200 --> 00:27:32,960
Speaker 1: I feel like I just go down to Bunnings and

561
00:27:33,160 --> 00:27:34,800
Speaker 1: sort of look really lost. I feel like there's a

562
00:27:34,840 --> 00:27:37,200
Speaker 1: lot of there's a lot of guys down there.

563
00:27:39,760 --> 00:27:43,040
Speaker 3: Depends on what you're probably after as well, though, If

564
00:27:43,040 --> 00:27:46,000
Speaker 3: you're wanting someone who's a bit more handyman than that,

565
00:27:46,119 --> 00:27:48,560
Speaker 3: might be that might be the case if you're if

566
00:27:48,560 --> 00:27:55,200
Speaker 3: you're after someone a bit more charitable or everything like that,

567
00:27:55,320 --> 00:27:58,520
Speaker 3: or something like that, you could go work, go find

568
00:27:58,560 --> 00:28:00,960
Speaker 3: a volunteer place. I think like gym's. Isn't that a

569
00:28:01,000 --> 00:28:04,000
Speaker 3: good place to meet people? Or is that like just

570
00:28:04,040 --> 00:28:06,080
Speaker 3: we're buffed up sleezy dudes here on?

571
00:28:06,280 --> 00:28:07,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know, because I've heard a lot of

572
00:28:07,800 --> 00:28:10,760
Speaker 1: people say that as guys, they wouldn't want to approach

573
00:28:10,800 --> 00:28:12,640
Speaker 1: girls in the gym because it seems a bit sleazy.

574
00:28:12,800 --> 00:28:15,200
Speaker 1: I mean, okay, I think though that there's a lot

575
00:28:15,240 --> 00:28:17,440
Speaker 1: of sports bars out there if you're looking for where

576
00:28:17,480 --> 00:28:19,960
Speaker 1: men congregate, and I feel like there's a lot of

577
00:28:20,040 --> 00:28:23,199
Speaker 1: nice guys who would be out there and willing to

578
00:28:23,200 --> 00:28:24,679
Speaker 1: have a chat to a girl. I do feel like

579
00:28:24,680 --> 00:28:28,280
Speaker 1: a nightclub. I mean, we're in lockdown in the COVID era,

580
00:28:28,400 --> 00:28:31,439
Speaker 1: probably not going out to nightclubs as much, But if

581
00:28:31,480 --> 00:28:33,800
Speaker 1: you're going out to a bar when things have opened up,

582
00:28:33,880 --> 00:28:35,440
Speaker 1: a sports bar, I feel like that would be such

583
00:28:35,440 --> 00:28:36,080
Speaker 1: a good place.

584
00:28:36,240 --> 00:28:36,879
Speaker 3: Do you reckon?

585
00:28:37,280 --> 00:28:39,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, we had that discussion the other day.

586
00:28:40,040 --> 00:28:42,240
Speaker 3: Yeah. Maybe, I mean, it depends on what kind of

587
00:28:42,400 --> 00:28:45,440
Speaker 3: guy you're after. Again, I suppose what's wrong with the

588
00:28:45,440 --> 00:28:47,840
Speaker 3: good old fashioned tinder and bumble that we're just talking about.

589
00:28:48,560 --> 00:28:52,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, well I think she wants somewhere new though, Oh, because.

590
00:28:52,200 --> 00:28:56,200
Speaker 3: I suppose the good thing about bumble or the abs

591
00:28:56,240 --> 00:28:59,280
Speaker 3: and stuff is that you are in control and you

592
00:28:59,320 --> 00:29:03,680
Speaker 3: can go through and basically, if you don't like them

593
00:29:03,680 --> 00:29:06,680
Speaker 3: from the get go, well then catch a mate off

594
00:29:06,720 --> 00:29:11,800
Speaker 3: to attempt the next one. Yeah, Like it's quantity and

595
00:29:11,840 --> 00:29:13,320
Speaker 3: then you can actually get through them. I mean, how

596
00:29:13,320 --> 00:29:16,440
Speaker 3: long does it take to go out and find someone

597
00:29:16,680 --> 00:29:19,920
Speaker 3: talk to them at night at a club or something

598
00:29:20,000 --> 00:29:21,800
Speaker 3: when you're half cut, and then it's two or three

599
00:29:21,840 --> 00:29:24,040
Speaker 3: days before you find out that you're not compatible. It's

600
00:29:24,080 --> 00:29:27,120
Speaker 3: pretty difficult. So if you've got something where you can

601
00:29:27,200 --> 00:29:29,920
Speaker 3: just swipe people away, have a quick chat to them,

602
00:29:30,320 --> 00:29:34,040
Speaker 3: work out they're douche or not, and then keep on rolling.

603
00:29:34,520 --> 00:29:37,400
Speaker 1: Do you think guys gossip about their partners to their friends?

604
00:29:37,640 --> 00:29:40,720
Speaker 1: Or sorry I should rephrase that, do men gossip about

605
00:29:40,720 --> 00:29:41,959
Speaker 1: their partners to their friends?

606
00:29:42,040 --> 00:29:44,640
Speaker 3: I think I think different people say different things. I think,

607
00:29:44,680 --> 00:29:47,840
Speaker 3: if I know a lot with all of my mates,

608
00:29:47,880 --> 00:29:52,200
Speaker 3: there's a certain level of respect with their partners. I

609
00:29:52,200 --> 00:29:54,160
Speaker 3: don't think that they're with them just for the sake

610
00:29:54,200 --> 00:29:56,080
Speaker 3: of being with them, and then in that instance, so

611
00:29:56,120 --> 00:29:58,479
Speaker 3: they don't sit there and complain about them. So, I mean,

612
00:29:58,720 --> 00:30:01,080
Speaker 3: there's always like if you with someone, there's always going

613
00:30:01,120 --> 00:30:03,080
Speaker 3: to be little things that you mentioned here and there.

614
00:30:03,080 --> 00:30:05,280
Speaker 3: But I don't think anyone actually sits there and dwells

615
00:30:05,280 --> 00:30:10,240
Speaker 3: on it. I suppose my mates are probably sick of

616
00:30:10,320 --> 00:30:12,720
Speaker 3: hit me mentioning how much catfur I have on me

617
00:30:12,760 --> 00:30:13,240
Speaker 3: all the time?

618
00:30:13,360 --> 00:30:14,760
Speaker 1: Do you is that what you mentioned to them?

619
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Speaker 3: I don't think any even mention it when I'm like

620
00:30:17,120 --> 00:30:19,200
Speaker 3: choking on it or they're like wiping it out of

621
00:30:19,200 --> 00:30:19,800
Speaker 3: their own eyes.

622
00:30:21,920 --> 00:30:24,720
Speaker 1: How much pride do you think men have in being

623
00:30:24,760 --> 00:30:27,520
Speaker 1: independent so doing all their cooking and washing and cleaning.

624
00:30:27,520 --> 00:30:31,080
Speaker 1: And I must preface this, you actually do a lot

625
00:30:31,120 --> 00:30:33,200
Speaker 1: of that yourself. You're very good at washing on your

626
00:30:33,280 --> 00:30:36,680
Speaker 1: clothes and cooking for yourself. Do you take great pride

627
00:30:36,720 --> 00:30:36,959
Speaker 1: in it?

628
00:30:37,720 --> 00:30:40,680
Speaker 3: I got another bit of the puzzle, is that the right?

629
00:30:40,800 --> 00:30:43,240
Speaker 3: Is that the right? A bit you're closer to that. Brilliant.

630
00:30:44,640 --> 00:30:49,040
Speaker 3: Once again, I think it depends on the individual. The

631
00:30:49,080 --> 00:30:52,360
Speaker 3: way I was brought up was do your own washing,

632
00:30:52,480 --> 00:30:57,560
Speaker 3: do this, do that, which gave me a level of independence,

633
00:30:57,600 --> 00:31:00,719
Speaker 3: and I like independence, I don't like being dependent individuals.

634
00:31:01,080 --> 00:31:02,920
Speaker 3: You're the same. I mean, I don't think we've ever

635
00:31:04,120 --> 00:31:09,680
Speaker 3: done a combined load of washing or shit. I mean

636
00:31:09,720 --> 00:31:11,920
Speaker 3: half the time we'll make our own meals or something

637
00:31:12,000 --> 00:31:15,000
Speaker 3: like that. There'll be times will make meals together, but

638
00:31:15,920 --> 00:31:20,520
Speaker 3: there's so many only so many like Danish fetter salads

639
00:31:20,560 --> 00:31:22,400
Speaker 3: I can have during the week.

640
00:31:23,360 --> 00:31:25,880
Speaker 1: How do you know you have chemistry with someone or

641
00:31:25,920 --> 00:31:27,360
Speaker 1: you just get along.

642
00:31:28,520 --> 00:31:29,120
Speaker 3: You feel it?

643
00:31:29,680 --> 00:31:33,720
Speaker 1: M I suppose they mean sort of like, what's the

644
00:31:33,760 --> 00:31:37,000
Speaker 1: difference between knowing, like because you get along with you

645
00:31:37,040 --> 00:31:38,880
Speaker 1: might get along with a girl, but as a friend,

646
00:31:39,040 --> 00:31:42,240
Speaker 1: how do you know that this is more than a friendship?

647
00:31:45,600 --> 00:31:48,080
Speaker 3: You feel it? I don't answer that.

648
00:31:49,000 --> 00:31:53,040
Speaker 1: I suppose you get like butterflies. And initially I suppose, yeah,

649
00:31:53,400 --> 00:31:55,360
Speaker 1: I think this. I think this girl is just having

650
00:31:55,440 --> 00:31:58,480
Speaker 1: some struggles about how to know if she has chemistry

651
00:31:58,520 --> 00:32:00,160
Speaker 1: with someone, and I think if you're questioning it, you

652
00:32:00,200 --> 00:32:00,800
Speaker 1: probably don't.

653
00:32:00,920 --> 00:32:03,440
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's I mean, that's it as well, and it's

654
00:32:03,480 --> 00:32:08,240
Speaker 3: I think it's there's a right level of I won't

655
00:32:08,320 --> 00:32:12,720
Speaker 3: use the word pushing, but pursuing something and if it's

656
00:32:12,720 --> 00:32:15,800
Speaker 3: not working, it's like it's not working.

657
00:32:16,200 --> 00:32:18,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, but I also feel like it is really important

658
00:32:18,920 --> 00:32:22,560
Speaker 1: to be friends with somebody because, like what, we're nearly

659
00:32:23,160 --> 00:32:26,600
Speaker 1: what four years, it's nearly four years into dating each

660
00:32:26,600 --> 00:32:29,360
Speaker 1: other's three and a half. Yeah, three and a half.

661
00:32:30,640 --> 00:32:32,840
Speaker 1: You have to have a friendship. I mean we're stuck

662
00:32:32,880 --> 00:32:35,920
Speaker 1: in lockdown together and you have to be joking around

663
00:32:36,080 --> 00:32:38,200
Speaker 1: and being silly. I suppose, especially when you move in

664
00:32:38,200 --> 00:32:39,600
Speaker 1: with somebody, you've got to have that.

665
00:32:40,360 --> 00:32:45,479
Speaker 3: It's probably easy for you because I'm incredibly funny. Yeah,

666
00:32:45,720 --> 00:32:51,200
Speaker 3: no Ah, that's taking the piss. Yeah, definitely, you have

667
00:32:51,240 --> 00:32:52,200
Speaker 3: to be able to knock around.

668
00:32:54,760 --> 00:32:59,719
Speaker 1: One listener says, I'm terrified of never meeting anyone again.

669
00:32:59,800 --> 00:33:02,440
Speaker 3: This do you have? Yeah, a few.

670
00:33:02,680 --> 00:33:06,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, there's a few people that have sent questions in.

671
00:33:06,920 --> 00:33:10,400
Speaker 1: I'm terrified of never meeting anyone again after my last relationship.

672
00:33:10,440 --> 00:33:14,400
Speaker 1: It gives me anxiety. How do I just chill? This

673
00:33:14,480 --> 00:33:16,600
Speaker 1: one's a good one for you, Dale though, because you

674
00:33:16,920 --> 00:33:20,040
Speaker 1: were before we met, you had a pretty serious relationship.

675
00:33:20,080 --> 00:33:24,120
Speaker 1: You're engaged, and I'm sure there were feelings of being

676
00:33:24,160 --> 00:33:29,240
Speaker 1: worried about never meeting anyone on both of your behalfs Yeah.

677
00:33:29,280 --> 00:33:32,640
Speaker 3: I think you just when you're ready, you're ready. You

678
00:33:32,680 --> 00:33:37,880
Speaker 3: shouldn't be trying to You shouldn't be trying to rush anything.

679
00:33:37,880 --> 00:33:41,640
Speaker 3: You shouldn't be you know, taking on board things which

680
00:33:41,680 --> 00:33:44,040
Speaker 3: other people are saying who've gone through the same process

681
00:33:44,080 --> 00:33:45,840
Speaker 3: exactly like I'm doing right now. You shouldn't be taking

682
00:33:45,840 --> 00:33:47,840
Speaker 3: on board what people say. Oh, actually, I don't know

683
00:33:47,840 --> 00:33:50,080
Speaker 3: if that's true. I think you can take you can

684
00:33:50,080 --> 00:33:52,360
Speaker 3: listen to people, but I mean you should be able

685
00:33:52,400 --> 00:33:54,400
Speaker 3: to feel yourself when you're ready and everything like that.

686
00:33:54,400 --> 00:33:56,000
Speaker 3: If you're anxious at the moment, then there might be

687
00:33:56,000 --> 00:33:58,560
Speaker 3: some things that you need to work through yourself. And

688
00:33:58,920 --> 00:34:01,760
Speaker 3: I think one thing that is important is to be

689
00:34:01,800 --> 00:34:05,200
Speaker 3: I suppose happy with yourself before you move into a

690
00:34:05,240 --> 00:34:10,200
Speaker 3: relationship and then sort of suppress any aspects of yourself

691
00:34:10,239 --> 00:34:13,879
Speaker 3: that are hidden when you're in a relationship with something.

692
00:34:13,920 --> 00:34:14,080
Speaker 2: Sense.

693
00:34:14,200 --> 00:34:17,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, that's a good one. And I also feel

694
00:34:17,880 --> 00:34:19,960
Speaker 1: like people do go through stages where they feel like

695
00:34:20,000 --> 00:34:22,480
Speaker 1: they're never going to meet anybody, and I feel like

696
00:34:22,560 --> 00:34:25,760
Speaker 1: that's really natural, but it's I don't think you should

697
00:34:25,800 --> 00:34:28,480
Speaker 1: dwell on that. As Dale said, like just take it

698
00:34:28,520 --> 00:34:31,080
Speaker 1: time out for yourself and be happy with yourself, because

699
00:34:31,400 --> 00:34:34,680
Speaker 1: I know this sounds really lame and cliche, but people

700
00:34:34,760 --> 00:34:37,319
Speaker 1: do come along when you least expect it, and you

701
00:34:37,360 --> 00:34:40,080
Speaker 1: want to be in a good state to I suppose

702
00:34:40,800 --> 00:34:43,000
Speaker 1: go through that process of dating and working out whether

703
00:34:43,000 --> 00:34:46,400
Speaker 1: they're right for you. Now we've got one last question.

704
00:34:48,000 --> 00:34:51,279
Speaker 1: Should you tell someone if you know they're being cheated on?

705
00:34:52,360 --> 00:34:52,760
Speaker 2: Juicy?

706
00:34:55,000 --> 00:35:03,000
Speaker 3: Fortunately, I've never been in this situation. I suppose with

707
00:35:03,680 --> 00:35:05,520
Speaker 3: the current group of mates that I have, and they're

708
00:35:05,560 --> 00:35:09,080
Speaker 3: current partners and everything like that. But I would think

709
00:35:09,200 --> 00:35:12,759
Speaker 3: that the people I surround myself with firstly wouldn't put

710
00:35:12,800 --> 00:35:17,080
Speaker 3: themselves in that position firstly, but secondly, it's a really

711
00:35:17,120 --> 00:35:19,960
Speaker 3: hard one. If you're getting drawn into the lie, then

712
00:35:20,440 --> 00:35:26,560
Speaker 3: that's a really disrespectful act on behalf of the individual

713
00:35:26,600 --> 00:35:32,960
Speaker 3: who is doing wrong. I would I would think if

714
00:35:33,000 --> 00:35:37,360
Speaker 3: it's impacting you, negatively impacting you directly, then you probably

715
00:35:37,360 --> 00:35:40,480
Speaker 3: have a right to say something. And I mean if

716
00:35:40,520 --> 00:35:43,800
Speaker 3: you're closer to the if you're close with the partner

717
00:35:43,840 --> 00:35:47,520
Speaker 3: as well. I mean I suppose that that means that

718
00:35:47,560 --> 00:35:52,240
Speaker 3: it's impacting you directly. Yeah, I would think that you'd

719
00:35:52,239 --> 00:35:52,680
Speaker 3: flag it.

720
00:35:54,680 --> 00:35:56,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know. It's a tough one. I suppose

721
00:35:56,520 --> 00:35:58,839
Speaker 1: there's a lot of reasons for telling and a lot

722
00:35:58,840 --> 00:36:01,319
Speaker 1: of reasons not for telling, because sometimes if you're the

723
00:36:01,320 --> 00:36:03,319
Speaker 1: person that goes and tells a friend that they're being

724
00:36:03,360 --> 00:36:07,080
Speaker 1: cheated on, normally the guy is an absolute wanker for

725
00:36:07,160 --> 00:36:10,040
Speaker 1: doing it, and sometimes they're in a toxic relationship and

726
00:36:10,080 --> 00:36:12,080
Speaker 1: the girl is always going to defend the guy. So

727
00:36:12,200 --> 00:36:15,400
Speaker 1: then you risk being the one that the anger is

728
00:36:15,400 --> 00:36:19,279
Speaker 1: directed towards. So I think it is a really difficult situation. Yeah,

729
00:36:19,480 --> 00:36:21,200
Speaker 1: but I would. I would tell a friend if they

730
00:36:21,239 --> 00:36:22,120
Speaker 1: were being cheated on.

731
00:36:22,840 --> 00:36:26,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, I suppose I sit there and think what would Oh? Bang,

732
00:36:26,200 --> 00:36:28,640
Speaker 3: got another piece? You see that? That's pretty good. I

733
00:36:28,680 --> 00:36:31,400
Speaker 3: was just only looking across on a spottling and connected

734
00:36:31,440 --> 00:36:37,400
Speaker 3: the piece puzzle once again, Ladies and gentlemen, I suppose

735
00:36:37,400 --> 00:36:38,880
Speaker 3: I sit there and think what I like to know?

736
00:36:39,000 --> 00:36:42,160
Speaker 3: And yes I would, because I would be out of

737
00:36:42,160 --> 00:36:44,600
Speaker 3: their quick smart and actually be wanting to find someone

738
00:36:44,640 --> 00:36:45,239
Speaker 3: who wants to be.

739
00:36:45,200 --> 00:36:48,200
Speaker 1: With me, especially as you get older. I mean, if

740
00:36:48,600 --> 00:36:53,920
Speaker 1: we're all in our thirties and if someone's cheating on somebody. Yeah, okay,

741
00:36:54,200 --> 00:36:56,720
Speaker 1: someone already said on Someone said on Instagram this morning

742
00:36:56,719 --> 00:36:58,560
Speaker 1: that Kate, Sophie and I should stop doing the podcast

743
00:36:58,600 --> 00:37:00,840
Speaker 1: and have children. They got a swift.

744
00:37:02,000 --> 00:37:02,919
Speaker 3: Oh did they Yeah?

745
00:37:02,960 --> 00:37:06,120
Speaker 1: Wow, okay, well they've been trolling. It's a bit personal

746
00:37:06,280 --> 00:37:09,280
Speaker 1: and it's very I mean that it annoys me because

747
00:37:09,600 --> 00:37:11,520
Speaker 1: have you ever heard that. Has anyone ever said that

748
00:37:11,560 --> 00:37:13,560
Speaker 1: to you, like, oh, you're thirty three, aren't you going

749
00:37:13,600 --> 00:37:15,440
Speaker 1: to have kids? As a man to people so.

750
00:37:15,560 --> 00:37:19,600
Speaker 3: That No, I think my mum wouldn't mind a good grandchid, grandchid, grandchild,

751
00:37:19,920 --> 00:37:27,040
Speaker 3: grandchin grandchild. Yes, but I don't. I suppose I'm maybe

752
00:37:27,080 --> 00:37:29,480
Speaker 3: a bit different on male exactly.

753
00:37:30,200 --> 00:37:32,120
Speaker 1: That actually just reminded me before we wrap this up,

754
00:37:33,440 --> 00:37:34,799
Speaker 1: I personally just want to know this.

755
00:37:34,840 --> 00:37:40,239
Speaker 3: You're pregnant. No, I'm not surprised.

756
00:37:41,320 --> 00:37:42,160
Speaker 2: I'm definitely not.

757
00:37:43,480 --> 00:37:46,359
Speaker 1: What were your first impressions when you met my mum

758
00:37:46,360 --> 00:37:46,759
Speaker 1: and dad?

759
00:37:48,800 --> 00:37:50,000
Speaker 3: Was that Ohen's wedding?

760
00:37:50,960 --> 00:37:51,120
Speaker 2: No?

761
00:37:51,320 --> 00:37:52,160
Speaker 3: No, basketball?

762
00:37:52,440 --> 00:37:52,920
Speaker 2: That's right?

763
00:37:53,040 --> 00:37:56,359
Speaker 3: Yeah, so I met your dad or had I met

764
00:37:56,400 --> 00:37:56,680
Speaker 3: your dad?

765
00:37:56,680 --> 00:37:58,280
Speaker 1: I think you've met him before a family dinner?

766
00:37:58,360 --> 00:38:02,600
Speaker 3: Ah? Okay, yeah, your mum I met at the basketball

767
00:38:03,239 --> 00:38:06,040
Speaker 3: when Kate was working at the basketball and we got tickets.

768
00:38:06,640 --> 00:38:10,680
Speaker 3: I recall that she acted quite coy and played it

769
00:38:10,719 --> 00:38:13,759
Speaker 3: pretty cool. And I know she listens to this and

770
00:38:13,960 --> 00:38:16,040
Speaker 3: I have told her this before. We've had a joke

771
00:38:16,080 --> 00:38:18,600
Speaker 3: about it, and it's knowing her like I know now

772
00:38:18,640 --> 00:38:21,560
Speaker 3: she did very very well and suppressed herself.

773
00:38:21,520 --> 00:38:24,920
Speaker 1: Because you thought her mum didn't really know anything about you.

774
00:38:24,920 --> 00:38:28,160
Speaker 3: No, I was just like, oh, okay, maybe she'd maybe

775
00:38:28,480 --> 00:38:30,680
Speaker 3: Amy hadn't quite mentioned something to her yet. That would

776
00:38:30,719 --> 00:38:32,920
Speaker 3: be my approach, and I think that's maybe a boy approach.

777
00:38:33,120 --> 00:38:36,480
Speaker 1: Flash back to Christmas Eve twenty seventeen, when we were

778
00:38:36,480 --> 00:38:38,359
Speaker 1: discussing you and trying to work out what was wrong

779
00:38:38,360 --> 00:38:40,480
Speaker 1: with you. Then I received the text message saying you

780
00:38:40,480 --> 00:38:42,360
Speaker 1: were going to Sitney and I was like, right, okay,

781
00:38:42,400 --> 00:38:44,160
Speaker 1: this is what is wrong.

782
00:38:43,920 --> 00:38:45,520
Speaker 2: With the dream boat.

783
00:38:45,960 --> 00:38:48,239
Speaker 1: What about Dad? Because I feel like we've spoken about

784
00:38:48,280 --> 00:38:51,480
Speaker 1: Dad on the podcast before. He I feel like he'd

785
00:38:51,480 --> 00:38:55,080
Speaker 1: be quite an intimidating figure to meet as someone's dad

786
00:38:55,160 --> 00:38:58,120
Speaker 1: first off. But he's an old softy really he is.

787
00:38:58,200 --> 00:39:05,760
Speaker 3: He's an interesting character. I suppose we have some common interests,

788
00:39:05,800 --> 00:39:10,920
Speaker 3: being some travel aspects and I don't know, just just

789
00:39:11,280 --> 00:39:15,560
Speaker 3: general older things. He loves, like anything to do with travel.

790
00:39:16,080 --> 00:39:19,760
Speaker 3: He loves loves a wine and once again and alcoholic

791
00:39:19,800 --> 00:39:24,360
Speaker 3: beverage being a wine a winge clarified and oh actually

792
00:39:24,680 --> 00:39:27,600
Speaker 3: he doesn't wingey. He just writes letters to the editor. Yeah.

793
00:39:27,840 --> 00:39:29,440
Speaker 1: I don't think we mentioned this the other day, but

794
00:39:29,480 --> 00:39:31,920
Speaker 1: it was hilarious because Dad wrote a letter to the

795
00:39:32,040 --> 00:39:35,000
Speaker 1: editor about how he was so happy to receive his

796
00:39:35,080 --> 00:39:39,880
Speaker 1: Astrozeneka vaccine, and he got a six page letter in

797
00:39:39,960 --> 00:39:43,600
Speaker 1: his letter box. Someone tracked him down from an anti vaxer.

798
00:39:43,840 --> 00:39:46,840
Speaker 1: I mean, is that not just I found it hilarious

799
00:39:46,840 --> 00:39:49,880
Speaker 1: because there's so many anti vaxers abusing people through social media,

800
00:39:49,960 --> 00:39:51,719
Speaker 1: but this anti vax is gone. No, I'm going to

801
00:39:51,760 --> 00:39:53,360
Speaker 1: send them a six page letter.

802
00:39:54,120 --> 00:39:56,239
Speaker 3: That's how did they find them? Assume that they just

803
00:39:56,239 --> 00:39:58,760
Speaker 3: pulled out is the white pages and things still pages?

804
00:39:58,880 --> 00:40:00,719
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah they did. They found him in the

805
00:40:00,840 --> 00:40:02,640
Speaker 1: in the in the yellow pages.

806
00:40:02,760 --> 00:40:06,200
Speaker 3: So so answer your question, I think it was just

807
00:40:06,680 --> 00:40:11,040
Speaker 3: general interests. Yeah, yeah, fortunately, I just well, I'd like

808
00:40:11,080 --> 00:40:12,160
Speaker 3: to think I got along with them.

809
00:40:12,239 --> 00:40:13,800
Speaker 1: Well, I think that's what we've got time for, because

810
00:40:13,840 --> 00:40:16,719
Speaker 1: Dale and I have got a big night of activity.

811
00:40:18,440 --> 00:40:21,600
Speaker 3: I don't even say that seriously, No, we do.

812
00:40:21,680 --> 00:40:24,200
Speaker 1: We've got our puzzle, We've got our thousand piece puzzle.

813
00:40:24,520 --> 00:40:26,360
Speaker 1: We'll just send I have to do some updates on

814
00:40:26,400 --> 00:40:30,279
Speaker 1: the Outspoken Instagram account about it, and we also have

815
00:40:30,280 --> 00:40:32,560
Speaker 1: a finished the last one, No we didn't, but this one,

816
00:40:32,600 --> 00:40:34,320
Speaker 1: this is a photo Dale got it printed.

817
00:40:34,480 --> 00:40:35,520
Speaker 3: We finished the last one.

818
00:40:35,640 --> 00:40:38,479
Speaker 1: Oh sorry, the cat's weed in the puzzle box last time.

819
00:40:38,680 --> 00:40:40,759
Speaker 1: This one, though, is really cool. It's a photo of

820
00:40:40,840 --> 00:40:44,080
Speaker 1: Dale and I in a Christmas setting. So we'll definitely

821
00:40:44,120 --> 00:40:46,160
Speaker 1: be finishing it because Dale wants to frame it. And

822
00:40:46,200 --> 00:40:49,640
Speaker 1: then we're doing a quiz night with Kate and Reese

823
00:40:49,640 --> 00:40:52,239
Speaker 1: and Sophie and Brandon and we've got a dress up

824
00:40:52,239 --> 00:40:54,120
Speaker 1: for it. So Dale, this is going to be out

825
00:40:54,160 --> 00:40:55,799
Speaker 1: after the quiz night. What are we going to wear

826
00:40:55,800 --> 00:40:56,400
Speaker 1: to the quiz night?

827
00:40:56,520 --> 00:40:57,319
Speaker 3: Didn't you have an idea?

828
00:40:57,440 --> 00:40:59,600
Speaker 2: Or yeah? Yeah? No?

829
00:41:00,120 --> 00:41:05,320
Speaker 1: Going to bed Penguins in hockey in NHL, Yeah yeah,

830
00:41:05,360 --> 00:41:06,560
Speaker 1: So we're a little bit concerned.

831
00:41:06,920 --> 00:41:08,960
Speaker 3: Who's your favorite Penguins player? Out of interest?

832
00:41:09,360 --> 00:41:11,600
Speaker 1: I don't know any of them, but I just love penguins.

833
00:41:12,040 --> 00:41:13,800
Speaker 1: So we're going to be have a penguin hockey.

834
00:41:14,320 --> 00:41:15,520
Speaker 3: No you don't like hockey?

835
00:41:15,560 --> 00:41:17,960
Speaker 1: No, no, we're going to have a penguin I just

836
00:41:18,000 --> 00:41:18,719
Speaker 1: don't watch it a lot.

837
00:41:19,080 --> 00:41:22,279
Speaker 3: Sorry. Can you imagine me on this constantly? Would you

838
00:41:22,280 --> 00:41:23,120
Speaker 3: get anything done?

839
00:41:23,440 --> 00:41:26,080
Speaker 1: Well, we were talking about doing our own tangent. We're

840
00:41:26,080 --> 00:41:28,840
Speaker 1: talking about doing our own crime podcast. Man't we a

841
00:41:28,880 --> 00:41:29,680
Speaker 1: true crime one?

842
00:41:29,719 --> 00:41:30,759
Speaker 2: But I don't know.

843
00:41:30,800 --> 00:41:34,040
Speaker 1: We'll see if people enjoying us talking together about this crap.

844
00:41:34,080 --> 00:41:36,600
Speaker 1: And then, so thank you Dale for joining us.

845
00:41:36,800 --> 00:41:38,040
Speaker 2: We do appreciate it.

846
00:41:38,520 --> 00:41:39,000
Speaker 1: That's all right.

847
00:41:40,560 --> 00:41:40,960
Speaker 3: Thank you