WEBVTT - FULL SHOW: Can you ask your partner to change their look? 0:00:10.379 --> 0:00:14.219 Hi Heart podcasts, hear more Kiss podcast playlist and listen 0:00:14.259 --> 0:00:16.099 live on the Free iHeart app. 0:00:19.459 --> 0:00:23.299 Good pickup with Britt Hockley and Laura Burn. Baby or 0:00:23.339 --> 0:00:27.699 what our windows down? That's my worries in the dust? 0:00:27.859 --> 0:00:29.579 Only good fabs dog all down. 0:00:30.619 --> 0:00:34.979 I've done much but yeah, I know I'll big get. 0:00:34.659 --> 0:00:35.619 And what I want. 0:00:35.899 --> 0:00:38.818 It don't matter where that gone. This is the pickup. 0:00:39.299 --> 0:00:41.979 Happy Monday, everybody, Well, Monday afternoon. 0:00:42.019 --> 0:00:43.699 It's the pick up with Britt Hockey and Laura Burn. 0:00:43.899 --> 0:00:46.499 Monday afternoon is still a Monday, Laura, No, but I 0:00:46.499 --> 0:00:48.739 don't think you can say happy Monday in the afternoon 0:00:48.779 --> 0:00:51.379 because everyone's already done it in the morning. 0:00:52.459 --> 0:00:54.939 But but surely by midday people like, shut up, it's Monday. 0:00:54.939 --> 0:00:55.979 We've got the rest of the week to go. 0:00:56.099 --> 0:00:58.179 It's happier now because they've just checked out of work, 0:00:58.259 --> 0:01:00.019 like people on the way home. They're going to pick 0:01:00.059 --> 0:01:00.739 their kids up. 0:01:00.739 --> 0:01:04.099 That's happy. Thanks Britt, you're the one that brought them down. 0:01:04.499 --> 0:01:07.779 Happy Monday everyone, Hey, you know what's happy? This is 0:01:07.779 --> 0:01:10.259 so cute. So my sister Sherry has been living in 0:01:10.259 --> 0:01:12.898 Scotland for the better part of two years, but over 0:01:12.938 --> 0:01:14.979 two years, and she recently, in the last two weeks, 0:01:15.059 --> 0:01:17.499 moved home and she's got her little daughter, Maya, who 0:01:17.578 --> 0:01:21.338 is about eight months old, and her and Ben spend 0:01:21.339 --> 0:01:23.619 a lot of time together overseas because my fiancee, Ben 0:01:23.699 --> 0:01:24.939 also lives overseas. 0:01:25.259 --> 0:01:26.259 So long story. 0:01:26.059 --> 0:01:29.499 Short, Ben and Maya FaceTime like a lot. 0:01:29.539 --> 0:01:31.739 That's how they say contact, which is funny because it's 0:01:32.098 --> 0:01:34.378 very sweet. There's not a lot of contact between eight 0:01:34.378 --> 0:01:37.419 months old. I wonder who's doing the calling. Maya calls 0:01:37.458 --> 0:01:39.779 him in the morning. No, she's really clocked inner. Isn't 0:01:39.818 --> 0:01:41.219 she really smart for her age. 0:01:41.539 --> 0:01:45.298 Just yesterday he taught her how to stick her tongue out, 0:01:45.339 --> 0:01:47.739 like just just by face time, like he'll make face that. 0:01:47.939 --> 0:01:49.499 He kept sticking the tongue out, and then she started 0:01:49.539 --> 0:01:50.258 to copy him. 0:01:50.499 --> 0:01:51.739 She has stuck her tongue out. 0:01:51.779 --> 0:01:53.459 Now she's like a lizard. 0:01:53.819 --> 0:01:58.139 For the last probably thirty five hours, every ten seconds, 0:01:58.139 --> 0:01:59.019 the tongue. 0:01:58.779 --> 0:02:00.739 Now it's just going around. It's just like flicking out, 0:02:00.739 --> 0:02:01.258 flicking out. 0:02:01.299 --> 0:02:03.779 Because whenever they learn a new trick, then they just 0:02:03.779 --> 0:02:06.459 do it on repeat. I remember when when Marley learned shockface, 0:02:06.499 --> 0:02:09.019 so we'd say shop face and she and she'd do 0:02:09.059 --> 0:02:10.578 it anywhere didn't matter what we were doing. 0:02:10.819 --> 0:02:13.339 You say shock face, and it was it would never 0:02:13.339 --> 0:02:13.699 get old. 0:02:13.859 --> 0:02:15.499 It's like she just found the tongue, so now it's 0:02:15.499 --> 0:02:17.138 all she She just won't keep in her mouth anymore. 0:02:17.138 --> 0:02:23.059 It's very, very all right question, Laura. I'm getting married 0:02:23.138 --> 0:02:27.059 pretty soon. My fiance Ben and I have very different 0:02:27.138 --> 0:02:31.579 ideas on how we like each other's hair basically, so like, 0:02:31.659 --> 0:02:33.579 he doesn't like my hair short, he doesn't like me 0:02:33.619 --> 0:02:37.258 with a fringe. I hate his hair with short back 0:02:37.258 --> 0:02:37.779 and sides. 0:02:38.099 --> 0:02:40.179 You guys have a lot to say on each other's 0:02:40.179 --> 0:02:41.579 personal grooming preferences. 0:02:41.659 --> 0:02:43.978 Well, this is my husband cares about as if I've 0:02:43.978 --> 0:02:47.899 showered or not. Yeah, because I do. I do, just 0:02:47.939 --> 0:02:48.659 not enough for him. 0:02:49.059 --> 0:02:52.339 So I Ben's hair right, my fiancees hair, he really 0:02:52.418 --> 0:02:55.379 likes to have. It's like a European style. He's really 0:02:55.379 --> 0:02:57.458 big on the short back in sides. He loves to 0:02:57.538 --> 0:02:59.339 keep it really really short, and I think he looks 0:02:59.538 --> 0:03:02.499 really handsome with a little bit longer hair. I don't 0:03:02.499 --> 0:03:05.179 like when you can see the scalp of the white 0:03:05.179 --> 0:03:07.698 scalp through the hair, and that's how short he has it, right, 0:03:07.939 --> 0:03:11.499 And I have been begging him since I have met him, 0:03:11.499 --> 0:03:14.018 I'm like, just keep it a tiny bit longer. I'm talking, 0:03:14.138 --> 0:03:16.179 this kid gets his hair cut once a week. 0:03:16.538 --> 0:03:19.739 The groomy that he very aggressive. That's an aggressive amount 0:03:19.779 --> 0:03:21.538 of hair cutting. Also seems expensive. 0:03:21.819 --> 0:03:24.779 Well, he says that he has really fast growing hair, 0:03:24.939 --> 0:03:27.059 and I was like, I don't think further that is true. 0:03:27.418 --> 0:03:29.659 So I've been begging him since I've met him to 0:03:29.698 --> 0:03:31.819 just grow it a little bit longer because it's my preference. 0:03:31.859 --> 0:03:34.299 But now we're coming to crunch time, like the wedding 0:03:34.418 --> 0:03:36.859 is coming up, and we've started to get into a 0:03:36.899 --> 0:03:39.899 bit of an argument. Because I thought that come like 0:03:40.099 --> 0:03:42.738 the quote unquote biggest day of our life, when we 0:03:42.819 --> 0:03:45.499 have to stand up at the altar half a meter apart, 0:03:45.619 --> 0:03:48.619 holding hands, looking into each other's eyes, professing our love 0:03:48.659 --> 0:03:50.299 and saying that like you're the person I want to 0:03:50.299 --> 0:03:52.779 be with the rest of my life. I thought he 0:03:52.819 --> 0:03:55.659 would give a little bit and have the hairstyle that 0:03:55.699 --> 0:03:57.539 I want. And he has said We've had this huge 0:03:57.539 --> 0:04:00.419 fight today and he has said that he absolutely will 0:04:00.499 --> 0:04:03.659 not throw his hair. Do you think I am being 0:04:03.739 --> 0:04:05.659 the ahole for like asking. 0:04:05.579 --> 0:04:06.779 A couple of meals? I do? 0:04:06.979 --> 0:04:10.618 However, I all I so remember about eight months ago 0:04:10.699 --> 0:04:14.499 when you had ready orange hair and Ben's first reaction was, 0:04:14.539 --> 0:04:16.739 please don't have that color hair for the wedding. He 0:04:16.819 --> 0:04:18.459 loved it, but he didn't want it for the wedding. 0:04:18.539 --> 0:04:20.219 So why was my response, Laura, Well, I think it 0:04:20.259 --> 0:04:21.939 takes two to tango. If he's going to give some 0:04:21.939 --> 0:04:24.379 sort of like preference on how you look at the wedding, 0:04:24.779 --> 0:04:26.659 then I think you can do the same. But I 0:04:26.659 --> 0:04:27.979 would like it to be known that I think it's 0:04:27.979 --> 0:04:29.779 weird that either of you are giving preferences about how 0:04:29.819 --> 0:04:30.659 you should look at the wedding. 0:04:30.779 --> 0:04:33.019 But then my response to that was, of course, love 0:04:33.299 --> 0:04:34.779 however you want to look, go into the hair dresser 0:04:34.779 --> 0:04:37.539 this afternoon, no doubt you know I love the hairdresser. 0:04:37.739 --> 0:04:40.659 I I don't want to be in the middle of 0:04:40.739 --> 0:04:41.219 your argument. 0:04:41.259 --> 0:04:42.379 If you want my real opinion. 0:04:42.539 --> 0:04:44.659 It's not like I'm demanding it, But I don't think 0:04:44.659 --> 0:04:47.699 it's unreasonable to like talk to your partner and say, like, 0:04:48.419 --> 0:04:50.219 you don't have to do what someone has said, right, 0:04:50.219 --> 0:04:52.899 But if somebody has a preference on something, when it's 0:04:52.939 --> 0:04:55.419 the difference between a tiny little bit more hair, like 0:04:55.459 --> 0:04:57.339 that's it. I'm like, I prefer to look at you 0:04:57.699 --> 0:05:00.339 with a bit more hair, like, can you do me? 0:05:00.379 --> 0:05:03.139 Because it when you have least time repulsed by you? Look, 0:05:03.219 --> 0:05:04.459 I don't. 0:05:04.819 --> 0:05:07.099 It's weird to me that you guys have argued about this. 0:05:07.259 --> 0:05:09.659 But I do understand that there are definitely things that 0:05:09.739 --> 0:05:12.739 you might like in your partner more than other things. 0:05:12.779 --> 0:05:14.499 So for example, I love it where my husband has 0:05:14.499 --> 0:05:17.179 a hairy chest. Love a hairy chest. I think that 0:05:17.179 --> 0:05:19.619 that is that is peak Maddy Jay. When he has 0:05:19.659 --> 0:05:22.539 a full hairy chest, does he wax it? He clips 0:05:22.579 --> 0:05:25.019 it because he finds a hairy chest not very comfortable. 0:05:25.019 --> 0:05:27.339 He thinks it's to be itchy, so he often clips it. 0:05:27.379 --> 0:05:29.539 But then every so often we meet a compromise where 0:05:29.539 --> 0:05:32.179 he just lets it grow wild just for me, and 0:05:32.219 --> 0:05:32.939 then that will be like. 0:05:32.939 --> 0:05:35.259 Three weeks, and then he'll clip it again in a 0:05:35.299 --> 0:05:37.179 couple of months. He does it. 0:05:37.219 --> 0:05:39.299 He does it knowing, But like I think, you can 0:05:39.339 --> 0:05:41.179 have a preference and you're allowed to voice that, but 0:05:41.219 --> 0:05:43.219 you also should not care. 0:05:43.059 --> 0:05:44.979 That much if your partner doesn't do it. I don't know. 0:05:45.019 --> 0:05:46.619 I just I've got to look at these photos the 0:05:46.659 --> 0:05:48.819 rest of my life, like these are our wedding photos. 0:05:48.859 --> 0:05:50.739 They're probably gonna be blown up on my wall. I 0:05:50.819 --> 0:05:52.259 just want to froth it, like I want to look 0:05:52.299 --> 0:05:55.339 at him and be like yeah, like you know, no, 0:05:55.499 --> 0:05:57.659 I don't know. Well, I was hoping you lost me 0:05:57.699 --> 0:06:00.219 it froth sorry, guys. To be honest, I was hoping 0:06:00.219 --> 0:06:01.739 you'd be more on my side and that I could 0:06:01.779 --> 0:06:02.659 then send him. 0:06:02.539 --> 0:06:04.539 This radio break. That's what I was hoping would happen. 0:06:05.059 --> 0:06:05.459 I don't know. 0:06:05.579 --> 0:06:07.419 I think I'm gonna keep waning in. I did try 0:06:07.419 --> 0:06:09.099 to bribe him. I did say I will cut a 0:06:09.139 --> 0:06:11.659 fringe if he cuts his hair for the wedding because 0:06:11.659 --> 0:06:12.219 he doesn't. 0:06:12.099 --> 0:06:14.019 Like my fruit. Just go back to being orange. 0:06:14.419 --> 0:06:16.419 Oh yeah, actually that's a good threat. If I went 0:06:16.459 --> 0:06:18.179 back to being orange, I reckon he grow it out? 0:06:18.259 --> 0:06:19.859 Good, got it? That's what I'm gonna do. All right, 0:06:19.899 --> 0:06:24.219 all of you guys. 0:06:24.939 --> 0:06:27.659 Now, today we are joined by five times Loki winner 0:06:27.699 --> 0:06:31.539 and one of Australia's most beloved actresses, Ashaketty. Now, if 0:06:31.579 --> 0:06:33.419 you haven't heard of Ashaketty, I'm sure you have. But 0:06:33.459 --> 0:06:36.299 Asha has a reputation of playing some incredibly complex and 0:06:36.379 --> 0:06:39.939 ladd strong female characters. You would probably know her best 0:06:40.019 --> 0:06:42.899 from her role in Offspring, but also one of my favorites, 0:06:42.979 --> 0:06:45.899 which was Nine Perfect Strangers, and she's now back as 0:06:45.899 --> 0:06:48.219 Evelyn Jones in season two of Strive. 0:06:48.499 --> 0:06:49.619 It's a brilliant chat. 0:06:49.699 --> 0:06:53.579 Take a listen. Now, you've been acting since you were 0:06:53.899 --> 0:06:55.619 a teenager, and I am going to say I was. 0:06:56.059 --> 0:06:57.139 I am a super fan. 0:06:57.459 --> 0:07:01.059 You're obviously a mum to two, You're very successful, You're 0:07:01.059 --> 0:07:04.099 still working a lot. Do you think you can have 0:07:04.179 --> 0:07:05.939 it all? Do you think you can do both concurrently 0:07:06.019 --> 0:07:08.139 or what do you think it takes to live that life. 0:07:08.219 --> 0:07:10.819 I just don't put that expectation on myself or any 0:07:10.859 --> 0:07:14.499 of the women or men in my life at all. 0:07:14.659 --> 0:07:18.379 I think it's completely elusive. I've said before I think 0:07:18.419 --> 0:07:20.819 that the notion is bullshit. I just don't get I 0:07:20.859 --> 0:07:24.459 don't understand the I'm sorry she'll reject your question in 0:07:24.499 --> 0:07:28.139 that way, but I suppose I feel strongly that you mean. 0:07:28.099 --> 0:07:33.739 Bullshit of the saying having it all is bullshit or what'shit. 0:07:32.939 --> 0:07:36.659 The notion that we can have it all and someone 0:07:36.779 --> 0:07:42.419 might be this extraordinary super human person to be able 0:07:42.459 --> 0:07:45.699 to balance all the bulls in the air all of 0:07:45.739 --> 0:07:48.619 the time, I think is crazy and it's a terrible expectation. 0:07:48.739 --> 0:07:50.419 That we place on ourselves and other people. 0:07:50.579 --> 0:07:52.459 Yeah, and we look in, we look in from the 0:07:52.459 --> 0:07:54.579 outside and we go, well, that person's successful, they have 0:07:54.659 --> 0:07:58.059 a seemingly beautiful, happy family life. They must be doing 0:07:58.099 --> 0:07:59.739 it all all the same time. And I think it's 0:07:59.739 --> 0:08:02.939 an observation rather than a reality. But actually, something you 0:08:02.939 --> 0:08:05.019 said when you were describing strife, you said, like the 0:08:05.099 --> 0:08:06.819 mum guilt and you're like something that we just all 0:08:06.979 --> 0:08:08.979 we all experience and you kind of talking. 0:08:08.819 --> 0:08:10.299 About it from a character perspective. 0:08:10.659 --> 0:08:13.299 But then also that statement, even though it was just 0:08:13.739 --> 0:08:15.979 like a little bit like off the calf, it is 0:08:16.179 --> 0:08:18.859 the reality is, especially when you're when you're you know, 0:08:19.099 --> 0:08:21.299 a career driven person and you're also a mom at 0:08:21.339 --> 0:08:25.139 the same time, like those feelings, that duplicity. 0:08:24.579 --> 0:08:26.579 Happens and no one can escape it. 0:08:26.699 --> 0:08:28.779 No, Well, the kids are ever present, aren't they. I 0:08:28.779 --> 0:08:31.139 mean they are in my mind always. I was just 0:08:31.179 --> 0:08:34.539 doing an interview earlier this morning, and my little one 0:08:35.019 --> 0:08:37.899 val asked me if I had just wink just once 0:08:37.979 --> 0:08:41.619 in the ensuing the interview. True, And I this was 0:08:41.699 --> 0:08:43.739 last night before I got on the plane to come here, 0:08:43.819 --> 0:08:47.499 and I said, I'll try and remember daring the live 0:08:47.619 --> 0:08:51.179 television in the morning is very very fast, and I'm 0:08:51.219 --> 0:08:53.779 talking about strife and I may not be able to 0:08:53.819 --> 0:08:55.099 squeeze it in, but I'll try. 0:08:55.899 --> 0:08:58.339 And of course you get a wink. I know I forgot. 0:08:58.379 --> 0:08:59.899 Why don't you do it right now? We can send 0:08:59.939 --> 0:09:03.499 him the video. There you go, hi, baby. 0:09:04.659 --> 0:09:07.259 But I you know, they are ever present and this 0:09:07.379 --> 0:09:09.699 is just that pool all the time, and I love it, 0:09:09.779 --> 0:09:11.819 like I want it. I want to feel like that 0:09:12.099 --> 0:09:15.739 about the kids. But when you've got to focus, you know, 0:09:16.059 --> 0:09:20.499 on something that's really intense, like a particular day at 0:09:20.539 --> 0:09:23.939 work as an actor might be very intense and ask 0:09:24.259 --> 0:09:27.539 a lot psychologically, and but you're still trying to work 0:09:27.579 --> 0:09:29.739 out the soccer run that makes sure someone at home 0:09:29.739 --> 0:09:32.139 in there don't don't forget to pick them up and 0:09:32.179 --> 0:09:34.419 the you know. So that's the juggle, isn't it. And 0:09:34.499 --> 0:09:37.059 it's the same in any industry, I'm sure for any 0:09:37.139 --> 0:09:38.139 parent working. 0:09:38.579 --> 0:09:40.859 Yeah, but that's the thing that is beautifully relatable. 0:09:40.899 --> 0:09:43.179 You know, we're like even sitting here doing this all today, 0:09:43.499 --> 0:09:45.219 we were like, okay, we're back to back, but I 0:09:45.259 --> 0:09:46.739 have to leave it this time because I have to 0:09:46.739 --> 0:09:47.499 go and get the kids. 0:09:47.579 --> 0:09:49.419 So I was like, I might be walking out of 0:09:49.419 --> 0:09:51.139 the middle of an interview. Yeah that's today. 0:09:51.979 --> 0:09:54.979 Yeah, yeah, we're. 0:09:54.859 --> 0:09:56.819 Early in the day. But I said the same thing, 0:09:56.819 --> 0:09:58.339 and I was like, cool, you go and I'll just 0:09:58.419 --> 0:09:58.699 do it. 0:09:58.739 --> 0:10:00.499 Like I don't have kids, I've got nothing to run 0:10:00.539 --> 0:10:02.779 home too. So I was like, that's the balance, right, 0:10:02.819 --> 0:10:05.259 But it also takes I think, and I say this, 0:10:05.459 --> 0:10:08.699 looking at you, Laura with Matt and your kids, makes 0:10:08.739 --> 0:10:12.259 a partner that's also willing to make some sacrifices to 0:10:12.339 --> 0:10:14.458 allow you to go back to work again. 0:10:14.699 --> 0:10:16.819 It makes life a lot easier when you have a 0:10:16.859 --> 0:10:19.859 partner that shows up with parody and actually like does 0:10:20.059 --> 0:10:22.099 the parenting as well alongside you, and you're not left 0:10:22.099 --> 0:10:23.899 to do everything. I think for the people who have 0:10:23.939 --> 0:10:26.579 to experience that, that's a whole different ballgame. But yeah, 0:10:26.659 --> 0:10:28.578 I mean I think that there isn't a woman out 0:10:28.619 --> 0:10:31.619 there who is juggling motherhood alongside a career that wouldn't 0:10:31.619 --> 0:10:32.619 relate to those feelings. 0:10:32.739 --> 0:10:34.339 Dyes, of course. Yeah. 0:10:34.499 --> 0:10:36.379 Yeah, you want to care, you want to put as 0:10:36.419 --> 0:10:38.419 much I mean, I want to invest as much time 0:10:38.459 --> 0:10:42.579 in all my relationships, whether they're personal or professional, including 0:10:42.579 --> 0:10:45.259 the children. It's not easy to do that and I 0:10:45.259 --> 0:10:46.499 don't know if it's possible. 0:10:48.099 --> 0:10:49.459 Now, Laura, we. 0:10:49.379 --> 0:10:51.859 All know that my wedding is impending. 0:10:51.899 --> 0:10:52.499 In the next. 0:10:52.499 --> 0:10:55.139 Marriage, I know it's so shocking. Wait, what am I 0:10:55.179 --> 0:10:56.338 going to talk about once I'm married? 0:10:56.739 --> 0:10:59.059 I don't know. Honestly, we're going to be content dry 0:10:59.099 --> 0:10:59.578 after that. 0:10:59.939 --> 0:11:03.259 Well, I was thinking, I am very lucky that I 0:11:03.299 --> 0:11:06.379 have someone very close to me that is like the 0:11:06.419 --> 0:11:08.738 mother source of long term relationship. 0:11:08.739 --> 0:11:10.139 But she's literally the mother sauce. 0:11:10.179 --> 0:11:13.499 She's my mole relationships, my source of nutrients in the womb, 0:11:13.579 --> 0:11:15.739 my mom, Nicky Hockley Mom. 0:11:15.859 --> 0:11:16.619 I have her on the. 0:11:16.539 --> 0:11:19.099 Line because I wanted to get some advice from her mom. 0:11:19.259 --> 0:11:23.259 Welcome to the pickup, Oh thank you. The reason why 0:11:23.259 --> 0:11:25.739 we say the mother source of all marital advice is 0:11:25.779 --> 0:11:29.699 because you've been married for forty eight years, nearly fifty years. 0:11:29.939 --> 0:11:31.619 It'd be too hard to start again now. 0:11:31.659 --> 0:11:34.619 Anyways, that's your advice, stick it out. 0:11:34.779 --> 0:11:36.578 Do you know what I think people are lying if 0:11:36.579 --> 0:11:39.819 they say everything's gone smoothly so that long, because it doesn't. 0:11:39.619 --> 0:11:41.859 Well, knowing that your little girl Britney is going to 0:11:41.899 --> 0:11:44.379 walk down the aisle soon, what would be if you 0:11:44.379 --> 0:11:46.939 could give some wedding advice or some marriage advice more 0:11:46.979 --> 0:11:47.819 than wedding advice. 0:11:47.979 --> 0:11:49.098 What would it look like? 0:11:50.059 --> 0:11:52.659 Well, look, I think sex, sex and sex is probably 0:11:52.739 --> 0:11:56.539 number one. I think every couple is different and every 0:11:56.579 --> 0:11:59.059 couple has their own unique way of making marriage works. 0:11:59.179 --> 0:12:02.579 But I guess the universal tip would be, you know, 0:12:02.739 --> 0:12:05.459 compromise a lot. I don't think there's any set rule 0:12:05.539 --> 0:12:07.979 for a successful marriage. I really don't. We're lucky, we 0:12:08.059 --> 0:12:10.099 get along really well. We always said we'd be best 0:12:10.099 --> 0:12:12.179 friends even if we didn't get married. Did you think 0:12:12.219 --> 0:12:13.219 that we're very lucky? 0:12:13.419 --> 0:12:16.419 Was there every time that you guys thought maybe the 0:12:16.419 --> 0:12:17.939 marriage was over for some reason? 0:12:17.979 --> 0:12:20.059 And I'm saying this based off like I wouldn't know. 0:12:20.099 --> 0:12:22.459 I've never seen you guys argue, but I imagine over 0:12:22.539 --> 0:12:23.739 fifty years there's got. 0:12:23.659 --> 0:12:26.059 To be points of there was a time. I think 0:12:26.059 --> 0:12:28.419 we both had our doubts. But you do have to 0:12:28.419 --> 0:12:31.179 work hard. You know that's an old expression as well, 0:12:31.459 --> 0:12:33.659 you have to work to make a marriage work, But 0:12:33.859 --> 0:12:35.219 you do, you have to work hard. 0:12:35.739 --> 0:12:38.819 I always find it like so like inspiring when couples 0:12:38.819 --> 0:12:41.419 can say, you know, it's spiraled right down to the 0:12:41.419 --> 0:12:43.379 bottom and then we spiraled back up, and look at 0:12:43.459 --> 0:12:46.699 us now, you know, fifty years on and still able 0:12:46.739 --> 0:12:48.779 to you know, stay able to love each other, not 0:12:48.899 --> 0:12:52.699 just be you know, co parenting or co living together, cohabitating, 0:12:53.139 --> 0:12:55.299 but really like having a fulfilling relationship. I think that's 0:12:55.299 --> 0:12:56.779 something that's very very inspirational. 0:12:56.859 --> 0:12:58.739 Also as an observer, I guess. 0:12:58.539 --> 0:13:01.339 We spiral down and we spiraled up, and it was 0:13:01.379 --> 0:13:05.099 so worth it. It was so worth working to spiral 0:13:05.219 --> 0:13:06.339 up and get to the top again. 0:13:06.539 --> 0:13:08.539 I do know that one thing that Dad said to 0:13:08.579 --> 0:13:11.379 me once was that some of the best times of 0:13:11.379 --> 0:13:15.739 your relationship came after the worst times, like after it 0:13:15.819 --> 0:13:17.099 was at the very bottom. 0:13:17.179 --> 0:13:18.339 He said, if we didn't stick. 0:13:18.179 --> 0:13:20.059 That out, we wouldn't have had the better parts that 0:13:20.099 --> 0:13:21.139 came later, which is I think. 0:13:20.979 --> 0:13:24.099 You're right, and that is very true. I'd agree with that. 0:13:24.219 --> 0:13:26.619 On a more superficial level, just as the observer, I'd 0:13:26.619 --> 0:13:28.819 probably say, like one of the keys your relationships was 0:13:28.819 --> 0:13:30.419 having your own living rooms because you watch your own 0:13:30.459 --> 0:13:32.458 TV shows, like they have two different TVs. 0:13:32.539 --> 0:13:33.739 Mum watches a British crime. 0:13:35.659 --> 0:13:38.259 Yeah, but we only do that now after children have gone. 0:13:38.299 --> 0:13:40.059 When they were little, when you were all little, we 0:13:40.259 --> 0:13:43.059 all the six of us that squashed up on one 0:13:43.179 --> 0:13:45.819 lounge and we're all made to watch something someone else 0:13:45.859 --> 0:13:47.779 wanted to watch. I mean, that's just a little thing, 0:13:47.859 --> 0:13:48.859 but it's true. 0:13:49.139 --> 0:13:49.779 Do you know what I mean? 0:13:51.299 --> 0:13:53.339 You can only hope have a long marriage like you 0:13:53.379 --> 0:13:53.979 and Dad had. 0:13:54.659 --> 0:13:57.939 Do you know what? Knowing Ben and knowing you, I 0:13:57.939 --> 0:14:00.458 think you have got it. Actually, you two. I really 0:14:00.499 --> 0:14:00.979 believe that. 0:14:01.779 --> 0:14:01.899 I do. 0:14:02.219 --> 0:14:04.139 That makes you want to cry because you're never emotional 0:14:04.139 --> 0:14:05.499 and you never say anything nice to me. 0:14:06.739 --> 0:14:09.059 Oh's ridiculous. 0:14:09.459 --> 0:14:12.539 It makes me emotional because genuinely you are. 0:14:12.739 --> 0:14:15.819 I genuinely believe that. I just think, as I said, 0:14:15.819 --> 0:14:19.059 knowing Ben and I know you, and I've seen you together, 0:14:19.299 --> 0:14:21.579 and I really believe you two are going to make it. 0:14:21.619 --> 0:14:23.299 I think you've got a lovely relationship. 0:14:23.459 --> 0:14:26.379 He's my squid, all right than you feel squid. 0:14:26.419 --> 0:14:29.059 I think that's all right. That's what was help for. 0:14:29.899 --> 0:14:31.619 Thanks, Thanks for the advice, Nibby. 0:14:32.699 --> 0:14:35.899 No worries, Laura or nice to talk to you, see 0:14:36.019 --> 0:14:38.779 nice to talk to you too, say you pretty, Bud, 0:14:38.899 --> 0:14:41.299 I love you, they go, brit All you got to 0:14:41.339 --> 0:14:43.139 do is yeah, some choice. 0:14:43.179 --> 0:14:45.539 Advice is to start there, but also say sorry. I 0:14:45.579 --> 0:14:46.659 mean she's so cute. 0:14:46.699 --> 0:14:49.499 They really are I do feel genuinely so lucky the 0:14:49.539 --> 0:14:51.579 family that I had, But my parents have set such 0:14:51.579 --> 0:14:54.259 a good example of what a relationship should be and 0:14:54.259 --> 0:14:56.459 how you should treat each other. Like to be thirty 0:14:56.539 --> 0:14:59.339 seven years old and who have not really seen the margin, 0:14:59.459 --> 0:15:01.019 knowing that they do, but they just do it their 0:15:01.019 --> 0:15:01.339 own way. 0:15:01.459 --> 0:15:02.419 I think that's pretty cool. 0:15:02.459 --> 0:15:05.299 So anyway, here's to a long, successful marriage for me.