WEBVTT - Foster Girlfriend, Dickmatized and Kittenfishing - Talking modern day dating terminologies 0:00:14.640 --> 0:00:18.119 Hi, guys, and welcome back to another episode of Life Uncut. 0:00:18.200 --> 0:00:19.520 I'm Laura and I'm Brittany. 0:00:19.640 --> 0:00:21.600 Do you know what I saw today before we got 0:00:21.640 --> 0:00:22.680 started on this episode? 0:00:23.600 --> 0:00:26.120 What I could I only imagine. I saw a meme, 0:00:26.600 --> 0:00:28.320 A memy. I love a memey. 0:00:28.480 --> 0:00:31.120 So the meme said the kids these days when we 0:00:31.160 --> 0:00:33.920 talk about the nineties, it's like when we were kids 0:00:33.920 --> 0:00:35.519 and people would talk about the sixties. 0:00:35.760 --> 0:00:37.680 And that makes me feel physically real. 0:00:37.800 --> 0:00:39.760 And then it reminded me that I've got back pain 0:00:40.280 --> 0:00:41.440 and everything sucks. 0:00:43.560 --> 0:00:45.879 Wait, do you want to know something funny? Jordan was 0:00:45.920 --> 0:00:51.280 born in nineteen ninety four. Fucking now, that makes me 0:00:51.320 --> 0:00:55.240 feel squeamish. Okay, So for anyone who's listening, you guys 0:00:55.320 --> 0:00:57.400 can kind of decide where you sit on the scale 0:00:57.400 --> 0:00:59.880 of years. I'm eighty six, what are you bred? Eighty five? 0:01:00.160 --> 0:01:03.920 Whoayoven eighty seven? Other way? Oh my goodness, excuse me, 0:01:05.040 --> 0:01:06.959 don't you age me. It was just a real eye 0:01:07.000 --> 0:01:09.080 open ert. You know, every so often I see these things. 0:01:09.160 --> 0:01:11.000 I'm like all those little whipper snappers out there talking 0:01:11.000 --> 0:01:13.000 about us with our skinny leg jeans. I used to 0:01:13.040 --> 0:01:14.640 go into the waiting room when I'm working in the 0:01:14.680 --> 0:01:17.080 hospital to call patient out, and you're always walking out. 0:01:17.160 --> 0:01:18.800 We're looking at the referral as you're going to get 0:01:18.800 --> 0:01:20.120 the patient. You're looking at the name, you look at 0:01:20.120 --> 0:01:21.440 the date of birth. And I always used to be like, 0:01:21.560 --> 0:01:23.680 nineteen ninety, they're going to be a kid. And I 0:01:23.720 --> 0:01:25.839 would look around for the child, and then a thirty 0:01:25.920 --> 0:01:28.880 year older stand up and I was like whoa. I 0:01:28.959 --> 0:01:32.000 was like whoa, It's like, how old am I? Kids? 0:01:32.040 --> 0:01:34.680 These days, we've got really great diets. Actually, speaking of that, 0:01:34.920 --> 0:01:36.920 my child does not have a great diet. I hope 0:01:36.920 --> 0:01:40.200 that everybody who has children survive Easter and the sugar 0:01:40.280 --> 0:01:42.280 cracked in That was those three days that we just 0:01:42.319 --> 0:01:42.720 got through. 0:01:42.760 --> 0:01:43.840 Did your kids go crazy? 0:01:44.319 --> 0:01:47.440 Well, not Lola, I mean she wasn't thrik chocolate milkshakes 0:01:47.480 --> 0:01:49.720 or anything. But we did a chocolate Easter egg hunt 0:01:49.760 --> 0:01:52.600 for Mali. The kid is still off her kids wild. 0:01:52.800 --> 0:01:54.600 I live alone. I didn't do an East Ring hunt 0:01:54.640 --> 0:01:55.160 for myself. 0:01:55.280 --> 0:01:57.720 I just say the chocolate and can we just like say, 0:01:57.720 --> 0:01:59.720 Brittany is still recovering. I know if you guys listen 0:01:59.760 --> 0:02:02.360 to las week's episode, like brit has been so sick 0:02:02.480 --> 0:02:03.640 and she's only. 0:02:03.520 --> 0:02:06.000 Just on the way up. Now. I know that I've 0:02:06.000 --> 0:02:07.760 been doing stories and stuff on the grand because I'm 0:02:07.800 --> 0:02:11.239 so bored. I've been in isolation for about two weeks. 0:02:11.240 --> 0:02:14.280 But I sound better and I probably look a lot better, 0:02:14.320 --> 0:02:17.280 but inside and my soul is still crush. Like my 0:02:17.320 --> 0:02:20.000 soul is still recovering. There's been a long couple of weeks. 0:02:20.040 --> 0:02:22.320 But I never I never know what day to eat 0:02:22.480 --> 0:02:24.440 chocolate on over East, So like there's this four day 0:02:24.440 --> 0:02:26.480 long weekend and I never know which is Yes, I do, 0:02:26.560 --> 0:02:28.320 so I just start, like to be fair and to 0:02:28.360 --> 0:02:30.000 make sure I've got it covered, I start on the 0:02:30.000 --> 0:02:31.440 Friday and I finish on the Monday. 0:02:31.480 --> 0:02:32.920 Well, I think it's for as long as there's double 0:02:32.919 --> 0:02:35.320 demerit points. So whenever the double demerits points are going, 0:02:35.360 --> 0:02:37.080 that's when you eat chocolate. I like that, right, I 0:02:37.080 --> 0:02:39.240 think that means it ends on Tuesday. It's fine, let's 0:02:39.280 --> 0:02:39.680 stick with that. 0:02:39.919 --> 0:02:42.760 Well, guys, because I have been so sick, I cannot 0:02:42.760 --> 0:02:46.720 tell you how much Netflix, Amazon, Stan Binge, I like, 0:02:46.960 --> 0:02:49.160 I have memberships for everything. Now is it a membership 0:02:49.280 --> 0:02:53.400 I have, pawn, I have subscribing fans. I'm coming at 0:02:53.440 --> 0:02:56.520 you with a recommendation to there's this really great video 0:02:56.560 --> 0:02:59.480 I watch. It's called two Girls, One Cup, and I 0:02:59.480 --> 0:03:02.359 am coming to you with the recommendation, but it is 0:03:02.400 --> 0:03:05.000 not from porn Hub or red Tips. Sorry to disappoint you, Laura. 0:03:05.080 --> 0:03:06.359 Isn't that just what you do when you're sick, Just 0:03:06.360 --> 0:03:07.760 stay home masturbate all day. 0:03:08.000 --> 0:03:10.799 I did not have energy to masturbate. I had. I 0:03:10.800 --> 0:03:12.960 didn't have the energy to roll over. The other thing 0:03:12.960 --> 0:03:15.280 with my sickness was I had chronic fatigue. I have 0:03:15.360 --> 0:03:18.400 been asleep longer than I have been awake. I would 0:03:18.400 --> 0:03:20.079 wake up for twenty minutes and I'll be like, well, 0:03:20.160 --> 0:03:21.960 time for my nap, and not go back to bed. 0:03:22.320 --> 0:03:24.960 I have discovered and this is a big call. I 0:03:25.040 --> 0:03:29.160 have discovered the best series I have ever watched in 0:03:29.200 --> 0:03:33.720 my existence. And I shook to the call that it's 0:03:33.760 --> 0:03:35.640 taken me this long because it's not a new series. 0:03:36.000 --> 0:03:38.080 This is a really big call. And I don't know 0:03:38.120 --> 0:03:40.880 what you're gonna say. And if you say Bridgitton, no, okay. 0:03:40.960 --> 0:03:43.400 In relation to this series, Bridgeton's a five, this is 0:03:43.400 --> 0:03:48.400 a twelve. Wow you. I cannot suggest this more to you, guys. 0:03:48.880 --> 0:03:51.320 It's on Amazon Prime, so I think that's why I've 0:03:51.320 --> 0:03:53.040 never seen it. I've never had Amazon. I was like, 0:03:53.080 --> 0:03:53.880 what even is that? Now? 0:03:53.920 --> 0:03:56.760 Amazon Prime has got some good shows basically not sponsored either. 0:03:56.800 --> 0:03:59.280 Guys like, we're not getting a plug from Amazon for 0:03:59.320 --> 0:03:59.800 this if. 0:03:59.680 --> 0:04:03.360 They want, Yeah, yeah, okay. The series is called This 0:04:03.560 --> 0:04:05.200 is Us Now. I don't know if i'd never even 0:04:05.240 --> 0:04:07.560 heard of him. Sherry has been telling me to watch 0:04:07.600 --> 0:04:10.200 this for about probably about the best part of six months. 0:04:10.200 --> 0:04:11.960 Her and Jay started watching it and we always like 0:04:12.040 --> 0:04:13.560 the same stuff. She came to me, She's like, you 0:04:13.800 --> 0:04:15.680 have to start watching this immediately. It's the best thing 0:04:15.720 --> 0:04:17.480 I've ever seen. And I was like, for some reason, 0:04:17.480 --> 0:04:19.720 I just kept putting on the back burner. It is 0:04:19.920 --> 0:04:25.080 the most emotive, well written, best storyline out of any 0:04:25.120 --> 0:04:27.560 show on any channel that I have ever watched. I'm 0:04:27.560 --> 0:04:28.240 gonna give you, like. 0:04:28.400 --> 0:04:30.960 You have to watch a bit of an explanation about 0:04:31.000 --> 0:04:31.760 what it actually is. 0:04:31.800 --> 0:04:34.200 It's really hard to describe, and when you describe it, 0:04:34.200 --> 0:04:35.840 it's the best thing that's ever happened. But I can't 0:04:35.839 --> 0:04:38.000 tell you no because watch it. I remember when Sherry 0:04:38.000 --> 0:04:41.000 explained it to me. It's hard. It doesn't sell it, 0:04:41.000 --> 0:04:43.360 it doesn't do it justice. I think the thing that 0:04:43.520 --> 0:04:46.520 sort of had me a little bit disinterested was when 0:04:46.520 --> 0:04:48.479 I found out that the lead actress is Mandy Moore, 0:04:48.720 --> 0:04:51.159 because the way that I think of Mandy Moore was 0:04:51.279 --> 0:04:53.839 brilliant singer that tried to transition into acting quite early, 0:04:53.880 --> 0:04:55.560 and I didn't feel like she nailed it. 0:04:55.839 --> 0:04:58.920 Do you not remember A Walk to Remember? Yes, that's 0:04:58.960 --> 0:05:02.360 exactly I freaking love that movie. I've had plenty of 0:05:02.400 --> 0:05:03.560 time for ma anymore. 0:05:03.279 --> 0:05:06.080 But she has nailed it. Her acting is brilliant. Every 0:05:06.120 --> 0:05:08.279 single actor and actress in this show is brilliant. But 0:05:08.440 --> 0:05:10.680 just to try and tell you what the show is, 0:05:11.279 --> 0:05:13.960 Mandy Morrill and her husband Jack. They are a couple 0:05:13.960 --> 0:05:16.120 that fall in love and they have children, They have triplets, 0:05:16.720 --> 0:05:20.680 and the whole show is set between flashing back to 0:05:20.880 --> 0:05:23.800 their childhood, the kid's childhood and growing up and all 0:05:23.800 --> 0:05:26.560 the problems that they have raising the kids, and flashing 0:05:26.720 --> 0:05:29.960 forward to the present day when they're older. And the 0:05:30.000 --> 0:05:32.279 storyline that they have written has you on the edge 0:05:32.279 --> 0:05:35.200 of your seat and has your full attention from the 0:05:35.240 --> 0:05:38.680 opening scene of the first episode and forever. It's like 0:05:38.720 --> 0:05:40.920 six seasons. And this is the brilliant part because there 0:05:40.920 --> 0:05:43.440 are so many seasons. It is the most emotive show 0:05:43.480 --> 0:05:47.440 I've ever watched. Every episode, I'm crying, I'm laughing. I 0:05:47.480 --> 0:05:49.800 feel like they're my family. And I think any show 0:05:49.800 --> 0:05:51.960 that makes you feel like you never want that show 0:05:51.960 --> 0:05:54.839 to end is worth watching. And I don't give you 0:05:54.839 --> 0:05:58.360 these recommendations lightly, but please do yourself a favor and 0:05:58.440 --> 0:06:01.400 start to watch this is because it is like life 0:06:01.440 --> 0:06:04.440 changing and the best part about it, I'm obsessed with 0:06:04.480 --> 0:06:09.440 the father Jack. He is what every husband and father 0:06:09.480 --> 0:06:11.279 should be. He's actually sort of ruined it for me 0:06:11.360 --> 0:06:13.320 forever because if I don't find my Jack, I'm like, 0:06:13.360 --> 0:06:14.960 well what am I doing in my life? Because I 0:06:15.000 --> 0:06:16.839 need this person in my life. He's the character that 0:06:16.880 --> 0:06:20.120 you just are obsessed with. But anyway, not a genre 0:06:20.240 --> 0:06:22.800 is this like is it a drama? Is more a drama? Okay? 0:06:22.839 --> 0:06:25.119 One hundred percent? You will cry like I can't fault 0:06:25.120 --> 0:06:27.080 the series. And also one of the kids when he 0:06:27.120 --> 0:06:29.359 grows up, he's so fucking hot. Well actually both of them, 0:06:29.400 --> 0:06:31.719 they're really fucking hot. But that's it. That's my recommendation. 0:06:31.800 --> 0:06:33.280 Please do yourself a favor and start it. 0:06:33.360 --> 0:06:35.599 Okay, I'm going to come with you with a recommendation, 0:06:35.680 --> 0:06:37.920 which this was not planned but since you are so 0:06:38.040 --> 0:06:40.760 passionate about what was the name of it again, I've. 0:06:40.680 --> 0:06:42.839 Totally this is us. This is us. 0:06:42.920 --> 0:06:44.800 Okay, I'm gonna watch it and then I'll come back 0:06:44.880 --> 0:06:46.920 and I'll tell you how I feel. Yea one hundredercent 0:06:47.040 --> 0:06:48.719 I have one for you. Okay, can you go and 0:06:48.720 --> 0:06:51.640 watch Sea Spiracy? Definitely no drama. You'll probably cry. 0:06:52.080 --> 0:06:54.960 I can't watch it because I'm too scared to stop 0:06:55.040 --> 0:06:56.760 eating fish. I'm too scared of stop eating fish, and 0:06:56.800 --> 0:06:58.280 I know what it will do to me, but I 0:06:58.320 --> 0:06:59.239 really love my fish. 0:06:59.320 --> 0:07:01.039 I think that there is a big conversation. Maybe we 0:07:01.040 --> 0:07:02.960 can do an episode on this. Actually there's a lot 0:07:03.000 --> 0:07:05.000 of information there. It's a lot to digest, and it's 0:07:05.040 --> 0:07:08.320 obviously like a bit of a sea spiracy conspiracy if 0:07:08.320 --> 0:07:10.960 you haven't seen it yet, it's of that sort of vein, 0:07:11.040 --> 0:07:13.120 and it's talking about all the damage that we're doing 0:07:13.160 --> 0:07:15.280 to our oceans, but also the damage that's caused by 0:07:15.360 --> 0:07:17.760 the fishing industry and by by cat It's just got 0:07:17.840 --> 0:07:19.680 some really crazy startling statistics. 0:07:19.680 --> 0:07:21.160 And so Matt and I watched it the other night. 0:07:21.040 --> 0:07:24.360 And I can't say that I love the narrator. I 0:07:24.360 --> 0:07:26.480 feel like the guy who was doing the journalism, like 0:07:26.520 --> 0:07:29.320 the main character of the whole documentary. I'm not sure 0:07:29.320 --> 0:07:31.960 if I really loved like his presentation of it, but 0:07:32.000 --> 0:07:34.600 the information in it is really really interesting and it 0:07:34.640 --> 0:07:38.160 does make you question whether or not you'd eat fish. However, 0:07:38.200 --> 0:07:39.960 it was easter and I ate some fish. Are you 0:07:40.000 --> 0:07:40.920 not going to eat fish now? 0:07:41.600 --> 0:07:43.560 Ugh? You know what, I'm not there yet. 0:07:43.560 --> 0:07:45.560 Look, we have meat, lots of meat free days, and 0:07:45.560 --> 0:07:47.840 we also have fish free days in our household as well. 0:07:47.840 --> 0:07:51.360 But it really brings to the forefront these issues around 0:07:51.400 --> 0:07:54.720 sustainability and it makes you, it does definitely make you 0:07:54.840 --> 0:07:56.400 question where things come from. 0:07:56.240 --> 0:07:58.720 Make better choices about what you're purchasing. Yeah, but that's 0:07:58.800 --> 0:07:59.920 the problem, that's the thing. Right. 0:08:00.200 --> 0:08:03.200 So there's this whole section on there about dolphins safe 0:08:03.480 --> 0:08:06.320 and how dolphin safe isn't actually dolphin safe. They can't 0:08:06.360 --> 0:08:08.920 guarantee it, and it's just the fishing company's paying off 0:08:09.240 --> 0:08:12.320 the organization and the regulatory bodies. And it goes into 0:08:12.320 --> 0:08:14.679 how corrupt the fishing industry is, but also how corrupt 0:08:14.920 --> 0:08:16.960 where we purchase some fish from, so like nothing is 0:08:17.000 --> 0:08:19.000 guaranteed as being safe and the damage that's doing to 0:08:19.000 --> 0:08:22.200 the oceans is crazy, and how much of the pollution 0:08:22.560 --> 0:08:24.600 and plastics that are going to the ocean are not 0:08:24.640 --> 0:08:27.760 actually from us consuming but it's from the fishing industry. 0:08:28.240 --> 0:08:29.240 That's what it unpacks. 0:08:29.280 --> 0:08:32.600 And it's us eating fish that's creating this deficit and 0:08:32.600 --> 0:08:34.600 creating this issue. And it makes me think, like, what 0:08:34.640 --> 0:08:36.520 do we eat If we can't eat meat, we can't 0:08:36.559 --> 0:08:38.360 eat fish? Do we just eat vegetables? Like? Do we 0:08:38.520 --> 0:08:41.120 Does the whole world turn vegan? Yes? I think that 0:08:41.120 --> 0:08:43.720 that's the solution. Do you think that's what David addenbros. Says? 0:08:43.720 --> 0:08:46.280 Don't have any more than two children eat vegan? I 0:08:46.320 --> 0:08:49.480 mean I could probably do the children part, but in 0:08:49.520 --> 0:08:51.800 all honesty, I reckon I would eat I'm actually really 0:08:51.800 --> 0:08:54.920 good with meat. I eat meat maybe twice a month, 0:08:55.160 --> 0:08:56.800 big call, but I don't eat a lot of it. 0:08:56.840 --> 0:08:59.240 Most of my food is vegetarian and pescatarian. I will 0:08:59.240 --> 0:09:01.200 admit I eat fe but I always try and buy 0:09:01.320 --> 0:09:04.480 good fresh fish that I think has been sourced in 0:09:04.520 --> 0:09:05.640 an ethical way. 0:09:05.760 --> 0:09:07.840 Okay, you need to watch c Spiritcy then, because that's 0:09:07.880 --> 0:09:10.400 that's probably point way, is that you don't know what's 0:09:10.440 --> 0:09:12.840 been so And I love salmon, but I think that 0:09:12.840 --> 0:09:14.680 the take home message from all of these is like, 0:09:14.880 --> 0:09:16.839 just reduce where you can. You don't have to stop 0:09:16.840 --> 0:09:19.520 and eliminate something completely. If you want to do that, 0:09:19.559 --> 0:09:21.200 and you can do that, then that's amazing. But if 0:09:21.280 --> 0:09:23.880 you can just make better choices, as in like you know, 0:09:23.960 --> 0:09:25.960 have meat free nights, have fish free nights, all that 0:09:26.040 --> 0:09:29.040 is helpful. I don't think it's necessarily about changing every 0:09:29.040 --> 0:09:31.800 single aspect of your life overnight and going cold Turkey. 0:09:31.840 --> 0:09:34.240 But if you can make some better and more sustainable choices, 0:09:34.280 --> 0:09:36.320 then that's kind of the ethos I took from the 0:09:36.440 --> 0:09:40.240 Docku series. But it's on Netflix. It's really really interesting, 0:09:40.360 --> 0:09:41.920 and there have been a few things that have come 0:09:41.920 --> 0:09:44.160 out that have kind of defunct some statistics around it. 0:09:44.160 --> 0:09:45.400 So I'm not going to go into like the nitty 0:09:45.400 --> 0:09:47.160 gritty of it, but I got a lot out of 0:09:47.200 --> 0:09:49.600 the show, and I think that, like, that's my recommendation 0:09:49.760 --> 0:09:52.920 for today. Anyway, something else that I have read which 0:09:52.960 --> 0:09:54.920 I wanted to touch on before we got into like 0:09:55.000 --> 0:09:57.360 the main core of this episode. Now, the main core 0:09:57.400 --> 0:09:59.760 part of this episode is actually pretty lighthearted. We're going 0:09:59.840 --> 0:10:03.760 to talking about dating terminology in twenty twenty. Oh my 0:10:03.800 --> 0:10:06.640 God and I've we're twenty twenty two, twenty twenty one, 0:10:06.679 --> 0:10:10.040 twenty twenty one, I forgot what you I don't even know. 0:10:10.040 --> 0:10:13.360 What, twenty to twenty twenty two, I am sold to you. 0:10:13.480 --> 0:10:15.840 Like in twenty twenty five, this is our dating technolo, 0:10:15.840 --> 0:10:19.240 you don't even know where. We're talking about dating terminology 0:10:19.440 --> 0:10:21.480 today in twenty twenty one, and this is a lot 0:10:21.480 --> 0:10:24.319 of terminology that I had never heard of. But it's 0:10:24.360 --> 0:10:26.559 a lot of things that you know and you can 0:10:26.600 --> 0:10:28.480 explain and you talk about with your friends. You talk 0:10:28.480 --> 0:10:31.560 about these situations that happened, but they never had a label. 0:10:31.600 --> 0:10:33.600 So we're going to go through some of those main ones. 0:10:33.880 --> 0:10:35.760 So before we get into that, we do want to 0:10:35.760 --> 0:10:37.520 touch on something that's really important. It has just come 0:10:37.520 --> 0:10:41.080 out of Victoria. Now this is really really huge, and 0:10:41.120 --> 0:10:43.480 when I read this article in ABC News, I was like, 0:10:43.520 --> 0:10:45.280 I really want to discuss this in the podcast because 0:10:45.280 --> 0:10:48.000 it's consent is something that we have spoken about in 0:10:48.040 --> 0:10:50.160 a couple of past episodes, especially the one that we 0:10:50.200 --> 0:10:52.840 did with Ebony Saunders going back a few months ago. 0:10:53.400 --> 0:10:55.559 She was the woman that was harassed by the Tinder 0:10:55.559 --> 0:10:57.800 guy in BONDI just for a little reference, for you guys. 0:10:57.880 --> 0:11:00.280 Yeah, and we did a massive conversation in that around 0:11:00.360 --> 0:11:03.040 consent and how consent is fluid. Now, this conversation that 0:11:03.080 --> 0:11:04.520 we're about to have comes with a bit of a 0:11:04.520 --> 0:11:07.640 trigger warning because it does touch on sexual assault and 0:11:07.640 --> 0:11:10.240 it does touch on sexual harassment. But Victoria has just 0:11:10.280 --> 0:11:14.000 passed legislation where they're going to be making conversations around 0:11:14.040 --> 0:11:16.760 consent part of the school curriculum for public schools. 0:11:17.120 --> 0:11:18.960 And this is such a huge thing. 0:11:19.040 --> 0:11:21.160 The fact that this hasn't happened in schools earlier, or 0:11:21.160 --> 0:11:23.520 the fact that it's not compulsory in every school in 0:11:23.600 --> 0:11:25.720 every state is something that I think we should really 0:11:25.760 --> 0:11:29.040 be having conversation about. But this change in legislation came 0:11:29.080 --> 0:11:31.080 about because of a petition that was started by a 0:11:31.120 --> 0:11:34.880 former Kombala student named Shantell Contos because she was sick 0:11:34.960 --> 0:11:37.959 of constantly hearing about her friend's experiences of sexual abuse 0:11:38.000 --> 0:11:41.440 within schools. So this conversation calls for a bigger focus 0:11:41.480 --> 0:11:44.600 on consent and sexual education and also focuses on single 0:11:44.679 --> 0:11:47.679 sex in private schools. So the petition that was started 0:11:47.720 --> 0:11:51.240 has now had over thirty eight thousand signatures by people 0:11:51.240 --> 0:11:53.480 who have been affected by sexual assault or sexual harassment 0:11:53.480 --> 0:11:56.920 in schools, and it has over three thousand counts of 0:11:57.080 --> 0:12:00.240 stories where students have actually shared what has happened to them. 0:12:00.520 --> 0:12:03.800 And some of the stories on this ABC News article 0:12:04.160 --> 0:12:08.120 are so freaking harrowing that we're not going to repeat 0:12:08.160 --> 0:12:10.360 them on the podcast. We can put this article in 0:12:10.400 --> 0:12:11.760 the show notes as well, if you guys want to 0:12:11.800 --> 0:12:13.800 go and have a deep diataven a read. But to 0:12:13.840 --> 0:12:16.320 think that this is what's been experienced by school students 0:12:16.440 --> 0:12:19.640 is just absolutely despicable. And there's this real conversation around 0:12:20.040 --> 0:12:23.120 we think that it's expected that people understand what consent 0:12:23.280 --> 0:12:25.320 is and that it should just be human knowledge, but 0:12:25.360 --> 0:12:27.480 there is such a gray area and the fact that 0:12:27.600 --> 0:12:30.560 like it's been missing from our education and that we 0:12:30.640 --> 0:12:32.600 do have sex ed but sex said, I mean, like 0:12:32.679 --> 0:12:34.679 my experience of sex said at school, and Britt, tell 0:12:34.720 --> 0:12:37.560 me what yours was, But that's a healthy herald totally. 0:12:37.720 --> 0:12:40.360 The sex said that we experienced was don't get pregnant, 0:12:40.400 --> 0:12:43.560 pregnancy is bad, use a condom, put it on a banana. Yeah, 0:12:43.600 --> 0:12:46.600 And it was the functionality about how to actually have 0:12:46.720 --> 0:12:49.000 sex and like what the mechanics of it are. But 0:12:49.080 --> 0:12:52.800 there's no conversation around how to keep yourself safe. There's 0:12:52.840 --> 0:12:55.199 talk about STDs and like you'll get a crazy STD 0:12:55.320 --> 0:12:58.120 and lots of stigma around STDs, but nothing around like 0:12:58.200 --> 0:13:01.440 how two people should interact, how two people should respect 0:13:01.480 --> 0:13:04.800 each other, and also what entails consent? And I think 0:13:04.840 --> 0:13:07.000 that is the bigger and broader conversation that needs to 0:13:07.040 --> 0:13:09.080 be brought to the table, and that's the changes that 0:13:09.080 --> 0:13:10.959 the Victorian government is starting to instill. 0:13:11.120 --> 0:13:14.440 I was absolutely disgusted when I was reading the stories 0:13:14.480 --> 0:13:17.800 that all these young women wrote in and their experiences 0:13:17.840 --> 0:13:20.800 that they were having in their schools, And like Laura said, 0:13:21.240 --> 0:13:23.280 it's actually worth all of you going just even pull 0:13:23.320 --> 0:13:25.000 up the ABC article and just how to look for 0:13:25.040 --> 0:13:27.319 yourself and have a read for yourself. But one thing 0:13:27.320 --> 0:13:29.880 I did find really interesting when I started to research 0:13:29.920 --> 0:13:31.679 this a bit more. I didn't actually know this, but 0:13:31.800 --> 0:13:35.000 the schools do have a course that they do teach 0:13:35.400 --> 0:13:38.840 that's called Respectful Relationships, So they have been on the 0:13:38.920 --> 0:13:40.960 right path for a little while, but that sort of 0:13:41.000 --> 0:13:45.319 touches more on sexuality and safety and respect I guess 0:13:45.320 --> 0:13:47.560 to a certain extent in a relationship, but they never 0:13:47.640 --> 0:13:50.520 covered things like consent. So what they're doing with the consent. 0:13:50.600 --> 0:13:53.680 The consent is going into the respect for a relationship's part. 0:13:54.000 --> 0:13:57.640 But this is still only happening in Victoria. When you 0:13:57.800 --> 0:14:02.280 hear of the statistics in Sydney are alone, it is astounding. 0:14:02.720 --> 0:14:05.120 And the fact that a school girl started this petition 0:14:05.200 --> 0:14:07.440 and got all these signatures and she's put this movement 0:14:07.440 --> 0:14:09.920 forward because of something that has happened to her. I mean, 0:14:10.200 --> 0:14:12.120 she's wise beyond her years, and good on her. 0:14:12.280 --> 0:14:13.880 But I think the thing that's scary though, is like, 0:14:14.000 --> 0:14:16.960 why is it that a child who has experienced this 0:14:17.400 --> 0:14:20.760 should be the one advocating for the change within schools Now. 0:14:20.800 --> 0:14:22.160 I just want to make the point as well, which 0:14:22.160 --> 0:14:24.280 I think is really important, and that is that you know, 0:14:24.360 --> 0:14:27.120 this is not the sole responsibility of the school, or 0:14:27.400 --> 0:14:30.240 of teachers, or of the curriculum. This is something that 0:14:30.280 --> 0:14:32.520 should be happening at home with parents, and this is 0:14:32.520 --> 0:14:35.880 a conversation that parents should take main responsibility for. But 0:14:35.960 --> 0:14:38.720 I just don't think you can have an educational conversation 0:14:38.960 --> 0:14:42.840 around sex without having consent as an integral part of 0:14:42.880 --> 0:14:46.080 that conversation. We're talking about how to have sex, how 0:14:46.080 --> 0:14:49.040 to stay safe when having sex, the functionality of sex. 0:14:49.480 --> 0:14:52.040 Then consent needs to be a very big part of 0:14:52.040 --> 0:14:55.760 that conversation. So that way nobody can ever say I 0:14:55.880 --> 0:14:59.520 didn't know, I wasn't sure. I thought that it was okay. 0:14:59.680 --> 0:15:00.880 I thought she wanted it. 0:15:01.240 --> 0:15:04.360 There's no ambiguity because we're all taught the same thing 0:15:04.680 --> 0:15:07.160 and we're all on the same page. One quote that 0:15:07.200 --> 0:15:09.200 summed this up perfectly, and it was written by a 0:15:09.240 --> 0:15:12.080 seventeen year old student from Newcastle Grammar School about the 0:15:12.080 --> 0:15:15.480 incidences that she faced in twenty nineteen, and she wrote, 0:15:15.720 --> 0:15:19.080 he didn't understand that my inability to say no did 0:15:19.120 --> 0:15:21.520 not mean yes, and that I didn't want it. I 0:15:21.560 --> 0:15:23.920 just thought this was so powerful and it's so important. 0:15:24.000 --> 0:15:27.400 You know that we're teaching students that consent isn't just verbal, 0:15:27.640 --> 0:15:30.360 that consent is also non verbal cues, and that's something 0:15:30.400 --> 0:15:31.640 that's so important. I e. 0:15:32.000 --> 0:15:35.160 If someone's passed out, that is giving no consent. If 0:15:35.160 --> 0:15:38.520 someone is crying but hasn't actually said no, that's saying 0:15:38.640 --> 0:15:39.240 no consent. 0:15:39.560 --> 0:15:41.520 But this is the thing, isn't it? And it's this 0:15:41.680 --> 0:15:45.000 saying is so true. Ignorance is bliss. If people aren't 0:15:45.040 --> 0:15:47.240 talking about it, if your kids aren't coming home and 0:15:47.280 --> 0:15:49.360 saying to you that this has happened to me and 0:15:49.480 --> 0:15:52.160 I was violated or I felt uncomfortable. How are people 0:15:52.200 --> 0:15:55.760 supposed to know? And conversely to that, what kid is 0:15:55.760 --> 0:15:57.720 going to come home and be like, hey, mom and dad, 0:15:57.840 --> 0:16:00.000 I had sex with a girl when she was passed down. 0:16:00.440 --> 0:16:03.120 The conversations just weren't happening. So I don't think anyone 0:16:03.200 --> 0:16:05.760 was aware. I definitely wasn't. I knew that it was prevalent, 0:16:05.800 --> 0:16:08.560 for sure, but I was gobsmacked at the level and 0:16:08.640 --> 0:16:12.280 how many school aged females have come forward and said 0:16:12.320 --> 0:16:14.880 that they have experienced this. So the ball is finally 0:16:14.960 --> 0:16:17.760 rolling because people feel that they are in an environment 0:16:17.840 --> 0:16:20.760 now that's safe enough to talk about their experiences. 0:16:20.880 --> 0:16:23.240 But like, let's move this past school for a second 0:16:23.280 --> 0:16:27.040 and just like consent as a general conversation. I do 0:16:27.120 --> 0:16:30.480 not know, and this is pretty bold statement, but I 0:16:30.560 --> 0:16:34.320 do not have one friend who wouldn't say that they 0:16:34.360 --> 0:16:38.520 have experienced sexual harassment. Like every single female I know 0:16:38.640 --> 0:16:40.920 that I have spoken to about sexual harassment. I'm sure 0:16:40.920 --> 0:16:43.800 there are some who haven't, but every single female that 0:16:43.880 --> 0:16:46.240 I have had these conversations with who I'm close enough 0:16:46.280 --> 0:16:49.400 to have these conversations with, have experienced sexual harassment of 0:16:49.520 --> 0:16:52.080 some form in their lifetime. So if we can all 0:16:52.080 --> 0:16:54.280 sit here and say, yeah, a majority of people I 0:16:54.360 --> 0:16:57.680 know have in some way experienced sexual harassment or sexual assault, 0:16:57.960 --> 0:17:01.200 there is a huge problem here. That problem has been 0:17:01.240 --> 0:17:03.720 glaringly obvious. And the fact that it had to take 0:17:04.000 --> 0:17:08.320 a young student to actually start this petition is like, 0:17:08.520 --> 0:17:11.040 I mean, that in itself is just so traumatic. But 0:17:11.160 --> 0:17:13.080 I'm glad that there is some change of this happening, 0:17:13.440 --> 0:17:15.040 and the change needs to happen a hell of a 0:17:15.080 --> 0:17:17.119 lot faster, and it needs to be implemented not just 0:17:17.160 --> 0:17:19.920 in public schools, but in private schools and in all states. 0:17:20.240 --> 0:17:22.080 The last thing that I just did want to touch 0:17:22.119 --> 0:17:24.919 on could because this really hit home with me, was 0:17:25.160 --> 0:17:28.040 there was a student from Manly and she said, I'm 0:17:28.080 --> 0:17:31.640