1 00:00:03,160 --> 00:00:06,760 Speaker 1: It's the Happy Families Podcast. It's the podcast for the 2 00:00:06,880 --> 00:00:10,119 Speaker 1: time poor parent who just once answers Now. 3 00:00:10,760 --> 00:00:13,080 Speaker 2: At the end of every week on the Happy Families Podcast, 4 00:00:13,160 --> 00:00:16,200 Speaker 2: Kylie and I reflect on what's gone right and what's 5 00:00:16,200 --> 00:00:18,360 Speaker 2: gone wrong. It's a bit where we get kind of personal. 6 00:00:18,520 --> 00:00:21,200 Speaker 2: We talk about our wins and our losses, our parenting 7 00:00:21,239 --> 00:00:25,479 Speaker 2: successes and failures, and you know what, it's not just 8 00:00:25,480 --> 00:00:27,080 Speaker 2: the end of the week. It's also pretty much the 9 00:00:27,160 --> 00:00:29,760 Speaker 2: end of the month. Couple with April's already mora l 10 00:00:29,840 --> 00:00:33,320 Speaker 2: less done. For twenty twenty four, we have a word 11 00:00:33,440 --> 00:00:35,400 Speaker 2: of the year. I have a word for me, Kylie 12 00:00:35,400 --> 00:00:36,960 Speaker 2: has Kylie, do you remember your word. 13 00:00:36,800 --> 00:00:38,519 Speaker 1: For the year? I can't believe you're asking me. You 14 00:00:38,520 --> 00:00:39,400 Speaker 1: think I've forgotten. 15 00:00:40,159 --> 00:00:41,760 Speaker 2: Well, we just haven't talked about it for a while. 16 00:00:41,800 --> 00:00:43,760 Speaker 2: I just wanted to make sure that you remember what 17 00:00:43,840 --> 00:00:44,320 Speaker 2: was your word. 18 00:00:44,479 --> 00:00:47,000 Speaker 1: My word was embraced, and just in case you were wondering, 19 00:00:47,120 --> 00:00:48,760 Speaker 1: your word was present. 20 00:00:49,240 --> 00:00:51,720 Speaker 2: I'm totally you sed today because I was stretching a lie. 21 00:00:51,720 --> 00:00:54,080 Speaker 2: I'm just kidding. I knew what it was. Let's do 22 00:00:54,120 --> 00:00:57,360 Speaker 2: a quick update. One of the things about saying I've 23 00:00:57,360 --> 00:00:58,880 Speaker 2: got a word for the year I'm going to focus 24 00:00:58,920 --> 00:01:01,360 Speaker 2: on it. When I was a kid, my mum had 25 00:01:01,440 --> 00:01:03,520 Speaker 2: us do this activity for New Years. We had to 26 00:01:03,520 --> 00:01:06,000 Speaker 2: write our New Year's goals. We put them into sealed 27 00:01:06,080 --> 00:01:09,360 Speaker 2: envelopes and we didn't open them for a year, and 28 00:01:09,400 --> 00:01:10,920 Speaker 2: none of us achieved any of the goals that we 29 00:01:11,200 --> 00:01:13,240 Speaker 2: set because we wrote them on a piece of paper, 30 00:01:13,240 --> 00:01:15,039 Speaker 2: stuck them in an envelope, and forgot about them for 31 00:01:15,040 --> 00:01:15,360 Speaker 2: a year. 32 00:01:15,840 --> 00:01:18,520 Speaker 1: I remember doing the same thing, and it's so funny 33 00:01:18,560 --> 00:01:21,640 Speaker 1: looking back now thinking that somehow that was. 34 00:01:21,640 --> 00:01:23,679 Speaker 2: Going to work. Yeah, you had no sense at all. 35 00:01:23,800 --> 00:01:26,360 Speaker 2: So our word of the year, Yours is embrace. Mine 36 00:01:26,440 --> 00:01:29,600 Speaker 2: is to be present. The whole idea is that we 37 00:01:29,640 --> 00:01:31,600 Speaker 2: need to reflect regularly on how we're going with that. 38 00:01:31,640 --> 00:01:33,440 Speaker 2: So can we do a quick check in, like a 39 00:01:33,480 --> 00:01:37,240 Speaker 2: thirty second check in? How would you rate your performance 40 00:01:37,360 --> 00:01:40,200 Speaker 2: on embrace in April? 41 00:01:41,959 --> 00:01:43,960 Speaker 1: I'm actually on a bit of a downer at the moment. 42 00:01:44,200 --> 00:01:45,240 Speaker 2: That was a long pause. 43 00:01:45,360 --> 00:01:48,240 Speaker 1: I'm really I'm in a bit of a tricky spot. 44 00:01:48,440 --> 00:01:51,720 Speaker 1: So I'm going to say that as a result, I'm 45 00:01:51,840 --> 00:01:54,360 Speaker 1: wrestling and I'm not embracing as much as I could. 46 00:01:54,520 --> 00:01:56,320 Speaker 2: It's kind of a funny one, if you ask me, 47 00:01:56,360 --> 00:01:58,880 Speaker 2: because this is that situation where people say, you're supposed 48 00:01:58,880 --> 00:02:02,600 Speaker 2: to embrace your challenge, You're supposed to run headlong at 49 00:02:02,640 --> 00:02:06,080 Speaker 2: your difficulties. We're supposed to be leaning in. And that 50 00:02:06,160 --> 00:02:07,840 Speaker 2: all sounds really good when you're reading it on an 51 00:02:07,880 --> 00:02:11,880 Speaker 2: inspirational Instagram post, but in real life, it's really hard 52 00:02:11,880 --> 00:02:12,280 Speaker 2: to do that. 53 00:02:12,880 --> 00:02:14,160 Speaker 1: But we'll talk about that a bit later. 54 00:02:15,120 --> 00:02:18,000 Speaker 2: We've got some old do Better Tomorrow inspo coming up, 55 00:02:18,040 --> 00:02:21,560 Speaker 2: some lean in perhaps coming up. After all, Well, I'm 56 00:02:21,560 --> 00:02:24,120 Speaker 2: going to give myself a ten a ten, I'm going 57 00:02:24,160 --> 00:02:27,240 Speaker 2: to give myself a ten. I feel like I'm nailing 58 00:02:27,240 --> 00:02:29,640 Speaker 2: it at the moment in terms of being present, and 59 00:02:29,120 --> 00:02:31,600 Speaker 2: that comes down to a couple of decisions that I've 60 00:02:31,639 --> 00:02:35,079 Speaker 2: made to change the way that I'm working and living 61 00:02:35,120 --> 00:02:41,080 Speaker 2: my life. Over the years, I've watched friends and read 62 00:02:41,360 --> 00:02:45,840 Speaker 2: articles about people who kind of say we're going to 63 00:02:45,919 --> 00:02:47,919 Speaker 2: change the way we live. They're not going off the 64 00:02:47,960 --> 00:02:51,880 Speaker 2: grid or anything, but maybe both parents decide to work 65 00:02:52,160 --> 00:02:54,639 Speaker 2: part time or reduced hours. They decide that they're going 66 00:02:54,680 --> 00:03:01,240 Speaker 2: to put lifestyle ahead of chase the dollar. And I've 67 00:03:01,240 --> 00:03:03,120 Speaker 2: always looked at that and said, how can you afford 68 00:03:03,120 --> 00:03:05,160 Speaker 2: to do that? But something that I've realized is that 69 00:03:05,160 --> 00:03:07,760 Speaker 2: there's never going to be enough money no matter how 70 00:03:07,760 --> 00:03:10,480 Speaker 2: hard you work. And one thing I'm learning as i'm 71 00:03:10,480 --> 00:03:14,119 Speaker 2: getting older, like I'm fifty next year, is that there 72 00:03:14,160 --> 00:03:17,760 Speaker 2: is not enough time. And so I've decided to just 73 00:03:17,880 --> 00:03:20,919 Speaker 2: take more time. And that means that we have sufficient 74 00:03:20,960 --> 00:03:24,800 Speaker 2: for our needs. But we're certainly, especially if I continue 75 00:03:24,840 --> 00:03:28,280 Speaker 2: doing what I'm doing, never going to be wealthy by 76 00:03:28,320 --> 00:03:31,200 Speaker 2: any stretch. But my interest now is in spending time 77 00:03:31,200 --> 00:03:34,119 Speaker 2: with you and the kids and creating a sense of lifestyle. 78 00:03:34,360 --> 00:03:36,600 Speaker 2: And so I've been really present with the kids when 79 00:03:36,600 --> 00:03:38,840 Speaker 2: i'm with them, with you, when I'm with you. I've 80 00:03:38,880 --> 00:03:41,160 Speaker 2: started taking extra time out for me to do the 81 00:03:41,160 --> 00:03:43,040 Speaker 2: things that I love. And I'm also finding that by 82 00:03:43,040 --> 00:03:44,839 Speaker 2: doing all of those things, it forces me to be 83 00:03:44,880 --> 00:03:47,320 Speaker 2: more present at work because I've got a little bit 84 00:03:47,400 --> 00:03:52,000 Speaker 2: less time for work. So I'm loving the change. It's 85 00:03:52,040 --> 00:03:54,480 Speaker 2: only a week old. I don't know how long it 86 00:03:54,520 --> 00:03:56,920 Speaker 2: will last or if I can sustain the change because 87 00:03:56,920 --> 00:03:59,960 Speaker 2: I am historically a workaholic, but I'm going to give 88 00:04:00,000 --> 00:04:03,360 Speaker 2: myself mega points. I'm feeling really good about things. Anyway. 89 00:04:03,800 --> 00:04:06,000 Speaker 2: We should get on with our older better tomorrow, because 90 00:04:06,000 --> 00:04:09,240 Speaker 2: that's enough naval gazing and introspection for now, Kylie, you 91 00:04:09,400 --> 00:04:11,960 Speaker 2: or me first, and what's gone right or what's gone wrong? 92 00:04:11,960 --> 00:04:12,480 Speaker 2: Who's up? 93 00:04:13,040 --> 00:04:16,200 Speaker 1: Well, I'll go You're obviously on a pretty big high 94 00:04:16,240 --> 00:04:18,000 Speaker 1: at the moment, so let's get the Debbie downer out 95 00:04:18,040 --> 00:04:21,240 Speaker 1: of the way. Oh really, and then we can finish 96 00:04:21,240 --> 00:04:23,960 Speaker 1: on a high. Last week we talked about the fact 97 00:04:24,040 --> 00:04:28,080 Speaker 1: that we farewelled baby number three. Having gone through this 98 00:04:28,120 --> 00:04:30,680 Speaker 1: three times now, I'm really surprised at just how hard 99 00:04:30,720 --> 00:04:33,080 Speaker 1: this one's hit. And for those of you who think 100 00:04:33,080 --> 00:04:35,040 Speaker 1: she's my favorite, she is not. There was so much 101 00:04:35,080 --> 00:04:36,880 Speaker 1: about her that I was looking forward to not having 102 00:04:36,920 --> 00:04:40,200 Speaker 1: to miss anymore. She has driven me crazy in so 103 00:04:40,360 --> 00:04:44,520 Speaker 1: many ways. But it's been a really emotional week as 104 00:04:44,520 --> 00:04:50,720 Speaker 1: I've just kind of realized that she's not here, and 105 00:04:50,760 --> 00:04:52,760 Speaker 1: I've been thinking about that and trying to work out 106 00:04:52,760 --> 00:04:56,119 Speaker 1: why it's hit so hard this time. And I don't 107 00:04:56,200 --> 00:04:59,680 Speaker 1: really know, but I think when I think back to 108 00:04:59,720 --> 00:05:03,800 Speaker 1: the the two oldest girls, they were really ready to 109 00:05:03,880 --> 00:05:06,080 Speaker 1: move on with their lives, and they had already kind 110 00:05:06,080 --> 00:05:09,240 Speaker 1: of asserted their independence even though they were still living 111 00:05:09,240 --> 00:05:12,720 Speaker 1: at home, and so for them to leave was just 112 00:05:12,720 --> 00:05:16,039 Speaker 1: a natural progression. To the way that our relationship had 113 00:05:16,200 --> 00:05:20,240 Speaker 1: had developed, whereas Ella was just so happy to be 114 00:05:20,279 --> 00:05:24,000 Speaker 1: at home, she was so much an integral part of 115 00:05:24,160 --> 00:05:26,960 Speaker 1: the fabric of the way the family functioned and worked. 116 00:05:27,560 --> 00:05:31,040 Speaker 1: And I just feel like there's this giant hole in 117 00:05:31,080 --> 00:05:35,240 Speaker 1: my heart and I really really missed her, and so 118 00:05:35,360 --> 00:05:40,560 Speaker 1: that's kind of tainted my whole week, and it's just 119 00:05:40,720 --> 00:05:45,640 Speaker 1: been this snowball effect as my heart hurts because she's gone, 120 00:05:46,080 --> 00:05:50,279 Speaker 1: and we've lost our babysitter and we've lost our extra driver. 121 00:05:50,520 --> 00:05:53,760 Speaker 2: I've really missed us. I didn't realize very lot on 122 00:05:53,880 --> 00:05:54,680 Speaker 2: us so much. 123 00:05:55,960 --> 00:05:59,719 Speaker 1: Our parents run on and so it really has fallen 124 00:06:00,120 --> 00:06:04,640 Speaker 1: all back on me, and I'm feeling a Trap's not 125 00:06:04,680 --> 00:06:06,839 Speaker 1: the right word. I don't know the right words to 126 00:06:06,920 --> 00:06:10,760 Speaker 1: use right now, but it just feels a lot. I 127 00:06:10,839 --> 00:06:14,039 Speaker 1: have these two beautiful girls at home homeschooling with me 128 00:06:14,080 --> 00:06:17,680 Speaker 1: at the moment, and some days are magic and other 129 00:06:17,800 --> 00:06:23,640 Speaker 1: days are just so hard. And I'm watching you live 130 00:06:23,680 --> 00:06:25,800 Speaker 1: your best life at the moment, and while I don't 131 00:06:25,800 --> 00:06:30,520 Speaker 1: resent it, and I love that you, after twenty five years, 132 00:06:30,520 --> 00:06:34,760 Speaker 1: are starting to get it and are actually trying to 133 00:06:34,839 --> 00:06:37,919 Speaker 1: find a level. Balance is not the right word, but 134 00:06:37,960 --> 00:06:40,720 Speaker 1: you're trying to find a level of satisfaction in your 135 00:06:40,720 --> 00:06:45,160 Speaker 1: life that has not been there previously. I guess it's 136 00:06:45,200 --> 00:06:48,360 Speaker 1: just really highlighting how much of that is lacking in 137 00:06:48,400 --> 00:06:50,960 Speaker 1: my life right now, and that's making it hard. 138 00:06:50,800 --> 00:06:54,400 Speaker 2: To I recall when our elder still have moved out. 139 00:06:54,839 --> 00:06:57,359 Speaker 2: The grief, there's no other word for it. We really 140 00:06:57,480 --> 00:07:02,520 Speaker 2: grieved the x of this girl from our family and 141 00:07:02,560 --> 00:07:05,120 Speaker 2: from our home. I mean, obviously always part of our family, 142 00:07:05,160 --> 00:07:07,800 Speaker 2: but she was gone, she wasn't part of the house anymore. 143 00:07:08,360 --> 00:07:11,960 Speaker 2: The way that that impacted us was I think really substantial. 144 00:07:12,000 --> 00:07:15,880 Speaker 2: It was really significant. And while I'm not feeling the 145 00:07:15,920 --> 00:07:17,960 Speaker 2: same way that you are, I'm just delighted that she's 146 00:07:18,160 --> 00:07:21,720 Speaker 2: where she is, doing what she is. I've watched it 147 00:07:22,000 --> 00:07:24,480 Speaker 2: really rest heavily on you, and I'll tell you what, 148 00:07:24,720 --> 00:07:26,880 Speaker 2: I can't believe how much we relied on her as well. 149 00:07:26,920 --> 00:07:29,840 Speaker 2: I mean, she was wonderful, wonderful in terms of the 150 00:07:29,880 --> 00:07:32,560 Speaker 2: way she helped us. Drivers crazy in so many ways, 151 00:07:32,800 --> 00:07:36,080 Speaker 2: but absolutely wonderful. And so I get it. That grief 152 00:07:36,200 --> 00:07:41,480 Speaker 2: is real. So that's your older better tomorrow. Is there 153 00:07:41,480 --> 00:07:44,000 Speaker 2: a take home message in that? Or was this really 154 00:07:44,040 --> 00:07:46,240 Speaker 2: just an opportunity for you to share that you miss 155 00:07:46,360 --> 00:07:50,000 Speaker 2: our baby girl. And kids do grow up, they become adults, 156 00:07:50,120 --> 00:07:51,800 Speaker 2: they fly the nest. 157 00:07:52,320 --> 00:07:54,679 Speaker 1: I think it's really just an acknowledgment that there's ebbs 158 00:07:54,720 --> 00:07:57,120 Speaker 1: and flows in life. Two years ago, when we first 159 00:07:57,120 --> 00:08:00,239 Speaker 1: moved up here, I was living, literally living my best life. 160 00:08:00,320 --> 00:08:04,480 Speaker 1: You were, and now I'm kind of down in a lull. 161 00:08:04,840 --> 00:08:07,880 Speaker 1: I'm down in the valley again. But that's part of life. 162 00:08:07,920 --> 00:08:09,920 Speaker 1: And I know that I won't be here forever, and 163 00:08:09,960 --> 00:08:12,320 Speaker 1: I know that I won't even necessarily be here for long. 164 00:08:12,960 --> 00:08:15,880 Speaker 1: But the reality is that right now that's exactly where 165 00:08:15,920 --> 00:08:19,800 Speaker 1: I am, and I just have to ride it. It 166 00:08:19,880 --> 00:08:22,800 Speaker 1: will pass. But right now I'm just letting my heart 167 00:08:22,840 --> 00:08:23,560 Speaker 1: be a little bit sad. 168 00:08:23,920 --> 00:08:25,880 Speaker 2: You know, you've just reminded me of something that I 169 00:08:25,920 --> 00:08:29,080 Speaker 2: heard years ago, and it's really deep and really profound, 170 00:08:29,080 --> 00:08:30,920 Speaker 2: and you've just brought it straight to mind for me. 171 00:08:31,280 --> 00:08:33,240 Speaker 2: You can't live on top of the mountain. I heard 172 00:08:33,280 --> 00:08:35,800 Speaker 2: someone once say we were over in the US, we 173 00:08:35,840 --> 00:08:37,640 Speaker 2: were in the Rocky Mountains. We had some friends that 174 00:08:37,679 --> 00:08:40,840 Speaker 2: were there, and I literally said, these mountains are incredible. 175 00:08:40,840 --> 00:08:43,240 Speaker 2: Why does everyone live so far down on the mountains? 176 00:08:43,520 --> 00:08:45,480 Speaker 2: And they highlighted that it's too risky and you can't 177 00:08:45,480 --> 00:08:46,960 Speaker 2: stay up there, and the weather can turn bad and 178 00:08:47,160 --> 00:08:49,959 Speaker 2: you can't live on top of the mountain. But then 179 00:08:50,440 --> 00:08:53,080 Speaker 2: something else that I heard was, it's in the valleys 180 00:08:53,880 --> 00:08:56,520 Speaker 2: where the water flows. It's in the valleys where that 181 00:08:56,600 --> 00:09:00,120 Speaker 2: clear water is, and where the fruit and the vegetau 182 00:09:00,360 --> 00:09:02,760 Speaker 2: and the sustenance is. We go up to the mountains, 183 00:09:02,760 --> 00:09:05,160 Speaker 2: we enjoy the heights, we enjoy the goodness, but it's 184 00:09:05,200 --> 00:09:06,960 Speaker 2: in the valley that we get the nutrition and the 185 00:09:06,960 --> 00:09:08,520 Speaker 2: sustenance and what we require to live. 186 00:09:08,960 --> 00:09:11,480 Speaker 1: Life is full of ebbs and flows. We have these 187 00:09:11,520 --> 00:09:14,520 Speaker 1: amazing highs and that feels so good, but eventually we 188 00:09:14,600 --> 00:09:18,000 Speaker 1: have to come off the mountaintop. Yeah, and we have 189 00:09:18,080 --> 00:09:20,640 Speaker 1: to sit in those hard places. But the great thing 190 00:09:20,880 --> 00:09:23,880 Speaker 1: is life. Experience teaches me time and time again that 191 00:09:24,400 --> 00:09:26,480 Speaker 1: those valleys they don't last forever. 192 00:09:29,320 --> 00:09:32,960 Speaker 2: Okay, well, let's dive into my I'll do better tomorrow 193 00:09:33,120 --> 00:09:35,400 Speaker 2: and I'll share a couple of things. I want to 194 00:09:35,440 --> 00:09:38,199 Speaker 2: share more than one thing today. I can't help myself. 195 00:09:38,280 --> 00:09:40,120 Speaker 2: Just want to dive in and share a couple of things. 196 00:09:40,400 --> 00:09:42,840 Speaker 2: So I read an email just recently from James Clear. 197 00:09:42,920 --> 00:09:45,800 Speaker 2: James Clear wrote that wonderful book Atomic Habits. I'm the 198 00:09:45,840 --> 00:09:49,120 Speaker 2: kind of person who removes every email I can, as 199 00:09:49,160 --> 00:09:51,840 Speaker 2: often as I can from my inbox. I don't subscribe 200 00:09:51,880 --> 00:09:54,360 Speaker 2: to things, but James Clear's email is brilliant. I absolutely 201 00:09:54,400 --> 00:09:58,160 Speaker 2: love it. And every week when it arrives, to use 202 00:09:58,200 --> 00:10:00,439 Speaker 2: your word, kindie, I embrace the email. Well, I get 203 00:10:00,480 --> 00:10:03,079 Speaker 2: it to the newsletter. I just love it. And about 204 00:10:03,080 --> 00:10:04,559 Speaker 2: a week ago, two weeks ago, he said, if you 205 00:10:04,640 --> 00:10:06,600 Speaker 2: already live a comfortable life, then choosing to make more 206 00:10:06,600 --> 00:10:09,000 Speaker 2: money but live a worst daily life is a bad trade. 207 00:10:09,360 --> 00:10:11,040 Speaker 2: And yet we talk ourselves into it all the time. 208 00:10:11,120 --> 00:10:13,840 Speaker 2: We take promotions that pay more but swallow our free time. 209 00:10:14,240 --> 00:10:16,559 Speaker 2: We already have a successful business, but we break ourselves 210 00:10:16,559 --> 00:10:19,000 Speaker 2: trying to make it even more successful. Too much focus 211 00:10:19,000 --> 00:10:22,360 Speaker 2: on wealth, not enough focus on lifestyle. Now we're dealing 212 00:10:22,440 --> 00:10:24,839 Speaker 2: with cost of living pressures that have never been so great, 213 00:10:25,120 --> 00:10:27,640 Speaker 2: well well certainly not in our lifetime. We're dealing with 214 00:10:28,080 --> 00:10:32,199 Speaker 2: high inflation, high mortgages, high rant, lots of income, and 215 00:10:32,720 --> 00:10:35,640 Speaker 2: financial stress. But in spite of that, I looked at 216 00:10:35,760 --> 00:10:38,160 Speaker 2: what we do in our business and I thought, this 217 00:10:38,200 --> 00:10:40,000 Speaker 2: is a good business, and we do good things, and 218 00:10:40,040 --> 00:10:42,400 Speaker 2: I'm grateful to be able to do it. And over 219 00:10:42,480 --> 00:10:45,320 Speaker 2: the years, I've worked so hard. I've worked so hard 220 00:10:45,760 --> 00:10:49,240 Speaker 2: to even be able to do literally to be able 221 00:10:49,240 --> 00:10:51,720 Speaker 2: to earn a penny doing what we do. And it's 222 00:10:51,720 --> 00:10:54,800 Speaker 2: occurred to me that working harder isn't necessarily making a difference. 223 00:10:54,800 --> 00:10:57,280 Speaker 2: And so in the last week, even though you've been flat, 224 00:10:57,720 --> 00:10:59,240 Speaker 2: I've decided that I'm going to have a bit more. 225 00:10:59,559 --> 00:11:01,719 Speaker 2: Like you said, balance, I guess I'm spending more time 226 00:11:01,760 --> 00:11:03,520 Speaker 2: with you. I'm spending more time with the kids. I've 227 00:11:03,520 --> 00:11:05,520 Speaker 2: been spending a lot more time surfing because the surf 228 00:11:05,559 --> 00:11:08,960 Speaker 2: has been pumping, and I feel like I've just had 229 00:11:08,960 --> 00:11:11,880 Speaker 2: the week of my life. It's been so so wonderful, 230 00:11:11,920 --> 00:11:14,439 Speaker 2: and that means that we're forgoing a whole lot of things. 231 00:11:14,600 --> 00:11:16,640 Speaker 2: I'm supposed to have a book to the publisher. If 232 00:11:16,640 --> 00:11:18,400 Speaker 2: my publisher is listening right now, I'm so sorry that 233 00:11:18,400 --> 00:11:20,440 Speaker 2: you're finding out publicly. My book supposed to be at 234 00:11:20,440 --> 00:11:22,040 Speaker 2: the publisher sort of at the end of this month. 235 00:11:22,160 --> 00:11:24,240 Speaker 2: Next month. I'm not quite sure when it's going to 236 00:11:24,280 --> 00:11:27,800 Speaker 2: be written. Because I keep on sacrificing everything so that 237 00:11:27,840 --> 00:11:29,600 Speaker 2: I can do more work, and the work that I 238 00:11:29,640 --> 00:11:32,479 Speaker 2: do matter is so much that I love it. Nevertheless, 239 00:11:33,040 --> 00:11:35,880 Speaker 2: the shift, like I said, watching people go from five 240 00:11:35,920 --> 00:11:38,280 Speaker 2: days to four days or five days to three days, 241 00:11:38,640 --> 00:11:41,679 Speaker 2: and sharing different ways that they can keep the household 242 00:11:41,720 --> 00:11:44,360 Speaker 2: afloat but have more lifestyle. I feel like I'm just 243 00:11:44,360 --> 00:11:46,720 Speaker 2: studying to get glimpse of what it is, and it 244 00:11:46,840 --> 00:11:50,880 Speaker 2: feels really good. So that's my first thing. But unfortunately, Kylie, 245 00:11:50,920 --> 00:11:53,160 Speaker 2: I'm going to continue. 246 00:11:53,280 --> 00:11:55,360 Speaker 1: Well, it sounds like life's pretty good. I'm interested to 247 00:11:55,400 --> 00:11:56,400 Speaker 1: hear what number two is. 248 00:11:56,679 --> 00:11:59,360 Speaker 2: You will recognize number two when I play this chord 249 00:12:01,840 --> 00:12:06,720 Speaker 2: blue Hood. Last week I got a ten out of ten. 250 00:12:06,960 --> 00:12:11,840 Speaker 2: You got a ten out of ten because we went 251 00:12:11,880 --> 00:12:15,520 Speaker 2: to Chris Isaac. I watched the guy live in concert 252 00:12:15,600 --> 00:12:19,120 Speaker 2: at Cinama Winery day on the green in that what's 253 00:12:19,120 --> 00:12:22,680 Speaker 2: it called Mount Cotton in Brisbane's southeast and. 254 00:12:22,600 --> 00:12:26,880 Speaker 1: I sat in the pouring rain, Oh my. 255 00:12:26,840 --> 00:12:29,280 Speaker 2: Go for two and a half hours. You sat there 256 00:12:29,440 --> 00:12:32,840 Speaker 2: wearing a pink poncho while Chris Isaac serenaded how many 257 00:12:32,840 --> 00:12:36,319 Speaker 2: thousand people? I've been a fan of this guy for decades, 258 00:12:36,600 --> 00:12:39,679 Speaker 2: just always loved Chris ISAC's music. First time I've ever 259 00:12:39,679 --> 00:12:42,319 Speaker 2: gotten to see him. You don't really love live concerts. 260 00:12:42,480 --> 00:12:45,440 Speaker 2: You don't really love being outdoors in the rain in 261 00:12:45,440 --> 00:12:48,319 Speaker 2: a pink poncho. But I got the tickets, you said 262 00:12:48,360 --> 00:12:48,959 Speaker 2: you'd come along. 263 00:12:49,280 --> 00:12:52,080 Speaker 1: I love music, don't get me wrong. I love music. 264 00:12:52,160 --> 00:12:55,160 Speaker 1: I just don't love sharing it with a bajillion other people. 265 00:12:55,360 --> 00:12:57,520 Speaker 2: And we sat there in spite of the fact that 266 00:12:57,520 --> 00:13:00,400 Speaker 2: you didn't love the whole thing, you were there for me, 267 00:13:00,880 --> 00:13:02,920 Speaker 2: and I just I want to acknowledge what you did, 268 00:13:03,040 --> 00:13:05,800 Speaker 2: especially since you're not feeling awesome about life at the 269 00:13:05,800 --> 00:13:08,960 Speaker 2: moment anyway, The fact that you sacrificed your preferences, you 270 00:13:09,000 --> 00:13:11,080 Speaker 2: sacrifice the things that are important to you to come 271 00:13:11,120 --> 00:13:13,560 Speaker 2: along with me and sit. Can I just mention in 272 00:13:13,559 --> 00:13:15,600 Speaker 2: a third row right in the center of the stage 273 00:13:15,679 --> 00:13:16,880 Speaker 2: to watch Chris Isaac sing. 274 00:13:16,960 --> 00:13:18,720 Speaker 1: We did have really good tickets. 275 00:13:18,280 --> 00:13:21,160 Speaker 2: And we got rained on for two hours NonStop. How 276 00:13:21,200 --> 00:13:25,080 Speaker 2: we did get where like buckets buckets, you know. 277 00:13:25,120 --> 00:13:27,680 Speaker 1: The highlight for me was that after he sang his 278 00:13:27,720 --> 00:13:30,840 Speaker 1: opening song, he literally grabbed an umbrella and then ran 279 00:13:30,880 --> 00:13:34,000 Speaker 1: into the crowd and sang the next two songs. Literally 280 00:13:34,000 --> 00:13:36,680 Speaker 1: sang the next two songs in under an umbrella in 281 00:13:36,679 --> 00:13:37,760 Speaker 1: the pouring raine. 282 00:13:37,520 --> 00:13:40,200 Speaker 2: Just feeling what we're in the seats. Yeah, that's right. Yeah, 283 00:13:40,240 --> 00:13:42,280 Speaker 2: great stuff. So I just wanted to highlight that because 284 00:13:42,320 --> 00:13:45,240 Speaker 2: I want to give you credit. It was a really 285 00:13:45,360 --> 00:13:47,320 Speaker 2: it was a really big deal and I appreciated so 286 00:13:47,400 --> 00:13:49,600 Speaker 2: much that you were there. So Kylie, that's pretty much 287 00:13:49,600 --> 00:13:51,840 Speaker 2: my older better tomorrow, and that is that we can 288 00:13:51,880 --> 00:13:54,559 Speaker 2: find balance. We actually can find balance, even if it 289 00:13:54,600 --> 00:13:56,600 Speaker 2: means sitting in the rain and listen to music sometimes. 290 00:13:57,120 --> 00:13:59,480 Speaker 2: And hopefully what we've shared has been helpful for you 291 00:13:59,760 --> 00:14:02,559 Speaker 2: as you've enjoyed the podcast and are trying to make 292 00:14:02,600 --> 00:14:05,720 Speaker 2: your family happier. The Happy Families podcast is produced by 293 00:14:05,800 --> 00:14:09,640 Speaker 2: Justin Roland from Bridge Media. Craig Bruce is our executive producer, 294 00:14:09,960 --> 00:14:12,320 Speaker 2: and for more information about making your family happier, please 295 00:14:12,400 --> 00:14:16,880 Speaker 2: visit Happyfamilies dot com dot A. You have a great weekend.