WEBVTT - MINI: 'The Wardrobe Test' reveals how we REALLY feel about our partners

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<v Speaker 1>Have you ever thought about your partner and if they

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<v Speaker 1>were a piece of clothing, what would they be?

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, I've thought about my partner heaps, but I've

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<v Speaker 2>never thought they were a piece of clothing.

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<v Speaker 1>Now, I know you think I'm crazy, but this is

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<v Speaker 1>off the back of Logan Yuri's book How Not to

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<v Speaker 1>Die Alone. Now if you've never heard of Logan Uri,

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<v Speaker 1>she is an amazing author and a relationship expert. She's

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<v Speaker 1>actually the relationship expert for Hinge. We have interviewed her

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<v Speaker 1>on lifelun Cut podcasts, the podcast that Laura and I do.

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<v Speaker 3>She's brilliant, she is amazing.

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<v Speaker 2>She has a bit of an odd theory though, which

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<v Speaker 2>I can't one hundred percent get my head around.

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<v Speaker 1>She asks the question so when she does one on

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<v Speaker 1>ones with a person, she says, to them, if your

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<v Speaker 1>partner were a piece of clothing in your closet, something

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<v Speaker 1>that you wear, what would they be? And the answer

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<v Speaker 1>is supposed to be indicative of like your true deep

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<v Speaker 1>feelings of them. And what I mean by that is

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<v Speaker 1>some people might say when they think really deeply, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, they used to be like this big, beautiful,

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<v Speaker 1>favorite woolen jumper, but now it's like it's been in

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<v Speaker 1>a dryer too long and it's just itchy and scratches

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<v Speaker 1>me all the time. And then they break down, and

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<v Speaker 1>what that means in terms of okay, cool, the relationship

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<v Speaker 1>has changed to a point that they're annoying.

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<v Speaker 2>This really screams to me that we need to label

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<v Speaker 2>things too much. There's too many labels. We've gone too far.

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<v Speaker 2>Everything needs needs a terminology, everything needs to be psychoanalyzed. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>I've never thought of my husband, prior to us talking

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<v Speaker 2>about this of being a piece of clothing. I think

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<v Speaker 2>it is really interesting.

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<v Speaker 1>I think it's a great thought starter and a great

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<v Speaker 1>conversation starter for your partners. So like, go home tonight

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<v Speaker 1>or right now and ask your partner this question.

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<v Speaker 3>I asked Ben this.

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<v Speaker 1>We all everyone in the room when I ask their

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<v Speaker 1>partners this, And I said to Ben.

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<v Speaker 3>Don't overthink it.

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<v Speaker 1>If I were a piece of clothing in your wardrobe,

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<v Speaker 1>what would I be? And without missing a beat, he said,

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<v Speaker 1>you would be my sneakers, sneakers.

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<v Speaker 3>And my immediate thought was like, why are you trying

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<v Speaker 3>to run away from me? No, I was like, why

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<v Speaker 3>are you trying to walk all over me? Like I

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<v Speaker 3>didn't you know. I was like, sneakers is weird? And

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<v Speaker 3>I said, why would aver you sneakers?

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<v Speaker 1>And he said, well, because you know, I have a

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<v Speaker 1>sneaker fetish.

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<v Speaker 3>He loves his sneakers.

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<v Speaker 1>He's got a hunt pairs of shoes, he loves them,

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<v Speaker 1>and he takes such good care of them.

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<v Speaker 3>He said, you'd always be with me.

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<v Speaker 1>I would always look after you because you're my favorite

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<v Speaker 1>piece of clothing. So we got there in the end,

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<v Speaker 1>and I thought that that was really wholesome.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, but I was going to describe Mat.

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<v Speaker 2>I'd call him a linen shirt, specifically linen.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, but that's also because.

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<v Speaker 2>He's always wearing linen shirts, so that that's what I

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<v Speaker 2>think of as well. But also like breezy and like

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<v Speaker 2>you know, like so comfortable and like great all seasons.

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<v Speaker 1>I would say Ben would be a bodysuit because I

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<v Speaker 1>want him close to me.

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<v Speaker 3>No, okay, Producer Grays, you have no because we all

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<v Speaker 3>heard what you said prior to him.

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<v Speaker 2>That was, yeah, yeah, you know why you want him

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<v Speaker 2>to be a bodysuit, right, What about you, Producer Grays,

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<v Speaker 2>what would your partner be?

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<v Speaker 4>I asked my wife what I would be, and she said,

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<v Speaker 4>I would be a cute, sexy, little halt neck top

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<v Speaker 4>and why I'm strappy, a bit unhinged, ready to fall apart.

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<v Speaker 4>Looks really cute but isn't the most functional for all weather,

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<v Speaker 4>but you love it anyway.

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<v Speaker 3>I think that i'd.

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<v Speaker 1>Actually such a brilliant, well thought answer, and it's just

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<v Speaker 1>enough of a compliment. Sandwich like you're a little unhinged,

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<v Speaker 1>like maybe you're gonna fall down a flash boob, but

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<v Speaker 1>maybe you're.

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<v Speaker 2>Not, like who knows, or have mental breakdown, who knows.

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<v Speaker 3>There's so many of these.

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<v Speaker 2>If you did think of a piece of clothing, or

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<v Speaker 2>you asked your partner and they did call you a

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<v Speaker 2>piece of clothing, go on to the pickup. We'll link

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<v Speaker 2>the article so then you can figure it out. But

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<v Speaker 2>there's things like, for example, statement belt, the person who

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<v Speaker 2>adds flare and definition to otherwise ordinary situations. Blazer polish

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<v Speaker 2>when needed, but can be thrown over, jeans for brunch.

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<v Speaker 3>The reliable grown up who somehow.

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<v Speaker 2>Manages to pay bills on timefe all knows how to

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<v Speaker 2>have fun.

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<v Speaker 3>This one the.

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<v Speaker 1>Knockoff Gucci handbag looks impressive from a distance but falls

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<v Speaker 1>apart under scrutiny like we will have been there.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm surprised no one's describing me as that