WEBVTT - FULL SHOW: The UNHINGED ways you've all been dumped ☠️ 0:00:10.379 --> 0:00:11.619 My heart podcasts. 0:00:12.019 --> 0:00:14.819 Hear more kiss podcast playlist and listen live on the 0:00:14.819 --> 0:00:15.859 Free iHeart app. 0:00:19.499 --> 0:00:23.018 Good pickup with Brittle and Laura Ben Rady. 0:00:23.139 --> 0:00:27.219 Your work, our windows done, that's my world, Rison the 0:00:27.379 --> 0:00:33.899 dust only goodabs down. I've done much, but yeah, I 0:00:33.419 --> 0:00:35.619 know our big get and what I want. 0:00:35.939 --> 0:00:38.739 It don't matter where. This is the picker. 0:00:39.299 --> 0:00:41.659 Hi, guys, you're listening to the Pickup with Britt Hockey 0:00:41.739 --> 0:00:42.299 and Laura Ben. 0:00:42.659 --> 0:00:46.179 Okay again a week too late, but huge breaking news. 0:00:46.459 --> 0:00:48.299 I just got married two weeks ago. I'm obsessed with 0:00:48.299 --> 0:00:49.418 my dog, Delilah. 0:00:49.779 --> 0:00:51.659 The news broke this morning. 0:00:51.939 --> 0:00:55.579 That in New York you can now get married by 0:00:55.659 --> 0:00:57.979 your dog, and your dog can. 0:00:57.859 --> 0:00:58.979 Be your official witness. 0:00:59.059 --> 0:01:00.579 I wish I was kidding people, I'm not. 0:01:00.779 --> 0:01:02.659 I wish you knew too, because I think we've taken 0:01:02.659 --> 0:01:05.979 things too far. I think we've progressed too far in society. 0:01:06.019 --> 0:01:07.419 If your dog can witness your married. 0:01:07.459 --> 0:01:09.899 Look how they sign it now, Laura, with their proms 0:01:11.259 --> 0:01:13.499 and the I mean how I signed your wedding. 0:01:13.298 --> 0:01:16.059 CITYVT with the smiling face and kiss kiss. 0:01:16.259 --> 0:01:18.419 I put two kisses to be fair. 0:01:18.699 --> 0:01:21.459 If the contrast was between Britt Hockley signing your marriage 0:01:21.499 --> 0:01:22.658 certificate or your dog. 0:01:23.219 --> 0:01:26.378 Think carefully about your next sentence, Laura, Well, there's has 0:01:26.419 --> 0:01:30.738 come with the stipulation you can have your dog as 0:01:30.738 --> 0:01:34.018 your witness as long as they're accompanied by a human witness. 0:01:34.179 --> 0:01:35.859 So it's like, I think it's just a bit of fun. 0:01:36.219 --> 0:01:38.298 I mean, you can do it, but is it necessary? 0:01:38.619 --> 0:01:40.938 I mean, I feel like we don't have your dog 0:01:40.979 --> 0:01:42.898 walk yourself down the aisle, like my dog walked me 0:01:42.938 --> 0:01:45.538 down the aisle. Who's part of the wedding procession. But 0:01:45.619 --> 0:01:47.819 I don't need Bustard to sign my marriage certificate. 0:01:47.939 --> 0:01:49.059 I can't consent. 0:01:49.179 --> 0:01:49.579 I'll do it. 0:01:49.659 --> 0:01:52.139 No, No, you did do it. No, I mean I'd 0:01:52.139 --> 0:01:52.379 do it. 0:01:52.419 --> 0:01:55.459 If my dog could witness my weddings certificate, I would 0:01:55.539 --> 0:01:55.859 do that. 0:01:56.059 --> 0:02:00.459 All right, We've got a big show for you guys today. Now, 0:02:00.539 --> 0:02:03.299 something we were talking about recently, and I think it's 0:02:03.339 --> 0:02:07.699 because my whole algorithm at the moment is pregnancies, babies. 0:02:07.859 --> 0:02:10.258 It's like the social media knows I'm pregnant and it's 0:02:10.299 --> 0:02:13.379 feeding me every single article or Instagram post that has 0:02:13.419 --> 0:02:14.219 to do with pregnancy. 0:02:14.299 --> 0:02:16.538 But the way it works, it does, doesn't it. 0:02:16.579 --> 0:02:19.659 Well, Look, this is something that we've spoken about on 0:02:19.698 --> 0:02:22.538 life uncut before. But I really do think that the 0:02:22.698 --> 0:02:25.858 conversation around this is changing, and that is that there 0:02:25.899 --> 0:02:28.138 is a bit of a silence that surrounds the first 0:02:28.179 --> 0:02:31.538 twelve weeks of pregnancy now for most women, and I 0:02:31.579 --> 0:02:35.179 won't speak for everyone. I'm certainly not the oracle of pregnancy, 0:02:36.258 --> 0:02:38.739 but for a lot of women, we are told to 0:02:38.899 --> 0:02:42.499 keep your pregnancy or your good news quite private for 0:02:42.538 --> 0:02:45.379 the first twelve weeks. Now, the reasoning around that is 0:02:45.418 --> 0:02:49.379 because during that first twelve weeks is when most miscarriages happen. 0:02:49.779 --> 0:02:51.979 It's when the rate of which you can lose your 0:02:52.019 --> 0:02:54.739 baby is quite high. And for anyone who doesn't know 0:02:54.779 --> 0:02:58.819 the stats, one in four pregnancies does end in miscarriage. 0:02:58.899 --> 0:03:04.019 Usually it's early miscarriage. And I myself have had two miscarriages. 0:03:04.299 --> 0:03:06.379 I had one before my first daughter, Maley, and I 0:03:06.418 --> 0:03:10.739 had one before my second daughter, and I always found 0:03:10.819 --> 0:03:13.899 it quite a I guess, quite an interesting thing that 0:03:13.939 --> 0:03:15.618 you're told to keep it to yourself for the first 0:03:15.659 --> 0:03:18.219 twelve weeks, because the problem is is if you haven't 0:03:18.219 --> 0:03:21.219 told anyone that you're pregnant, you also don't get to 0:03:21.258 --> 0:03:23.739 share with anyone or explain to anyone why you might 0:03:23.779 --> 0:03:24.579 be feeling really. 0:03:24.379 --> 0:03:25.819 Sad if something does go wrong. 0:03:26.299 --> 0:03:28.338 And there's been quite a movement in a recent article 0:03:28.379 --> 0:03:31.698 that's come out around really starting to shift the perception 0:03:31.819 --> 0:03:35.219 around this secrecy of twelve weeks. And the question is 0:03:35.219 --> 0:03:37.659 is who does it benefit? Does it actually benefit new 0:03:37.739 --> 0:03:40.979 expectant mothers or is it something that just adds more 0:03:41.059 --> 0:03:44.339 shame around the whole feeling of like, well, my body 0:03:44.339 --> 0:03:47.099 wasn't able to carry a pregnancy to full term. If 0:03:47.179 --> 0:03:50.419 you are someone who unfortunately joins that awful club of 0:03:50.539 --> 0:03:52.979 having a miscarriage, look, it's. 0:03:52.859 --> 0:03:53.379 A hard one. 0:03:53.419 --> 0:03:55.539 I've not been pregnant and I've not had a miscarriage, 0:03:55.619 --> 0:03:57.819 so I can't speak to it like that. But I 0:03:57.819 --> 0:04:01.179 do think it's interesting because I understand where it comes from. 0:04:01.219 --> 0:04:03.739 Like I understand why it's always been like, hey. 0:04:04.019 --> 0:04:06.499 Don't tell anyone until you're quote unquote safe or in 0:04:06.539 --> 0:04:08.779 the clear. And I guess that is because for a 0:04:08.779 --> 0:04:11.739 lot of people, if you tell a mass amount of people, 0:04:11.899 --> 0:04:13.379 it does mean you have to deal with it on 0:04:13.419 --> 0:04:16.299 a mass level as well. I don't believe in keeping 0:04:16.339 --> 0:04:18.419 it a secret for the twelve weeks, but I understand 0:04:18.419 --> 0:04:20.819 why it's like, you know, maybe don't go crazy with 0:04:20.859 --> 0:04:23.099 who you tell, but you definitely need that support system. 0:04:23.179 --> 0:04:24.699 You need someone to be there with you if you're 0:04:24.739 --> 0:04:25.259 going through it. 0:04:25.379 --> 0:04:28.539 Yeah, but you don't have to tell everyone's it on Instagram. 0:04:28.539 --> 0:04:30.299 But I mean you can tell your people at work, 0:04:30.459 --> 0:04:33.139 you can tell your support systems. Actually, Samantha Payne, so 0:04:33.219 --> 0:04:35.659 she's the co founder and CEO of Pink Elephant, and 0:04:35.699 --> 0:04:37.738 she puts it so perfectly. She said this, the twelve 0:04:37.739 --> 0:04:40.779 week rule tells us to stay quiet just in case. 0:04:41.219 --> 0:04:43.619 But if the worst does happen, then you're suddenly grieving 0:04:43.659 --> 0:04:47.459 in silence. You haven't told anyone, so there's no support. 0:04:47.699 --> 0:04:50.539 And I do think that this is very relevant for women, 0:04:50.779 --> 0:04:53.539 especially in a workplace environment. Like if you are suddenly 0:04:53.579 --> 0:04:57.579 grieving and going through, you know, struggling with a miscarriage, 0:04:58.139 --> 0:05:00.619 You've never spoken about the fact that you are or 0:05:00.739 --> 0:05:01.819 might be pregnant or any. 0:05:01.699 --> 0:05:02.579 Of these sorts of things. 0:05:02.579 --> 0:05:04.219 But the first conversation you're having to have in a 0:05:04.219 --> 0:05:07.499 workplace environment could potentially be, oh, I'm actually having a miscarriage. 0:05:07.619 --> 0:05:10.059 I just think it adds to the stigma around it. 0:05:10.099 --> 0:05:12.539 I definitely think it adds to the shame. And I 0:05:12.579 --> 0:05:14.939 do think that as a society, we're moving beyond that 0:05:14.979 --> 0:05:16.739 a little bit, but I think that it should be 0:05:16.779 --> 0:05:20.179 a case where if people want to talk about early pregnancy, 0:05:20.899 --> 0:05:22.899 we shouldn't have this like, oh, you don't speak about it, 0:05:23.179 --> 0:05:25.619 you might have a you know, it might not end well, 0:05:26.019 --> 0:05:27.939 and it should be like, Okay, well that's great knowing 0:05:27.979 --> 0:05:30.339 that it is a possibility, but still holding so much 0:05:30.379 --> 0:05:32.899 space for like the excitement and the joy. And I 0:05:33.219 --> 0:05:35.099 say this because I remember when my sister told me 0:05:35.179 --> 0:05:37.179 she was pregnant, and she told me really early. I 0:05:37.179 --> 0:05:39.899 think she was only like maybe four or five weeks. 0:05:40.379 --> 0:05:42.699 I just found out like literally, you know Pete on 0:05:42.739 --> 0:05:46.019 the stick double lines, couse, you're so excited. And she 0:05:46.139 --> 0:05:48.819 called me, and my first reaction was a bit like, oh, 0:05:48.819 --> 0:05:51.219 you're not meant to tell me. I was quite young, 0:05:51.259 --> 0:05:53.139 and I don't think I had realized. I think I 0:05:53.179 --> 0:05:55.659 was so conditioned by this twelve week rule thing that 0:05:55.739 --> 0:05:58.099 I was like worried for her if she had to 0:05:58.099 --> 0:05:59.899 tell me that something went wrong, because. 0:05:59.699 --> 0:06:02.059 It almost is a rule without it being a rule. 0:06:02.099 --> 0:06:02.899 That's how we grow up. 0:06:03.139 --> 0:06:05.099 You can grow up knowing that when you hit the 0:06:05.139 --> 0:06:07.779 twelve week mark, you're happy to talk about it. Even 0:06:07.819 --> 0:06:09.739 when I'm trying to think about right now, I'm like, 0:06:09.819 --> 0:06:12.459 why do we have that rule? What are the repercussions 0:06:12.459 --> 0:06:14.779 of it? And it is shame, that's the default, right. 0:06:14.779 --> 0:06:17.099 It shamed you from saying, Hey, my body wasn't able 0:06:17.499 --> 0:06:19.459 to hold on to that, or maybe there's something wrong 0:06:19.499 --> 0:06:21.339 with me, and that's absolutely not the case. 0:06:21.459 --> 0:06:25.099 Yeah, And I think for me, I didn't realize how 0:06:25.099 --> 0:06:29.019 common it was because it's so rarely spoken about, especially publicly, 0:06:29.459 --> 0:06:31.779 and so when it did happen to me, I thought 0:06:31.779 --> 0:06:32.859 that there was something wrong with me. 0:06:32.899 --> 0:06:33.579 That's only place. 0:06:33.619 --> 0:06:35.899 That's the first place your brain goes to, especially when 0:06:35.899 --> 0:06:38.179 it's happened twice, You're like, Okay, there's something wrong with 0:06:38.179 --> 0:06:40.979 my body and how it works. And it wasn't until 0:06:41.539 --> 0:06:44.619 doing more research and having more conversations with family and 0:06:44.659 --> 0:06:46.979 friends that I was like, oh, my good people who 0:06:46.979 --> 0:06:50.819 I'd never even suspected, family members I never even suspected 0:06:50.859 --> 0:06:53.179 who had gone through miscarriage all kind of stepped forward 0:06:53.179 --> 0:06:54.739 to was like, oh me too, like me too, Like 0:06:54.779 --> 0:06:57.419 this happened to me. And I think it's only when 0:06:57.619 --> 0:07:00.019 you are someone who's been through it do you realize 0:07:00.059 --> 0:07:03.259 the volume of women who also experienced the same thing, 0:07:03.299 --> 0:07:07.178 which is why I think if you're pregnant, were firstly congratulations, 0:07:07.179 --> 0:07:10.059 But if you are pregnant in that early twelve weeks 0:07:10.139 --> 0:07:11.739 and you want to tell the people who you love 0:07:11.739 --> 0:07:14.099 and who are in your surrounding networks, like, I don't 0:07:14.139 --> 0:07:15.819 think that that's something that you should feel as though 0:07:15.819 --> 0:07:17.459 you have to keep to yourself, because the more we 0:07:17.499 --> 0:07:19.579 talk about it, the more we normalize it, and it 0:07:19.659 --> 0:07:21.099 just means that something does go wrong. 0:07:21.139 --> 0:07:22.859 It makes talking about that okay as well. 0:07:22.939 --> 0:07:27.339 Absolutely, Now, Laura, I want you to dig deep into 0:07:27.379 --> 0:07:30.299 your past. Have you ever been broken up with in 0:07:30.339 --> 0:07:34.739 like a really messed up, unhinged way, or did you break. 0:07:34.579 --> 0:07:38.179 Up with someone who No, because I dated a lot 0:07:38.179 --> 0:07:40.179 of men who cheated on me and stuff, and I 0:07:40.259 --> 0:07:40.899 just state so. 0:07:40.939 --> 0:07:44.139 Like they probably tried to broke up. They're like it's over. 0:07:44.259 --> 0:07:45.219 You're like, that's not. 0:07:45.259 --> 0:07:47.019 Crist I prove it. I'm still here. 0:07:47.259 --> 0:07:48.219 Why am I in your bed there? 0:07:48.539 --> 0:07:48.979 Why a me in? 0:07:49.019 --> 0:07:52.579 You'll cover it. I don't think I've been broken up 0:07:52.619 --> 0:07:54.179 within my house. 0:07:54.899 --> 0:07:57.499 I haven't been broken up with it in an unhinged way. 0:07:57.779 --> 0:08:00.739 I've just stayed in unhinged relationships for a really long time. 0:08:00.739 --> 0:08:02.619 All right, Mine technicality a little bit different. 0:08:02.979 --> 0:08:05.419 So Eric Dane, and before you ask you, that is 0:08:05.419 --> 0:08:06.579 because I know you won't know. 0:08:06.659 --> 0:08:09.219 Laura, but that's mixed steamy Gray's anatomy. 0:08:09.939 --> 0:08:12.419 Explain it to me, really hot, doctor. 0:08:12.139 --> 0:08:14.299 And for like our younger listeners that have no idea 0:08:14.339 --> 0:08:17.179 what Gray's Anatomy or mc steamy is, he's the dad 0:08:17.179 --> 0:08:19.179 out of Euphoria, so everyone knows Euphoria. 0:08:19.299 --> 0:08:21.219 Yeah, I do actually know who this guy is, so like, 0:08:21.259 --> 0:08:22.019 I appreciate that. 0:08:22.059 --> 0:08:22.659 Okay, thank you. 0:08:23.019 --> 0:08:25.779 So he there's this story going around at the at 0:08:25.819 --> 0:08:28.859 the moment, and I want to say allegedly, So Eric 0:08:28.979 --> 0:08:32.579 Dane has been dating, allegedly his girlfriend Priya Jane. So 0:08:32.699 --> 0:08:35.019 Dane and Jane, that's how we're gonna call him. They 0:08:35.019 --> 0:08:37.819 were properly together, right, She was a huge part of 0:08:37.859 --> 0:08:42.179 his family. They spent the weekend together and then Eric 0:08:42.299 --> 0:08:46.139 Dane had to go to one of his own premiers. 0:08:45.419 --> 0:08:48.499 So she didn't go. He's gone to the premiere. 0:08:48.699 --> 0:08:52.899 She's watching where she sees him photographed on the red 0:08:52.979 --> 0:08:56.939 carpet with a new woman, Janelle Shirtcliffe. So she's just 0:08:56.979 --> 0:09:00.379 like at home, sees her partner in photos and on 0:09:00.419 --> 0:09:03.819 the red carpet debuting a new relationship. Okay, I'm sorry, 0:09:03.859 --> 0:09:05.659 but if your partner is going to the premiere of 0:09:05.699 --> 0:09:07.859 their own show and you weren't invited, surely that's a 0:09:07.899 --> 0:09:09.859 red flag that they're not with you anymore. 0:09:09.899 --> 0:09:11.099 I mean I have questions. 0:09:11.179 --> 0:09:13.299 I do have questions. But maybe he said no. 0:09:13.379 --> 0:09:14.739 Maybe he said, like, you. 0:09:14.739 --> 0:09:19.379 Know, partners, like it's a Christmas party, like they couldn't 0:09:19.379 --> 0:09:19.939 pay for pote. 0:09:20.299 --> 0:09:22.419 I think this screams of he's tried to break up 0:09:22.419 --> 0:09:24.339 with her and she didn't take the clue, because like 0:09:24.739 --> 0:09:27.099 maybe he didn't do it as direct enough. But if 0:09:27.779 --> 0:09:31.099 it's weird that she's watching on his premiere and she 0:09:31.219 --> 0:09:33.179 had no clue and he just roped up. 0:09:33.339 --> 0:09:36.419 I mean they have matching tattoos, which means it's pretty serious. 0:09:36.499 --> 0:09:38.459 But they imagine if she just got the tattoo to 0:09:38.459 --> 0:09:42.099 match his, he already had it, and she's like, He's. 0:09:41.259 --> 0:09:42.499 Like, this is hot together we. 0:09:42.459 --> 0:09:46.379 Are Look I think if this is true, I mean, 0:09:46.419 --> 0:09:47.979 this man is fifty two years old. 0:09:48.059 --> 0:09:50.859 To me, that just screams spineless. Like if you can't 0:09:50.899 --> 0:09:51.459 break up. 0:09:51.339 --> 0:09:53.219 With someone and the way that you do it is 0:09:53.259 --> 0:09:55.219 by just like appearing with your new girlfriend. 0:09:55.459 --> 0:09:58.179 Hope they get the hint. That seems like a really. 0:09:57.939 --> 0:09:59.979 Really spineless way to manage a break up totally. 0:10:00.019 --> 0:10:02.619 She did say that he never actually broke up with her, 0:10:02.739 --> 0:10:04.779 but give us a call. It got me thinking, there 0:10:04.819 --> 0:10:07.019 must be some unhinged ways you've been broken up with. 0:10:07.219 --> 0:10:11.299 I remember I was seeing this guy, same kind of thing. 0:10:11.379 --> 0:10:13.819 I think, like where you were basically together without it 0:10:13.859 --> 0:10:16.099 officially being together. I don't know that was my situation. 0:10:16.179 --> 0:10:18.419 We were properly together, we weren't seeing other people. It's 0:10:18.459 --> 0:10:19.899 like we've met each other's found How long had you. 0:10:19.939 --> 0:10:22.259 Been dating for on and off for three years? Okay, 0:10:22.299 --> 0:10:23.019 it's a long time. 0:10:23.539 --> 0:10:26.139 Yeah, but it was never like one hundred percent exclusive, 0:10:26.139 --> 0:10:27.699 do you know what I mean. It's like the assumption 0:10:27.819 --> 0:10:29.819 was there we did everything together, but it wasn't anyway. 0:10:30.899 --> 0:10:34.179 It was at his thirtieth birthday and I had helped 0:10:34.219 --> 0:10:36.499 him with like planning of stuff. I was there taking 0:10:36.499 --> 0:10:38.458 photos of the night. His family there as a family 0:10:38.459 --> 0:10:41.819 friend event, and I'll never forget it. I was literally 0:10:41.819 --> 0:10:43.819 had the camera, his family's camera, and I was taking 0:10:43.819 --> 0:10:46.259 photos of everyone across the dance floor. 0:10:46.339 --> 0:10:47.979 And you thought you were his girlfriend at the time. 0:10:48.099 --> 0:10:51.859 Yeah, So at his birthday. Yep, and then across the 0:10:51.939 --> 0:10:52.419 dance floor. 0:10:52.459 --> 0:10:56.219 I looked over and he looked at me directly in 0:10:56.259 --> 0:10:59.459 the eye, locked eyes, and then made out with a 0:10:59.499 --> 0:11:00.259 girl in front of me. 0:11:00.579 --> 0:11:04.619 She did not she did swear on my life. 0:11:04.939 --> 0:11:08.899 I'm speechless. I am literally speechless. How old was man? 0:11:09.419 --> 0:11:10.338 Was his thirtieth if you listen. 0:11:10.459 --> 0:11:14.459 Finally, sorry, I just blamed because I honestly I can't 0:11:14.459 --> 0:11:14.899 believe it. 0:11:15.059 --> 0:11:17.979 Yeah, and then I was like never, it was a 0:11:17.979 --> 0:11:21.099 big thing. I said, never call me again, don't contact me, 0:11:21.419 --> 0:11:22.939 and I unfollowed him on Instagram. 0:11:23.099 --> 0:11:23.699 It was a whole thing. 0:11:23.739 --> 0:11:24.259 I moved over. 0:11:24.339 --> 0:11:26.819 Yeah, I moved overseas, brought a one way ticket, and 0:11:26.859 --> 0:11:28.379 then it went on for years. 0:11:28.379 --> 0:11:30.139 He followed me around. He was like, I made a mistake. 0:11:30.179 --> 0:11:32.459 I love you. Oh that's New York guy. 0:11:32.939 --> 0:11:33.299 Yeah. 0:11:33.299 --> 0:11:35.299 Oh nah, you didn't tell me that part of that story. 0:11:35.339 --> 0:11:37.499 That is absolutely shocked her. I was like, guess this 0:11:37.539 --> 0:11:38.259 means we're not together. 0:11:38.499 --> 0:11:40.659 He was like macking on with someone else at his birthday. 0:11:40.979 --> 0:11:43.699 I think, like definitely, people have like found out from 0:11:43.739 --> 0:11:45.819 their friends, Like I have a girlfriend who found out 0:11:45.859 --> 0:11:47.939 that her partner was broke had broken up with her 0:11:48.179 --> 0:11:50.499 because he'd already told his mate that he was breaking 0:11:50.579 --> 0:11:52.419 up with her or had broken up, but it just 0:11:52.419 --> 0:11:55.099 hadn't filtered to her yet. So his mate was like, Oh, 0:11:55.139 --> 0:11:58.459 I'm so sorry about you and shame and it wasn't 0:11:58.539 --> 0:12:00.139 his name's not Damien. He was like, I'm so sorry 0:12:00.179 --> 0:12:02.458 about you, and Damien like, you know, I hope you're okay, 0:12:02.459 --> 0:12:04.179 and she was like, what are you talking about. That's 0:12:04.219 --> 0:12:07.419 how she found out through the friend anyway, shocking. 0:12:09.059 --> 0:12:12.059 Laura and I have been talking about unhinged ways you've 0:12:12.059 --> 0:12:14.539 been dumped, or like the weird and wonderful way you 0:12:14.619 --> 0:12:17.259 found out you were no longer in that relationship, beating war. 0:12:17.259 --> 0:12:17.539 Do you I have? 0:12:17.539 --> 0:12:19.259 The common theme to this is, though, is that it's 0:12:19.299 --> 0:12:21.619 when someone got just a chicken no, when someone's like 0:12:21.699 --> 0:12:24.739 too scared to actually say it to your face that 0:12:24.739 --> 0:12:26.099 they don't want to be with you anymore, so they 0:12:26.139 --> 0:12:27.659 just kind of do it in a roundabout way and 0:12:27.699 --> 0:12:29.779 you find out through a friend or you find out 0:12:29.819 --> 0:12:30.499 on Facebook. 0:12:30.579 --> 0:12:31.979 Now I think we're giving them too much credit. I 0:12:32.019 --> 0:12:32.939 don't even think they're scared. 0:12:32.939 --> 0:12:34.899 I just think they're jerk offs. But it was off 0:12:34.939 --> 0:12:37.699 the back of the actor Eric Dane if you. 0:12:37.619 --> 0:12:38.419 Don't know who he is. 0:12:38.579 --> 0:12:41.379 He is mixed steamy, everyone knows mixedee me, or he's 0:12:41.379 --> 0:12:44.219 a dad from euphoria the younger generation or no euphoria. 0:12:44.339 --> 0:12:48.059 But basically, he was in a seemingly in a relationship 0:12:48.099 --> 0:12:50.458 with this woman for a couple of years. She'd met 0:12:50.459 --> 0:12:52.939 the kids, they'd got like matching tattoos, they'd spent the 0:12:52.979 --> 0:12:55.939 weekend together, and then Eric went to his own like 0:12:56.099 --> 0:12:57.299 red carpet premiere. 0:12:57.459 --> 0:12:59.419 Now I don't know why his partner didn't go. 0:12:59.979 --> 0:13:02.259 But she's sitting at home, she's watching it go down, 0:13:02.419 --> 0:13:05.739 and she sees photos of Eric on the red carpet 0:13:06.019 --> 0:13:10.299 debuting another woman, and that is how she allegedly says 0:13:10.299 --> 0:13:12.139 she found out that she was dumped. 0:13:12.219 --> 0:13:13.179 It feels fishy. 0:13:13.379 --> 0:13:15.579 I'd still think it feels fishy, but we do have 0:13:15.619 --> 0:13:17.699 I mean producer grace. Yeah, she has a very own 0:13:17.779 --> 0:13:20.219 tailor as to how she got hectically dumped. 0:13:20.299 --> 0:13:25.979 Speaking of fishy, I was dating this guy when I 0:13:26.019 --> 0:13:28.338 was a teenager, like eighteen nineteen, so. 0:13:28.379 --> 0:13:31.819 Adult, so serious. Yeah, it was ver serious. 0:13:32.179 --> 0:13:34.779 We're dating for like four months. I'd met his parents 0:13:35.099 --> 0:13:35.899 bet mine. 0:13:35.779 --> 0:13:38.419 Nineteen and four months deep and meeting the parents that 0:13:38.499 --> 0:13:39.299 is serious, thank you. 0:13:39.419 --> 0:13:41.619 It is serious. Anyway, we decided to go on a 0:13:41.699 --> 0:13:42.819 date to the aquarium. 0:13:42.859 --> 0:13:44.139 That's not so serious. 0:13:44.699 --> 0:13:46.939 He just didn't turn up and I never heard from 0:13:47.019 --> 0:13:50.379 him again. Wait, you've never spoken to the guy like 0:13:50.499 --> 0:13:53.099 he messaged me drunk once like four years later for what, 0:13:53.899 --> 0:13:55.819 just being like, hey heard you got into. 0:13:55.699 --> 0:14:00.099 Radio, say sorry about the aquarium. He never mentioned that. 0:14:00.179 --> 0:14:02.379 But it's one thing to go someone, right, you haven't 0:14:02.379 --> 0:14:04.339 turned up for a date, but you can't just never 0:14:04.499 --> 0:14:05.219 see them again. 0:14:05.299 --> 0:14:08.179 No, literally, I was replying being like, hey, are you alive? 0:14:08.539 --> 0:14:09.259 Did I do something? 0:14:09.419 --> 0:14:09.979 What's going on? 0:14:10.099 --> 0:14:11.699 And he just never But if you. 0:14:11.659 --> 0:14:13.619 Were dating for four months and you met his family, 0:14:13.659 --> 0:14:15.539 why didn't you go to his house? Or you just 0:14:15.579 --> 0:14:17.619 like kind of a scaredy cat. So you just you 0:14:17.699 --> 0:14:18.779 just message his dad. 0:14:21.619 --> 0:14:24.459 You're just too good. You just get better and better. 0:14:24.859 --> 0:14:28.259 Hey, we've got Courtney on the lines. So Courtney, well 0:14:28.299 --> 0:14:30.219 we'll circle back to your grace. There's a lot to 0:14:30.299 --> 0:14:33.579 unpacking your story, Courtney. What was the unhinged way you 0:14:33.619 --> 0:14:37.779 got dumped? I received a Facebook invite Who's going away 0:14:37.899 --> 0:14:42.139 party announcing that he was moving into state. Oh my goodness, 0:14:42.179 --> 0:14:43.659 and you obviously weren't moving with him? 0:14:43.739 --> 0:14:44.699 Did you go to the party? 0:14:45.499 --> 0:14:48.619 Yeah? 0:14:49.019 --> 0:14:50.259 Why was my revenge? 0:14:50.299 --> 0:14:50.459 Though? 0:14:50.539 --> 0:14:55.739 I stole showed him, Courtney, he couldn't see in the dark. 0:14:55.979 --> 0:14:57.899 This is the gift that keeps on giving. I mean 0:14:57.979 --> 0:14:59.899 like there's other ways you could enact revenge. I feel 0:14:59.899 --> 0:15:02.099 like that is the that is the most g rated 0:15:02.179 --> 0:15:07.339 version of it. But I'm you sure showed him, thanks Courtney. Hey, Emily, 0:15:07.499 --> 0:15:09.299 what was the unhinged you got dumped? 0:15:10.419 --> 0:15:14.339 My sister sent it to me on Instagram, but he'd 0:15:14.339 --> 0:15:17.179 already blocked me, and so she sent me the screenshot 0:15:17.219 --> 0:15:18.659 of him getting engaged? 0:15:19.379 --> 0:15:19.739 What? 0:15:20.939 --> 0:15:21.179 Yep? 0:15:21.339 --> 0:15:23.939 And you what how long are you together for? 0:15:25.099 --> 0:15:28.819 We were together on and off for five years? Yeah, 0:15:28.979 --> 0:15:30.939 so quite on and off, so you know, just like 0:15:30.939 --> 0:15:33.059 two and a half years together. Then I had six 0:15:33.099 --> 0:15:36.619 months off and then came back together. And yes, I 0:15:36.619 --> 0:15:40.099 couldn't see the engagement and helpment. He blocked me. So 0:15:40.179 --> 0:15:42.059 my sister screenshot it and sent it to me. 0:15:42.179 --> 0:15:44.259 Wait, so you okay, you were still dating? What did 0:15:44.299 --> 0:15:45.859 you do? Did you contact the other girl? 0:15:45.899 --> 0:15:47.859 Because clearly he was living a separate life at the 0:15:47.899 --> 0:15:48.419 same time. 0:15:49.019 --> 0:15:51.779 I have sent her a message, So I've got to 0:15:51.779 --> 0:15:55.019 give credit where credits due. He planned it all out 0:15:55.139 --> 0:15:57.579 very well, so like we were texting and stuff, and 0:15:57.579 --> 0:15:59.699 then yeah, the day of the announcement, he blotched my 0:15:59.779 --> 0:16:02.779 phone number, blocks me on everything, and yeah, I think 0:16:02.859 --> 0:16:06.139 just hoping to never run into it again. We never have. 0:16:08.219 --> 0:16:12.699 I sent her a message and she never responded. I've 0:16:12.739 --> 0:16:14.859 seen that she's saying it and I know they're married. 0:16:14.899 --> 0:16:19.459 Now, Wow, that is Oh god. I feel sorry for her. 0:16:19.539 --> 0:16:20.619 That's a real shame that was. 0:16:21.299 --> 0:16:23.379 To end on because she could have you don't know, 0:16:23.459 --> 0:16:25.739 she could have known, or she does know now Emily 0:16:25.779 --> 0:16:26.579 told her and she. 0:16:27.659 --> 0:16:29.779 I still feel like that's one of those situations. If 0:16:29.779 --> 0:16:31.739 that guy's that good at lying, he's probably led his 0:16:31.779 --> 0:16:33.699 way out of that situation as well. You know you're 0:16:33.699 --> 0:16:37.259 gonna you're gonna believe you put over some random chicky 0:16:37.339 --> 0:16:38.299 messages you on Instagram. 0:16:38.419 --> 0:16:41.059 That's not true. I was that exact person. I was 0:16:41.099 --> 0:16:44.579 marrying someone who's marrying someone else. Simultaneously, I reached out 0:16:44.659 --> 0:16:47.619 to her. We both dumped his ass. 0:16:48.059 --> 0:16:49.499 Yeah, we don't have trying to get into it. 0:16:50.899 --> 0:16:54.019 So like now that Baro buttle, Oh well, I'm praying 0:16:54.059 --> 0:16:56.499