Speaker 1: All right, everybody, I have an idea for you. That's
Speaker 1: not my idea, I've stolen it, but I think it
Speaker 1: might help you if you were in a long term
Speaker 1: relationship and you've been waiting for your partner to propose. Ye,
Speaker 1: but they're dragging their feet.
Speaker 2: I'm listening.
Speaker 1: Okay, Britt, what do you do? You know, if you've
Speaker 1: got a boyfriend and they won't propose to you, like,
Speaker 1: how do you try and speed that process.
Speaker 3: Of subtly not so subtly, like leaving the hints around
Speaker 3: like pictures of rings with big circles around them and highlighted.
Speaker 2: This wonder woman.
Speaker 1: Now she's been in a relationship for seven years, which
Speaker 1: I think is a really long time. If one of
Speaker 1: you wants to get married now, her boyfriend says, yeah,
Speaker 1: in the future, but we can't do it. Yeah, you know,
Speaker 1: we don't have the money. We don't have this anyway.
Speaker 1: They're twenty nine years old.
Speaker 2: Now.
Speaker 1: Originally the excuses were that it was because they were
Speaker 1: still studying and they had other big things that they
Speaker 1: were working towards. Now he says it's because they just
Speaker 1: don't have quite enough money. But he recently went out
Speaker 1: and bought himself a motorbike, a very expensive motorbike, which
Speaker 1: made her realize maybe getting married is just not a prayer.
Speaker 1: Things cost money, yes they do, Yeah, but you don't
Speaker 1: have to have a big wedding. It's not necessarily about
Speaker 1: the wedding, right like every seven years. It's about the commitment,
Speaker 1: it's about the ring. So what she did is she
Speaker 1: went and she spoke to her sister, and now her
Speaker 1: sister has been married. After two years of dating, they
Speaker 1: got engaged, they've gotten married. She's off living her life
Speaker 1: and doing what she wants to do. Jealous, and her
Speaker 1: sister said, here is something that I did in my
Speaker 1: relationship and at work to treat you are going to
Speaker 1: withdraw all of your wife privileges. And what that means
Speaker 1: is instead of living together, instead of cooking and cleaning
Speaker 1: and picking up his clothes and making his life easier,
Speaker 1: all the things that you would do if you are
Speaker 1: together in a relationship, a committed, long term relationship. She
Speaker 1: was like, you have to remove the wife privileges go
Speaker 1: back to dating. So she's decided she's no longer going
Speaker 1: to sign the new lease with her partner unless he
Speaker 1: is going to propose to her. She's going to move
Speaker 1: out and she's going to go back to dating and
Speaker 1: see what happens.
Speaker 4: Wait, Laura, you're the only one in this room that's married.
Speaker 4: You're the only wife in the studio. Do you know, like,
Speaker 4: do you have wife privileges?
Speaker 2: Is that a thing? What's some other wife privileges that
Speaker 2: we don't know about?
Speaker 1: Having a headache and going to sleep earlier? Okay, having
Speaker 1: seven minute missionary?
Speaker 3: No, okay, wife, I don't think that's it, because I
Speaker 3: think is what she's doing for him, not exactly. So
Speaker 3: wife privileges is more so just like when you're in
Speaker 3: a long term and committed relationship, it's all the things
Speaker 3: that you do to make your partner's life easier, the
Speaker 3: things that you would do if you were dating as well.
Speaker 3: But when you're dating, you get to go home to
Speaker 3: your own space and live in you you know, you
Speaker 3: can go back to your own apartment.
Speaker 1: You don't have to be in their space all the time.
Speaker 1: You also don't have to deal with all the things
Speaker 1: that are the undesirable parts of a relationship, like after
Speaker 1: each other. Yea. And so she's just said, well, you're
Speaker 1: quite happy to live our life like we're married, right,
Speaker 1: now you're quite happy to do everything that a married
Speaker 1: couple would do, but you don't have any of the
Speaker 1: responsibilities of being married.
Speaker 4: I think seven years is too long. Rit what do
Speaker 4: you stand on it? You need to have had the
Speaker 4: discussion or be ready to propose by It's.
Speaker 3: A pretty blanket statement to be like, seven years is
Speaker 3: too long. Who knows what's gone on in their life
Speaker 3: in seven years or other reasons behind it. But she
Speaker 3: does have to make a decision if, like, is marriage
Speaker 3: important enough to her that if she's not going to
Speaker 3: get it, she'll leave the relationship entirely. Otherwise it's an empty.
Speaker 4: Three Now, yeah, I agree, thirteen one of six five
Speaker 4: is seven years too long to wait to propose.
Speaker 2: Do you what, Laura, where do you stand on this?
Speaker 1: I mean, I think if it's what you want in
Speaker 1: your life, like for some people, marriage is important. For
Speaker 1: some people it's not. But if it's important to you
Speaker 1: and your partner knows it's important to you, then seven
Speaker 1: years of waiting for that is a really long time,
Speaker 1: especially if the excuses are we don't have enough money.
Speaker 1: I have enough money from motorbike.
Speaker 2: The phone lines look at them like a Christmas tree.
Speaker 4: Lot people are opinionated, Amanda, what do you think seven years?
Speaker 2: Is it too long?
Speaker 1: On?
Speaker 2: No, it's fine. Yeah.
Speaker 3: I think like a lot depends on the couple and
Speaker 3: there's a lot of factors weighing into it.
Speaker 4: But I mean they talk.
Speaker 3: About a seven year itch when you're married, but I
Speaker 3: think this is a seven year itch to get married.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I agree. All right, Sarah are you there?
Speaker 3: What do you think is seven years too long?
Speaker 4: I answer, don't think it is.
Speaker 3: You know, you're with someone that you love and it's
Speaker 3: still working.
Speaker 2: I guess No, let's go to Casey.
Speaker 3: Casey, is seven years too long? I would probably say yes,
Speaker 3: my opinion, but I mean everyone has their own opinion,
Speaker 3: but I would say yes, yeah.
Speaker 2: I mean fair, I'm only a year into my relationship
Speaker 2: and I'm like.
Speaker 4: Taking away the white privileges last one eleanor quickly? Seven
Speaker 4: seven years too long? Not long enough for proposal.
Speaker 3: Way too long.
Speaker 2: I'd be out of there. Wow, that was animals. Well,
Speaker 2: we've got we've done the pole.
Speaker 4: Eighty two percent of calls we've been taking them in
Speaker 4: the background, eighty two percent say seven years is too long.
Speaker 1: I want to know, though, like, would you withdraw the privileges,
Speaker 1: would you? Okay, if you get to a point where
Speaker 1: you're like, marry me or propose to me, or if
Speaker 1: you're not going to, then something needs to change.
Speaker 2: I don't think it out.
Speaker 1: No.
Speaker 3: I don't think an ultimatum is actually that healthy in
Speaker 3: a relationship.
Speaker 2: Absolutely not. I would not withdraw privileges. Isn't it so
Speaker 2: you just broke up with them? No, I wouldn't. And
Speaker 2: what'd you do? Just keep believing I'd be very sad
Speaker 2: all the time.
Speaker 3: Yeah, everyone's a winner, Yeah,