WEBVTT - Master your Mind - hypnotherapy and reprogramming your negative subconscious with Stephanie Kwong

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<v Speaker 1>Hi, and welcome to the Rise and Conquer Podcast. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>your host, Georgie Stevenson. I am a lawyer and health coach,

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<v Speaker 1>social media influencer, wife and dog mum. On the Rise

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<v Speaker 1>and Conquer Podcast, we dive deep into all things mindset, habits, career, health,

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<v Speaker 1>in the work to get there. I want to bring

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<v Speaker 1>you the tools and actionable steps to feel confident in yourself,

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<v Speaker 1>inspired to take bold action, and motivated to conquer your goals.

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<v Speaker 1>Are you with me, girl friends, Let's rise and conquer. Hi, guys,

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<v Speaker 1>and welcome to another episode of the Rise and Conquered Podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Today we are rising up and conquering our mind with

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<v Speaker 1>special guests Stephanie Quom. She is a mindset mastery coach,

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<v Speaker 1>hypnotherapist and host of the Rise Higher podcasts. She supports

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<v Speaker 1>entrepreneurs and leaders to identify and remove mental roadblocks and

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<v Speaker 1>redesign their subconscious mind to achieve their next level. Her

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<v Speaker 1>deep passion is to empower people to turn their dreams

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<v Speaker 1>into reality by aligning the inner world to the outer

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<v Speaker 1>results they want to create. In this episode, we chat

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<v Speaker 1>about the practice of hypnotherapy, how we can change our

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<v Speaker 1>subconscious mind, how to break out of bad habits and

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<v Speaker 1>bad patterns, and how to reprogram our beliefs for the better.

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<v Speaker 1>This is such a good episode and I cannot wait

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<v Speaker 1>to share it with you. Guys. Welcome to the show, Stephanie.

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<v Speaker 2>Thank you so much for having me.

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<v Speaker 1>Of course, I'm so excited about the conversation today. But

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<v Speaker 1>before we get into the good stuff, as this is

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<v Speaker 1>the Rise and Conker Podcast, what is one thing big

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<v Speaker 1>or small that you are rising up and conquering this week?

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<v Speaker 2>This is actually very timely for me, something that I'm

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<v Speaker 2>I would say rising. I don't know if it's necessarily

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<v Speaker 2>a conquering, but a very dear friend of mine recently

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<v Speaker 2>passed away and I was literally at his celebration of

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<v Speaker 2>life last night. And he was a guy who lived big,

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<v Speaker 2>big spirit, huge light, super lux is how he lived

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<v Speaker 2>his life. I mean they did. It was cocktail attire

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<v Speaker 2>to go to his celebration of life, so so beautiful.

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<v Speaker 2>That was such a representation of him. But while last

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<v Speaker 2>night was super joyful and fun and so many laughs

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<v Speaker 2>and tears hearing the stories that everybody had of what

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<v Speaker 2>an incredible man he was. I'm really working to rise

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<v Speaker 2>through the grief and to conquer that, I would say, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>and I'm being gentle with myself to move through it

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<v Speaker 2>as well.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my gosh, my condolences. That's really amazing that you

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<v Speaker 1>did celebrate his life in a way that seems like

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<v Speaker 1>it resonated with his personality too. That's really lovely.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, it was really really special.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you for sharing that with us. And I am

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<v Speaker 1>glad that you spoke about rising up to grief. But

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<v Speaker 1>I wanted to give the audience a bit of a

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<v Speaker 1>snapshot of you. Could you tell the audience just a

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<v Speaker 1>bit about yourself and how you help people?

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<v Speaker 2>Sure? So I work with driven and ambitious people to

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<v Speaker 2>really help them to identify what is holding them back

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<v Speaker 2>from what they want. So often people desire something and

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<v Speaker 2>they keep hitting walls or are stuck in patterns and

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<v Speaker 2>they can't break through. So I really help those people

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<v Speaker 2>to identify what's holding them back and then to reprogram

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<v Speaker 2>their minds so that they can break the barriers that

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<v Speaker 2>have been keeping them for sometimes years or their entire

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<v Speaker 2>life from reaching their goals so that they can live

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<v Speaker 2>to their highs potential. So whether that's in business, health, relationships,

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<v Speaker 2>or how they even just feel about themselves. And I

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<v Speaker 2>do that through a lot of different ways. I have

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<v Speaker 2>just a very small one on one practice. I have

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<v Speaker 2>a very select group of people I work with, but

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<v Speaker 2>I also facilitate like an online program it's called Become,

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<v Speaker 2>and it's a three month course where I really help

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<v Speaker 2>people to release perfectionism, ditch procrastination, and stop postponing their greatness.

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<v Speaker 2>And that's a lot of the inner work and the reprogramming.

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<v Speaker 2>And then I also do it through my online courses,

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<v Speaker 2>so whether that's through Believe my Self Love or self

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<v Speaker 2>hypnosis course, or through my Self Love course as well,

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<v Speaker 2>lots of different ways.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, it's so intricate. I love it, and so I

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<v Speaker 1>am very interested. You are a hypnotherapist and you teach

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<v Speaker 1>people about the power of the sub conscious mind, and

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<v Speaker 1>this interests me a lot. As I was saying before

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<v Speaker 1>we started recording, I actually started seeing a psychologist recently

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<v Speaker 1>to deal with my anxiety, and she has spoken a

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<v Speaker 1>lot about the subconscious mind. And to be honest, before that,

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<v Speaker 1>it was never on my radar. It's not something I

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<v Speaker 1>even thought about, and so it's kind of timely that

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<v Speaker 1>this is all happening at the same time. So I

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<v Speaker 1>wanted to go into this a little bit. So what

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<v Speaker 1>is hypnotherapy and how did it change your life? I

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<v Speaker 1>know it did, so you know it to that.

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<v Speaker 2>Hypnotherapy it's a proven therapeutic process where you work with

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<v Speaker 2>somebody in hypnosis, a practitioner to help you successfully reach

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<v Speaker 2>your goals. Basically, you put you into a trance like state.

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<v Speaker 2>It's the Theta state if you were to if you

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<v Speaker 2>want to get scientific, it's when you're in the theater

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<v Speaker 2>brainwave state, which is about three to eat hurts, and

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<v Speaker 2>in that state, some people will say it feels like

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<v Speaker 2>you're in a deep state of meditation. And when you're

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<v Speaker 2>in that state, you are in a very focused state

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<v Speaker 2>of awareness, your physical bodies relaxed, and you are open

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<v Speaker 2>and suggestible during that time, meaning that if there's something

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<v Speaker 2>we want to program into your subconscious mind right now,

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<v Speaker 2>you might think I'm not good enough, I'm not worthy,

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<v Speaker 2>or it's not safe for me to make mistakes and

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<v Speaker 2>fail right that could be what is causing anxiety. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>just throwing that out there. Too, because that's something that

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<v Speaker 2>I was dealing with, which is why I would self

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<v Speaker 2>sabotage a lot with procrastination and not doing things. But

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<v Speaker 2>I had a deep seated belief that it's not safe

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<v Speaker 2>for me to make mistakes and fail, which I learned

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<v Speaker 2>that or I decided that as a little girl, and

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<v Speaker 2>that would put me into a state of low grade

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<v Speaker 2>anxiety through most of my life. And when you're in

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<v Speaker 2>this heightened state of awareness and you're open and suggestible,

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<v Speaker 2>that's when someone like a practitioner like myself can actually

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<v Speaker 2>say that you are safe to make mistakes and fail,

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<v Speaker 2>and your brain will receive that as true versus in

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<v Speaker 2>the conscious time. Right like when you and I are talking,

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<v Speaker 2>we're in our conscious mind. If I were to tell you, George,

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<v Speaker 2>you're safe to make mistakes and fail, your conscious mind goes,

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<v Speaker 2>what the heck are you talking about? No, it's not

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<v Speaker 2>I can't do it, and that's when it starts to

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<v Speaker 2>block it. But when you're in that state of hypnosis,

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<v Speaker 2>that's when your brain is actually more apt to receive

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<v Speaker 2>these suggestions as true so that we can embed them

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<v Speaker 2>into the subconscious part of your mind.

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<v Speaker 1>So how do you almost know what is blocking the

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<v Speaker 1>subconscious mind or what the thoughts are that you need

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<v Speaker 1>to get over. How do you sort of find that out?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, So for me, I mean I've been highly trained

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<v Speaker 2>in a lot of different modalities, so even through the

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<v Speaker 2>conscious part of me speaking to my clients, I can

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<v Speaker 2>pretty much identify what the limiting belief is or what's

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<v Speaker 2>holding them back, and then when I put them into hypnosis,

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<v Speaker 2>your subconscious mind is a recorder. It literally holds every

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<v Speaker 2>single moment in time. It holds every sound, every image,

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<v Speaker 2>every sense, every scent, everything you've heard. And so what

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<v Speaker 2>we do when you're in that state of hypnosis, we

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<v Speaker 2>can actually command the subconscious mind to reveal the times

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<v Speaker 2>in your life where these limiting beliefs started forming for you.

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<v Speaker 2>And once you're able to locate the root, the source

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<v Speaker 2>of it, you can then rewrite it in the subconscious mind.

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<v Speaker 2>And there's a lot of different ways of one entering

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<v Speaker 2>into this state of hypnosis and then two working with

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<v Speaker 2>a subconscious mind when you're in that state. So it's

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<v Speaker 2>not just one process. It really depends on what are

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<v Speaker 2>we trying to work through. So for example, let's say

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<v Speaker 2>with your anxiety, right, or say myself, I actually just

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<v Speaker 2>recently had a client who came to me because she

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<v Speaker 2>has massive anxiety and she would wake up in the

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<v Speaker 2>morning already anxious. And her thing is, she goes, I

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<v Speaker 2>want to be present, because I realized that I spend

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<v Speaker 2>so much of my time trying to forecast the future

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<v Speaker 2>that I'm not present and I don't experience joy because

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<v Speaker 2>I'm in a constant state of anxiety. So I did

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<v Speaker 2>this one process with her where I put her into

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<v Speaker 2>hypnosis and then we regressed her back to find the

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<v Speaker 2>root and the source of this anxiety for her. And

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<v Speaker 2>there was a few different moments in time of her

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<v Speaker 2>past that were revealed when this came up. I mean,

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<v Speaker 2>there was one time when she was three years old

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<v Speaker 2>and she was just looking at the window in her

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<v Speaker 2>family room and her dad came up to her and

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<v Speaker 2>slapped her on the bottom, and she was shocked and

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<v Speaker 2>scared and so already it was she decided, WHOA, I

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<v Speaker 2>have to be on alert all the time, right. And

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<v Speaker 2>then there was another moment in time that we discovered

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<v Speaker 2>where she was twelve years old. I think I was

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<v Speaker 2>like twelve thirteen, and she had scored I think like

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<v Speaker 2>a ninety percent or ninety two percent on a standardized test,

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<v Speaker 2>and she comes from a Russian family, and so when

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<v Speaker 2>she went to tell her parents, they asked her why

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<v Speaker 2>she didn't get a hundred and yet her friend who

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<v Speaker 2>was also Russian, got eighty something percent and her parents

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<v Speaker 2>celebrated it. So now all of a sudden, her perfectionism

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<v Speaker 2>kicked in right as a little girl. She decided, ninety

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<v Speaker 2>two isn't enough. I have to push and get the hundred,

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<v Speaker 2>otherwise I'm going to lose love and approval for my parents.

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<v Speaker 2>And then there was another moment in time where something

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<v Speaker 2>came up where she was punished for something that if

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<v Speaker 2>she didn't perform. She it was through a sport that

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<v Speaker 2>her coach is like, she didn't perform, they'd have to

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<v Speaker 2>do these crazy drills, which is basically, if you mess up,

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<v Speaker 2>you're gonna get punished. And so there could have been

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<v Speaker 2>more moments in time. I only pulled three for her,

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<v Speaker 2>but we could already tell that these occurring when she

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<v Speaker 2>was younger, had her decide I'm not safe. I have

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<v Speaker 2>to be perfect. I always have to score or well,

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<v Speaker 2>if I fail, I'm going to get punished. I can

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<v Speaker 2>just be relaxing looking out a window. And I don't

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<v Speaker 2>know what's going to come up behind me and smack

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<v Speaker 2>me on the bottom and get in trouble for something

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't do. So all of this stacked together for her,

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<v Speaker 2>and probably more when she was younger, had her develop

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<v Speaker 2>this anxiety, and anxiety really is a feeling of not

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<v Speaker 2>being safe. We actually work a lot with anxiety and

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<v Speaker 2>hypnosis and for many people who struggle with anxiety or

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<v Speaker 2>even some depression, it is a learned behavior and will

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<v Speaker 2>not all learned. I take that back. Depression can be

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<v Speaker 2>a true chemical imbalance, but some of it can be learned.

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<v Speaker 2>If you observed a parent who struggled with depression, you

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<v Speaker 2>know you can pick up because your parents are modeling

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<v Speaker 2>behaviors towards you, and you might pick up some of

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<v Speaker 2>their behaviors. But with anxiety, it's usually a I'm not safe.

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<v Speaker 2>And when we support people and feelings safe right having

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<v Speaker 2>her see, you're not that three year old little girl anymore,

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<v Speaker 2>You're not that twelve year old. You're not the fourteen

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<v Speaker 2>year old or the eight year old where something happened

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<v Speaker 2>to you and you interpreted reality in a certain way,

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<v Speaker 2>you made up a belief about yourself. Then we have

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<v Speaker 2>them see that they're not that little kid anymore. We

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<v Speaker 2>can then heal that and then reprogram. But most people

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<v Speaker 2>as adults are operating from a programming from when they

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<v Speaker 2>were little kids, like basically up to the point when

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<v Speaker 2>they're ten years old, ten to twelve. They say that

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<v Speaker 2>you actually stop by the time you're twenty five, but

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<v Speaker 2>that's more minimal in terms of the programming. But when

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<v Speaker 2>you are born, from birth until about eight years seven

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<v Speaker 2>eight years old, you're pretty much in a pure hypnotic state,

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<v Speaker 2>meaning you are open and suggestible to whatever people tell you.

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<v Speaker 2>So if someone tells you you're smart, especially a parent,

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<v Speaker 2>right the people you're looking up to, you're smart, You're stupid,

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<v Speaker 2>you're pretty, you're ugly, you can do anything you want

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<v Speaker 2>to do. Life is hard. You got to work hard

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<v Speaker 2>for anything that you want, buy whatever you want, or

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<v Speaker 2>we can't get ahead in our bills. So we're learning

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<v Speaker 2>all these things right of our relationship with money, our

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<v Speaker 2>relationship with whether we can trust or not trust, if

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<v Speaker 2>we are taught to believe that we can achieve anything,

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<v Speaker 2>or that we're I don't know if we can cuss

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<v Speaker 2>on this like a piece of crap. So I didn't say,

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't say the custom word, but the piece of crap,

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<v Speaker 2>but that that is, that's what we're programmed, and then

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<v Speaker 2>that becomes our operating system, and we navigate life as

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<v Speaker 2>an adult with those set of beliefs that were decided

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<v Speaker 2>when you were a little kid. And it wasn't even

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<v Speaker 2>your decision, it's whatever people told you, and your parents

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<v Speaker 2>are putting their programming into you based off of what

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<v Speaker 2>their parents told them. So that's why you learned that

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<v Speaker 2>there's this whole generational programming that happens. And then there's

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<v Speaker 2>a cultural programming, right that we have here, etc. Like

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<v Speaker 2>I'm Chinese, so there's definitely like Chinese programming that I

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<v Speaker 2>have that I know my American friends don't have. And

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<v Speaker 2>who's right or wrong neither. It's just what you were

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<v Speaker 2>programmed with.

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<v Speaker 1>One hundred percent. And so you're saying, like the subconscious

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<v Speaker 1>is formed as we are growing up from these things.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, these moments or events that don't necessarily have

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<v Speaker 1>to have a massive impact, but they form our subconscious,

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<v Speaker 1>which then forms our patterning and our programming. Is that correct?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, so your subconscious is actually already there. It's its

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<v Speaker 2>job is to store and retrieve data, and so it's

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<v Speaker 2>imagine it's just a blank slate, you're born with that.

0:14:42.880 --> 0:14:45.440
<v Speaker 2>And what happens is we're actually putting the programming into

0:14:45.440 --> 0:14:49.280
<v Speaker 2>the subconscious, and then it's not forming the subconscious, it

0:14:49.360 --> 0:14:53.480
<v Speaker 2>is actually forming your belief systems and your identity right,

0:14:53.600 --> 0:14:57.200
<v Speaker 2>who you think you are, how you see yourself, and

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<v Speaker 2>then you live life based off of that a programming.

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<v Speaker 2>So if you as an example, I had another client.

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<v Speaker 2>He came to me actually to break an addiction and

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<v Speaker 2>because he wanted to be in relationship with a woman,

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<v Speaker 2>and he was really saw that that was he had

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<v Speaker 2>a certain type of addiction that would not let him

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<v Speaker 2>relate to women in a certain way. And we did

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<v Speaker 2>a similar process that I was telling you about, and

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<v Speaker 2>we discovered when he was three years old, he was

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<v Speaker 2>playing with his toys in his closet. His dad came in.

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<v Speaker 2>His dad said, play with it like this. He didn't

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<v Speaker 2>want to do it. He did it his way and

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<v Speaker 2>his dad said no. And I said, how did that

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<v Speaker 2>make you feel? And he said stupid? And his whole

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<v Speaker 2>body dropped and he started crying. And I learned that

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<v Speaker 2>he came up out of hypnosis and he goes, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>I cannot believe that, he goes Stephane. I've been struggling

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<v Speaker 2>my entire life thinking that I'm stupid. I built this

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<v Speaker 2>multimillion dollar company that I have to prove that I'm

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<v Speaker 2>not dumb. And it wasn't even a trauma Georgie, right,

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<v Speaker 2>it was like explained with aoys. Yeah. And a lot

0:16:03.320 --> 0:16:06.200
<v Speaker 2>of times people go, I don't know what's wrong with me? Like,

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<v Speaker 2>I had a good childhood. I wasn't abused, I wasn't neglected,

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't have controlling or neglectful parents. I don't get it.

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<v Speaker 2>Why do I feel stopped, you know, when I want

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<v Speaker 2>to achieve something. Why do I keep getting in my

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<v Speaker 2>own way? Why do I believe that I'm not good enough?

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<v Speaker 2>Why do I believe that I'm unlovable? My parents loved me.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, see that's really crazy that you're saying that,

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<v Speaker 1>because I even spoke on my social media about seeing

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<v Speaker 1>a psychologist, and I said, I honestly wish I did

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<v Speaker 1>it a lot sooner. But what stopped me is I

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<v Speaker 1>told myself basically that my problems weren't like I would say.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, people have it so much worse than me.

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<v Speaker 1>These feelings almost were undeserving, if that makes sense. So

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<v Speaker 1>like I was like, oh, things aren't bad enough, I

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<v Speaker 1>shouldn't need to see anyone or anything like that. So

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<v Speaker 1>it's quite quite nice for you to kind of of,

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<v Speaker 1>I guess reinforced that sometimes it doesn't have to be

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<v Speaker 1>this big you know, trauma or big event. It can

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<v Speaker 1>be very simple things that in our subconsciously can.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, you hear that even the examples of you know,

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<v Speaker 2>say someone your mom forgot to pick you up from

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<v Speaker 2>school when you were five, and then you decide I

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<v Speaker 2>must not be good enough because if I was, she

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<v Speaker 2>would have remembered to pick me up. And you know

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<v Speaker 2>that that's not the truth. But your little kid brain can't.

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<v Speaker 2>The conscious mind, the part of your mind that is

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<v Speaker 2>the logical it has the ability to make decisions, analyze,

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<v Speaker 2>and have the reasoning skills that's not formed and developed yet.

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<v Speaker 2>So you're making up these weird decisions and beliefs and

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<v Speaker 2>stories in your mind as a little kid without really

0:17:51.720 --> 0:17:54.600
<v Speaker 2>having all the evidence. But you don't know any better.

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<v Speaker 2>And so sometimes you know if or maybe your parents

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<v Speaker 2>looked at you a certain way, and you're like, uh, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>when I did this, they looked at me this way.

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<v Speaker 2>That means I'm bad and wrong for doing that, and

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<v Speaker 2>you might stop doing that thing. But it could just

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<v Speaker 2>be that they turned and looked and you thought they

0:18:11.840 --> 0:18:13.359
<v Speaker 2>were looking at you, but they didn't mean to or

0:18:13.359 --> 0:18:17.080
<v Speaker 2>they weren't right. Yes, so there's all these silly things

0:18:17.320 --> 0:18:21.000
<v Speaker 2>that then get implanted. We make decisions about ourselves or

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<v Speaker 2>about the world, or we're literally taught them by our parents,

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<v Speaker 2>whether even things like you know you have to work hard,

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<v Speaker 2>or or rich people are evil because I know so

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<v Speaker 2>many people struggle with money, and so you could have

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<v Speaker 2>heard that or seen that growing up, and then that

0:18:35.800 --> 0:18:40.280
<v Speaker 2>becomes your money consciousness. And then what happens is your

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<v Speaker 2>subconscious mind's job is to make everything that you say

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<v Speaker 2>and do fit into a pattern that's consistent with what

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<v Speaker 2>you believe and with your self concept, your identity, who

0:18:51.359 --> 0:18:55.560
<v Speaker 2>you see yourself as. Right, So we start to work

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<v Speaker 2>our behaviors to keep validating who we think we are

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<v Speaker 2>and what we think the world is. Yeah, so that's

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<v Speaker 2>why we can continue to getting the same results. And

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<v Speaker 2>it's so crazy. This is the wild part, girl, is

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<v Speaker 2>we will literally delete and distort information to fit into

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<v Speaker 2>our belief system. What's programmed in our subconscious.

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<v Speaker 1>That's crazy.

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<v Speaker 2>So here's what's wild. I had a client and I

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<v Speaker 2>wanted to do a call with her father or her parents,

0:19:27.520 --> 0:19:30.320
<v Speaker 2>and she was really resistant, and she was thinking, she's like,

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<v Speaker 2>already know how it's going to go, because he's going

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<v Speaker 2>to take over control and he's going to be invalidating.

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<v Speaker 2>So she had her whole thing about him, right, Obviously

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<v Speaker 2>there's resistance between the two. And so we did the call.

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<v Speaker 2>We have him get off the phone, and I finished

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<v Speaker 2>it off with her and I said, wow, I was

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<v Speaker 2>really pleasantly surprised by how your father behaved. And I said,

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<v Speaker 2>and really beautiful how much she kept apologizing and taking

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<v Speaker 2>responsibility for the things that you were pointing out that

0:19:59.359 --> 0:20:02.840
<v Speaker 2>were hurtful you. And she goes, what are you talking about?

0:20:03.400 --> 0:20:08.480
<v Speaker 2>He didn't apologize? Yeah, he did about twelve times. She

0:20:08.640 --> 0:20:13.200
<v Speaker 2>literally did not hear it. She did not hear one apology.

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<v Speaker 2>So she was deleting all this information because she was

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<v Speaker 2>so set on her programming of yes, how she was

0:20:21.280 --> 0:20:24.399
<v Speaker 2>expecting her father to show up, that she was filtering

0:20:25.280 --> 0:20:28.480
<v Speaker 2>her interaction with him through that lens. That whatever didn't

0:20:28.520 --> 0:20:32.280
<v Speaker 2>fit in that lens was she missed it.

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<v Speaker 1>That's crazy.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, And that's what happens in life. If we're programmed

0:20:37.520 --> 0:20:41.040
<v Speaker 2>to see opportunities because we know everywhere I turn something's

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<v Speaker 2>going to show up. I'm going to get the resource

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<v Speaker 2>I need to move me forward in my vision. Then

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<v Speaker 2>everywhere literally you look or you start to attract the

0:20:50.760 --> 0:20:54.480
<v Speaker 2>things that really validate what you believe. And if you

0:20:54.520 --> 0:20:57.200
<v Speaker 2>think things are hard, I'm never supported. I don't ever

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<v Speaker 2>get what I want. You know what that's going to

0:21:00.520 --> 0:21:04.080
<v Speaker 2>be what happens as well. So that's why it's so

0:21:04.160 --> 0:21:07.680
<v Speaker 2>important to make sure that you've got those beliefs and

0:21:07.800 --> 0:21:10.760
<v Speaker 2>the self concept or the identity of who you see

0:21:10.800 --> 0:21:14.439
<v Speaker 2>yourself as that really matches up with what it is

0:21:14.480 --> 0:21:18.040
<v Speaker 2>that you say you want in your external reality, because

0:21:18.240 --> 0:21:21.479
<v Speaker 2>if it's incongruent, So maybe you say like, oh, I

0:21:21.520 --> 0:21:24.360
<v Speaker 2>really want to meet the love of my life and

0:21:24.520 --> 0:21:27.840
<v Speaker 2>I'm on all these online apps and I'm going on

0:21:27.880 --> 0:21:30.679
<v Speaker 2>these dates and I can't find that person. But then

0:21:31.119 --> 0:21:33.280
<v Speaker 2>what we discover is you actually have a belief of

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not lovable. Well, you're going to be repelling or

0:21:37.200 --> 0:21:39.720
<v Speaker 2>always probably finding something wrong with the people that you're

0:21:39.800 --> 0:21:44.160
<v Speaker 2>dating or making up excuses or I date and then

0:21:44.720 --> 0:21:47.680
<v Speaker 2>I leave them or they leave me in the first month.

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<v Speaker 2>That's usually because that then as you go we'll see

0:21:50.720 --> 0:21:53.200
<v Speaker 2>I must not be lovable. And again this is all unconscious.

0:21:53.240 --> 0:21:57.280
<v Speaker 2>People usually are not cognizant of this happening. They just

0:21:57.320 --> 0:22:01.400
<v Speaker 2>start to blame what's happening outside of themselves as something's wrong,

0:22:01.480 --> 0:22:04.280
<v Speaker 2>versus going hold on a second, I am literally the

0:22:04.320 --> 0:22:08.159
<v Speaker 2>creator of my reality. What I believe is what is

0:22:08.240 --> 0:22:12.439
<v Speaker 2>consistently creating what I'm experiencing in my outside world.

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<v Speaker 1>Your stuff just fascinates me so much, and I want

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<v Speaker 1>to take it back a little bit and talk about mindset,

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<v Speaker 1>which is obviously very similar. And I am such a

0:22:23.720 --> 0:22:27.240
<v Speaker 1>big believer in mindset where I have you know, morning

0:22:27.359 --> 0:22:30.399
<v Speaker 1>rituals that are all about setting my mindset up for

0:22:30.440 --> 0:22:33.880
<v Speaker 1>the day and you know my intentions and that sort

0:22:33.960 --> 0:22:37.400
<v Speaker 1>of stuff. So can you talk to us about why

0:22:37.400 --> 0:22:40.760
<v Speaker 1>do we get stuck in bad patterns and how we

0:22:40.840 --> 0:22:45.400
<v Speaker 1>can sort of break that cycle? Obviously you talked about hypnotherapy,

0:22:45.600 --> 0:22:49.320
<v Speaker 1>but do you have any other tools that we could

0:22:49.560 --> 0:22:52.560
<v Speaker 1>use basically how to get unstuck?

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<v Speaker 2>For sure? Girl, I got you. So, first of all,

0:22:59.680 --> 0:23:03.520
<v Speaker 2>we are in stuck in patterns because that is our

0:23:03.560 --> 0:23:07.640
<v Speaker 2>stuck thinking right, and what we believe creates the patterns

0:23:07.640 --> 0:23:09.600
<v Speaker 2>that we have in our life. And the reason why

0:23:09.680 --> 0:23:13.360
<v Speaker 2>we have habits is because it's efficient. I mean, imagine

0:23:13.359 --> 0:23:15.360
<v Speaker 2>if you had to learn how to tie your shoes

0:23:15.440 --> 0:23:21.120
<v Speaker 2>every single day, how much wasted energy would that be?

0:23:21.240 --> 0:23:23.479
<v Speaker 2>Or you had to learn how to brush your teeth.

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<v Speaker 2>And so once we form these habits, our brain's like cool,

0:23:26.600 --> 0:23:28.600
<v Speaker 2>got it, and then we can start to zip through them.

0:23:29.080 --> 0:23:31.960
<v Speaker 2>And what happens is that goes for everything in our life.

0:23:31.960 --> 0:23:34.800
<v Speaker 2>We form these habits, it makes it efficient or just

0:23:34.960 --> 0:23:39.439
<v Speaker 2>keeps proving what it is that we believe faster, more effectively,

0:23:40.000 --> 0:23:44.119
<v Speaker 2>even if it's what we don't want, which is what

0:23:44.160 --> 0:23:47.719
<v Speaker 2>happens again when we're younger. However, what you're doing in

0:23:47.760 --> 0:23:50.800
<v Speaker 2>your morning rituals is so powerful because what you're doing

0:23:50.880 --> 0:23:54.520
<v Speaker 2>is you're creating new habits that are going to get

0:23:54.560 --> 0:24:00.560
<v Speaker 2>you new results. Right and again, once you get to it,

0:24:01.040 --> 0:24:03.760
<v Speaker 2>you're also you have a certain way of thinking or

0:24:03.800 --> 0:24:07.520
<v Speaker 2>believing that's even having you creating this morning ritual though, right,

0:24:08.480 --> 0:24:10.399
<v Speaker 2>I believe that when I do these morning rituals, it's

0:24:10.440 --> 0:24:11.840
<v Speaker 2>going to set me for the day. I'm going to

0:24:11.880 --> 0:24:13.879
<v Speaker 2>feel amazing and I'm going to be way more productive.

0:24:14.480 --> 0:24:17.000
<v Speaker 2>So you already have that belief that if you do this,

0:24:17.359 --> 0:24:19.080
<v Speaker 2>that's the result you're going to get, which is why

0:24:19.119 --> 0:24:20.960
<v Speaker 2>when you do it, it's effective and you get the

0:24:21.000 --> 0:24:24.560
<v Speaker 2>results after that. But if you're looking for a tool

0:24:24.640 --> 0:24:27.919
<v Speaker 2>to support you, one thing that you already said that

0:24:27.960 --> 0:24:30.480
<v Speaker 2>you did, which is really powerful when you set your intentions,

0:24:30.920 --> 0:24:34.800
<v Speaker 2>there's something in your primal part of your brain, the

0:24:35.000 --> 0:24:38.639
<v Speaker 2>reptilian brain, that's called your reticular activating system. Are you

0:24:38.640 --> 0:24:44.240
<v Speaker 2>familiar with it? No? Okay, So the reticular activating system.

0:24:44.520 --> 0:24:48.639
<v Speaker 2>One of its functions is to basically pull in to

0:24:48.800 --> 0:24:52.040
<v Speaker 2>your reality the people, the places, the things, experiences that

0:24:52.119 --> 0:24:56.359
<v Speaker 2>you're telling it that you want. At any given moment

0:24:56.400 --> 0:24:59.720
<v Speaker 2>in time, there is like four hundred billion bits of

0:25:00.000 --> 0:25:03.919
<v Speaker 2>information coming at you. Your brain can only focus on

0:25:04.440 --> 0:25:08.040
<v Speaker 2>like five to nine bits. So, for example, are you

0:25:08.080 --> 0:25:09.119
<v Speaker 2>sitting on something right now?

0:25:09.520 --> 0:25:09.800
<v Speaker 1>Mm hm?

0:25:10.080 --> 0:25:12.880
<v Speaker 2>A chair? Yeah? Okay, So can you now feel the

0:25:13.200 --> 0:25:14.640
<v Speaker 2>chair underneath your butt?

0:25:14.920 --> 0:25:15.160
<v Speaker 1>Yes?

0:25:15.960 --> 0:25:19.520
<v Speaker 2>Okay, did you feel it ten seconds ago when we

0:25:19.520 --> 0:25:23.879
<v Speaker 2>were first talking when we're talking, not really, I guess, yeah,

0:25:23.880 --> 0:25:28.639
<v Speaker 2>But that that information, right, that sensation has always been there, Yeah,

0:25:28.640 --> 0:25:31.879
<v Speaker 2>but you just can't focus on every little bit of

0:25:31.920 --> 0:25:35.000
<v Speaker 2>information that's coming at you. But once you shift your focus,

0:25:35.080 --> 0:25:36.320
<v Speaker 2>all of a sudden, you're like, oh, yeah, I feel

0:25:36.320 --> 0:25:40.600
<v Speaker 2>the chair underneath my tush right mm. So what happens

0:25:40.680 --> 0:25:43.720
<v Speaker 2>is with the ras, you're telling it focus on this.

0:25:44.400 --> 0:25:46.800
<v Speaker 2>So when we do our intentions in the morning, we're

0:25:46.840 --> 0:25:49.879
<v Speaker 2>telling our reticular activating system, this is what's important to me,

0:25:50.520 --> 0:25:55.040
<v Speaker 2>focus on this, and we're actually you are consciously directing it,

0:25:55.080 --> 0:25:57.960
<v Speaker 2>which is very powerful, which is why I also do

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<v Speaker 2>that as one of the practice say that I have

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<v Speaker 2>my clients do as a conscious practice, not just the

0:26:03.000 --> 0:26:05.960
<v Speaker 2>hypnosis part, but how to master your mind, because it's

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<v Speaker 2>another thing I do is I teach a lot of

0:26:07.720 --> 0:26:12.160
<v Speaker 2>different practices on how to master your mind consciously and subconsciously.

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<v Speaker 2>So the intention setting is like a conscious practice to say, hey,

0:26:15.760 --> 0:26:19.720
<v Speaker 2>reticular activating system, this is what's important. Scan the environment

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<v Speaker 2>to pull these things into my reality. Yeah, and bring

0:26:24.000 --> 0:26:27.320
<v Speaker 2>this into my existence. It's why like if someone has

0:26:27.760 --> 0:26:29.119
<v Speaker 2>wants to buy a new car, and all of a

0:26:29.119 --> 0:26:31.000
<v Speaker 2>sudden that's top of mind for you and you're like,

0:26:31.119 --> 0:26:34.840
<v Speaker 2>I want, you know, an Audi A four. I just

0:26:34.880 --> 0:26:37.080
<v Speaker 2>made that up, and all of a sudden, everywhere you go,

0:26:37.119 --> 0:26:38.960
<v Speaker 2>you see the audi A four all of the street.

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<v Speaker 1>He's so true, yes, one hundred yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Because now you told your brain this is important to me.

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<v Speaker 2>So let's focus on this and all all of a

0:26:47.200 --> 0:26:49.879
<v Speaker 2>sudden it goes like and it finds all of it

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<v Speaker 2>in your reality for you.

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<v Speaker 1>now let's get straight back into the episode. Sorry, you

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<v Speaker 1>just said that this is a tool to master your

0:28:44.360 --> 0:28:47.920
<v Speaker 1>mind that you can use consciously. Is there tools we

0:28:48.000 --> 0:28:51.960
<v Speaker 1>can use unconsciously or it's just consciously?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, so that's a conscious tool, A subconscious tool that

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<v Speaker 2>I highly recommend to people, and actually having a comprehensive

0:29:01.640 --> 0:29:05.880
<v Speaker 2>online course about it is self hypnosis so sometimes for

0:29:06.000 --> 0:29:09.960
<v Speaker 2>people you might not be able to work with for

0:29:10.000 --> 0:29:13.520
<v Speaker 2>budget reasons or whatever that might be. If you can't

0:29:13.560 --> 0:29:16.440
<v Speaker 2>work with somebody, or maybe you're don't feel ready yet

0:29:16.440 --> 0:29:19.400
<v Speaker 2>because that trust thing. Right, If you can't do hetero hypnosis,

0:29:19.440 --> 0:29:21.760
<v Speaker 2>which is working with a practitioner, you could do self

0:29:21.840 --> 0:29:27.400
<v Speaker 2>hypnosis and learn to put yourself into state and then

0:29:27.880 --> 0:29:30.959
<v Speaker 2>learn different techniques on how to reprogram. So like in

0:29:31.000 --> 0:29:35.280
<v Speaker 2>my course, I show multiple ways of different types of

0:29:35.280 --> 0:29:37.920
<v Speaker 2>reprogramming techniques. I have one where if you're going I

0:29:37.960 --> 0:29:40.840
<v Speaker 2>have the streamer goal, I want to make it happen boom,

0:29:40.880 --> 0:29:44.280
<v Speaker 2>there's a specific technique for that. Or if you're saying, hey,

0:29:45.000 --> 0:29:47.760
<v Speaker 2>I really wanted to tapp into my subconscious and ask

0:29:47.800 --> 0:29:51.200
<v Speaker 2>it questions and I have this big decision to make,

0:29:51.280 --> 0:29:55.080
<v Speaker 2>and instead of crowdsourcing the answers, I know that I

0:29:55.160 --> 0:29:57.200
<v Speaker 2>know my own answer, but I don't know how to

0:29:57.200 --> 0:30:01.920
<v Speaker 2>connect to it, here's actually a practice on or I

0:30:02.000 --> 0:30:04.000
<v Speaker 2>have a technique in there where you can actually ask

0:30:04.000 --> 0:30:07.080
<v Speaker 2>your subconscious and get the answers that way. Or there's

0:30:07.120 --> 0:30:08.840
<v Speaker 2>like an inner child one in there, because a lot

0:30:08.880 --> 0:30:10.959
<v Speaker 2>of us it's the wounding and the pain is all

0:30:11.000 --> 0:30:15.120
<v Speaker 2>from our inner child experiences and there's a way to

0:30:15.160 --> 0:30:18.240
<v Speaker 2>work with your inner child there. So there's when you

0:30:18.640 --> 0:30:21.719
<v Speaker 2>do self hypnosis that isn't a way to actually access

0:30:21.760 --> 0:30:23.400
<v Speaker 2>your subconscious to do the work there.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I love that, And so I want to chat

0:30:27.360 --> 0:30:29.320
<v Speaker 1>to you a little bit more about what you were

0:30:29.360 --> 0:30:34.800
<v Speaker 1>saying about reprogramming our beliefs and you know, sometimes our

0:30:34.840 --> 0:30:38.040
<v Speaker 1>limiting beliefs. And I have a question for you. So

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<v Speaker 1>do you think it's harder to create positive beliefs and

0:30:42.320 --> 0:30:45.880
<v Speaker 1>thoughts than it is to create negative ones? What's your

0:30:45.920 --> 0:30:46.520
<v Speaker 1>thoughts on that?

0:30:47.760 --> 0:30:50.400
<v Speaker 2>You mean, are you consciously trying to create them?

0:30:50.840 --> 0:30:53.480
<v Speaker 1>Like I guess? I mean, you know, like some people

0:30:53.520 --> 0:30:56.720
<v Speaker 1>they just have a really negative mindset and then some

0:30:56.760 --> 0:31:00.800
<v Speaker 1>people just have a really positive mindset. Is something we

0:31:01.440 --> 0:31:06.920
<v Speaker 1>subconsciously or consciously choose or how can we be I

0:31:06.920 --> 0:31:11.640
<v Speaker 1>guess reprogramming our brain to choose more positive beliefs and thoughts.

0:31:13.040 --> 0:31:17.560
<v Speaker 2>Yeah. So here's one thing that most people might not

0:31:17.680 --> 0:31:21.200
<v Speaker 2>know is we're actually wired for fear. It's a survival

0:31:21.480 --> 0:31:24.000
<v Speaker 2>stay from way back in the cave man days, right.

0:31:24.120 --> 0:31:25.960
<v Speaker 2>It's you needed to be on alert and to be

0:31:25.960 --> 0:31:28.080
<v Speaker 2>able to know if you're going to be attacked and killed.

0:31:28.880 --> 0:31:33.800
<v Speaker 2>The problem is is that we now currently see if

0:31:33.800 --> 0:31:38.680
<v Speaker 2>someone doesn't text us back in quickly, or we don't

0:31:38.720 --> 0:31:41.520
<v Speaker 2>get a certain job, or we get rejected here, that

0:31:41.520 --> 0:31:43.959
<v Speaker 2>we actually perceive that as like a threat to our

0:31:44.040 --> 0:31:47.960
<v Speaker 2>survival and then all of a sudden, you know what happens,

0:31:48.480 --> 0:31:52.160
<v Speaker 2>That feeling comes up. But it's we're wired to look

0:31:52.200 --> 0:31:56.720
<v Speaker 2>for these things to protect ourselves. And here's also what's nuts.

0:31:56.760 --> 0:31:59.040
<v Speaker 2>If you actually look in the dictionary, there are more

0:31:59.280 --> 0:32:04.840
<v Speaker 2>fear based wars then there are positive ones. Crazy, Yeah,

0:32:04.880 --> 0:32:07.200
<v Speaker 2>And a lot of the tactics that are used in

0:32:07.280 --> 0:32:10.840
<v Speaker 2>politics and the news and other things are fear based

0:32:10.880 --> 0:32:14.400
<v Speaker 2>because also when people are in fear, it's easier to

0:32:14.440 --> 0:32:15.320
<v Speaker 2>control them.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, that's even like I find news based like articles,

0:32:21.280 --> 0:32:24.080
<v Speaker 1>like even on social media and like in the US

0:32:24.160 --> 0:32:27.760
<v Speaker 1>and that sort of thing, things that are about negative

0:32:28.080 --> 0:32:31.520
<v Speaker 1>or about fear. Like they've done tests and they're always

0:32:31.560 --> 0:32:33.760
<v Speaker 1>clicked on more than something positive.

0:32:34.720 --> 0:32:38.080
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, because we're looking for that stuff. That's what puts

0:32:38.160 --> 0:32:41.480
<v Speaker 2>us on high alert. And that's what we're wired to

0:32:41.520 --> 0:32:44.480
<v Speaker 2>look for, is to protect ourselves. And beyond high alert.

0:32:44.480 --> 0:32:46.720
<v Speaker 2>And here's what's wilds is one of the techniques I

0:32:46.840 --> 0:32:50.720
<v Speaker 2>use to put people into hypnosis is actually to kick

0:32:50.720 --> 0:32:54.000
<v Speaker 2>off their fight flight mechanism. So I actually put them

0:32:54.040 --> 0:32:57.240
<v Speaker 2>into fight mode, which is the fear. Right all of

0:32:57.240 --> 0:33:00.239
<v Speaker 2>a Suddeny're like yeah, And then because they're resisting for

0:33:00.320 --> 0:33:02.800
<v Speaker 2>so much, eventually like and they just go into flight

0:33:02.880 --> 0:33:06.600
<v Speaker 2>and boom, they go into to the data state. So

0:33:07.480 --> 0:33:10.560
<v Speaker 2>that's how I also know and they're more suggestible at

0:33:10.560 --> 0:33:12.840
<v Speaker 2>that time. It's like if someone's in an accident, right

0:33:12.880 --> 0:33:14.960
<v Speaker 2>and you're like do this, do that, and they're like, okay, okay,

0:33:15.000 --> 0:33:18.360
<v Speaker 2>they're just listening to you because they shut off their

0:33:18.400 --> 0:33:21.400
<v Speaker 2>conscious logical part of their brain and they're just trying

0:33:21.440 --> 0:33:24.840
<v Speaker 2>to survive. So that's also why when the news comes

0:33:24.840 --> 0:33:29.000
<v Speaker 2>that you can then drop in other suggestions someone like hey,

0:33:29.680 --> 0:33:32.040
<v Speaker 2>you should be afraid of this, and I'm the person

0:33:32.080 --> 0:33:33.600
<v Speaker 2>that's going to come to solve that for you, And

0:33:33.600 --> 0:33:36.240
<v Speaker 2>all of a sudden, you're like you you're the one and

0:33:36.280 --> 0:33:41.040
<v Speaker 2>you're not actually thinking, right, is this really true? Or

0:33:41.120 --> 0:33:45.720
<v Speaker 2>is this a form of manipulation using linguistics as well

0:33:45.760 --> 0:33:47.000
<v Speaker 2>as fear based tactics.

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<v Speaker 1>So, but anyway back.

0:33:48.600 --> 0:33:53.040
<v Speaker 2>To your question, as we segue back, I would say

0:33:53.160 --> 0:33:57.600
<v Speaker 2>it programming fear or positive when it's intentional is probably

0:33:57.640 --> 0:34:00.360
<v Speaker 2>the same, but we're wired for fear. Most of us

0:34:00.400 --> 0:34:05.040
<v Speaker 2>have quite a bit of fear based programming because I

0:34:05.080 --> 0:34:10.680
<v Speaker 2>see more people struggling in our world than they are thriving. Yeah,

0:34:10.760 --> 0:34:13.719
<v Speaker 2>that's how I know, right, If you saw people just

0:34:13.840 --> 0:34:17.640
<v Speaker 2>like super alive, going after their dreams, feeling happy all

0:34:17.680 --> 0:34:21.160
<v Speaker 2>the time, loving their life, being of service all and

0:34:21.280 --> 0:34:24.239
<v Speaker 2>like true service all of that, you would be like, wow,

0:34:24.280 --> 0:34:29.319
<v Speaker 2>they must be programmed more for the positivity versus the

0:34:29.560 --> 0:34:33.520
<v Speaker 2>negativity that I see most people struggling with, you know,

0:34:33.680 --> 0:34:37.160
<v Speaker 2>really having a hard time with their self worth, or

0:34:37.760 --> 0:34:40.400
<v Speaker 2>they do the self beat up thing or the self

0:34:40.480 --> 0:34:44.719
<v Speaker 2>doubt like it's an epidemic. Right, So most of that's

0:34:44.760 --> 0:34:47.239
<v Speaker 2>programmed in, which is why I feel like a deep

0:34:47.280 --> 0:34:50.520
<v Speaker 2>part of our healing and our soul's evolution is to

0:34:51.080 --> 0:34:57.239
<v Speaker 2>heal those lies, those are untruths, and to program in

0:34:57.320 --> 0:35:00.800
<v Speaker 2>our truths, which is who we really are, which are powerful, full, lovable,

0:35:01.320 --> 0:35:04.480
<v Speaker 2>extraordinary beings who are more than enough and worthy of

0:35:04.600 --> 0:35:05.640
<v Speaker 2>everything that we desire.

0:35:06.760 --> 0:35:10.880
<v Speaker 1>I love that. And so do you have any takeaway tools,

0:35:10.960 --> 0:35:14.920
<v Speaker 1>actable tools that the audience can do kind of like

0:35:15.120 --> 0:35:20.960
<v Speaker 1>right now or when they get time to help reprogram

0:35:21.080 --> 0:35:25.520
<v Speaker 1>their beliefs to serve their lives more positively rather than

0:35:25.560 --> 0:35:26.800
<v Speaker 1>living in that fear base.

0:35:28.080 --> 0:35:31.120
<v Speaker 2>Yeah. So the first thing is gosh, like all these

0:35:31.400 --> 0:35:33.840
<v Speaker 2>my brain just literally got flooded with all these practices.

0:35:33.920 --> 0:35:36.640
<v Speaker 2>I was like, which one do I get out? There's

0:35:36.719 --> 0:35:41.440
<v Speaker 2>so many. If it's more of a conscious based practice,

0:35:41.600 --> 0:35:45.120
<v Speaker 2>for example, the first thing is just being aware. I'm

0:35:45.160 --> 0:35:47.759
<v Speaker 2>paying attention to what the heck you're telling yourself every

0:35:47.760 --> 0:35:50.240
<v Speaker 2>single day. If you wonder why you feel like crap,

0:35:50.480 --> 0:35:52.640
<v Speaker 2>and you actually start to notice that you're telling yourself

0:35:52.880 --> 0:35:55.440
<v Speaker 2>I can't do that. They don't like me. I'm so stupid,

0:35:55.840 --> 0:35:58.440
<v Speaker 2>that's so bad. Oh I look so ugly, I'm so fat. Like,

0:35:58.480 --> 0:36:01.000
<v Speaker 2>if you just slow down and listen to what your

0:36:01.000 --> 0:36:04.400
<v Speaker 2>self talk is, it'll really illuminate to you why you

0:36:04.480 --> 0:36:07.160
<v Speaker 2>might not feel your best, or why you get stuck

0:36:07.239 --> 0:36:11.279
<v Speaker 2>around things, or why you self sabotage. Once you notice them,

0:36:11.280 --> 0:36:13.879
<v Speaker 2>what I do is I'll write them down, get them

0:36:13.880 --> 0:36:15.640
<v Speaker 2>out of my head, put them down on the page,

0:36:15.840 --> 0:36:19.520
<v Speaker 2>and then start to question them, Right, is this really true?

0:36:20.200 --> 0:36:23.399
<v Speaker 2>How do I know that this is true? Or where

0:36:23.600 --> 0:36:25.239
<v Speaker 2>might I have picked this up? Or where did I

0:36:25.280 --> 0:36:28.640
<v Speaker 2>hear this from? Or where was my earliest memory of

0:36:28.760 --> 0:36:33.040
<v Speaker 2>feeling this way before? Oh that time when you know,

0:36:33.160 --> 0:36:35.600
<v Speaker 2>I was five years old and my mom told me

0:36:35.840 --> 0:36:39.200
<v Speaker 2>blank you know, and then go, okay, well that's not

0:36:39.239 --> 0:36:41.439
<v Speaker 2>me anymore. And then what you can start to do

0:36:41.600 --> 0:36:43.439
<v Speaker 2>is write out what it is that you do want

0:36:43.440 --> 0:36:49.200
<v Speaker 2>to believe and start doing the repetitive part. So affirmations

0:36:49.239 --> 0:36:52.520
<v Speaker 2>do work if you attach the emotion to them. A

0:36:52.600 --> 0:36:54.960
<v Speaker 2>lot of times people go, well, affirmations don't work. Well,

0:36:55.280 --> 0:36:58.759
<v Speaker 2>it's because it doesn't have the emotional component, meaning I

0:36:58.800 --> 0:37:01.920
<v Speaker 2>actually truly feel it and mean it, And so sometimes

0:37:01.960 --> 0:37:03.680
<v Speaker 2>you might need to say it until all of a sudden,

0:37:03.800 --> 0:37:06.600
<v Speaker 2>like the thirtieth time, it clicks and you're like, ooh, okay,

0:37:06.640 --> 0:37:09.839
<v Speaker 2>I kind of felt it there, right. So that's one

0:37:09.880 --> 0:37:14.080
<v Speaker 2>way of doing it, because we actually reprogram our subconscious

0:37:14.120 --> 0:37:16.600
<v Speaker 2>in a few different ways. The first is through repetition.

0:37:17.080 --> 0:37:19.319
<v Speaker 2>So the thing that I just shared is one. Pay

0:37:19.360 --> 0:37:22.279
<v Speaker 2>attention to even what you're saying yourself, question them. And

0:37:22.360 --> 0:37:24.360
<v Speaker 2>sometimes if you question it and you're like, is this

0:37:24.400 --> 0:37:27.960
<v Speaker 2>really true? No, it's not. Do I have evidence to

0:37:27.960 --> 0:37:30.200
<v Speaker 2>prove that this is not true? Yeah, write it all

0:37:30.239 --> 0:37:32.480
<v Speaker 2>down and now you have all this evidence your brain

0:37:32.600 --> 0:37:34.839
<v Speaker 2>just might be like, Yep, that's a lie. I don't

0:37:34.880 --> 0:37:36.759
<v Speaker 2>need to believe that anymore. And it could be as

0:37:36.800 --> 0:37:41.440
<v Speaker 2>simple as that, but other times it could require high

0:37:41.560 --> 0:37:43.640
<v Speaker 2>levels of repetition on an affirmation of what you run

0:37:43.680 --> 0:37:48.080
<v Speaker 2>a program in or if you can relax yourself. So

0:37:48.360 --> 0:37:52.160
<v Speaker 2>I'm guessing many of your listeners meditate now.

0:37:52.920 --> 0:37:55.880
<v Speaker 1>Maybe yeah, maybe we have done a couple of podcasts

0:37:55.920 --> 0:37:59.239
<v Speaker 1>on it, so I think they've definitely heard of the

0:37:59.320 --> 0:38:01.600
<v Speaker 1>idea and a lot would be meditating.

0:38:02.360 --> 0:38:04.680
<v Speaker 2>Okay, well it's I guess it's more of just putting

0:38:04.719 --> 0:38:07.919
<v Speaker 2>yourself into a relaxed state. And if people don't know, again,

0:38:08.000 --> 0:38:10.279
<v Speaker 2>I have resources or I have the course that they

0:38:10.320 --> 0:38:13.080
<v Speaker 2>can do that's super cheap, but it'll show you how

0:38:13.120 --> 0:38:15.960
<v Speaker 2>to relax yourself, to put yourself in a state. And

0:38:16.000 --> 0:38:19.680
<v Speaker 2>then when you say the affirmations, it actually starts to

0:38:19.719 --> 0:38:22.839
<v Speaker 2>go in your subconscious way faster than when you're trying

0:38:22.880 --> 0:38:27.000
<v Speaker 2>to do it consciously. Okay, yeah, so that's one. And

0:38:27.040 --> 0:38:29.480
<v Speaker 2>then another thing I would throw up as a powerful

0:38:29.560 --> 0:38:33.440
<v Speaker 2>technique to use just reprogram consciously is the moment you

0:38:33.480 --> 0:38:38.279
<v Speaker 2>catch yourself in a negative thought and the way that

0:38:38.320 --> 0:38:40.080
<v Speaker 2>you notice you're in a negative thought is because you

0:38:40.120 --> 0:38:43.280
<v Speaker 2>just don't feel so great right, because the feeling always

0:38:43.320 --> 0:38:46.320
<v Speaker 2>follows the thought. So fall asen, you're like, ough, pay attention,

0:38:46.400 --> 0:38:48.080
<v Speaker 2>what am I thinking right now? Or what am I

0:38:48.160 --> 0:38:52.360
<v Speaker 2>focusing on? You know that I can't have what I want,

0:38:53.040 --> 0:38:56.080
<v Speaker 2>or I'm single or whatever it might be. The moment

0:38:56.080 --> 0:39:00.080
<v Speaker 2>you catch that, you want to shift your attention to

0:39:00.120 --> 0:39:03.719
<v Speaker 2>something else. So a lot of times people will say, oh,

0:39:03.760 --> 0:39:07.560
<v Speaker 2>we'll shift it to gratitude, right, or you can shift

0:39:07.600 --> 0:39:11.399
<v Speaker 2>it to just whatever it is that distracts you from

0:39:11.400 --> 0:39:15.879
<v Speaker 2>that thought, a higher feeling focus. Like for me, I'm

0:39:15.960 --> 0:39:19.280
<v Speaker 2>staring at my dog right now. If I'm feeling crappy,

0:39:19.600 --> 0:39:22.240
<v Speaker 2>I just shift my attention to him and I focus

0:39:22.280 --> 0:39:23.720
<v Speaker 2>on why I love him, and all of a sudden,

0:39:23.840 --> 0:39:25.760
<v Speaker 2>it just changes the vibration to me. Right, It changes

0:39:25.760 --> 0:39:28.440
<v Speaker 2>a feeling state in me. And now when I'm in

0:39:28.480 --> 0:39:31.919
<v Speaker 2>a higher state of feeling, I can go do other

0:39:32.000 --> 0:39:35.839
<v Speaker 2>things that feel better. But what you're doing when you

0:39:35.920 --> 0:39:41.360
<v Speaker 2>catch yourself focus on something negative and you consciously catch

0:39:41.440 --> 0:39:45.520
<v Speaker 2>that and shift it towards something else, you're now taking

0:39:45.560 --> 0:39:48.520
<v Speaker 2>control of your mind and you're saying, I'm not going

0:39:48.600 --> 0:39:50.960
<v Speaker 2>to let it hang out in this crappy place anymore.

0:39:51.000 --> 0:39:53.520
<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna stop staring at this shit, and I'm going

0:39:53.560 --> 0:39:56.040
<v Speaker 2>to focus on the joy, on the love. And that

0:39:56.080 --> 0:39:59.520
<v Speaker 2>literally just takes me moving my attention somewhere else.

0:40:00.600 --> 0:40:03.080
<v Speaker 1>That's definitely like a big part of that is even

0:40:03.239 --> 0:40:07.279
<v Speaker 1>being aware, because I know so many people it would

0:40:07.360 --> 0:40:10.640
<v Speaker 1>be hard to even catch themselves in that moment to

0:40:10.719 --> 0:40:14.200
<v Speaker 1>be aware of even knowing they have a choice.

0:40:15.360 --> 0:40:18.440
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, So the key to any sort of personal development

0:40:18.520 --> 0:40:21.879
<v Speaker 2>step one is raising your level of self awareness. Right.

0:40:21.920 --> 0:40:24.839
<v Speaker 2>You can't change what you can't see, so slow down

0:40:24.880 --> 0:40:29.560
<v Speaker 2>and start paying attention. And really, how I notice. I'm like, Oh,

0:40:29.960 --> 0:40:33.440
<v Speaker 2>the moment I feel crappy, that's when I go, huh,

0:40:33.560 --> 0:40:37.160
<v Speaker 2>check in what am I thinking? What's happening in my brain?

0:40:37.440 --> 0:40:41.280
<v Speaker 2>Because again, the feeling follows a thought, and it's harder

0:40:41.320 --> 0:40:44.560
<v Speaker 2>sometimes to notice our thoughts because they're so habituated and automatic.

0:40:45.040 --> 0:40:47.359
<v Speaker 2>But you can also tell when you just don't feel

0:40:47.400 --> 0:40:50.920
<v Speaker 2>so good and in that moment, go, I must have

0:40:51.640 --> 0:40:54.520
<v Speaker 2>my yucky programming going on right now, Yeah, let me

0:40:54.600 --> 0:40:58.040
<v Speaker 2>see what's check out what's going on up in my head? Oh,

0:40:58.320 --> 0:41:02.880
<v Speaker 2>I'm telling myself that they don't like you because this

0:41:03.200 --> 0:41:08.400
<v Speaker 2>or that I'll never hit my goal of making X

0:41:08.440 --> 0:41:10.920
<v Speaker 2>amount of money, you know, or whatever it might be.

0:41:11.480 --> 0:41:14.839
<v Speaker 2>And instead of staring at that, go all right, I

0:41:14.880 --> 0:41:18.080
<v Speaker 2>see that that's what I'm thinking. I know that's that's

0:41:18.160 --> 0:41:21.560
<v Speaker 2>creating my feeling, and in this moment, I choose to

0:41:21.600 --> 0:41:23.319
<v Speaker 2>shift my attention to something else.

0:41:24.320 --> 0:41:27.760
<v Speaker 1>This is star good. I'm like writing down notes because yeah,

0:41:27.800 --> 0:41:32.080
<v Speaker 1>I'm like obviously like I love self development and all

0:41:32.080 --> 0:41:35.120
<v Speaker 1>this sort of stuff. It's like so simple, but it's

0:41:35.360 --> 0:41:39.080
<v Speaker 1>just about doing the work. And when we're taking this in.

0:41:39.480 --> 0:41:42.000
<v Speaker 2>And eventually too, Georgie, just so you know, your brain

0:41:42.040 --> 0:41:43.840
<v Speaker 2>starts to go wow. Every time I try to like

0:41:43.880 --> 0:41:45.880
<v Speaker 2>make her feel like crap, she just switches it and

0:41:45.920 --> 0:41:48.719
<v Speaker 2>it starts to do it automatically for you. So that's

0:41:48.719 --> 0:41:51.439
<v Speaker 2>another great thing. And then if I can throw one

0:41:51.480 --> 0:41:53.680
<v Speaker 2>more out there as a tool, because I love giving tools,

0:41:53.800 --> 0:41:56.520
<v Speaker 2>this one will be super quick. Is if you're sitting

0:41:56.520 --> 0:41:58.840
<v Speaker 2>there and you're not feeling good, boom, that's the signal

0:41:58.880 --> 0:42:01.520
<v Speaker 2>to go all right, I have some faulty thinking going

0:42:01.560 --> 0:42:05.480
<v Speaker 2>on right now. Acknowledge that you're okay. I'm feeling anger,

0:42:05.640 --> 0:42:08.200
<v Speaker 2>And the reason why I'm feeling angry is because I'm

0:42:08.200 --> 0:42:13.200
<v Speaker 2>telling myself blank and then actually speak out what story

0:42:13.239 --> 0:42:17.120
<v Speaker 2>you're telling yourself? Just some story that's disempowering, right, that's

0:42:17.200 --> 0:42:19.920
<v Speaker 2>causing the anger. And then what you can do is

0:42:20.080 --> 0:42:26.400
<v Speaker 2>make up seven positive stories instead of what could actually

0:42:26.440 --> 0:42:32.960
<v Speaker 2>be happening. So, for example, let's say someone didn't get

0:42:33.239 --> 0:42:36.439
<v Speaker 2>the job promotion that they wanted. Yeah, and then they're

0:42:36.480 --> 0:42:40.080
<v Speaker 2>telling themselves, I must not be good enough, I'm not qualified.

0:42:40.120 --> 0:42:42.000
<v Speaker 2>Other people are better than me. Well, guess what's going

0:42:42.080 --> 0:42:44.080
<v Speaker 2>to make you feel crappy in your body? That's the signal.

0:42:44.360 --> 0:42:46.439
<v Speaker 2>And they go, Okay, I feel crappy right now because

0:42:46.440 --> 0:42:49.000
<v Speaker 2>I'm telling myself that I'm not good enough, I'm not qualified.

0:42:49.480 --> 0:42:53.000
<v Speaker 2>What's another interpretation or stories I could be telling myself

0:42:53.040 --> 0:42:55.640
<v Speaker 2>for why I didn't get this promotion. Oh, it could

0:42:55.719 --> 0:42:59.239
<v Speaker 2>be that they actually have another role that they see

0:42:59.239 --> 0:43:01.880
<v Speaker 2>me better for that they'll promote me in later, or

0:43:02.640 --> 0:43:06.279
<v Speaker 2>whatever else. But make up seven stories. And the reason

0:43:06.360 --> 0:43:09.319
<v Speaker 2>why is the first three will be easy, usually the

0:43:09.320 --> 0:43:11.600
<v Speaker 2>two or three. But once you start to train your

0:43:11.640 --> 0:43:14.000
<v Speaker 2>brain to focus more on the positive and make up

0:43:14.040 --> 0:43:18.200
<v Speaker 2>more empowering stories for you, again, you're training your brain

0:43:18.360 --> 0:43:20.919
<v Speaker 2>to look in a whole different direction and eventually when

0:43:20.920 --> 0:43:23.240
<v Speaker 2>the negative story comes up, it's like, Nope, it actually

0:43:23.280 --> 0:43:26.720
<v Speaker 2>could be this, this, this, and this. Okay, cool move along?

0:43:27.440 --> 0:43:28.200
<v Speaker 2>Does that make sense?

0:43:28.320 --> 0:43:30.719
<v Speaker 1>I yes, I love that. So it's all about like

0:43:31.160 --> 0:43:35.759
<v Speaker 1>reprogramming and retraining your brain to think of those more

0:43:35.800 --> 0:43:39.520
<v Speaker 1>positive outcomes, which then makes it easier to just do

0:43:39.960 --> 0:43:43.319
<v Speaker 1>instead of us having to be very aware and you know,

0:43:43.360 --> 0:43:44.719
<v Speaker 1>having to do that work.

0:43:45.120 --> 0:43:47.759
<v Speaker 2>Absolutely yeah, and you know what it takes work, but

0:43:47.800 --> 0:43:48.399
<v Speaker 2>it's worth it.

0:43:50.480 --> 0:43:53.319
<v Speaker 1>Thank you so much for those tools. And so I

0:43:53.440 --> 0:43:56.760
<v Speaker 1>want to finish the interview talking about something we're both

0:43:57.480 --> 0:44:02.279
<v Speaker 1>very passionate about. What is this? So I want to

0:44:02.280 --> 0:44:06.240
<v Speaker 1>talk about self love. I know you absolutely love talking

0:44:06.239 --> 0:44:09.640
<v Speaker 1>about this and I know you have Is it a

0:44:09.680 --> 0:44:12.000
<v Speaker 1>forty day program of self love?

0:44:12.719 --> 0:44:15.279
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it's a self love transformation over the course of

0:44:15.320 --> 0:44:17.040
<v Speaker 2>forty days, but you can do it over however many

0:44:17.080 --> 0:44:20.960
<v Speaker 2>days you want. But it's a full online course showing

0:44:21.000 --> 0:44:23.400
<v Speaker 2>you the how of self love in the way that

0:44:23.520 --> 0:44:24.240
<v Speaker 2>I've learned.

0:44:25.160 --> 0:44:27.400
<v Speaker 1>And so you have a bit of a different approach

0:44:27.400 --> 0:44:31.239
<v Speaker 1>with self love. It's less about doing, which is what

0:44:31.280 --> 0:44:33.760
<v Speaker 1>many other people teach, and it's more about a way

0:44:34.000 --> 0:44:37.520
<v Speaker 1>of being. So why do you think self love is

0:44:37.560 --> 0:44:41.560
<v Speaker 1>really important? For us, for our souls, and why do

0:44:41.200 --> 0:44:43.120
<v Speaker 1>you approach it differently?

0:44:44.400 --> 0:44:47.560
<v Speaker 2>So I really believe it's our soul's journey to come

0:44:47.600 --> 0:44:51.279
<v Speaker 2>back home to ourselves. Each and every person. Somewhere, some

0:44:51.440 --> 0:44:54.560
<v Speaker 2>way along the line of us growing up, we've decided

0:44:54.600 --> 0:44:58.880
<v Speaker 2>that there's parts of ourselves that are unlovable, not wanted, shameful,

0:44:59.400 --> 0:45:02.880
<v Speaker 2>and we push them away and that's why we feel

0:45:02.960 --> 0:45:06.439
<v Speaker 2>so we don't feel our best because it's like all

0:45:06.480 --> 0:45:09.560
<v Speaker 2>of me is not lovable, only parts of me, And

0:45:09.600 --> 0:45:12.680
<v Speaker 2>how crappy does that feel? And really it's about, instead

0:45:12.680 --> 0:45:15.160
<v Speaker 2>of also trying to get love externally, that we come

0:45:15.200 --> 0:45:17.279
<v Speaker 2>home to us and go, I'm going to love you.

0:45:17.400 --> 0:45:20.080
<v Speaker 2>I'm going to reparent or be the loving parent to

0:45:20.160 --> 0:45:22.520
<v Speaker 2>me that maybe I never had or that I needed

0:45:22.520 --> 0:45:28.040
<v Speaker 2>the most, and starting to really learn to be loving

0:45:28.040 --> 0:45:32.120
<v Speaker 2>with ourselves, which is retraining us from what maybe we

0:45:32.239 --> 0:45:36.920
<v Speaker 2>experience when we are younger. And once we do and

0:45:36.960 --> 0:45:41.399
<v Speaker 2>we have a better relationship with ourselves, everything else opens up.

0:45:41.480 --> 0:45:44.400
<v Speaker 2>Because when you are your own worst enemy, when you

0:45:44.440 --> 0:45:49.040
<v Speaker 2>are the harshest self judger, critic, self doubter, or self

0:45:49.080 --> 0:45:53.600
<v Speaker 2>beater of yourself, there's no way to feel good. It

0:45:53.640 --> 0:45:56.879
<v Speaker 2>doesn't matter if you find some external strategy. That's why

0:45:56.840 --> 0:45:59.080
<v Speaker 2>I also too when people think it's like money rate,

0:45:59.160 --> 0:46:01.319
<v Speaker 2>I'm going to are going to better when I have money,

0:46:01.320 --> 0:46:03.719
<v Speaker 2>And then you talk to all these wealthy people and

0:46:03.719 --> 0:46:07.399
<v Speaker 2>they have all this money, but they still feel so terrible. Well,

0:46:07.400 --> 0:46:11.799
<v Speaker 2>it's because of this relationship with themselves has nothing to

0:46:11.800 --> 0:46:15.920
<v Speaker 2>do with external it's how they treat themselves. And so

0:46:16.880 --> 0:46:21.880
<v Speaker 2>when your relationship with yourself is whole again, yeah again,

0:46:21.960 --> 0:46:25.040
<v Speaker 2>everything opens up. You start to take bigger risks, you

0:46:25.120 --> 0:46:28.080
<v Speaker 2>start to love more, you feel, and you actually really

0:46:28.120 --> 0:46:31.120
<v Speaker 2>start to attract in everything that you desire with ease.

0:46:31.600 --> 0:46:34.239
<v Speaker 2>And so my approach to self love. A lot of

0:46:34.239 --> 0:46:36.600
<v Speaker 2>people talk about self love as a doing right. You

0:46:36.640 --> 0:46:39.080
<v Speaker 2>see all these articles and things of like I took

0:46:39.120 --> 0:46:41.840
<v Speaker 2>myself out for a massage, or I'm taking care of

0:46:41.920 --> 0:46:45.600
<v Speaker 2>my health and I'm eating better, or bubble bath or

0:46:45.640 --> 0:46:50.520
<v Speaker 2>flowers or walk on the beach, and that is all wonderful. Yeah. However,

0:46:50.680 --> 0:46:53.480
<v Speaker 2>for me, it's more of a way of being with yourself,

0:46:53.560 --> 0:46:56.120
<v Speaker 2>meaning how do I treat myself? Right? Am I being?

0:46:56.880 --> 0:46:59.640
<v Speaker 2>And then in my course I talk about eight different

0:46:59.680 --> 0:47:03.440
<v Speaker 2>ways of being, and the ways of being are self accepting,

0:47:04.160 --> 0:47:08.319
<v Speaker 2>you know, are you being accepting yourself or judgmental self compassion?

0:47:08.520 --> 0:47:10.759
<v Speaker 2>Are you being compassionate with yourself when you screw up

0:47:10.800 --> 0:47:12.600
<v Speaker 2>or when things are hard? Or do you beat yourself

0:47:12.680 --> 0:47:16.600
<v Speaker 2>up and you're your worst critic self forgiveness? Do you

0:47:16.680 --> 0:47:19.840
<v Speaker 2>let things go or do you continue to flog yourself

0:47:19.880 --> 0:47:23.560
<v Speaker 2>and make yourself wrong for things and hold like grudges

0:47:23.600 --> 0:47:27.120
<v Speaker 2>against yourself, you know, or even for other people a

0:47:27.160 --> 0:47:30.680
<v Speaker 2>form of self harm when we won't forgive another person

0:47:30.719 --> 0:47:33.120
<v Speaker 2>for harming us because we're the ones that hold the

0:47:33.160 --> 0:47:37.840
<v Speaker 2>anger or resentment. And then there's self appreciation, like really

0:47:38.200 --> 0:47:42.040
<v Speaker 2>celebrating and appreciating who we are and valuing ourselves. There's

0:47:42.040 --> 0:47:46.640
<v Speaker 2>self respect, self trust, self permission, and then receiving, which

0:47:47.000 --> 0:47:48.640
<v Speaker 2>so many women I work with are like, that's the

0:47:48.680 --> 0:47:52.400
<v Speaker 2>hardest one. But yeah, those are all the different ways

0:47:52.400 --> 0:47:55.799
<v Speaker 2>of being with yourself that when you can master even

0:47:55.920 --> 0:47:59.080
<v Speaker 2>just one of them, your whole life will start to change.

0:48:01.080 --> 0:48:06.200
<v Speaker 1>That's amazing. And so what advice would you have for

0:48:06.280 --> 0:48:09.640
<v Speaker 1>someone who's really struggling to be kind to themselves at

0:48:09.640 --> 0:48:12.360
<v Speaker 1>the moment. So obviously, I know you have your program

0:48:12.560 --> 0:48:15.600
<v Speaker 1>and you talk about those seven ways of being, but

0:48:16.160 --> 0:48:18.799
<v Speaker 1>this podcast all is all about actionable tools that we

0:48:18.840 --> 0:48:21.640
<v Speaker 1>can give the audience right now, just you know, one

0:48:21.680 --> 0:48:24.040
<v Speaker 1>piece of advice that you would give someone who's really

0:48:24.040 --> 0:48:25.920
<v Speaker 1>struggling to be kind to themselves.

0:48:26.719 --> 0:48:29.040
<v Speaker 2>Oh, I love this. I'm happy to show one that

0:48:29.080 --> 0:48:33.600
<v Speaker 2>I use myself not as much anymore. But I was

0:48:33.640 --> 0:48:35.759
<v Speaker 2>like on point all the time, all day long doing

0:48:35.760 --> 0:48:38.719
<v Speaker 2>this because I self compassion was a really tough one

0:48:38.719 --> 0:48:43.080
<v Speaker 2>for me. Yeah. Again, I don't blame it, but coming

0:48:43.080 --> 0:48:45.600
<v Speaker 2>from the Chinese culture, it's very tough, very hard on you.

0:48:45.640 --> 0:48:49.560
<v Speaker 2>And so I was that to myself a lot, continue

0:48:49.560 --> 0:48:52.360
<v Speaker 2>on the voice of my parents, and so self compassion

0:48:52.400 --> 0:48:55.080
<v Speaker 2>was tough. And so you said, what can people do

0:48:55.080 --> 0:48:57.480
<v Speaker 2>if they're hard on themselves? This is one practice that

0:48:57.520 --> 0:48:59.759
<v Speaker 2>can change the game if you continuously do it, because

0:48:59.760 --> 0:49:02.600
<v Speaker 2>I know is said, I do it barely now. But

0:49:03.200 --> 0:49:06.920
<v Speaker 2>the moment again you don't feel good, that's a signal

0:49:06.920 --> 0:49:10.480
<v Speaker 2>to you to pay attention, right, and then you notice, oh,

0:49:10.480 --> 0:49:13.759
<v Speaker 2>I'm being really hard on myself. What you do is

0:49:13.960 --> 0:49:16.799
<v Speaker 2>immediately put your hands in your heart because it's like

0:49:16.800 --> 0:49:20.680
<v Speaker 2>a physical pattern interrupt right, It's like you're telling yourself, like,

0:49:21.239 --> 0:49:23.319
<v Speaker 2>I'm going to do something different. So I usually put

0:49:23.320 --> 0:49:26.840
<v Speaker 2>my hands on my heart and I start to breathe.

0:49:26.880 --> 0:49:31.239
<v Speaker 2>I'll do a box breath so inhale four, hold for four,

0:49:31.320 --> 0:49:34.239
<v Speaker 2>ex hel four, hold for four, and I'll do that

0:49:34.280 --> 0:49:37.760
<v Speaker 2>three times. But if I'm still feeling anxious or upset,

0:49:37.920 --> 0:49:42.080
<v Speaker 2>I'll do it until I've calmed my nervous system. And

0:49:42.080 --> 0:49:47.360
<v Speaker 2>then once i feel calm, then start to validate myself

0:49:47.560 --> 0:49:51.480
<v Speaker 2>or whoever's listening. Validate yourself, tell yourself what you actually

0:49:51.480 --> 0:49:54.520
<v Speaker 2>need to hear. Right, It's okay that you messed up.

0:49:54.840 --> 0:49:58.040
<v Speaker 2>It's not a big deal, girl, You're still good. You

0:49:58.160 --> 0:50:03.200
<v Speaker 2>got this. I still love you, nobody hates you. You

0:50:03.239 --> 0:50:05.759
<v Speaker 2>can absolutely take on and have whatever it is that

0:50:05.800 --> 0:50:09.560
<v Speaker 2>you want. And so that's like the big key is again,

0:50:10.040 --> 0:50:12.720
<v Speaker 2>the moment you notice you're being your own worst critic,

0:50:12.840 --> 0:50:15.919
<v Speaker 2>put your hands in your heart, breathe, and when you've

0:50:15.920 --> 0:50:19.240
<v Speaker 2>calmed down, start to validate yourself and say the exact

0:50:19.280 --> 0:50:21.360
<v Speaker 2>words that you actually need to hear, like your best

0:50:21.400 --> 0:50:24.200
<v Speaker 2>friend would tell you, or you would tell your best

0:50:24.280 --> 0:50:26.480
<v Speaker 2>friend if she was struggling with the very same thing.

0:50:27.280 --> 0:50:33.400
<v Speaker 1>That's beautiful, And so if you didn't necessarily believe it yourself,

0:50:33.440 --> 0:50:35.520
<v Speaker 1>do you kind of just keep saying it until you

0:50:35.560 --> 0:50:38.680
<v Speaker 1>believe it, or yeah.

0:50:38.600 --> 0:50:40.840
<v Speaker 2>Well you just say so. The thing is the reason

0:50:40.840 --> 0:50:43.480
<v Speaker 2>why you want to slow your breath, right, is you're

0:50:43.520 --> 0:50:47.080
<v Speaker 2>actually calming yourself so you're more receptive to other things.

0:50:47.719 --> 0:50:51.680
<v Speaker 2>And if it's hard for you to believe, yeah, just

0:50:51.680 --> 0:50:55.719
<v Speaker 2>say it anyway. Yeah do you know what? Yeah, you

0:50:55.800 --> 0:50:57.600
<v Speaker 2>just I mean, that's what I do. Just got to

0:50:57.600 --> 0:50:58.040
<v Speaker 2>say it.

0:50:58.080 --> 0:51:02.000
<v Speaker 1>And I do something similar, and that's like the first

0:51:02.040 --> 0:51:04.000
<v Speaker 1>time I kind of say it to myself. It's almost

0:51:04.040 --> 0:51:06.120
<v Speaker 1>like I have this inner critic who goes like, this

0:51:06.239 --> 0:51:08.480
<v Speaker 1>is stupid. What are you doing? You don't actually believe this,

0:51:08.840 --> 0:51:10.839
<v Speaker 1>But then like I've got to keep doing it, and

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<v Speaker 1>then by like the second or third one, it like

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<v Speaker 1>settles in. It's probably the whole what you said about

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<v Speaker 1>being calm, and then it feels better.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, because some people try to go from one thought,

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<v Speaker 2>like at the fear based thought to the empowering thought,

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<v Speaker 2>and that's when it doesn't work, right, when you're like

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<v Speaker 2>that's not successory, Like it's okay, it's okay, I'm good enough,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm stronger, and it's like, no, you're not. You got

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<v Speaker 2>to calm your nervous system so you're actually receptive to

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<v Speaker 2>another thought. So that's why I do that to like

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<v Speaker 2>get in your body. That's another thing I work a

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<v Speaker 2>lot with is the physical body. Yeah, because that's where

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<v Speaker 2>you're subconscious.

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<v Speaker 1>Is thank you so much for sharing that. You just

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<v Speaker 1>have so much good wisdom and I really appreciate you

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<v Speaker 1>sharing it. With the Rise and Conquer audience. To finish

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<v Speaker 1>off the interview, something I want to ask you, and

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<v Speaker 1>this is a new thing I'm doing with my interesting

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<v Speaker 1>people who I speak to, I wanted to ask you

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<v Speaker 1>if you have a recommendation for the audience about like

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<v Speaker 1>it can literally be anything if you are reading, watching,

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<v Speaker 1>or listening to anything. I personally just like love recommendations.

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<v Speaker 1>So do you have anything for us?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah? So I have so many, Georgie, which one do

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<v Speaker 2>I pick?

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<v Speaker 1>Last one? Spany?

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<v Speaker 2>All right? So one of the ones I used to

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<v Speaker 2>actually buy this book and I would give them to

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<v Speaker 2>people as gifts is The Untethered Soul by Michael A. Singer.

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<v Speaker 1>I haven't read it. I think i've heard of it.

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<v Speaker 1>What sort of looked like little insight about what it's about.

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<v Speaker 2>If you're new to personal development, right or it's hard

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<v Speaker 2>for you to understand your thoughts or to control them.

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<v Speaker 2>Michael a singer. He what I love that he does

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<v Speaker 2>with this book is he logically steps you through where

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<v Speaker 2>these negative thoughts are coming from and how to start

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<v Speaker 2>to work with them in a loving way. And it's

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<v Speaker 2>such a profound book that it's one that I read

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<v Speaker 2>over and over again. But it really walks you through

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<v Speaker 2>your relationship with your thoughts and your emotions, and it

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<v Speaker 2>starts to have you see and uncover the source and

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<v Speaker 2>fluctuations of your inner energy so that you can start

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<v Speaker 2>to be more in control of them and to free

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<v Speaker 2>yourself from the habituated thoughts and emotions and energy patterns

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<v Speaker 2>that usually will limit your consciousness.

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<v Speaker 1>Amazing. I will have to put that on my book list.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm a big audible fan, so I'm hoping it's on that.

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<v Speaker 2>It should Actually that one really should be, but the

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<v Speaker 2>other one because I'm a cheater, and I'm telling you,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm actually reading The Body Keeps a Score right now.

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<v Speaker 2>And it's a lot about trauma and how it gets

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<v Speaker 2>stored in your body. So sometimes when people are like,

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<v Speaker 2>why is it that I have this pain on my

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<v Speaker 2>side or why is it that I have this weird

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<v Speaker 2>skin rash, they really start to show you how the

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<v Speaker 2>body starts to communicate with you based off the unhealed

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<v Speaker 2>trauma so that you can heal it.

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<v Speaker 1>Amazing, so interesting. Well, thank you so much Stephanie for

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<v Speaker 1>coming on the show. I really appreciate it. I've loved

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<v Speaker 1>this interview and hopefully speak to you again soon.

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<v Speaker 2>I would love that. Thank you so much, Georgie. It

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<v Speaker 2>was such a pleasure and so wonderful to be on

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<v Speaker 2>your show.

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<v Speaker 1>Amazing. Oh wait, I'm so sorry. Before we go, can

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<v Speaker 1>you tell the audience where they can find you? Obviously

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<v Speaker 1>I will put all these links in the show notes. Guys.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, you can check me out on my website Stephanie

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<v Speaker 2>Quang dot com. And I like to hang out a

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<v Speaker 2>lot on Instagram. I usually always DM people back, but

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<v Speaker 2>it's my handle is at. I am Stephanie Kuang.

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<v Speaker 1>Amazing, Thank you at Stephanie, thank you, thanks so much

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