Speaker 1: Hi, and welcome to the Rise and Conquer Podcast. I'm
Speaker 1: your host, Georgie Stevenson. I am a lawyer and health coach,
Speaker 1: social media influencer, wife and dog mum. On the Rise
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Speaker 1: want to rise up to be the best version of themselves,
Speaker 1: who have big dreams in who are willing to put
Speaker 1: in the work to get there. I want to bring
Speaker 1: you the tools and actionable steps to feel confident in yourself,
Speaker 1: inspired to take bold action, and motivated to conquer your goals.
Speaker 1: Are you with me, girl friends, Let's rise and conquer. Hi, guys,
Speaker 1: and welcome to another episode of the Rise and Conquered Podcast.
Speaker 1: Today we are rising up and conquering our mind with
Speaker 1: special guests Stephanie Quom. She is a mindset mastery coach,
Speaker 1: hypnotherapist and host of the Rise Higher podcasts. She supports
Speaker 1: entrepreneurs and leaders to identify and remove mental roadblocks and
Speaker 1: redesign their subconscious mind to achieve their next level. Her
Speaker 1: deep passion is to empower people to turn their dreams
Speaker 1: into reality by aligning the inner world to the outer
Speaker 1: results they want to create. In this episode, we chat
Speaker 1: about the practice of hypnotherapy, how we can change our
Speaker 1: subconscious mind, how to break out of bad habits and
Speaker 1: bad patterns, and how to reprogram our beliefs for the better.
Speaker 1: This is such a good episode and I cannot wait
Speaker 1: to share it with you. Guys. Welcome to the show, Stephanie.
Speaker 2: Thank you so much for having me.
Speaker 1: Of course, I'm so excited about the conversation today. But
Speaker 1: before we get into the good stuff, as this is
Speaker 1: the Rise and Conker Podcast, what is one thing big
Speaker 1: or small that you are rising up and conquering this week?
Speaker 2: This is actually very timely for me, something that I'm
Speaker 2: I would say rising. I don't know if it's necessarily
Speaker 2: a conquering, but a very dear friend of mine recently
Speaker 2: passed away and I was literally at his celebration of
Speaker 2: life last night. And he was a guy who lived big,
Speaker 2: big spirit, huge light, super lux is how he lived
Speaker 2: his life. I mean they did. It was cocktail attire
Speaker 2: to go to his celebration of life, so so beautiful.
Speaker 2: That was such a representation of him. But while last
Speaker 2: night was super joyful and fun and so many laughs
Speaker 2: and tears hearing the stories that everybody had of what
Speaker 2: an incredible man he was. I'm really working to rise
Speaker 2: through the grief and to conquer that, I would say, yeah,
Speaker 2: and I'm being gentle with myself to move through it
Speaker 2: as well.
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, my condolences. That's really amazing that you
Speaker 1: did celebrate his life in a way that seems like
Speaker 1: it resonated with his personality too. That's really lovely.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, it was really really special.
Speaker 1: Thank you for sharing that with us. And I am
Speaker 1: glad that you spoke about rising up to grief. But
Speaker 1: I wanted to give the audience a bit of a
Speaker 1: snapshot of you. Could you tell the audience just a
Speaker 1: bit about yourself and how you help people?
Speaker 2: Sure? So I work with driven and ambitious people to
Speaker 2: really help them to identify what is holding them back
Speaker 2: from what they want. So often people desire something and
Speaker 2: they keep hitting walls or are stuck in patterns and
Speaker 2: they can't break through. So I really help those people
Speaker 2: to identify what's holding them back and then to reprogram
Speaker 2: their minds so that they can break the barriers that
Speaker 2: have been keeping them for sometimes years or their entire
Speaker 2: life from reaching their goals so that they can live
Speaker 2: to their highs potential. So whether that's in business, health, relationships,
Speaker 2: or how they even just feel about themselves. And I
Speaker 2: do that through a lot of different ways. I have
Speaker 2: just a very small one on one practice. I have
Speaker 2: a very select group of people I work with, but
Speaker 2: I also facilitate like an online program it's called Become,
Speaker 2: and it's a three month course where I really help
Speaker 2: people to release perfectionism, ditch procrastination, and stop postponing their greatness.
Speaker 2: And that's a lot of the inner work and the reprogramming.
Speaker 2: And then I also do it through my online courses,
Speaker 2: so whether that's through Believe my Self Love or self
Speaker 2: hypnosis course, or through my Self Love course as well,
Speaker 2: lots of different ways.
Speaker 1: Yes, it's so intricate. I love it, and so I
Speaker 1: am very interested. You are a hypnotherapist and you teach
Speaker 1: people about the power of the sub conscious mind, and
Speaker 1: this interests me a lot. As I was saying before
Speaker 1: we started recording, I actually started seeing a psychologist recently
Speaker 1: to deal with my anxiety, and she has spoken a
Speaker 1: lot about the subconscious mind. And to be honest, before that,
Speaker 1: it was never on my radar. It's not something I
Speaker 1: even thought about, and so it's kind of timely that
Speaker 1: this is all happening at the same time. So I
Speaker 1: wanted to go into this a little bit. So what
Speaker 1: is hypnotherapy and how did it change your life? I
Speaker 1: know it did, so you know it to that.
Speaker 2: Hypnotherapy it's a proven therapeutic process where you work with
Speaker 2: somebody in hypnosis, a practitioner to help you successfully reach
Speaker 2: your goals. Basically, you put you into a trance like state.
Speaker 2: It's the Theta state if you were to if you
Speaker 2: want to get scientific, it's when you're in the theater
Speaker 2: brainwave state, which is about three to eat hurts, and
Speaker 2: in that state, some people will say it feels like
Speaker 2: you're in a deep state of meditation. And when you're
Speaker 2: in that state, you are in a very focused state
Speaker 2: of awareness, your physical bodies relaxed, and you are open
Speaker 2: and suggestible during that time, meaning that if there's something
Speaker 2: we want to program into your subconscious mind right now,
Speaker 2: you might think I'm not good enough, I'm not worthy,
Speaker 2: or it's not safe for me to make mistakes and
Speaker 2: fail right that could be what is causing anxiety. I'm
Speaker 2: just throwing that out there. Too, because that's something that
Speaker 2: I was dealing with, which is why I would self
Speaker 2: sabotage a lot with procrastination and not doing things. But
Speaker 2: I had a deep seated belief that it's not safe
Speaker 2: for me to make mistakes and fail, which I learned
Speaker 2: that or I decided that as a little girl, and
Speaker 2: that would put me into a state of low grade
Speaker 2: anxiety through most of my life. And when you're in
Speaker 2: this heightened state of awareness and you're open and suggestible,
Speaker 2: that's when someone like a practitioner like myself can actually
Speaker 2: say that you are safe to make mistakes and fail,
Speaker 2: and your brain will receive that as true versus in
Speaker 2: the conscious time. Right like when you and I are talking,
Speaker 2: we're in our conscious mind. If I were to tell you, George,
Speaker 2: you're safe to make mistakes and fail, your conscious mind goes,
Speaker 2: what the heck are you talking about? No, it's not
Speaker 2: I can't do it, and that's when it starts to
Speaker 2: block it. But when you're in that state of hypnosis,
Speaker 2: that's when your brain is actually more apt to receive
Speaker 2: these suggestions as true so that we can embed them
Speaker 2: into the subconscious part of your mind.
Speaker 1: So how do you almost know what is blocking the
Speaker 1: subconscious mind or what the thoughts are that you need
Speaker 1: to get over. How do you sort of find that out?
Speaker 2: Yeah, So for me, I mean I've been highly trained
Speaker 2: in a lot of different modalities, so even through the
Speaker 2: conscious part of me speaking to my clients, I can
Speaker 2: pretty much identify what the limiting belief is or what's
Speaker 2: holding them back, and then when I put them into hypnosis,
Speaker 2: your subconscious mind is a recorder. It literally holds every
Speaker 2: single moment in time. It holds every sound, every image,
Speaker 2: every sense, every scent, everything you've heard. And so what
Speaker 2: we do when you're in that state of hypnosis, we
Speaker 2: can actually command the subconscious mind to reveal the times
Speaker 2: in your life where these limiting beliefs started forming for you.
Speaker 2: And once you're able to locate the root, the source
Speaker 2: of it, you can then rewrite it in the subconscious mind.
Speaker 2: And there's a lot of different ways of one entering
Speaker 2: into this state of hypnosis and then two working with
Speaker 2: a subconscious mind when you're in that state. So it's
Speaker 2: not just one process. It really depends on what are
Speaker 2: we trying to work through. So for example, let's say
Speaker 2: with your anxiety, right, or say myself, I actually just
Speaker 2: recently had a client who came to me because she
Speaker 2: has massive anxiety and she would wake up in the
Speaker 2: morning already anxious. And her thing is, she goes, I
Speaker 2: want to be present, because I realized that I spend
Speaker 2: so much of my time trying to forecast the future
Speaker 2: that I'm not present and I don't experience joy because
Speaker 2: I'm in a constant state of anxiety. So I did
Speaker 2: this one process with her where I put her into
Speaker 2: hypnosis and then we regressed her back to find the
Speaker 2: root and the source of this anxiety for her. And
Speaker 2: there was a few different moments in time of her
Speaker 2: past that were revealed when this came up. I mean,
Speaker 2: there was one time when she was three years old
Speaker 2: and she was just looking at the window in her
Speaker 2: family room and her dad came up to her and
Speaker 2: slapped her on the bottom, and she was shocked and
Speaker 2: scared and so already it was she decided, WHOA, I
Speaker 2: have to be on alert all the time, right. And
Speaker 2: then there was another moment in time that we discovered
Speaker 2: where she was twelve years old. I think I was
Speaker 2: like twelve thirteen, and she had scored I think like
Speaker 2: a ninety percent or ninety two percent on a standardized test,
Speaker 2: and she comes from a Russian family, and so when
Speaker 2: she went to tell her parents, they asked her why
Speaker 2: she didn't get a hundred and yet her friend who
Speaker 2: was also Russian, got eighty something percent and her parents
Speaker 2: celebrated it. So now all of a sudden, her perfectionism
Speaker 2: kicked in right as a little girl. She decided, ninety
Speaker 2: two isn't enough. I have to push and get the hundred,
Speaker 2: otherwise I'm going to lose love and approval for my parents.
Speaker 2: And then there was another moment in time where something
Speaker 2: came up where she was punished for something that if
Speaker 2: she didn't perform. She it was through a sport that
Speaker 2: her coach is like, she didn't perform, they'd have to
Speaker 2: do these crazy drills, which is basically, if you mess up,
Speaker 2: you're gonna get punished. And so there could have been
Speaker 2: more moments in time. I only pulled three for her,
Speaker 2: but we could already tell that these occurring when she
Speaker 2: was younger, had her decide I'm not safe. I have
Speaker 2: to be perfect. I always have to score or well,
Speaker 2: if I fail, I'm going to get punished. I can
Speaker 2: just be relaxing looking out a window. And I don't
Speaker 2: know what's going to come up behind me and smack
Speaker 2: me on the bottom and get in trouble for something
Speaker 2: I didn't do. So all of this stacked together for her,
Speaker 2: and probably more when she was younger, had her develop
Speaker 2: this anxiety, and anxiety really is a feeling of not
Speaker 2: being safe. We actually work a lot with anxiety and
Speaker 2: hypnosis and for many people who struggle with anxiety or
Speaker 2: even some depression, it is a learned behavior and will
Speaker 2: not all learned. I take that back. Depression can be
Speaker 2: a true chemical imbalance, but some of it can be learned.
Speaker 2: If you observed a parent who struggled with depression, you
Speaker 2: know you can pick up because your parents are modeling
Speaker 2: behaviors towards you, and you might pick up some of
Speaker 2: their behaviors. But with anxiety, it's usually a I'm not safe.
Speaker 2: And when we support people and feelings safe right having
Speaker 2: her see, you're not that three year old little girl anymore,
Speaker 2: You're not that twelve year old. You're not the fourteen
Speaker 2: year old or the eight year old where something happened
Speaker 2: to you and you interpreted reality in a certain way,
Speaker 2: you made up a belief about yourself. Then we have
Speaker 2: them see that they're not that little kid anymore. We
Speaker 2: can then heal that and then reprogram. But most people
Speaker 2: as adults are operating from a programming from when they
Speaker 2: were little kids, like basically up to the point when
Speaker 2: they're ten years old, ten to twelve. They say that
Speaker 2: you actually stop by the time you're twenty five, but
Speaker 2: that's more minimal in terms of the programming. But when
Speaker 2: you are born, from birth until about eight years seven
Speaker 2: eight years old, you're pretty much in a pure hypnotic state,
Speaker 2: meaning you are open and suggestible to whatever people tell you.
Speaker 2: So if someone tells you you're smart, especially a parent,
Speaker 2: right the people you're looking up to, you're smart, You're stupid,
Speaker 2: you're pretty, you're ugly, you can do anything you want
Speaker 2: to do. Life is hard. You got to work hard
Speaker 2: for anything that you want, buy whatever you want, or
Speaker 2: we can't get ahead in our bills. So we're learning
Speaker 2: all these things right of our relationship with money, our
Speaker 2: relationship with whether we can trust or not trust, if
Speaker 2: we are taught to believe that we can achieve anything,
Speaker 2: or that we're I don't know if we can cuss
Speaker 2: on this like a piece of crap. So I didn't say,
Speaker 2: I didn't say the custom word, but the piece of crap,
Speaker 2: but that that is, that's what we're programmed, and then
Speaker 2: that becomes our operating system, and we navigate life as
Speaker 2: an adult with those set of beliefs that were decided
Speaker 2: when you were a little kid. And it wasn't even
Speaker 2: your decision, it's whatever people told you, and your parents
Speaker 2: are putting their programming into you based off of what
Speaker 2: their parents told them. So that's why you learned that
Speaker 2: there's this whole generational programming that happens. And then there's
Speaker 2: a cultural programming, right that we have here, etc. Like
Speaker 2: I'm Chinese, so there's definitely like Chinese programming that I
Speaker 2: have that I know my American friends don't have. And
Speaker 2: who's right or wrong neither. It's just what you were
Speaker 2: programmed with.
Speaker 1: One hundred percent. And so you're saying, like the subconscious
Speaker 1: is formed as we are growing up from these things.
Speaker 1: You know, these moments or events that don't necessarily have
Speaker 1: to have a massive impact, but they form our subconscious,
Speaker 1: which then forms our patterning and our programming. Is that correct?
Speaker 2: Yeah, so your subconscious is actually already there. It's its
Speaker 2: job is to store and retrieve data, and so it's
Speaker 2: imagine it's just a blank slate, you're born with that.
Speaker 2: And what happens is we're actually putting the programming into
Speaker 2: the subconscious, and then it's not forming the subconscious, it
Speaker 2: is actually forming your belief systems and your identity right,
Speaker 2: who you think you are, how you see yourself, and
Speaker 2: then you live life based off of that a programming.
Speaker 2: So if you as an example, I had another client.
Speaker 2: He came to me actually to break an addiction and
Speaker 2: because he wanted to be in relationship with a woman,
Speaker 2: and he was really saw that that was he had
Speaker 2: a certain type of addiction that would not let him
Speaker 2: relate to women in a certain way. And we did
Speaker 2: a similar process that I was telling you about, and
Speaker 2: we discovered when he was three years old, he was
Speaker 2: playing with his toys in his closet. His dad came in.
Speaker 2: His dad said, play with it like this. He didn't
Speaker 2: want to do it. He did it his way and
Speaker 2: his dad said no. And I said, how did that
Speaker 2: make you feel? And he said stupid? And his whole
Speaker 2: body dropped and he started crying. And I learned that
Speaker 2: he came up out of hypnosis and he goes, oh,
Speaker 2: I cannot believe that, he goes Stephane. I've been struggling
Speaker 2: my entire life thinking that I'm stupid. I built this
Speaker 2: multimillion dollar company that I have to prove that I'm
Speaker 2: not dumb. And it wasn't even a trauma Georgie, right,
Speaker 2: it was like explained with aoys. Yeah. And a lot
Speaker 2: of times people go, I don't know what's wrong with me? Like,
Speaker 2: I had a good childhood. I wasn't abused, I wasn't neglected,
Speaker 2: I didn't have controlling or neglectful parents. I don't get it.
Speaker 2: Why do I feel stopped, you know, when I want
Speaker 2: to achieve something. Why do I keep getting in my
Speaker 2: own way? Why do I believe that I'm not good enough?
Speaker 2: Why do I believe that I'm unlovable? My parents loved me.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, see that's really crazy that you're saying that,
Speaker 1: because I even spoke on my social media about seeing
Speaker 1: a psychologist, and I said, I honestly wish I did
Speaker 1: it a lot sooner. But what stopped me is I
Speaker 1: told myself basically that my problems weren't like I would say.
Speaker 1: You know, people have it so much worse than me.
Speaker 1: These feelings almost were undeserving, if that makes sense. So
Speaker 1: like I was like, oh, things aren't bad enough, I
Speaker 1: shouldn't need to see anyone or anything like that. So
Speaker 1: it's quite quite nice for you to kind of of,
Speaker 1: I guess reinforced that sometimes it doesn't have to be
Speaker 1: this big you know, trauma or big event. It can
Speaker 1: be very simple things that in our subconsciously can.
Speaker 2: I mean, you hear that even the examples of you know,
Speaker 2: say someone your mom forgot to pick you up from
Speaker 2: school when you were five, and then you decide I
Speaker 2: must not be good enough because if I was, she
Speaker 2: would have remembered to pick me up. And you know
Speaker 2: that that's not the truth. But your little kid brain can't.
Speaker 2: The conscious mind, the part of your mind that is
Speaker 2: the logical it has the ability to make decisions, analyze,
Speaker 2: and have the reasoning skills that's not formed and developed yet.
Speaker 2: So you're making up these weird decisions and beliefs and
Speaker 2: stories in your mind as a little kid without really
Speaker 2: having all the evidence. But you don't know any better.
Speaker 2: And so sometimes you know if or maybe your parents
Speaker 2: looked at you a certain way, and you're like, uh, oh,
Speaker 2: when I did this, they looked at me this way.
Speaker 2: That means I'm bad and wrong for doing that, and
Speaker 2: you might stop doing that thing. But it could just
Speaker 2: be that they turned and looked and you thought they
Speaker 2: were looking at you, but they didn't mean to or
Speaker 2: they weren't right. Yes, so there's all these silly things
Speaker 2: that then get implanted. We make decisions about ourselves or
Speaker 2: about the world, or we're literally taught them by our parents,
Speaker 2: whether even things like you know you have to work hard,
Speaker 2: or or rich people are evil because I know so
Speaker 2: many people struggle with money, and so you could have
Speaker 2: heard that or seen that growing up, and then that
Speaker 2: becomes your money consciousness. And then what happens is your
Speaker 2: subconscious mind's job is to make everything that you say
Speaker 2: and do fit into a pattern that's consistent with what
Speaker 2: you believe and with your self concept, your identity, who
Speaker 2: you see yourself as. Right, So we start to work
Speaker 2: our behaviors to keep validating who we think we are
Speaker 2: and what we think the world is. Yeah, so that's
Speaker 2: why we can continue to getting the same results. And
Speaker 2: it's so crazy. This is the wild part, girl, is
Speaker 2: we will literally delete and distort information to fit into
Speaker 2: our belief system. What's programmed in our subconscious.
Speaker 1: That's crazy.
Speaker 2: So here's what's wild. I had a client and I
Speaker 2: wanted to do a call with her father or her parents,
Speaker 2: and she was really resistant, and she was thinking, she's like,
Speaker 2: already know how it's going to go, because he's going
Speaker 2: to take over control and he's going to be invalidating.
Speaker 2: So she had her whole thing about him, right, Obviously
Speaker 2: there's resistance between the two. And so we did the call.
Speaker 2: We have him get off the phone, and I finished
Speaker 2: it off with her and I said, wow, I was
Speaker 2: really pleasantly surprised by how your father behaved. And I said,
Speaker 2: and really beautiful how much she kept apologizing and taking
Speaker 2: responsibility for the things that you were pointing out that
Speaker 2: were hurtful you. And she goes, what are you talking about?
Speaker 2: He didn't apologize? Yeah, he did about twelve times. She
Speaker 2: literally did not hear it. She did not hear one apology.
Speaker 2: So she was deleting all this information because she was
Speaker 2: so set on her programming of yes, how she was
Speaker 2: expecting her father to show up, that she was filtering
Speaker 2: her interaction with him through that lens. That whatever didn't
Speaker 2: fit in that lens was she missed it.
Speaker 1: That's crazy.
Speaker 2: Yeah, And that's what happens in life. If we're programmed
Speaker 2: to see opportunities because we know everywhere I turn something's
Speaker 2: going to show up. I'm going to get the resource
Speaker 2: I need to move me forward in my vision. Then
Speaker 2: everywhere literally you look or you start to attract the
Speaker 2: things that really validate what you believe. And if you
Speaker 2: think things are hard, I'm never supported. I don't ever
Speaker 2: get what I want. You know what that's going to
Speaker 2: be what happens as well. So that's why it's so
Speaker 2: important to make sure that you've got those beliefs and
Speaker 2: the self concept or the identity of who you see
Speaker 2: yourself as that really matches up with what it is
Speaker 2: that you say you want in your external reality, because
Speaker 2: if it's incongruent, So maybe you say like, oh, I
Speaker 2: really want to meet the love of my life and
Speaker 2: I'm on all these online apps and I'm going on
Speaker 2: these dates and I can't find that person. But then
Speaker 2: what we discover is you actually have a belief of
Speaker 2: I'm not lovable. Well, you're going to be repelling or
Speaker 2: always probably finding something wrong with the people that you're
Speaker 2: dating or making up excuses or I date and then
Speaker 2: I leave them or they leave me in the first month.
Speaker 2: That's usually because that then as you go we'll see
Speaker 2: I must not be lovable. And again this is all unconscious.
Speaker 2: People usually are not cognizant of this happening. They just
Speaker 2: start to blame what's happening outside of themselves as something's wrong,
Speaker 2: versus going hold on a second, I am literally the
Speaker 2: creator of my reality. What I believe is what is
Speaker 2: consistently creating what I'm experiencing in my outside world.
Speaker 1: Your stuff just fascinates me so much, and I want
Speaker 1: to take it back a little bit and talk about mindset,
Speaker 1: which is obviously very similar. And I am such a
Speaker 1: big believer in mindset where I have you know, morning
Speaker 1: rituals that are all about setting my mindset up for
Speaker 1: the day and you know my intentions and that sort
Speaker 1: of stuff. So can you talk to us about why
Speaker 1: do we get stuck in bad patterns and how we
Speaker 1: can sort of break that cycle? Obviously you talked about hypnotherapy,
Speaker 1: but do you have any other tools that we could
Speaker 1: use basically how to get unstuck?
Speaker 2: For sure? Girl, I got you. So, first of all,
Speaker 2: we are in stuck in patterns because that is our
Speaker 2: stuck thinking right, and what we believe creates the patterns
Speaker 2: that we have in our life. And the reason why
Speaker 2: we have habits is because it's efficient. I mean, imagine
Speaker 2: if you had to learn how to tie your shoes
Speaker 2: every single day, how much wasted energy would that be?
Speaker 2: Or you had to learn how to brush your teeth.
Speaker 2: And so once we form these habits, our brain's like cool,
Speaker 2: got it, and then we can start to zip through them.
Speaker 2: And what happens is that goes for everything in our life.
Speaker 2: We form these habits, it makes it efficient or just
Speaker 2: keeps proving what it is that we believe faster, more effectively,
Speaker 2: even if it's what we don't want, which is what
Speaker 2: happens again when we're younger. However, what you're doing in
Speaker 2: your morning rituals is so powerful because what you're doing
Speaker 2: is you're creating new habits that are going to get
Speaker 2: you new results. Right and again, once you get to it,
Speaker 2: you're also you have a certain way of thinking or
Speaker 2: believing that's even having you creating this morning ritual though, right,
Speaker 2: I believe that when I do these morning rituals, it's
Speaker 2: going to set me for the day. I'm going to
Speaker 2: feel amazing and I'm going to be way more productive.
Speaker 2: So you already have that belief that if you do this,
Speaker 2: that's the result you're going to get, which is why
Speaker 2: when you do it, it's effective and you get the
Speaker 2: results after that. But if you're looking for a tool
Speaker 2: to support you, one thing that you already said that
Speaker 2: you did, which is really powerful when you set your intentions,
Speaker 2: there's something in your primal part of your brain, the
Speaker 2: reptilian brain, that's called your reticular activating system. Are you
Speaker 2: familiar with it? No? Okay, So the reticular activating system.
Speaker 2: One of its functions is to basically pull in to
Speaker 2: your reality the people, the places, the things, experiences that
Speaker 2: you're telling it that you want. At any given moment
Speaker 2: in time, there is like four hundred billion bits of
Speaker 2: information coming at you. Your brain can only focus on
Speaker 2: like five to nine bits. So, for example, are you
Speaker 2: sitting on something right now?
Speaker 1: Mm hm?
Speaker 2: A chair? Yeah? Okay, So can you now feel the
Speaker 2: chair underneath your butt?
Speaker 1: Yes?
Speaker 2: Okay, did you feel it ten seconds ago when we
Speaker 2: were first talking when we're talking, not really, I guess, yeah,
Speaker 2: But that that information, right, that sensation has always been there, Yeah,
Speaker 2: but you just can't focus on every little bit of
Speaker 2: information that's coming at you. But once you shift your focus,
Speaker 2: all of a sudden, you're like, oh, yeah, I feel
Speaker 2: the chair underneath my tush right mm. So what happens
Speaker 2: is with the ras, you're telling it focus on this.
Speaker 2: So when we do our intentions in the morning, we're
Speaker 2: telling our reticular activating system, this is what's important to me,
Speaker 2: focus on this, and we're actually you are consciously directing it,
Speaker 2: which is very powerful, which is why I also do
Speaker 2: that as one of the practice say that I have
Speaker 2: my clients do as a conscious practice, not just the
Speaker 2: hypnosis part, but how to master your mind, because it's
Speaker 2: another thing I do is I teach a lot of
Speaker 2: different practices on how to master your mind consciously and subconsciously.
Speaker 2: So the intention setting is like a conscious practice to say, hey,
Speaker 2: reticular activating system, this is what's important. Scan the environment
Speaker 2: to pull these things into my reality. Yeah, and bring
Speaker 2: this into my existence. It's why like if someone has
Speaker 2: wants to buy a new car, and all of a
Speaker 2: sudden that's top of mind for you and you're like,
Speaker 2: I want, you know, an Audi A four. I just
Speaker 2: made that up, and all of a sudden, everywhere you go,
Speaker 2: you see the audi A four all of the street.
Speaker 1: He's so true, yes, one hundred yeah.
Speaker 2: Because now you told your brain this is important to me.
Speaker 2: So let's focus on this and all all of a
Speaker 2: sudden it goes like and it finds all of it
Speaker 2: in your reality for you.
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Speaker 1: now let's get straight back into the episode. Sorry, you
Speaker 1: just said that this is a tool to master your
Speaker 1: mind that you can use consciously. Is there tools we
Speaker 1: can use unconsciously or it's just consciously?
Speaker 2: Yeah, so that's a conscious tool, A subconscious tool that
Speaker 2: I highly recommend to people, and actually having a comprehensive
Speaker 2: online course about it is self hypnosis so sometimes for
Speaker 2: people you might not be able to work with for
Speaker 2: budget reasons or whatever that might be. If you can't
Speaker 2: work with somebody, or maybe you're don't feel ready yet
Speaker 2: because that trust thing. Right, If you can't do hetero hypnosis,
Speaker 2: which is working with a practitioner, you could do self
Speaker 2: hypnosis and learn to put yourself into state and then
Speaker 2: learn different techniques on how to reprogram. So like in
Speaker 2: my course, I show multiple ways of different types of
Speaker 2: reprogramming techniques. I have one where if you're going I
Speaker 2: have the streamer goal, I want to make it happen boom,
Speaker 2: there's a specific technique for that. Or if you're saying, hey,
Speaker 2: I really wanted to tapp into my subconscious and ask
Speaker 2: it questions and I have this big decision to make,
Speaker 2: and instead of crowdsourcing the answers, I know that I
Speaker 2: know my own answer, but I don't know how to
Speaker 2: connect to it, here's actually a practice on or I
Speaker 2: have a technique in there where you can actually ask
Speaker 2: your subconscious and get the answers that way. Or there's
Speaker 2: like an inner child one in there, because a lot
Speaker 2: of us it's the wounding and the pain is all
Speaker 2: from our inner child experiences and there's a way to
Speaker 2: work with your inner child there. So there's when you
Speaker 2: do self hypnosis that isn't a way to actually access
Speaker 2: your subconscious to do the work there.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I love that, And so I want to chat
Speaker 1: to you a little bit more about what you were
Speaker 1: saying about reprogramming our beliefs and you know, sometimes our
Speaker 1: limiting beliefs. And I have a question for you. So
Speaker 1: do you think it's harder to create positive beliefs and
Speaker 1: thoughts than it is to create negative ones? What's your
Speaker 1: thoughts on that?
Speaker 2: You mean, are you consciously trying to create them?
Speaker 1: Like I guess? I mean, you know, like some people
Speaker 1: they just have a really negative mindset and then some
Speaker 1: people just have a really positive mindset. Is something we
Speaker 1: subconsciously or consciously choose or how can we be I
Speaker 1: guess reprogramming our brain to choose more positive beliefs and thoughts.
Speaker 2: Yeah. So here's one thing that most people might not
Speaker 2: know is we're actually wired for fear. It's a survival
Speaker 2: stay from way back in the cave man days, right.
Speaker 2: It's you needed to be on alert and to be
Speaker 2: able to know if you're going to be attacked and killed.
Speaker 2: The problem is is that we now currently see if
Speaker 2: someone doesn't text us back in quickly, or we don't
Speaker 2: get a certain job, or we get rejected here, that
Speaker 2: we actually perceive that as like a threat to our
Speaker 2: survival and then all of a sudden, you know what happens,
Speaker 2: That feeling comes up. But it's we're wired to look
Speaker 2: for these things to protect ourselves. And here's also what's nuts.
Speaker 2: If you actually look in the dictionary, there are more
Speaker 2: fear based wars then there are positive ones. Crazy, Yeah,
Speaker 2: And a lot of the tactics that are used in
Speaker 2: politics and the news and other things are fear based
Speaker 2: because also when people are in fear, it's easier to
Speaker 2: control them.
Speaker 1: Well, that's even like I find news based like articles,
Speaker 1: like even on social media and like in the US
Speaker 1: and that sort of thing, things that are about negative
Speaker 1: or about fear. Like they've done tests and they're always
Speaker 1: clicked on more than something positive.
Speaker 2: Yeah, because we're looking for that stuff. That's what puts
Speaker 2: us on high alert. And that's what we're wired to
Speaker 2: look for, is to protect ourselves. And beyond high alert.
Speaker 2: And here's what's wilds is one of the techniques I
Speaker 2: use to put people into hypnosis is actually to kick
Speaker 2: off their fight flight mechanism. So I actually put them
Speaker 2: into fight mode, which is the fear. Right all of
Speaker 2: a Suddeny're like yeah, And then because they're resisting for
Speaker 2: so much, eventually like and they just go into flight
Speaker 2: and boom, they go into to the data state. So
Speaker 2: that's how I also know and they're more suggestible at
Speaker 2: that time. It's like if someone's in an accident, right
Speaker 2: and you're like do this, do that, and they're like, okay, okay,
Speaker 2: they're just listening to you because they shut off their
Speaker 2: conscious logical part of their brain and they're just trying
Speaker 2: to survive. So that's also why when the news comes
Speaker 2: that you can then drop in other suggestions someone like hey,
Speaker 2: you should be afraid of this, and I'm the person
Speaker 2: that's going to come to solve that for you, And
Speaker 2: all of a sudden, you're like you you're the one and
Speaker 2: you're not actually thinking, right, is this really true? Or
Speaker 2: is this a form of manipulation using linguistics as well
Speaker 2: as fear based tactics.
Speaker 1: So, but anyway back.
Speaker 2: To your question, as we segue back, I would say
Speaker 2: it programming fear or positive when it's intentional is probably
Speaker 2: the same, but we're wired for fear. Most of us
Speaker 2: have quite a bit of fear based programming because I
Speaker 2: see more people struggling in our world than they are thriving. Yeah,
Speaker 2: that's how I know, right, If you saw people just
Speaker 2: like super alive, going after their dreams, feeling happy all
Speaker 2: the time, loving their life, being of service all and
Speaker 2: like true service all of that, you would be like, wow,
Speaker 2: they must be programmed more for the positivity versus the
Speaker 2: negativity that I see most people struggling with, you know,
Speaker 2: really having a hard time with their self worth, or
Speaker 2: they do the self beat up thing or the self
Speaker 2: doubt like it's an epidemic. Right, So most of that's
Speaker 2: programmed in, which is why I feel like a deep
Speaker 2: part of our healing and our soul's evolution is to
Speaker 2: heal those lies, those are untruths, and to program in
Speaker 2: our truths, which is who we really are, which are powerful, full, lovable,
Speaker 2: extraordinary beings who are more than enough and worthy of
Speaker 2: everything that we desire.
Speaker 1: I love that. And so do you have any takeaway tools,
Speaker 1: actable tools that the audience can do kind of like
Speaker 1: right now or when they get time to help reprogram
Speaker 1: their beliefs to serve their lives more positively rather than
Speaker 1: living in that fear base.
Speaker 2: Yeah. So the first thing is gosh, like all these
Speaker 2: my brain just literally got flooded with all these practices.
Speaker 2: I was like, which one do I get out? There's
Speaker 2: so many. If it's more of a conscious based practice,
Speaker 2: for example, the first thing is just being aware. I'm
Speaker 2: paying attention to what the heck you're telling yourself every
Speaker 2: single day. If you wonder why you feel like crap,
Speaker 2: and you actually start to notice that you're telling yourself
Speaker 2: I can't do that. They don't like me. I'm so stupid,
Speaker 2: that's so bad. Oh I look so ugly, I'm so fat. Like,
Speaker 2: if you just slow down and listen to what your
Speaker 2: self talk is, it'll really illuminate to you why you
Speaker 2: might not feel your best, or why you get stuck
Speaker 2: around things, or why you self sabotage. Once you notice them,
Speaker 2: what I do is I'll write them down, get them
Speaker 2: out of my head, put them down on the page,
Speaker 2: and then start to question them, Right, is this really true?
Speaker 2: How do I know that this is true? Or where
Speaker 2: might I have picked this up? Or where did I
Speaker 2: hear this from? Or where was my earliest memory of
Speaker 2: feeling this way before? Oh that time when you know,
Speaker 2: I was five years old and my mom told me
Speaker 2: blank you know, and then go, okay, well that's not
Speaker 2: me anymore. And then what you can start to do
Speaker 2: is write out what it is that you do want
Speaker 2: to believe and start doing the repetitive part. So affirmations
Speaker 2: do work if you attach the emotion to them. A
Speaker 2: lot of times people go, well, affirmations don't work. Well,
Speaker 2: it's because it doesn't have the emotional component, meaning I
Speaker 2: actually truly feel it and mean it, And so sometimes
Speaker 2: you might need to say it until all of a sudden,
Speaker 2: like the thirtieth time, it clicks and you're like, ooh, okay,
Speaker 2: I kind of felt it there, right. So that's one
Speaker 2: way of doing it, because we actually reprogram our subconscious
Speaker 2: in a few different ways. The first is through repetition.
Speaker 2: So the thing that I just shared is one. Pay
Speaker 2: attention to even what you're saying yourself, question them. And
Speaker 2: sometimes if you question it and you're like, is this
Speaker 2: really true? No, it's not. Do I have evidence to
Speaker 2: prove that this is not true? Yeah, write it all
Speaker 2: down and now you have all this evidence your brain
Speaker 2: just might be like, Yep, that's a lie. I don't
Speaker 2: need to believe that anymore. And it could be as
Speaker 2: simple as that, but other times it could require high
Speaker 2: levels of repetition on an affirmation of what you run
Speaker 2: a program in or if you can relax yourself. So
Speaker 2: I'm guessing many of your listeners meditate now.
Speaker 1: Maybe yeah, maybe we have done a couple of podcasts
Speaker 1: on it, so I think they've definitely heard of the
Speaker 1: idea and a lot would be meditating.
Speaker 2: Okay, well it's I guess it's more of just putting
Speaker 2: yourself into a relaxed state. And if people don't know, again,
Speaker 2: I have resources or I have the course that they
Speaker 2: can do that's super cheap, but it'll show you how
Speaker 2: to relax yourself, to put yourself in a state. And
Speaker 2: then when you say the affirmations, it actually starts to
Speaker 2: go in your subconscious way faster than when you're trying
Speaker 2: to do it consciously. Okay, yeah, so that's one. And
Speaker 2: then another thing I would throw up as a powerful
Speaker 2: technique to use just reprogram consciously is the moment you
Speaker 2: catch yourself in a negative thought and the way that
Speaker 2: you notice you're in a negative thought is because you
Speaker 2: just don't feel so great right, because the feeling always
Speaker 2: follows the thought. So fall asen, you're like, ough, pay attention,
Speaker 2: what am I thinking right now? Or what am I
Speaker 2: focusing on? You know that I can't have what I want,
Speaker 2: or I'm single or whatever it might be. The moment
Speaker 2: you catch that, you want to shift your attention to
Speaker 2: something else. So a lot of times people will say, oh,
Speaker 2: we'll shift it to gratitude, right, or you can shift
Speaker 2: it to just whatever it is that distracts you from
Speaker 2: that thought, a higher feeling focus. Like for me, I'm
Speaker 2: staring at my dog right now. If I'm feeling crappy,
Speaker 2: I just shift my attention to him and I focus
Speaker 2: on why I love him, and all of a sudden,
Speaker 2: it just changes the vibration to me. Right, It changes
Speaker 2: a feeling state in me. And now when I'm in
Speaker 2: a higher state of feeling, I can go do other
Speaker 2: things that feel better. But what you're doing when you
Speaker 2: catch yourself focus on something negative and you consciously catch
Speaker 2: that and shift it towards something else, you're now taking
Speaker 2: control of your mind and you're saying, I'm not going
Speaker 2: to let it hang out in this crappy place anymore.
Speaker 2: I'm gonna stop staring at this shit, and I'm going
Speaker 2: to focus on the joy, on the love. And that
Speaker 2: literally just takes me moving my attention somewhere else.
Speaker 1: That's definitely like a big part of that is even
Speaker 1: being aware, because I know so many people it would
Speaker 1: be hard to even catch themselves in that moment to
Speaker 1: be aware of even knowing they have a choice.
Speaker 2: Yeah, So the key to any sort of personal development
Speaker 2: step one is raising your level of self awareness. Right.
Speaker 2: You can't change what you can't see, so slow down
Speaker 2: and start paying attention. And really, how I notice. I'm like, Oh,
Speaker 2: the moment I feel crappy, that's when I go, huh,
Speaker 2: check in what am I thinking? What's happening in my brain?
Speaker 2: Because again, the feeling follows a thought, and it's harder
Speaker 2: sometimes to notice our thoughts because they're so habituated and automatic.
Speaker 2: But you can also tell when you just don't feel
Speaker 2: so good and in that moment, go, I must have
Speaker 2: my yucky programming going on right now, Yeah, let me
Speaker 2: see what's check out what's going on up in my head? Oh,
Speaker 2: I'm telling myself that they don't like you because this
Speaker 2: or that I'll never hit my goal of making X
Speaker 2: amount of money, you know, or whatever it might be.
Speaker 2: And instead of staring at that, go all right, I
Speaker 2: see that that's what I'm thinking. I know that's that's
Speaker 2: creating my feeling, and in this moment, I choose to
Speaker 2: shift my attention to something else.
Speaker 1: This is star good. I'm like writing down notes because yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm like obviously like I love self development and all
Speaker 1: this sort of stuff. It's like so simple, but it's
Speaker 1: just about doing the work. And when we're taking this in.
Speaker 2: And eventually too, Georgie, just so you know, your brain
Speaker 2: starts to go wow. Every time I try to like
Speaker 2: make her feel like crap, she just switches it and
Speaker 2: it starts to do it automatically for you. So that's
Speaker 2: another great thing. And then if I can throw one
Speaker 2: more out there as a tool, because I love giving tools,
Speaker 2: this one will be super quick. Is if you're sitting
Speaker 2: there and you're not feeling good, boom, that's the signal
Speaker 2: to go all right, I have some faulty thinking going
Speaker 2: on right now. Acknowledge that you're okay. I'm feeling anger,
Speaker 2: And the reason why I'm feeling angry is because I'm
Speaker 2: telling myself blank and then actually speak out what story
Speaker 2: you're telling yourself? Just some story that's disempowering, right, that's
Speaker 2: causing the anger. And then what you can do is
Speaker 2: make up seven positive stories instead of what could actually
Speaker 2: be happening. So, for example, let's say someone didn't get
Speaker 2: the job promotion that they wanted. Yeah, and then they're
Speaker 2: telling themselves, I must not be good enough, I'm not qualified.
Speaker 2: Other people are better than me. Well, guess what's going
Speaker 2: to make you feel crappy in your body? That's the signal.
Speaker 2: And they go, Okay, I feel crappy right now because
Speaker 2: I'm telling myself that I'm not good enough, I'm not qualified.
Speaker 2: What's another interpretation or stories I could be telling myself
Speaker 2: for why I didn't get this promotion. Oh, it could
Speaker 2: be that they actually have another role that they see
Speaker 2: me better for that they'll promote me in later, or
Speaker 2: whatever else. But make up seven stories. And the reason
Speaker 2: why is the first three will be easy, usually the
Speaker 2: two or three. But once you start to train your
Speaker 2: brain to focus more on the positive and make up
Speaker 2: more empowering stories for you, again, you're training your brain
Speaker 2: to look in a whole different direction and eventually when
Speaker 2: the negative story comes up, it's like, Nope, it actually
Speaker 2: could be this, this, this, and this. Okay, cool move along?
Speaker 2: Does that make sense?
Speaker 1: I yes, I love that. So it's all about like
Speaker 1: reprogramming and retraining your brain to think of those more
Speaker 1: positive outcomes, which then makes it easier to just do
Speaker 1: instead of us having to be very aware and you know,
Speaker 1: having to do that work.
Speaker 2: Absolutely yeah, and you know what it takes work, but
Speaker 2: it's worth it.
Speaker 1: Thank you so much for those tools. And so I
Speaker 1: want to finish the interview talking about something we're both
Speaker 1: very passionate about. What is this? So I want to
Speaker 1: talk about self love. I know you absolutely love talking
Speaker 1: about this and I know you have Is it a
Speaker 1: forty day program of self love?
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's a self love transformation over the course of
Speaker 2: forty days, but you can do it over however many
Speaker 2: days you want. But it's a full online course showing
Speaker 2: you the how of self love in the way that
Speaker 2: I've learned.
Speaker 1: And so you have a bit of a different approach
Speaker 1: with self love. It's less about doing, which is what
Speaker 1: many other people teach, and it's more about a way
Speaker 1: of being. So why do you think self love is
Speaker 1: really important? For us, for our souls, and why do
Speaker 1: you approach it differently?
Speaker 2: So I really believe it's our soul's journey to come
Speaker 2: back home to ourselves. Each and every person. Somewhere, some
Speaker 2: way along the line of us growing up, we've decided
Speaker 2: that there's parts of ourselves that are unlovable, not wanted, shameful,
Speaker 2: and we push them away and that's why we feel
Speaker 2: so we don't feel our best because it's like all
Speaker 2: of me is not lovable, only parts of me, And
Speaker 2: how crappy does that feel? And really it's about, instead
Speaker 2: of also trying to get love externally, that we come
Speaker 2: home to us and go, I'm going to love you.
Speaker 2: I'm going to reparent or be the loving parent to
Speaker 2: me that maybe I never had or that I needed
Speaker 2: the most, and starting to really learn to be loving
Speaker 2: with ourselves, which is retraining us from what maybe we
Speaker 2: experience when we are younger. And once we do and
Speaker 2: we have a better relationship with ourselves, everything else opens up.
Speaker 2: Because when you are your own worst enemy, when you
Speaker 2: are the harshest self judger, critic, self doubter, or self
Speaker 2: beater of yourself, there's no way to feel good. It
Speaker 2: doesn't matter if you find some external strategy. That's why
Speaker 2: I also too when people think it's like money rate,
Speaker 2: I'm going to are going to better when I have money,
Speaker 2: And then you talk to all these wealthy people and
Speaker 2: they have all this money, but they still feel so terrible. Well,
Speaker 2: it's because of this relationship with themselves has nothing to
Speaker 2: do with external it's how they treat themselves. And so
Speaker 2: when your relationship with yourself is whole again, yeah again,
Speaker 2: everything opens up. You start to take bigger risks, you
Speaker 2: start to love more, you feel, and you actually really
Speaker 2: start to attract in everything that you desire with ease.
Speaker 2: And so my approach to self love. A lot of
Speaker 2: people talk about self love as a doing right. You
Speaker 2: see all these articles and things of like I took
Speaker 2: myself out for a massage, or I'm taking care of
Speaker 2: my health and I'm eating better, or bubble bath or
Speaker 2: flowers or walk on the beach, and that is all wonderful. Yeah. However,
Speaker 2: for me, it's more of a way of being with yourself,
Speaker 2: meaning how do I treat myself? Right? Am I being?
Speaker 2: And then in my course I talk about eight different
Speaker 2: ways of being, and the ways of being are self accepting,
Speaker 2: you know, are you being accepting yourself or judgmental self compassion?
Speaker 2: Are you being compassionate with yourself when you screw up
Speaker 2: or when things are hard? Or do you beat yourself
Speaker 2: up and you're your worst critic self forgiveness? Do you
Speaker 2: let things go or do you continue to flog yourself
Speaker 2: and make yourself wrong for things and hold like grudges
Speaker 2: against yourself, you know, or even for other people a
Speaker 2: form of self harm when we won't forgive another person
Speaker 2: for harming us because we're the ones that hold the
Speaker 2: anger or resentment. And then there's self appreciation, like really
Speaker 2: celebrating and appreciating who we are and valuing ourselves. There's
Speaker 2: self respect, self trust, self permission, and then receiving, which
Speaker 2: so many women I work with are like, that's the
Speaker 2: hardest one. But yeah, those are all the different ways
Speaker 2: of being with yourself that when you can master even
Speaker 2: just one of them, your whole life will start to change.
Speaker 1: That's amazing. And so what advice would you have for
Speaker 1: someone who's really struggling to be kind to themselves at
Speaker 1: the moment. So obviously, I know you have your program
Speaker 1: and you talk about those seven ways of being, but
Speaker 1: this podcast all is all about actionable tools that we
Speaker 1: can give the audience right now, just you know, one
Speaker 1: piece of advice that you would give someone who's really
Speaker 1: struggling to be kind to themselves.
Speaker 2: Oh, I love this. I'm happy to show one that
Speaker 2: I use myself not as much anymore. But I was
Speaker 2: like on point all the time, all day long doing
Speaker 2: this because I self compassion was a really tough one
Speaker 2: for me. Yeah. Again, I don't blame it, but coming
Speaker 2: from the Chinese culture, it's very tough, very hard on you.
Speaker 2: And so I was that to myself a lot, continue
Speaker 2: on the voice of my parents, and so self compassion
Speaker 2: was tough. And so you said, what can people do
Speaker 2: if they're hard on themselves? This is one practice that
Speaker 2: can change the game if you continuously do it, because
Speaker 2: I know is said, I do it barely now. But
Speaker 2: the moment again you don't feel good, that's a signal
Speaker 2: to you to pay attention, right, and then you notice, oh,
Speaker 2: I'm being really hard on myself. What you do is
Speaker 2: immediately put your hands in your heart because it's like
Speaker 2: a physical pattern interrupt right, It's like you're telling yourself, like,
Speaker 2: I'm going to do something different. So I usually put
Speaker 2: my hands on my heart and I start to breathe.
Speaker 2: I'll do a box breath so inhale four, hold for four,
Speaker 2: ex hel four, hold for four, and I'll do that
Speaker 2: three times. But if I'm still feeling anxious or upset,
Speaker 2: I'll do it until I've calmed my nervous system. And
Speaker 2: then once i feel calm, then start to validate myself
Speaker 2: or whoever's listening. Validate yourself, tell yourself what you actually
Speaker 2: need to hear. Right, It's okay that you messed up.
Speaker 2: It's not a big deal, girl, You're still good. You
Speaker 2: got this. I still love you, nobody hates you. You
Speaker 2: can absolutely take on and have whatever it is that
Speaker 2: you want. And so that's like the big key is again,
Speaker 2: the moment you notice you're being your own worst critic,
Speaker 2: put your hands in your heart, breathe, and when you've
Speaker 2: calmed down, start to validate yourself and say the exact
Speaker 2: words that you actually need to hear, like your best
Speaker 2: friend would tell you, or you would tell your best
Speaker 2: friend if she was struggling with the very same thing.
Speaker 1: That's beautiful, And so if you didn't necessarily believe it yourself,
Speaker 1: do you kind of just keep saying it until you
Speaker 1: believe it, or yeah.
Speaker 2: Well you just say so. The thing is the reason
Speaker 2: why you want to slow your breath, right, is you're
Speaker 2: actually calming yourself so you're more receptive to other things.
Speaker 2: And if it's hard for you to believe, yeah, just
Speaker 2: say it anyway. Yeah do you know what? Yeah, you
Speaker 2: just I mean, that's what I do. Just got to
Speaker 2: say it.
Speaker 1: And I do something similar, and that's like the first
Speaker 1: time I kind of say it to myself. It's almost
Speaker 1: like I have this inner critic who goes like, this
Speaker 1: is stupid. What are you doing? You don't actually believe this,
Speaker 1: But then like I've got to keep doing it, and
Speaker 1: then by like the second or third one, it like
Speaker 1: settles in. It's probably the whole what you said about
Speaker 1: being calm, and then it feels better.
Speaker 2: Yeah, because some people try to go from one thought,
Speaker 2: like at the fear based thought to the empowering thought,
Speaker 2: and that's when it doesn't work, right, when you're like
Speaker 2: that's not successory, Like it's okay, it's okay, I'm good enough,
Speaker 2: I'm stronger, and it's like, no, you're not. You got
Speaker 2: to calm your nervous system so you're actually receptive to
Speaker 2: another thought. So that's why I do that to like
Speaker 2: get in your body. That's another thing I work a
Speaker 2: lot with is the physical body. Yeah, because that's where
Speaker 2: you're subconscious.
Speaker 1: Is thank you so much for sharing that. You just
Speaker 1: have so much good wisdom and I really appreciate you
Speaker 1: sharing it. With the Rise and Conquer audience. To finish
Speaker 1: off the interview, something I want to ask you, and
Speaker 1: this is a new thing I'm doing with my interesting
Speaker 1: people who I speak to, I wanted to ask you
Speaker 1: if you have a recommendation for the audience about like
Speaker 1: it can literally be anything if you are reading, watching,
Speaker 1: or listening to anything. I personally just like love recommendations.
Speaker 1: So do you have anything for us?
Speaker 2: Yeah? So I have so many, Georgie, which one do
Speaker 2: I pick?
Speaker 1: Last one? Spany?
Speaker 2: All right? So one of the ones I used to
Speaker 2: actually buy this book and I would give them to
Speaker 2: people as gifts is The Untethered Soul by Michael A. Singer.
Speaker 1: I haven't read it. I think i've heard of it.
Speaker 1: What sort of looked like little insight about what it's about.
Speaker 2: If you're new to personal development, right or it's hard
Speaker 2: for you to understand your thoughts or to control them.
Speaker 2: Michael a singer. He what I love that he does
Speaker 2: with this book is he logically steps you through where
Speaker 2: these negative thoughts are coming from and how to start
Speaker 2: to work with them in a loving way. And it's
Speaker 2: such a profound book that it's one that I read
Speaker 2: over and over again. But it really walks you through
Speaker 2: your relationship with your thoughts and your emotions, and it
Speaker 2: starts to have you see and uncover the source and
Speaker 2: fluctuations of your inner energy so that you can start
Speaker 2: to be more in control of them and to free
Speaker 2: yourself from the habituated thoughts and emotions and energy patterns
Speaker 2: that usually will limit your consciousness.
Speaker 1: Amazing. I will have to put that on my book list.
Speaker 1: I'm a big audible fan, so I'm hoping it's on that.
Speaker 2: It should Actually that one really should be, but the
Speaker 2: other one because I'm a cheater, and I'm telling you,
Speaker 2: I'm actually reading The Body Keeps a Score right now.
Speaker 2: And it's a lot about trauma and how it gets
Speaker 2: stored in your body. So sometimes when people are like,
Speaker 2: why is it that I have this pain on my
Speaker 2: side or why is it that I have this weird
Speaker 2: skin rash, they really start to show you how the
Speaker 2: body starts to communicate with you based off the unhealed
Speaker 2: trauma so that you can heal it.
Speaker 1: Amazing, so interesting. Well, thank you so much Stephanie for
Speaker 1: coming on the show. I really appreciate it. I've loved
Speaker 1: this interview and hopefully speak to you again soon.
Speaker 2: I would love that. Thank you so much, Georgie. It
Speaker 2: was such a pleasure and so wonderful to be on
Speaker 2: your show.
Speaker 1: Amazing. Oh wait, I'm so sorry. Before we go, can
Speaker 1: you tell the audience where they can find you? Obviously
Speaker 1: I will put all these links in the show notes. Guys.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you can check me out on my website Stephanie
Speaker 2: Quang dot com. And I like to hang out a
Speaker 2: lot on Instagram. I usually always DM people back, but
Speaker 2: it's my handle is at. I am Stephanie Kuang.
Speaker 1: Amazing, Thank you at Stephanie, thank you, thanks so much
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