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Speaker 1: Hi, and welcome to the Rise and Conquer Podcast. I'm

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Speaker 1: your host, Georgie Stevenson. I am a lawyer and health coach,

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Speaker 1: social media influencer, wife and dog mum. On the Rise

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Speaker 1: and Conquer Podcast, we dive deep into all things mindset, habits, career, health,

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Speaker 1: relationships and more. This is a podcast for women who

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Speaker 1: want to rise up to be the best version of themselves,

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Speaker 1: who have big dreams in who are willing to put

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Speaker 1: in the work to get there. I want to bring

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Speaker 1: you the tools and actionable steps to feel confident in yourself,

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Speaker 1: inspired to take bold action, and motivated to conquer your goals.

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Speaker 1: Are you with me, girl friends, Let's rise and conquer. Hi, guys,

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Speaker 1: and welcome to another episode of the Rise and Conquered Podcast.

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Speaker 1: Today we are rising up and conquering our mind with

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Speaker 1: special guests Stephanie Quom. She is a mindset mastery coach,

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Speaker 1: hypnotherapist and host of the Rise Higher podcasts. She supports

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Speaker 1: entrepreneurs and leaders to identify and remove mental roadblocks and

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Speaker 1: redesign their subconscious mind to achieve their next level. Her

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Speaker 1: deep passion is to empower people to turn their dreams

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Speaker 1: into reality by aligning the inner world to the outer

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Speaker 1: results they want to create. In this episode, we chat

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Speaker 1: about the practice of hypnotherapy, how we can change our

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Speaker 1: subconscious mind, how to break out of bad habits and

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Speaker 1: bad patterns, and how to reprogram our beliefs for the better.

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Speaker 1: This is such a good episode and I cannot wait

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Speaker 1: to share it with you. Guys. Welcome to the show, Stephanie.

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Speaker 2: Thank you so much for having me.

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Speaker 1: Of course, I'm so excited about the conversation today. But

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Speaker 1: before we get into the good stuff, as this is

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Speaker 1: the Rise and Conker Podcast, what is one thing big

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Speaker 1: or small that you are rising up and conquering this week?

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Speaker 2: This is actually very timely for me, something that I'm

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Speaker 2: I would say rising. I don't know if it's necessarily

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Speaker 2: a conquering, but a very dear friend of mine recently

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Speaker 2: passed away and I was literally at his celebration of

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Speaker 2: life last night. And he was a guy who lived big,

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Speaker 2: big spirit, huge light, super lux is how he lived

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Speaker 2: his life. I mean they did. It was cocktail attire

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Speaker 2: to go to his celebration of life, so so beautiful.

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Speaker 2: That was such a representation of him. But while last

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Speaker 2: night was super joyful and fun and so many laughs

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Speaker 2: and tears hearing the stories that everybody had of what

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Speaker 2: an incredible man he was. I'm really working to rise

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Speaker 2: through the grief and to conquer that, I would say, yeah,

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Speaker 2: and I'm being gentle with myself to move through it

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Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, my condolences. That's really amazing that you

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Speaker 1: did celebrate his life in a way that seems like

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Speaker 1: it resonated with his personality too. That's really lovely.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, it was really really special.

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Speaker 1: Thank you for sharing that with us. And I am

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Speaker 1: glad that you spoke about rising up to grief. But

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Speaker 1: I wanted to give the audience a bit of a

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Speaker 1: snapshot of you. Could you tell the audience just a

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Speaker 1: bit about yourself and how you help people?

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Speaker 2: Sure? So I work with driven and ambitious people to

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Speaker 2: really help them to identify what is holding them back

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Speaker 2: from what they want. So often people desire something and

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Speaker 2: they can't break through. So I really help those people

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Speaker 2: to identify what's holding them back and then to reprogram

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Speaker 2: to their highs potential. So whether that's in business, health, relationships,

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Speaker 2: do that through a lot of different ways. I have

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Speaker 2: just a very small one on one practice. I have

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Speaker 2: I also facilitate like an online program it's called Become,

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Speaker 2: people to release perfectionism, ditch procrastination, and stop postponing their greatness.

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Speaker 2: And that's a lot of the inner work and the reprogramming.

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Speaker 2: And then I also do it through my online courses,

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Speaker 1: Yes, it's so intricate. I love it, and so I

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Speaker 1: am very interested. You are a hypnotherapist and you teach

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Speaker 2: Hypnotherapy it's a proven therapeutic process where you work with

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Speaker 2: your goals. Basically, you put you into a trance like state.

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Speaker 2: we want to program into your subconscious mind right now,

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Speaker 2: just throwing that out there. Too, because that's something that

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Speaker 2: the conscious time. Right like when you and I are talking,

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Speaker 1: So how do you almost know what is blocking the

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Speaker 2: And there's a lot of different ways of one entering

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Speaker 2: And when we support people and feelings safe right having

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Speaker 1: Your stuff just fascinates me so much, and I want

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Speaker 2: your reality the people, the places, the things, experiences that

431
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Speaker 2: you're telling it that you want. At any given moment

432
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Speaker 2: in time, there is like four hundred billion bits of

433
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Speaker 2: information coming at you. Your brain can only focus on

434
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Speaker 2: like five to nine bits. So, for example, are you

435
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Speaker 2: sitting on something right now?

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Speaker 1: Mm hm?

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Speaker 2: A chair? Yeah? Okay, So can you now feel the

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Speaker 2: chair underneath your butt?

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Speaker 1: Yes?

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Speaker 2: Okay, did you feel it ten seconds ago when we

441
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Speaker 2: were first talking when we're talking, not really, I guess, yeah,

442
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Speaker 2: But that that information, right, that sensation has always been there, Yeah,

443
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Speaker 2: but you just can't focus on every little bit of

444
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Speaker 2: information that's coming at you. But once you shift your focus,

445
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Speaker 2: all of a sudden, you're like, oh, yeah, I feel

446
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Speaker 2: the chair underneath my tush right mm. So what happens

447
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Speaker 2: is with the ras, you're telling it focus on this.

448
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Speaker 2: So when we do our intentions in the morning, we're

449
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Speaker 2: telling our reticular activating system, this is what's important to me,

450
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Speaker 2: focus on this, and we're actually you are consciously directing it,

451
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Speaker 2: which is very powerful, which is why I also do

452
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Speaker 2: that as one of the practice say that I have

453
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Speaker 2: my clients do as a conscious practice, not just the

454
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Speaker 2: hypnosis part, but how to master your mind, because it's

455
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Speaker 2: another thing I do is I teach a lot of

456
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Speaker 2: different practices on how to master your mind consciously and subconsciously.

457
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Speaker 2: So the intention setting is like a conscious practice to say, hey,

458
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Speaker 2: reticular activating system, this is what's important. Scan the environment

459
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Speaker 2: to pull these things into my reality. Yeah, and bring

460
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Speaker 2: this into my existence. It's why like if someone has

461
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Speaker 2: wants to buy a new car, and all of a

462
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Speaker 2: sudden that's top of mind for you and you're like,

463
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Speaker 2: I want, you know, an Audi A four. I just

464
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Speaker 2: made that up, and all of a sudden, everywhere you go,

465
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Speaker 2: you see the audi A four all of the street.

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Speaker 1: He's so true, yes, one hundred yeah.

467
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Speaker 2: Because now you told your brain this is important to me.

468
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Speaker 2: So let's focus on this and all all of a

469
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Speaker 2: sudden it goes like and it finds all of it

470
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Speaker 2: in your reality for you.

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Speaker 1: now let's get straight back into the episode. Sorry, you

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Speaker 1: just said that this is a tool to master your

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Speaker 1: mind that you can use consciously. Is there tools we

501
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Speaker 1: can use unconsciously or it's just consciously?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so that's a conscious tool, A subconscious tool that

503
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Speaker 2: I highly recommend to people, and actually having a comprehensive

504
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Speaker 2: online course about it is self hypnosis so sometimes for

505
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Speaker 2: people you might not be able to work with for

506
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Speaker 2: budget reasons or whatever that might be. If you can't

507
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Speaker 2: work with somebody, or maybe you're don't feel ready yet

508
00:29:16,440 --> 00:29:19,400
Speaker 2: because that trust thing. Right, If you can't do hetero hypnosis,

509
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Speaker 2: which is working with a practitioner, you could do self

510
00:29:21,840 --> 00:29:27,400
Speaker 2: hypnosis and learn to put yourself into state and then

511
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Speaker 2: learn different techniques on how to reprogram. So like in

512
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Speaker 2: my course, I show multiple ways of different types of

513
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Speaker 2: reprogramming techniques. I have one where if you're going I

514
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Speaker 2: have the streamer goal, I want to make it happen boom,

515
00:29:40,880 --> 00:29:44,280
Speaker 2: there's a specific technique for that. Or if you're saying, hey,

516
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Speaker 2: I really wanted to tapp into my subconscious and ask

517
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Speaker 2: it questions and I have this big decision to make,

518
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Speaker 2: and instead of crowdsourcing the answers, I know that I

519
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Speaker 2: know my own answer, but I don't know how to

520
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Speaker 2: connect to it, here's actually a practice on or I

521
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Speaker 2: have a technique in there where you can actually ask

522
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Speaker 2: your subconscious and get the answers that way. Or there's

523
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Speaker 2: like an inner child one in there, because a lot

524
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Speaker 2: of us it's the wounding and the pain is all

525
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Speaker 2: from our inner child experiences and there's a way to

526
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Speaker 2: work with your inner child there. So there's when you

527
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Speaker 2: do self hypnosis that isn't a way to actually access

528
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Speaker 2: your subconscious to do the work there.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I love that, And so I want to chat

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Speaker 1: to you a little bit more about what you were

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Speaker 1: saying about reprogramming our beliefs and you know, sometimes our

532
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Speaker 1: limiting beliefs. And I have a question for you. So

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Speaker 1: do you think it's harder to create positive beliefs and

534
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Speaker 1: thoughts than it is to create negative ones? What's your

535
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Speaker 1: thoughts on that?

536
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Speaker 2: You mean, are you consciously trying to create them?

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Speaker 1: Like I guess? I mean, you know, like some people

538
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Speaker 1: they just have a really negative mindset and then some

539
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Speaker 1: people just have a really positive mindset. Is something we

540
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Speaker 1: subconsciously or consciously choose or how can we be I

541
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Speaker 1: guess reprogramming our brain to choose more positive beliefs and thoughts.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. So here's one thing that most people might not

543
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Speaker 2: know is we're actually wired for fear. It's a survival

544
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Speaker 2: stay from way back in the cave man days, right.

545
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Speaker 2: It's you needed to be on alert and to be

546
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Speaker 2: able to know if you're going to be attacked and killed.

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Speaker 2: The problem is is that we now currently see if

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Speaker 2: someone doesn't text us back in quickly, or we don't

549
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Speaker 2: get a certain job, or we get rejected here, that

550
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Speaker 2: we actually perceive that as like a threat to our

551
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Speaker 2: survival and then all of a sudden, you know what happens,

552
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Speaker 2: That feeling comes up. But it's we're wired to look

553
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Speaker 2: for these things to protect ourselves. And here's also what's nuts.

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Speaker 2: If you actually look in the dictionary, there are more

555
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Speaker 2: fear based wars then there are positive ones. Crazy, Yeah,

556
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Speaker 2: And a lot of the tactics that are used in

557
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Speaker 2: politics and the news and other things are fear based

558
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Speaker 2: because also when people are in fear, it's easier to

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Speaker 2: control them.

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Speaker 1: Well, that's even like I find news based like articles,

561
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Speaker 1: like even on social media and like in the US

562
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Speaker 1: and that sort of thing, things that are about negative

563
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Speaker 1: or about fear. Like they've done tests and they're always

564
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Speaker 1: clicked on more than something positive.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, because we're looking for that stuff. That's what puts

566
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Speaker 2: us on high alert. And that's what we're wired to

567
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Speaker 2: look for, is to protect ourselves. And beyond high alert.

568
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Speaker 2: And here's what's wilds is one of the techniques I

569
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Speaker 2: use to put people into hypnosis is actually to kick

570
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Speaker 2: off their fight flight mechanism. So I actually put them

571
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Speaker 2: into fight mode, which is the fear. Right all of

572
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Speaker 2: a Suddeny're like yeah, And then because they're resisting for

573
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Speaker 2: so much, eventually like and they just go into flight

574
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Speaker 2: and boom, they go into to the data state. So

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Speaker 2: that's how I also know and they're more suggestible at

576
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Speaker 2: that time. It's like if someone's in an accident, right

577
00:33:12,880 --> 00:33:14,960
Speaker 2: and you're like do this, do that, and they're like, okay, okay,

578
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Speaker 2: they're just listening to you because they shut off their

579
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Speaker 2: conscious logical part of their brain and they're just trying

580
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Speaker 2: to survive. So that's also why when the news comes

581
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Speaker 2: that you can then drop in other suggestions someone like hey,

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Speaker 2: you should be afraid of this, and I'm the person

583
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Speaker 2: that's going to come to solve that for you, And

584
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Speaker 2: all of a sudden, you're like you you're the one and

585
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Speaker 2: you're not actually thinking, right, is this really true? Or

586
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Speaker 2: is this a form of manipulation using linguistics as well

587
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Speaker 2: as fear based tactics.

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Speaker 1: So, but anyway back.

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Speaker 2: To your question, as we segue back, I would say

590
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Speaker 2: it programming fear or positive when it's intentional is probably

591
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Speaker 2: the same, but we're wired for fear. Most of us

592
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Speaker 2: have quite a bit of fear based programming because I

593
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Speaker 2: see more people struggling in our world than they are thriving. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: that's how I know, right, If you saw people just

595
00:34:13,840 --> 00:34:17,640
Speaker 2: like super alive, going after their dreams, feeling happy all

596
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Speaker 2: the time, loving their life, being of service all and

597
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Speaker 2: like true service all of that, you would be like, wow,

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Speaker 2: they must be programmed more for the positivity versus the

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Speaker 2: negativity that I see most people struggling with, you know,

600
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Speaker 2: really having a hard time with their self worth, or

601
00:34:37,760 --> 00:34:40,400
Speaker 2: they do the self beat up thing or the self

602
00:34:40,480 --> 00:34:44,719
Speaker 2: doubt like it's an epidemic. Right, So most of that's

603
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Speaker 2: programmed in, which is why I feel like a deep

604
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Speaker 2: part of our healing and our soul's evolution is to

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Speaker 2: heal those lies, those are untruths, and to program in

606
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Speaker 2: our truths, which is who we really are, which are powerful, full, lovable,

607
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Speaker 2: extraordinary beings who are more than enough and worthy of

608
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Speaker 2: everything that we desire.

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Speaker 1: I love that. And so do you have any takeaway tools,

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Speaker 1: actable tools that the audience can do kind of like

611
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Speaker 1: right now or when they get time to help reprogram

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Speaker 1: their beliefs to serve their lives more positively rather than

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Speaker 1: living in that fear base.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. So the first thing is gosh, like all these

615
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Speaker 2: my brain just literally got flooded with all these practices.

616
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Speaker 2: I was like, which one do I get out? There's

617
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Speaker 2: so many. If it's more of a conscious based practice,

618
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Speaker 2: for example, the first thing is just being aware. I'm

619
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Speaker 2: paying attention to what the heck you're telling yourself every

620
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Speaker 2: single day. If you wonder why you feel like crap,

621
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Speaker 2: and you actually start to notice that you're telling yourself

622
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Speaker 2: I can't do that. They don't like me. I'm so stupid,

623
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Speaker 2: that's so bad. Oh I look so ugly, I'm so fat. Like,

624
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Speaker 2: if you just slow down and listen to what your

625
00:36:01,000 --> 00:36:04,400
Speaker 2: self talk is, it'll really illuminate to you why you

626
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Speaker 2: might not feel your best, or why you get stuck

627
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Speaker 2: around things, or why you self sabotage. Once you notice them,

628
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Speaker 2: what I do is I'll write them down, get them

629
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Speaker 2: out of my head, put them down on the page,

630
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Speaker 2: and then start to question them, Right, is this really true?

631
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Speaker 2: How do I know that this is true? Or where

632
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Speaker 2: might I have picked this up? Or where did I

633
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Speaker 2: hear this from? Or where was my earliest memory of

634
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Speaker 2: feeling this way before? Oh that time when you know,

635
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Speaker 2: I was five years old and my mom told me

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Speaker 2: blank you know, and then go, okay, well that's not

637
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Speaker 2: me anymore. And then what you can start to do

638
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Speaker 2: is write out what it is that you do want

639
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Speaker 2: to believe and start doing the repetitive part. So affirmations

640
00:36:49,239 --> 00:36:52,520
Speaker 2: do work if you attach the emotion to them. A

641
00:36:52,600 --> 00:36:54,960
Speaker 2: lot of times people go, well, affirmations don't work. Well,

642
00:36:55,280 --> 00:36:58,759
Speaker 2: it's because it doesn't have the emotional component, meaning I

643
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Speaker 2: actually truly feel it and mean it, And so sometimes

644
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Speaker 2: you might need to say it until all of a sudden,

645
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Speaker 2: like the thirtieth time, it clicks and you're like, ooh, okay,

646
00:37:06,640 --> 00:37:09,839
Speaker 2: I kind of felt it there, right. So that's one

647
00:37:09,880 --> 00:37:14,080
Speaker 2: way of doing it, because we actually reprogram our subconscious

648
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Speaker 2: in a few different ways. The first is through repetition.

649
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Speaker 2: So the thing that I just shared is one. Pay

650
00:37:19,360 --> 00:37:22,279
Speaker 2: attention to even what you're saying yourself, question them. And

651
00:37:22,360 --> 00:37:24,360
Speaker 2: sometimes if you question it and you're like, is this

652
00:37:24,400 --> 00:37:27,960
Speaker 2: really true? No, it's not. Do I have evidence to

653
00:37:27,960 --> 00:37:30,200
Speaker 2: prove that this is not true? Yeah, write it all

654
00:37:30,239 --> 00:37:32,480
Speaker 2: down and now you have all this evidence your brain

655
00:37:32,600 --> 00:37:34,839
Speaker 2: just might be like, Yep, that's a lie. I don't

656
00:37:34,880 --> 00:37:36,759
Speaker 2: need to believe that anymore. And it could be as

657
00:37:36,800 --> 00:37:41,440
Speaker 2: simple as that, but other times it could require high

658
00:37:41,560 --> 00:37:43,640
Speaker 2: levels of repetition on an affirmation of what you run

659
00:37:43,680 --> 00:37:48,080
Speaker 2: a program in or if you can relax yourself. So

660
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Speaker 2: I'm guessing many of your listeners meditate now.

661
00:37:52,920 --> 00:37:55,880
Speaker 1: Maybe yeah, maybe we have done a couple of podcasts

662
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Speaker 1: on it, so I think they've definitely heard of the

663
00:37:59,320 --> 00:38:01,600
Speaker 1: idea and a lot would be meditating.

664
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Speaker 2: Okay, well it's I guess it's more of just putting

665
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Speaker 2: yourself into a relaxed state. And if people don't know, again,

666
00:38:08,000 --> 00:38:10,279
Speaker 2: I have resources or I have the course that they

667
00:38:10,320 --> 00:38:13,080
Speaker 2: can do that's super cheap, but it'll show you how

668
00:38:13,120 --> 00:38:15,960
Speaker 2: to relax yourself, to put yourself in a state. And

669
00:38:16,000 --> 00:38:19,680
Speaker 2: then when you say the affirmations, it actually starts to

670
00:38:19,719 --> 00:38:22,839
Speaker 2: go in your subconscious way faster than when you're trying

671
00:38:22,880 --> 00:38:27,000
Speaker 2: to do it consciously. Okay, yeah, so that's one. And

672
00:38:27,040 --> 00:38:29,480
Speaker 2: then another thing I would throw up as a powerful

673
00:38:29,560 --> 00:38:33,440
Speaker 2: technique to use just reprogram consciously is the moment you

674
00:38:33,480 --> 00:38:38,279
Speaker 2: catch yourself in a negative thought and the way that

675
00:38:38,320 --> 00:38:40,080
Speaker 2: you notice you're in a negative thought is because you

676
00:38:40,120 --> 00:38:43,280
Speaker 2: just don't feel so great right, because the feeling always

677
00:38:43,320 --> 00:38:46,320
Speaker 2: follows the thought. So fall asen, you're like, ough, pay attention,

678
00:38:46,400 --> 00:38:48,080
Speaker 2: what am I thinking right now? Or what am I

679
00:38:48,160 --> 00:38:52,360
Speaker 2: focusing on? You know that I can't have what I want,

680
00:38:53,040 --> 00:38:56,080
Speaker 2: or I'm single or whatever it might be. The moment

681
00:38:56,080 --> 00:39:00,080
Speaker 2: you catch that, you want to shift your attention to

682
00:39:00,120 --> 00:39:03,719
Speaker 2: something else. So a lot of times people will say, oh,

683
00:39:03,760 --> 00:39:07,560
Speaker 2: we'll shift it to gratitude, right, or you can shift

684
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Speaker 2: it to just whatever it is that distracts you from

685
00:39:11,400 --> 00:39:15,879
Speaker 2: that thought, a higher feeling focus. Like for me, I'm

686
00:39:15,960 --> 00:39:19,280
Speaker 2: staring at my dog right now. If I'm feeling crappy,

687
00:39:19,600 --> 00:39:22,240
Speaker 2: I just shift my attention to him and I focus

688
00:39:22,280 --> 00:39:23,720
Speaker 2: on why I love him, and all of a sudden,

689
00:39:23,840 --> 00:39:25,760
Speaker 2: it just changes the vibration to me. Right, It changes

690
00:39:25,760 --> 00:39:28,440
Speaker 2: a feeling state in me. And now when I'm in

691
00:39:28,480 --> 00:39:31,919
Speaker 2: a higher state of feeling, I can go do other

692
00:39:32,000 --> 00:39:35,839
Speaker 2: things that feel better. But what you're doing when you

693
00:39:35,920 --> 00:39:41,360
Speaker 2: catch yourself focus on something negative and you consciously catch

694
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Speaker 2: that and shift it towards something else, you're now taking

695
00:39:45,560 --> 00:39:48,520
Speaker 2: control of your mind and you're saying, I'm not going

696
00:39:48,600 --> 00:39:50,960
Speaker 2: to let it hang out in this crappy place anymore.

697
00:39:51,000 --> 00:39:53,520
Speaker 2: I'm gonna stop staring at this shit, and I'm going

698
00:39:53,560 --> 00:39:56,040
Speaker 2: to focus on the joy, on the love. And that

699
00:39:56,080 --> 00:39:59,520
Speaker 2: literally just takes me moving my attention somewhere else.

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Speaker 1: That's definitely like a big part of that is even

701
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Speaker 1: being aware, because I know so many people it would

702
00:40:07,360 --> 00:40:10,640
Speaker 1: be hard to even catch themselves in that moment to

703
00:40:10,719 --> 00:40:14,200
Speaker 1: be aware of even knowing they have a choice.

704
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Speaker 2: Yeah, So the key to any sort of personal development

705
00:40:18,520 --> 00:40:21,879
Speaker 2: step one is raising your level of self awareness. Right.

706
00:40:21,920 --> 00:40:24,839
Speaker 2: You can't change what you can't see, so slow down

707
00:40:24,880 --> 00:40:29,560
Speaker 2: and start paying attention. And really, how I notice. I'm like, Oh,

708
00:40:29,960 --> 00:40:33,440
Speaker 2: the moment I feel crappy, that's when I go, huh,

709
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Speaker 2: check in what am I thinking? What's happening in my brain?

710
00:40:37,440 --> 00:40:41,280
Speaker 2: Because again, the feeling follows a thought, and it's harder

711
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Speaker 2: sometimes to notice our thoughts because they're so habituated and automatic.

712
00:40:45,040 --> 00:40:47,359
Speaker 2: But you can also tell when you just don't feel

713
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Speaker 2: so good and in that moment, go, I must have

714
00:40:51,640 --> 00:40:54,520
Speaker 2: my yucky programming going on right now, Yeah, let me

715
00:40:54,600 --> 00:40:58,040
Speaker 2: see what's check out what's going on up in my head? Oh,

716
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Speaker 2: I'm telling myself that they don't like you because this

717
00:41:03,200 --> 00:41:08,400
Speaker 2: or that I'll never hit my goal of making X

718
00:41:08,440 --> 00:41:10,920
Speaker 2: amount of money, you know, or whatever it might be.

719
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Speaker 2: And instead of staring at that, go all right, I

720
00:41:14,880 --> 00:41:18,080
Speaker 2: see that that's what I'm thinking. I know that's that's

721
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Speaker 2: creating my feeling, and in this moment, I choose to

722
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Speaker 2: shift my attention to something else.

723
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Speaker 1: This is star good. I'm like writing down notes because yeah,

724
00:41:27,800 --> 00:41:32,080
Speaker 1: I'm like obviously like I love self development and all

725
00:41:32,080 --> 00:41:35,120
Speaker 1: this sort of stuff. It's like so simple, but it's

726
00:41:35,360 --> 00:41:39,080
Speaker 1: just about doing the work. And when we're taking this in.

727
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Speaker 2: And eventually too, Georgie, just so you know, your brain

728
00:41:42,040 --> 00:41:43,840
Speaker 2: starts to go wow. Every time I try to like

729
00:41:43,880 --> 00:41:45,880
Speaker 2: make her feel like crap, she just switches it and

730
00:41:45,920 --> 00:41:48,719
Speaker 2: it starts to do it automatically for you. So that's

731
00:41:48,719 --> 00:41:51,439
Speaker 2: another great thing. And then if I can throw one

732
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Speaker 2: more out there as a tool, because I love giving tools,

733
00:41:53,800 --> 00:41:56,520
Speaker 2: this one will be super quick. Is if you're sitting

734
00:41:56,520 --> 00:41:58,840
Speaker 2: there and you're not feeling good, boom, that's the signal

735
00:41:58,880 --> 00:42:01,520
Speaker 2: to go all right, I have some faulty thinking going

736
00:42:01,560 --> 00:42:05,480
Speaker 2: on right now. Acknowledge that you're okay. I'm feeling anger,

737
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Speaker 2: And the reason why I'm feeling angry is because I'm

738
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Speaker 2: telling myself blank and then actually speak out what story

739
00:42:13,239 --> 00:42:17,120
Speaker 2: you're telling yourself? Just some story that's disempowering, right, that's

740
00:42:17,200 --> 00:42:19,920
Speaker 2: causing the anger. And then what you can do is

741
00:42:20,080 --> 00:42:26,400
Speaker 2: make up seven positive stories instead of what could actually

742
00:42:26,440 --> 00:42:32,960
Speaker 2: be happening. So, for example, let's say someone didn't get

743
00:42:33,239 --> 00:42:36,439
Speaker 2: the job promotion that they wanted. Yeah, and then they're

744
00:42:36,480 --> 00:42:40,080
Speaker 2: telling themselves, I must not be good enough, I'm not qualified.

745
00:42:40,120 --> 00:42:42,000
Speaker 2: Other people are better than me. Well, guess what's going

746
00:42:42,080 --> 00:42:44,080
Speaker 2: to make you feel crappy in your body? That's the signal.

747
00:42:44,360 --> 00:42:46,439
Speaker 2: And they go, Okay, I feel crappy right now because

748
00:42:46,440 --> 00:42:49,000
Speaker 2: I'm telling myself that I'm not good enough, I'm not qualified.

749
00:42:49,480 --> 00:42:53,000
Speaker 2: What's another interpretation or stories I could be telling myself

750
00:42:53,040 --> 00:42:55,640
Speaker 2: for why I didn't get this promotion. Oh, it could

751
00:42:55,719 --> 00:42:59,239
Speaker 2: be that they actually have another role that they see

752
00:42:59,239 --> 00:43:01,880
Speaker 2: me better for that they'll promote me in later, or

753
00:43:02,640 --> 00:43:06,279
Speaker 2: whatever else. But make up seven stories. And the reason

754
00:43:06,360 --> 00:43:09,319
Speaker 2: why is the first three will be easy, usually the

755
00:43:09,320 --> 00:43:11,600
Speaker 2: two or three. But once you start to train your

756
00:43:11,640 --> 00:43:14,000
Speaker 2: brain to focus more on the positive and make up

757
00:43:14,040 --> 00:43:18,200
Speaker 2: more empowering stories for you, again, you're training your brain

758
00:43:18,360 --> 00:43:20,919
Speaker 2: to look in a whole different direction and eventually when

759
00:43:20,920 --> 00:43:23,240
Speaker 2: the negative story comes up, it's like, Nope, it actually

760
00:43:23,280 --> 00:43:26,720
Speaker 2: could be this, this, this, and this. Okay, cool move along?

761
00:43:27,440 --> 00:43:28,200
Speaker 2: Does that make sense?

762
00:43:28,320 --> 00:43:30,719
Speaker 1: I yes, I love that. So it's all about like

763
00:43:31,160 --> 00:43:35,759
Speaker 1: reprogramming and retraining your brain to think of those more

764
00:43:35,800 --> 00:43:39,520
Speaker 1: positive outcomes, which then makes it easier to just do

765
00:43:39,960 --> 00:43:43,319
Speaker 1: instead of us having to be very aware and you know,

766
00:43:43,360 --> 00:43:44,719
Speaker 1: having to do that work.

767
00:43:45,120 --> 00:43:47,759
Speaker 2: Absolutely yeah, and you know what it takes work, but

768
00:43:47,800 --> 00:43:48,399
Speaker 2: it's worth it.

769
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Speaker 1: Thank you so much for those tools. And so I

770
00:43:53,440 --> 00:43:56,760
Speaker 1: want to finish the interview talking about something we're both

771
00:43:57,480 --> 00:44:02,279
Speaker 1: very passionate about. What is this? So I want to

772
00:44:02,280 --> 00:44:06,240
Speaker 1: talk about self love. I know you absolutely love talking

773
00:44:06,239 --> 00:44:09,640
Speaker 1: about this and I know you have Is it a

774
00:44:09,680 --> 00:44:12,000
Speaker 1: forty day program of self love?

775
00:44:12,719 --> 00:44:15,279
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's a self love transformation over the course of

776
00:44:15,320 --> 00:44:17,040
Speaker 2: forty days, but you can do it over however many

777
00:44:17,080 --> 00:44:20,960
Speaker 2: days you want. But it's a full online course showing

778
00:44:21,000 --> 00:44:23,400
Speaker 2: you the how of self love in the way that

779
00:44:23,520 --> 00:44:24,240
Speaker 2: I've learned.

780
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Speaker 1: And so you have a bit of a different approach

781
00:44:27,400 --> 00:44:31,239
Speaker 1: with self love. It's less about doing, which is what

782
00:44:31,280 --> 00:44:33,760
Speaker 1: many other people teach, and it's more about a way

783
00:44:34,000 --> 00:44:37,520
Speaker 1: of being. So why do you think self love is

784
00:44:37,560 --> 00:44:41,560
Speaker 1: really important? For us, for our souls, and why do

785
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Speaker 1: you approach it differently?

786
00:44:44,400 --> 00:44:47,560
Speaker 2: So I really believe it's our soul's journey to come

787
00:44:47,600 --> 00:44:51,279
Speaker 2: back home to ourselves. Each and every person. Somewhere, some

788
00:44:51,440 --> 00:44:54,560
Speaker 2: way along the line of us growing up, we've decided

789
00:44:54,600 --> 00:44:58,880
Speaker 2: that there's parts of ourselves that are unlovable, not wanted, shameful,

790
00:44:59,400 --> 00:45:02,880
Speaker 2: and we push them away and that's why we feel

791
00:45:02,960 --> 00:45:06,439
Speaker 2: so we don't feel our best because it's like all

792
00:45:06,480 --> 00:45:09,560
Speaker 2: of me is not lovable, only parts of me, And

793
00:45:09,600 --> 00:45:12,680
Speaker 2: how crappy does that feel? And really it's about, instead

794
00:45:12,680 --> 00:45:15,160
Speaker 2: of also trying to get love externally, that we come

795
00:45:15,200 --> 00:45:17,279
Speaker 2: home to us and go, I'm going to love you.

796
00:45:17,400 --> 00:45:20,080
Speaker 2: I'm going to reparent or be the loving parent to

797
00:45:20,160 --> 00:45:22,520
Speaker 2: me that maybe I never had or that I needed

798
00:45:22,520 --> 00:45:28,040
Speaker 2: the most, and starting to really learn to be loving

799
00:45:28,040 --> 00:45:32,120
Speaker 2: with ourselves, which is retraining us from what maybe we

800
00:45:32,239 --> 00:45:36,920
Speaker 2: experience when we are younger. And once we do and

801
00:45:36,960 --> 00:45:41,399
Speaker 2: we have a better relationship with ourselves, everything else opens up.

802
00:45:41,480 --> 00:45:44,400
Speaker 2: Because when you are your own worst enemy, when you

803
00:45:44,440 --> 00:45:49,040
Speaker 2: are the harshest self judger, critic, self doubter, or self

804
00:45:49,080 --> 00:45:53,600
Speaker 2: beater of yourself, there's no way to feel good. It

805
00:45:53,640 --> 00:45:56,879
Speaker 2: doesn't matter if you find some external strategy. That's why

806
00:45:56,840 --> 00:45:59,080
Speaker 2: I also too when people think it's like money rate,

807
00:45:59,160 --> 00:46:01,319
Speaker 2: I'm going to are going to better when I have money,

808
00:46:01,320 --> 00:46:03,719
Speaker 2: And then you talk to all these wealthy people and

809
00:46:03,719 --> 00:46:07,399
Speaker 2: they have all this money, but they still feel so terrible. Well,

810
00:46:07,400 --> 00:46:11,799
Speaker 2: it's because of this relationship with themselves has nothing to

811
00:46:11,800 --> 00:46:15,920
Speaker 2: do with external it's how they treat themselves. And so

812
00:46:16,880 --> 00:46:21,880
Speaker 2: when your relationship with yourself is whole again, yeah again,

813
00:46:21,960 --> 00:46:25,040
Speaker 2: everything opens up. You start to take bigger risks, you

814
00:46:25,120 --> 00:46:28,080
Speaker 2: start to love more, you feel, and you actually really

815
00:46:28,120 --> 00:46:31,120
Speaker 2: start to attract in everything that you desire with ease.

816
00:46:31,600 --> 00:46:34,239
Speaker 2: And so my approach to self love. A lot of

817
00:46:34,239 --> 00:46:36,600
Speaker 2: people talk about self love as a doing right. You

818
00:46:36,640 --> 00:46:39,080
Speaker 2: see all these articles and things of like I took

819
00:46:39,120 --> 00:46:41,840
Speaker 2: myself out for a massage, or I'm taking care of

820
00:46:41,920 --> 00:46:45,600
Speaker 2: my health and I'm eating better, or bubble bath or

821
00:46:45,640 --> 00:46:50,520
Speaker 2: flowers or walk on the beach, and that is all wonderful. Yeah. However,

822
00:46:50,680 --> 00:46:53,480
Speaker 2: for me, it's more of a way of being with yourself,

823
00:46:53,560 --> 00:46:56,120
Speaker 2: meaning how do I treat myself? Right? Am I being?

824
00:46:56,880 --> 00:46:59,640
Speaker 2: And then in my course I talk about eight different

825
00:46:59,680 --> 00:47:03,440
Speaker 2: ways of being, and the ways of being are self accepting,

826
00:47:04,160 --> 00:47:08,319
Speaker 2: you know, are you being accepting yourself or judgmental self compassion?

827
00:47:08,520 --> 00:47:10,759
Speaker 2: Are you being compassionate with yourself when you screw up

828
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Speaker 2: or when things are hard? Or do you beat yourself

829
00:47:12,680 --> 00:47:16,600
Speaker 2: up and you're your worst critic self forgiveness? Do you

830
00:47:16,680 --> 00:47:19,840
Speaker 2: let things go or do you continue to flog yourself

831
00:47:19,880 --> 00:47:23,560
Speaker 2: and make yourself wrong for things and hold like grudges

832
00:47:23,600 --> 00:47:27,120
Speaker 2: against yourself, you know, or even for other people a

833
00:47:27,160 --> 00:47:30,680
Speaker 2: form of self harm when we won't forgive another person

834
00:47:30,719 --> 00:47:33,120
Speaker 2: for harming us because we're the ones that hold the

835
00:47:33,160 --> 00:47:37,840
Speaker 2: anger or resentment. And then there's self appreciation, like really

836
00:47:38,200 --> 00:47:42,040
Speaker 2: celebrating and appreciating who we are and valuing ourselves. There's

837
00:47:42,040 --> 00:47:46,640
Speaker 2: self respect, self trust, self permission, and then receiving, which

838
00:47:47,000 --> 00:47:48,640
Speaker 2: so many women I work with are like, that's the

839
00:47:48,680 --> 00:47:52,400
Speaker 2: hardest one. But yeah, those are all the different ways

840
00:47:52,400 --> 00:47:55,799
Speaker 2: of being with yourself that when you can master even

841
00:47:55,920 --> 00:47:59,080
Speaker 2: just one of them, your whole life will start to change.

842
00:48:01,080 --> 00:48:06,200
Speaker 1: That's amazing. And so what advice would you have for

843
00:48:06,280 --> 00:48:09,640
Speaker 1: someone who's really struggling to be kind to themselves at

844
00:48:09,640 --> 00:48:12,360
Speaker 1: the moment. So obviously, I know you have your program

845
00:48:12,560 --> 00:48:15,600
Speaker 1: and you talk about those seven ways of being, but

846
00:48:16,160 --> 00:48:18,799
Speaker 1: this podcast all is all about actionable tools that we

847
00:48:18,840 --> 00:48:21,640
Speaker 1: can give the audience right now, just you know, one

848
00:48:21,680 --> 00:48:24,040
Speaker 1: piece of advice that you would give someone who's really

849
00:48:24,040 --> 00:48:25,920
Speaker 1: struggling to be kind to themselves.

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Speaker 2: Oh, I love this. I'm happy to show one that

851
00:48:29,080 --> 00:48:33,600
Speaker 2: I use myself not as much anymore. But I was

852
00:48:33,640 --> 00:48:35,759
Speaker 2: like on point all the time, all day long doing

853
00:48:35,760 --> 00:48:38,719
Speaker 2: this because I self compassion was a really tough one

854
00:48:38,719 --> 00:48:43,080
Speaker 2: for me. Yeah. Again, I don't blame it, but coming

855
00:48:43,080 --> 00:48:45,600
Speaker 2: from the Chinese culture, it's very tough, very hard on you.

856
00:48:45,640 --> 00:48:49,560
Speaker 2: And so I was that to myself a lot, continue

857
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Speaker 2: on the voice of my parents, and so self compassion

858
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Speaker 2: was tough. And so you said, what can people do

859
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Speaker 2: if they're hard on themselves? This is one practice that

860
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Speaker 2: can change the game if you continuously do it, because

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Speaker 2: I know is said, I do it barely now. But

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Speaker 2: the moment again you don't feel good, that's a signal

863
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Speaker 2: to you to pay attention, right, and then you notice, oh,

864
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Speaker 2: I'm being really hard on myself. What you do is

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Speaker 2: immediately put your hands in your heart because it's like

866
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Speaker 2: a physical pattern interrupt right, It's like you're telling yourself, like,

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Speaker 2: I'm going to do something different. So I usually put

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Speaker 2: my hands on my heart and I start to breathe.

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Speaker 2: I'll do a box breath so inhale four, hold for four,

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Speaker 2: ex hel four, hold for four, and I'll do that

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Speaker 2: three times. But if I'm still feeling anxious or upset,

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Speaker 2: I'll do it until I've calmed my nervous system. And

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Speaker 2: then once i feel calm, then start to validate myself

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Speaker 2: or whoever's listening. Validate yourself, tell yourself what you actually

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Speaker 2: need to hear. Right, It's okay that you messed up.

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Speaker 2: It's not a big deal, girl, You're still good. You

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Speaker 2: got this. I still love you, nobody hates you. You

878
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Speaker 2: can absolutely take on and have whatever it is that

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Speaker 2: you want. And so that's like the big key is again,

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Speaker 2: the moment you notice you're being your own worst critic,

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Speaker 2: put your hands in your heart, breathe, and when you've

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Speaker 2: calmed down, start to validate yourself and say the exact

883
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Speaker 2: words that you actually need to hear, like your best

884
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Speaker 2: friend would tell you, or you would tell your best

885
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Speaker 2: friend if she was struggling with the very same thing.

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Speaker 1: That's beautiful, And so if you didn't necessarily believe it yourself,

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Speaker 1: do you kind of just keep saying it until you

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Speaker 1: believe it, or yeah.

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Speaker 2: Well you just say so. The thing is the reason

890
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Speaker 2: why you want to slow your breath, right, is you're

891
00:50:43,520 --> 00:50:47,080
Speaker 2: actually calming yourself so you're more receptive to other things.

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Speaker 2: And if it's hard for you to believe, yeah, just

893
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Speaker 2: say it anyway. Yeah do you know what? Yeah, you

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Speaker 2: just I mean, that's what I do. Just got to

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Speaker 2: say it.

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Speaker 1: And I do something similar, and that's like the first

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Speaker 1: time I kind of say it to myself. It's almost

898
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Speaker 1: like I have this inner critic who goes like, this

899
00:51:06,239 --> 00:51:08,480
Speaker 1: is stupid. What are you doing? You don't actually believe this,

900
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Speaker 1: But then like I've got to keep doing it, and

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Speaker 1: then by like the second or third one, it like

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Speaker 1: settles in. It's probably the whole what you said about

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Speaker 1: being calm, and then it feels better.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, because some people try to go from one thought,

905
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Speaker 2: like at the fear based thought to the empowering thought,

906
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Speaker 2: and that's when it doesn't work, right, when you're like

907
00:51:27,680 --> 00:51:29,960
Speaker 2: that's not successory, Like it's okay, it's okay, I'm good enough,

908
00:51:29,960 --> 00:51:32,640
Speaker 2: I'm stronger, and it's like, no, you're not. You got

909
00:51:32,640 --> 00:51:36,680
Speaker 2: to calm your nervous system so you're actually receptive to

910
00:51:36,840 --> 00:51:41,480
Speaker 2: another thought. So that's why I do that to like

911
00:51:41,520 --> 00:51:43,840
Speaker 2: get in your body. That's another thing I work a

912
00:51:43,920 --> 00:51:47,160
Speaker 2: lot with is the physical body. Yeah, because that's where

913
00:51:47,160 --> 00:51:47,960
Speaker 2: you're subconscious.

914
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Speaker 1: Is thank you so much for sharing that. You just

915
00:51:51,719 --> 00:51:55,920
Speaker 1: have so much good wisdom and I really appreciate you

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Speaker 1: sharing it. With the Rise and Conquer audience. To finish

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Speaker 1: off the interview, something I want to ask you, and

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Speaker 1: this is a new thing I'm doing with my interesting

919
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Speaker 1: people who I speak to, I wanted to ask you

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Speaker 1: if you have a recommendation for the audience about like

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00:52:14,600 --> 00:52:19,000
Speaker 1: it can literally be anything if you are reading, watching,

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Speaker 1: or listening to anything. I personally just like love recommendations.

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Speaker 1: So do you have anything for us?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? So I have so many, Georgie, which one do

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00:52:29,200 --> 00:52:29,680
Speaker 2: I pick?

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Speaker 1: Last one? Spany?

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Speaker 2: All right? So one of the ones I used to

928
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Speaker 2: actually buy this book and I would give them to

929
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Speaker 2: people as gifts is The Untethered Soul by Michael A. Singer.

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Speaker 1: I haven't read it. I think i've heard of it.

931
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Speaker 1: What sort of looked like little insight about what it's about.

932
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Speaker 2: If you're new to personal development, right or it's hard

933
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Speaker 2: for you to understand your thoughts or to control them.

934
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Speaker 2: Michael a singer. He what I love that he does

935
00:52:57,440 --> 00:53:02,000
Speaker 2: with this book is he logically steps you through where

936
00:53:02,080 --> 00:53:05,200
Speaker 2: these negative thoughts are coming from and how to start

937
00:53:05,239 --> 00:53:09,520
Speaker 2: to work with them in a loving way. And it's

938
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Speaker 2: such a profound book that it's one that I read

939
00:53:12,960 --> 00:53:16,440
Speaker 2: over and over again. But it really walks you through

940
00:53:16,520 --> 00:53:19,400
Speaker 2: your relationship with your thoughts and your emotions, and it

941
00:53:19,440 --> 00:53:22,279
Speaker 2: starts to have you see and uncover the source and

942
00:53:22,280 --> 00:53:25,680
Speaker 2: fluctuations of your inner energy so that you can start

943
00:53:25,680 --> 00:53:27,600
Speaker 2: to be more in control of them and to free

944
00:53:27,640 --> 00:53:31,840
Speaker 2: yourself from the habituated thoughts and emotions and energy patterns

945
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Speaker 2: that usually will limit your consciousness.

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Speaker 1: Amazing. I will have to put that on my book list.

947
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Speaker 1: I'm a big audible fan, so I'm hoping it's on that.

948
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Speaker 2: It should Actually that one really should be, but the

949
00:53:47,880 --> 00:53:49,839
Speaker 2: other one because I'm a cheater, and I'm telling you,

950
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Speaker 2: I'm actually reading The Body Keeps a Score right now.

951
00:53:54,520 --> 00:53:58,240
Speaker 2: And it's a lot about trauma and how it gets

952
00:53:58,320 --> 00:54:00,560
Speaker 2: stored in your body. So sometimes when people are like,

953
00:54:00,600 --> 00:54:02,239
Speaker 2: why is it that I have this pain on my

954
00:54:02,360 --> 00:54:04,279
Speaker 2: side or why is it that I have this weird

955
00:54:04,320 --> 00:54:07,480
Speaker 2: skin rash, they really start to show you how the

956
00:54:07,520 --> 00:54:11,120
Speaker 2: body starts to communicate with you based off the unhealed

957
00:54:11,160 --> 00:54:12,480
Speaker 2: trauma so that you can heal it.

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Speaker 1: Amazing, so interesting. Well, thank you so much Stephanie for

959
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Speaker 1: coming on the show. I really appreciate it. I've loved

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Speaker 1: this interview and hopefully speak to you again soon.

961
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Speaker 2: I would love that. Thank you so much, Georgie. It

962
00:54:27,800 --> 00:54:30,640
Speaker 2: was such a pleasure and so wonderful to be on

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Speaker 2: your show.

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Speaker 1: Amazing. Oh wait, I'm so sorry. Before we go, can

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Speaker 1: you tell the audience where they can find you? Obviously

966
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Speaker 1: I will put all these links in the show notes. Guys.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you can check me out on my website Stephanie

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Speaker 2: Quang dot com. And I like to hang out a

969
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Speaker 2: lot on Instagram. I usually always DM people back, but

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Speaker 2: it's my handle is at. I am Stephanie Kuang.

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Speaker 1: Amazing, Thank you at Stephanie, thank you, thanks so much

972
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Speaker 1: for listening into this week's episode. If you love to

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Speaker 1: Rise and Conquer and you're craving more community, I have

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Speaker 1: I decided to create this community for like minded women

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981
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982
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983
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Speaker 1: this is a total independent podcast, so any sort of

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Speaker 1: at Georgie Stevenson. I hope you have an amazing day

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Speaker 1: or night whenever you're listening. Buy for now and talk

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Speaker 1: to you soon.