WEBVTT - MINI! What would you do if you partner got a SECRET Vasectomy 😲

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<v Speaker 1>Ask Uncut.

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<v Speaker 2>So ask Uncut is something that we do on Life

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<v Speaker 2>on Cut podcast every week and it's where we answer

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<v Speaker 2>a listener question and I think we have the spiciest, biggest,

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<v Speaker 2>like wildest question that we've ever received. Maddie has sent

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<v Speaker 2>this in.

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<v Speaker 3>Hey Britt, Laura and mittch I haven't asked uncut for you.

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<v Speaker 3>My husband and I have been married for five years.

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<v Speaker 3>We have a beautiful daughter and she's three. We always

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<v Speaker 3>talked about having more kids, but life got in the

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<v Speaker 3>way and we haven't gotten around to it yet. But

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<v Speaker 3>I just found out that he had a proseectomy, a

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<v Speaker 3>secret for sectomy that I didn't I didn't know about. Furious,

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know what to do. I don't have the words,

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<v Speaker 3>and I need to help.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh that has to be I have chills. The ultimate

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<v Speaker 1>betrayal ride. Like that's like there's life changing. You can't

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<v Speaker 1>just do that without it, not even without a discussion.

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<v Speaker 1>But you know, partner is leaning one way to have kids,

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<v Speaker 1>So it's not even like secrecy in lying, but it's

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<v Speaker 1>it is taking something from her that he's so precious.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I also think, like I think about this as

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<v Speaker 2>a mum, and like, how would my reaction be if

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<v Speaker 2>Mattie Jay my husband, was to do the same thing. Now,

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<v Speaker 2>my feeling is is that it almost is a reflection

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<v Speaker 2>of how this is how I would interpret it. It's

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<v Speaker 2>almost a reflection of how he feels about being a dad.

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<v Speaker 2>Like they've had one kid and he's gone and gotten

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<v Speaker 2>a secret vasectomy because he clearly doesn't want to have

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<v Speaker 2>any more children, which but that's okay. Yeah, But to me,

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<v Speaker 2>that makes me think he's not enjoying being a dad.

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<v Speaker 2>It's not if they spoke about having more kids. If

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<v Speaker 2>they spoke about always having two and he's gone, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>tapping out at one.

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<v Speaker 1>But I don't think that, And I actually think it's

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<v Speaker 1>okay to I think it's okay for him to be like,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want more kids. I also don't think it's

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<v Speaker 1>a reflection that he doesn't like being a parent, like

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<v Speaker 1>that's a big call. He might love being a parent,

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<v Speaker 1>but no, he just wants one. That's not the problem.

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<v Speaker 1>The problem is him, the betrayal and the secrecy in

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<v Speaker 1>the line. And they're going to change, like, yes, you

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<v Speaker 1>can get a you can reverse of vyseectomy. But I

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<v Speaker 1>don't think it's always no.

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<v Speaker 2>But I guess what I'm saying is is if they

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<v Speaker 2>went into the conversation of marriage or whatever having the

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<v Speaker 2>idea that they were going to have two children, Like

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<v Speaker 2>if that was the decision.

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<v Speaker 4>Prior and she says that they've discussed and he.

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<v Speaker 2>Changed his mind that no, he's tapping out at one.

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<v Speaker 2>I do think that that is a reflection of how

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<v Speaker 2>he views parenting. Maybe maybe it's not what he expected.

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe he doesn't feel the way he thought he would.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, but I still think that's okay. So that's not

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<v Speaker 1>the part that bothers me, Like people change their mind

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<v Speaker 1>all the time. That's the part, Like I think totally

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<v Speaker 1>that's that's okay. That for me not the problem. The

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<v Speaker 1>problem is the whole going to get the secret snap.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know if I I don't know if I

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<v Speaker 2>could stay with him. I mean, how do you even

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<v Speaker 2>make a decision because you've got this beautiful family. He's

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<v Speaker 2>probably a great dad, but the betrayal I think would

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<v Speaker 2>eat away Maybe if I wanted to have more children,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know if I'd be able to overcome this.

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<v Speaker 1>What I mean, Like, you're in a relationship, Mitch, you're

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<v Speaker 1>a man, you have penis.

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<v Speaker 4>I do yes, what great?

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<v Speaker 1>What what's your opinion on this?

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<v Speaker 4>Well, I mean, I'm not exactly in a relationship where

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<v Speaker 4>I could get pregnant at any moment, and at exactly

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<v Speaker 4>it's a matter with my boyfriend of four years.

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<v Speaker 1>You're in a same sex relationship.

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<v Speaker 4>Yes, we discussed it because if I want to have

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<v Speaker 4>a kid, I still need to have a sperm. We

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<v Speaker 4>go back an embryo. Oh, it would one hundred percent

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<v Speaker 4>be a discussion. And I don't know if I agree.

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<v Speaker 4>I feel like, if you if parenting wasn't for you

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<v Speaker 4>and you were freaking out, you're not going to run

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<v Speaker 4>off in the dark of night and just go get

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<v Speaker 4>a vseect.

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<v Speaker 2>To me sure, And I think like it's it's like

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<v Speaker 2>you said at the very beginning, Brick, it's the betrayal,

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<v Speaker 2>it's the lack of conversation, and I feel like it's

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<v Speaker 2>a bit of entrapment for the wife in this situation.

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<v Speaker 2>She has no options now because her options have been

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<v Speaker 2>taken away from her, and that's not fair either.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think i'd divorce, but I don't I wouldn't

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<v Speaker 1>trust my partner again, and that could be the start

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<v Speaker 1>the little seeds that have been planted for a divorce

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<v Speaker 1>letter in the sh because if there's no trust there anymore,

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<v Speaker 1>that's going to fester and be a huge issue.

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<v Speaker 2>So it's the relationships.

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<v Speaker 1>So guys, if you guys want to sect me, talk

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<v Speaker 1>to your partner. Don't go and do a sick don't

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<v Speaker 1>do a secret men's club like fight club. You don't

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<v Speaker 1>talk about it.

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