Speaker 1: Ask Uncut.
Speaker 2: So ask Uncut is something that we do on Life
Speaker 2: on Cut podcast every week and it's where we answer
Speaker 2: a listener question and I think we have the spiciest, biggest,
Speaker 2: like wildest question that we've ever received. Maddie has sent
Speaker 2: this in.
Speaker 3: Hey Britt, Laura and mittch I haven't asked uncut for you.
Speaker 3: My husband and I have been married for five years.
Speaker 3: We have a beautiful daughter and she's three. We always
Speaker 3: talked about having more kids, but life got in the
Speaker 3: way and we haven't gotten around to it yet. But
Speaker 3: I just found out that he had a proseectomy, a
Speaker 3: secret for sectomy that I didn't I didn't know about. Furious,
Speaker 3: I don't know what to do. I don't have the words,
Speaker 3: and I need to help.
Speaker 1: Oh that has to be I have chills. The ultimate
Speaker 1: betrayal ride. Like that's like there's life changing. You can't
Speaker 1: just do that without it, not even without a discussion.
Speaker 1: But you know, partner is leaning one way to have kids,
Speaker 1: So it's not even like secrecy in lying, but it's
Speaker 1: it is taking something from her that he's so precious.
Speaker 2: Well, I also think, like I think about this as
Speaker 2: a mum, and like, how would my reaction be if
Speaker 2: Mattie Jay my husband, was to do the same thing. Now,
Speaker 2: my feeling is is that it almost is a reflection
Speaker 2: of how this is how I would interpret it. It's
Speaker 2: almost a reflection of how he feels about being a dad.
Speaker 2: Like they've had one kid and he's gone and gotten
Speaker 2: a secret vasectomy because he clearly doesn't want to have
Speaker 2: any more children, which but that's okay. Yeah, But to me,
Speaker 2: that makes me think he's not enjoying being a dad.
Speaker 2: It's not if they spoke about having more kids. If
Speaker 2: they spoke about always having two and he's gone, I'm
Speaker 2: tapping out at one.
Speaker 1: But I don't think that, And I actually think it's
Speaker 1: okay to I think it's okay for him to be like,
Speaker 1: I don't want more kids. I also don't think it's
Speaker 1: a reflection that he doesn't like being a parent, like
Speaker 1: that's a big call. He might love being a parent,
Speaker 1: but no, he just wants one. That's not the problem.
Speaker 1: The problem is him, the betrayal and the secrecy in
Speaker 1: the line. And they're going to change, like, yes, you
Speaker 1: can get a you can reverse of vyseectomy. But I
Speaker 1: don't think it's always no.
Speaker 2: But I guess what I'm saying is is if they
Speaker 2: went into the conversation of marriage or whatever having the
Speaker 2: idea that they were going to have two children, Like
Speaker 2: if that was the decision.
Speaker 4: Prior and she says that they've discussed and he.
Speaker 2: Changed his mind that no, he's tapping out at one.
Speaker 2: I do think that that is a reflection of how
Speaker 2: he views parenting. Maybe maybe it's not what he expected.
Speaker 2: Maybe he doesn't feel the way he thought he would.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but I still think that's okay. So that's not
Speaker 1: the part that bothers me, Like people change their mind
Speaker 1: all the time. That's the part, Like I think totally
Speaker 1: that's that's okay. That for me not the problem. The
Speaker 1: problem is the whole going to get the secret snap.
Speaker 2: I don't know if I I don't know if I
Speaker 2: could stay with him. I mean, how do you even
Speaker 2: make a decision because you've got this beautiful family. He's
Speaker 2: probably a great dad, but the betrayal I think would
Speaker 2: eat away Maybe if I wanted to have more children,
Speaker 2: I don't know if I'd be able to overcome this.
Speaker 1: What I mean, Like, you're in a relationship, Mitch, you're
Speaker 1: a man, you have penis.
Speaker 4: I do yes, what great?
Speaker 1: What what's your opinion on this?
Speaker 4: Well, I mean, I'm not exactly in a relationship where
Speaker 4: I could get pregnant at any moment, and at exactly
Speaker 4: it's a matter with my boyfriend of four years.
Speaker 1: You're in a same sex relationship.
Speaker 4: Yes, we discussed it because if I want to have
Speaker 4: a kid, I still need to have a sperm. We
Speaker 4: go back an embryo. Oh, it would one hundred percent
Speaker 4: be a discussion. And I don't know if I agree.
Speaker 4: I feel like, if you if parenting wasn't for you
Speaker 4: and you were freaking out, you're not going to run
Speaker 4: off in the dark of night and just go get
Speaker 4: a vseect.
Speaker 2: To me sure, And I think like it's it's like
Speaker 2: you said at the very beginning, Brick, it's the betrayal,
Speaker 2: it's the lack of conversation, and I feel like it's
Speaker 2: a bit of entrapment for the wife in this situation.
Speaker 2: She has no options now because her options have been
Speaker 2: taken away from her, and that's not fair either.
Speaker 1: I don't think i'd divorce, but I don't I wouldn't
Speaker 1: trust my partner again, and that could be the start
Speaker 1: the little seeds that have been planted for a divorce
Speaker 1: letter in the sh because if there's no trust there anymore,
Speaker 1: that's going to fester and be a huge issue.
Speaker 2: So it's the relationships.
Speaker 1: So guys, if you guys want to sect me, talk
Speaker 1: to your partner. Don't go and do a sick don't
Speaker 1: do a secret men's club like fight club. You don't
Speaker 1: talk about it.
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