1 00:00:00,320 --> 00:00:03,240 Speaker 1: Jersey and Amanda jam Nation. 2 00:00:03,480 --> 00:00:06,080 Speaker 2: Double A Chattery drops today. This is the podcast that 3 00:00:06,120 --> 00:00:08,680 Speaker 2: you do your side hustle, you do with your friend 4 00:00:08,680 --> 00:00:10,639 Speaker 2: and Edna McGregor. I don't have any beef with this 5 00:00:10,760 --> 00:00:13,160 Speaker 2: because Aninna McGregor is a substantial woman. 6 00:00:13,600 --> 00:00:15,800 Speaker 1: Do you have any beef Wellington with this? 7 00:00:16,360 --> 00:00:19,759 Speaker 2: She has more credentials than this whole room put together. True, 8 00:00:19,880 --> 00:00:24,560 Speaker 2: and today's Double a Chattery podcast is something that revolves 9 00:00:24,560 --> 00:00:26,960 Speaker 2: around your good friend Melanie and her daughter. 10 00:00:27,320 --> 00:00:29,120 Speaker 1: That's right now. Melanie and I have known each other 11 00:00:29,200 --> 00:00:31,400 Speaker 1: since we were sixteen years old. We fell in love 12 00:00:31,400 --> 00:00:34,680 Speaker 1: with Barry Manilow together. We both agreed we could share him, 13 00:00:34,960 --> 00:00:36,800 Speaker 1: and we still think that that could be a pact. 14 00:00:37,479 --> 00:00:39,720 Speaker 1: So we've gone to the We've gone to the States 15 00:00:39,760 --> 00:00:43,200 Speaker 1: together to see him perform. Our friendship has superseded Barry 16 00:00:43,240 --> 00:00:47,560 Speaker 1: by gazillion years, and so we still joined at the 17 00:00:47,600 --> 00:00:49,320 Speaker 1: hip for two of us. I was talking to her 18 00:00:49,360 --> 00:00:51,880 Speaker 1: over New Year. Everything was fine. She's got a daughter, 19 00:00:51,960 --> 00:00:54,480 Speaker 1: Jess who's thirty one, another one who's twenty eight. Amy. 20 00:00:54,640 --> 00:00:57,880 Speaker 1: We're chatting how the girls. Everyone's fine. Then two days later, 21 00:00:57,960 --> 00:01:01,800 Speaker 1: Melanie's life and Jess's life particular spun on ahead of 22 00:01:01,800 --> 00:01:06,480 Speaker 1: a pin Jess went to work, was having a normal day, 23 00:01:06,640 --> 00:01:07,560 Speaker 1: and then this happened. 24 00:01:07,800 --> 00:01:10,560 Speaker 3: Absolutely. I went to work that day, but before I 25 00:01:10,600 --> 00:01:12,839 Speaker 3: went to work, I went and did a routine blood test. 26 00:01:13,440 --> 00:01:16,080 Speaker 3: Went to work, did a full late hours, got a 27 00:01:16,080 --> 00:01:20,200 Speaker 3: call from the medical center at like three pm being like, 28 00:01:20,200 --> 00:01:22,360 Speaker 3: you need to get to an emergency immediately. You're in 29 00:01:22,400 --> 00:01:25,679 Speaker 3: renal failure. You're severely anemic. What hospital are you going to? 30 00:01:25,720 --> 00:01:26,160 Speaker 1: It was. 31 00:01:27,280 --> 00:01:31,120 Speaker 3: I was just incomplete shock, didn't know how to process 32 00:01:31,160 --> 00:01:33,800 Speaker 3: the information. Called mom and dad straight away and I 33 00:01:33,840 --> 00:01:37,039 Speaker 3: was like, surely this isn't right. Sent them the bloods 34 00:01:37,080 --> 00:01:41,560 Speaker 3: and Dad was like, looking a little colorful, Let's just 35 00:01:41,600 --> 00:01:44,560 Speaker 3: go to an emergency and see what's happening. And then 36 00:01:44,600 --> 00:01:47,240 Speaker 3: it was zero to one thousand within the space of 37 00:01:47,280 --> 00:01:48,920 Speaker 3: about three hours. Wow. 38 00:01:49,040 --> 00:01:51,000 Speaker 1: And if she hadn't had a blood test that day, 39 00:01:51,080 --> 00:01:53,280 Speaker 1: as she said she would have, I think the expression 40 00:01:53,320 --> 00:01:55,320 Speaker 1: is stroked out. She would have had a stroke and 41 00:01:55,360 --> 00:01:57,800 Speaker 1: passed away within days. And she's been living overseas, she's 42 00:01:57,840 --> 00:02:00,440 Speaker 1: been doing all of this. She had just moved home 43 00:02:00,640 --> 00:02:02,640 Speaker 1: to save some money to buy a place. This thirty 44 00:02:02,760 --> 00:02:07,840 Speaker 1: one year old independent girl. Suddenly she knows that this 45 00:02:08,000 --> 00:02:13,160 Speaker 1: renal failure equals dialysis equals transplant. She knew, and in 46 00:02:13,200 --> 00:02:16,600 Speaker 1: the space of a week she was on dialysis. And 47 00:02:17,080 --> 00:02:20,920 Speaker 1: for Melanie, who is as Melanie says, she's a fixer 48 00:02:21,560 --> 00:02:25,480 Speaker 1: and Jess is too. They're these a type women, and 49 00:02:25,520 --> 00:02:27,480 Speaker 1: I'm the same. That's why I find out IVF so hard. 50 00:02:27,520 --> 00:02:29,959 Speaker 1: If you can't control stuff, can't control the timing of things, 51 00:02:30,040 --> 00:02:33,799 Speaker 1: it drives you crazy. And so I asked mel how 52 00:02:33,880 --> 00:02:35,400 Speaker 1: she felt in the midst of all of this. 53 00:02:35,960 --> 00:02:39,360 Speaker 4: I think it's the fight or flight mode, you know, 54 00:02:39,440 --> 00:02:42,280 Speaker 4: that you go into. And so we just sort of said, well, okay, 55 00:02:43,680 --> 00:02:46,000 Speaker 4: whenever there's a I mean, you know me, I'm a fixer, 56 00:02:46,120 --> 00:02:48,600 Speaker 4: you are, so if something goes wrong, we just fix 57 00:02:48,639 --> 00:02:50,639 Speaker 4: it and you move on, right, So I just went 58 00:02:50,680 --> 00:02:52,520 Speaker 4: into I'm in fixed mode. 59 00:02:52,360 --> 00:02:56,280 Speaker 1: And what could you fix nothing? 60 00:02:56,400 --> 00:02:56,960 Speaker 3: So that was. 61 00:02:58,040 --> 00:03:01,200 Speaker 4: I thought, I'll get a packet of band aids, confronting bit. 62 00:03:02,080 --> 00:03:05,160 Speaker 1: And so this is the thing Melanie from day one said, 63 00:03:05,200 --> 00:03:07,520 Speaker 1: I will be your donor. Imagine this, this is the 64 00:03:07,560 --> 00:03:10,680 Speaker 1: mother daughter relationship. She said, let me be your donor. 65 00:03:11,000 --> 00:03:13,920 Speaker 1: And she said, oh, let's have an operation tomorrow. She said, 66 00:03:13,919 --> 00:03:15,760 Speaker 1: six months ago, let's have the operation to this week, 67 00:03:16,120 --> 00:03:16,600 Speaker 1: ready to go. 68 00:03:16,720 --> 00:03:17,760 Speaker 2: Get the kitchen beach here. 69 00:03:17,800 --> 00:03:20,560 Speaker 1: I'll cut it out myself. But it's taken this long 70 00:03:20,600 --> 00:03:22,560 Speaker 1: to do all the tissue typing, to do the matching, 71 00:03:22,600 --> 00:03:24,799 Speaker 1: and the thousand hurdles of are you're going to be 72 00:03:24,840 --> 00:03:27,480 Speaker 1: a good match? Are you not? And if you're not, 73 00:03:27,919 --> 00:03:31,160 Speaker 1: then Jess stays longer on dialysis, which has implications of 74 00:03:31,200 --> 00:03:34,079 Speaker 1: its own. Well, it seems that Melanie will be the donor. 75 00:03:34,920 --> 00:03:37,400 Speaker 1: She will be her daughter's donor. They're having an operation 76 00:03:37,560 --> 00:03:41,360 Speaker 1: next month. Melanie will donate her kidney to her daughter Jess. 77 00:03:42,320 --> 00:03:45,880 Speaker 1: And from there, let's hope this is a giant upswing 78 00:03:45,960 --> 00:03:49,720 Speaker 1: that they their lives begin again. But at the moment 79 00:03:49,760 --> 00:03:55,720 Speaker 1: they're just in this this stranglehold of waiting and anxiety 80 00:03:55,960 --> 00:03:58,760 Speaker 1: and reading jess as results every day to see what 81 00:03:58,800 --> 00:04:01,040 Speaker 1: her bloods are doing. It's all over the shop, a 82 00:04:01,120 --> 00:04:05,200 Speaker 1: brilliant management team. But this is as Jess said, she 83 00:04:05,400 --> 00:04:08,680 Speaker 1: was asymptomatic, and this is the message that she wants 84 00:04:08,680 --> 00:04:09,280 Speaker 1: people to have. 85 00:04:09,720 --> 00:04:11,520 Speaker 3: I think, just stay on top of your heuse, just 86 00:04:11,560 --> 00:04:13,800 Speaker 3: be in check with yourself. If you're not feeling great, 87 00:04:13,840 --> 00:04:16,240 Speaker 3: go to the doctors or just get in the habit 88 00:04:16,320 --> 00:04:18,280 Speaker 3: like you do your skin check once a year, do 89 00:04:18,320 --> 00:04:20,320 Speaker 3: a blood test once a year. Every six months. You 90 00:04:20,360 --> 00:04:22,000 Speaker 3: do the same for the duntis, do the same for 91 00:04:22,040 --> 00:04:24,560 Speaker 3: the rest of your body. Just look after yourself like 92 00:04:24,600 --> 00:04:26,880 Speaker 3: it's not This disease isn't going to discriminate you. 93 00:04:27,440 --> 00:04:29,360 Speaker 1: And as Jess said, you know, she put she was 94 00:04:29,400 --> 00:04:31,679 Speaker 1: feeling light headed, put it down to having a heavy 95 00:04:31,720 --> 00:04:35,920 Speaker 1: period and being busy having a life. Women in particular 96 00:04:36,040 --> 00:04:39,560 Speaker 1: do this. We amalgamate what we put up with a 97 00:04:39,560 --> 00:04:40,440 Speaker 1: whole lot of symptoms. 98 00:04:40,480 --> 00:04:43,240 Speaker 2: Now Blake's Dowards do as well. That's what guys do. 99 00:04:43,440 --> 00:04:46,560 Speaker 1: Yeah, how about none of us do it? So anyway, 100 00:04:46,680 --> 00:04:49,520 Speaker 1: they Melanie and Jess spoke so openly and honestly about 101 00:04:49,520 --> 00:04:51,800 Speaker 1: what's going on with them, and we will talk to 102 00:04:51,839 --> 00:04:54,200 Speaker 1: them again after the operation. But if you'd like to 103 00:04:54,240 --> 00:04:55,680 Speaker 1: hear them chat, that's where you can find it. 104 00:04:55,760 --> 00:04:57,960 Speaker 2: Go to double a Chattery dot com. That's got all 105 00:04:58,000 --> 00:04:58,680 Speaker 2: the info there.