WEBVTT - How To Reconnect With An Ex 💔💑 0:00:00.440 --> 0:00:01.320 Flexen Frooms. 0:00:01.360 --> 0:00:05.800 I'm cater the Flex and Frooms Big Icon Energy podcast. 0:00:05.559 --> 0:00:09.000 Recorded live It's studios three oh one in Sydney. 0:00:09.480 --> 0:00:10.879 Welcome to the podcast. 0:00:10.880 --> 0:00:13.320 Look, this is a new one, friends and foes. Whoever 0:00:13.480 --> 0:00:16.800 is listening. We have a live studio audience as we're 0:00:16.840 --> 0:00:21.640 recording this podcast. Everybody say, AI captain. 0:00:22.000 --> 0:00:23.160 That came very naturally. 0:00:23.960 --> 0:00:24.520 I love it. 0:00:24.800 --> 0:00:25.880 We're in the same generation. 0:00:26.320 --> 0:00:28.120 Is you know what that reminds me of? There was 0:00:28.120 --> 0:00:31.360 some TikTok of this person sitting in the nosebleeds filming 0:00:31.360 --> 0:00:34.040 a crowd clapping on beat and they were like, oh, 0:00:34.120 --> 0:00:36.360 nothing feels more like a simulation than this, And I 0:00:36.400 --> 0:00:40.640 was like, classic audience engagement, feels like a simulation. Get 0:00:40.640 --> 0:00:43.360 offline anyway, Please continue. 0:00:43.640 --> 0:00:45.960 Today on the podcast. You're gonna hear some hooting and 0:00:46.000 --> 0:00:49.680 some hollering and some cupping and some wing with our 0:00:49.720 --> 0:00:51.240 audience powered by Bonds. 0:00:51.479 --> 0:00:52.360 I love who did that? 0:00:53.320 --> 0:00:53.520 Oh? 0:00:53.560 --> 0:00:54.040 I love it? 0:00:54.080 --> 0:00:56.040 In the front row, Welcome. What's your name? 0:00:57.000 --> 0:01:04.440 Nenley Linley like lindsay Lived. 0:01:07.520 --> 0:01:09.040 That's a bit offul name. 0:01:09.040 --> 0:01:09.679 How do you spell it? 0:01:12.280 --> 0:01:12.960 Linley? 0:01:13.160 --> 0:01:20.960 So yeah, it is a bit like lindsay yeah, yeah, you're. 0:01:20.880 --> 0:01:23.160 The substute teacher who refuses to pronounce the name correctly, 0:01:23.319 --> 0:01:25.560 like go, it's this not quite no. 0:01:26.920 --> 0:01:29.280 Anyway, We're going to be talking about energy vampires. What 0:01:29.440 --> 0:01:33.479 constitutes a energy vampire? How can you avoid them in life? 0:01:33.760 --> 0:01:34.399 And are you the. 0:01:34.360 --> 0:01:39.560 Real problem that's on that big icon energy. 0:01:39.319 --> 0:01:41.200 Green line theory? Have you heard of it? Have you not? 0:01:41.480 --> 0:01:42.360 I have paddles up. 0:01:42.360 --> 0:01:44.440 Who's heard of it? What do you guys do on 0:01:44.480 --> 0:01:46.600 the internet? This is where I'm so concerned about. I 0:01:46.640 --> 0:01:50.240 really feel like the internet, TikTok, social media is give 0:01:50.280 --> 0:01:52.760 me this illusion that I'm as close to the world 0:01:52.800 --> 0:01:56.000 as possible, Like we're all consuming the same content. It's 0:01:56.040 --> 0:01:56.600 just not true. 0:01:57.040 --> 0:02:07.080 Anybody get this tastes the biscuit, Yeah, tastes of goodness. 0:02:03.880 --> 0:02:06.800 Not our community. That's okay. So every now and then 0:02:06.840 --> 0:02:10.000 I come across a psychological phenomena which I have to 0:02:10.040 --> 0:02:14.160 ask myself. Are we pathologizing, you know, creating, or like 0:02:14.360 --> 0:02:17.200 looking at really generic human behavior and trying to assign 0:02:17.240 --> 0:02:19.440 meaning to it where there is no meaning? Or is 0:02:19.480 --> 0:02:21.720 this going to change our lives? I'm not sure, but 0:02:21.760 --> 0:02:23.920 I enjoy doing both of them. So there was this 0:02:24.120 --> 0:02:27.440 random TikTok creator and he has introduced the world to 0:02:27.440 --> 0:02:29.480 the green line theory, and what he says is that 0:02:29.520 --> 0:02:31.640 if you look at a picture of a couple or 0:02:31.639 --> 0:02:33.800 people who are romantically involved, I guess it's a couple 0:02:34.120 --> 0:02:36.720 couple who knows. Imagine there's a picture two people, a 0:02:36.760 --> 0:02:40.160 couple whoever is leaning in. Maybe they're like leaning on 0:02:40.200 --> 0:02:43.920 a shoulder, maybe they're just orienting their body. Apparently they 0:02:43.960 --> 0:02:47.840 are the less dominant person in the dynamic. They're the 0:02:47.880 --> 0:02:51.280 person who is probably more anxious, who doesn't feel as secure, 0:02:51.400 --> 0:02:54.640 who's maybe needier or whatever. And to this person, theorizes 0:02:54.680 --> 0:02:56.240 that when you're in a dynamic, you kind of want 0:02:56.240 --> 0:02:58.760 to be the person who is standing up straight. In 0:02:58.840 --> 0:03:02.000 all photos people think, Okay, well what if I'm shorter, 0:03:02.200 --> 0:03:04.360 what if they're taller? What if you know that's my 0:03:04.440 --> 0:03:07.200 good side or my bad side? Why? What about my 0:03:07.280 --> 0:03:10.079 body image is telling you that I'm not the secure 0:03:10.200 --> 0:03:12.840 or dominant party in this relationship. He goes on to 0:03:12.919 --> 0:03:15.760 express that so much of how we, you know, move 0:03:15.800 --> 0:03:19.640 and orient our bodies is subconscious, and it's learned, and 0:03:19.680 --> 0:03:22.720 it speaks before we do. It speaks before we have 0:03:22.800 --> 0:03:24.560 time to be aware of what it is that we're 0:03:24.560 --> 0:03:27.840 feeling or doing, and So if you want to analyze 0:03:27.840 --> 0:03:31.280 your own like friendships, relationships, partnerships, look at the way 0:03:31.320 --> 0:03:35.160 you orient yourself in a photo. Do I agree with this? 0:03:35.880 --> 0:03:38.880 I want to say no, only because I feel as 0:03:38.920 --> 0:03:43.720 though women, especially you're socialized to like do a lot 0:03:43.720 --> 0:03:46.440 in photos that men aren't like. I just know people 0:03:46.600 --> 0:03:50.040 awkwardly stand still if they're not comfortable in front of 0:03:50.040 --> 0:03:55.040 the camera. When did people stop doing this? It's a 0:03:55.080 --> 0:03:59.040 tilt smile. I don't think we've done I mean this, okay, okay, 0:03:59.080 --> 0:04:02.520 okay with the tilt smile. I think it's not the 0:04:02.680 --> 0:04:05.800 years that you phase it out, it's how many photos 0:04:05.800 --> 0:04:08.440 you've taken. So I think once you've taken let's say 0:04:08.440 --> 0:04:11.720 a thousand photos of yourself, you'll graduate to the next post. 0:04:12.200 --> 0:04:15.320 I think everything just like wears out eventually. So if 0:04:15.360 --> 0:04:18.159 you haven't taken heaps of photos since high school, your 0:04:18.160 --> 0:04:20.560 go to is like still the you know, the thumbs up, 0:04:20.920 --> 0:04:23.680 or like the cheeky smile, or like the forty five 0:04:23.720 --> 0:04:28.960 degree neck or something is that forty five yeah, something 0:04:29.000 --> 0:04:30.680 like that. Do you believe in the green line theory? 0:04:30.760 --> 0:04:31.279 Absolutely? 0:04:31.839 --> 0:04:32.080 What. 0:04:32.240 --> 0:04:36.120 That's one thing I can hand on heart completely agree with. 0:04:36.880 --> 0:04:38.520 Now that you know the green line theory. 0:04:39.440 --> 0:04:42.120 Go on Facebook and look at all the people that 0:04:42.160 --> 0:04:46.320 are getting engaged, that are getting married, old couples, your 0:04:46.360 --> 0:04:49.839 own photos, and you'll see it confirms the dynamic. 0:04:50.120 --> 0:04:51.520 So what are your photos saying? 0:04:52.360 --> 0:04:57.679 Oh, I'm always always alone? So oh no, well, wear's 0:04:57.680 --> 0:04:59.760 that big like on energy photo of us two? 0:05:00.160 --> 0:05:01.480 I'm pretty sure I'm leaning into you. 0:05:02.160 --> 0:05:07.920 But yeah, I definitely classic anxious word dynamic where let's 0:05:07.960 --> 0:05:09.560 we just like role playing science. 0:05:10.120 --> 0:05:11.120 I see it because I've seen it. 0:05:11.279 --> 0:05:14.039 You say about the like different posture and different sizes 0:05:14.040 --> 0:05:17.040 of people. I've definitely seen really taller people like crouched 0:05:17.080 --> 0:05:18.040 down onto their partner. 0:05:18.520 --> 0:05:22.080 Yeah, yeah, I see. I just feel like if they're 0:05:22.880 --> 0:05:25.839 all the pseudoscience to believe in the green Lion theory 0:05:25.920 --> 0:05:27.279 feels the most baseless to me. 0:05:27.880 --> 0:05:29.920 All right, let's get a quick pull. Do you believe 0:05:29.920 --> 0:05:30.960 in grain line theory? 0:05:31.680 --> 0:05:35.720 Ooh okay, flow up question. Do you believe so much 0:05:35.720 --> 0:05:38.279 in the green lion theory that you're purposely never angling 0:05:38.279 --> 0:05:41.680 yourself to your partner? Because I think that's once, you know, 0:05:42.640 --> 0:05:45.720 maybe you start orienting your body differently, but you don't 0:05:45.760 --> 0:05:47.080 behave or think differently. 0:05:47.440 --> 0:05:48.920 I'll definitely be doing that anyone else? 0:05:50.440 --> 0:06:00.000 Okay, anyway, energy vampires, do you know what they are? 0:06:00.000 --> 0:06:00.520 Oh? Yes or no? 0:06:00.920 --> 0:06:02.640 Yes? They are people that suck the energy out of 0:06:02.680 --> 0:06:04.320 a conversation and a vibe. 0:06:04.400 --> 0:06:06.960 Yes, but not just that. It's a very particular type 0:06:06.960 --> 0:06:09.320 of person. It's not to say that that is your identity. 0:06:09.360 --> 0:06:11.159 I think that everybody has it within them to just 0:06:11.200 --> 0:06:14.120 like suck the life out of a conversation, to derail it, 0:06:14.440 --> 0:06:17.560 to not be able to assess the energy in the room, 0:06:17.640 --> 0:06:20.440 or to be so unaware of how much they disrupt 0:06:20.520 --> 0:06:23.440 the energy in a room. It's very tricky because I 0:06:23.560 --> 0:06:26.360 used to think that this was like a me problem, 0:06:26.440 --> 0:06:29.640 Like if I'm observing that somebody is messing up my energy, 0:06:29.680 --> 0:06:33.200 that's a me problem. So I've got to be more charismatic, 0:06:33.279 --> 0:06:35.200 take myself out of the room, whatever it might be. 0:06:35.279 --> 0:06:39.080 But no, it's the real epidemic. So I think that 0:06:39.240 --> 0:06:42.400 energy vampires are like number one, the type of people 0:06:42.400 --> 0:06:46.560 that at one point were really gratified for making themselves 0:06:47.040 --> 0:06:49.320 making other people responsible for them. I think it's a 0:06:49.400 --> 0:06:51.320 very great skill to recognize that you don't have to 0:06:51.320 --> 0:06:53.880 do life alone, and that I am your responsibility and 0:06:53.880 --> 0:06:56.520 you're my responsibility. Right, So if I'm going through something 0:06:56.880 --> 0:07:00.120 and I express that as a community like, it's your 0:07:00.200 --> 0:07:02.800 business too. Now if I say I'm thirsty and you 0:07:02.800 --> 0:07:05.880 don't do anything about it, well that's odd. However, there's 0:07:05.880 --> 0:07:07.360 some why are you looking funny? 0:07:07.560 --> 0:07:07.800 Wait? 0:07:07.839 --> 0:07:08.200 Wait? 0:07:08.080 --> 0:07:09.600 Wait, are you a vampire in that? 0:07:09.880 --> 0:07:15.560 No, that's just community responsibility, babe. An energy vampire. Though, 0:07:15.640 --> 0:07:18.360 Think about the characteristics of a vampire. Like, we're not 0:07:18.360 --> 0:07:21.080 talking Edward Cullen, we're not talking Eric Northman, we're not 0:07:21.120 --> 0:07:27.200 talking Bill Compton. We're talking traditionally, people who come in unannounced, 0:07:27.520 --> 0:07:30.240 people who literally suck the life force out of you 0:07:30.360 --> 0:07:33.520 with no remorse. People who are quite violent in their 0:07:33.560 --> 0:07:34.480 pursuit of pleasure. 0:07:34.760 --> 0:07:34.920 Right. 0:07:35.400 --> 0:07:37.600 That's like a very hectic way to phrase it. But 0:07:37.760 --> 0:07:40.360 with everyday people, it's like those people you're kind of like, 0:07:40.400 --> 0:07:42.760 you are relentless in how much you are taking from 0:07:42.800 --> 0:07:45.480 me and you don't even realize. Like that friend who's 0:07:45.480 --> 0:07:47.880 always got a problem, always got to call you, that 0:07:47.920 --> 0:07:49.800 friend who's like, we've got to hang out only to 0:07:49.840 --> 0:07:51.680 talk about what they need to talk about, the kind 0:07:51.680 --> 0:07:53.680 of person's like, can you hold space for me? And 0:07:53.720 --> 0:07:56.400 then decides to like, you know, build a house in 0:07:56.400 --> 0:07:58.240 your heart and your mind, and you're like, okay, but 0:07:58.280 --> 0:08:01.280 what about me? And so I've been thinking realistically because 0:08:01.320 --> 0:08:04.080 I have like two people in mind that I'm thinking 0:08:04.120 --> 0:08:06.880 of as we speak, Brook and from Are they in 0:08:06.880 --> 0:08:09.920 the room? Are they in the room with us right now? 0:08:10.120 --> 0:08:12.800 You will never know? But because I used to be 0:08:12.840 --> 0:08:18.840 like very confrontational, not that I'm not confrontational now, but 0:08:18.880 --> 0:08:20.880 now I realize I'm sensitive. So I don't want to 0:08:20.920 --> 0:08:23.920 have confrontations right because just because I could doesn't mean 0:08:23.920 --> 0:08:26.480 that I want to. But now I'm like really avoidant 0:08:26.480 --> 0:08:29.320 with dealing with people. I've got someone in my messages 0:08:29.400 --> 0:08:32.240 right now who sent me this long apology apologizing for 0:08:32.280 --> 0:08:35.040 being an energy vampire. But we're like six years into 0:08:35.040 --> 0:08:37.640 a friendship. This is just who you are. So I'm like, 0:08:37.760 --> 0:08:40.640 if I respond, am I just validating the thing that 0:08:40.760 --> 0:08:44.000 energy vampires do, which is fake self awareness only to 0:08:44.080 --> 0:08:48.240 like extract more from you south the cycle again. So 0:08:48.240 --> 0:08:51.360 I'm actually quite stressed about it, in like a in 0:08:51.440 --> 0:08:53.280 like a I'm not going to do anything about it 0:08:53.320 --> 0:08:54.080 because I'm over it. 0:08:55.360 --> 0:08:58.040 I love her, you know, experience to stress and let 0:08:58.040 --> 0:08:59.800 it ride over you for me? Do you resonate, Yes, 0:08:59.840 --> 0:09:02.920 on absolutely, I do. I have a question for you 0:09:02.960 --> 0:09:05.480 first though, So you are someone who's on the internet, 0:09:05.520 --> 0:09:08.920 who's on our show cater on Selextion, Frooms on. 0:09:08.960 --> 0:09:11.800 Cata, you're talking a lot about relationships. 0:09:11.880 --> 0:09:13.760 Do you then find it sounds like this person has 0:09:13.760 --> 0:09:16.520 heard about you speak about energy vampires, or maybe they're 0:09:16.559 --> 0:09:19.480 in like the self development sphere and they obviously know 0:09:19.520 --> 0:09:21.760 you quite well, they've known you for six years. Do 0:09:21.840 --> 0:09:24.280 you ever get people like looking at your Instagram stories 0:09:24.320 --> 0:09:26.360 and then being like oh shit and checking themselves and 0:09:26.360 --> 0:09:29.079 then apologizing to you like is that a regular occurrence? 0:09:29.559 --> 0:09:33.760 Not as much as they should and like that was 0:09:33.800 --> 0:09:35.880 a cry for help. You didn't take the hit. No, 0:09:36.160 --> 0:09:39.520 I mean I think that, like, if I'm ever saying 0:09:39.559 --> 0:09:42.880 anything overwhelmingly positive, then people like that must be me, Like, 0:09:42.920 --> 0:09:46.520 I definitely resonate if it's even remotely negative, Everyone's like, 0:09:46.720 --> 0:09:49.800 that's where the other person that bypassed me and it's 0:09:49.840 --> 0:09:52.720 going straight to them. In this instance though, I think that, 0:09:52.920 --> 0:09:56.240 like I used to create a lot of space, how 0:09:56.280 --> 0:09:58.680 do I say it? As a girlie who is a 0:09:58.679 --> 0:10:01.520 big talker people, I think I like to talk. No, 0:10:02.080 --> 0:10:04.120 if I'm sitting at home in my own space. I 0:10:04.120 --> 0:10:06.280 don't want to talk. On the weekends, I don't want 0:10:06.280 --> 0:10:08.120 to talk. In my spare time, I don't want to talk. 0:10:08.320 --> 0:10:09.880 I just happen to have the skill, and I use 0:10:09.920 --> 0:10:13.000 it so often, and I've convinced myself that, like every 0:10:13.520 --> 0:10:16.560 kind of conflict in my life required a conversation to 0:10:16.600 --> 0:10:19.360 get over it. And then I talked myself into a 0:10:19.440 --> 0:10:21.439 stupor where I'm like, you could just want to hear 0:10:21.440 --> 0:10:24.040 me speak because at this point, why am I having 0:10:24.040 --> 0:10:26.720 the same conversation again and again and again? And in 0:10:26.760 --> 0:10:32.360 this instance, sometimes I wonder, like when people apologize or 0:10:32.360 --> 0:10:35.960 when people are aware of their wrongdoing, how much of 0:10:36.000 --> 0:10:38.800 this is for you to like get through this thing 0:10:38.840 --> 0:10:41.160 that you're feeling, this bird and this guilt, And how 0:10:41.240 --> 0:10:44.199 much is because you recognize that it's impacting me? Because 0:10:44.280 --> 0:10:46.800 I'm like, if you do something shady, you kind of 0:10:46.840 --> 0:10:49.200 know within the first like I don't know week or 0:10:49.240 --> 0:10:51.600 so you're like, oh, that's not great, But like I'm 0:10:51.600 --> 0:10:54.080 not gonna it's been the same thing again and again 0:10:54.120 --> 0:10:55.800 and again. I'm just like I don't know what to 0:10:55.840 --> 0:10:58.840 do with this information because I don't have the emotional 0:10:58.960 --> 0:11:01.720 energy for it. And that's the thing about energy vampire, 0:11:01.720 --> 0:11:03.719 Like you don't even realize this conversation is taking up 0:11:04.000 --> 0:11:06.200 way more of my energy than yours. It was a 0:11:06.240 --> 0:11:09.080 flippant thought for you. And now I'm sitting with it 0:11:09.120 --> 0:11:12.640 like a little energy vampire. Baby, Someone's gonna look after 0:11:12.679 --> 0:11:14.640 it otherwise I'm negligent. You know. I don't want that, 0:11:15.679 --> 0:11:18.480 But I do think that if you don't know the 0:11:18.640 --> 0:11:21.520 energy vampire, you are the energy vampire. I'm so sorry. Like, 0:11:21.920 --> 0:11:24.000 and there's something about it, like whether or not you 0:11:24.040 --> 0:11:26.720 feel like you resonate with it or not. For every 0:11:26.960 --> 0:11:31.160 one person that exists, there is an energy vampire counterpart. 0:11:31.240 --> 0:11:33.480 That's just that's just the balance of the flat shade. 0:11:33.600 --> 0:11:36.640 So like, for real, put your paddles up? Are you 0:11:36.720 --> 0:11:39.000 the energy vampire? Put up rooms this paddle? 0:11:42.320 --> 0:11:42.560 See? 0:11:42.840 --> 0:11:45.199 I love it? Do you know the energy vampire put 0:11:45.280 --> 0:11:48.640 up my paddle? See that? That's absurd to me. How 0:11:48.679 --> 0:11:50.719 we all know an energy vampire but nobody is the 0:11:50.840 --> 0:11:53.880 nfgy vampire. Do you know what I'm saying? Someone's off totally. 0:11:53.920 --> 0:11:56.160 I like that you somehow docks everyone like you think that. 0:11:58.160 --> 0:11:59.079 I knew it. 0:12:00.160 --> 0:12:00.400 I have. 0:12:00.800 --> 0:12:01.800 I wouldn't say that I've. 0:12:01.640 --> 0:12:04.520 Been called an energy vampire in the past, but something 0:12:04.520 --> 0:12:06.520 who's ocouraged me that I've actually been thinking about a 0:12:06.559 --> 0:12:09.319 lot lately. I saw this meme which is like everyone's 0:12:09.360 --> 0:12:12.240 talking about like if you just need me, like I'm 0:12:12.240 --> 0:12:14.079 here for you, Da da da, And then there's like 0:12:14.120 --> 0:12:16.960 a very certain what's it called, like demographic of people 0:12:16.960 --> 0:12:19.520 that are very much the people that say that, and 0:12:19.520 --> 0:12:21.480 then like, sorry, I just like can't hold space for 0:12:21.559 --> 0:12:22.120 you right now. 0:12:22.520 --> 0:12:24.120 That's happened to me in the past. I remember once 0:12:24.160 --> 0:12:25.040 I was going through. 0:12:25.400 --> 0:12:28.400 A little bit of a bad time and I reach 0:12:28.440 --> 0:12:30.120 out to this woman that I usually have like really 0:12:30.120 --> 0:12:31.760 good chats with she used to be a work colleague, 0:12:32.000 --> 0:12:33.720 and she literally hit me like I was at my 0:12:33.800 --> 0:12:37.760 rock bottom, like I've exhausted my options of people to 0:12:37.840 --> 0:12:40.480 talk with. It's like, look, I really like I just 0:12:40.480 --> 0:12:44.240 don't have space for you right now. And I reckon 0:12:44.320 --> 0:12:47.200 like as much as I was probably the like considered 0:12:47.200 --> 0:12:49.920 the vampire there that is a vampire energy by not 0:12:50.480 --> 0:12:53.040 giving a little a little bit of a like lifeline 0:12:53.840 --> 0:12:55.480 is vampire vibes Because I. 0:12:55.440 --> 0:12:58.560 Know you've got space. You just can't be bothering, you 0:12:58.640 --> 0:13:03.520 can't be fucked. I can say, would yeah, I feel that. 0:13:03.520 --> 0:13:05.560 Look I will, I will say in that instance, though 0:13:05.720 --> 0:13:09.839 words mean things, and you know how for example, you're 0:13:09.840 --> 0:13:11.640 not gonna hear me say if you need me, just 0:13:11.720 --> 0:13:14.360 call me, because I'm the type of person if I 0:13:14.360 --> 0:13:17.000 can sharp for you, I will. Like for me's reference 0:13:17.040 --> 0:13:20.160 on occasion, she's always so surprised in areas where I 0:13:20.240 --> 0:13:22.360 extend myself to other people. I would never do it 0:13:22.440 --> 0:13:24.400 unless I meant it so, like I will drive you 0:13:24.440 --> 0:13:27.320 home after the functional, I will let you borrow that 0:13:27.480 --> 0:13:30.800 thing if I've offered it up myself. If you ask it, 0:13:30.960 --> 0:13:34.040 chances are I'm gonna say no, only because I don't 0:13:34.040 --> 0:13:36.160 want to create a dynamic where you expect that I'll 0:13:36.200 --> 0:13:40.920 do anything for you, because realistically, when it comes time 0:13:40.960 --> 0:13:42.600 to cash in, like you said, how am I meant 0:13:42.640 --> 0:13:45.000 to know that? Like, yes, I did say that I 0:13:45.040 --> 0:13:48.240 would be there for you, but that was last spring, 0:13:48.520 --> 0:13:50.480 and that was a good time for me. We're in 0:13:50.520 --> 0:13:53.720 this spring. Things are more difficult. I don't know, it's tricky. 0:13:54.040 --> 0:13:56.720 So would you say you're more often the energy vampire than. 0:13:56.720 --> 0:14:01.119 The blood donor blood donor. 0:14:03.040 --> 0:14:04.360 Probably vampire. 0:14:05.480 --> 0:14:07.640 I talk about my problems a lot because I'm trying 0:14:07.640 --> 0:14:08.200 to work through it. 0:14:08.280 --> 0:14:09.480 But as I got older, the more. 0:14:09.360 --> 0:14:12.600 I'm realizing that, like, nothing is free, and if you're 0:14:12.640 --> 0:14:16.280 doing that to someone, they're like, it's not actually exciting for. 0:14:16.240 --> 0:14:18.560 Them to talk about your problems. Do you reckon a favor? 0:14:18.880 --> 0:14:20.400 Well, to an extent, I think if you've got like 0:14:21.320 --> 0:14:23.080 a mutual relationship where you do it, that's fine. But 0:14:23.120 --> 0:14:27.600 otherwise nope, find someone else that's vampire and do vampiring together. 0:14:28.320 --> 0:14:31.320 Yeah. Anyway, Yeah, that's on that. 0:14:35.080 --> 0:14:36.320 Now, Sexy. I wanted to tell you. 0:14:36.360 --> 0:14:38.560 Today about something that I learned yesterday. 0:14:38.200 --> 0:14:39.760 Via The Guardian. 0:14:40.240 --> 0:14:42.640 Apparently there's a thing you can do, not only in 0:14:42.680 --> 0:14:45.560 Australia but around the world where you create your very 0:14:45.640 --> 0:14:46.720 own country. 0:14:46.880 --> 0:14:50.960 How that works? No, I haven't anybody else. Oh my god, 0:14:51.040 --> 0:14:51.520 just you wait. 0:14:51.800 --> 0:14:54.920 So apparently what you can do is you can disband 0:14:54.920 --> 0:14:57.080 from the country that you're in to create your own 0:14:57.440 --> 0:14:58.240 micro nation. 0:14:59.320 --> 0:15:01.760 I don't understand. I'm like, what, Okay, let's go back 0:15:01.760 --> 0:15:04.280 to basics for a second. There. What constitutes as a country? 0:15:04.600 --> 0:15:05.880 What makes it not a suburb? 0:15:06.240 --> 0:15:07.520 Okay, let me give you an example. 0:15:07.720 --> 0:15:09.840 In nineteen ninety three, there was this guy that lived 0:15:09.880 --> 0:15:11.880 in Mossman can't remember his name, it's right. 0:15:12.160 --> 0:15:13.320 And what he wanted to. 0:15:13.280 --> 0:15:16.680 Do was he wanted to make a driveway from some 0:15:16.840 --> 0:15:19.520 other area through his house, but he need to cut 0:15:19.520 --> 0:15:23.640 through like national park. So he got it approved and 0:15:23.680 --> 0:15:25.720 then a new council came in and the council was like, 0:15:25.880 --> 0:15:29.760 you can't do that, it's deforestation or whatever. But then 0:15:29.800 --> 0:15:32.600 he's like, nah, I really want to make my driveway. 0:15:32.720 --> 0:15:35.280 He got into a stoush with the council so bad 0:15:35.320 --> 0:15:38.120 that he's like, whatever, I'm going to leave Australia create 0:15:38.200 --> 0:15:41.680 my own legal country so it can become like a 0:15:41.880 --> 0:15:44.120 diplomatic battle between countries. 0:15:44.960 --> 0:15:45.480 Did he win? 0:15:45.640 --> 0:15:45.760 No? 0:15:47.920 --> 0:15:50.080 Did it cost the council one hundred and fifty thousand 0:15:50.080 --> 0:15:56.040 dollars to be disputing or you know, defending these decisions. 0:15:56.280 --> 0:15:56.560 Yes? 0:15:56.880 --> 0:15:57.640 So how does it work? 0:15:57.680 --> 0:15:57.840 Though? 0:15:57.880 --> 0:15:59.520 Like what makes a country a country? If I wanted 0:15:59.520 --> 0:16:00.960 to make a country today, what am I doing? 0:16:01.720 --> 0:16:03.920 You have to like create a document that says that 0:16:04.000 --> 0:16:06.160 you're disbanding and then. 0:16:06.200 --> 0:16:08.240 So that means you're no longer an Australian citizen. 0:16:08.680 --> 0:16:11.040 I think you get to keep the same citizenship, but 0:16:11.080 --> 0:16:12.880 you also have your own nation and you become like 0:16:12.920 --> 0:16:15.840 a prince or a prince, a prince, so literally in 0:16:15.880 --> 0:16:18.000 this article they've like got quotes from this guy. It's 0:16:18.000 --> 0:16:21.440 like Prince Prince. I keep saying, I want to say 0:16:21.440 --> 0:16:24.600 Prince Andrew or Prince Philip. Who's another prince that's not them? 0:16:24.840 --> 0:16:26.960 Are keen? If you know? You mean? 0:16:27.200 --> 0:16:29.240 Yeah? But yeah, so would you do that? 0:16:29.600 --> 0:16:32.360 Well, you haven't told me how. I keep asking, how 0:16:32.360 --> 0:16:34.000 do you do it? What is the country? When can 0:16:34.000 --> 0:16:35.400 we get it done? You're like, so this guy must 0:16:35.400 --> 0:16:38.920 man and he said, if it's simple, I'll do it. 0:16:38.720 --> 0:16:42.880 If it's like slightly difficult, like you know, getting a 0:16:42.920 --> 0:16:45.160 new passport, I'll do it. Anything harder, I'm not doing 0:16:45.240 --> 0:16:46.000 it pretty sure. 0:16:46.000 --> 0:16:48.280 It's really easy. But do I know how to? Of 0:16:48.280 --> 0:16:48.680 course not. 0:16:48.800 --> 0:16:50.520 Something else you'll learn in this recording is that I 0:16:50.520 --> 0:16:51.440 don't believe in Google. 0:16:52.360 --> 0:16:53.520 It's purely vibes. 0:16:53.840 --> 0:16:55.840 Don't be offended if for me doesn't fact check, it's 0:16:56.040 --> 0:16:58.440 just what she's doing. Big Icon Energy. 0:16:58.640 --> 0:17:00.600 It's time for one of my favorite segment now. 0:17:00.600 --> 0:17:02.920 When Flex and I are conceptualizing our show with Kita, 0:17:03.360 --> 0:17:05.639 we were all sitting in a room with a whiteboard. 0:17:05.119 --> 0:17:06.400 Coming up with different ideas. 0:17:06.560 --> 0:17:08.960 We started with a thing called sibling rivalries where we'd 0:17:08.960 --> 0:17:11.520 pit two celebrity siblings up against each other. 0:17:11.560 --> 0:17:13.600 That lasted about a Week's. 0:17:13.119 --> 0:17:15.160 One of your ideas, though, like give it some love 0:17:15.160 --> 0:17:16.720 because you loved it at the time, and now it's 0:17:16.760 --> 0:17:18.560 just you know, it's not here anymore. 0:17:18.600 --> 0:17:20.320 Well, all I was thinking about was bart and Lisa. 0:17:20.400 --> 0:17:23.240 But you can only do that once once. You can't 0:17:23.240 --> 0:17:26.000 really rinse that anyway. This segment is called love Line, 0:17:26.080 --> 0:17:29.520 where people text in or message in to us with 0:17:29.600 --> 0:17:31.800 their love relationship problems and. 0:17:31.680 --> 0:17:32.240 We give them. 0:17:32.640 --> 0:17:36.199 I guess it is solicited advice yea, but it's certainly 0:17:36.240 --> 0:17:38.200 not that valuable in some respects. 0:17:38.320 --> 0:17:39.400 I disagree. 0:17:40.320 --> 0:17:42.640 But we have one that was sent in by one 0:17:42.640 --> 0:17:45.240 of our guests here in the recording. I believe her 0:17:45.320 --> 0:17:49.320 name is Charlotte, and we have given her a microphone. Now, Charlotte, 0:17:49.359 --> 0:17:50.439 would you mind standing up? 0:17:50.480 --> 0:17:52.320 I think you're right in the eyeline of. 0:17:52.240 --> 0:17:56.400 It, not the standing h yah, that's so Charlotte. 0:17:57.760 --> 0:18:02.200 Yay, Hi Charlotte. Look you can just launch right into it. 0:18:02.560 --> 0:18:06.479 Well, I definitely need some advice, sort of want to 0:18:06.520 --> 0:18:09.560 reconnect with like an ex boyfriend. 0:18:09.760 --> 0:18:12.960 It ended on like good terms, what does that mean? 0:18:13.480 --> 0:18:19.199 Mutually goes to each other, but it just happened. 0:18:20.280 --> 0:18:25.040 Sexy just sort of want to reconnect. 0:18:26.560 --> 0:18:32.600 We're really like close kind of twins, like same personalities, 0:18:32.640 --> 0:18:36.600