WEBVTT - Lyn's Law, no body no parole 0:00:00.880 --> 0:00:05.280 Life Uncut podcast acknowledges the traditional custodians of country throughout 0:00:05.320 --> 0:00:09.040 Australia and their connections to land, sea and community. We 0:00:09.160 --> 0:00:11.920 pay our respect to their elders past and present and 0:00:12.039 --> 0:00:15.360 extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait islander 0:00:15.360 --> 0:00:16.120 peoples today. 0:00:16.320 --> 0:00:19.599 This episode is recorded on Gaddigal Land of the Aurora Nation. 0:00:39.040 --> 0:00:42.720 Hi guys, and welcome back to another episode of Life Uncut. 0:00:42.800 --> 0:00:46.360 I'm Laura and I'm Brittany, and it has been a wild, 0:00:46.600 --> 0:00:49.200 wild weekend. Hou's not Laura, Well, I mean you drove 0:00:49.200 --> 0:00:49.839 to Port McCory. 0:00:49.920 --> 0:00:50.680 What was so wild? 0:00:51.240 --> 0:00:55.840 Well, not about mine. You started off this morning and 0:00:55.920 --> 0:00:57.600 I don't know this story yet. You came in and 0:00:57.680 --> 0:01:00.680 you said, I'm mad. I haven't slept, had a running 0:01:00.720 --> 0:01:02.280 on the weekend. You've left me on the edge of 0:01:02.360 --> 0:01:02.720 my seat. 0:01:02.840 --> 0:01:04.880 You know, when something happens and it pisses you off 0:01:04.920 --> 0:01:06.720 so much that it just you're laying in bed at 0:01:06.800 --> 0:01:08.600 night time and you're like, and you replay in your 0:01:08.640 --> 0:01:11.800 head how you should have reacted to the situation every 0:01:11.800 --> 0:01:12.760 single day I've ever been on. 0:01:14.120 --> 0:01:14.760 But do you know what I mean? 0:01:15.080 --> 0:01:16.800 You're laying there and you're like, oh, I wish I'd 0:01:16.840 --> 0:01:19.560 said this and then you have like the perfect comeback. 0:01:19.920 --> 0:01:21.640 But it's just like twelve hours too late. 0:01:22.160 --> 0:01:26.520 What happened? So because you are you are describing my 0:01:26.560 --> 0:01:28.680 dating life, but you don't have a dating life, So 0:01:28.800 --> 0:01:29.680 what could it have been? 0:01:29.800 --> 0:01:31.880 I just have children and that's who it has to 0:01:31.920 --> 0:01:33.600 do with. Okay, So I was at the beach. This 0:01:33.640 --> 0:01:36.080 is going to enrage other moms out there, and maybe 0:01:36.160 --> 0:01:38.479 it's someone who doesn't have kids who has to put 0:01:38.520 --> 0:01:41.120 up with like other people's kids being annoying. Maybe you 0:01:41.160 --> 0:01:43.880 will have some sympathy from the other side. So we 0:01:43.920 --> 0:01:46.960 went to Bronti Beach. It was a beautiful sunny day 0:01:47.080 --> 0:01:49.440 on Sunday. We decided we'd make the most of it. 0:01:49.520 --> 0:01:52.280 We took the kids down to the kid's end of 0:01:52.320 --> 0:01:52.960 Bronti Beach. 0:01:53.040 --> 0:01:54.840 Right, So there is this little end at the beach 0:01:54.880 --> 0:01:57.120 where it has it's like the waves don't really hit 0:01:57.160 --> 0:01:58.720 it as much and it has a little pool. 0:01:59.080 --> 0:02:01.200 It's a cute little swiet yeah, and it's like, look, 0:02:01.240 --> 0:02:03.680 it's not an official kids end, Like it's not just 0:02:03.840 --> 0:02:05.280 there's not a big sign when you get in there 0:02:05.320 --> 0:02:08.320 saying families only, but there are a lot of children 0:02:08.440 --> 0:02:10.240 down that end of the beach. The other end of 0:02:10.240 --> 0:02:13.080 the beach plenty of adults, more teenagers. But you know, 0:02:13.200 --> 0:02:16.200 we were down there at the family friendly end and 0:02:16.520 --> 0:02:17.640 Lola and Marley. 0:02:17.480 --> 0:02:19.240 Were walking up the stairs. 0:02:19.240 --> 0:02:22.080 There's several stairwells, and each stairwell to get down to 0:02:22.120 --> 0:02:24.560 the sand has an entrance and an exit, like you 0:02:24.560 --> 0:02:27.720 can access the stairs from either side. So on one 0:02:27.760 --> 0:02:30.680 side there's Marley and Lawla trying to get up the stairs. 0:02:30.720 --> 0:02:33.560 And Lola is eighteen months she's not very good at stairs, 0:02:33.760 --> 0:02:36.480 but she's fiercely independent and won't let me help her, 0:02:36.560 --> 0:02:39.440 so she's trying to crawl up the stairs. Marley's also 0:02:39.480 --> 0:02:41.720 walking up the stairs, and this woman comes to walk 0:02:41.800 --> 0:02:44.960 down the stairs, and I tried to move Lala to 0:02:44.960 --> 0:02:46.400 the side, but she wasn't having a bar of it. 0:02:46.440 --> 0:02:49.240 So anyway, this woman had to walk around my kids. 0:02:49.480 --> 0:02:53.000 And then at the same time, Marley's like cousin, so 0:02:53.120 --> 0:02:55.720 my niece Millie, she was coming around the corner, and 0:02:55.760 --> 0:02:57.880 then the woman had to then walk around Millie. 0:02:57.960 --> 0:02:59.200 So is this to getting to the pool? 0:02:59.280 --> 0:03:00.560 This is just to get to the beach, to get 0:03:00.560 --> 0:03:02.359 to the stack, to get onto the sand from the promenade. 0:03:02.400 --> 0:03:04.799 Long story short, Basically, she was trying to get down 0:03:04.800 --> 0:03:06.480 the stairs and there were three kids in the ways 0:03:06.560 --> 0:03:09.200 and it delayed her by like literally five seconds. And 0:03:09.240 --> 0:03:12.359 she turns around as Millie cuts her off, and she goes, oh, 0:03:12.520 --> 0:03:17.160 for fuck's sake, right in front of a four year 0:03:17.200 --> 0:03:19.040 old and right in front of Marley. 0:03:19.680 --> 0:03:22.600 And I was so angry. 0:03:23.120 --> 0:03:24.160 I was so angry. 0:03:24.240 --> 0:03:26.040 So you were there with them, like standing next to 0:03:26.200 --> 0:03:30.680 was the blasphemy directed to the children or to you 0:03:31.000 --> 0:03:33.640 or just in an exasperation to the universe. Well, it 0:03:33.680 --> 0:03:37.320 was an exasperation that my children were stopping her from 0:03:37.360 --> 0:03:39.600 getting to the beach as fast as what she wanted to. 0:03:40.040 --> 0:03:42.280 But the thing is, she said it very. 0:03:42.280 --> 0:03:45.080 Very loudly, which could have only been directed at my kids. 0:03:45.160 --> 0:03:46.880 MM. And so what did you say? 0:03:47.040 --> 0:03:48.960 I said, pull your head in? 0:03:49.000 --> 0:03:50.360 And I went to say the airport, but I was 0:03:50.360 --> 0:03:53.440 like that sense very conund Yeah, that's I just want 0:03:53.480 --> 0:03:55.400 to say from me. But I was like, pull your 0:03:55.400 --> 0:03:57.080 head in. I'm like carried on. The woman jumped in 0:03:57.080 --> 0:03:58.440 the water, I had a quick swim, jumped out. 0:03:58.440 --> 0:04:00.200 But I was like, what did she say? He you 0:04:00.320 --> 0:04:03.880 just you just glossed over this argument. So you have said, 0:04:03.920 --> 0:04:05.800 pull your head in, you know. Therefore, then what has 0:04:05.800 --> 0:04:06.120 she done? 0:04:06.320 --> 0:04:09.200 She was obviously embarrassed, but didn't say anything and then 0:04:09.240 --> 0:04:09.720 ignored me. 0:04:09.960 --> 0:04:12.080 And then and then I wanted to continue it, but 0:04:12.120 --> 0:04:13.840 I did it, and he chased it down and tackled 0:04:13.840 --> 0:04:14.360 her in the water. 0:04:14.640 --> 0:04:16.440 And then I lay in bed last night thinking like 0:04:16.480 --> 0:04:18.520 what should I have said? But I was so caught 0:04:18.560 --> 0:04:20.599 off guard because I've never been in a situation where 0:04:20.600 --> 0:04:22.440 someone has sworn at my kids before. 0:04:22.600 --> 0:04:26.200 So was your unrest in bed? Was that because you'd 0:04:26.240 --> 0:04:28.240 think you should have said more, or should have done less, 0:04:28.320 --> 0:04:30.839 or should have taken a higher row, like what more 0:04:31.640 --> 0:04:34.120 lower road? I should have gone? And like shot on 0:04:34.200 --> 0:04:36.960 her towel while she was having a swim, Like okay, 0:04:37.040 --> 0:04:38.960 So I'm going to give you the microphone right now, 0:04:39.440 --> 0:04:41.320 you have the chance to say to her whatever you wanted. 0:04:41.440 --> 0:04:42.919 What would you say to her now? What would you 0:04:42.920 --> 0:04:43.720 have done differently? 0:04:44.040 --> 0:04:46.000 Look, let's give this woman the benefit of the doubt. 0:04:46.000 --> 0:04:47.720 She's in Bronti. If anyone wants to go find her 0:04:47.720 --> 0:04:49.919 and get their pitchfoks out, Let's give it the benefit 0:04:49.960 --> 0:04:51.760 of the doubt. She was probably having a really bad 0:04:51.839 --> 0:04:54.240 day and she just wanted to go for her swim 0:04:54.400 --> 0:04:56.920 cleanse off the day and not deal with someone else's children. 0:04:57.240 --> 0:05:00.760 I can appreciate that children are annoying, especially when they're 0:05:00.760 --> 0:05:02.400 not yours. Like I mean, I think I have a 0:05:02.480 --> 0:05:04.679 high tolerance and patience for my own kids. 0:05:05.000 --> 0:05:05.520 I get it. 0:05:05.880 --> 0:05:08.240 But I think that there's a very fine line between 0:05:08.760 --> 0:05:13.039 reprimanding or outwardly showing your distaste for someone's kids. 0:05:13.040 --> 0:05:14.640 I think you have to really rate that in. 0:05:15.040 --> 0:05:17.839 I agree, I think that she needs to be banned 0:05:17.839 --> 0:05:18.799 from both vision. 0:05:19.560 --> 0:05:21.400 It just goes down the other end of the flags. Anyway, 0:05:21.440 --> 0:05:22.880 that has been keeping me up at night, and now 0:05:22.880 --> 0:05:23.560 I feel better for. 0:05:23.520 --> 0:05:26.720 Telling everyone thank you Marley noticed, because I know Marley 0:05:26.800 --> 0:05:28.560 dropped their word before. Anyway, maybe this is where she's 0:05:28.560 --> 0:05:29.680 getting it from strangers. 0:05:29.920 --> 0:05:32.080 Maybe this is where she's learning she gets it from me. 0:05:32.400 --> 0:05:32.960 Let's be real. 0:05:33.279 --> 0:05:35.800 Well, I mean, nothing as eventful as happened to me. 0:05:35.880 --> 0:05:37.760 I did go to Port Mcruary this weekend for a 0:05:37.800 --> 0:05:40.960 flying trip for my dad's birthday. We did some we 0:05:41.000 --> 0:05:43.400 got drunk and painted. That was amazing and what a 0:05:43.480 --> 0:05:46.320 time to be alive. But I had a moment well 0:05:46.360 --> 0:05:48.480 A I forgot to turn my dating apps off right, 0:05:48.520 --> 0:05:50.120 and I. 0:05:49.480 --> 0:05:51.479 Oh, dating and Port McCrary, what's that lie? 0:05:51.520 --> 0:05:53.600 I always turned my dating apps off when I go 0:05:53.680 --> 0:05:55.840 home to Port McCrary because when you've grown up, and 0:05:55.880 --> 0:05:58.160 everyone that's listening right now will know that, when you 0:05:58.240 --> 0:06:00.400 have grown up in a small town and you were 0:06:00.400 --> 0:06:03.280 there for a very long time, there's a lot of 0:06:03.320 --> 0:06:05.560 people that you don't want to see and you don't 0:06:05.600 --> 0:06:08.080 want to match with. And I forgot because the first 0:06:08.080 --> 0:06:11.000 message I got was like, oh, you've come back to 0:06:11.040 --> 0:06:13.279 your grassroots. I see, And I was like, I have 0:06:13.320 --> 0:06:14.280 to delete this immediately. 0:06:14.360 --> 0:06:17.640 Did you know who the person was? David for primary school? 0:06:17.720 --> 0:06:19.560 I like, damn it. I forgot to snooze my dating 0:06:19.600 --> 0:06:23.240 apps because you can snooze your dating apps right. Then 0:06:23.400 --> 0:06:26.480 it's put me into this weird phase where we've spoken 0:06:26.520 --> 0:06:29.600 about it before. It's dating fatigue, right, And it's not 0:06:29.640 --> 0:06:32.480 just dating fatigue for me because I'm not fatigued at 0:06:32.480 --> 0:06:36.480 the moment by dating, but I'm online dating fatigued, so 0:06:36.720 --> 0:06:39.520 the online version, So I don't mind. I'm still happy 0:06:39.520 --> 0:06:40.080 to go on dates. 0:06:40.080 --> 0:06:41.480 Oh, you want to meet people in the real world, 0:06:41.560 --> 0:06:42.719 you just don't want to have to do like the 0:06:42.839 --> 0:06:45.680 annoying like oh, how are you going? Like, you know, 0:06:46.120 --> 0:06:48.000 what did you grow up in Sydney? 0:06:48.040 --> 0:06:48.440 Bullshit? 0:06:48.640 --> 0:06:50.720 It's so annoying, And now I want to ask you 0:06:50.760 --> 0:06:54.000 a question because I don't know if I'm overreacting. But 0:06:54.120 --> 0:06:57.120 everything turns me off now, like everything I'm finding the 0:06:57.160 --> 0:06:59.560 most ridiculous things on people's profiles and the things that 0:06:59.600 --> 0:07:02.320 they're saying to be like no, even sometimes I match 0:07:02.400 --> 0:07:04.560 them and they say something and I'm just it's just 0:07:04.600 --> 0:07:07.640 a no. But like this one guy just wrote to me, 0:07:07.760 --> 0:07:12.440 right you get it up? And I'm like, am I 0:07:13.040 --> 0:07:15.800 is something happening internally that I need to deal with 0:07:15.920 --> 0:07:18.080 because this is my reaction and I don't know if 0:07:18.120 --> 0:07:21.880 it's actually that bad. Is a photo of Delilah and 0:07:21.920 --> 0:07:23.200 myself here, I'll just show you. 0:07:23.880 --> 0:07:27.880 Cute, amazing I've just like in the sunset, you and 0:07:27.880 --> 0:07:30.480 the dog having a romantic time together. 0:07:31.040 --> 0:07:36.480 So standard, and the comment all he wrote was hot energy. 0:07:37.440 --> 0:07:40.200 That's it, hot energy, and I was like, just a 0:07:40.520 --> 0:07:42.520 just Alilah have hot energy? Do I have hot energy? 0:07:42.520 --> 0:07:44.560 Where's the energy coming from? 0:07:44.600 --> 0:07:45.120 That was it? 0:07:45.160 --> 0:07:47.960 And I was nothing else, no other content, hot energy? 0:07:48.000 --> 0:07:48.600 Hot smile? 0:07:50.600 --> 0:07:52.720 Is that a reason? And I was like, ill, gross, Ill? 0:07:52.920 --> 0:07:54.680 Is that a reason to be turned off and something 0:07:54.680 --> 0:07:55.720 happening to me that I need. 0:07:55.560 --> 0:07:55.880 To deal with. 0:07:56.320 --> 0:07:58.760 Look, I think you're probably picking it upart a little bit. 0:07:58.800 --> 0:07:59.640 But what do you write back to that? 0:07:59.680 --> 0:08:01.520 Anyway? Thank you hot energy? 0:08:01.640 --> 0:08:03.240 Where do you go with that? Yeah? And how do 0:08:03.280 --> 0:08:04.720 you tell my energy is hot? 0:08:05.440 --> 0:08:07.119 I think he's just saying you are hot? 0:08:07.240 --> 0:08:08.720 No, it wasn't, No, it was not. 0:08:08.800 --> 0:08:13.000 Okay, Well, then what constitutes and appropriate sliding? Like? What 0:08:13.160 --> 0:08:15.320 is a message that someone could send that would make 0:08:15.400 --> 0:08:16.560 you reply I'm just. 0:08:16.480 --> 0:08:18.480 Not having a lot of luck on there, and I 0:08:18.480 --> 0:08:21.920 I don't know it's me. So I got another message 0:08:22.040 --> 0:08:27.480 right on in my DMS, okay, in my Instagram DMS 0:08:27.520 --> 0:08:32.199 from a guy that said, hey, I saw you online. 0:08:32.559 --> 0:08:35.160 And now this started off well, right, I saw you 0:08:35.160 --> 0:08:38.520 online dating, So I thought, oh, he said I've seen you, 0:08:38.559 --> 0:08:40.040 then he's gonna he I obviously have a matched with 0:08:40.120 --> 0:08:41.800 me ye, and he's gonna ask me out. But that 0:08:41.880 --> 0:08:46.320 wasn't it. He said, Hey, I saw you online. Just 0:08:46.360 --> 0:08:48.840 wanted to let you know you probably shouldn't use dating apps. 0:08:48.880 --> 0:08:51.320 Just go and meet someone in the supermarket. Seems to work. Well, 0:08:51.480 --> 0:08:52.200 have a good day. 0:08:52.320 --> 0:08:52.880 That was it. 0:08:53.200 --> 0:08:56.760 He went out of his way. I am not even kidding. 0:08:56.800 --> 0:08:59.360 I was like, oh my god, you have gone out 0:08:59.360 --> 0:09:02.320 of your way to to find me sliding to my 0:09:02.400 --> 0:09:06.640 DMS to tell me to stop using dating apps. You 0:09:06.640 --> 0:09:08.040 didn't want to ask me out, and then you told 0:09:08.040 --> 0:09:10.080 me to go to the supermarket to meet people. 0:09:10.240 --> 0:09:12.600 Do you think he is also on dating apps but 0:09:12.679 --> 0:09:14.840 doesn't use them and only meets people in supermarkets? 0:09:14.920 --> 0:09:18.120 Laura, Not all heroes where cakes. He's one of them. 0:09:18.520 --> 0:09:21.080 He was just coming in with some advice. But like, 0:09:21.120 --> 0:09:23.120 how it's a really hard time to be on the 0:09:23.160 --> 0:09:23.720 dating apps. 0:09:23.720 --> 0:09:25.520 Okay, I'm going to say this. I do think that 0:09:25.559 --> 0:09:27.560 you can be too picky though. I think that a 0:09:27.559 --> 0:09:30.120 lot of people go into the whole chatting to people 0:09:30.120 --> 0:09:32.320 on dating apps. They go into it with minimal effort, 0:09:32.480 --> 0:09:34.680 and they're not invested because they might just be like, hey, 0:09:34.800 --> 0:09:39.080 what's up, how's your week been? Really blend and boring questions. 0:09:39.240 --> 0:09:42.480 But the reason for that is because they're probably talking 0:09:42.480 --> 0:09:44.600 to ten other people at the same time, or they're 0:09:44.640 --> 0:09:47.720 too busy enjoying their actual real life that online dating 0:09:47.760 --> 0:09:49.320 to them is just something to fill in the time. 0:09:49.760 --> 0:09:52.240 So I think you can't be too critical to start with, 0:09:52.960 --> 0:09:55.520 maybe it's okay to answer and reply to those people 0:09:55.520 --> 0:09:57.760 and then see within fifteen minutes or a day or 0:09:57.840 --> 0:10:00.520 whatever it is, whether that banter has improved. And obviously, 0:10:00.520 --> 0:10:03.160 if it hasn't improved after a couple of exchanges, then. 0:10:03.520 --> 0:10:05.160 Well, I know it's too late for me. Like, I 0:10:05.200 --> 0:10:07.320 know I need to take a break because I did 0:10:07.360 --> 0:10:08.080 have a bit of a rule. 0:10:08.120 --> 0:10:08.480 Produce A. 0:10:08.520 --> 0:10:10.280 Kisha and I have spoken about this before. We both 0:10:10.280 --> 0:10:11.600 had a bit of a rule and we've said it 0:10:11.600 --> 0:10:14.600 on the podcast. Don't just start with a hey how 0:10:14.640 --> 0:10:17.839 are you? Like, get a bit of excitement, write to 0:10:17.880 --> 0:10:20.200 them about their prompts or their profiles, or just be 0:10:20.200 --> 0:10:22.800 be better than that. Right, But it's not the end better, 0:10:22.920 --> 0:10:24.640 but it's not well a, it's not the end of 0:10:24.640 --> 0:10:27.640 the world for me. If if someone says to me, hey, 0:10:27.640 --> 0:10:30.280 how are you, I'm a bit like really, but I'll 0:10:30.280 --> 0:10:33.040 still respond, right produce a. Keisha's Flatno, she's like she's 0:10:33.040 --> 0:10:35.040 a hard note she blocks and deletes, which is I 0:10:35.080 --> 0:10:36.600 think that is too far? Right? Okay. 0:10:37.160 --> 0:10:39.760 I have a question though, if they're super hot, like 0:10:39.800 --> 0:10:43.360 if they are the hottest person under the sun, would 0:10:43.440 --> 0:10:45.600 you still be like, oh, that's not interesting enough. 0:10:45.880 --> 0:10:48.800 Yes, I would, but I would respond now, I said 0:10:48.840 --> 0:10:50.960 to produce Akisha, I said, what if chatting Tatum wrote 0:10:51.000 --> 0:10:52.720 to you, Hey, how are you now? I don't believe 0:10:52.720 --> 0:10:54.040 it where it comes out of her mouth, but she 0:10:54.040 --> 0:10:56.320 said she would block and delete. I'm like, as if, 0:10:56.640 --> 0:10:58.640 but I know that I'm I'm not old. Well, I 0:10:58.640 --> 0:11:01.600 know I'm over it because I've started to do this. 0:11:02.160 --> 0:11:05.600 Last night I wrote to someone and said, Hey, how's 0:11:05.640 --> 0:11:07.720 your week? And then I was like, I was like, 0:11:07.760 --> 0:11:10.120 I've become the person I hate. I was like this, 0:11:10.120 --> 0:11:11.800 this is how I know it's time to take a break. 0:11:11.800 --> 0:11:14.120 So I think I need to snooze and start dressing 0:11:14.200 --> 0:11:15.319 up and going to the supermarket. 0:11:15.440 --> 0:11:18.320 There is nothing wrong with hey, how's your week? There's 0:11:18.400 --> 0:11:20.760 nothing wrong with it. It is a fine and appropriate 0:11:20.760 --> 0:11:21.920 way of starting a conversation. 0:11:22.040 --> 0:11:24.360 Okay, so do you guys know about this? Someone has 0:11:24.400 --> 0:11:25.920 told us this before. I need to look into it 0:11:25.960 --> 0:11:28.600 a bit more. Apparently, you know how this guy wrote 0:11:28.600 --> 0:11:31.080 to me and said, go to the supermarket. Apparently there's 0:11:31.080 --> 0:11:32.880 a thing. There's a thing where you go to the 0:11:32.920 --> 0:11:35.880 supermarket and there are like low key like batman signals 0:11:35.960 --> 0:11:38.280 that you put out to other people that shows your 0:11:38.320 --> 0:11:40.960 single and their date. It's something about no, there's not 0:11:41.360 --> 0:11:43.200 I look, I'm just saying this could be a myth, 0:11:43.360 --> 0:11:45.520 but I've heard it's like you're making a salad. 0:11:45.559 --> 0:11:48.040 There's some underground sex club in Woolworth. Yeah, at the 0:11:48.080 --> 0:11:48.760 banana store. 0:11:49.600 --> 0:11:50.720 I think that's what happened. 0:11:50.760 --> 0:11:52.880 But if somebody knows, someone out there knows what I'm 0:11:52.920 --> 0:11:54.960 talking about. Right now, there are apparently signals that you 0:11:54.960 --> 0:11:57.240 can do in the fruit arena or something in the 0:11:57.280 --> 0:12:01.000 supermarket that lets somebody there know that you're the single today. 0:12:01.160 --> 0:12:02.720 And I don't know if it's rubbing your hand up 0:12:02.720 --> 0:12:04.400 and down the eggplant. I don't know if that's it, 0:12:04.480 --> 0:12:07.240 but there is a sign Brittany, just. 0:12:07.160 --> 0:12:12.280 Deep throating and banana sub Okay. The problem is is 0:12:12.320 --> 0:12:15.000 that you're then expecting everybody else to know what these 0:12:15.040 --> 0:12:15.559 cues are. 0:12:15.960 --> 0:12:17.959 I think it's an underground club like fight club. You 0:12:17.960 --> 0:12:19.920 don't talk about fight club, but everyone knows. 0:12:20.000 --> 0:12:21.679 I don't think any. 0:12:21.360 --> 0:12:24.080 We have a dating and Relationship podcast if we don't 0:12:24.120 --> 0:12:26.640 even know, I don't think any Mony Funky knows bri 0:12:26.920 --> 0:12:27.800 he has the problem. 0:12:27.840 --> 0:12:29.040 Maybe I'm the problem. 0:12:29.480 --> 0:12:31.680 Maybe maybe whole episode. 0:12:32.000 --> 0:12:34.640 Okay, guys, let us tell you what today's episode is 0:12:34.640 --> 0:12:36.320 about because as much as we're having a lot of 0:12:36.320 --> 0:12:38.240 fun and many laughs at the start of this, we 0:12:38.280 --> 0:12:41.520 have quite a serious episode in terms of the conversation 0:12:41.600 --> 0:12:44.480 that we're having. We're interviewing a wonderful woman. Her name 0:12:44.559 --> 0:12:45.600 is Renee Sims. 0:12:45.640 --> 0:12:45.840 Now. 0:12:45.960 --> 0:12:48.600 Renee is the niece of Lynette Dawson, and I know 0:12:48.720 --> 0:12:51.160 so many of you will have heard that name, will 0:12:51.200 --> 0:12:53.360 have listened to the podcast and be as invested in 0:12:53.400 --> 0:12:55.400 it as what Britt and I are. But there is 0:12:55.440 --> 0:12:57.960 a podcast called The Teacher's Pet. It was hosted by 0:12:58.080 --> 0:13:02.480 investigative journalist Headley Tom and it's been produced for The Australian. 0:13:02.600 --> 0:13:06.920 Now this podcast series is all about the disappearance and 0:13:07.040 --> 0:13:10.600 murder of Lynette Dawson and recently her husband at the time, 0:13:10.840 --> 0:13:13.760 Chris Dawson, was charged for her murder. Now, this happened 0:13:13.760 --> 0:13:16.280 back in nineteen eighty two, so it has been forty 0:13:16.600 --> 0:13:21.079 years since Lynnette's disappearance until now when Chris is finally 0:13:21.400 --> 0:13:22.520 being charged for her murder. 0:13:23.559 --> 0:13:26.640 It was just such a captivating story. It has been 0:13:26.679 --> 0:13:30.240 listened to fifty two million times all over the world, 0:13:30.360 --> 0:13:33.120 which it's a really powerful thing these days to know 0:13:33.280 --> 0:13:36.560 that somebody can tell their story and be heard all 0:13:36.600 --> 0:13:40.320 across the world. Because what happened with this is the 0:13:40.400 --> 0:13:43.120 reason that after forty years, I mean Lennett is the 0:13:43.120 --> 0:13:45.560 mother to two daughters, this will happen on the northern 0:13:45.600 --> 0:13:48.199 beaches of Sydney, which, in comparison to the rest of 0:13:48.240 --> 0:13:50.120 the world. You know, this is a time in little suburb. 0:13:50.960 --> 0:13:53.840 Her story was not heard. Nothing was happening for a 0:13:53.960 --> 0:13:57.240 very long time. But because of this podcast, because of 0:13:57.280 --> 0:13:59.840 this investigative journalist, because this was listened to fifty two 0:14:00.120 --> 0:14:03.559 million times, it got to the point where they reopened 0:14:03.600 --> 0:14:07.960 the case and after forty years, the family was finally 0:14:08.000 --> 0:14:10.480 given a verdict. They were finally able to have a 0:14:10.520 --> 0:14:14.920 tiny bit of closure, even though unfortunately Lynnett's body was 0:14:14.960 --> 0:14:17.600 never found and it hasn't ever been revealed where it is, 0:14:17.640 --> 0:14:19.960 and I don't think it is ever going to be well. 0:14:20.000 --> 0:14:21.560 I think the thing that's so interesting about this chat 0:14:21.560 --> 0:14:23.160 so the reason why we wanted to get Renee on 0:14:23.160 --> 0:14:25.880 the podcast. We obviously were so invested. I listened to 0:14:25.920 --> 0:14:28.520 The Teacher's Pet when I was traveling around New Zealand 0:14:28.520 --> 0:14:30.480 a few years back when it very first came out. 0:14:30.640 --> 0:14:32.880 But it has not been accessible for the last couple 0:14:32.920 --> 0:14:35.920 of years, and that's because the case had been reopened 0:14:35.960 --> 0:14:39.320 against her husband, Chris Dawson. Now, as you said, Chris 0:14:39.320 --> 0:14:42.600 has always maintained his innocence, but after forty years he's 0:14:42.640 --> 0:14:45.960 been found guilty. Now, the reason why Renee's story is 0:14:46.000 --> 0:14:48.760 so interesting is because Renee is petitioning for a new 0:14:48.840 --> 0:14:51.000 law to be passed within New South Wales. 0:14:50.720 --> 0:14:51.600 Called Lynn's Law. 0:14:52.000 --> 0:14:54.000 And what that means is is that if somebody is 0:14:54.000 --> 0:14:57.560 convicted of murder, as Chris Dawson has been, unless there 0:14:57.600 --> 0:15:00.520 is a body somebody who's found guilty, is not able 0:15:00.520 --> 0:15:02.080 to be eligible for parole. 0:15:02.240 --> 0:15:05.320 Yeah, because crazily enough, and I didn't really realize until 0:15:05.440 --> 0:15:07.720 this petition for Lyn's Law was brought up. It's something 0:15:07.720 --> 0:15:10.040 I guess you don't think about. It is only in 0:15:10.080 --> 0:15:13.760 New South Wales currently, but you can still get parole 0:15:14.000 --> 0:15:15.960 without saying where the body is. And I think this 0:15:16.000 --> 0:15:18.360 is a brilliant thing to introduce to say that, well, 0:15:18.400 --> 0:15:21.160 do you know what, like, if you want any sort 0:15:21.160 --> 0:15:23.320 of leniency, you've got to provide us with something, You've 0:15:23.320 --> 0:15:24.480 got to give us something back. 0:15:24.600 --> 0:15:26.640 Well, it also adds into closure for the family, So 0:15:26.680 --> 0:15:28.280 that is all coming up in a little while, we 0:15:28.320 --> 0:15:31.720 will get into Rene's story and into how her family 0:15:31.720 --> 0:15:34.240 are doing now that this verdict has been passed. But 0:15:34.360 --> 0:15:37.320 before we get into all of that, Brittany, there is 0:15:37.320 --> 0:15:39.400 something I wanted to update you on, and I know 0:15:39.440 --> 0:15:41.720 we've foked about it a little bit over last couple 0:15:41.760 --> 0:15:47.280 of days, weeks, maybe two weeks, the intimacy challenge. This 0:15:47.440 --> 0:15:50.160 is not about me, Okay, this is not about my intimacy. 0:15:50.200 --> 0:15:52.440 It's not about Matt's sex life. As much as some 0:15:52.480 --> 0:15:54.840 of you I know are absolutely just hanging on the 0:15:54.920 --> 0:15:56.920 edge of your seats to hear about my sex life again, 0:15:56.960 --> 0:15:59.120 and some of you are completely repulsed by it and 0:15:59.200 --> 0:16:01.680 don't want to hear any thing more. No, it's about 0:16:01.760 --> 0:16:03.680 something that I read recently, which I sent to you 0:16:03.800 --> 0:16:05.400 last night because I thought it would be good for 0:16:05.400 --> 0:16:06.880 you to do your research as well. 0:16:07.280 --> 0:16:11.440 It is, oh I did. I think it's hilarious. 0:16:11.640 --> 0:16:13.200 It is called Carreza. 0:16:13.360 --> 0:16:15.320 And we don't know if we're pronouncing this right, could 0:16:15.320 --> 0:16:19.120 be butchering it. It's called correza sex k A R 0:16:19.280 --> 0:16:22.040 E double z A. We're gonna go with Carreza, which 0:16:22.080 --> 0:16:24.320 is kind of like caress. Correza sex. 0:16:24.600 --> 0:16:29.840 I can actually have the pronunciation here, oh, corretza corretza, 0:16:29.920 --> 0:16:33.960 so it's it's red. It's a type of gentle affectionate 0:16:34.320 --> 0:16:38.800 sexual intercourse. It comes from the Italian word correza, which 0:16:38.840 --> 0:16:42.280 means caress, so it's coming from this like this intimacy. Right. 0:16:42.960 --> 0:16:48.239 But the whole idea is to have sex without orgasming, 0:16:48.520 --> 0:16:50.920 which kind of goes against the whole purpose of why 0:16:51.040 --> 0:16:53.640 so many of us have sex. Like the most common 0:16:53.680 --> 0:16:56.280