WEBVTT - Why You're Addicted To The Talking Stage ❤️️

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<v Speaker 1>Flex and Frooms Flex and Frooms. This is the Flex

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<v Speaker 1>and Frooms catch up podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>I saw this TikTok again. All the tiktoks that I

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<v Speaker 2>like that I bring to the show don't have audio.

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<v Speaker 2>They're simply text space. What can I say. I'm a

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<v Speaker 2>writer and a fantastic one of that. If you ask

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<v Speaker 2>flex mine.

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<v Speaker 3>She's a fantastic one.

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<v Speaker 1>She has one fan it is me, Thank you, queen.

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<v Speaker 1>This is very interesting.

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<v Speaker 2>I've been thinking a lot about the initial stages of

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<v Speaker 2>dating someone and the emotional Rollercoat said that that is

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<v Speaker 2>some people are built different and can handle it. Others

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<v Speaker 2>become an emotional wreck. Now, this TikTok says.

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<v Speaker 3>It's from the username of the therapy girl underscool.

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<v Speaker 2>Underscore me when I learned that dopamine release is highest

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<v Speaker 2>during romantic uncertainty, which is known as anticipatory dopamine. So

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<v Speaker 2>if you're out here chasing them, waiting for their text,

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<v Speaker 2>hurting yourself with the inconsistency, so you think it doesn't

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<v Speaker 2>mean something. Wait, so you think it means something, it doesn't.

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<v Speaker 2>It's not your soulmate, and you've got to come join

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<v Speaker 2>me on my therapy podcast. Incredible branding there, I forgot that.

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<v Speaker 1>It was a brand house.

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<v Speaker 2>I was just deep in it, and I got to say,

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<v Speaker 2>I think this is a theory that holds up.

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<v Speaker 1>Been thinking about it a lot lately.

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<v Speaker 2>With my girlfriends and also having conversations with other people.

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<v Speaker 2>I believe that when it comes to dating, it's the

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<v Speaker 2>one topic that every single person in the world young

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<v Speaker 2>old toddler ninety year old actually cares about. Like I

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<v Speaker 2>was at a friend's house a couple of weeks ago

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<v Speaker 2>and just talking about dating. It was actually with Chantell

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<v Speaker 2>Oder and the sexologist, incredible sexologist, and at her house like.

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<v Speaker 1>She had friends over.

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<v Speaker 2>It's like a very communal, big fun house. She had

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<v Speaker 2>these people over that I had never really met before,

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<v Speaker 2>three guys and one of their girlfriends, and we all

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<v Speaker 2>sat on the couch having dinner together. I hadn't met

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<v Speaker 2>any of them before. And I was talking about dating

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<v Speaker 2>with Chantell because of course she's a sexologist. And I

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<v Speaker 2>was telling this thing. Why does everybody's eyes light up

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<v Speaker 2>the minute I start.

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<v Speaker 3>You say dinner party and we're hoping, just praying someone

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<v Speaker 3>out there is struggling and needs advice.

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<v Speaker 1>So what are you gonna say? Oh, he didn't text?

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<v Speaker 1>Let me see them moroble.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, our eyes can listen with joy.

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<v Speaker 2>It's honestly sickening. But dope meine and romantic uncertainty. As

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<v Speaker 2>you know, I'm very interested in dope mein amongst other chemicals.

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<v Speaker 2>Do I really understand how they work it?

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<v Speaker 3>No?

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<v Speaker 2>Have I listened to five episodes of human and I've

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<v Speaker 2>made up my whole personality trait?

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<v Speaker 1>Yes?

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<v Speaker 2>Is it the only way that I connect with men? Potentially?

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<v Speaker 3>Do you remember? I don't know what we were reading

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<v Speaker 3>or talking about a couple of weeks ago, but they

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<v Speaker 3>were saying, how like if we're talking about the way

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<v Speaker 3>dope mean and serotonin affect like men and women differently,

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<v Speaker 3>the way that I read it, I'm going to describe

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<v Speaker 3>it like a game. Okay, So, like the way that

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<v Speaker 3>men receive dope mean is like more potent or like

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<v Speaker 3>whatever than the way women receive it. We live in

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<v Speaker 3>a very dope mean fueled well, and so women should

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<v Speaker 3>be also focusing on like increasing their serotonin because it's

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<v Speaker 3>like they're able to like get more value from serotonin,

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<v Speaker 3>whereas dope mean it's just very like highs lows highs lows.

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<v Speaker 3>Serotonin's more sustaining or whatever. This person on the internet

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<v Speaker 3>seb and you get dope mean by like these quick tasks, right,

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<v Speaker 3>like scrolling a video, funny joke, funny joke, eat nice food.

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<v Speaker 3>Dope mean you get serotonin and like oxytocin from like

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<v Speaker 3>cuddling and sharing a compliment and speaking about your feelings

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<v Speaker 3>and feeling safe. All of those things are far more

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<v Speaker 3>sustaining ways to feel good.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know who said this because I'm wondering if

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<v Speaker 2>it's sexist coded, because.

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<v Speaker 1>Everything is sexist coded. Look at the world we live in.

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<v Speaker 2>No o, babe, But let me have this one the

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<v Speaker 2>one time I try to talk about it.

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<v Speaker 1>It's amastic, Moniker.

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<v Speaker 2>Dope mean is not only about reward. It's also like

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<v Speaker 2>you get dope mean from it like encourages you to

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<v Speaker 2>go for things.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a it's a thing that spurs you on.

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<v Speaker 2>I always thought it was just like I ate Krispy Kreme,

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<v Speaker 2>I have dope mean, But it's like dope mean pushes

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<v Speaker 2>you to go for the Krispy Kreme, to pursue the person,

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<v Speaker 2>to pursue the job, YadA, YadA, YadA.

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<v Speaker 3>Because you know the lengths that one goes through for

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<v Speaker 3>a vice, right, like, let's say, think of the lengths

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<v Speaker 3>you've gone to to like get like a cheeky maca's

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<v Speaker 3>meal when you're hungover, on your on your deathburd yet

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<v Speaker 3>somehow you muster up the energy to go brush your teeth,

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<v Speaker 3>put on us it, leave the house, get your keys,

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<v Speaker 3>get in the car, drive down the road, turn left,

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<v Speaker 3>go up, go through the drive through.

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<v Speaker 2>Speak horrible, imagine literally, that's why the mac is up

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<v Speaker 2>is incredible.

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<v Speaker 1>Shut up? Where are they gonna give me money? Guy?

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<v Speaker 1>This is actually absurd.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm surprised you haven't got any money from you that

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<v Speaker 2>talking about it every newsletter.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, maybe it's too desperate.

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