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Speaker 2: I saw this TikTok again. All the tiktoks that I
Speaker 2: like that I bring to the show don't have audio.
Speaker 2: They're simply text space. What can I say. I'm a
Speaker 2: writer and a fantastic one of that. If you ask
Speaker 2: flex mine.
Speaker 3: She's a fantastic one.
Speaker 1: She has one fan it is me, Thank you, queen.
Speaker 1: This is very interesting.
Speaker 2: I've been thinking a lot about the initial stages of
Speaker 2: dating someone and the emotional Rollercoat said that that is
Speaker 2: some people are built different and can handle it. Others
Speaker 2: become an emotional wreck. Now, this TikTok says.
Speaker 3: It's from the username of the therapy girl underscool.
Speaker 2: Underscore me when I learned that dopamine release is highest
Speaker 2: during romantic uncertainty, which is known as anticipatory dopamine. So
Speaker 2: if you're out here chasing them, waiting for their text,
Speaker 2: hurting yourself with the inconsistency, so you think it doesn't
Speaker 2: mean something. Wait, so you think it means something, it doesn't.
Speaker 2: It's not your soulmate, and you've got to come join
Speaker 2: me on my therapy podcast. Incredible branding there, I forgot that.
Speaker 1: It was a brand house.
Speaker 2: I was just deep in it, and I got to say,
Speaker 2: I think this is a theory that holds up.
Speaker 1: Been thinking about it a lot lately.
Speaker 2: With my girlfriends and also having conversations with other people.
Speaker 2: I believe that when it comes to dating, it's the
Speaker 2: one topic that every single person in the world young
Speaker 2: old toddler ninety year old actually cares about. Like I
Speaker 2: was at a friend's house a couple of weeks ago
Speaker 2: and just talking about dating. It was actually with Chantell
Speaker 2: Oder and the sexologist, incredible sexologist, and at her house like.
Speaker 1: She had friends over.
Speaker 2: It's like a very communal, big fun house. She had
Speaker 2: these people over that I had never really met before,
Speaker 2: three guys and one of their girlfriends, and we all
Speaker 2: sat on the couch having dinner together. I hadn't met
Speaker 2: any of them before. And I was talking about dating
Speaker 2: with Chantell because of course she's a sexologist. And I
Speaker 2: was telling this thing. Why does everybody's eyes light up
Speaker 2: the minute I start.
Speaker 3: You say dinner party and we're hoping, just praying someone
Speaker 3: out there is struggling and needs advice.
Speaker 1: So what are you gonna say? Oh, he didn't text?
Speaker 1: Let me see them moroble.
Speaker 3: Okay, our eyes can listen with joy.
Speaker 2: It's honestly sickening. But dope meine and romantic uncertainty. As
Speaker 2: you know, I'm very interested in dope mein amongst other chemicals.
Speaker 2: Do I really understand how they work it?
Speaker 3: No?
Speaker 2: Have I listened to five episodes of human and I've
Speaker 2: made up my whole personality trait?
Speaker 1: Yes?
Speaker 2: Is it the only way that I connect with men? Potentially?
Speaker 3: Do you remember? I don't know what we were reading
Speaker 3: or talking about a couple of weeks ago, but they
Speaker 3: were saying, how like if we're talking about the way
Speaker 3: dope mean and serotonin affect like men and women differently,
Speaker 3: the way that I read it, I'm going to describe
Speaker 3: it like a game. Okay, So, like the way that
Speaker 3: men receive dope mean is like more potent or like
Speaker 3: whatever than the way women receive it. We live in
Speaker 3: a very dope mean fueled well, and so women should
Speaker 3: be also focusing on like increasing their serotonin because it's
Speaker 3: like they're able to like get more value from serotonin,
Speaker 3: whereas dope mean it's just very like highs lows highs lows.
Speaker 3: Serotonin's more sustaining or whatever. This person on the internet
Speaker 3: seb and you get dope mean by like these quick tasks, right,
Speaker 3: like scrolling a video, funny joke, funny joke, eat nice food.
Speaker 3: Dope mean you get serotonin and like oxytocin from like
Speaker 3: cuddling and sharing a compliment and speaking about your feelings
Speaker 3: and feeling safe. All of those things are far more
Speaker 3: sustaining ways to feel good.
Speaker 2: I don't know who said this because I'm wondering if
Speaker 2: it's sexist coded, because.
Speaker 1: Everything is sexist coded. Look at the world we live in.
Speaker 2: No o, babe, But let me have this one the
Speaker 2: one time I try to talk about it.
Speaker 1: It's amastic, Moniker.
Speaker 2: Dope mean is not only about reward. It's also like
Speaker 2: you get dope mean from it like encourages you to
Speaker 2: go for things.
Speaker 1: It's a it's a thing that spurs you on.
Speaker 2: I always thought it was just like I ate Krispy Kreme,
Speaker 2: I have dope mean, But it's like dope mean pushes
Speaker 2: you to go for the Krispy Kreme, to pursue the person,
Speaker 2: to pursue the job, YadA, YadA, YadA.
Speaker 3: Because you know the lengths that one goes through for
Speaker 3: a vice, right, like, let's say, think of the lengths
Speaker 3: you've gone to to like get like a cheeky maca's
Speaker 3: meal when you're hungover, on your on your deathburd yet
Speaker 3: somehow you muster up the energy to go brush your teeth,
Speaker 3: put on us it, leave the house, get your keys,
Speaker 3: get in the car, drive down the road, turn left,
Speaker 3: go up, go through the drive through.
Speaker 2: Speak horrible, imagine literally, that's why the mac is up
Speaker 2: is incredible.
Speaker 1: Shut up? Where are they gonna give me money? Guy?
Speaker 1: This is actually absurd.
Speaker 2: I'm surprised you haven't got any money from you that
Speaker 2: talking about it every newsletter.
Speaker 3: Yeah, maybe it's too desperate.
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