WEBVTT - MINI! When should your kids be allowed on social media 💻

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<v Speaker 1>Tuesday afternoon on the pickup, it's Britt, Laura and Mitch

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<v Speaker 2>Now, we were just talking to one of Australia's most

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<v Speaker 2>trusted parenting experts. His name's doctor Coulson. He's on Parental Guidance,

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<v Speaker 2>the new TV show Channel Night. Oh my god, it's

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<v Speaker 2>very brilliant and if you're a parent who's just fumbling

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<v Speaker 2>your way through trying to figure out the right way

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<v Speaker 2>to parent, as we all are, it is a truly

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<v Speaker 2>brilliant show. But we got talking about social media and

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<v Speaker 2>whether it's okay to have your kids on social media

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<v Speaker 2>or not. Because there is one family who is on

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<v Speaker 2>the show at the moment and they have a nine

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<v Speaker 2>year old who has their own social media account. They

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<v Speaker 2>have like five hundred thousand followers, and they're also making

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<v Speaker 2>money as a nine year old off the social media account.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, my kids, they feature on my social media

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<v Speaker 2>from time to time. But I think that there's a

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<v Speaker 2>really big difference between making money from your children on

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<v Speaker 2>social media and just sharing kind of like the highlight

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<v Speaker 2>reel of what's happening in your life. Because if you're

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<v Speaker 2>a mummy blogger and that's your one and only job

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<v Speaker 2>is to be a mummy blogger and to talk about

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<v Speaker 2>the experience of parenting, and that's how you make all

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<v Speaker 2>your money. I think the big issue with that type

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<v Speaker 2>of social media is that then it makes it really

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<v Speaker 2>hard to say no when jobs come in. So instead

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<v Speaker 2>of being able to have a good litmus for the

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<v Speaker 2>types of things that you share about your kids, if

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<v Speaker 2>all your income is tied up on social media and

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<v Speaker 2>you don't have any other ways of making an income,

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<v Speaker 2>it makes it really challenging to say I don't want

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<v Speaker 2>to do that job or I don't want to put

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<v Speaker 2>my kid in that campaign, because ultimately you're saying no

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<v Speaker 2>to money.

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<v Speaker 3>Do the kids get the money? Are you putting it

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<v Speaker 3>in an account for the kids? Like where's it going?

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<v Speaker 3>Are the kids earning the money for the parents and

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<v Speaker 3>the parents are just using it themselves. I think there's

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<v Speaker 3>a whole other layer to it.

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<v Speaker 2>Well also means right that you need to share the

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<v Speaker 2>more and more personal, the more vulnerable, the more challenging

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<v Speaker 2>parts of parenting. That you share, the bigger your community

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<v Speaker 2>gets online because the more mums relate to it, the

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<v Speaker 2>more they want to talk about it, and that that's

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<v Speaker 2>how you kind of grow your following. But the thing

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<v Speaker 2>I think is really worrying about that is that if

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<v Speaker 2>you're sharing the really vulnerable bits about your parenting experience,

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<v Speaker 2>you're also sharing the really vulnerable bits about your kids

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<v Speaker 2>as well, and your kids can't opt into that. And

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<v Speaker 2>that's where I think it's a bit of a gray

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<v Speaker 2>area where this sharenting thing can go too far.

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<v Speaker 1>It's all well and good to say kids are on

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<v Speaker 1>social media and then assume that kids are the only

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<v Speaker 1>people engaging with that content, but it's not true. There

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<v Speaker 1>are creeps on the internet that look at its content.

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<v Speaker 2>So what about their privacy exactly?

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<v Speaker 1>I think social media overall for children would have an

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<v Speaker 1>overarchingly negative effect.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh it does.

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<v Speaker 3>It's proven, and it's so addictive.

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<v Speaker 2>That's the big thing, more so than just having a

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<v Speaker 2>negative impact. It's so addictive.

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<v Speaker 1>We've got Emma on thirteen one or six five high. Emma,

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<v Speaker 1>you've got your kids. What is your stance on this?

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<v Speaker 3>Hi?

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<v Speaker 4>I am hav an eleven year old daughter, and I

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<v Speaker 4>just feel like, she doesn't need social media right now.

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<v Speaker 4>She has the rest of her life to be on

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<v Speaker 4>Instagram and TikTok and Facebook. So why does she need

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<v Speaker 4>to spend the years that I would probably say some

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<v Speaker 4>of the most important years about finding out who she

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<v Speaker 4>is as a person and developing her own identity. Why

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<v Speaker 4>should she be spending those years comparing herself to others?

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<v Speaker 2>Is she wanting it? Has she been trying to ask

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<v Speaker 2>for it or pressure you for it so far?

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<v Speaker 4>Look, probably twelve months ago she did because she's one

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<v Speaker 4>of the only ones in her friendship group without it.

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<v Speaker 4>So we let her have kids Messenger because that's something

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<v Speaker 4>we can monitor, and she's not being exposed to, you know,

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<v Speaker 4>the highlight reels on Instagram and TikTok. But after we

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<v Speaker 4>had that conversation with her and said, we don't think

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<v Speaker 4>that she's emotionally mature enough to be exposed to some

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<v Speaker 4>of the content. She understands and she knows that her

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<v Speaker 4>time will come and we will let her have it

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<v Speaker 4>one day, but it's just not right now.

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<v Speaker 1>I'll tell you what.

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<v Speaker 3>It scares the bejeevas out of me. Sometimes I look

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<v Speaker 3>online and I'm like, I don't think I have the

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<v Speaker 3>emotional capacity to deal with it, let alone bring in

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<v Speaker 3>and keith in and then having it. I actually genuinely

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<v Speaker 3>it plays on my mind.

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<v Speaker 2>I think you need to have very good boundaries as

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<v Speaker 2>a parent with you You have to be okay with

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<v Speaker 2>saying no to your children, and that's something that a

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<v Speaker 2>lot of parents struggle with, especially when you want to

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<v Speaker 2>be friends with your kids. Having those boundaries and saying

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<v Speaker 2>no can be really, really hard. And also as an adult,

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<v Speaker 2>as a parent, you have to be social media literate.

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<v Speaker 2>You've got to understand what's happening on social media to

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<v Speaker 2>be able to help educate your kids and protect them.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, go live in the real world, Get outside kids.

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<v Speaker 5>Next?

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<v Speaker 2>Everyone, boys, what's on the show?

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<v Speaker 5>Gooday, guys, massive show. We're going to be joined by

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<v Speaker 5>the new Sunrise host Huge Shoes to fill filling in

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<v Speaker 5>the Great David Kosia's shoes. Yes it is Matt Srvington

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<v Speaker 5>plus will is having a mental health day today, so

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<v Speaker 5>a very very special guest is filling in for him,

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<v Speaker 5>and I'll tell you who that is when our show begins,

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<v Speaker 5>right up next.

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<v Speaker 3>Sounds good, guys, can't wait, see you all tomorrow.

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