WEBVTT - Would You Live In A 70 Person Share House? 🏠

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<v Speaker 1>The Flex and Rooms Daily.

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<v Speaker 3>Hello and welcome to this most gorgeous edition of Flex

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<v Speaker 3>My Homes podcast. Happy Tuesday or whenever you're getting this,

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<v Speaker 3>maybe you're binging it in a far far away universe

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<v Speaker 3>like the James Webb telescope looking back in time in

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<v Speaker 3>US span. She's having an absolutely gorgeous time.

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<v Speaker 4>I love that. Thanks.

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<v Speaker 5>This This episode is mostly nightmarish.

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<v Speaker 4>I uncovered a video, am I an archaeologist.

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<v Speaker 3>I wasn't.

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<v Speaker 4>I think it wasn't delivered to me by an algorith

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<v Speaker 4>James with telescope.

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<v Speaker 3>He's like, damn, I really worked hard back then.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh my goodness.

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<v Speaker 5>I saw a TikTok video about this girl living in

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<v Speaker 5>a seventy person sharehouse. I definitely thought she was taking

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<v Speaker 5>the piss for sure. I thought she lived at like

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<v Speaker 5>a unidorm a tree and that was a little hook.

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<v Speaker 4>It wasn't.

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<v Speaker 5>And this episode is us talking about our own experiences

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<v Speaker 5>with share housing through me giving her current housemate the snip,

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<v Speaker 5>and also just any rules and regulation to what it

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<v Speaker 5>takes to live with one of us expressions of interest

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<v Speaker 5>for through me, none of that.

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<v Speaker 4>I'll find it myself. Manifesting. Okay, okay, let's go flex.

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<v Speaker 5>And I've only recently started buying a few designer things

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<v Speaker 5>here and there, play Valenciaga crocs, crocs, But I only

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<v Speaker 5>try and buy things that I would actually wear, not

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<v Speaker 5>for status, just for aesthetic.

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<v Speaker 4>Like the.

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<v Speaker 5>Inherent value of these crocs are not there. They're rubber

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<v Speaker 5>shoes that were very expensive, very silly.

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<v Speaker 4>What are we talking? Eight hundred yeah, but cost per way.

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<v Speaker 5>You see how much aware my other Balnciaga krockies, like

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<v Speaker 5>every single day, I wear them like they're running shoes.

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<v Speaker 5>But I had a bad experience that put me off

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<v Speaker 5>buying designer for a little bit. Ei there were these

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<v Speaker 5>sunglasses from lowerv. I like sunglasses. I wear them quite

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<v Speaker 5>a bit, these so rare. I was like, oh my god,

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<v Speaker 5>I need to get them the limited edition. I bought

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<v Speaker 5>them six hundred dollars. No, not necessary.

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<v Speaker 4>Anyway.

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<v Speaker 5>The next week I went to La went to I

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<v Speaker 5>was on Melrose shopping and I went to like one

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<v Speaker 5>of those random, you know, fast fashion type boutiques, you know,

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<v Speaker 5>nothing too expensive. What do I see but these same

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<v Speaker 5>glasses on the counter in multiple colors. I'm saying, Oh,

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<v Speaker 5>I's got kind of Accessible boutique is selling six different

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<v Speaker 5>colors of these limited edition sunglasses. Not only were they

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<v Speaker 5>ten dollars, I held both of them next to each

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<v Speaker 5>other couldn't tell the difference.

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<v Speaker 4>Anyway.

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<v Speaker 5>So since then, I've been very very suss on or

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<v Speaker 5>just more discerning on when to even spend on designer

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<v Speaker 5>because I'm aware of the ridiculous markup. But nothing could

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<v Speaker 5>have surprised me for this TikTok I saw about this

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<v Speaker 5>Gucci markup product. I wouldn't say it's a fault, but

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<v Speaker 5>I think it's a website error.

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<v Speaker 4>Listen to this.

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<v Speaker 6>Have we finally found out what it cost luxor brands

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<v Speaker 6>to manufacture their products? So yesterday the Gucci diy a

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<v Speaker 6>figure while it went on sale, they should have been

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<v Speaker 6>advertised for six hundred and fifteen pounds, but there was

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<v Speaker 6>an error on the website and they were listed for

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<v Speaker 6>far less. Several people managed to buy them, and when

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<v Speaker 6>I say several, I mean loads. They were listed for

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<v Speaker 6>eight pounds seventy. So was the human error input and

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<v Speaker 6>instead of the selling price, they imputed the cost price

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<v Speaker 6>of the item. Either way, someone at Gucci is in very,

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<v Speaker 6>very big trouble.

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<v Speaker 7>Eight pounds and I know that there are heaps of

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<v Speaker 7>these factories that claim to be the manufacturers of designer

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<v Speaker 7>wears and sell their wares for much cheaper, But eight

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<v Speaker 7>pounds to six hundred pounds.

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<v Speaker 4>Come on, that wasn't an eight pound bag.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 3>Surely, like places like Gucci have to have ethical factories.

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<v Speaker 5>These are the same places that burn and cut up

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<v Speaker 5>their items so they can't go to outlet stores and

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<v Speaker 5>be sold and bought by people who aren't rich. So

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<v Speaker 5>I feel like ethics it's not at the top of

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<v Speaker 5>the list. How good was that guy's voice though his accent?

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah? Does that mean they got to keep them?

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<v Speaker 8>Well?

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<v Speaker 5>This has happened before on different kind of retailers, and

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<v Speaker 5>usually by the time it becomes TikTok trends, they'll cancel

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<v Speaker 5>the orders and say like, we're really sorry, there was

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<v Speaker 5>a glitch in the system. We've refunded you the money

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<v Speaker 5>you spent. Doesn't It doesn't happen so often that it's

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<v Speaker 5>a thing, but it happens quite a bit every now,

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<v Speaker 5>and the people be like, quick, run to this site,

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<v Speaker 5>there's a glitch, buy the stuff, and then it gets

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<v Speaker 5>so viral when a million people have done it. They're like, Okay,

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<v Speaker 5>we're canceling these orders. One or two of you, great,

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<v Speaker 5>all of you.

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<v Speaker 3>No, that's clever, but damn Gucci, Savage, Flex and frooms.

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<v Speaker 4>Have you seen those.

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<v Speaker 3>Stories or I guess these pictures or moving images of

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<v Speaker 3>influencers taking content in other people's houses and backyards.

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<v Speaker 4>I would say that's like ninety percent of it.

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<v Speaker 6>Is it?

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<v Speaker 5>Not like, Hey, I found a really nice wall. It's

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<v Speaker 5>like the front of somebody's house.

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<v Speaker 3>Remember that p Smith building in La Pink One. Actually

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<v Speaker 3>genius for Paul Smith. I get it when it's a

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<v Speaker 3>commercial property. Anyway, there was this story semi recently about

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<v Speaker 3>this influencer getting a bikini photo outside of this really

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<v Speaker 3>fancy house. It was a coastal fancy yeah like Queensland, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>gold Coast, but.

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<v Speaker 4>Still like a multimillion dollar property. Yeah did you see that?

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<v Speaker 4>I think I did. Yeah, you were telling me there

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<v Speaker 4>was like more of the st oh yeah, this one.

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<v Speaker 5>So this story comes out of this girl undressing in

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<v Speaker 5>front of a property to like change her.

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<v Speaker 4>Outfit to get content.

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<v Speaker 5>And the photo we see is someone taking a photo

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<v Speaker 5>of their CCTV footage. It's crystal clear, it's four K

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<v Speaker 5>you know what I'm saying, it's none of this grainy

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<v Speaker 5>you know, two forty p you can see what's happening here.

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<v Speaker 5>So that happens, and everyone's talking about influencers in this property,

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<v Speaker 5>and then the daily Mail article start coming, thenews dot

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<v Speaker 5>com articles start coming, and you notice this a consistent

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<v Speaker 5>trend of people referencing the house, like it's not just

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<v Speaker 5>some random house, it's a multi milllion dollar house that's

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<v Speaker 5>for sale. This is the address, this is the link,

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<v Speaker 5>this is the whatever. It's a four bedroom, two bathroom

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<v Speaker 5>type situation. And then I was thinking, oh, this would

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<v Speaker 5>be funny, like what if this is pa ha ha

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<v Speaker 5>ha ha. My FBI agent in my phone knew what

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<v Speaker 5>kind of wavelength I was on because then it showed

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<v Speaker 5>me this TikTok of this girl who was also on

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<v Speaker 5>the same wavelength, who was kind of like, this is amazing.

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<v Speaker 5>Pr as if this is not planted, it's like, wouldn't

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<v Speaker 5>it be like if somebody is selling a multimillion dollar property,

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<v Speaker 5>they have the budget. You don't have to, but it

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<v Speaker 5>is customary to allocate a bit of a marketing budget

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<v Speaker 5>to sell your property, whether that's listing it or you know,

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<v Speaker 5>putting it in certain articles or whatever. It's a pretty

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<v Speaker 5>you know, common thing to do. People are like, well,

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<v Speaker 5>what if they paid this influencer to create content outside

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<v Speaker 5>of this house, something salacious that would get people talking

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<v Speaker 5>or better yet, what if the story was pitched to publications.

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<v Speaker 5>It's like, oh, this is like a funny thing that

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<v Speaker 5>we saw this influencers like getting changed out front of her.

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<v Speaker 4>We happened to be selling Janius Genius.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, my sister, without seeing that story, messaged me last

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<v Speaker 3>week this picture of somebody outside her house. And I

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<v Speaker 3>asked her about it, and here's what she had to say.

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<v Speaker 8>Just after I first bought the place but hadn't yet settled,

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<v Speaker 8>mother and I were here just admiring it around, like

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<v Speaker 8>from the outside, and we walked around the back and

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<v Speaker 8>we were looking at the car park and just generally

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<v Speaker 8>admiring the building. And then these two people, like a

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<v Speaker 8>guy and a girl in their twenties early twenties, walked

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<v Speaker 8>out and we're walked down the sort of driveway and

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<v Speaker 8>we're taking all these pictures of the building and just

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<v Speaker 8>talking about how cool it was, and they apologized to

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<v Speaker 8>us and we.

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<v Speaker 4>Laughed and we're like, it's not ours.

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<v Speaker 8>But that kind of made me feel good because I

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<v Speaker 8>just made this huge decision to buy it, and it

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<v Speaker 8>kind of validated my thinking.

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<v Speaker 4>It was okay, what else did you say?

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<v Speaker 5>You guys speak so similar that could just be you

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<v Speaker 5>Like it sounds the way like the way that you

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<v Speaker 5>structure sentences.

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<v Speaker 4>It's the same person.

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<v Speaker 5>Really, Yeah, it's almost at that brand association. Hot person

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<v Speaker 5>using this house as a signal of hotness validates the

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<v Speaker 5>value of said house.

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<v Speaker 4>How do you measure the value of something if a

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<v Speaker 4>hot person is not near?

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<v Speaker 3>It literally instant both social and financial and residential capital.

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<v Speaker 4>So I would say, I just can't get over the

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<v Speaker 4>voice thing. Really you like? You two sound so similar.

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<v Speaker 4>You have the same kind.

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<v Speaker 5>Of like like verbiage and quirks when you speak.

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<v Speaker 4>It's so odd. Wow, we should get her in the

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<v Speaker 4>get her in? Well, we just need one of you,

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<v Speaker 4>so one has to go. You already made a double ganger.

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<v Speaker 4>This is flex and frooms. It's not every day I.

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<v Speaker 5>Read or see information that truly leaves me just at

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<v Speaker 5>a loss for words. But nothing rendered me speechless more

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<v Speaker 5>than seeing a TikTok video of this girl documenting her

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<v Speaker 5>experience living in a seventy person sharehouse.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm sorry, seven zero.

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<v Speaker 5>I don't even know the mechanics of how many bedrooms

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<v Speaker 5>a house needs to have to house seventy people.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, so this is a day in the life of

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<v Speaker 1>someone who lives in a seventy person house in San Francisco.

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<v Speaker 1>That's someone being me, a twenty four year old that

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<v Speaker 1>lives in a bunk bed. Anyway, this is the sink room.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a room for sinks. It's right across in my bedroom,

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<v Speaker 1>which is pretty cool. Some people have things in their rooms,

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<v Speaker 1>but not me.

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<v Speaker 5>Somebody left a comment and said, if you pay more

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<v Speaker 5>than one hundred dollars in rent, that's outrageous.

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<v Speaker 4>She made a reply video.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, this garment is killing me because in what world

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<v Speaker 2>is anyone paying one hundred dollars for rent, even with

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<v Speaker 2>seventy people? Like maybe if this was in Wyoming, but

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<v Speaker 2>I live in go and it's really expensive over here.

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<v Speaker 2>But the biggest question I have been getting is how

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<v Speaker 2>much do I pay in rent? Which is very valid.

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<v Speaker 2>I do feel like I have to explain myself, though,

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<v Speaker 2>so let's get into that.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, so there's singles, doubles, and triples. Although I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know any I think there's like three people living in

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<v Speaker 1>a triple right now.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know anyone else, so I'm not sure how

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<v Speaker 2>many triples there are, so it's mostly singles and doubles.

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<v Speaker 2>Private rooms right now are going for sixteen fifty in UP.

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<v Speaker 2>I guess I'm in a double and double rooms are

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<v Speaker 2>starting at eleven fifty right now.

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<v Speaker 4>That's one extending. Here's the thing.

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<v Speaker 5>When she said seventy persons share house, I thought, okay,

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<v Speaker 5>like creative commune. I'm thinking about ways that could make sense,

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<v Speaker 5>Like maybe there's do you know, thirty bedrooms or something,

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<v Speaker 5>or it's feeling a bit like Midside. There are a bunch

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<v Speaker 5>of you know, bunk beds in a room, very camp five,

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<v Speaker 5>and I thought, maybe it's a temporary situation where you

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<v Speaker 5>get on your feet, that kind of thing, or UNI accommodation.

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<v Speaker 5>And she's just lying about it, like you live in

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<v Speaker 5>a UNI household. No, no, no, she lives in a

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<v Speaker 5>functioning house that was built to accommodate seventy people and

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<v Speaker 5>has sink rooms and sinks in rooms. The thing that

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<v Speaker 5>gets me is SIS is paying premium prices to be there.

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<v Speaker 4>I know.

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<v Speaker 5>She says that San Francisco is expensive, but if you're

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<v Speaker 5>paying two hundred and fifty US dollars or maybe around

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<v Speaker 5>three hundred Australian dollars a week to live with sixty

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<v Speaker 5>nine other people, I'm so sorry that there has to

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<v Speaker 5>be a better way to manage your money.

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<v Speaker 3>I just like, what is it seventy of them? Are

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<v Speaker 3>they also in age? Like?

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<v Speaker 4>What is the building? What are the She only showed

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<v Speaker 4>us the sinks.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, and this is the thing, like she later on

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<v Speaker 5>in the video, you do see her sitting in her

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<v Speaker 5>living room, which is not that big.

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<v Speaker 4>By the way.

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<v Speaker 5>I saw two four seedar couches and one three seater

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<v Speaker 5>and they're all sitting around having a kiki, enjoying each

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<v Speaker 5>other's company. I think it is meant to be like

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<v Speaker 5>a creative household or for like you know, young explains

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<v Speaker 5>implants whichever people just like you know, joining the city

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<v Speaker 5>for the first time. But I'm like, there was no

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<v Speaker 5>better deal for you in seventy people. I don't want

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<v Speaker 5>to sound insensitive because as someone who hasn't lived with

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<v Speaker 5>anyone since my family and the one friend I live

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<v Speaker 5>with for a couple of months, and you currently live

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<v Speaker 5>in a sharehouse as well, we have different approaches to this, so.

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<v Speaker 3>Nothing about this story makes a whole bunch of sense

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<v Speaker 3>to me.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm not gonna lie. You think she's lying.

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<v Speaker 3>It's just like she's omitting something. There's something up with this.

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<v Speaker 4>What like, what do you think if you just had

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<v Speaker 4>to give me your most sinister take?

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<v Speaker 3>My most sinister take is not proper for the podcast.

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<v Speaker 3>Something I can say to you in jest, and then

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<v Speaker 3>it's yeah, I think you're right about the unidorm situation.

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<v Speaker 3>I reckon it's like a UNI or like works putting

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<v Speaker 3>them up. They work some fucked up startup that like

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<v Speaker 3>wants them to be working around the clock, so it's

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<v Speaker 3>like supervising them in their house. That's where my dystopian

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<v Speaker 3>start of my brain goes to. But yeah, man, I

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<v Speaker 3>the most amount of people I've lived with is three.

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<v Speaker 4>I think the minute you go over three three including

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<v Speaker 4>you or three okay, cool, three including me?

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<v Speaker 3>Anything above that, all responsibility is everybody like gives it up.

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<v Speaker 4>It's free for it.

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<v Speaker 3>No one's taking out the bins, okay, no one is.

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<v Speaker 3>We got different schedules. The hot water is running out

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<v Speaker 3>of the bathroom because everybody's taking enormously long showers. So

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<v Speaker 3>I'm currently in the process of moving out of my

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<v Speaker 3>house or like looking for a new house because my

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<v Speaker 3>lease is up in October.

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<v Speaker 4>What are you looking for?

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<v Speaker 3>I'm starting afresh, so I'm gonna build a new house.

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<v Speaker 3>I want to live with two people at the.

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<v Speaker 4>Least, like build a new living environment.

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<v Speaker 5>You're building No, okay, the money is stuck in correct

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<v Speaker 5>the catercut she's flowing.

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<v Speaker 3>Now I'm doing another sharehouse, perhaps like Paddington Area or

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<v Speaker 3>Bronz Tea. I'm kind of like not fast, but yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>creating a new environment. I want, like a really homely

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<v Speaker 3>home with can I ask why, Well, my lease is up.

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<v Speaker 3>I've just been in the place that I'm in for

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<v Speaker 3>two years, living with one other girl, and we're such

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<v Speaker 3>close friends.

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<v Speaker 4>But she's getting a snit.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, but like we might end up together, because we

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<v Speaker 3>might find one of the person to move together. But yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>like I think we can remain friends. Like I think

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<v Speaker 3>you can only live with a person for a certain

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<v Speaker 3>amount of time if you're not in a relationship. Oh

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<v Speaker 3>and that's no shade on her, because how long do

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<v Speaker 3>you think that is?

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<v Speaker 4>Like two years?

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<v Speaker 3>Every sharehouse I've been in, it's been two years and

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<v Speaker 3>then I yeech out of there.

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<v Speaker 4>And how do those conversations go?

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<v Speaker 5>So, because I can imagine, you know the lease is

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<v Speaker 5>coming up, do you address it preamptively and say, hey,

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<v Speaker 5>Lisa's about to end. I'm thinking I might move to

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<v Speaker 5>a different location and you can't come.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, we literally had the conversation last night. Yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>it was fine, like because I our agent called us

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<v Speaker 3>or message us last week saying you've got to make

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<v Speaker 3>a decision about the least in the next week.

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<v Speaker 4>And I came in.

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<v Speaker 3>And I said, I don't want to live here anymore

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<v Speaker 3>because like it's like fucking got mold in the house

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<v Speaker 3>and shit, and I'm just not that into bond eye

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<v Speaker 3>and she knows that, and she loves not.

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<v Speaker 4>That into mold and personal preference.

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<v Speaker 3>Mold spurs in my room are not quite the vibe

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<v Speaker 3>that I'm going for. And yeah, she might continue on

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<v Speaker 3>the least and find someone else. Like it's sad, We're

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<v Speaker 3>both sad.

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<v Speaker 5>Oh yeah, And what's your criteria for the new housemates?

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<v Speaker 5>Do you want people in a creative field? Do you

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<v Speaker 5>like do you want to live with guys?

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<v Speaker 1>Like?

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<v Speaker 3>No, guys? I like someone clean. Cleanliness is really important

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<v Speaker 3>to me, and like, yeah, cleanliness and nice vibes and

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<v Speaker 3>if you're not in a nice mood, go to your

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<v Speaker 3>room kind of style thing, which is every relationship I've

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<v Speaker 3>had in the house has been like that, So I

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<v Speaker 3>just want more of the same thing.

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<v Speaker 5>And is it very hard to find that? Like I

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<v Speaker 5>can imagine when you say you're looking for someone clean,

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<v Speaker 5>everyone's like, hey, I'm clean, and then you don't know

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<v Speaker 5>if that's the case until you physically go and live

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<v Speaker 5>with them, and then you're stuck with a grubby beast.

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<v Speaker 3>I think I'm gonna only live with people that are

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<v Speaker 3>friends of friends that I know I can talk to

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<v Speaker 3>the person they've lived with candidly, oh you on the

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<v Speaker 3>reference to get the scoop.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm not going blind with anyone. I'd rather just.

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<v Speaker 3>Move in by myself, which is also also an option.

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<v Speaker 3>I like that, but I want that communal vibe. You know,

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<v Speaker 3>this is probably gonna be my last sharehouse. I'm twenty seven.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm probably gonna move into my own place in like

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<v Speaker 3>three years, so I may as well just crank it

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<v Speaker 3>if it is. If it is like a messy place,

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<v Speaker 3>then so be it, because I'm gonna have my own

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<v Speaker 3>space soon and it's gonna be immaculate.

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<v Speaker 5>But yeah, it's gonna be immaculate.

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<v Speaker 4>In the side of.

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<v Speaker 3>My little desk that I have next to my microphone

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<v Speaker 3>is a fucking pig.

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<v Speaker 4>Start. We got red bulls, lemonades.

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<v Speaker 5>Made red hoole sitting a mug the Miscellarious, a mug

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<v Speaker 5>that you were drinking sprite out of, but then it

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<v Speaker 5>got demoted into a bin.

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<v Speaker 3>Chocolate sprinkles everywhere. Yeah, I'm a bit of a bish

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<v Speaker 3>pig myself, but you know, the girl wants what the

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<v Speaker 3>girl wants exactly.

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<v Speaker 5>And I can also imagine this is how the this

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<v Speaker 5>girl has decided she's happy to live in a seventy

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<v Speaker 5>person sharehouse. Because if I imagine you're moving to a

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<v Speaker 5>new place and you just want to fast track the

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<v Speaker 5>making friends, building community, knowing where to go, that's one

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<v Speaker 5>way to do it.

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<v Speaker 4>Like, there you go. Those are all your friends.

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<v Speaker 5>You don't need to like seek out anything, you you

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<v Speaker 5>don't need to ask anyone for fresh recommendations. It's all

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<v Speaker 5>in the one space. Maybe the premium you're paying is

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<v Speaker 5>that kind of access to community and a support system.

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<v Speaker 3>Shit to critique you to her, but for your house yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>I like it.

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<v Speaker 5>I would never do it, but I support it. I

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<v Speaker 5>don't think I want to live with anyone.

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<v Speaker 3>What about when you find a partner, Yeah, I've tried.

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<v Speaker 5>You know, you have a little you have your little

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<v Speaker 5>trial runs. I'm like, I've seen what I need to see,

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<v Speaker 5>and I don't think it's necessary. I just definitely think

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<v Speaker 5>that there aren't there aren't very many ways to merge

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<v Speaker 5>two people's living needs in an extremely harmonious way. Like

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<v Speaker 5>one person is always getting the short end of the stick,

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<v Speaker 5>whether it's aesthetically not having your stuff in the space,

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<v Speaker 5>not one in the location, having different budgets. I feel

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<v Speaker 5>like it's this negotiation that I don't feel like doing.

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<v Speaker 3>The aesthetics to me, it's the ugly couch that we

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<v Speaker 3>you move in.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, gross, I like that. Let me know how it goes.

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<v Speaker 4>I will hear about it because it's going to be

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<v Speaker 4>in October. So I've got to get cracking. Well, you're

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<v Speaker 4>gotta move right after you come back from your trip.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, literally, the leases up the day I get back. Huh.

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<v Speaker 4>I don't know how I'm gonna do it. We're going

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<v Speaker 4>to need some help.

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<v Speaker 5>Guys, don't look at us. That's one thing about fruit.

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<v Speaker 5>We should always try to ask for help.

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<v Speaker 4>From the community. No, I'm not Brookie. I've left my

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<v Speaker 4>rings to the office. Can you go and look? Can

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<v Speaker 4>you ask reception? Flex? Did I leave my things at

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<v Speaker 4>the photoshoot? I'm going to text photography.

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<v Speaker 3>I specifically didn't include you in the fucking company wide

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<v Speaker 3>email that I sent on my life literally missing clothes

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<v Speaker 3>from the sheet. Excuse me, everyone, it's fucking embarrassing.

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<v Speaker 4>But I lost for all I lost, and I freaked out,

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<v Speaker 4>and we say, it's not my problem with yours. Anyone.

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<v Speaker 4>Let us know how you go.

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<v Speaker 3>Babe, you're listening to Flex and frooms on Kada. I

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<v Speaker 3>am going to tell you about a relationship dilemma.

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<v Speaker 5>Loved advice, love advice, love advice.

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<v Speaker 4>We are going to give love advice. So let me

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<v Speaker 4>read it to you.

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<v Speaker 3>My friends with Benefits is in a serious relationship and.

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<v Speaker 4>Never told me. Oh that's the title.

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<v Speaker 3>So me and this guy have been friends with benefits

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<v Speaker 3>for about two years now and was doing great until

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<v Speaker 3>a couple of days ago. He posted a mere selfie

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<v Speaker 3>of him with a ring on his ring finger and

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<v Speaker 3>polyoids of a girl inside his phone's cover.

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<v Speaker 4>That's when you know it's serious.

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<v Speaker 3>Then when I checked his account, found out more pictures

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<v Speaker 3>of him and this girl, and they definitely seem like

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<v Speaker 3>a couple. Everyone was commenting things like, oh, y'all just

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<v Speaker 3>look so cute together and stuff like that. So I

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<v Speaker 3>just texted him saying let's end things up, and he

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<v Speaker 3>was like, weird, but okay, considering nothing happened. So I

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<v Speaker 3>texted back saying, how I figured he's in a relationship

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<v Speaker 3>and never told me since the whole friends with benefits

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<v Speaker 3>thing is for single people, and she put in brackets

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<v Speaker 3>if I'm not getting that wrong though, and this is

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<v Speaker 3>pretty much cheating unless they're in an open relationship, which

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<v Speaker 3>I bet to be honest. He then says, I'll give

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<v Speaker 3>you a little advice on how you should never say

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<v Speaker 3>what you just said to anyone, since it's nney a business, bud.

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<v Speaker 4>Take care of yourself.

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<v Speaker 3>WHOA, And I'm here all confused on how it's none

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<v Speaker 3>of my business. First of all, I don't want to

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<v Speaker 3>be someone's side chick and definitely don't want to fool

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<v Speaker 3>someone by letting their partner cheat on them. With me,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm not that kind of person because I would definitely

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<v Speaker 3>tell my friends with benefits if I'm seeing someone, especially

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<v Speaker 3>when it's a serious thing. So I don't know if

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<v Speaker 3>I'm wrong for believing it, And I'm not sure if

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<v Speaker 3>I'm wrong for believing I have a right to know

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<v Speaker 3>about a relationship, or if he's an absolute jerk. It's

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<v Speaker 3>a lot, it's a lot.

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<v Speaker 5>I think the first thing we need to figure out is,

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<v Speaker 5>I don't think the question she's asking is the question

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<v Speaker 5>that she wants answers to, because this feels a bit

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<v Speaker 5>like a you didn't ask the right questions, you didn't

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<v Speaker 5>get the right answer. First, she says that I don't

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<v Speaker 5>think that friends with benefits should have other relationships.

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<v Speaker 4>I thought that was a whole.

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<v Speaker 5>Point, Like we have this casual ting here, a little

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<v Speaker 5>casual thing here, and those two shall not meet because

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<v Speaker 5>it's a casual relationship. Also, you found yourself in a

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<v Speaker 5>two year friends with benefits situation. I'm sensing a bit

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<v Speaker 5>of bitterness because not only is the person that you've

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<v Speaker 5>been doing the things with in a whole other relationship,

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<v Speaker 5>they're in a whole committed matrimonial relationship that's got a

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<v Speaker 5>sting that's gotta hurt more than regular. Like I just

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<v Speaker 5>like somebody else like, not only do I like someone else,

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<v Speaker 5>I'm probably in la and with them totally. I don't

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<v Speaker 5>think that friends with benefits have to disclose what they're

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<v Speaker 5>doing outside of that relationship unless you've decided that you're

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<v Speaker 5>in a traditional relationship with traditional expectations. I think she

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<v Speaker 5>can be upset that she didn't know. That's a weird

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<v Speaker 5>thing to find out all of a sudden, But I

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<v Speaker 5>do think her approach lacked a lot of tact in

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<v Speaker 5>the sense that she assumed that she was the number

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<v Speaker 5>one and so approach that situation as though he had

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<v Speaker 5>been deceitful in a way that disrespected the boundaries of

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<v Speaker 5>their relationship. But based on the way they're interacting does

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<v Speaker 5>it's not there were any no.

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<v Speaker 4>I think she could have gone about it better.

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<v Speaker 3>She probably could have been like, hey, I noticed this

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<v Speaker 3>thing when I were on your paste.

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<v Speaker 4>How did she go about it? Again?

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<v Speaker 3>She just found a photo of them and then said, hey,

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<v Speaker 3>I didn't know that you were dating someone. She was like,

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<v Speaker 3>let's end things. Yeah, and then he was like weird,

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<v Speaker 3>but okay. And then she was like, seeing as you have.

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<v Speaker 5>A whole nother, you know, relationship, you should have told me,

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<v Speaker 5>And he was like, yeah, tip for next time, don't

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<v Speaker 5>come at people that way, which I think he might

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<v Speaker 5>have been trying to say, like you don't know, because

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<v Speaker 5>he was alluding to like, you don't know my business

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<v Speaker 5>and like you didn't ask, therefore, why are you getting

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<v Speaker 5>mad at me?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, because let's send things is pretty straight up.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I don't know. It's tricky.

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<v Speaker 5>I feel for her because clearly she's been blindsided. She's

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<v Speaker 5>been blindsided and it's a huge quote unquote bomb to

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<v Speaker 5>drop on someone. And I can imagine like the first

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<v Speaker 5>thing you think to do when you've been hit with

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<v Speaker 5>surprising information is not to lead with tact like it's

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<v Speaker 5>a very difficult thing to do. But to answer her question, no,

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<v Speaker 5>I don't think that friends with benefits have to disclose

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<v Speaker 5>what they're doing outside of the context of that relationship

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<v Speaker 5>if it's not harming your health.

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<v Speaker 4>I agree.

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<v Speaker 3>I was gonna say, I think she's got a good

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<v Speaker 3>point about like she doesn't know if the girlfriend or

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<v Speaker 3>the wife knows about it, and I think that's a

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<v Speaker 3>really nice thing to consider. But after hearing what you say, FLEXI,

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<v Speaker 3>it's not her business and.

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<v Speaker 5>Also like saying that that was her main priority, but

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<v Speaker 5>that's not what you asked. You didn't say, hey, does

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<v Speaker 5>your girlfriend know that we've been sleeping with each other?

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<v Speaker 4>You just said let's end things. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 5>So realistically, if it was like a righteous crusade and

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<v Speaker 5>being like I just want to make sure that she's

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<v Speaker 5>all good. Yeah, when I started with that, the thing

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<v Speaker 5>that sucks with her in this instance is like where

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<v Speaker 5>is the juicy gas? So you don't even know what

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<v Speaker 5>the situation is because he could be cheating, and if

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<v Speaker 5>so scumbag behavior, they could be equally nominogamous.

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<v Speaker 4>If so, chill, we know what.

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<v Speaker 3>That's a pipeline too. Well, we won't get into it.

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<v Speaker 4>This is flex and frooms.

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<v Speaker 5>On the other day, I was talking to you about

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<v Speaker 5>how there is no biological physiological reason for annoyance.

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<v Speaker 4>There should be, but it has.

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<v Speaker 5>Not been researched enough for us have a definitive answer,

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<v Speaker 5>Like we can understand why people in certain regions have

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<v Speaker 5>longer eyelashes to keep the sand away during dust storms,

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<v Speaker 5>things like this. But as I was researching the reason

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<v Speaker 5>why we get annoyed, I was introduced to this social

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<v Speaker 5>experiment that happened. So people were researching the psychology of

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<v Speaker 5>waiting in line, and what is it about it that

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<v Speaker 5>makes it actually irritating, you know, getting to the cruxfit.

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<v Speaker 5>So in the fifties, there was this high rise building

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<v Speaker 5>in Manhattan and they had this problem because there was

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<v Speaker 5>only one lift going up and down, so all the

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<v Speaker 5>tenants had these excessively long wait times to go or

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<v Speaker 5>to wait people to go all the way up and

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<v Speaker 5>come all the way down, and sometimes it didn't stop.

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<v Speaker 5>And people were getting frustrated because when they took their

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<v Speaker 5>lunch breaks, they were stuck there. They couldn't actually enjoy

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<v Speaker 5>their meals.

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<v Speaker 4>Fair fine.

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<v Speaker 5>They kept complaining, and so the building managers were like,

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<v Speaker 5>what should we do? We can't just install another elevator,

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<v Speaker 5>it's not going to work. So the building manager asked

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<v Speaker 5>his staff for any suggestions, like what do you think

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<v Speaker 5>we can start to implement to make people less frustrated

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<v Speaker 5>because they are blowing up my dms and I cannot

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<v Speaker 5>deal with them. Yeah, the nineteen fifty CMS. So one

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<v Speaker 5>employee was like, people are probably just bored. I don't

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<v Speaker 5>think they I think they're overestimating how long they're waiting

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<v Speaker 5>because there's nothing for them to do, no mobiles, no entertainment.

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<v Speaker 5>So he was like, just install some mirrors, and the

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<v Speaker 5>guys were like, calm down. He's like, no, seriously, put

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<v Speaker 5>some mirrors there. Give people something to do, watch other people,

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<v Speaker 5>watch each other, be distracted by their own impression. And

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<v Speaker 5>so they did install the floor to ceiling mirrors because

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<v Speaker 5>it was the cheapest option, and he said, immediately complaints

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<v Speaker 5>went down to zero. So is there a correlation between

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<v Speaker 5>annoyance and to officiality. Probably, But realistically people often aren't

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<v Speaker 5>let people overestimate time or how long something takes when

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<v Speaker 5>they're not entertained.

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<v Speaker 3>That is so true. Now I'm thinking about all the

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<v Speaker 3>places that I've been that have a lift, there's almost

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<v Speaker 3>always a mirror yep.

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<v Speaker 4>And it goes so much quicker. You can prene for

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<v Speaker 4>about a minute and a half, two minutes if you

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<v Speaker 4>really wanted.

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<v Speaker 1>To love that.

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<v Speaker 3>Preening is like what sims do. Yeah, I can't imagine

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<v Speaker 3>a human yep. Yeah.

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