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Speaker 3: Hello and welcome to this most gorgeous edition of Flex
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Speaker 4: I love that. Thanks.
Speaker 5: This This episode is mostly nightmarish.
Speaker 4: I uncovered a video, am I an archaeologist.
Speaker 3: I wasn't.
Speaker 4: I think it wasn't delivered to me by an algorith
Speaker 4: James with telescope.
Speaker 3: He's like, damn, I really worked hard back then.
Speaker 4: Oh my goodness.
Speaker 5: I saw a TikTok video about this girl living in
Speaker 5: a seventy person sharehouse. I definitely thought she was taking
Speaker 5: the piss for sure. I thought she lived at like
Speaker 5: a unidorm a tree and that was a little hook.
Speaker 4: It wasn't.
Speaker 5: And this episode is us talking about our own experiences
Speaker 5: with share housing through me giving her current housemate the snip,
Speaker 5: and also just any rules and regulation to what it
Speaker 5: takes to live with one of us expressions of interest
Speaker 5: for through me, none of that.
Speaker 4: I'll find it myself. Manifesting. Okay, okay, let's go flex.
Speaker 5: And I've only recently started buying a few designer things
Speaker 5: here and there, play Valenciaga crocs, crocs, But I only
Speaker 5: try and buy things that I would actually wear, not
Speaker 5: for status, just for aesthetic.
Speaker 4: Like the.
Speaker 5: Inherent value of these crocs are not there. They're rubber
Speaker 5: shoes that were very expensive, very silly.
Speaker 4: What are we talking? Eight hundred yeah, but cost per way.
Speaker 5: You see how much aware my other Balnciaga krockies, like
Speaker 5: every single day, I wear them like they're running shoes.
Speaker 5: But I had a bad experience that put me off
Speaker 5: buying designer for a little bit. Ei there were these
Speaker 5: sunglasses from lowerv. I like sunglasses. I wear them quite
Speaker 5: a bit, these so rare. I was like, oh my god,
Speaker 5: I need to get them the limited edition. I bought
Speaker 5: them six hundred dollars. No, not necessary.
Speaker 4: Anyway.
Speaker 5: The next week I went to La went to I
Speaker 5: was on Melrose shopping and I went to like one
Speaker 5: of those random, you know, fast fashion type boutiques, you know,
Speaker 5: nothing too expensive. What do I see but these same
Speaker 5: glasses on the counter in multiple colors. I'm saying, Oh,
Speaker 5: I's got kind of Accessible boutique is selling six different
Speaker 5: colors of these limited edition sunglasses. Not only were they
Speaker 5: ten dollars, I held both of them next to each
Speaker 5: other couldn't tell the difference.
Speaker 4: Anyway.
Speaker 5: So since then, I've been very very suss on or
Speaker 5: just more discerning on when to even spend on designer
Speaker 5: because I'm aware of the ridiculous markup. But nothing could
Speaker 5: have surprised me for this TikTok I saw about this
Speaker 5: Gucci markup product. I wouldn't say it's a fault, but
Speaker 5: I think it's a website error.
Speaker 4: Listen to this.
Speaker 6: Have we finally found out what it cost luxor brands
Speaker 6: to manufacture their products? So yesterday the Gucci diy a
Speaker 6: figure while it went on sale, they should have been
Speaker 6: advertised for six hundred and fifteen pounds, but there was
Speaker 6: an error on the website and they were listed for
Speaker 6: far less. Several people managed to buy them, and when
Speaker 6: I say several, I mean loads. They were listed for
Speaker 6: eight pounds seventy. So was the human error input and
Speaker 6: instead of the selling price, they imputed the cost price
Speaker 6: of the item. Either way, someone at Gucci is in very,
Speaker 6: very big trouble.
Speaker 7: Eight pounds and I know that there are heaps of
Speaker 7: these factories that claim to be the manufacturers of designer
Speaker 7: wears and sell their wares for much cheaper, But eight
Speaker 7: pounds to six hundred pounds.
Speaker 4: Come on, that wasn't an eight pound bag.
Speaker 2: I don't know.
Speaker 3: Surely, like places like Gucci have to have ethical factories.
Speaker 5: These are the same places that burn and cut up
Speaker 5: their items so they can't go to outlet stores and
Speaker 5: be sold and bought by people who aren't rich. So
Speaker 5: I feel like ethics it's not at the top of
Speaker 5: the list. How good was that guy's voice though his accent?
Speaker 4: Yeah? Does that mean they got to keep them?
Speaker 8: Well?
Speaker 5: This has happened before on different kind of retailers, and
Speaker 5: usually by the time it becomes TikTok trends, they'll cancel
Speaker 5: the orders and say like, we're really sorry, there was
Speaker 5: a glitch in the system. We've refunded you the money
Speaker 5: you spent. Doesn't It doesn't happen so often that it's
Speaker 5: a thing, but it happens quite a bit every now,
Speaker 5: and the people be like, quick, run to this site,
Speaker 5: there's a glitch, buy the stuff, and then it gets
Speaker 5: so viral when a million people have done it. They're like, Okay,
Speaker 5: we're canceling these orders. One or two of you, great,
Speaker 5: all of you.
Speaker 3: No, that's clever, but damn Gucci, Savage, Flex and frooms.
Speaker 4: Have you seen those.
Speaker 3: Stories or I guess these pictures or moving images of
Speaker 3: influencers taking content in other people's houses and backyards.
Speaker 4: I would say that's like ninety percent of it.
Speaker 6: Is it?
Speaker 5: Not like, Hey, I found a really nice wall. It's
Speaker 5: like the front of somebody's house.
Speaker 3: Remember that p Smith building in La Pink One. Actually
Speaker 3: genius for Paul Smith. I get it when it's a
Speaker 3: commercial property. Anyway, there was this story semi recently about
Speaker 3: this influencer getting a bikini photo outside of this really
Speaker 3: fancy house. It was a coastal fancy yeah like Queensland, Yeah,
Speaker 3: gold Coast, but.
Speaker 4: Still like a multimillion dollar property. Yeah did you see that?
Speaker 4: I think I did. Yeah, you were telling me there
Speaker 4: was like more of the st oh yeah, this one.
Speaker 5: So this story comes out of this girl undressing in
Speaker 5: front of a property to like change her.
Speaker 4: Outfit to get content.
Speaker 5: And the photo we see is someone taking a photo
Speaker 5: of their CCTV footage. It's crystal clear, it's four K
Speaker 5: you know what I'm saying, it's none of this grainy
Speaker 5: you know, two forty p you can see what's happening here.
Speaker 5: So that happens, and everyone's talking about influencers in this property,
Speaker 5: and then the daily Mail article start coming, thenews dot
Speaker 5: com articles start coming, and you notice this a consistent
Speaker 5: trend of people referencing the house, like it's not just
Speaker 5: some random house, it's a multi milllion dollar house that's
Speaker 5: for sale. This is the address, this is the link,
Speaker 5: this is the whatever. It's a four bedroom, two bathroom
Speaker 5: type situation. And then I was thinking, oh, this would
Speaker 5: be funny, like what if this is pa ha ha
Speaker 5: ha ha. My FBI agent in my phone knew what
Speaker 5: kind of wavelength I was on because then it showed
Speaker 5: me this TikTok of this girl who was also on
Speaker 5: the same wavelength, who was kind of like, this is amazing.
Speaker 5: Pr as if this is not planted, it's like, wouldn't
Speaker 5: it be like if somebody is selling a multimillion dollar property,
Speaker 5: they have the budget. You don't have to, but it
Speaker 5: is customary to allocate a bit of a marketing budget
Speaker 5: to sell your property, whether that's listing it or you know,
Speaker 5: putting it in certain articles or whatever. It's a pretty
Speaker 5: you know, common thing to do. People are like, well,
Speaker 5: what if they paid this influencer to create content outside
Speaker 5: of this house, something salacious that would get people talking
Speaker 5: or better yet, what if the story was pitched to publications.
Speaker 5: It's like, oh, this is like a funny thing that
Speaker 5: we saw this influencers like getting changed out front of her.
Speaker 4: We happened to be selling Janius Genius.
Speaker 3: Well, my sister, without seeing that story, messaged me last
Speaker 3: week this picture of somebody outside her house. And I
Speaker 3: asked her about it, and here's what she had to say.
Speaker 8: Just after I first bought the place but hadn't yet settled,
Speaker 8: mother and I were here just admiring it around, like
Speaker 8: from the outside, and we walked around the back and
Speaker 8: we were looking at the car park and just generally
Speaker 8: admiring the building. And then these two people, like a
Speaker 8: guy and a girl in their twenties early twenties, walked
Speaker 8: out and we're walked down the sort of driveway and
Speaker 8: we're taking all these pictures of the building and just
Speaker 8: talking about how cool it was, and they apologized to
Speaker 8: us and we.
Speaker 4: Laughed and we're like, it's not ours.
Speaker 8: But that kind of made me feel good because I
Speaker 8: just made this huge decision to buy it, and it
Speaker 8: kind of validated my thinking.
Speaker 4: It was okay, what else did you say?
Speaker 5: You guys speak so similar that could just be you
Speaker 5: Like it sounds the way like the way that you
Speaker 5: structure sentences.
Speaker 4: It's the same person.
Speaker 5: Really, Yeah, it's almost at that brand association. Hot person
Speaker 5: using this house as a signal of hotness validates the
Speaker 5: value of said house.
Speaker 4: How do you measure the value of something if a
Speaker 4: hot person is not near?
Speaker 3: It literally instant both social and financial and residential capital.
Speaker 4: So I would say, I just can't get over the
Speaker 4: voice thing. Really you like? You two sound so similar.
Speaker 4: You have the same kind.
Speaker 5: Of like like verbiage and quirks when you speak.
Speaker 4: It's so odd. Wow, we should get her in the
Speaker 4: get her in? Well, we just need one of you,
Speaker 4: so one has to go. You already made a double ganger.
Speaker 4: This is flex and frooms. It's not every day I.
Speaker 5: Read or see information that truly leaves me just at
Speaker 5: a loss for words. But nothing rendered me speechless more
Speaker 5: than seeing a TikTok video of this girl documenting her
Speaker 5: experience living in a seventy person sharehouse.
Speaker 4: I'm sorry, seven zero.
Speaker 5: I don't even know the mechanics of how many bedrooms
Speaker 5: a house needs to have to house seventy people.
Speaker 1: Okay, so this is a day in the life of
Speaker 1: someone who lives in a seventy person house in San Francisco.
Speaker 1: That's someone being me, a twenty four year old that
Speaker 1: lives in a bunk bed. Anyway, this is the sink room.
Speaker 1: It's a room for sinks. It's right across in my bedroom,
Speaker 1: which is pretty cool. Some people have things in their rooms,
Speaker 1: but not me.
Speaker 5: Somebody left a comment and said, if you pay more
Speaker 5: than one hundred dollars in rent, that's outrageous.
Speaker 4: She made a reply video.
Speaker 2: Okay, this garment is killing me because in what world
Speaker 2: is anyone paying one hundred dollars for rent, even with
Speaker 2: seventy people? Like maybe if this was in Wyoming, but
Speaker 2: I live in go and it's really expensive over here.
Speaker 2: But the biggest question I have been getting is how
Speaker 2: much do I pay in rent? Which is very valid.
Speaker 2: I do feel like I have to explain myself, though,
Speaker 2: so let's get into that.
Speaker 1: Okay, so there's singles, doubles, and triples. Although I don't
Speaker 1: know any I think there's like three people living in
Speaker 1: a triple right now.
Speaker 2: I don't know anyone else, so I'm not sure how
Speaker 2: many triples there are, so it's mostly singles and doubles.
Speaker 2: Private rooms right now are going for sixteen fifty in UP.
Speaker 2: I guess I'm in a double and double rooms are
Speaker 2: starting at eleven fifty right now.
Speaker 4: That's one extending. Here's the thing.
Speaker 5: When she said seventy persons share house, I thought, okay,
Speaker 5: like creative commune. I'm thinking about ways that could make sense,
Speaker 5: Like maybe there's do you know, thirty bedrooms or something,
Speaker 5: or it's feeling a bit like Midside. There are a bunch
Speaker 5: of you know, bunk beds in a room, very camp five,
Speaker 5: and I thought, maybe it's a temporary situation where you
Speaker 5: get on your feet, that kind of thing, or UNI accommodation.
Speaker 5: And she's just lying about it, like you live in
Speaker 5: a UNI household. No, no, no, she lives in a
Speaker 5: functioning house that was built to accommodate seventy people and
Speaker 5: has sink rooms and sinks in rooms. The thing that
Speaker 5: gets me is SIS is paying premium prices to be there.
Speaker 4: I know.
Speaker 5: She says that San Francisco is expensive, but if you're
Speaker 5: paying two hundred and fifty US dollars or maybe around
Speaker 5: three hundred Australian dollars a week to live with sixty
Speaker 5: nine other people, I'm so sorry that there has to
Speaker 5: be a better way to manage your money.
Speaker 3: I just like, what is it seventy of them? Are
Speaker 3: they also in age? Like?
Speaker 4: What is the building? What are the She only showed
Speaker 4: us the sinks.
Speaker 5: Yeah, and this is the thing, like she later on
Speaker 5: in the video, you do see her sitting in her
Speaker 5: living room, which is not that big.
Speaker 4: By the way.
Speaker 5: I saw two four seedar couches and one three seater
Speaker 5: and they're all sitting around having a kiki, enjoying each
Speaker 5: other's company. I think it is meant to be like
Speaker 5: a creative household or for like you know, young explains
Speaker 5: implants whichever people just like you know, joining the city
Speaker 5: for the first time. But I'm like, there was no
Speaker 5: better deal for you in seventy people. I don't want
Speaker 5: to sound insensitive because as someone who hasn't lived with
Speaker 5: anyone since my family and the one friend I live
Speaker 5: with for a couple of months, and you currently live
Speaker 5: in a sharehouse as well, we have different approaches to this, so.
Speaker 3: Nothing about this story makes a whole bunch of sense
Speaker 3: to me.
Speaker 4: I'm not gonna lie. You think she's lying.
Speaker 3: It's just like she's omitting something. There's something up with this.
Speaker 4: What like, what do you think if you just had
Speaker 4: to give me your most sinister take?
Speaker 3: My most sinister take is not proper for the podcast.
Speaker 3: Something I can say to you in jest, and then
Speaker 3: it's yeah, I think you're right about the unidorm situation.
Speaker 3: I reckon it's like a UNI or like works putting
Speaker 3: them up. They work some fucked up startup that like
Speaker 3: wants them to be working around the clock, so it's
Speaker 3: like supervising them in their house. That's where my dystopian
Speaker 3: start of my brain goes to. But yeah, man, I
Speaker 3: the most amount of people I've lived with is three.
Speaker 4: I think the minute you go over three three including
Speaker 4: you or three okay, cool, three including me?
Speaker 3: Anything above that, all responsibility is everybody like gives it up.
Speaker 4: It's free for it.
Speaker 3: No one's taking out the bins, okay, no one is.
Speaker 3: We got different schedules. The hot water is running out
Speaker 3: of the bathroom because everybody's taking enormously long showers. So
Speaker 3: I'm currently in the process of moving out of my
Speaker 3: house or like looking for a new house because my
Speaker 3: lease is up in October.
Speaker 4: What are you looking for?
Speaker 3: I'm starting afresh, so I'm gonna build a new house.
Speaker 3: I want to live with two people at the.
Speaker 4: Least, like build a new living environment.
Speaker 5: You're building No, okay, the money is stuck in correct
Speaker 5: the catercut she's flowing.
Speaker 3: Now I'm doing another sharehouse, perhaps like Paddington Area or
Speaker 3: Bronz Tea. I'm kind of like not fast, but yeah,
Speaker 3: creating a new environment. I want, like a really homely
Speaker 3: home with can I ask why, Well, my lease is up.
Speaker 3: I've just been in the place that I'm in for
Speaker 3: two years, living with one other girl, and we're such
Speaker 3: close friends.
Speaker 4: But she's getting a snit.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but like we might end up together, because we
Speaker 3: might find one of the person to move together. But yeah,
Speaker 3: like I think we can remain friends. Like I think
Speaker 3: you can only live with a person for a certain
Speaker 3: amount of time if you're not in a relationship. Oh
Speaker 3: and that's no shade on her, because how long do
Speaker 3: you think that is?
Speaker 4: Like two years?
Speaker 3: Every sharehouse I've been in, it's been two years and
Speaker 3: then I yeech out of there.
Speaker 4: And how do those conversations go?
Speaker 5: So, because I can imagine, you know the lease is
Speaker 5: coming up, do you address it preamptively and say, hey,
Speaker 5: Lisa's about to end. I'm thinking I might move to
Speaker 5: a different location and you can't come.
Speaker 3: Well, we literally had the conversation last night. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 3: it was fine, like because I our agent called us
Speaker 3: or message us last week saying you've got to make
Speaker 3: a decision about the least in the next week.
Speaker 4: And I came in.
Speaker 3: And I said, I don't want to live here anymore
Speaker 3: because like it's like fucking got mold in the house
Speaker 3: and shit, and I'm just not that into bond eye
Speaker 3: and she knows that, and she loves not.
Speaker 4: That into mold and personal preference.
Speaker 3: Mold spurs in my room are not quite the vibe
Speaker 3: that I'm going for. And yeah, she might continue on
Speaker 3: the least and find someone else. Like it's sad, We're
Speaker 3: both sad.
Speaker 5: Oh yeah, And what's your criteria for the new housemates?
Speaker 5: Do you want people in a creative field? Do you
Speaker 5: like do you want to live with guys?
Speaker 1: Like?
Speaker 3: No, guys? I like someone clean. Cleanliness is really important
Speaker 3: to me, and like, yeah, cleanliness and nice vibes and
Speaker 3: if you're not in a nice mood, go to your
Speaker 3: room kind of style thing, which is every relationship I've
Speaker 3: had in the house has been like that, So I
Speaker 3: just want more of the same thing.
Speaker 5: And is it very hard to find that? Like I
Speaker 5: can imagine when you say you're looking for someone clean,
Speaker 5: everyone's like, hey, I'm clean, and then you don't know
Speaker 5: if that's the case until you physically go and live
Speaker 5: with them, and then you're stuck with a grubby beast.
Speaker 3: I think I'm gonna only live with people that are
Speaker 3: friends of friends that I know I can talk to
Speaker 3: the person they've lived with candidly, oh you on the
Speaker 3: reference to get the scoop.
Speaker 4: I'm not going blind with anyone. I'd rather just.
Speaker 3: Move in by myself, which is also also an option.
Speaker 3: I like that, but I want that communal vibe. You know,
Speaker 3: this is probably gonna be my last sharehouse. I'm twenty seven.
Speaker 3: I'm probably gonna move into my own place in like
Speaker 3: three years, so I may as well just crank it
Speaker 3: if it is. If it is like a messy place,
Speaker 3: then so be it, because I'm gonna have my own
Speaker 3: space soon and it's gonna be immaculate.
Speaker 5: But yeah, it's gonna be immaculate.
Speaker 4: In the side of.
Speaker 3: My little desk that I have next to my microphone
Speaker 3: is a fucking pig.
Speaker 4: Start. We got red bulls, lemonades.
Speaker 5: Made red hoole sitting a mug the Miscellarious, a mug
Speaker 5: that you were drinking sprite out of, but then it
Speaker 5: got demoted into a bin.
Speaker 3: Chocolate sprinkles everywhere. Yeah, I'm a bit of a bish
Speaker 3: pig myself, but you know, the girl wants what the
Speaker 3: girl wants exactly.
Speaker 5: And I can also imagine this is how the this
Speaker 5: girl has decided she's happy to live in a seventy
Speaker 5: person sharehouse. Because if I imagine you're moving to a
Speaker 5: new place and you just want to fast track the
Speaker 5: making friends, building community, knowing where to go, that's one
Speaker 5: way to do it.
Speaker 4: Like, there you go. Those are all your friends.
Speaker 5: You don't need to like seek out anything, you you
Speaker 5: don't need to ask anyone for fresh recommendations. It's all
Speaker 5: in the one space. Maybe the premium you're paying is
Speaker 5: that kind of access to community and a support system.
Speaker 3: Shit to critique you to her, but for your house yeah,
Speaker 3: I like it.
Speaker 5: I would never do it, but I support it. I
Speaker 5: don't think I want to live with anyone.
Speaker 3: What about when you find a partner, Yeah, I've tried.
Speaker 5: You know, you have a little you have your little
Speaker 5: trial runs. I'm like, I've seen what I need to see,
Speaker 5: and I don't think it's necessary. I just definitely think
Speaker 5: that there aren't there aren't very many ways to merge
Speaker 5: two people's living needs in an extremely harmonious way. Like
Speaker 5: one person is always getting the short end of the stick,
Speaker 5: whether it's aesthetically not having your stuff in the space,
Speaker 5: not one in the location, having different budgets. I feel
Speaker 5: like it's this negotiation that I don't feel like doing.
Speaker 3: The aesthetics to me, it's the ugly couch that we
Speaker 3: you move in.
Speaker 4: Yeah, gross, I like that. Let me know how it goes.
Speaker 4: I will hear about it because it's going to be
Speaker 4: in October. So I've got to get cracking. Well, you're
Speaker 4: gotta move right after you come back from your trip.
Speaker 3: Yeah, literally, the leases up the day I get back. Huh.
Speaker 4: I don't know how I'm gonna do it. We're going
Speaker 4: to need some help.
Speaker 5: Guys, don't look at us. That's one thing about fruit.
Speaker 5: We should always try to ask for help.
Speaker 4: From the community. No, I'm not Brookie. I've left my
Speaker 4: rings to the office. Can you go and look? Can
Speaker 4: you ask reception? Flex? Did I leave my things at
Speaker 4: the photoshoot? I'm going to text photography.
Speaker 3: I specifically didn't include you in the fucking company wide
Speaker 3: email that I sent on my life literally missing clothes
Speaker 3: from the sheet. Excuse me, everyone, it's fucking embarrassing.
Speaker 4: But I lost for all I lost, and I freaked out,
Speaker 4: and we say, it's not my problem with yours. Anyone.
Speaker 4: Let us know how you go.
Speaker 3: Babe, you're listening to Flex and frooms on Kada. I
Speaker 3: am going to tell you about a relationship dilemma.
Speaker 5: Loved advice, love advice, love advice.
Speaker 4: We are going to give love advice. So let me
Speaker 4: read it to you.
Speaker 3: My friends with Benefits is in a serious relationship and.
Speaker 4: Never told me. Oh that's the title.
Speaker 3: So me and this guy have been friends with benefits
Speaker 3: for about two years now and was doing great until
Speaker 3: a couple of days ago. He posted a mere selfie
Speaker 3: of him with a ring on his ring finger and
Speaker 3: polyoids of a girl inside his phone's cover.
Speaker 4: That's when you know it's serious.
Speaker 3: Then when I checked his account, found out more pictures
Speaker 3: of him and this girl, and they definitely seem like
Speaker 3: a couple. Everyone was commenting things like, oh, y'all just
Speaker 3: look so cute together and stuff like that. So I
Speaker 3: just texted him saying let's end things up, and he
Speaker 3: was like, weird, but okay, considering nothing happened. So I
Speaker 3: texted back saying, how I figured he's in a relationship
Speaker 3: and never told me since the whole friends with benefits
Speaker 3: thing is for single people, and she put in brackets
Speaker 3: if I'm not getting that wrong though, and this is
Speaker 3: pretty much cheating unless they're in an open relationship, which
Speaker 3: I bet to be honest. He then says, I'll give
Speaker 3: you a little advice on how you should never say
Speaker 3: what you just said to anyone, since it's nney a business, bud.
Speaker 4: Take care of yourself.
Speaker 3: WHOA, And I'm here all confused on how it's none
Speaker 3: of my business. First of all, I don't want to
Speaker 3: be someone's side chick and definitely don't want to fool
Speaker 3: someone by letting their partner cheat on them. With me,
Speaker 3: I'm not that kind of person because I would definitely
Speaker 3: tell my friends with benefits if I'm seeing someone, especially
Speaker 3: when it's a serious thing. So I don't know if
Speaker 3: I'm wrong for believing it, And I'm not sure if
Speaker 3: I'm wrong for believing I have a right to know
Speaker 3: about a relationship, or if he's an absolute jerk. It's
Speaker 3: a lot, it's a lot.
Speaker 5: I think the first thing we need to figure out is,
Speaker 5: I don't think the question she's asking is the question
Speaker 5: that she wants answers to, because this feels a bit
Speaker 5: like a you didn't ask the right questions, you didn't
Speaker 5: get the right answer. First, she says that I don't
Speaker 5: think that friends with benefits should have other relationships.
Speaker 4: I thought that was a whole.
Speaker 5: Point, Like we have this casual ting here, a little
Speaker 5: casual thing here, and those two shall not meet because
Speaker 5: it's a casual relationship. Also, you found yourself in a
Speaker 5: two year friends with benefits situation. I'm sensing a bit
Speaker 5: of bitterness because not only is the person that you've
Speaker 5: been doing the things with in a whole other relationship,
Speaker 5: they're in a whole committed matrimonial relationship that's got a
Speaker 5: sting that's gotta hurt more than regular. Like I just
Speaker 5: like somebody else like, not only do I like someone else,
Speaker 5: I'm probably in la and with them totally. I don't
Speaker 5: think that friends with benefits have to disclose what they're
Speaker 5: doing outside of that relationship unless you've decided that you're
Speaker 5: in a traditional relationship with traditional expectations. I think she
Speaker 5: can be upset that she didn't know. That's a weird
Speaker 5: thing to find out all of a sudden, But I
Speaker 5: do think her approach lacked a lot of tact in
Speaker 5: the sense that she assumed that she was the number
Speaker 5: one and so approach that situation as though he had
Speaker 5: been deceitful in a way that disrespected the boundaries of
Speaker 5: their relationship. But based on the way they're interacting does
Speaker 5: it's not there were any no.
Speaker 4: I think she could have gone about it better.
Speaker 3: She probably could have been like, hey, I noticed this
Speaker 3: thing when I were on your paste.
Speaker 4: How did she go about it? Again?
Speaker 3: She just found a photo of them and then said, hey,
Speaker 3: I didn't know that you were dating someone. She was like,
Speaker 3: let's end things. Yeah, and then he was like weird,
Speaker 3: but okay. And then she was like, seeing as you have.
Speaker 5: A whole nother, you know, relationship, you should have told me,
Speaker 5: And he was like, yeah, tip for next time, don't
Speaker 5: come at people that way, which I think he might
Speaker 5: have been trying to say, like you don't know, because
Speaker 5: he was alluding to like, you don't know my business
Speaker 5: and like you didn't ask, therefore, why are you getting
Speaker 5: mad at me?
Speaker 3: Yeah, because let's send things is pretty straight up.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I don't know. It's tricky.
Speaker 5: I feel for her because clearly she's been blindsided. She's
Speaker 5: been blindsided and it's a huge quote unquote bomb to
Speaker 5: drop on someone. And I can imagine like the first
Speaker 5: thing you think to do when you've been hit with
Speaker 5: surprising information is not to lead with tact like it's
Speaker 5: a very difficult thing to do. But to answer her question, no,
Speaker 5: I don't think that friends with benefits have to disclose
Speaker 5: what they're doing outside of the context of that relationship
Speaker 5: if it's not harming your health.
Speaker 4: I agree.
Speaker 3: I was gonna say, I think she's got a good
Speaker 3: point about like she doesn't know if the girlfriend or
Speaker 3: the wife knows about it, and I think that's a
Speaker 3: really nice thing to consider. But after hearing what you say, FLEXI,
Speaker 3: it's not her business and.
Speaker 5: Also like saying that that was her main priority, but
Speaker 5: that's not what you asked. You didn't say, hey, does
Speaker 5: your girlfriend know that we've been sleeping with each other?
Speaker 4: You just said let's end things. Yeah.
Speaker 5: So realistically, if it was like a righteous crusade and
Speaker 5: being like I just want to make sure that she's
Speaker 5: all good. Yeah, when I started with that, the thing
Speaker 5: that sucks with her in this instance is like where
Speaker 5: is the juicy gas? So you don't even know what
Speaker 5: the situation is because he could be cheating, and if
Speaker 5: so scumbag behavior, they could be equally nominogamous.
Speaker 4: If so, chill, we know what.
Speaker 3: That's a pipeline too. Well, we won't get into it.
Speaker 4: This is flex and frooms.
Speaker 5: On the other day, I was talking to you about
Speaker 5: how there is no biological physiological reason for annoyance.
Speaker 4: There should be, but it has.
Speaker 5: Not been researched enough for us have a definitive answer,
Speaker 5: Like we can understand why people in certain regions have
Speaker 5: longer eyelashes to keep the sand away during dust storms,
Speaker 5: things like this. But as I was researching the reason
Speaker 5: why we get annoyed, I was introduced to this social
Speaker 5: experiment that happened. So people were researching the psychology of
Speaker 5: waiting in line, and what is it about it that
Speaker 5: makes it actually irritating, you know, getting to the cruxfit.
Speaker 5: So in the fifties, there was this high rise building
Speaker 5: in Manhattan and they had this problem because there was
Speaker 5: only one lift going up and down, so all the
Speaker 5: tenants had these excessively long wait times to go or
Speaker 5: to wait people to go all the way up and
Speaker 5: come all the way down, and sometimes it didn't stop.
Speaker 5: And people were getting frustrated because when they took their
Speaker 5: lunch breaks, they were stuck there. They couldn't actually enjoy
Speaker 5: their meals.
Speaker 4: Fair fine.
Speaker 5: They kept complaining, and so the building managers were like,
Speaker 5: what should we do? We can't just install another elevator,
Speaker 5: it's not going to work. So the building manager asked
Speaker 5: his staff for any suggestions, like what do you think
Speaker 5: we can start to implement to make people less frustrated
Speaker 5: because they are blowing up my dms and I cannot
Speaker 5: deal with them. Yeah, the nineteen fifty CMS. So one
Speaker 5: employee was like, people are probably just bored. I don't
Speaker 5: think they I think they're overestimating how long they're waiting
Speaker 5: because there's nothing for them to do, no mobiles, no entertainment.
Speaker 5: So he was like, just install some mirrors, and the
Speaker 5: guys were like, calm down. He's like, no, seriously, put
Speaker 5: some mirrors there. Give people something to do, watch other people,
Speaker 5: watch each other, be distracted by their own impression. And
Speaker 5: so they did install the floor to ceiling mirrors because
Speaker 5: it was the cheapest option, and he said, immediately complaints
Speaker 5: went down to zero. So is there a correlation between
Speaker 5: annoyance and to officiality. Probably, But realistically people often aren't
Speaker 5: let people overestimate time or how long something takes when
Speaker 5: they're not entertained.
Speaker 3: That is so true. Now I'm thinking about all the
Speaker 3: places that I've been that have a lift, there's almost
Speaker 3: always a mirror yep.
Speaker 4: And it goes so much quicker. You can prene for
Speaker 4: about a minute and a half, two minutes if you
Speaker 4: really wanted.
Speaker 1: To love that.
Speaker 3: Preening is like what sims do. Yeah, I can't imagine
Speaker 3: a human yep. Yeah.
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