WEBVTT - Vibe Theory 👩‍👩‍👧‍👦 What Vibe Do You Bring To A Group? 🤗 0:00:01.520 --> 0:00:03.520 Flex and Frooms Flex and Frooms. 0:00:03.600 --> 0:00:05.960 This is the Flex and Frooms catch up podcast. 0:00:06.840 --> 0:00:09.159 It's Flex and Frooms on CATA Lucky for You his 0:00:09.360 --> 0:00:14.160 podcast Miss You. We have some learning for you, a 0:00:14.160 --> 0:00:16.200 bit of education. It's going to change your life for 0:00:16.239 --> 0:00:19.760 the better, I promise. Cats out on TikTok, it's about 0:00:20.079 --> 0:00:23.520 k A t h E r o u T shared 0:00:23.560 --> 0:00:26.759 this concept that's originally from Fugly Betty on Twitter I 0:00:26.880 --> 0:00:30.520 instead of y. It's about vibe theory. This idea that 0:00:30.520 --> 0:00:32.760 there are key roles that need to be filled in 0:00:32.800 --> 0:00:35.600 any group dynamic crip to be maintained the vibe that 0:00:35.800 --> 0:00:39.280 is now. There are about eight roles, so please listening. 0:00:39.320 --> 0:00:41.400 Ears open. We won't go over them more than once. 0:00:41.640 --> 0:00:44.479 To begin. We've got the vibe curator. They're highly social 0:00:44.479 --> 0:00:46.960 and they connect all the members of the group hangout. 0:00:47.240 --> 0:00:49.640 They're about setting the right ambience, the right tone, the 0:00:49.720 --> 0:00:52.040 right flow. It doesn't mean they the most popular, but 0:00:52.080 --> 0:00:55.760 they're a key facilitator and often the gloom sure. The 0:00:55.840 --> 0:00:59.480 vibe stabilizer, a quiet but integral role. They're kind of 0:00:59.480 --> 0:01:03.080 the work. They maintain the equilibrium and the balance. When 0:01:03.080 --> 0:01:04.800 it's too rowdy, they calm it down when it's not 0:01:04.800 --> 0:01:07.319 fun enough, they bring it up kind of like, what 0:01:07.440 --> 0:01:09.600 was that analogy that Gwyneth Paltrow gave the other day, 0:01:09.760 --> 0:01:14.760 the temperature adjustment. Yes, yes, yes, we've got the vibe amplifier, 0:01:14.959 --> 0:01:19.720 the reliable entertainer, often highly intoxicated. We encourage responsible drinking 0:01:19.800 --> 0:01:22.959 and the responsible service of alcohol. They initiate the desire 0:01:23.000 --> 0:01:25.560 to make the most out of every night a big one. 0:01:25.680 --> 0:01:29.960 Let's get near it. Very important. They often determine the 0:01:30.000 --> 0:01:32.880 flow of the night. If they're done, usually we're all done, 0:01:33.160 --> 0:01:37.160 but if there are we're are next up. We have 0:01:37.240 --> 0:01:43.520 the vibe terrorist derogatory. They bring a sense of mayhem 0:01:43.560 --> 0:01:50.320 and vibe terrorists. Yes, they bring a sense of mayhem 0:01:50.360 --> 0:01:53.880 and dysfunction to the vibe through unusual social interactions. It 0:01:54.000 --> 0:01:56.960 can help to spice things up or disrupt the energy. 0:01:57.040 --> 0:01:59.720 That friend who won't stop talking to that strange person. 0:02:00.120 --> 0:02:02.640 Know that friend who doesn't know when to let the 0:02:02.720 --> 0:02:06.720 mayhem dissipate. Okay, we've got the vibe miss on sing. 0:02:07.080 --> 0:02:09.240 They're not a central character of the evening, but they're 0:02:09.280 --> 0:02:12.880 crucial to the hangout simply because they flesh out the numbers. Okay, 0:02:13.280 --> 0:02:18.959 sometimes a Vibe just needs bodies, just needs energetic bodies, 0:02:19.320 --> 0:02:24.119 lumps of tissue to just be around. Now, they happily participate. 0:02:24.160 --> 0:02:27.160 They're usually down for whatever, kind of like a non 0:02:27.200 --> 0:02:29.679 event in the best way possible. A neutral participant. We've 0:02:29.680 --> 0:02:32.959 got the vibe ornament. Generally the person that's there because 0:02:32.960 --> 0:02:35.239 they're the most aesthetic or they got the most clout. 0:02:35.520 --> 0:02:37.880 They're to be pretty or kind of like up the 0:02:37.919 --> 0:02:40.079 stock of the hangout. You know, they make the hang 0:02:40.240 --> 0:02:43.560 look good. Yeah, they know people. They're the plug. They'll 0:02:43.560 --> 0:02:46.280 get you on the door, that kind of thing. Now, 0:02:47.040 --> 0:02:50.640 they often don't contribute much, but they're kind of like 0:02:50.720 --> 0:02:51.959 sparkly shiny people. 0:02:52.040 --> 0:02:52.800 They look good doing it. 0:02:52.880 --> 0:02:56.079 They look good the vibe scapegoat. Now, when the Vibe 0:02:56.200 --> 0:03:00.400 terrorist takes things down a black hole, the Vibes escape 0:03:00.440 --> 0:03:02.280 goes a person you blame because we don't really let 0:03:02.280 --> 0:03:04.880 the terrorists know that they are the terrorists. We've got 0:03:04.880 --> 0:03:08.399 the Vibe understudy. Last, but not least, they're an outsider 0:03:08.440 --> 0:03:10.680 to the usual social structure of the group. They're a 0:03:10.720 --> 0:03:13.600 newbie or a visitor. They add some spice to the evening. 0:03:13.800 --> 0:03:17.799 There may be auditioning for a recurring role they're professional floaters. Wow, 0:03:17.960 --> 0:03:19.880 don't say too much at once, now, don't say too 0:03:19.960 --> 0:03:21.720 much to one vibe. Do you think you are? 0:03:22.360 --> 0:03:22.720 Okay? 0:03:22.800 --> 0:03:26.560 I think this Actually, which vibe do I think you are? 0:03:27.200 --> 0:03:29.320 I mean, go ahead, which vibe do you think I am? 0:03:29.480 --> 0:03:32.760 Well? We were together at a social engagement a few 0:03:32.760 --> 0:03:36.640 weekends ago in Melbourne, in melbourn Sea and we were 0:03:36.720 --> 0:03:39.040 in a group dynamics. So I guess yeah, go ahead, 0:03:39.040 --> 0:03:40.200 And are we going to base it on that or 0:03:40.240 --> 0:03:42.520 based it on like general cumulative? 0:03:42.760 --> 0:03:45.800 I would say general cumulative. Now to me and the 0:03:45.800 --> 0:03:49.520 way that I've observed through me fibe terrorist, No way, 0:03:50.880 --> 0:03:56.040 I would say through me is a curator or a stabilizer? Wow. Now, 0:03:56.440 --> 0:03:58.760 the reason I perceive you to be a curator is 0:03:58.800 --> 0:04:01.840 because you are sure or to ensure that the invite 0:04:01.880 --> 0:04:04.200 is passed on, that you're getting the right bodies in 0:04:04.240 --> 0:04:07.760 a room you're chatting or whatever. But the stabilizer, I 0:04:07.800 --> 0:04:10.320 think that people might perceive for me to be not 0:04:10.360 --> 0:04:12.000 one dimensional, but they only see one side of you. 0:04:12.000 --> 0:04:13.800 They don't see the work you're doing behind the scenes 0:04:13.840 --> 0:04:17.359 to ensure everybody's being thought of, everyone's being considered, The 0:04:17.440 --> 0:04:20.960 story is flowing nobody's getting left out for me often 0:04:21.120 --> 0:04:24.000 likes to ensure that if you know there's bodies that 0:04:24.040 --> 0:04:27.960 have like pulled away, she's bringing them in or hey, 0:04:27.960 --> 0:04:30.600 where's that person? They haven't really been thought of. That's 0:04:30.680 --> 0:04:31.440 very important role. 0:04:31.520 --> 0:04:33.200 That definitely didn't happen last weekend. 0:04:34.640 --> 0:04:38.040 We went up to the toppers level when people break 0:04:38.080 --> 0:04:40.080 out of the party to go to an upstairs room. 0:04:40.240 --> 0:04:43.799 It was accidental. We were being given a tour, that's true, 0:04:43.839 --> 0:04:46.000 and that tour once we got to the third floor, 0:04:46.240 --> 0:04:49.440 it had to stop briefly. But you did say, oh, 0:04:49.520 --> 0:04:51.680 should we invite so and to up Then we'd have 0:04:51.760 --> 0:04:53.160 to go back downstairs to get them. 0:04:53.360 --> 0:04:54.479 I mean one of the one of the girls had 0:04:54.520 --> 0:04:57.800 a broken legs, so yeah, she was cutting the stables 0:04:57.839 --> 0:05:01.160 when we were okay. I would personally call myself a 0:05:02.360 --> 0:05:04.080 that's a good summation. That's what I'd like to be. 0:05:04.400 --> 0:05:04.719 Okay. 0:05:04.880 --> 0:05:08.000 I would say that you are the vibe amplifier and 0:05:08.320 --> 0:05:09.440 or the ornament. 0:05:09.560 --> 0:05:09.919 Thank you? 0:05:10.560 --> 0:05:12.240 Is that what you wanted to cure both of them? 0:05:12.240 --> 0:05:15.360 I'm the ornament, let's be rich. Or I would say 0:05:15.400 --> 0:05:18.239 the vibe understudy. So the reason why I would describe 0:05:18.279 --> 0:05:21.320 myself as a vibe ornament is because I like to 0:05:21.680 --> 0:05:23.880 do what I want to do in my own time 0:05:24.320 --> 0:05:25.960 and I only need one friend to do it with me. 0:05:26.080 --> 0:05:29.040 So I'm not really concerned in a group consensus of 0:05:29.080 --> 0:05:31.160 you know where we should go next, or you know 0:05:31.400 --> 0:05:34.479 what should we listen to. I'm down and I'll start 0:05:34.520 --> 0:05:36.320 it myself. And so if I want to have a conversation, 0:05:36.320 --> 0:05:38.000 I'm gonna pull you aside and have it. I'm not 0:05:38.000 --> 0:05:40.120 really concerned in making sure that everybody is on the 0:05:40.160 --> 0:05:43.080 same page before we go and do something. And really, 0:05:43.160 --> 0:05:45.160 I just want to look good, feel good. I mean, 0:05:45.200 --> 0:05:47.159 it's it's worth I just wanted here to do. But 0:05:47.800 --> 0:05:49.400 get me on a on the right night and I'll 0:05:49.400 --> 0:05:53.719 be a vibe amplifier. The vibes a like getting met. 0:05:54.279 --> 0:05:56.919 But mostly if I'm not gonna be an ornament, I 0:05:56.960 --> 0:05:59.040 just want to be an understudy. I want to float 0:05:59.040 --> 0:06:01.720 into a dynamic, you know, get the lay of the land, 0:06:01.839 --> 0:06:05.159 ask some questions, get the gossip, float out. Is flex 0:06:05.160 --> 0:06:07.039 coming back to the next one? Yeah, yeah, she should 0:06:07.040 --> 0:06:07.280 be there. 0:06:07.400 --> 0:06:11.160 Probably not very mysterious that that style of being. 0:06:11.400 --> 0:06:14.839 Yeah, I just don't want the pressure. So that's why 0:06:14.880 --> 0:06:17.760 one of my favorite roles is professional plus one sa 0:06:17.839 --> 0:06:22.560 Flexi calib it is gully. 0:06:24.120 --> 0:06:25.120 I'll keep that in mind. 0:06:25.600 --> 0:06:33.760 Literally fru meno through me boo, mummy, lex Mom. 0:06:32.480 --> 0:06:36.320 You're listening to Flex and Frooms. I'm kaita Flexi. I 0:06:36.360 --> 0:06:38.919 am an emotional person. I would also put you in 0:06:38.920 --> 0:06:41.159 the same category, given that we are humans and not 0:06:41.279 --> 0:06:46.160 cyborgs yet. Yeah, the quantum computer is gearing up in Australia. 0:06:46.279 --> 0:06:48.000 Is that related to robots? 0:06:48.040 --> 0:06:49.960 I'm not sure, Ai Singularity. 0:06:50.320 --> 0:06:52.760 I get a message from a woman called Tash cull 0:06:53.120 --> 0:06:55.080 So on an episode a few weeks back. You can 0:06:55.120 --> 0:06:57.240 listen to all of our episodes where you ay podcast 0:06:57.320 --> 0:06:59.400 it's Flex and Frooms. But anyway, I think a while 0:06:59.400 --> 0:07:00.920 ago I talked how I don't know how to sit 0:07:00.960 --> 0:07:03.800 with my emotions. You know how psychologists and online people say. 0:07:03.760 --> 0:07:05.600 Feel your feelings, feel your feeling. 0:07:05.320 --> 0:07:05.880 See with your emotion. 0:07:06.200 --> 0:07:06.880 What sick? 0:07:07.120 --> 0:07:09.760 Pardon me, I'm scared. Anyway, this chick had to listen 0:07:09.800 --> 0:07:10.920 and she set me in this advice. 0:07:11.200 --> 0:07:11.920 Okay for rooms. 0:07:11.960 --> 0:07:14.400 I was just listening to your latest episode with Flex 0:07:14.560 --> 0:07:16.280 and I noticed that you said you didn't know how 0:07:16.320 --> 0:07:18.760 to sit with your emotions, and funnily enough, I never 0:07:18.840 --> 0:07:21.160 knew how to as well up until six months ago. 0:07:21.320 --> 0:07:23.440 When I'm working with my psych I'm not a psychologist, 0:07:23.480 --> 0:07:26.400 so don't follow this advice. But what they mean when 0:07:26.440 --> 0:07:28.200 they say to sit with your emotions is when you're 0:07:28.200 --> 0:07:31.240 feeling anxious or angry. Usually you'll have a feeling in 0:07:31.280 --> 0:07:33.960 your body, for example, like a tightness in your chest, 0:07:34.320 --> 0:07:37.080 or a warm feeling in your hands, or a heaviness 0:07:37.120 --> 0:07:39.560 in your face or a heaviness in your chest. I 0:07:39.680 --> 0:07:41.720 usually get a lot of emotions in my chest and 0:07:41.760 --> 0:07:44.040 face area. I think that's quite common. And what you're 0:07:44.080 --> 0:07:46.720 meant to do is sit there and focus on that feeling. 0:07:47.120 --> 0:07:49.560 So it's not so much about focusing on the thoughts 0:07:49.600 --> 0:07:52.880 that are spiraling in your head or thinking about things 0:07:52.880 --> 0:07:55.280 and ruminating about things. It's more just focusing on what 0:07:55.400 --> 0:07:58.680 your body is actually feeling in the moment. So I'll 0:07:58.720 --> 0:08:01.920 do that like every time I'm feeling really angry or anxious, 0:08:02.120 --> 0:08:04.680 and yeah, it actually really helps. I will say that 0:08:04.760 --> 0:08:07.040 I've had a massive difference in my life over the 0:08:07.080 --> 0:08:11.160 past six months, Like emotions still feel really hard, but yeah, 0:08:11.320 --> 0:08:13.640 that's what it means by sitting with your emotions. I 0:08:13.640 --> 0:08:14.600 guess I hope that. 0:08:14.680 --> 0:08:16.080 Helps first and foremost. 0:08:16.280 --> 0:08:18.320 This woman has sent me full voice notes all the 0:08:18.440 --> 0:08:20.640 perfect time. Did she start a once? 0:08:20.960 --> 0:08:21.080 No? 0:08:21.400 --> 0:08:23.880 Did she waffle? Not at all, So thank you toch 0:08:23.920 --> 0:08:24.400 for example. 0:08:24.920 --> 0:08:28.480 Comp that everybody and please copy. So Yeah, feeling your emotions. 0:08:28.520 --> 0:08:30.960 What I've realized is I get exma between my fingers 0:08:31.320 --> 0:08:33.199 and sometimes I wake up at night, like last night, 0:08:33.240 --> 0:08:36.080 and they're really itchy, and that means I'm anxious. I 0:08:36.080 --> 0:08:38.520 don't know how it works. Yeah, I itch it to 0:08:38.600 --> 0:08:40.679 pieces and that's what I know. Oh, something's wrong in 0:08:40.720 --> 0:08:41.000 the head. 0:08:41.120 --> 0:08:44.320 And so we shouldn't be trying to dig deeper as 0:08:44.400 --> 0:08:46.800 to what you're anxious about, because that would be intellectualizing. 0:08:47.760 --> 0:08:49.120 Or I think we do. 0:08:49.200 --> 0:08:51.320 But then we also just acknowledge a feeling each the 0:08:51.320 --> 0:08:54.560 fingers and then go back to sleep. Okay, not sure 0:08:54.559 --> 0:08:55.720 if that's what I was meant to take from it, 0:08:55.800 --> 0:08:58.160 but thank you Tah for sending in the voice note. 0:08:58.240 --> 0:09:05.240 I appreciate that you're listening to Flex and Firms on Kaita. 0:09:05.559 --> 0:09:08.000 We have some good news and potentially some bad news. 0:09:08.120 --> 0:09:11.160 The pendulum has swung in a very fairer way. The 0:09:11.200 --> 0:09:14.360 Internet has said clean girl talk, clean girl aesthetic is 0:09:14.400 --> 0:09:18.960 out and now we're advocates for messiness and I quote 0:09:19.120 --> 0:09:23.480 mindful messiness. I love a pr spin on what is 0:09:23.720 --> 0:09:31.960 regular human behavior? Is it chaos? No, it's generating mess mindfully. 0:09:32.040 --> 0:09:35.080 Listen to this while it's getting a makeover, let's look 0:09:35.120 --> 0:09:37.920 into it. The vibe has shifted. Lex culture has been 0:09:37.920 --> 0:09:41.400 replaced by social realism, the girl boss has gone down 0:09:41.440 --> 0:09:44.959 the dream and chaos is raining in our previously estheticized fees. 0:09:45.520 --> 0:09:47.600 Do you know what the issue is? It's that these 0:09:47.679 --> 0:09:52.160 trends go from accessible and achievable and really simple to 0:09:52.280 --> 0:09:57.240 execute to the most extreme. Like on TikTok for the 0:09:57.320 --> 0:09:59.160 last year, you couldn't just put your hair in a 0:09:59.200 --> 0:10:02.079 barn where some gold hoop earrings and some lip balm. 0:10:02.360 --> 0:10:05.920 It had to be the slickest of buns, the most 0:10:06.679 --> 0:10:13.439 ornamental hoops possible, to Christine doughnut glazed lip I see 0:10:13.679 --> 0:10:17.560 champagne cuticles. And suddenly it gets to a point where 0:10:17.920 --> 0:10:21.199 to even maintain like it's not even about the ethos 0:10:21.200 --> 0:10:23.360 of what we're doing right, which is encouraging people to 0:10:23.480 --> 0:10:27.000 be mindful of their appearance, but where reducing it down 0:10:27.000 --> 0:10:30.640 to these really unattainable labels that can only be executed 0:10:30.720 --> 0:10:31.679 in like photo shoots. 0:10:32.200 --> 0:10:32.480 Yeah. 0:10:32.960 --> 0:10:33.080 Not. 0:10:33.120 --> 0:10:36.000 Even the people that they're referencing as clean girls are 0:10:36.040 --> 0:10:38.760 clean girls, not in the way they think this mindful 0:10:38.800 --> 0:10:43.439 mess though. Again, they're gonna start calling depression rooms trendy. 0:10:44.040 --> 0:10:48.160 People are going to be advocating for a lack of 0:10:48.400 --> 0:10:52.320 sense in their physical spaces because someone on the Internet 0:10:52.400 --> 0:10:55.559 told them it's mindful to not clean up after themselves. 0:10:55.679 --> 0:10:59.280 And you might think that I'm being a nark about it, 0:10:59.320 --> 0:11:01.840 but this is how it happens for everyone. For everybody 0:11:01.920 --> 0:11:06.319 who you think is of sound mind, there are twenty 0:11:06.360 --> 0:11:10.120 four thousand who are easily manipulated. 0:11:11.160 --> 0:11:11.640 Do you reckon? 0:11:11.840 --> 0:11:15.760 Absolutely? Absolutely? Before you know, I'll be scrolling through the 0:11:15.800 --> 0:11:19.160 internet and there'll be an article that says ballet flats 0:11:19.160 --> 0:11:22.240 to in and the comps like, oh no, I hate them. 0:11:21.760 --> 0:11:26.319 But what are you gonna do? You know, resign? 0:11:26.840 --> 0:11:27.320 Resign? 0:11:27.800 --> 0:11:27.960 You know. 0:11:28.000 --> 0:11:30.000 I put a pair of ballet flats that I had 0:11:30.040 --> 0:11:33.960 from twenty thirteen on my story. Eighty percent said they're disgusting. 0:11:34.000 --> 0:11:34.880 Did you see them? 0:11:35.000 --> 0:11:37.640 I don't think I did, think, but I'm not surprised. 0:11:38.160 --> 0:11:41.360 But that do that poll in nine months time, and 0:11:41.400 --> 0:11:44.840 the pendulum will have swung again. Preach I like trends. 0:11:44.920 --> 0:11:47.040 I like trend culture. I think it's fun and interesting 0:11:47.040 --> 0:11:50.360 and exciting, but people rarely make it work for them. 0:11:50.640 --> 0:11:52.520 It's like, what you need to do is when there's 0:11:52.559 --> 0:11:55.719 a trend that mirrors your life style, lean in. So yeah, 0:11:55.760 --> 0:11:58.679 I was, I was on it. Don't oscillate so far 0:11:58.800 --> 0:12:00.880 out of your reality to do something you don't want 0:12:00.920 --> 0:12:04.160 to do and then do it poorly. Please, no shade, 0:12:04.920 --> 0:12:05.679 just an observation. 0:12:08.840 --> 0:12:12.079 I am always thinking of new and inventive dating ideas. 0:12:12.760 --> 0:12:14.199 You shut up. 0:12:15.600 --> 0:12:18.560 I came across this genius idea for a date. 0:12:18.640 --> 0:12:19.880 So you didn't invent this one. 0:12:20.280 --> 0:12:21.920 Well, I'm going to add flavor to it. 0:12:22.840 --> 0:12:25.960 So yeah, I wish we could all normalize having a 0:12:26.000 --> 0:12:28.520 first date where we run errands together. So if there's 0:12:28.520 --> 0:12:30.800 no chemistry, at least I got light bulbs and picked 0:12:30.880 --> 0:12:31.640 up my dry cleaning. 0:12:32.679 --> 0:12:34.800 I love this idea. 0:12:35.120 --> 0:12:37.679 Go on a date, but don't go sit idle in 0:12:37.679 --> 0:12:40.600 a movie watching a movie you maybe hate. Go to 0:12:40.640 --> 0:12:44.480 a supermarket, get all your stuff, go home. If there's 0:12:44.480 --> 0:12:47.520 no vibe, you've done your errands, and if there is 0:12:47.559 --> 0:12:50.120 a vibe, you've experienced a boyfriend girlfriend experience. 0:12:55.080 --> 0:12:58.480 I don't like that. Why It sounds like something I 0:12:58.480 --> 0:13:00.800 would like, but I don't like it because what I 0:13:00.880 --> 0:13:05.880 want for our society is to bring back the romance 0:13:06.160 --> 0:13:08.719 that the poets were writing about, because we haven't had 0:13:08.720 --> 0:13:11.640 that in a millennium, okay a millennium. 0:13:11.960 --> 0:13:15.480 Yeah, yeah, I guess I could only think of Sylvia Platt. 0:13:16.360 --> 0:13:19.640 See, we haven't had the you know, and the autumn 0:13:19.720 --> 0:13:23.280 leaves are falling as I tuck a strand of hair 0:13:23.559 --> 0:13:29.319 behind her beautifully almond shaped it as. 0:13:29.320 --> 0:13:30.800 We post Prima Donna. 0:13:30.920 --> 0:13:33.320 Yeah, literally, we don't have that. And I just don't 0:13:33.600 --> 0:13:37.040 relationships get boring anyway? Why do we want to simulate 0:13:37.080 --> 0:13:40.720 the boring part? First? I just think the best partnered 0:13:40.760 --> 0:13:44.600 experience is to do something fanciful and fantastical. I would 0:13:44.720 --> 0:13:47.720 rather go on an adventure with someone and never see 0:13:47.720 --> 0:13:49.600 them again and be like, oh my goodness. And then 0:13:49.600 --> 0:13:51.120 we went here. We went here, and it was just 0:13:51.320 --> 0:13:55.520 I'm not even like that. Then go to take my 0:13:55.679 --> 0:13:56.880 local spot. 0:13:57.240 --> 0:14:01.920 Yeah true, my favorite aisles, not at all. 0:14:02.679 --> 0:14:06.600 And I just feel like, are you coming on my 0:14:06.760 --> 0:14:08.880 Errand I'm going on your errand you're. 0:14:08.760 --> 0:14:10.760 Coming on, oh yeah, coming on my Errand. 0:14:10.679 --> 0:14:15.360 Okay, so you're initiating the date, then yeah, I'll say, 0:14:15.679 --> 0:14:19.160 like you've never done in your life. Shut up, I 0:14:19.200 --> 0:14:23.720 have clearly. Okay, I get what they're saying because a 0:14:23.760 --> 0:14:26.840 lot of people's dating experiences they just don't really go 0:14:26.920 --> 0:14:29.240 anywhere and they get let down by the investment of 0:14:29.320 --> 0:14:32.480 time and money and energy. But that is the exchange, 0:14:32.560 --> 0:14:36.160 that is the transaction. Yeah, I think if we try 0:14:36.160 --> 0:14:38.360 and reduce it to let me put in as little 0:14:38.360 --> 0:14:41.560 effort as possible, or let me make sure this doesn't interrupt, 0:14:42.040 --> 0:14:44.680 you know, the flow of my day. I don't think 0:14:44.680 --> 0:14:47.280 that will beget the outcome you think you're looking for. 0:14:48.720 --> 0:14:51.320 All right, I'll pay that. I mean, I'll still try it. 0:14:51.480 --> 0:14:55.280 Oh please when the opportunity presents, so you're going to 0:14:55.320 --> 0:14:56.080 be proactive about it. 0:14:56.120 --> 0:14:58.960 You reach Absolutely not great, absolutely not 0:15:00.000 --> 0:15:02.960 And listening to the flexen Froom's daily podcast for more, 0:15:03.080 --> 0:15:06.200 Tune Indicator on DAB or stream it on iHeartRadio.