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Speaker 2: This person wants us to talk about what our thoughts
Speaker 2: are on your friends, dating, your ex, potential romantic interests.
Speaker 2: Not to be confused with your situation ships, your textuation ships,
Speaker 2: your relationships. But really, there's been an instance where you
Speaker 2: know you've been bubbling away with someone, maybe texting, tuning,
Speaker 2: there's something happening, there's a romantic precedent that's been set
Speaker 2: for some reason, it does not eventuate. Is this person
Speaker 2: free game for me? Wow?
Speaker 1: I gotta say, there's only so many singles in Sydney.
Speaker 2: Eligible singles please sorry.
Speaker 1: Correct, correct, And so therefore, if you and your friend,
Speaker 1: like I think friends tend to be of a similar attractiveness,
Speaker 1: I believe that I don't know why that is, or
Speaker 1: at least they're a similar.
Speaker 2: Do you know what that is?
Speaker 1: Well it made me say one reason social hierarchy say
Speaker 1: what you will? You therefore have similar interests and probably
Speaker 1: similar clothes. So as an outsider, let's say I match
Speaker 1: with a guy and I match with his friend, Well,
Speaker 1: you're cut from the same cloth. Of course I'm attracted.
Speaker 1: I will say if there's been some emotional trauma, like
Speaker 1: if this person has talked to them a lot on
Speaker 1: the app and they were a bit cut up because
Speaker 1: like he didn't ask her to go out or vice versa,
Speaker 1: then maybe cool you jets. I think in dating something
Speaker 1: that people learn once they come out of long term relationships,
Speaker 1: if they're the kind of people that have like cut
Speaker 1: their friends off. Something that a lot of people say.
Speaker 1: It's like when people are about to die and they're like,
Speaker 1: I wish I did X y Z. People that get
Speaker 1: out of long term relationships say I wish I kept
Speaker 1: my relationship with my friends. So I would go into
Speaker 1: this thinking is this going to really hurt my friend's feelings?
Speaker 1: Because if so, it's not worth a little route or
Speaker 1: a little situationship with someone that maybe doesn't even like
Speaker 1: that much.
Speaker 2: I'm inclined to agree. Sometimes we value how high the
Speaker 2: stakes are based on our interpretation of the dynamic. Oh,
Speaker 2: they never dated, therefore it's not that deep, it's not
Speaker 2: that serious, and for a lot of people it is,
Speaker 2: you know, so I would do it on a case
Speaker 2: by case basis. Fundamentally, people aren't objects. We cannot own
Speaker 2: them or DIBs them. The dating playing field of eligible
Speaker 2: partners is very, you know, scarce, So you get it
Speaker 2: where you can. But I will say, of all the
Speaker 2: people you end up dating or talking to casually, very
Speaker 2: few ever make it to a full blown reciprocal romantic relationship.
Speaker 2: And so if you're gambling away a friendship based on
Speaker 2: the very low odds that you and this person will
Speaker 2: be together, you're an animal, a sick, sad and a gambler.
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