WEBVTT - Can Your Friends Date Your Ex Potential Romantic Interests? ❤️

0:00:01.200 --> 0:00:04.040
<v Speaker 1>On Flex and Frooms Flex and Firms. This is the

0:00:04.120 --> 0:00:05.960
<v Speaker 1>Flex and Frooms catch up podcast.

0:00:09.000 --> 0:00:11.560
<v Speaker 2>Flex and Frooms on cater We answer the big questions

0:00:11.680 --> 0:00:16.400
<v Speaker 2>every single weekday, day in, day out. We toil, we soil,

0:00:16.520 --> 0:00:19.360
<v Speaker 2>we labor intellectually. Of course, we've got a message in

0:00:19.400 --> 0:00:21.680
<v Speaker 2>from a listener, which we love those every time. Flex

0:00:21.720 --> 0:00:23.759
<v Speaker 2>and Frooms on Instagram. IFO you want to talk to us,

0:00:24.040 --> 0:00:28.360
<v Speaker 2>we love answering solicited questions and advice. It's our favorite thing.

0:00:28.800 --> 0:00:32.159
<v Speaker 2>This person wants us to talk about what our thoughts

0:00:32.200 --> 0:00:37.920
<v Speaker 2>are on your friends, dating, your ex, potential romantic interests.

0:00:37.960 --> 0:00:42.519
<v Speaker 2>Not to be confused with your situation ships, your textuation ships,

0:00:42.840 --> 0:00:46.720
<v Speaker 2>your relationships. But really, there's been an instance where you

0:00:46.720 --> 0:00:50.839
<v Speaker 2>know you've been bubbling away with someone, maybe texting, tuning,

0:00:50.920 --> 0:00:54.840
<v Speaker 2>there's something happening, there's a romantic precedent that's been set

0:00:55.520 --> 0:00:59.320
<v Speaker 2>for some reason, it does not eventuate. Is this person

0:00:59.440 --> 0:01:02.280
<v Speaker 2>free game for me? Wow?

0:01:03.200 --> 0:01:07.119
<v Speaker 1>I gotta say, there's only so many singles in Sydney.

0:01:06.959 --> 0:01:09.319
<v Speaker 2>Eligible singles please sorry.

0:01:09.160 --> 0:01:12.080
<v Speaker 1>Correct, correct, And so therefore, if you and your friend,

0:01:12.319 --> 0:01:15.720
<v Speaker 1>like I think friends tend to be of a similar attractiveness,

0:01:16.040 --> 0:01:18.080
<v Speaker 1>I believe that I don't know why that is, or

0:01:18.120 --> 0:01:19.280
<v Speaker 1>at least they're a similar.

0:01:19.160 --> 0:01:19.800
<v Speaker 2>Do you know what that is?

0:01:20.600 --> 0:01:27.119
<v Speaker 1>Well it made me say one reason social hierarchy say

0:01:27.160 --> 0:01:30.880
<v Speaker 1>what you will? You therefore have similar interests and probably

0:01:30.880 --> 0:01:34.040
<v Speaker 1>similar clothes. So as an outsider, let's say I match

0:01:34.120 --> 0:01:36.440
<v Speaker 1>with a guy and I match with his friend, Well,

0:01:36.480 --> 0:01:38.640
<v Speaker 1>you're cut from the same cloth. Of course I'm attracted.

0:01:39.240 --> 0:01:43.080
<v Speaker 1>I will say if there's been some emotional trauma, like

0:01:43.360 --> 0:01:45.920
<v Speaker 1>if this person has talked to them a lot on

0:01:45.959 --> 0:01:47.920
<v Speaker 1>the app and they were a bit cut up because

0:01:48.000 --> 0:01:50.480
<v Speaker 1>like he didn't ask her to go out or vice versa,

0:01:50.920 --> 0:01:55.400
<v Speaker 1>then maybe cool you jets. I think in dating something

0:01:55.440 --> 0:01:59.080
<v Speaker 1>that people learn once they come out of long term relationships,

0:01:59.120 --> 0:02:02.960
<v Speaker 1>if they're the kind of people that have like cut

0:02:03.000 --> 0:02:05.760
<v Speaker 1>their friends off. Something that a lot of people say.

0:02:05.800 --> 0:02:07.840
<v Speaker 1>It's like when people are about to die and they're like,

0:02:07.880 --> 0:02:10.000
<v Speaker 1>I wish I did X y Z. People that get

0:02:10.000 --> 0:02:12.160
<v Speaker 1>out of long term relationships say I wish I kept

0:02:12.200 --> 0:02:14.799
<v Speaker 1>my relationship with my friends. So I would go into

0:02:14.800 --> 0:02:17.040
<v Speaker 1>this thinking is this going to really hurt my friend's feelings?

0:02:17.240 --> 0:02:20.480
<v Speaker 1>Because if so, it's not worth a little route or

0:02:20.520 --> 0:02:23.600
<v Speaker 1>a little situationship with someone that maybe doesn't even like

0:02:23.720 --> 0:02:24.280
<v Speaker 1>that much.

0:02:24.600 --> 0:02:28.280
<v Speaker 2>I'm inclined to agree. Sometimes we value how high the

0:02:28.320 --> 0:02:32.120
<v Speaker 2>stakes are based on our interpretation of the dynamic. Oh,

0:02:32.160 --> 0:02:34.160
<v Speaker 2>they never dated, therefore it's not that deep, it's not

0:02:34.160 --> 0:02:36.760
<v Speaker 2>that serious, and for a lot of people it is,

0:02:37.400 --> 0:02:39.280
<v Speaker 2>you know, so I would do it on a case

0:02:39.320 --> 0:02:43.119
<v Speaker 2>by case basis. Fundamentally, people aren't objects. We cannot own

0:02:43.160 --> 0:02:47.720
<v Speaker 2>them or DIBs them. The dating playing field of eligible

0:02:47.760 --> 0:02:51.400
<v Speaker 2>partners is very, you know, scarce, So you get it

0:02:51.440 --> 0:02:54.000
<v Speaker 2>where you can. But I will say, of all the

0:02:54.080 --> 0:02:57.880
<v Speaker 2>people you end up dating or talking to casually, very

0:02:57.919 --> 0:03:02.800
<v Speaker 2>few ever make it to a full blown reciprocal romantic relationship.

0:03:03.280 --> 0:03:06.240
<v Speaker 2>And so if you're gambling away a friendship based on

0:03:06.360 --> 0:03:09.200
<v Speaker 2>the very low odds that you and this person will

0:03:09.240 --> 0:03:14.519
<v Speaker 2>be together, you're an animal, a sick, sad and a gambler.

0:03:15.320 --> 0:03:18.200
<v Speaker 1>One of our own. You've been listening to The Flex

0:03:18.240 --> 0:03:21.680
<v Speaker 1>and Froom's daily podcast. For more, Tune Indicator on DAB

0:03:22.040 --> 0:03:23.440
<v Speaker 1>or stream it on iHeartRadio.