WEBVTT - FULL SHOW: You can buy LIVE CRABS in a vending machine? 🦀 0:00:12.600 --> 0:00:18.920 Laura. Come on, hello girls. 0:00:19.360 --> 0:00:22.480 Hey Mitch, Hello Mitch so serious? Hey what there is intro? 0:00:22.920 --> 0:00:23.639 I'm worried? 0:00:23.680 --> 0:00:24.360 What have you done? 0:00:24.440 --> 0:00:29.000 I just think Brittany Hockley, she's lost grip of her brand. 0:00:29.920 --> 0:00:33.120 I don't have a brand brand first. 0:00:32.880 --> 0:00:34.879 Glitz, glamour, red carpet. 0:00:35.640 --> 0:00:38.400 What's my personal brand? If Brits is glitz and glamour. 0:00:39.240 --> 0:00:42.520 Family, children, your You're like a KFC for the family, 0:00:42.520 --> 0:00:43.440 where BRIT's more of like. 0:00:43.400 --> 0:00:45.840 Okay, I already disagree with you. Hey, you can see 0:00:45.840 --> 0:00:47.720 for the family. Please continue me. 0:00:48.080 --> 0:00:50.640 Was fine dining well. Britt walks in today and is 0:00:50.720 --> 0:00:54.920 eating She's a fly and fly out mine worker. She's 0:00:54.920 --> 0:00:58.880 eating overnight oats in a tupper in a protein shape container. 0:01:00.200 --> 0:01:03.840 It's like gruel. She's just dripping out of her cheek. 0:01:03.600 --> 0:01:06.200 I think I'm stuck in the jungle because all we 0:01:06.319 --> 0:01:08.480 ate were oats in the jungle in South America. So 0:01:08.520 --> 0:01:10.720 now I think I'm like, it's like when you've been 0:01:10.760 --> 0:01:12.520 held captive for so long and you want to keep 0:01:12.600 --> 0:01:13.200 living that life. 0:01:13.240 --> 0:01:15.240 It's really ruined me. Do you think you've turned to 0:01:15.280 --> 0:01:16.600 budget brit Is that what you're saying. 0:01:16.640 --> 0:01:19.199 I've always been budget bread. You can't take the poor 0:01:19.240 --> 0:01:19.800 out of the girl. 0:01:21.200 --> 0:01:27.840 That is what, that is who you are. 0:01:29.040 --> 0:01:31.480 Can I just say, I hope you guys have known 0:01:31.480 --> 0:01:34.360 me long enough to know that I have never been bougie. 0:01:34.360 --> 0:01:35.279 Brit oats. 0:01:35.720 --> 0:01:38.720 Whole packet of oats would cost I think it costs 0:01:38.720 --> 0:01:42.640 a dollar and I would get probably eighty serves out 0:01:42.640 --> 0:01:42.880 of it. 0:01:42.880 --> 0:01:44.319 Can you do the math on that? And then I 0:01:44.319 --> 0:01:46.800 added a banana. I can't be bothered to be honest, 0:01:46.959 --> 0:01:47.240 no one. 0:01:47.200 --> 0:01:50.040 Else, gay, rich, everyone one dollars. 0:01:50.640 --> 0:01:53.200 We have a really important show. We have a great segment. 0:01:53.240 --> 0:01:55.360 We do it every Thursday. It's called ask gun Cut. 0:01:55.360 --> 0:01:57.440 It's where one of you call up with your deep 0:01:57.440 --> 0:01:59.600 you're dark and your biggest problems and we do our 0:01:59.640 --> 0:02:02.800 best answer it. And I have quite the doozy today. 0:02:03.160 --> 0:02:05.960 So imagine you've broken up with your ex, You've gotten 0:02:06.000 --> 0:02:09.000 back together with them after a couple of months. Do 0:02:09.080 --> 0:02:12.440 you ask the question how many people did you bump 0:02:12.520 --> 0:02:15.120 uglies with during the time that you were apart? 0:02:15.200 --> 0:02:15.800 Do you want to know? 0:02:16.000 --> 0:02:16.520 Interesting? 0:02:16.600 --> 0:02:18.959 I've got thoughts. Let's get to it. Welcome to the 0:02:19.000 --> 0:02:21.880 pickup everyone, ladies. Do you think we should do a 0:02:21.919 --> 0:02:22.600 show favorite? 0:02:22.639 --> 0:02:22.720 Oh? 0:02:22.800 --> 0:02:25.480 Yeah, it's time for this ask uncat. 0:02:27.960 --> 0:02:30.000 So, if you're new to the show, ask Gunkut. We 0:02:30.000 --> 0:02:32.280 do it every Thursday. It's where you call in with 0:02:32.360 --> 0:02:35.360 your biggest problems and we do our best to answer them. 0:02:35.440 --> 0:02:38.839 You know, we might not be qualified psychologists. We try enthusiastic, 0:02:39.160 --> 0:02:39.800 we really are. 0:02:39.960 --> 0:02:42.160 Okay, today we've got Emily on the line and she 0:02:42.400 --> 0:02:45.280 has and look, her predicament is one that it could 0:02:45.280 --> 0:02:48.840 be a bit divisive. She's been separated from her ex 0:02:49.200 --> 0:02:51.080 for a couple of years now and they've just gotten 0:02:51.120 --> 0:02:54.560 back together. They've started dating. Does she want to know 0:02:54.800 --> 0:02:57.639 or should she know how many people or who he's 0:02:57.639 --> 0:02:58.800 slept with in that time. 0:02:59.760 --> 0:03:01.720 Yes, Hi, Emily, Welcome to the pic house. 0:03:01.840 --> 0:03:04.560 I am hey guys, I am so. 0:03:04.560 --> 0:03:07.040 What's been going on? Tell us the details? How long 0:03:07.080 --> 0:03:09.080 you been broken up for? How long were you together? 0:03:09.160 --> 0:03:09.400 Four? 0:03:09.960 --> 0:03:12.839 So we were together for about six years and then 0:03:13.120 --> 0:03:15.440 broken up for about two two and a half years. 0:03:16.120 --> 0:03:19.240 Recently slowly getting back together, trying to get on the 0:03:19.280 --> 0:03:22.760 right path and build the solid foundations. But just wondering 0:03:22.760 --> 0:03:25.520 whether we go into those types of chats like we 0:03:25.560 --> 0:03:27.640 would have at the beginning of the relationship, you know 0:03:27.680 --> 0:03:30.120 what I mean? Do we dive back into that or 0:03:30.200 --> 0:03:32.560 do we just try and forget it and move on? 0:03:33.120 --> 0:03:34.920 Is there any reason why you want to know? 0:03:35.120 --> 0:03:35.200 Like? 0:03:35.400 --> 0:03:38.520 Is there I mean, I think that those details of 0:03:38.560 --> 0:03:40.840 stuff that I probably wouldn't want to know, But is 0:03:40.840 --> 0:03:44.040 there anything that it's like making you self conscious about 0:03:44.080 --> 0:03:45.520 it or you're feeling as though. 0:03:45.400 --> 0:03:47.360 You need to have a bit more clarity on it? 0:03:47.720 --> 0:03:49.920 Oh, I just wouldn't want to walk in, like meet 0:03:50.000 --> 0:03:52.520 someone out at the shops and sort of get the 0:03:52.560 --> 0:03:55.840 surprise that there's been dating in between or something like that. 0:03:55.920 --> 0:03:56.640 Do you know what I mean? 0:03:58.640 --> 0:04:00.400 Is you real sort of video? No? 0:04:00.600 --> 0:04:01.960 I feel differently, Dolaura. 0:04:02.120 --> 0:04:05.000 I would want to know and when I start dating something, 0:04:05.000 --> 0:04:07.320 but that's who That's what my personality is. I don't 0:04:07.320 --> 0:04:08.960 want to know for any other reason that I'm curious. 0:04:09.000 --> 0:04:11.600 When I start dating someone, I'm happy to ask them 0:04:11.600 --> 0:04:13.600 about who they hooked up with, how they had one 0:04:13.680 --> 0:04:15.640 night stands? What were the one night stands? Like how 0:04:15.680 --> 0:04:17.120 do they pick them up in the bar? Like I 0:04:17.240 --> 0:04:20.479 cause I find that stuff fascinating. If I was getting 0:04:20.520 --> 0:04:22.680 back with my partner and there was a two year break, 0:04:23.200 --> 0:04:25.720 I one hundred percent would want to know. Even if 0:04:25.720 --> 0:04:27.680 you don't know details of who, I'd want to know 0:04:27.720 --> 0:04:30.279 how many And even if you wanted to, you know, 0:04:30.440 --> 0:04:32.560 use the safety route, like, hey, do you need to 0:04:32.560 --> 0:04:34.760 go and get an STI check you've been with multiple people? 0:04:34.920 --> 0:04:36.920 Or have you been with anyone? You know, they're questions 0:04:36.960 --> 0:04:38.240 that you want to ask anyone to take. 0:04:38.120 --> 0:04:39.680 Safety root is something you can putely different. 0:04:42.640 --> 0:04:46.120 But like Emma, you wanting to know the number of people, 0:04:46.120 --> 0:04:47.520 because I feel like the number is a bit I 0:04:47.560 --> 0:04:49.760 don't know for me, it's irrelevant. But are you wanting 0:04:49.800 --> 0:04:52.240 to know specific people? Like are you wanting him to 0:04:52.240 --> 0:04:54.839 give you specific names? Is there anyone that you think. 0:04:54.680 --> 0:04:57.000 It could be or is it just kind of more 0:04:57.040 --> 0:04:58.080 a general chat around this. 0:04:59.080 --> 0:05:01.080 It would definitely just be more of a general chat. 0:05:01.160 --> 0:05:03.520 And just if he's if it's like a really close 0:05:03.560 --> 0:05:07.320 friend or something, there's been a fleeing or something. But 0:05:07.760 --> 0:05:10.360 and the STI check that's crossed my mind as well, 0:05:10.480 --> 0:05:12.279 Like we need to have that chat as well. 0:05:12.320 --> 0:05:14.359 Do you suspect that he's been with any of his friends? 0:05:15.800 --> 0:05:19.400 Possibly? Yeah, yeah, he's He's built up his his friend 0:05:19.440 --> 0:05:21.200 group a lot in the last couple of years, so that. 0:05:21.320 --> 0:05:22.839 Yeah, I've got a big friend group. 0:05:22.880 --> 0:05:25.960 But I think that that changes, Like I mean, it's 0:05:25.960 --> 0:05:28.719 one thing to just ask around, like how many people 0:05:28.839 --> 0:05:30.720 or who you've slept with. I think it's different if 0:05:30.760 --> 0:05:33.480 you've got concerns that maybe it's someone who he's friends 0:05:33.520 --> 0:05:34.039 with like that. 0:05:34.400 --> 0:05:35.600 I think that changes. 0:05:35.279 --> 0:05:37.800 Things a bit, because I wouldn't want to be sitting 0:05:37.839 --> 0:05:41.080 down at dinner with Sarah who's there with her boyfriend, 0:05:41.160 --> 0:05:43.480 knowing that actually they used to bang whilst we were 0:05:43.480 --> 0:05:44.039 having a break. 0:05:44.080 --> 0:05:45.880 I don't know, I'd feel very different about that thing. 0:05:45.920 --> 0:05:47.960 I think it's very different if they're like you said, 0:05:47.960 --> 0:05:49.839 the check out check at the local calls. That I 0:05:49.839 --> 0:05:51.520 think I could turn a blind eye to and totally 0:05:51.680 --> 0:05:54.400 fine with. But if it's old friends that you're seeing 0:05:54.440 --> 0:05:55.760 on the regular and you go on a lunch and 0:05:55.800 --> 0:05:58.560 dinner with, then that would eat me up inside knowing 0:05:58.760 --> 0:05:59.960 I don't know, I'd want to know. 0:06:00.120 --> 0:06:01.920 I think at the end of the day, if it's 0:06:01.960 --> 0:06:05.359 on your mind and you're curious, or it's bothering you, 0:06:05.440 --> 0:06:07.320 or you have anxiety around it, whatever the reason is, 0:06:07.400 --> 0:06:09.880 at the end of the day, you're entitled to ask 0:06:09.920 --> 0:06:10.400 the question. 0:06:10.680 --> 0:06:14.320 Does he have to answer? Probably not, It's probably up 0:06:14.320 --> 0:06:14.680 to him. 0:06:14.760 --> 0:06:17.640 But if you go to him in the relationship and say, hey, 0:06:18.440 --> 0:06:20.280 these are sort of my boundaries aback getting back together 0:06:20.320 --> 0:06:22.320 because I can't stop thinking about it. I'd love to 0:06:22.360 --> 0:06:24.120 know what has happened in this to your period. Then 0:06:24.120 --> 0:06:26.200 it's up to you to decide what to do with that. 0:06:26.320 --> 0:06:27.839 He says, No, are you going to be happy with 0:06:27.839 --> 0:06:28.320 that answer? 0:06:28.440 --> 0:06:28.600 Yeah? 0:06:28.640 --> 0:06:29.839 I think that's the big one for me. 0:06:29.920 --> 0:06:31.840 Am is like, what if you do have the conversation 0:06:31.920 --> 0:06:34.200 with him and you ask him and he gives you 0:06:34.240 --> 0:06:36.679 a number and that number is very high? 0:06:36.760 --> 0:06:37.560 How would you feel? 0:06:39.160 --> 0:06:39.360 Well? 0:06:39.480 --> 0:06:42.000 I think I could get over the number party, it's. 0:06:41.839 --> 0:06:44.400 Not the numbers. Yeah, do you think? 0:06:44.440 --> 0:06:46.359 And what if he says or was someone who's in 0:06:46.360 --> 0:06:47.800 my friendship group like, how would you? 0:06:47.839 --> 0:06:49.640 What would then be your response? 0:06:50.760 --> 0:06:53.920 I think the honesty and the openness of that would 0:06:53.960 --> 0:06:57.440 be enough, and then the open communication moving forward. But 0:06:57.520 --> 0:06:59.360 it would just be the fact if if I didn't 0:06:59.400 --> 0:07:00.960 know and Will wasn't open about it. 0:07:01.400 --> 0:07:06.400 What would worry you is be prepared to process some things. 0:07:06.560 --> 0:07:09.800 I think so told a name that triggers you, you 0:07:09.840 --> 0:07:12.280 need to be ready to go to therapy or go 0:07:12.280 --> 0:07:14.720 to another friend or because because you can't ask your 0:07:14.760 --> 0:07:16.760 partner to tell you and then take it out of them. 0:07:16.960 --> 0:07:17.720 I'm going with ask. 0:07:17.920 --> 0:07:19.960 I think talk about it, Laura. 0:07:19.600 --> 0:07:22.000 Look ask, but I think you Yeah, you could be 0:07:22.040 --> 0:07:23.160 opening out a can of worms. 0:07:23.320 --> 0:07:26.200 Keep us up data please, Emily, Yeah, please do will 0:07:26.280 --> 0:07:27.440 do really appreciate that. 0:07:27.440 --> 0:07:28.680 Guys, thanks so much. 0:07:29.200 --> 0:07:30.840 You can hit us up on the pickup. You can 0:07:30.840 --> 0:07:33.000 also text us too. You're asking cut on four nine 0:07:33.120 --> 0:07:35.400 nine four four one six five after. 0:07:35.200 --> 0:07:38.280 The break, guys. I've got an apologize to you. 0:07:38.320 --> 0:07:38.640 Guys. 0:07:38.960 --> 0:07:41.360 I don't want to do it historic moment. 0:07:41.520 --> 0:07:43.480 What did you do? I'll tell you after the break, 0:07:43.520 --> 0:07:49.400 But it's pretty funny. It's actually a funny apology. 0:07:51.520 --> 0:07:53.040 Good banger. Next on the pick up. 0:07:54.680 --> 0:07:59.360 Okay, don't hate me because things turned out fine, but 0:07:59.400 --> 0:08:00.920 I do have an apology for you. 0:08:01.080 --> 0:08:04.360 Just tuning in, Laura Britt has been teasing this apology 0:08:04.400 --> 0:08:06.400 to the two of us, which individually. 0:08:05.880 --> 0:08:08.119 We don't know what she's actually done wrong. 0:08:08.240 --> 0:08:10.480 So it's like, I feel like I'm going to be 0:08:10.480 --> 0:08:12.400 mad when I find out because the way that you 0:08:12.480 --> 0:08:14.680 have been so coy about this and saying that you 0:08:14.720 --> 0:08:16.320 need to apologize for something, I'm like. 0:08:16.200 --> 0:08:16.960 What did you break? 0:08:17.080 --> 0:08:17.560 You engaged? 0:08:17.600 --> 0:08:18.440 What did you mess? 0:08:19.760 --> 0:08:24.480 Bed's not real this whole time. I think it's very funny. 0:08:24.520 --> 0:08:25.960 Otherwise I wouldn't be telling you. I'd take it to 0:08:26.000 --> 0:08:30.240 the grave. So you might remember last week I was 0:08:30.280 --> 0:08:32.840 like reliving my childhood and I was telling you about 0:08:32.880 --> 0:08:34.920 how much I love these weird combinations. 0:08:34.960 --> 0:08:37.200 And I allow the ice cream and tomato sauce. 0:08:37.760 --> 0:08:39.640 Yes, I know exactly what you're going to say, and 0:08:39.640 --> 0:08:42.080 I'm already mad, So have a listen. 0:08:42.679 --> 0:08:45.800 Laura's doing it. Tomato sauce on an ice cream. 0:08:46.600 --> 0:08:48.520 You loved what I sawce and you love ice cream. 0:08:48.520 --> 0:08:51.280 It's not that bad. I find it really sour for 0:08:51.360 --> 0:08:53.160 revolting her revolting. 0:08:55.440 --> 0:08:56.200 I'm not being weird. 0:08:56.240 --> 0:08:58.920 Guys, you like a damage. 0:08:59.040 --> 0:09:03.000 I really like it. Tomato sauces. It was tomato sauce 0:09:03.040 --> 0:09:04.839 on an ice cream sandwich because that's what Brick grew 0:09:04.880 --> 0:09:05.200 up eating. 0:09:05.320 --> 0:09:08.960 It was absolutely revolting, and no part of my body 0:09:09.000 --> 0:09:11.400 at the time believed that you used to eat that and. 0:09:11.320 --> 0:09:13.840 You sort of liked it, but it was vinegary. 0:09:14.320 --> 0:09:16.599 No, I did what you do. 0:09:16.800 --> 0:09:19.360 That's not the apology. That is what I liked. I 0:09:19.400 --> 0:09:21.679 grew up eating that. I loved it. But I do 0:09:21.720 --> 0:09:24.680 want to admit that when I ate it last week. 0:09:24.840 --> 0:09:26.840 I was like, it doesn't taste as good as I remembered, 0:09:26.880 --> 0:09:28.120 but I've told them how good it is. 0:09:28.120 --> 0:09:29.120 I'm going to lean into it. 0:09:29.800 --> 0:09:33.880 When when we finished that day and I left, I 0:09:34.120 --> 0:09:37.520 glanced down at the tomato sauce bottle and I noticed that. 0:09:37.480 --> 0:09:40.720 It expired in May. That's why I tasted like vinegar 0:09:40.880 --> 0:09:41.920 May of twenty twenty three. 0:09:42.240 --> 0:09:46.640 It was the tomato. 0:09:46.360 --> 0:09:49.719 Sauce was well over a year out of date. 0:09:49.800 --> 0:09:53.000 And I promised to God, I had no idea, but 0:09:53.040 --> 0:09:54.880 that is why it tastes that vinegary. 0:09:54.960 --> 0:09:56.760 And that is why it tasted like, I don't know 0:09:56.760 --> 0:09:59.079 whatever you said. You just said vomited as it was discusting. 0:09:59.320 --> 0:10:01.720 It tasted absolutely revolting. 0:10:01.760 --> 0:10:03.240 And now I hate you for that because it was 0:10:03.360 --> 0:10:05.400 so gross, and you were like, have another bye. 0:10:05.520 --> 0:10:06.920 So I saw the bottle. 0:10:06.640 --> 0:10:09.080 As we walked out, I was glancing at it. So 0:10:09.160 --> 0:10:10.840 I clocked a while wore all skill in the room, 0:10:10.880 --> 0:10:13.040 and then I started laughing. I was like, oh my god, 0:10:13.080 --> 0:10:14.760 do I tell them? And I was like, nah, stuff, 0:10:14.760 --> 0:10:15.480 and I'll lean into it. 0:10:15.520 --> 0:10:17.839 And it's been weighing on the guilty. This was from 0:10:17.880 --> 0:10:18.280 your house. 0:10:18.320 --> 0:10:20.560 You took it from your pantry, so not only was 0:10:20.559 --> 0:10:22.320 it out of date, it's been sitting in the cupboard 0:10:22.320 --> 0:10:23.840 because you don't keep anything in the fridge. 0:10:23.880 --> 0:10:26.360 You don't follow the instructions. It had just been rotting 0:10:26.360 --> 0:10:29.000 in your cupboard. Yeah, I hadn't obviously used it also 0:10:29.080 --> 0:10:29.520 in a year. 0:10:29.920 --> 0:10:32.560 Can we also address the fact that it's not bad 0:10:32.600 --> 0:10:34.679 for you, Laura, because you said it was disgusting, but 0:10:34.760 --> 0:10:37.440 I said, so, how can I make this at home? 0:10:37.559 --> 0:10:41.280 I love this molded to my solip a. If you 0:10:41.280 --> 0:10:43.720 took the lid off that that would have had full penicillin. 0:10:43.280 --> 0:10:45.840 Growing inside it. Okay, can I tell you my vinegar? 0:10:45.920 --> 0:10:46.920 Why not a funny thing? 0:10:47.640 --> 0:10:48.040 No, I don't. 0:10:48.080 --> 0:10:48.880 I'm done at the fact. 0:10:49.040 --> 0:10:51.720 I only just remembered it right now when you said 0:10:51.760 --> 0:10:54.520 that in the morning, this should have been a tell. 0:10:54.600 --> 0:10:56.040 But when I picked it up to bring it in, 0:10:56.559 --> 0:10:59.240 I went to twist open the top and it was 0:10:59.320 --> 0:11:01.960 so stuck together that I had to get scissors to 0:11:02.040 --> 0:11:04.440 cut the crusty tomatoess off the nozzle. 0:11:04.920 --> 0:11:08.880 Yeah, I reckon. You opened it and spores flew out 0:11:08.880 --> 0:11:10.760 of it. You know we're broadcasters, or you could have 0:11:10.800 --> 0:11:11.640 got the sports. 0:11:12.200 --> 0:11:14.439 I just thought it was fine. I would never because 0:11:14.440 --> 0:11:15.079 I ate it too. 0:11:15.320 --> 0:11:17.880 That's how much I didn't think it was me anyway, 0:11:18.040 --> 0:11:18.880 It's been waiting on me. 0:11:19.080 --> 0:11:22.439 Now I have repented. I am free. 0:11:24.280 --> 0:11:25.520 I did and it's disgusting. 0:11:25.559 --> 0:11:28.319 So maybe, yeah, maybe it's not gast that's going through 0:11:28.360 --> 0:11:32.320 my house. Maybe anyway, for give me. 0:11:32.400 --> 0:11:34.400 Next on the show, something else we spoke about last week. 0:11:34.400 --> 0:11:35.720 I mean, if you tuned into the show, you would 0:11:35.720 --> 0:11:38.000 have heard Laura tell a great story about an issue 0:11:38.000 --> 0:11:39.840 that's happening in her life at the moment. She's got 0:11:39.880 --> 0:11:42.240 a friend that he's having a baby, very exciting news 0:11:42.280 --> 0:11:46.199 for her. However, the baby daddy does not know that 0:11:46.240 --> 0:11:49.560 he's expecting a son because not expecting they've had a baby, 0:11:49.760 --> 0:11:50.240 had a baby. 0:11:50.400 --> 0:11:51.360 He doesn't know he's the daddy. 0:11:51.400 --> 0:11:53.280 It was a one night stand. She's not told him 0:11:53.600 --> 0:11:54.400 that he got him. 0:11:54.559 --> 0:11:55.480 He doesn't want to tell him. 0:11:55.520 --> 0:11:58.000 We have a Pickup listener who heard that and has 0:11:58.040 --> 0:11:59.760 a story that you guys don't know about yet. He 0:11:59.800 --> 0:12:02.280 did the show and I read it. My jaw was 0:12:02.320 --> 0:12:05.080 on the floor. We're chatting to him. Next, a real 0:12:05.080 --> 0:12:07.360 life story of meeting your father lad in life. It's 0:12:07.400 --> 0:12:09.160 going to blow you away at his Next on the 0:12:09.160 --> 0:12:13.160 Pickup Listen, Ladies. Last week on the show, Laurie, you 0:12:13.160 --> 0:12:16.800 were telling us a story that has divided your household. Really, 0:12:16.840 --> 0:12:18.640 you've got a friend in your life that has had 0:12:18.640 --> 0:12:21.480 a baby, only if she is the baby's daddy is 0:12:21.520 --> 0:12:24.120 a backpacker. He had a one night stand and thought 0:12:24.120 --> 0:12:26.640 it was a good night of fun. But no, no, 0:12:27.040 --> 0:12:30.120 he got this girl pregnant. She has not told him. 0:12:30.240 --> 0:12:33.800 Ye dribble, it's very scandalous. So she doesn't want to 0:12:33.840 --> 0:12:36.440 tell him. She's in her forties, he's in his twenties. 0:12:37.280 --> 0:12:39.600 But we've been having like lots of moral conversations in 0:12:39.600 --> 0:12:42.000 our household as to whether she has an obligation to 0:12:42.000 --> 0:12:42.360 tell him. 0:12:42.400 --> 0:12:43.880 Yeah, if you missed it, this is what happened. 0:12:44.000 --> 0:12:45.839 So the baby is now four months old. 0:12:46.200 --> 0:12:46.400 Now. 0:12:46.440 --> 0:12:49.079 The dad was a man who is in his very 0:12:49.120 --> 0:12:52.320 early twenties. He was in Australia as a backpacker. They're 0:12:52.320 --> 0:12:55.240 friends on Facebook and their friends on Instagram. But they 0:12:55.280 --> 0:12:57.760 had a one night stand while he was traveling through 0:12:57.840 --> 0:13:02.920 Sydney and he has no idea that he has. 0:13:02.800 --> 0:13:06.280 Fathered a baby. Now, the big. 0:13:06.800 --> 0:13:10.360 Moral question of this is is can she keep this 0:13:10.400 --> 0:13:13.160 a secret or does she morally have to tell him? 0:13:13.360 --> 0:13:15.520 Because at this rate, there's no way that this kid's 0:13:15.520 --> 0:13:17.200 ever going to find out who their father is. 0:13:17.280 --> 0:13:19.360 It's you a real sticky moral conundrum, right. 0:13:19.360 --> 0:13:21.480 I just questioned, like, growing up this whole time not 0:13:21.640 --> 0:13:24.240 knowing who your dad is, but then maybe one day 0:13:24.240 --> 0:13:26.560 finding out that your mum always knew and she kept 0:13:26.559 --> 0:13:27.440 that secret from you. 0:13:27.559 --> 0:13:30.480 Well, listen, it sounds like something that you hear in movies, 0:13:30.520 --> 0:13:32.880 you hear on the radio. We had a pick up listener. 0:13:32.920 --> 0:13:35.200 His name's Teddy. Teddy is a listener of the show. 0:13:35.360 --> 0:13:37.280 He sent us a DM last week when we put 0:13:37.280 --> 0:13:40.840 this to air, and Teddy's story truly left me with 0:13:40.920 --> 0:13:42.720 my draw on the fort. Teddy, Welcome to the show. 0:13:42.720 --> 0:13:44.760 Why don't you tell us your amazing story? 0:13:45.040 --> 0:13:48.760 H Yeah, I was listening last week and I resonated 0:13:48.760 --> 0:13:52.480 with the story. I recently two months ago just met 0:13:52.520 --> 0:14:00.120 my biological father. I'm thirty four, almost thirty five, and 0:14:00.200 --> 0:14:02.240 my mom chose not to tell my dad, Like I 0:14:02.280 --> 0:14:06.360 found out that she could have told him and she 0:14:06.400 --> 0:14:08.640 didn't and she has now passed, so like, I never 0:14:08.760 --> 0:14:12.720 answered that question, but yeah, so wow, it's been really 0:14:12.720 --> 0:14:13.760 good in meeting him. 0:14:13.720 --> 0:14:16.320 So quickly set the scene. So did you did you 0:14:16.360 --> 0:14:18.600 ever ask about your dad growing up to your mother. 0:14:18.600 --> 0:14:19.760 Did you say, I want to meet him? Do you 0:14:19.800 --> 0:14:20.400 know who he is? 0:14:21.160 --> 0:14:24.120 Well? Constantly, I was raised technically by my grandma, but 0:14:24.480 --> 0:14:27.040 my biological mum was in my life and I had 0:14:27.120 --> 0:14:30.840 asked and she just didn't give me an answer ever, 0:14:31.200 --> 0:14:32.760 like it was kind of just like I don't know, 0:14:34.000 --> 0:14:36.640 and so like that's kind of how I've lived with it, 0:14:36.760 --> 0:14:39.080 even like other members of my family were a bit 0:14:39.120 --> 0:14:39.840 weird about it. 0:14:40.000 --> 0:14:41.760 Teddy, how did you find out? 0:14:42.280 --> 0:14:44.880 Well, I did an ancestry dot com. Yes, sponsor me. 0:14:45.200 --> 0:14:51.760 I'm just kidding up. They might now, but my mom, 0:14:51.920 --> 0:14:55.520 my mom was a bit of a a bike around 0:14:55.560 --> 0:14:56.280 that at the time. 0:14:57.280 --> 0:14:59.520 She had a good time in her twenties. 0:14:59.560 --> 0:15:02.960 She I had a few people at like around that time, 0:15:03.000 --> 0:15:05.880 but she always was stuck on my dad's name. And 0:15:05.920 --> 0:15:07.560 she had said that she was like, I think it's 0:15:07.600 --> 0:15:10.920 this guy. He's a cop, but I'm not sure. And 0:15:10.960 --> 0:15:14.360 I'm literally all the information I had. And years later, 0:15:14.520 --> 0:15:18.040 maybe two years ago, I think I did an ancestry 0:15:18.040 --> 0:15:22.720 dot com thing and that last name was linked distantly 0:15:22.880 --> 0:15:26.480 and I was like, hmm, okay, this is something. And 0:15:26.520 --> 0:15:30.640 then that woman randomly messaged me, and she actually also 0:15:30.680 --> 0:15:34.120 messaged my dad and then we I messaged him on 0:15:34.200 --> 0:15:36.400 Facebook because I just looked up his name, and then yeah, 0:15:36.440 --> 0:15:38.400 we slowly got connected, but it took a few months 0:15:38.360 --> 0:15:38.760 to wait. 0:15:38.840 --> 0:15:40.600 Wait, okay, so your mom had mentioned a name in 0:15:40.640 --> 0:15:42.360 passing growing up. She's like, I could have been this guy. 0:15:42.400 --> 0:15:44.680 To be honest, I had a couple. So you find 0:15:44.760 --> 0:15:47.480 him on Facebook and do you call him? Do you 0:15:47.560 --> 0:15:48.720 DM him? What's the first. 0:15:51.840 --> 0:15:54.920 I just sent him a message being like, hey, did 0:15:54.920 --> 0:15:58.600 you know like and inserted my mom's name there, and 0:15:58.640 --> 0:15:59.920 then he left me on red for a while, and 0:16:00.120 --> 0:16:02.800 then a few months went by and then I was like, oh, 0:16:02.840 --> 0:16:05.440 you would have known her in like nineteen eighty eight, 0:16:05.960 --> 0:16:08.240 and then he was like, oh, yes I did. And 0:16:08.680 --> 0:16:11.840 I just I must be feeling really brazen that day 0:16:11.840 --> 0:16:13.760 because I just replied being like, oh, I can kill 0:16:13.800 --> 0:16:17.640 my dad. And then he called me and then we 0:16:17.760 --> 0:16:21.040 spoke on the phone for a bit and then yeah. 0:16:20.640 --> 0:16:22.240 Can I ask what was it like when you met 0:16:22.320 --> 0:16:23.800 him for the first time, because you said you guys 0:16:23.840 --> 0:16:24.840 have a bit of a relationship. 0:16:24.880 --> 0:16:28.800 Now was well, it's insane because I grew up not 0:16:28.840 --> 0:16:31.400 looking like anyone in my family, so like I always 0:16:31.400 --> 0:16:33.080 stood out, like I've got brown eyes. They all had 0:16:33.080 --> 0:16:35.560 blue eyes, so I never fitted in. And then as 0:16:35.560 --> 0:16:38.960 soon as I saw him, I literally everyone who's seen 0:16:38.960 --> 0:16:41.400