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<v Speaker 1>Flex and Frooms, Flex and Fromes. This is the Flex

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<v Speaker 1>and Frooms catch up podcasts.

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<v Speaker 2>Sweety Mine, we are back. Everything is fat time. I

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<v Speaker 2>went to the dentist, and my dentists little and she

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<v Speaker 2>was like, Babes, you gotta stop with the acidic drinks.

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<v Speaker 2>Like everyone falls into this trap. We drink too much acidity.

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<v Speaker 2>Lemon water, bad soda water, sparkling water, bad soft drinks,

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<v Speaker 2>bad coffee, bad, I said, babes. Citrus drinks, orange juice,

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<v Speaker 2>all that bad, I said, Babes. For me, life is

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<v Speaker 2>made so sweet knowing I can drink sugar. I don't

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<v Speaker 2>really want like a little dessert that badly, but every

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<v Speaker 2>day I need to have a little something sweet in

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<v Speaker 2>liquid form.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not doing it.

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<v Speaker 2>So I have to go back to get my tooth

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<v Speaker 2>gems redone, and I'm freaking out that.

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<v Speaker 1>They're going to be rotted.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, no, like my teeth are fine, but she was

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<v Speaker 2>just kind of like, your teeth are so good, you

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<v Speaker 2>need to like make them extra good and like don't

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<v Speaker 2>have the acid. And I was like, yeah, I'll try.

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<v Speaker 2>It was like a good two weeks and I was like,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm so sorry, babe. All I have for me right

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<v Speaker 2>now is like my liquid consumption. But I will say

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<v Speaker 2>we are discussing whether or not living in a commune

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<v Speaker 2>or something we do with friends. I'm talking by a

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<v Speaker 2>plot of land, build separate houses, share a rumpus room.

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<v Speaker 2>Does it sound like a fun time? And also breakups

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<v Speaker 2>in the modern times, you see before you catch someone

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<v Speaker 2>on the phone, you catch them on a little social

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<v Speaker 2>media up but.

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<v Speaker 1>Little lipstick on the collar. Yeah yeah, but.

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<v Speaker 2>Fitbits, smart watchers, beware, here we go.

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<v Speaker 1>You're listening to flex and rooms on kator now. Up

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<v Speaker 1>until I didn't ancestry DNA test about eight years ago.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh you're over you for a new one. No, you

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<v Speaker 1>know what. You do it once and they slowly make

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<v Speaker 1>it better and better. Oh cool, they give you updates

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<v Speaker 1>and be like you get a notivation like boom, We've

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<v Speaker 1>got like more specific understanding of what region in this

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<v Speaker 1>country you're from. Amazing, So I don't know where anyway,

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<v Speaker 1>Before that period, I didn't really know what was happening

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<v Speaker 1>with the past people, right, but I figured who were

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<v Speaker 1>the past people? All the people before me? Oh the

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<v Speaker 1>other rooms yeah, which, like I'm still wrap my head

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<v Speaker 1>around the fact that we're here. Because the first ever people.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, like what like, were than for your service and

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<v Speaker 2>everyone thanks.

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<v Speaker 1>This is a massive daisy chain. None of you died

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<v Speaker 1>before we were born.

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<v Speaker 2>Also before the sea levels rose and we could just

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<v Speaker 2>walk between continents. Imagine if your ancestors didn't stay where

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<v Speaker 2>they were before the sea levels rose back up.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, is that what happened? Yeah, my god, there's so

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<v Speaker 1>much to learn and take in.

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<v Speaker 2>You know about Christopher Columbus anyway, top.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, anyway, I figured out through my ancestry DNA that

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<v Speaker 1>I'm thirty three percent Scottish. Thank you, amongst other things.

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<v Speaker 1>This is all four percent yeah, okay, anyway, this means

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<v Speaker 1>I have a renewed interest in all things Scottish. The

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<v Speaker 1>other day, you talk to me about that ring with

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<v Speaker 1>the love heart.

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<v Speaker 2>What's that clatter like claudeur it's like spelt with d

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<v Speaker 2>la double dagh.

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<v Speaker 1>You should know. Well, I'm learning. And it's that ring

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<v Speaker 1>where there's two hands holding a heart and the heart

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<v Speaker 1>has a crown anyway.

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<v Speaker 2>And you depending which way that heart shaped crown, that

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<v Speaker 2>heart with crown faces, it determines or signals whether you're

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<v Speaker 2>single or taken.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, may I say they ate with that? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>got me thinking about myths, and the biggest myth when

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<v Speaker 1>it comes to that area of the world, I would say,

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<v Speaker 1>is a Locknest Monster. We've all heard of the Locknest Monster,

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<v Speaker 1>perhaps that kept some of us awake at night as

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<v Speaker 1>small children. How would you describe it for those who

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<v Speaker 1>haven't heard. Okay, so Locknest Monster is a mythical like

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<v Speaker 1>quote unquote mythical creature to be found in the Lockness

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<v Speaker 1>River thing in Scotland. And this monster is like a

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<v Speaker 1>massive water snake and there's images of it when photos

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<v Speaker 1>came out as like a black and white image of

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<v Speaker 1>the Locknest Monster and it's like, first hump is out

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<v Speaker 1>of the water. It's like a sweevely snake that's half

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<v Speaker 1>out of the water. Kind of like, yeah, how you

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<v Speaker 1>imagine a mythical creature that's a snake in the water

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<v Speaker 1>would look like recently there was a high tech search

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<v Speaker 1>snake assuming snake. Yeah, but they usually they usually swim

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<v Speaker 1>across the top like inner side to side motion. But

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<v Speaker 1>this is going up and up and down, up and down. Incredible.

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<v Speaker 1>There was a high tech search at Lockness when Nexty

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<v Speaker 1>that is her nickname, was potentially found like a bit

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<v Speaker 1>more evidence, and it was about like there's a new

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<v Speaker 1>sound down there. But as we know with sounds when

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<v Speaker 1>we saw this sub submarine submersible tragedy, that things can

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<v Speaker 1>be sound, things can be heard when they're not really

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<v Speaker 1>there anyway, Sinceuly, what happened is people from all across

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<v Speaker 1>the world who are obsessed with Locknest Monster came together recently, recently,

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<v Speaker 1>like a like a month or so ago to try

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<v Speaker 1>and like find out what's happening. Like, I love that

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<v Speaker 1>it broad in a check in. It brought all of

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<v Speaker 1>these people together, and I like how this mystery that

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<v Speaker 1>has captivated a world of generations brings people all together.

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<v Speaker 2>I like that Specifically, I believe that all mythological creatures

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<v Speaker 2>are real. If we exist in time with dinosaurs, then

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<v Speaker 2>surely dragons could exist. It doesn't it's not that much

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<v Speaker 2>of a stretch of the imagination. If those what do

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<v Speaker 2>you call those sea animals with the horns, nah, like mermaids, No, nah, somethings.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I think I know what you mean.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, if normals can exist, so a sea animal with

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<v Speaker 2>a huge horn then can exist. We already have the

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<v Speaker 2>horses on land, just add a little bit extra. Also,

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<v Speaker 2>bulls and deers are technically referred to as mythological creatures,

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<v Speaker 2>but we know they're real because we kicky with them

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<v Speaker 2>every day. So by that logic, and yes we will

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<v Speaker 2>use that logic, there's a room for all of it

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<v Speaker 2>to exist.

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<v Speaker 1>Fairies as well. I saw a story the other day

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<v Speaker 1>about a commune in New Zealand where I think five

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<v Speaker 1>mates all put in to buy a block of land

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<v Speaker 1>and then they've then built four houses that are kind

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<v Speaker 1>of like townhouses modern terraces because it was cheaper and

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<v Speaker 1>that's one way that they could afford to get into

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<v Speaker 1>the housing market. This house is chic. It's chic.

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<v Speaker 2>It's giving view modern mid centuary, clean lines, exposed beings,

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<v Speaker 2>different woods, pristine.

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<v Speaker 1>It's gorgeous. And what they've done is they also have

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<v Speaker 1>like a rumpus room that they can all share. It's

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<v Speaker 1>giving Tim Gerner Hotel vibes. You know what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 2>I do know what you're saying. So this is Was

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<v Speaker 2>this a particular group of friends that all still had

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<v Speaker 2>to invent more than a million dollars?

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, Yes, this is the one.

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<v Speaker 2>So yes, because I remember, I remember when I initially

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<v Speaker 2>came across this story I was like, oh, like a

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<v Speaker 2>cost saving activity. Really cute friends getting to get get well,

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<v Speaker 2>friends getting together and pulling their money to build a

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<v Speaker 2>house or share. Come to find out, it's four townhouses

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<v Speaker 2>squished together and they all as a couple invested a

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<v Speaker 2>million dollars each. So that's five million dollars, which people

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<v Speaker 2>said is still cheaper than what they could have made

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<v Speaker 2>on their own. I don't know, don't live in New Zealand.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, that is curious, isn't it. It got me thinking

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<v Speaker 1>about communes more gen relay and thinking like, in an

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<v Speaker 1>ideal world, how close I guess how close you want

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<v Speaker 1>to live to your relatives is kind of like relative

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<v Speaker 1>to whether or not you actually like them. Yeah, but

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<v Speaker 1>I'll never forget when my grandparents died, they had a

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<v Speaker 1>house that was kind of like it wasn't rundown, but

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<v Speaker 1>it wasn't like that nice, and it was on like

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<v Speaker 1>quite a big block of land, and my parents were

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<v Speaker 1>like seriously considering selling their house to like make a

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<v Speaker 1>commune with all of my cousins, and they wanted us

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<v Speaker 1>to live on the thing as well. And I was thinking,

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<v Speaker 1>like the or at the time, I was like absolutely not,

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<v Speaker 1>like I don't want to be anywhere in my parents.

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<v Speaker 1>But now that I'm getting older, I'm seeing the vision

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm thinking, like, do you reckon? Like I'm thinking

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<v Speaker 1>with this housing crisis, is there any way that we're

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<v Speaker 1>going to go down the route of like bringing back

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<v Speaker 1>in like families all living together? But in Western culture families.

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<v Speaker 2>It's still an expensive practice though it still requires the

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<v Speaker 2>capital that a lot of people don't have to get

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<v Speaker 2>it started in order to buy a block of land

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<v Speaker 2>in Sydney. Oh yeah, no, no, a block of land

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<v Speaker 2>in Melbourne and then build on that land. How long

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<v Speaker 2>will that take? And then make a space that's functional

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<v Speaker 2>for everyone. I feel like the concept is something that

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<v Speaker 2>could be achieved or conceptualized in a sharehouse environment to really,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, share responsibilities and to live actually together, not

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<v Speaker 2>just next to each other. Right, But I feel like

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<v Speaker 2>this elusive commune concept is harder than it looks because

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<v Speaker 2>none of us not how to fend for ourselves.

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<v Speaker 1>I know it sounds really fun, though, doesn't it.

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<v Speaker 2>Until it's like all the mums are cleaning up after everyone.

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<v Speaker 2>What is the worst way to be broken up with

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<v Speaker 2>or to at least find out you're being cheated?

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<v Speaker 1>On.

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<v Speaker 2>We all know the digital age is changing the way

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<v Speaker 2>that we date, for better and for worse. But I

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<v Speaker 2>was reading this story in Wired dot com and the

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<v Speaker 2>articles about all the ways that like virtual stuff is

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<v Speaker 2>changing when people like have intimate relations. But this one

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<v Speaker 2>was called the fitbit breakup, and I was like, what

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<v Speaker 2>does this mean anyway? Strap in because it.

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<v Speaker 1>Is tech time, tech time, text time, It's tech time

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<v Speaker 1>with flexiproomes on. Cater puts it to the next level.

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<v Speaker 1>The Fitbit Breakup.

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<v Speaker 2>Ted an anonymous name, and I laughed all the time together.

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<v Speaker 2>We laughed when I lay on top of him and

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<v Speaker 2>made our bodies touch as much as possible.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, our noses.

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<v Speaker 2>Our lips, our kneecaps, our palms, our big toes. We

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<v Speaker 2>laughed when we walked from Tribeca to the Upper East

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<v Speaker 2>Side to log steps on his fitbit. After three days

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<v Speaker 2>of eating tearum sew in bed only to find out

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<v Speaker 2>he wasn't wearing his fitbit.

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<v Speaker 1>For Christmas.

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<v Speaker 2>Ted's mum had given her kids fitbits and connected scales

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<v Speaker 2>for Christmas. Ted's mom had given her kids fitbits and

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<v Speaker 2>connected scales. I'd set Ted's scale up for us. He

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<v Speaker 2>could step on it and given his weight about one

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<v Speaker 2>hundred and sixty five pounds, it would identify him and

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<v Speaker 2>send his data to his fitbit profile. And when I

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<v Speaker 2>stepped on the scale, the technology knew it was me.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm about one hundred and thirty five pounds. Each person's

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<v Speaker 2>info was accessible to each other's users of the scale.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, cool.

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<v Speaker 2>It wasn't all laughs with Ted and this woman, though

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<v Speaker 2>they'd broken up a couple of times and quickly gotten

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<v Speaker 2>back together. But after their most recent drunken fight, this

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<v Speaker 2>reader had texted where dome. The next morning, she woke

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<v Speaker 2>up wondering what Ted had texted back, but he hadn't

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<v Speaker 2>texted back. She decided to wigh two or more hours

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<v Speaker 2>and thought he'd call. But he didn't call. She wasn't

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<v Speaker 2>going to reach out because he was the one who

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<v Speaker 2>owed her the apology, so she waited and waited and waited.

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<v Speaker 2>Hid in text. She rented a movie, hid in text,

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<v Speaker 2>She rented another movie, hid in text.

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<v Speaker 1>She ordered food.

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<v Speaker 2>She spent all day in her apartment, checking her phone,

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<v Speaker 2>waiting around for him to text her and apologize.

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<v Speaker 1>He didn't.

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<v Speaker 2>After about ten PM, she turned off her TV. She

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<v Speaker 2>went to bed and looked at her fitbit watch just

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<v Speaker 2>you know, like memories vibes anyway, But the number next

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<v Speaker 2>to her profile read one hundred and twenty six pounds,

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<v Speaker 2>which is strange because it was logged at nine pm

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<v Speaker 2>and this is ten pm.

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<v Speaker 1>She's pretty sure that yesterday she weighed.

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<v Speaker 2>One hundred and thirty six pounds, So how is it

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<v Speaker 2>possible that she had lost ten ten pounds of weight

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<v Speaker 2>in simply a day or an hour. She imagined it

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<v Speaker 2>was like a tech issue, but then realize that no,

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<v Speaker 2>it was the one hundred and twenty six pound woman

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<v Speaker 2>standing on the scale at Ted's house, in Ted's bed

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<v Speaker 2>because Ted had.

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<v Speaker 1>Been cheating on her.

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<v Speaker 2>He wasn't going to call because he'd already found her replacement.

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<v Speaker 1>Wait wait, wait, wait wait, why would the chick even

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<v Speaker 1>bother sitting on the before not like, oh my god,

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<v Speaker 1>that is horrible. That's a horrible way to find out.

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<v Speaker 2>I know, and a really smart and perceptive way to

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<v Speaker 2>find out as well. Again, I'd be like, the thing

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<v Speaker 2>is glitchy, not this woman, she knew better. Oh that's incredible,

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<v Speaker 2>it's scary times. That was a story by Bree Mortimer

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<v Speaker 2>for The Wired. There are more digital stories like that.

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<v Speaker 2>There each worse than the other in the best way possible.

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<v Speaker 1>Read at your own risk. Please now I want to

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<v Speaker 1>know I f This is a bit of a simple

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<v Speaker 1>one that I hope everyone listening will play along with

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<v Speaker 1>at a home Would you rather close your eyes? Would

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<v Speaker 1>you rather hang around with somebody who is a constant

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<v Speaker 1>bragger or a constant complainer? This is a great question.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you. You might have to plagiarize this, okay.

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<v Speaker 2>For your conversation cards Reflex It's fantastic.

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<v Speaker 1>Reflex flex factory.

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<v Speaker 2>I have a few question clarifying questions, and I hate

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<v Speaker 2>clarifying questions when I personally pose these. But a complainer

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<v Speaker 2>not to be confused with someone who is venting or

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<v Speaker 2>sharing the same thing again and again and again and again.

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<v Speaker 2>This is someone who is making you aware of a

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<v Speaker 2>situation that they could fix and won't fix.

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<v Speaker 1>H For me, this one is about someone who will

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<v Speaker 1>like constantly find so negative that's a complainer. Like we

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<v Speaker 1>go to a cafe and there's these gorgeous little tiny

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<v Speaker 1>cupcake with little jelly bean on top, and they'll say, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>like why jelly beans?

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<v Speaker 2>She should have been m ms literally yeah yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>By this one, low level complaining when you just it's

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<v Speaker 1>the classic like not all thoughts need to be shpped.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, literally literally, and it's a skill you learn with

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<v Speaker 2>time and with humbling and then with a bragger. My

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<v Speaker 2>initial thought went to someone who like embellishes a lot

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<v Speaker 2>when they tell stories, but that's also not we're talking

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<v Speaker 2>about either. We're talking about someone who was like I

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<v Speaker 2>wish I could tell this story, but it's not appropriate

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<v Speaker 2>for a give me an example of a bragger.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, I'm imagining not in my work context. I imagine

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<v Speaker 1>someone in high school who was hot, but they like

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<v Speaker 1>had that real like I'm so hot energy and they're

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<v Speaker 1>like very shit, which is kind.

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<v Speaker 2>Of like, yeah, I can't even I can't even go

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<v Speaker 2>to a bustop these days because at last my went,

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<v Speaker 2>like four guys try to ask me out, and it

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<v Speaker 2>was just like crazy because like I was like not

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<v Speaker 2>even looking like that good that day.

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<v Speaker 1>But it doesn't even.

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<v Speaker 2>Matter because literally, okay, I personally would rather be friends

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<v Speaker 2>with the drum wall. Please, I'm gonna say the bragger. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>why initially I thought the complainer, but misery loves company,

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<v Speaker 2>and I really do believe, like even without the woo woo,

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<v Speaker 2>that like we are all operating on like some kind

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<v Speaker 2>of default and come some kind of default filter on

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<v Speaker 2>how we view the world, a default filter for how

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<v Speaker 2>we process our emotions. And like when you're hanging out

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<v Speaker 2>with someone whose default is negative, it brings you.

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<v Speaker 1>Down to where they are.

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<v Speaker 2>A negative person really commands a space so quickly. Let's

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<v Speaker 2>say you walk into you know, you're in a new country,

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<v Speaker 2>traveling your wide at everything's exciting, like it stinks at

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<v Speaker 2>the man, even did you consult heat?

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<v Speaker 1>I just want to get ax with my water.

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<v Speaker 2>It's like, okay, but please please. But then the bragger,

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<v Speaker 2>I can imagine you would have to really stop yourself

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<v Speaker 2>from wanting to to humble them and just let them

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<v Speaker 2>have it. Like the bragger is like thinks everyone's everyone's

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<v Speaker 2>flirting with them. You know, do you think we got

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<v Speaker 2>Do you think we got in for free because they

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<v Speaker 2>think I'm cute? No, it says it's free before ten

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<v Speaker 2>pm and it's eight pm. Babe, that's what's happening. I

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<v Speaker 2>think the bragger could really like ascend your mentality by

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<v Speaker 2>just being around them. They're like everything's hot, I'm hot,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm smart. The world is fun, life's and adventure. It

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<v Speaker 2>could get annoying, but I think for the best, what

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<v Speaker 2>do you reckon?

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<v Speaker 1>I agree the only the only other thing about the

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<v Speaker 1>bragger is like maybe they're It's sometimes when someone's bragging,

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<v Speaker 1>you can think that it's because they're like trying to

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<v Speaker 1>make you feel bad, whereas a complainer like often is

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<v Speaker 1>benign there in their own world. But I would still

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<v Speaker 1>agree that it's kind of good to be around people

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<v Speaker 1>who are megalomaniacs in some respect low level narcissist literally,

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<v Speaker 1>because really, I'd rather have to ask someone to stop

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<v Speaker 1>bragging than ask someone to stop complaining.

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<v Speaker 2>It has been long debated whether or not it is

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<v Speaker 2>appropriate and or virtuous to share your most intimate moments online.

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<v Speaker 2>Your engagement post, you crying in a depressive episode, fights

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<v Speaker 2>with your mom. We see these things and say thank

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<v Speaker 2>you for the entertainment. We appreciate you exploiting your most

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<v Speaker 2>intimate moments, But what does it do to you psychologically?

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not quite sure. There's this TikTok here Bye, there's

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<v Speaker 2>this TikTok here by Hot Weird Girl g zero RL

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<v Speaker 2>that debates that we should not share our most intimate

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<v Speaker 2>moments online. Do we tend to agree or disagree. Let's see,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't think.

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<v Speaker 3>Your most intimate moments belong online. This is a very

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<v Speaker 3>deep Hayter opinion of mine. But whenever I see those

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<v Speaker 3>videos of like a kid crying because mommy and daddy

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<v Speaker 3>got divorced, or like my grandma just said goodbye to

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<v Speaker 3>her sister, did you ask them if you could put

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<v Speaker 3>what is a very tender and extremely painful moment online

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<v Speaker 3>for the approval of strangers. Like I don't know if

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<v Speaker 3>I should be watching this, And I guess it's one

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<v Speaker 3>thing to put your most tender and intimate.

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<v Speaker 1>Moments online, and.

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<v Speaker 3>I teach it around. I wouldn't, but you can, but

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<v Speaker 3>like putting third parties in your life, like, oh, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>I've got my girlfriend a beautiful gift and it reminds

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<v Speaker 3>her of her dead dad. So I filmed her reaction

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<v Speaker 3>and I uploaded it. What I think something's are private.

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<v Speaker 3>I know I shouldn't be watching this, Like we've normalized

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<v Speaker 3>that a bit too much and it's not cool. Sucks.

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<v Speaker 1>Actually it's giving Kanye buying the hologram of Robert Kardashian

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<v Speaker 1>for Kim's fortieth Did that happen? Yeah, you saw that. No,

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<v Speaker 1>it's like a whole thing, Like he like bought this

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<v Speaker 1>hologram of Rob Kardashian for him to like say, have

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<v Speaker 1>you birthaty Kim?

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<v Speaker 2>I mean not comparable?

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, did you see the hologram? No body, he was

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<v Speaker 1>another party. You just know it exists. Yeah, has anybody

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<v Speaker 1>seen it fully across it? Anyway? I digree.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm telling you I fell off. I've fallen off, and

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<v Speaker 2>I kind of like it here. I don't know what

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<v Speaker 2>is going on in any of the moment. What I

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<v Speaker 2>will say, though, is this is my grap and we're

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<v Speaker 2>going to look back on it in twenty years time

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<v Speaker 2>and say authenticity culture did a number on you did

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<v Speaker 2>a number because while you're here exploiting your base nature,

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<v Speaker 2>your intimate moments and refusing to process in favor of

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<v Speaker 2>performing to an imaginary audience of strangers, Like, it's all

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<v Speaker 2>going to come back to you in a couple of

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<v Speaker 2>years time. I'm not to say that you can't share

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<v Speaker 2>or you shouldn't share, but I think like there's a

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<v Speaker 2>lack of consideration of what we're doing when we do

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<v Speaker 2>share these moments.

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<v Speaker 1>It's weird. What are you trying to get out of it? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>But also what will the implication be to you, like

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<v Speaker 2>psychologically in a couple of years time. Do you know

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<v Speaker 2>It's like when you see those get ready with me

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<v Speaker 2>to break up with my partner videos and you're like,

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<v Speaker 2>you are you in the room with us right now?

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<v Speaker 2>You're processing this because I know what I'm seeing, But

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<v Speaker 2>what are you experiencing that would warrant you making this

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<v Speaker 2>and putting it out to the world.

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<v Speaker 1>And I think sometimes you don't know when you're doing

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<v Speaker 1>a post like that. It just feels you just feel

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<v Speaker 1>like you want to do it for whatever reason.

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<v Speaker 2>Zacobc should be so happy with himself right now, Well,

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<v Speaker 2>I've changed your physiological response to existing and you like,

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<v Speaker 2>at one point in time, we had cortisol to tell

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<v Speaker 2>us when to be fearful, and now we have impulses

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<v Speaker 2>to post on an app.

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<v Speaker 1>I love it. It's crazy. It's crazy. You've been listening to

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