WEBVTT - A 'Proven' Method For Sliding Into A Celebs DMs 🤭

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<v Speaker 1>Flex and Frooms, Flex and Frooms.

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<v Speaker 2>This is the Flex and Frooms catch up podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Back on the podcast Bandwagon FLEXI I made, not the bandwagon.

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<v Speaker 2>I made a meme.

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<v Speaker 3>I can't stop thinking about Toddy's bread broadsheet review that Okay,

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<v Speaker 3>forty four tied eye flower hat, No mikey a sunburn?

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<v Speaker 3>Where is sorry hills with an eat? And Bondi Beach?

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<v Speaker 2>Is this true?

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<v Speaker 1>It's not Bondi Beach. That is Clovelly.

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<v Speaker 3>We got to make it clearer, okay, Yeah, maybe like

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<v Speaker 3>a pin, Yeah, a pin with like cloverally on the

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<v Speaker 3>map like zoom in because like that's really hard to see.

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<v Speaker 2>It's not really legible. But I love where this is going.

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<v Speaker 1>Otherwise pretty good.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, we'll find out when I post it and see

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<v Speaker 1>likes that gay guys, because I'm actually I've posted a

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<v Speaker 1>newsletter about Melbourne people coming to Sydney like what they

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<v Speaker 1>should do, okay, and they're legit tips from me because

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<v Speaker 1>I like to give back to the community. You're a philanthropus,

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<v Speaker 1>so farely putting a little in brackets there for the

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<v Speaker 1>for those that are not up with the law.

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<v Speaker 2>All right, here's the potty. This is flex and rooms.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm Kaita. Listen. It's important sometimes to shoot your shot.

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<v Speaker 1>That is our vibe here at Kita. However, some of

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<v Speaker 1>you have got it twisted and you think that it's

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<v Speaker 1>well within your remit to DM slide a celebrity. I

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<v Speaker 1>was on TikTok.

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<v Speaker 2>That's not appropriate.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I wouldn't do it. Oh, but I do

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<v Speaker 1>appreciate the drama.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, live a little.

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<v Speaker 1>I watched a TikTok where this woman explained potentially quite

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<v Speaker 1>a fantastic way to slide into a celebrity stamp gorgeous.

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<v Speaker 1>Step one, you find your famous guy.

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<v Speaker 4>You take a look at who he's following, and you

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<v Speaker 4>find some regular.

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<v Speaker 1>Dudes that he's following.

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<v Speaker 4>That he knows, maybe he works with them, or maybe

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<v Speaker 4>they're I gets childhood friends.

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<v Speaker 2>You follow some of.

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<v Speaker 4>These regular guys and hopefully you get one to follow

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<v Speaker 4>you back, so then you have a mutual. Once you

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<v Speaker 4>land a mutual, you got to make sure you have

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<v Speaker 4>some live stories. In a perfect world, the stories should

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<v Speaker 4>be of you and your hot think tank friends, and

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<v Speaker 4>you should be in the same city as the famous guy.

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<v Speaker 1>So that's stuff one. Oh, but lockdown that.

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<v Speaker 2>Feels like sixteen steps in one.

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<v Speaker 1>Step two is a little more ambitious.

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<v Speaker 4>You dm something along the lines of, if you're looking

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<v Speaker 4>for a good time, I'm here with my friends.

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<v Speaker 1>We would love to link and drop the number.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't like if you're looking for a good time

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<v Speaker 3>because soliciting, I don't know if we should be doing that.

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<v Speaker 3>I would hit them with a are you out tonight?

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<v Speaker 3>Send a picture of you and the friend in and

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<v Speaker 3>a monkst an outside environment, and then let link.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know, man, why I think with a celebrity

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<v Speaker 1>you can't be forward. You have to create a vibe,

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<v Speaker 1>catch their eye and then put the rest up to history.

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<v Speaker 3>How many hours you got on a day though? What

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<v Speaker 3>we were catching a vibe with Jonah Hill. A couple

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<v Speaker 3>of days ago, I found myself walking down Smith Street

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<v Speaker 3>in Melbourne. If you're not familiar with it's you know,

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<v Speaker 3>it's an up and comer. It's a niche up and comer.

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<v Speaker 3>It was walking past and I could hear this incessant

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<v Speaker 3>beeping of a horn, and there was no traffic on

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<v Speaker 3>the street, no trams, so I couldn't figure o where

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<v Speaker 3>it was coming from. I ended up walking past this

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<v Speaker 3>white van and there's this kid, no or older than

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<v Speaker 3>like six or seven, in the front seat of a

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<v Speaker 3>white van beeping the horn, beep, beep. I can't tell

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<v Speaker 3>if the kid's distressed or not, because the way it's beeping,

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<v Speaker 3>you think it's freaking out. I stop where I am.

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<v Speaker 3>I look around. I can't see a parent. I can't

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<v Speaker 3>see I was also with a friend and it maybe

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<v Speaker 3>was about fifteen seconds of us being like, what are

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<v Speaker 3>we gonna do?

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<v Speaker 2>Do we protect this kid?

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<v Speaker 3>Do we open the car? Is it that deep? Should

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<v Speaker 3>we just wait and see what happened? And it was

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<v Speaker 3>one of the very few times I can recall being

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<v Speaker 3>face to face with the Biseren effect and being like,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm not moving quick enough and we're in danger. The

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<v Speaker 3>Bystenter effect is this idea that when something is happening,

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<v Speaker 3>something dangerous or something where it requires someone to step in,

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<v Speaker 3>we all stand around assuming somebody else will do it.

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<v Speaker 3>And in that situation, I'm like, I don't even know

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<v Speaker 3>what to do, but I'm willing.

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<v Speaker 2>By the time I.

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<v Speaker 3>Figured out I should probably go and like knock on

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<v Speaker 3>the window and scare this child to death. A woman

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<v Speaker 3>did come out of a chip shop maybe five shops away,

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<v Speaker 3>was like, stop stop pressing the button, babe, stop pressing. No,

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<v Speaker 3>enough enough, So clearly she was getting them like a

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<v Speaker 3>bit of dinner. But I'm like, why don't just bring

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<v Speaker 3>the kid? Yeah, you're parked in a place where you

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<v Speaker 3>can park. It was two p okay, just take the

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<v Speaker 3>kid out. It's beeping, it's unset. All the windows were up,

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<v Speaker 3>mind you, the car was not on. And then she's

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<v Speaker 3>looking at us like we were being weird looking at her. Funny,

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<v Speaker 3>Let's say you're in a similar situation. You saw what

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<v Speaker 3>I saw. You couldn't see a parent. What would you

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<v Speaker 3>have done?

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<v Speaker 1>I would have let the kid be like, let the

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<v Speaker 1>kid be the kid, let it beep all beat the

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<v Speaker 1>boots down.

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<v Speaker 2>We can't leave kids in cars.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know, like my parents kept me in the

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<v Speaker 1>car when mama's job.

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<v Speaker 2>This is illegal activity.

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<v Speaker 3>All I'm saying is as someone who likes to break

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<v Speaker 3>a rule, Yes, because I have issues with authority every

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<v Speaker 3>now and then, it's nice to push it and see

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<v Speaker 3>you know which will can I break today? But in

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<v Speaker 3>some instances the rules exist for a reason, and I

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<v Speaker 3>don't want to fear monger. But it had something had

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<v Speaker 3>gone wrong that parent would have felt so dumb, I

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<v Speaker 3>didn't like them.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, okay, now I understand.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh thank you. We got there eventually. Love life with

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<v Speaker 2>Flex and frooms on Kada.

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<v Speaker 1>We love it when you, our dear listener, send us

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<v Speaker 1>in some content, always positive and always a bit crazy,

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<v Speaker 1>spooky and quirky. We love this kind of stuff. And

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<v Speaker 1>a man called Harrison messaged our producer Mikayla and said

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<v Speaker 1>that he thought that he may be flirted too hard

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<v Speaker 1>with someone. Naturally, this piqued my interest because I do

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<v Speaker 1>believe you can float too hard. I'm more of a

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<v Speaker 1>subtle kind of girly. So apparently this person that he

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<v Speaker 1>was interested in in their bio had bio. Their insta

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<v Speaker 1>bio was like looking for a sugar baby. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know if they were being serious or not, but this

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<v Speaker 1>person has gone ahead and sent them an email.

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<v Speaker 3>And we actually have a copy of this email. It

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<v Speaker 3>is a proper CV formatted and everything with a.

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<v Speaker 1>Cover letter and then the experience. Let's start with the

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<v Speaker 1>cover letter Okay, and I will be tailoring this for

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<v Speaker 1>audio broadcast because we are beholden to the rules and

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<v Speaker 1>regulations of the Australian Broadcasting Act.

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<v Speaker 2>Correct.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm a very social and charismatic person, making a night

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<v Speaker 1>out great, but my drive and desire to please makes

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<v Speaker 1>a night in even better. Well. I am an exhibiting artist,

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<v Speaker 1>so I can pay you on like one of my

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<v Speaker 1>French girls and afterwards bleep you leaps. In terms of

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<v Speaker 1>hourly commitment, I'm a night hour by nature, so I

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<v Speaker 1>have no problems working late. But just like myself, my

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<v Speaker 1>hours are flexible, cheap as creepers. My skills and work

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<v Speaker 1>experience can be seen in my TV which I've attached below.

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<v Speaker 1>I want to speak to you about more things of

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<v Speaker 1>this position. I look forward to hearing from your sexy regards.

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<v Speaker 2>Harrison off the Dome, How do you feel about that?

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, it wasn't that R rated.

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<v Speaker 3>Wasn't that R rated? But it was also was it solicited?

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<v Speaker 3>It would be funny if you were dating someone They're like,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm going to send you a CV. This is a gag,

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<v Speaker 3>but this is a this is.

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<v Speaker 2>A cold email.

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<v Speaker 1>It is a cold email.

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<v Speaker 2>Let's continue with the CV.

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<v Speaker 3>In this CV, we have a full name and a

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<v Speaker 3>full address. This person was not joking. Harrison was really

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<v Speaker 3>about that life. Yeah, Dan, all right, So skills, strong

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<v Speaker 3>customer service experience and services in italics it satisfaction guaranteed,

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<v Speaker 3>problem solving ensures all that is underlined, and again I

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<v Speaker 3>italicized needs admit. Bilingual current exhibiting visual artists can worship

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<v Speaker 3>your body by drawing a life sized portrait in its honor.

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<v Speaker 1>That's pretty amazing.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>They hold a current Victoria's driver's license.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, that's good. They've got their RSA two in hospitality

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<v Speaker 3>and kitchen operations. They know the perfect wine and die combo,

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<v Speaker 3>and a few are rated references. I would say ten

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<v Speaker 3>points for effort and consistency, because even though I wouldn't

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<v Speaker 3>want to receive this kind of approach, this is an

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<v Speaker 3>unmistaken proposition. It is as opposed to a lukewarm where

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<v Speaker 3>someone just orbits around you long enough and sends you

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<v Speaker 3>a heart on your Instagram and assumes that'll be enough

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<v Speaker 3>for you to know that they want your hand in marriage.

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<v Speaker 1>Bring that back, bring back being subtle.

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<v Speaker 2>I think no, I think we're past that.

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<v Speaker 3>I think people need to learn how to be forward

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<v Speaker 3>in a consensual and not creepy way.

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<v Speaker 2>Little of you have that down, all.

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<v Speaker 1>Right, Play the tapes, Solese, Mikayla and by play the tapes.

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<v Speaker 2>Please explain analogue?

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<v Speaker 1>So I asked Harrison.

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<v Speaker 2>I said, I need to know did it work? And

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<v Speaker 2>Harrison confirmed to me that they have secured.

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<v Speaker 1>A date back secured and I've been told I'll get

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<v Speaker 1>an update on said date.

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<v Speaker 3>This is a positive story. It reminds me of a situation.

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<v Speaker 3>Can I tell you really quickly please? Was at a

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<v Speaker 3>party one day with my best friend and we do

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<v Speaker 3>what we do best, which is dress up, go to

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<v Speaker 3>a party and talk.

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<v Speaker 2>To each other in the corner.

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<v Speaker 3>Actually, but this one was really incredible because where we

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<v Speaker 3>were positioned, people get coming up to us and asking

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<v Speaker 3>us for advice and questions. And there was this one

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<v Speaker 3>girl who was trying to tune this guy at this party.

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<v Speaker 3>But he just come out of a relationship and we

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<v Speaker 3>kind of knew him to be a bit of just

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<v Speaker 3>like not a forward guy. We knew he was never

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<v Speaker 3>going to approach her at this party and that any

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<v Speaker 3>kind of progress that was going to be made was

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<v Speaker 3>going to be on her terms. And she was definitely

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<v Speaker 3>like an going charismatic character as well, so not really

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<v Speaker 3>out of.

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<v Speaker 2>The rubber possibility.

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<v Speaker 3>So the whole party, she's kind of waiting for him

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<v Speaker 3>to acknowledge her, and when he comes over to say hello,

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<v Speaker 3>he gives me the biggest hug, which is out of

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<v Speaker 3>character for him. He's like a quiet guy, biggest hug

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<v Speaker 3>for me, cheek kiss for my best friend, and kind

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<v Speaker 3>of pats this girl on the shoulder. She's kind of like, Okay,

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<v Speaker 3>maybe he's trying to get me off his scent and

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<v Speaker 3>like not laid on too thick.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, as I didn't really read it that way,

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<v Speaker 2>but you know, go for it.

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<v Speaker 3>My best friend I were feeling meddling, so we were like,

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<v Speaker 3>you know what, you're not gonna know because he's not

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<v Speaker 3>the kind of guy who's going to really like set

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<v Speaker 3>up the shot so you can take it. So you're

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<v Speaker 3>just gonna have to like set up your own shot

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<v Speaker 3>and take your own shot. For about three hours, she's

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<v Speaker 3>like deliberating should I go up, what should I say?

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<v Speaker 3>We've already had a drink together before. I don't know

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<v Speaker 3>why he's acting this way. So basically she's facing us

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<v Speaker 3>and we're facing the rest of the party. We notice

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<v Speaker 3>that he's leaving with one of his friends. We say,

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<v Speaker 3>he's heading out, babe, what Hey're gonna do. She's like, okay,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm gonna go to the kitchen, which is it's like

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<v Speaker 3>an open plan dining and pretend to fill up my

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<v Speaker 3>bottle so I can overhear what their plans are and

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<v Speaker 3>then kind of slide in for the kill. So she

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<v Speaker 3>walks up to the kitchen to fill up her bottle.

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<v Speaker 3>She goes in and she starts talking, and he's like,

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<v Speaker 3>not really that enthused. We're like, okay, whatever. My best

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<v Speaker 3>friend kind of looks away. She's like got secondhand embarrassment,

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<v Speaker 3>and I stay watching. Somehow she manages to kiss him.

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<v Speaker 2>Huh stop it.

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<v Speaker 3>It happened so quickly, I said, we went from being

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<v Speaker 3>ignored to their exchanging fluids in real time.

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<v Speaker 2>She circles back, she's buzzing. I'm like, what happened. She's like, well,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, I just had to make.

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<v Speaker 3>It do what it does. I said, but what does

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<v Speaker 3>that entail? I watched it happen and everything was telling

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<v Speaker 3>me it was not a go, and she made it happen.

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<v Speaker 3>So I say this all to say what we might

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<v Speaker 3>observe to be cringey behavior or just like in the

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<v Speaker 3>rum of impossibility, with the right circumstance and the right

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<v Speaker 3>forwardness consensual, of course, it can really result in a

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<v Speaker 3>full blown three year relationship.

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<v Speaker 2>Can I get a who rah rah, who bloody rah

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<v Speaker 2>and frims?

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<v Speaker 1>I'm kedas I'm a big fan of newsletters. I have

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<v Speaker 1>a newsletter. It's called Froom's World.

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<v Speaker 2>Very good do I post every week? I've dropped off

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<v Speaker 2>a little KOs okay every week is excessive.

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<v Speaker 1>One of my favorite newsletters that I subscribe to is

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<v Speaker 1>Hailey Nrman. She's Had to Manella ex Man Repeller, the

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<v Speaker 1>Girlies that Get It get Out. She has a newsletter

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<v Speaker 1>called Maybe Baby, and she's just so good at talking

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<v Speaker 1>about things that we've semi thought about ourselves, but then

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<v Speaker 1>fleshing them out almost to a point that's like so

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<v Speaker 1>analytical and so like Granula.

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<v Speaker 2>What are the things?

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<v Speaker 1>That she wrote one the other day, which is about

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<v Speaker 1>how she takes photos of everything and she realized, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>like why am I taking photos everything? Because she had

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<v Speaker 1>an incident where she lost all of her photos from

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<v Speaker 1>twenty ten to twenty fifteen. We all have we all

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<v Speaker 1>have a period okay, back when the iCloud was not eating,

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<v Speaker 1>and then she likened it to the eighty fourth problem.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a Buddhist proverb. So that idea is that you

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<v Speaker 1>have eighty three problems, and then the eighty three.

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<v Speaker 2>You would beg to differ.

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<v Speaker 1>I was gonna say, anyway, let's let Haley read it out.

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<v Speaker 1>There is an old Buddhist proverb about this, that all

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<v Speaker 1>of us have eighty four problems and that the only

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<v Speaker 1>way to resolve them is by addressing the eighty fourth,

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<v Speaker 1>which is our desire to have no problems at all.

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<v Speaker 1>Modern life is constantly selling us novel solutions but fails

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<v Speaker 1>to ask which problems are actually worth solving or possible

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<v Speaker 1>to solve it all.

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<v Speaker 3>So I love that is our desire to have no

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<v Speaker 3>problems at all, because don't we also love suffering. It

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<v Speaker 3>validates us, gives us like meaning. I overcame, therefore I

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<v Speaker 3>am good.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think I like that. I like to have

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<v Speaker 1>my to do list ticked off, but I guess I

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<v Speaker 1>write it to do list so I can tick it off.

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<v Speaker 3>M you've given yourself the problem of having any responsibility

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<v Speaker 3>just to relieve yourself of the responsibility.

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<v Speaker 1>I think for me, it's important to realize that there

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<v Speaker 1>will be problems that you straight up cannot fix. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>because it can be difficult to understand when you like

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<v Speaker 1>controlling things, but to resign and to give away the

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<v Speaker 1>notion that you can fix everything and suffering of some extent.

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<v Speaker 1>So thank you, Haley, always piquing my interest and making

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<v Speaker 1>the brain click over despite how difficult I find it.

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