WEBVTT - MINI: Podcaster & Auther Amy Gerard chats about married life after kids💍

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<v Speaker 1>Right now.

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<v Speaker 2>It is just me myself, Laura, Brittany Hockley's in the

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<v Speaker 2>Army of Celebrity again, Roll Jungle.

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<v Speaker 1>Mitch Jerry Check, Laura man Check, Amy Girard, Kimmy.

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<v Speaker 2>Girard, Jack Jack, Amy Girard's joining us.

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<v Speaker 1>Sheers brilliant. You know we're on social media. She's got

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<v Speaker 1>a brand new book coming out. Welcome to the show, Amy,

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<v Speaker 1>How are you?

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<v Speaker 3>Thank you? I'm good, Thank you for having me.

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<v Speaker 1>It's so good to have you. Listen Amy, You'll know

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<v Speaker 1>Amy have listened to.

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<v Speaker 2>This is my favorite, one of my favorite videos Amy's

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<v Speaker 2>ever posted to social media.

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<v Speaker 1>Have a listened funny story. Today was an absolute show.

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<v Speaker 4>And see brought in.

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<v Speaker 3>Some washing following it, and I'm putting it back in

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<v Speaker 3>the in my bedroom.

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<v Speaker 1>I can hear like Kobe screaming.

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<v Speaker 3>So I've right into the bathroom and I'm like, oh,

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<v Speaker 3>my movie poop pulled him over and I looked down

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<v Speaker 3>into the toilet.

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<v Speaker 1>In his turd was a butterfly clip. How did he

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<v Speaker 1>eat a butterfly clip? And how has he pushed it

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<v Speaker 1>out his arm? How did he swallow a butterfly clip?

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<v Speaker 1>Which is so funny. You would have seen her socials online.

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<v Speaker 4>I love following Amy online, and I think for me

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<v Speaker 4>as a mum who has two kids, Amy's got three kids.

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<v Speaker 4>And I think one of the things is is that

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<v Speaker 4>so often on online, on in social media, people make

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<v Speaker 4>parenting look perfect and easy and everybody has the like

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<v Speaker 4>everyone has the best case and the right way to

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<v Speaker 4>do sleep training and this and that, and Amy just

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<v Speaker 4>says it exactly as it is. Also, Like, Amy, at

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<v Speaker 4>what point when you started your social media and you

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<v Speaker 4>started this kind of like journey on Instagram and sharing

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<v Speaker 4>parts of your life and sharing motherhood, when did you

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<v Speaker 4>just kind of flip the script and go, you know what,

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<v Speaker 4>I'm gonna share it with exactly as it is, which

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<v Speaker 4>is what's and all.

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<v Speaker 2>I think.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't even think I ever flipped a script. I

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<v Speaker 3>just feel like I kind of entered social media as

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<v Speaker 3>myself and as a person who has just grown up

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<v Speaker 3>completely unfiltered and maybe slightly rogue. I just kind of

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<v Speaker 3>took to the platform and just kind of shared it

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<v Speaker 3>exactly how it was playing out in my life. And

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<v Speaker 3>that is just you know, the warts and all kind

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<v Speaker 3>of highs and lows of pregnancy and parenting and marriage

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<v Speaker 3>and life and stuff. And so I kind of just

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<v Speaker 3>gave it my own genuine personality and I interjected a

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<v Speaker 3>little bit of humor into this.

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<v Speaker 1>It's so funny. I saw you. I think you were

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<v Speaker 1>on the Morning show last week.

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<v Speaker 2>I was waking up and watching and Laura, you might

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<v Speaker 2>relate to this, but you and you beautifully said and

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<v Speaker 2>almost Shakespearean and quite poetic. You said that having relations

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<v Speaker 2>with your husband at this point in time after having

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<v Speaker 2>three kids was like feeding a tic tac to a whale.

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<v Speaker 4>Is that what was? Oh that's beautiful, Yeah, shakespeare.

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<v Speaker 3>Cool, right, so gorgeous, poetic almost, Yeah, I feel like

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<v Speaker 3>it's quite a descriptive way to just get people on

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<v Speaker 3>the journey with me. That's kind of what it felt

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<v Speaker 3>like when I had three kids under four years.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, sure, yeah, okay, no, don't say you poor thing.

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<v Speaker 4>Three kids, three kids under four years. It's rough and

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<v Speaker 4>it's hard, and I feel like there's so much that

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<v Speaker 4>goes on. But I think one of the things that

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<v Speaker 4>people don't talk about enough is there the impact that has.

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<v Speaker 1>On your relationship.

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<v Speaker 4>Even though you're very honest online, I would say for

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<v Speaker 4>a lot of people who follow your socials, you guys

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<v Speaker 4>look like you have the perfect relationship.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh god, it's far from the perfect relationship. It's definitely

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<v Speaker 3>it's a consistently evolving work in progress, which I think

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<v Speaker 3>all marriages. We're constantly working at it to keep it afloat.

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<v Speaker 3>But I think you're right, like when you have children,

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<v Speaker 3>it's not just about them kind of dropping in the

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<v Speaker 3>priority number, Like you've got young babies who are so

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<v Speaker 3>dependent on you, but you're also just so touched out.

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<v Speaker 3>So by the end of a long last day which

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<v Speaker 3>we all know goes for at least eighty five hours,

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<v Speaker 3>by the time the husband, you know, gets into bed

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<v Speaker 3>and wants to throw a leg over at you could

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<v Speaker 3>literally throw an upper cut. Not because you don't love

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<v Speaker 3>him or anything like that, but because you're just you're

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<v Speaker 3>at capacity, you're touched at, You've exhausted all of the

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<v Speaker 3>energy levels. And sometimes for me, I didn't prioritize, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>intimacy and that connection at the very start of our relationship.

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<v Speaker 3>Now we're better. We're making like we kind of do

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<v Speaker 3>blocks and we try and do like a date night

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<v Speaker 3>once a month, and you know, more often than not,

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<v Speaker 3>I will cancel on him, but we're still trying. And

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<v Speaker 3>I think that's the whole thing about marriages is just

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<v Speaker 3>you're constantly something. It's constantly something that you.

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<v Speaker 1>Have to got it. You get your tig TACs.

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<v Speaker 4>Amy, Amy, your new book, Strap Yourself In, what made

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<v Speaker 4>you want to write it? And what can people expect?

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<v Speaker 3>The whole information it's kind of like a bit of

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<v Speaker 3>a play on the whole insta versus reality, And I

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<v Speaker 3>think the whole entire book, overarching idea is about like

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<v Speaker 3>what expectations. Obviously it's a memoir, so it's written from

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<v Speaker 3>my own personal lives in experiences, but it's what certain

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<v Speaker 3>expectations I had growing up through life. So it's not

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<v Speaker 3>just a parenting book. It's not just for moms and dads.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean it's mainly mainly for women, but it's it's

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<v Speaker 3>about like what I thought, you know, my career was

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<v Speaker 3>going to look like, and what I thought warranting was

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<v Speaker 3>going to look like, and what I thought marriage was

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<v Speaker 3>going to look like, and then it's versus what it

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<v Speaker 3>actually looks like.

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<v Speaker 2>It is a pleasure to have you on Amy Gerridge

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<v Speaker 2>Blood Hilarious. You can get her on a two podcast

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<v Speaker 2>as well. Beyond my Likes, Beyond the Chaos, Strap Yourselfie

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<v Speaker 2>and available now, Amy Gerard, thanks for coming on the.

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<v Speaker 4>Show, Thanks Amy for having you guys.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, that is us done for the week. To

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<v Speaker 1>see you on Monday. Say goodbye by