WEBVTT - MINI! I think she needs to listen to this HUGE red flag.. 🚩

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<v Speaker 1>We'll give it a shot. We've got Lea on thirteen

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<v Speaker 1>one O sixty five. Hi, Leah, what's your issue? How

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<v Speaker 1>can we help?

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<v Speaker 3>Hi? So I found the perfect man, but he doesn't

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<v Speaker 3>really get along with my friends.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, well, see me.

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<v Speaker 3>They've spent some time together. It's always just really awkward.

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<v Speaker 3>And every time I talk to him about it, asked,

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<v Speaker 3>he just says that they're a bit weird.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, So when you say it's awkward, is it awkward

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<v Speaker 4>because he's just disinterested, could and careless back getting to

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<v Speaker 4>know them he's bored? Or is it awkward because he

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<v Speaker 4>has made it abundantly clear he does.

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<v Speaker 3>Not like I'm really unsure to tell, but when I've

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<v Speaker 3>talked to him about it, he's just he gets a

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<v Speaker 3>bit quiet about it all whenever he's around them, when

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<v Speaker 3>he talks, it just seems to come out as really

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<v Speaker 3>judgmental when he does actually think.

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<v Speaker 1>Them, wella is it mutual? So does he say, God, babe,

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<v Speaker 1>your friends are weed and do they talk to you going, hey,

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<v Speaker 1>your boyfriend's a bit weird? Or is it one sided?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, No, it's it's very much mutual. I think they

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<v Speaker 3>both have come to just not get along and don't

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<v Speaker 3>like spending any time together.

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<v Speaker 2>So what do you I mean when you do go

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<v Speaker 2>out as a group, Like, what does he do? Does

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<v Speaker 2>he just purposely not speak to them? Did he not

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<v Speaker 2>put any effort in at the start?

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<v Speaker 1>Like?

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<v Speaker 2>I think a bit of context around it is so

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<v Speaker 2>important because it's a massive red flag to have a

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<v Speaker 2>partner who just doesn't like any of your friends.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>I thought if they spend a bit of time together

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<v Speaker 3>they would be okay. But it's kind of been this

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<v Speaker 3>way from the beginning where he's he's naturally a pretty

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<v Speaker 3>quiet person, but I think when he does speak, they

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<v Speaker 3>tend to take it the wrong way. I think they

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<v Speaker 3>just don't know him the way I know him.

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<v Speaker 4>All Right, here's a question. If you have to choose

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<v Speaker 4>between your friends or your boyfriend, who you pick in.

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<v Speaker 3>I can't choose.

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<v Speaker 4>Well, You're gonna have to figure something out. It's so

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<v Speaker 4>important to have them all in the same room and

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<v Speaker 4>the same function and events, and everyone in your life

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<v Speaker 4>get along. I think it's worryingly isolating when you have

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<v Speaker 4>a partner who doesn't like your friends, And especially if

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<v Speaker 4>you've had boyfriends in the past and your friends have

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<v Speaker 4>always gotten along with them. If you all of a

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<v Speaker 4>sudden have someone in your life who your friends don't

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<v Speaker 4>like and he doesn't like them, I think it's a

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<v Speaker 4>pretty big litmus for the fact that maybe there is

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<v Speaker 4>something wrong there. And the fact that he's not putting

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<v Speaker 4>in any effort. To me, that's a huge red flag

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<v Speaker 4>because your friends have your best interest at heart.

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<v Speaker 2>They want you to be happy. So for me, I'm like,

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<v Speaker 2>he should be trying and turning around and just being

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<v Speaker 2>like it's because they're weird. I don't want to put

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<v Speaker 2>in any effort for me. That's a red flag about

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<v Speaker 2>the partner.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, I think it's amazing, yahag I think would Julia,

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<v Speaker 1>And I'm not putting this back on you because I

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<v Speaker 1>think he's a grown ass man. He can make a

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<v Speaker 1>conversation totally. But is there any way maybe he's got

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<v Speaker 1>to be a social anxiety. Anyway you can bring him

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<v Speaker 1>in a little more. Maybe because I've been in relationships

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<v Speaker 1>in the past where I felt my ex hasn't integrated

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<v Speaker 1>me well enough into the friend group, because it can

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<v Speaker 1>be awkward and intimidating to come into a partner's friend group.

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<v Speaker 4>You know.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, we're a really close group. So I'm thinking maybe

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<v Speaker 3>what I need to do is make him more comfortable,

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<v Speaker 3>or maybe do an activity that's more in his.

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<v Speaker 4>Fourte twister play twister group twist, I'd be having some

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<v Speaker 4>big conversations with him.

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<v Speaker 2>I think if he can't try and put in some

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<v Speaker 2>effort around your friends, I think that that's a really

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<v Speaker 2>big that's for me. Is it's a big, big red flat.

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<v Speaker 1>I agree, Lea, all right, I hope that helps listen.

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