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Speaker 1: I would like to acknowledge the traditional owners of the

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Speaker 1: land on which this episode is being recorded, the Combomb

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Speaker 1: Merry people. They've been having conversations and telling stories on

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Speaker 2: Welcome back to the in Between with your hosts Georgina

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Speaker 2: and Jamie. We're so happy to be back. And today

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Speaker 2: we have our hot line. We'ven't done a hot line

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Speaker 3: Hot hot, hot.

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Speaker 2: Hotty, whatdy. And thank you so much for everyone for

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Speaker 2: setting in your questions from our very first episode where

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Speaker 2: we said send in your questions because we love, love,

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Speaker 2: love love reading them.

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Speaker 3: We love reading them, we love answering them, we love

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Speaker 3: just having that connection with you.

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Speaker 2: Guys.

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Speaker 3: We're just here for you.

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Speaker 2: And I feel like the hotlines are a bit more

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Speaker 2: fun because it's like we're chatting to you and not

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Speaker 2: I feel like we go off a bit on a tangent,

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Speaker 2: get so deep, which we love in the other episodes,

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Speaker 2: but these are just a bit more fun.

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Speaker 3: It's like just chatting to your friends, like being like,

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Speaker 3: this is what's going on, this is my dilemma, curing

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Speaker 3: And also, even though it's people sending in their specific

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Speaker 2: And I feel like it's also good to hear other

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Speaker 2: people going through similar things because it's sometimes a problem shared,

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Speaker 2: is a problem halved, or a problem that's nice shot

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Speaker 2: into one hundred different people. Wow, that's right, you're okay.

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Speaker 2: I mean like it's like, you know, you know a

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Speaker 2: or you know so many people are going through something similar.

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Speaker 2: It just takes the pressure. It makes it feel light

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Speaker 2: knowing how bloody journey. We've probably gone for it. Before

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Speaker 2: we thought we'd do a little recommendation. We thought we'd

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Speaker 2: bring them back. It's been a while since there's been

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Speaker 2: any racks on the potty, So Georgina, do you have

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Speaker 2: any recks for the listeners Okay, my first recommendation, and

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Speaker 2: But whatever question, whatever thing you have, put it into

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Speaker 2: chat GPT. The other day, I've been going through a

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Speaker 2: So the first question, we're going to keep them all anonymous.

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Speaker 2: Let's call her Sparkle. Sparkle, that's our favorite emogie. So

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Speaker 2: Thank you, Sparkle, your queen, Love you Sparkle. Throwing my

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Speaker 3: Oh, it's something like a show. That's fun.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, we'll come on. One thing that's really hard.

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Speaker 2: and not putting myself out there because I was worried

437
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Speaker 2: about what Tom Dick and Harry would say on the Internet.

438
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Speaker 2: And I've realized now it's got nothing to do with me.

439
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Speaker 2: It's got everything to do with them and their own lens.

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Speaker 2: So just be meet because there's always going to be

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Speaker 2: someone who's going to think something. But it's not my

442
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Speaker 2: thing to take.

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Speaker 3: On more of the story. But you don't care what

444
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Speaker 3: other people think. You worry about Tom Dick and Harry

445
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Speaker 3: and Bob. No jecs would love you, Bub, We love you, Bob.

446
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Speaker 2: What can you do to become more decisive throughout life.

447
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Speaker 2: For context, I'm a very indecisive person who has trouble

448
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Speaker 2: making big or little decisions.

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Speaker 3: Bob, I have been here. You should see me when

450
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Speaker 3: I'm at a restaurant trying to decide between which cookie,

451
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Speaker 3: which between which cookie, trying to decide what I want

452
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Speaker 3: for dinner, Like I'll go back and forth because I

453
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Speaker 3: have two options, and.

454
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Speaker 2: Then she'll still regret it and be jealous if everyone

455
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Speaker 2: else was meal, and.

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Speaker 3: I'll choose the wrong thing and be like, why can't

457
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Speaker 3: I make decisions? Pattern, So you've got any advice or

458
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Speaker 3: you want to say, I feel like I can be

459
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Speaker 3: a very indecisive person too. And it all comes back

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Speaker 3: to self trust, which is something that I'm really working

461
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Speaker 3: on at the moment, because you don't trust yourself to

462
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Speaker 3: make the right decision, which is why you spend so

463
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Speaker 3: much time and effort going back and forth and why

464
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Speaker 3: you can't back yourself making a decision. So I think,

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Speaker 3: really try and look into strengthening self trust, even if

466
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Speaker 3: it's with little things like start by you know, doing

467
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Speaker 3: little actions like saying something that you'll do and then

468
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Speaker 3: doing it just so you can slowly build that up,

469
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Speaker 3: and then I think eventually the more you work on

470
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Speaker 3: your self identity and trust, you'll be able to make

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Speaker 3: decisions knowing what you do want and have the confidence

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Speaker 3: behind them.

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Speaker 2: Yes, one hundred percent. I think off the back of that,

474
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Speaker 2: because it is it all comes down to self trust

475
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Speaker 2: and also understanding and knowing yourself and what you want

476
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Speaker 2: and not listening to the head noise. But stop polling people,

477
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Speaker 2: stop asking everyone else, because it just plays on the

478
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Speaker 2: fact that you don't trust yourself and you need everyone

479
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Speaker 2: else's opinion to be able to make a decision. But

480
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Speaker 2: you know deep down, you know deep down, So stop

481
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Speaker 2: polling everyone and lean into that self trust. One hundred percent.

482
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Speaker 2: You got this, Bob, You got this bub sound like

483
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Speaker 2: you said bub You got this Bubba?

484
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Speaker 3: That was my old dog's name.

485
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Speaker 2: Oh sorry, I forgot grist. We love you, Bubba. I've

486
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Speaker 2: been having a weird feeling that I meant to own

487
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Speaker 2: a business or will own a business in the future,

488
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Speaker 2: but I can't put my finger on what it might

489
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Speaker 2: be or when. For reference, I'm a nurse. How do

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Speaker 2: I find clarity on this? Ah? Bob?

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Speaker 3: All right? Well, first of all, also can relate to this.

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Speaker 3: I feel like we mentioned in our episodes prior. Jamie

493
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Speaker 3: and I are always kind of toying around with different

494
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Speaker 3: business ideas and things we could do. Last week it

495
00:24:12,280 --> 00:24:16,400
Speaker 3: was a cookie shop. The week before is a cafe gardening.

496
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Speaker 2: We were actually going to change tries and conquer to

497
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Speaker 2: rise and cookie and bring out our own cookie line.

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Speaker 3: We honestly go through this all the time. But I

499
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Speaker 3: also have this weird, deep seated feeling that I will

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Speaker 3: have some business or something at some point. And I

501
00:24:30,440 --> 00:24:31,560
Speaker 3: used to think it was when I was going to

502
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Speaker 3: be younger, and now I kind of intuitively feel like

503
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Speaker 3: it's when I'm going to be a mum. But I've

504
00:24:35,960 --> 00:24:39,199
Speaker 3: just released control to know that it will come to

505
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Speaker 3: me at the right time when I'm ready for it.

506
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Speaker 3: And I think just like surrendering to that has really

507
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Speaker 3: helped me, because when you're like what is it? What

508
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Speaker 3: can I do? What am I meant for? You might

509
00:24:50,040 --> 00:24:52,480
Speaker 3: attach to the wrong thing and then start a business

510
00:24:52,520 --> 00:24:54,840
Speaker 3: in the wrong area and it won't work out. So

511
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Speaker 3: just really again try and build on that like self trust,

512
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Speaker 3: self confidence, what do I want? What lights me up?

513
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Speaker 3: And then just surrender and trust that the right thing

514
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Speaker 3: will come to the right time.

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Speaker 2: I think also like look into why you think you

516
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Speaker 2: want a business, because a lot of the time people

517
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Speaker 2: want businesses because they see people living a certain life

518
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Speaker 2: for the business or see things online and so many

519
00:25:16,400 --> 00:25:18,520
Speaker 2: people are like, I want a business, but then they

520
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Speaker 2: have one and they're like, I didn't want this at all,

521
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Speaker 2: I just thought I should have one. So I think,

522
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Speaker 2: and not wanting a business because you want a business,

523
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Speaker 2: because it is not not what's that saying for the

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Speaker 2: faint hearted. It is not for the faint hearted. It

525
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Speaker 2: is hard work, it is a lot of dedication, and

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Speaker 2: you've really got to love what you're doing. You've got

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Speaker 2: to love and believe in the business. So just focus

528
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Speaker 2: on that, focus on if you did have a business,

529
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Speaker 2: what would light you up and what is the thing

530
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Speaker 2: behind the business, rather than just wanting a business.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I agree. I feel like businesses are so glorified

532
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Speaker 3: on social media and like we really praise business owners,

533
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Speaker 3: which I feel like is a bit hard because people

534
00:26:00,560 --> 00:26:02,800
Speaker 3: work really hard in their careers and stuff, and sometimes

535
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Speaker 3: I feel like working nine to five just gets like

536
00:26:04,760 --> 00:26:09,399
Speaker 3: skipped over, but equally as valuable and important. But have

537
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Speaker 3: you seen lately that so many businesses have been shutting

538
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Speaker 3: down because it's so much work, Like it's pretty much

539
00:26:18,920 --> 00:26:21,480
Speaker 3: takes over your whole life, and if you've got a

540
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Speaker 3: family and got all these things, it's really time consuming

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Speaker 3: and energy consuming. So I think, like Jay said, make

542
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Speaker 3: sure it's something you're really passionate about, because if you

543
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Speaker 3: want it just for the money or the clout of

544
00:26:33,760 --> 00:26:37,639
Speaker 3: having a business, it probably won't go so well when everything.

545
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Speaker 2: Gets really really the wrong energy. And I think it's

546
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Speaker 2: also you have to want everything that comes with that,

547
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Speaker 2: Like it's you can create a business that's you know,

548
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Speaker 2: more stress free and time freedom, not but you have

549
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Speaker 2: to understand that. You have to understand why you want

550
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Speaker 2: a business and what you want it to look like

551
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Speaker 2: and how you're going to make that come to life,

552
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Speaker 2: because yeah, at the start, it is a hustle. It's hard.

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Speaker 2: Thank you so much. Please send in your questions because

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Speaker 2: we're going to do more hotlines. We love them, We

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Speaker 2: love connecting with you guys and giving our little two cents.

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Speaker 3: And yeah, let us know if you want more episodes

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Speaker 3: from us, because we're currently just doing the in between

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Speaker 3: episodes sporadically here and there to kind of kill some gaps.

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Speaker 3: But if you like them, you want more of them,

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Speaker 3: we'll take over us.

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Speaker 2: Thank you so much, and we'll see you in our

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