WEBVTT - How to change your career

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<v Speaker 1>Get everybody Sam here with another episode of the wood Off,

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<v Speaker 1>a little bit of a different episode and something that

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<v Speaker 1>I'm really interested in hearing about. I always love these

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<v Speaker 1>stories where someone has changed tact or done the hard

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<v Speaker 1>yards and then reap the rewards in the end. And

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<v Speaker 1>it's quite close to my heart as I have a

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<v Speaker 1>little six year old just turned six, Willow a couple

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<v Speaker 1>of weeks ago, who is very much into her reading

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<v Speaker 1>at the moment, and we're trying to, I guess, navigate

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<v Speaker 1>what's the next book in the progression from both the

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<v Speaker 1>words that she can read and she can articulate and

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<v Speaker 1>stuff that she's interested in. And we have a best

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<v Speaker 1>selling author today who I think books will be slightly

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<v Speaker 1>too old for Willow for the now, but not for

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<v Speaker 1>much longer. It's a wonderful best selling children's author by

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<v Speaker 1>the name of Rhese Carter. That's coming up next, and

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<v Speaker 1>that's going to kick off a whole conversation about the

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<v Speaker 1>importance of hobbies today on the Woodline. So we have

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<v Speaker 1>someone on the podcast today that is a nutritionist and

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<v Speaker 1>guess what we are not going to talk about food?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, we might I might head down that path.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know but we are there is no intent

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<v Speaker 1>to talk about nutrition in any way, shape or form,

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<v Speaker 1>because this fantastic human being is.

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<v Speaker 2>Now not a nutritionist.

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<v Speaker 1>He's a full time fiction writer, and he's book, A

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<v Speaker 1>Girl Called Corpse is now a best selling kid's book,

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<v Speaker 1>and he has a new book coming out called Lighthouse

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<v Speaker 1>of Elston Fright, and that's out now too. We're going

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<v Speaker 1>to get into how he made that transition. Reese Carter,

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to the WOODLFE.

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<v Speaker 3>Hey, Sam, thanks for having me. It's great to be here.

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<v Speaker 2>So Madam, I mean this in all sincerity.

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<v Speaker 1>You're a very different guest to one that we would

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<v Speaker 1>typically have on this show, and I love it because

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<v Speaker 1>I think it's interesting that our paths have crossed. But

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<v Speaker 1>I think they've crossed for good reason, because I think

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<v Speaker 1>when we strive for wellness or happiness, and we always

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<v Speaker 1>associate happiness with wellness or contentment or whatever it might be,

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<v Speaker 1>we always think about, you know, what we eat, and

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<v Speaker 1>are we doing exercise, and how much sleep are we getting,

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<v Speaker 1>and what are the relationships that we're keeping, all the

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<v Speaker 1>sort of the big core pillars, and so often what

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<v Speaker 1>we do for more hours than any of those other

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<v Speaker 1>things put together maybe outside of sleep we don't really

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<v Speaker 1>reflect on. And I love the fact that you have

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<v Speaker 1>taken a career change to something that you are clearly

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<v Speaker 1>not only very very talented in, but passionate about. And

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<v Speaker 1>from the beaming smile on your face, mate, I can

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<v Speaker 1>see that you're pretty happy with the choice that you've

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<v Speaker 1>made and it looks like it's full steam ahead from here.

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<v Speaker 1>So congratulations on the success.

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<v Speaker 2>And tell us about how how this little.

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<v Speaker 1>U turn or left turn or right turn, whatever you

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<v Speaker 1>call it, happened, and how long it's been going for.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, looks it's funny because I don't necessarily think of

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<v Speaker 4>it as a U turn, because I've been doing this

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<v Speaker 4>since I was a kid myself. I was one of

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<v Speaker 4>those kids who absolutely loved reading, and then as a teenager,

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<v Speaker 4>so when I was at high school, I actually under

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<v Speaker 4>the recommend day after a brilliant teacher of mine, my

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<v Speaker 4>English teacher, recommended that I maybe try writing my own stories.

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<v Speaker 4>You know, I fell in love with writing as well,

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<v Speaker 4>and I've never stopped, so, you know, initially it was

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<v Speaker 4>just a bit of fun, a bit of play, creating characters,

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<v Speaker 4>creating worlds, starting a story, never quite finishing it, and

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<v Speaker 4>then at twenty five, I made the decision, now I

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<v Speaker 4>really want to give this a crack. I really want

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<v Speaker 4>to try and write a novel the kids that is published,

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<v Speaker 4>and sort of yeah, committed to it more fully, I suppose.

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<v Speaker 4>But as any author will tell you, any right will

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<v Speaker 4>tell you, especially fiction, getting your first novel published can

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<v Speaker 4>at times feel like a real long shot. And so

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<v Speaker 4>I did have another career. As you mentioned, I was

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<v Speaker 4>a nutritionist, So I thought it was nutritionist by day,

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<v Speaker 4>and then at night I was going home and I

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<v Speaker 4>was leading this secret double life of writing fantasy books

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<v Speaker 4>for the kids.

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<v Speaker 1>That's actually exactly how I pitched it, you know, just

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<v Speaker 1>this great creative outlet that was a hobby because and

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<v Speaker 1>the only reason I call it a hobby is is

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<v Speaker 1>not bringing any money. You know, that's maybe not the

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<v Speaker 1>correct definition to what a hobby you should or shouldn't be.

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<v Speaker 1>But clearly the quality of what you were writing was

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<v Speaker 1>probably wonderful. It just wasn't being read by that many people.

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<v Speaker 1>Yet it was, and it's taken off I'll say that.

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<v Speaker 4>But the quality of what I was writing initially was

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<v Speaker 4>probably pretty rubbish, to be honest.

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<v Speaker 3>So actually I.

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<v Speaker 4>Wrote, as I said, I sort of really sort of

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<v Speaker 4>dedicated some time to this at around twenty five, and

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<v Speaker 4>over the course of the next few years a number

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<v Speaker 4>of manuscripts, none of which got published. But that's all

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<v Speaker 4>part of the process as well. You know, I wrote

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<v Speaker 4>three duds so that I could learn how to write

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<v Speaker 4>a good one. And it was that fourth one, a

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<v Speaker 4>girl called Corpse, that finally got that attention and found

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<v Speaker 4>a publisher. But you know, again, that's just part of

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<v Speaker 4>the gig, isn't it. Like I think we often talk

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<v Speaker 4>about creativity or talent as if it's something that people

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<v Speaker 4>have innately, but I don't necessarily know if I agree

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<v Speaker 4>with that. I think that most creatives and their work

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<v Speaker 4>is actually just the product of hard work and putting

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<v Speaker 4>in those ten thousand.

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<v Speaker 3>Hours or whatever it may be.

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<v Speaker 4>So I suppose there was some rubbish writing, but I

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<v Speaker 4>had to do that to write something that was.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, hopefully decent. People seem to like it.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I really do.

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<v Speaker 1>How long did it take from when you made it

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<v Speaker 1>a career choice to when you had any success?

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<v Speaker 2>Was it six months? Was it three years? How scary

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<v Speaker 2>was that?

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<v Speaker 1>And how long did it before you went I actually

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<v Speaker 1>do feel like I've made the right choice.

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<v Speaker 4>I mean the moment that I was offered a publishing

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<v Speaker 4>deal for a girl called Courts, which is the first

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<v Speaker 4>one there, there was no question about it. I knew

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<v Speaker 4>that I you know, that this is what I wanted

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<v Speaker 4>to do and that I had made the right choice.

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<v Speaker 3>But in the years proceeding that, you know, I think

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<v Speaker 3>that happened when I.

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<v Speaker 4>Was was it maybe I was thirty three, So that's

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<v Speaker 4>eight years of between twenty five and thirty three, that's

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<v Speaker 4>eight years of writing without having any success.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 4>And I say this a lot when people say, oh,

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<v Speaker 4>what's the hardest part of being a writer, it's absolutely

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<v Speaker 4>the self doubt. You know, there were so many there

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<v Speaker 4>were so many hurdles to overcome, and so many setbacks

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<v Speaker 4>along the way. It would have been very easy to

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<v Speaker 4>decide that it was all too hard, or that it

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<v Speaker 4>was not going to work, that it wasn't going to

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<v Speaker 4>happen for me. It just so happens. I'm a very

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<v Speaker 4>stubborn person, and.

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<v Speaker 3>It wouldn't stop. Yeah. But as soon as that opportunity

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<v Speaker 3>came along, you know, I was in.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, we always remember the success stories, and we

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<v Speaker 1>always forget the grit and the determination and the grind

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<v Speaker 1>that was going on, whether it's you know, I was

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<v Speaker 1>only hearing her, was it? Matt Damon on a podcast

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<v Speaker 1>last week, and you know he was going to audition

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<v Speaker 1>after audition or after audition and getting callbacks but never

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<v Speaker 1>getting it and him Beneflete. We're best friends and they're

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<v Speaker 1>going through this process together and then they decided to

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<v Speaker 1>write a movie and it having to be Good Will

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<v Speaker 1>Hunting and they won an Oscar for the writing, and yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>like we had to be and they joke that, yes,

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<v Speaker 1>we won an Oscar for that incredible movie, but we

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<v Speaker 1>actually wrote the script to give ourselves apart because no

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<v Speaker 1>one else would give us one.

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<v Speaker 2>And you go, well, that's Matt Damon. That's crazy.

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<v Speaker 1>But you know, like these absolute legends of our lifetime

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<v Speaker 1>that still were doing it tough. And I'm sure everybody

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<v Speaker 1>now goes, ah, Recee was always going to be successful.

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<v Speaker 2>Years.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I can tell you it didn't feel like it

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<v Speaker 4>was going to happen at some points, but yeah, you're

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<v Speaker 4>quite right, like whether it be a sports person, an

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<v Speaker 4>athlete and act because we only become aware of them

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<v Speaker 4>once they had some degree of success, it's easy to

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<v Speaker 4>think of that as their starting point but the starting

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<v Speaker 4>points well before that, and I will you know, I'm

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<v Speaker 4>sure that with Matt Damon as the example, as he

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<v Speaker 4>said it was trying going to audition. Going to audition

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<v Speaker 4>wasn't working, but he was determined, so he found another

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<v Speaker 4>way to do it. And I'm sure if that hadn't worked,

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<v Speaker 4>he would have found another way to do it, another

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<v Speaker 4>way to do it.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, which is really good.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I sometimes feel a bit guilty when I

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<v Speaker 1>talk to my friends who hate their jobs, and most

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<v Speaker 1>well I speak to don't necessarily hate their job, but

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<v Speaker 1>they don't like it. And I love what I do,

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<v Speaker 1>I genuinely love it. And then when I have these

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<v Speaker 1>deeper conversations with people that are really not enjoying what

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<v Speaker 1>they do, I'm quite bullish in saying to them, you

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<v Speaker 1>get one life, and if you are unhappy, you know

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<v Speaker 1>these people I speak to that are ten years in,

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<v Speaker 1>sometimes twenty years in. Or I've been saying to myself,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to change careers because I don't even know

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<v Speaker 1>how I ended up here, but I don't like it.

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<v Speaker 1>It doesn't interest me. I'm not stimulated, there's nothing really

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<v Speaker 1>keeping me here. Accept sort of fear of the unknown

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<v Speaker 1>or fear of change. How scary was it? And what

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<v Speaker 1>would your advice be to others that are sitting there

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<v Speaker 1>going I'm not sure if this is what I was

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<v Speaker 1>meant to spend my life doing. Okay, question without notice,

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<v Speaker 1>I know, and I know it's a big one.

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<v Speaker 4>So it's okay, And it is a big one, because,

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<v Speaker 4>to be completely honest with you, I was so ready

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<v Speaker 4>to leave nutrition by the time it happened. I had

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<v Speaker 4>actually I was one of those people who hated my job.

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<v Speaker 4>I had fallen out of love with it completely. And

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<v Speaker 4>if you had to ask me why, I would probably

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<v Speaker 4>say I'd grown quite frustrated with the way the industry

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<v Speaker 4>had changed in Australia. I think it had come to

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<v Speaker 4>a point that it was extremely fad based. There are

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<v Speaker 4>a lot of it still prought up. It still is,

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<v Speaker 4>absolutely it still is, and there are voices, there are

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<v Speaker 4>great voices out there, you know, like yourself, cutting through that.

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<v Speaker 3>But I don't think I had.

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<v Speaker 4>It in me to do that, and I really, you know,

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<v Speaker 4>it really took a toll on my mental health participating

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<v Speaker 4>in this industry that i'd really grown quite disillusioned with,

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<v Speaker 4>I suppose, And it was a really scary time for me, because,

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<v Speaker 4>as I said, I was working.

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<v Speaker 3>As a nutritionist.

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<v Speaker 4>Now, my degree and my post grad study are not

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<v Speaker 4>a particularly transferable set of skills, and I didn't want

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<v Speaker 4>to be in that industry anymore. And I didn't know

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<v Speaker 4>what else was really available to me, and I didn't

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<v Speaker 4>know whether a publisher would ever buy one of my novels.

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<v Speaker 4>So it took a real real impact on my mental health.

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<v Speaker 4>And I was really frightened because I didn't know what

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<v Speaker 4>I was going to do. And so you know, that's

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<v Speaker 4>probably part of the reason why I went. A publishing

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<v Speaker 4>contract was put in front of me, I jumped. I

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<v Speaker 4>was really well and truly ready to make that change.

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<v Speaker 1>And just to push you a little bit harder, if

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<v Speaker 1>someone said to you that you never met they were

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<v Speaker 1>inspired by your story. I've been working at a bank

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<v Speaker 1>for twelve years. I go to work every day. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>so uninspired. I'm so you know, I feel like I'm

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<v Speaker 1>a creative person or whatever it might be. What would

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<v Speaker 1>your advice be, should I quit my job? Let's say

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<v Speaker 1>that was that direct. If they said, rees should I

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<v Speaker 1>quit my job?

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<v Speaker 2>What would I what would you say?

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<v Speaker 4>I would actually come back with another question, and I

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<v Speaker 4>would say, well, how creative are you being right now?

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<v Speaker 4>I would ask how much time are you spending being

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<v Speaker 4>creative right now? Because there are benefits that come from creativity,

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<v Speaker 4>even if it doesn't become your job, you know.

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<v Speaker 5>What I mean.

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<v Speaker 4>And so people who say, oh, I think I'm a

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<v Speaker 4>creative person. I would like to write or act or sing,

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<v Speaker 4>whatever it may be, I'd ask them how much time

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<v Speaker 4>they're spending doing it, and doing it now, And if

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<v Speaker 4>they're not spending any time, just do it an hour

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<v Speaker 4>a day, an hour a week, if that's all you

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<v Speaker 4>can manage. You know, I was writing alongside a career.

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<v Speaker 4>I didn't jump out of nutrition without without something to

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<v Speaker 4>jump into. I just knew that it was something I

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<v Speaker 4>wanted to do. I didn't know how long it was

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<v Speaker 4>going to take, but I started writing. I started writing

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<v Speaker 4>and said I will continue to work towards this. And

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<v Speaker 4>so I suppose that that's what I would say to them.

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<v Speaker 4>I wouldn't sort of recommend they check out their job,

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<v Speaker 4>but I'd just start pursuing your passion.

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<v Speaker 3>Now.

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<v Speaker 4>You don't have to leave your stable job, you don't

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<v Speaker 4>have to do anything, just start being creative.

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<v Speaker 1>Actually, that's a brilliant answer, and I just it just

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<v Speaker 1>makes me think where we lose our hobbies along the way,

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<v Speaker 1>and I think, you know, work gets super busy, social

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<v Speaker 1>life gets super busy. Then kids come along and you

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<v Speaker 1>just you don't even know which ways up anymore for

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<v Speaker 1>a few years there, if not a decade in some case,

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<v Speaker 1>depending how many kids you have and what your circumstances are.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, I look at my wife.

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<v Speaker 1>Sneze, who's a brilliant painter and drawer, but I've never

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<v Speaker 1>seen her really do it unless it's making around with

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<v Speaker 1>the kids. And she's very talented, and she talks about

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<v Speaker 1>you know, I used to have an easel at home

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<v Speaker 1>and go out in the garden and paint, and you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I listen to your advice, and I think that I

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<v Speaker 1>think she would benefit from a mental perspective and a

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<v Speaker 1>happiness perspective enormously from reintroducing that once a week into

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<v Speaker 1>her routine. It doesn't have to be for three hours

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<v Speaker 1>every day. I think that's really good advice.

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<v Speaker 3>That's exactly it. You know.

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<v Speaker 4>I think if there's part of your nature that is creative,

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<v Speaker 4>and I think for most people, to varying degrees.

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<v Speaker 3>That is the case.

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<v Speaker 4>There are huge benefits to happiness from just flexing that

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<v Speaker 4>creative muscle and doing it and so and as you know,

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<v Speaker 4>you made a really good point there about the fact

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<v Speaker 4>we often lose hobbies. I think the world can make

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<v Speaker 4>us feel quite guilty about spending time on things that

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<v Speaker 4>aren't productive, things that we do purely for the joy

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<v Speaker 4>of it. And so as commitments build up, whether it

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<v Speaker 4>be work, family, you know, there's so much to be

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<v Speaker 4>stressed about, and there's so much for us to do

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<v Speaker 4>in our busy lives, it is often one of the

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<v Speaker 4>things that gets swept aside or gets neglected, hobbies. And

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<v Speaker 4>I think a big part of the reason is they're

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<v Speaker 4>again not productive. But there's so much benefit to come

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<v Speaker 4>just from you know, as I said, flexing that muscle,

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<v Speaker 4>pursuing whatever that creative passion is that you've got.

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<v Speaker 1>It's so funny you say that, I, you know, I

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<v Speaker 1>haven't read sort of business books or you know, and whatever.

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<v Speaker 1>At work we bang it emails. No, and that's an eyelid.

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<v Speaker 1>But I had a mate who was meeting me at

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<v Speaker 1>my office. It would have been a year ago probably,

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<v Speaker 1>and I was actually reading a novel and I'll see

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<v Speaker 1>on my couch in my office reading a novel and

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<v Speaker 1>he's like, what are you reading?

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<v Speaker 2>Because it wasn't clearly wasn't anything to do with my work.

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<v Speaker 2>I said, I just realized that I'm ready and it was.

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<v Speaker 1>And his responses all that must be nice was in like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>how much spare time do you have?

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<v Speaker 3>Like what bit?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, Like it was a throwaway comment. He wasn't being

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<v Speaker 1>an asshole, but it was just, you know, it was

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<v Speaker 1>a really interesting reaction to something that I'd sort of

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<v Speaker 1>broken away a little thirty or forty five minute pocket,

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<v Speaker 1>and it was just something that it was an escape

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<v Speaker 1>for me. I guess, you know, when there's lots of

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<v Speaker 1>reading as part of your work and you're always around people,

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<v Speaker 1>it's just nice to sort of disconnect yourself a little

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<v Speaker 1>bit and take yourself, you know, let your imagination run wild,

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<v Speaker 1>which again we say we lose our hobbies when we've

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<v Speaker 1>become adults. We all most our imagination our sense of

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<v Speaker 1>fun as well.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, well, it's one hundred percent.

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<v Speaker 4>It's interesting to use imagination and fun in the same

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<v Speaker 4>sentence there, because being creative or being imaginative is player.

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<v Speaker 4>I think that's part of the reason why I love

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<v Speaker 4>it so much. It's remaining curious about the world around you.

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<v Speaker 4>It's being playful. It's you know, looking at real life

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<v Speaker 4>situations and then imagining them in a different way, in

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<v Speaker 4>my case, imagining what they might be if magic existed.

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<v Speaker 3>You know what I mean.

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<v Speaker 4>It's play and so it is fun innately, it's fun

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<v Speaker 4>to do.

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<v Speaker 1>So I've gotten to know you over the last twenty minutes. Race,

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<v Speaker 1>what's this book? What's what's your first book about? We

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<v Speaker 1>would have lots of parents listening to this podcast. Where

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<v Speaker 1>did the idea come from? What is a girl called Corps?

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<v Speaker 1>It's a fairly interesting name, and tell us a bit

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<v Speaker 1>about it.

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<v Speaker 4>So I'll start with where it came from, because I

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<v Speaker 4>think that's the way this story works best. I was

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<v Speaker 4>living with a made of mine in Paddington. We were

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<v Speaker 4>in a sort of terrace style house, you know, a

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<v Speaker 4>little bit older, a little bit run down, and the

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<v Speaker 4>manhole up into the roof was in my bedroom and

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<v Speaker 4>I had the strangest habit of just popping open for

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<v Speaker 4>no reason, and so first couple of times it happened,

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<v Speaker 4>just thought it was weird. The third time it happened

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<v Speaker 4>was late at night, I was touched up in bed

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<v Speaker 4>lights were off, looked up and as my.

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<v Speaker 3>Eyes adjusted to the darkness, I saw that it was

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<v Speaker 3>open again.

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<v Speaker 4>At that time was a little bit scary, not gonna lie,

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<v Speaker 4>And so I started questioning. You know, I said that

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<v Speaker 4>creativity is curiosity. I started asking myself questions, All right,

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<v Speaker 4>who are what would be in a roof? Why would

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<v Speaker 4>they be looking down? What would they want? What would

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<v Speaker 4>they look like? And I came up with this character

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<v Speaker 4>of corpse, who was a kid ghost made of wax

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<v Speaker 4>and you know, and I sort of grabbed a piece

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<v Speaker 4>of paper and a pen and I wrote down everything

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<v Speaker 4>I knew about her, went to sleep, and the next

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<v Speaker 4>day I started.

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<v Speaker 3>I sat down and I started writing her story. As

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<v Speaker 3>soon as I imagined her, I sort of not just

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<v Speaker 3>saw what she looked like, but I sort.

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<v Speaker 2>Of how she sounds, sense how she sounds.

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<v Speaker 4>And most importantly, when writing a character, what she wants

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<v Speaker 4>more than anything. And that's really important because that then

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<v Speaker 4>gives you a story. You know, does she get it?

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<v Speaker 3>Does she not? Does it look different to what she

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<v Speaker 3>imagined it would? You know?

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<v Speaker 4>So I can't It sounds you know, very airy fairy

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<v Speaker 4>that this character came to me fully formed, But she

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<v Speaker 4>really did, and it made the process of writing A

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<v Speaker 4>Girl Called Corpse reasonably straightforward. I think I wrote every

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<v Speaker 4>other manuscript i'd written before then took me probably two years.

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<v Speaker 4>Each one took two years. I think I wrote the

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<v Speaker 4>first draft of A Girl Called Corpse about four months,

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<v Speaker 4>and then spent two months editing it and then sent

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<v Speaker 4>it out. So that's how that came about. And the

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<v Speaker 4>one thing I haven't actually told you was what the

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<v Speaker 4>story is about.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I didn't know how much you were. I didn't

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<v Speaker 2>know if there are any spoiler alert. I wasn't sure

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<v Speaker 2>what she could tell with that.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, it's probably not your audience listening to my podcast,

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<v Speaker 1>I must admit, so you can probably you can probably

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<v Speaker 1>divulge a bit if I don't have this ter many

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<v Speaker 1>eight to twelve year olds listening to The Woodlife on

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<v Speaker 1>a weekly basis.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, that you make a good point, but still I

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<v Speaker 4>won't give away any spoil I have heard from some

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<v Speaker 4>enthusiastic parents who really enjoyed reading it after their kids.

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<v Speaker 2>It's good.

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<v Speaker 3>I like to spoiler.

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<v Speaker 4>But it's about this kid ghost who has built herself

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<v Speaker 4>a body made out of wax. She's got seaweed for hair, abaloni,

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<v Speaker 4>shells for eyes, pibbles for teeth. But what she doesn't

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<v Speaker 4>have her memories. She doesn't know what her real name

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<v Speaker 4>was when she was a kid. She doesn't know who

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<v Speaker 4>her family was. She doesn't know why she was snatched

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<v Speaker 4>by witches and became a ghost in the first place.

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<v Speaker 3>And so when she learns there's a treasure.

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<v Speaker 4>Out there which can reunite her with all of those answers,

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<v Speaker 4>she had her best mate, a Huntsman spider by the

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<v Speaker 4>name of Simon, go searching for that treasure.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like, Hunts's fine, I love it. And then Simon

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<v Speaker 1>just stops it off, just when you think it's going

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<v Speaker 1>to be a really wacky name. It's just Simon.

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<v Speaker 2>I love that.

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<v Speaker 1>That is gold. And so what's the How has that

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<v Speaker 1>success been? Was the success of that book becoming a

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<v Speaker 1>bestseller immediate or is it a pretty steady rye does?

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<v Speaker 1>How does success in that market come about?

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<v Speaker 2>Is it very much word of mouth?

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<v Speaker 1>Is it through the school system, is it through publicity

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<v Speaker 1>or was it just instantaneously a success?

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<v Speaker 3>Look, it was a.

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<v Speaker 4>Success pretty quickly, but that was because of the hard

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<v Speaker 4>work of my publishers. I suppose they believed a lot

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<v Speaker 4>in the book, and they did a lot of a

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<v Speaker 4>lot in the lead up to its release in terms

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<v Speaker 4>of marketing it to booksellers, getting copies out there, getting

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<v Speaker 4>reading copies out there, building buzz about it, which is

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<v Speaker 4>a really fortunate position to find myself in as well,

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<v Speaker 4>so that when it was released it did well quite quickly, which,

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<v Speaker 4>as you can.

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<v Speaker 3>Imagine, going from having had.

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<v Speaker 4>No success and wondering if it was ever going to happen,

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<v Speaker 4>to all of a sudden having a book that really

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<v Speaker 4>did strike the right note and had that sort of

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<v Speaker 4>support from publishers, but also you know that response from booksellers, librarians,

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<v Speaker 4>kids was really overwhelming and very exciting.

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<v Speaker 2>I'll say two things.

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<v Speaker 1>I love just hearing the passion in your voice, and

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<v Speaker 1>whether or not you have eight to twelve year olds,

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<v Speaker 1>or whether or not this is your genre, It just

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<v Speaker 1>it really does reinforce how much you love what you

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<v Speaker 1>do and how authentic it.

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<v Speaker 2>Is and how passion it is.

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<v Speaker 1>And I just think, irrespective of whatever field you're in,

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<v Speaker 1>irrespective of your creative endeavors, that really is probably what

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<v Speaker 1>deep down we're all striving for. And it's it saddens

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<v Speaker 1>me that such a small percentage, you know, probably five

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<v Speaker 1>percent or less, probably much less actually have that, and

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<v Speaker 1>I think it's just awesome that you have.

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<v Speaker 2>You have found it.

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<v Speaker 1>And second of all, when does the multi million dollar

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<v Speaker 1>movie deal come out?

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<v Speaker 3>You know, I keep asking myself the same question.

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<v Speaker 2>When any day now? Any day?

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<v Speaker 3>Any day now?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it's a TV series or movie series written all

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<v Speaker 1>over it, mate, And I'm sure it's not.

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<v Speaker 2>If it's when, that's that's fantastic. I just it was.

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<v Speaker 1>It's just a really nice different guest to have on

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<v Speaker 1>the show today. And you know, it's such a cliche.

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<v Speaker 1>You do what you love and you never work a

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<v Speaker 1>day in your life. And I can just see, mate,

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<v Speaker 1>you'll be doing this for decades to come, making millions

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<v Speaker 1>of children all over the world very very happy and

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<v Speaker 1>making you very happy successful at the same time. And congratulations.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sure many of our listeners will be going out

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<v Speaker 1>and getting it for their kids or nieces or nephews

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<v Speaker 1>or whatever it might be. And Mate, thanks so much

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<v Speaker 1>for joining us today and the Woodlife.

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<v Speaker 3>Thanks so much. Sam.

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<v Speaker 2>There you go. Rees.

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<v Speaker 1>What a lovely, lovely guy and as I sort of said,

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<v Speaker 1>very unique, different to our guests that we normally have

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<v Speaker 1>on the show, but I genuinely meant it when I

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<v Speaker 1>sort of was mentioning to him that we look at

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<v Speaker 1>all these different ways that we can have happiness, and

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<v Speaker 1>your relationships as top of that list, and taking care

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<v Speaker 1>of our health. But I think doing something for us

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<v Speaker 1>when we spend all of our time stressing about our

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<v Speaker 1>health and worrying about other people, when we do tend

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<v Speaker 1>to forget about doing something just small, but often for ourselves,

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<v Speaker 1>and having a creative outlet or a little hobby is

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<v Speaker 1>something that is so important. And we're going to actually

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<v Speaker 1>continue on with that theme in today's episode as we

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<v Speaker 1>have a question from Josh that is just along those lines.

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<v Speaker 5>Hey, Sam, I've been feeling really stressed and in a

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<v Speaker 5>rut lately. Everyone is telling me I should get a hobby.

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<v Speaker 5>Just doing hobbies really help to lower stress. Josh from Brisbane.

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<v Speaker 2>Thanks Josh.

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<v Speaker 1>It's one of those things I feel a bit guilty

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<v Speaker 1>commenting on it because I absolutely don't have enough hobbies myself,

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<v Speaker 1>or I'm not consistent enough with it. I find it

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<v Speaker 1>is always the first thing to go. I sort of

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<v Speaker 1>introduce it and I have a couple of good weeks

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<v Speaker 1>and then and then the water levels rise with kids

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<v Speaker 1>and work or whatever it might be, and it always

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<v Speaker 1>seems to be the thing that gets squeezed. So as

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<v Speaker 1>I give you this advice, please take note that I'm

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<v Speaker 1>talking to myself as much as I'm talking to all

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<v Speaker 1>of you. I guess is my point. But the research

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<v Speaker 1>does show that people with hobbies are less likely to

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<v Speaker 1>experience stress, low mood, and depression.

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<v Speaker 2>So that's pretty damn powerful starting point.

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<v Speaker 1>And the importance of play and activities is actually really

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<v Speaker 1>closely linked with us getting into a flow state, and

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<v Speaker 1>I think this is a really interesting point. We often

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<v Speaker 1>think that we need to know what time it is,

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<v Speaker 1>and we need to be punctual, and we need to

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<v Speaker 1>be structured, and we need to be efficient. Getting into

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<v Speaker 1>a state of play helps you get into this flow

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<v Speaker 1>state where it actually is a good thing that you

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<v Speaker 1>lose track of time. And I just I just think,

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<v Speaker 1>when was the last time I lost myself in a

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<v Speaker 1>creative or fun or play pursuit, genuinely lost track of time.

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<v Speaker 1>And when you've got a lot of people responsible for

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<v Speaker 1>you, you tend to need to know what time it is,

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<v Speaker 1>when's your next meeting, what's time I'm going to pick

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<v Speaker 1>up the kids from school, what time it's dinner, blah

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<v Speaker 1>blah blah.

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<v Speaker 2>But God, it's.

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<v Speaker 1>Nice when you don't have to think about it. And

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<v Speaker 1>for me, it wouldn't be unless I'm on holidays, like

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<v Speaker 1>unless I can actually switch to your emails off and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm playing at the beach, and the only thing that

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<v Speaker 1>sort of tells me what time it is is how

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<v Speaker 1>hungry I am and perhaps how close it is to

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<v Speaker 1>lunch time. It very rarely happens that I'm not quite

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<v Speaker 1>consciously aware of what time it is within sort of

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<v Speaker 1>a fifteen or thirty minute bracket. So I think as

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<v Speaker 1>a good little test to you, our listeners, is how

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<v Speaker 1>do you find a pursuit of play and creativity or

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<v Speaker 1>a fun activity where you genuinely lose yourself, get into

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<v Speaker 1>that flow state and lose your sense of time. The

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<v Speaker 1>other advice that I thought was really interesting that they

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<v Speaker 1>give on this topic is it's really healthy to have

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<v Speaker 1>a hobby that is for your mind and a hobby

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<v Speaker 1>that is your body, as they both sort of serve

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<v Speaker 1>you in very different ways, and if you cover both bases,

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<v Speaker 1>you tend not to just gravitate towards your strength. You

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<v Speaker 1>tend to cover both bases. The other thing that they

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<v Speaker 1>said was try and also have one of those hobbies

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<v Speaker 1>be something that connects you to other people, because otherwise

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<v Speaker 1>you tend to just go inward all the time with

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<v Speaker 1>one of these hobbies or activities that you're taking on board.

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<v Speaker 1>And there's a lot of power in connecting with community

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<v Speaker 1>from a happiness and a well being from a social

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<v Speaker 1>health perspective. So if you can have one hobby for

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<v Speaker 1>your body and one for your brain or mind, and

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<v Speaker 1>one hobby that connects you with other people and one

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<v Speaker 1>that's perhaps more of an intrinsic individual opportunity, then I

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<v Speaker 1>think that would be really good advice. And then the

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<v Speaker 1>question I always get is, oh, Sam, principally, I understand

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<v Speaker 1>the advice at a big picture level, but what hobbies

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<v Speaker 1>could I do?

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<v Speaker 2>Now? You can do anything.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, you can go to dance classes, social netball,

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<v Speaker 1>pub qui, jewelry at home, do drawing, reading, book club,

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<v Speaker 1>tennis lessons, learn a language. I mean, you can do

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<v Speaker 1>it all. There's no right answer, there's no wrong answer.

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<v Speaker 1>But what I would say is absolutely should be something

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<v Speaker 1>that you love and that you're curious about, and it

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<v Speaker 1>should be your thing. I think piggybacking onto someone else's

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<v Speaker 1>hobby is why we often don't like it. We might

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<v Speaker 1>like that person, and we might like that their company,

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<v Speaker 1>and we might think, oh, this is a good way

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<v Speaker 1>for us to hang out together, but you often end

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<v Speaker 1>up heading down a path where it's not really anything

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<v Speaker 1>that excites your interests you or is something that you're

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<v Speaker 1>passionate or curious about. So try and do your own

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<v Speaker 1>thing and meet new people in the process, and not

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<v Speaker 1>worry too much about what others are doing or what

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<v Speaker 1>others are saying, would be my advice, And let go

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<v Speaker 1>of your expectations. I think we talk ourselves into doing

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<v Speaker 1>these things before we even give them a try, and

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<v Speaker 1>so often if you can go with a blank canvas

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<v Speaker 1>and a an open mind, you'll be really blown away

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<v Speaker 1>at how much you enjoy it. And then the last

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<v Speaker 1>two little bits of advice on the hobby topic, there's

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of research to show that when you do

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<v Speaker 1>take up a hobby, you're much better at being relaxed, rested,

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<v Speaker 1>and happy, much more so than, say, compared to sitting

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<v Speaker 1>on the couch watching Netflix or watching TV each night.

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<v Speaker 1>It really does achieve those things that perhaps you feel

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<v Speaker 1>like you're achieving doing the same thing night in, night

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<v Speaker 1>out at a much greater level. And this is where

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<v Speaker 1>I need to take my own advice. When you do

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<v Speaker 1>find it so that it does stick, put it into

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<v Speaker 1>your calendar like a business appointment that you need to keep.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't have it in there as something flaky. The second

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<v Speaker 1>life gets busy or something else comes along, then you

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<v Speaker 1>dismiss it too easily, because sometimes it takes a little

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<v Speaker 1>bit of time to get in the group with these things.

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<v Speaker 2>Josh, I hope that helps.

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<v Speaker 1>I hope that advice carries across to all of you,

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<v Speaker 1>because I think, as I said to Reese today, who

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<v Speaker 1>knows where we lose our hobbies along the way, but

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<v Speaker 1>as adults, we typically have at some point in time,

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<v Speaker 1>and there is so much research out there to show

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<v Speaker 1>the importance from a well being and a health perspective

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<v Speaker 1>mentally and physically by giving them a try or having

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<v Speaker 1>them as a regular part of our.

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<v Speaker 2>Routines and schedules. And I'd love to hear from you.

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<v Speaker 1>I'd love to hear what hobbies perhaps you've taken up

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<v Speaker 1>in your adult life that have been game changes, or

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<v Speaker 1>if you want to commit yourself by sending me a

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<v Speaker 1>note on the show about what you're going to try,

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<v Speaker 1>maybe just to keep yourself a bit accountable. I'd love

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<v Speaker 1>to hear from him with that too. There's a link

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<v Speaker 1>in the show notes. As always and until next week,

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<v Speaker 1>I speak to them