WEBVTT - Would You Ever Waffle Stomp In The Shower? 💩 0:00:00.760 --> 0:00:03.920 The Flex and Rooms Daily Podcast, brought to you by China. 0:00:05.000 --> 0:00:05.240 Hello. 0:00:05.360 --> 0:00:07.960 My very much wish is that if you're listening to this, 0:00:08.039 --> 0:00:11.120 it's because somebody who has a crush on you sent 0:00:11.200 --> 0:00:14.000 it to you. They got the link from whatever streaming 0:00:14.040 --> 0:00:16.480 service they're on, did a little copy and paste and 0:00:16.520 --> 0:00:19.079 put in your Instagram DM signing the chain man. Hey, 0:00:20.440 --> 0:00:22.239 I just want to show you these really two these 0:00:22.239 --> 0:00:24.800 two really cool girls. I think they talk about really 0:00:24.840 --> 0:00:30.600 interesting stuff that you'd like. They talk about pop culture, news, love, relationships, gossip, 0:00:30.600 --> 0:00:33.000 and a little bit of poo chat. Depending on who 0:00:33.000 --> 0:00:35.440 you are, you'll like that. I'll love it, and I 0:00:35.440 --> 0:00:37.519 think you should listen to them because what we're going 0:00:37.560 --> 0:00:41.120 to be talking about today is DMS DM slide etiquette, 0:00:41.400 --> 0:00:43.960 and especially what DM slide etiquette looks like when you 0:00:44.000 --> 0:00:46.800 own your late twenties, which is what we are. 0:00:46.960 --> 0:00:52.000 We like to be allegedly, Yeah, agly twenty four. Realistically 0:00:52.080 --> 0:00:54.720 I think I would. I could give twenty three all 0:00:54.720 --> 0:01:00.680 in favors, say I why damn? Yeah? You just okay? 0:01:00.680 --> 0:01:01.560 What about twenty five? 0:01:02.400 --> 0:01:07.479 No, you're hard thirty in my eyes, no way, twenty nine. 0:01:07.720 --> 0:01:10.319 I think I'm social. You're giving twenty four in real 0:01:10.360 --> 0:01:11.280 life anyone. 0:01:11.520 --> 0:01:19.600 She will's laughing. Will She's just laughing like it's true. Anyway. 0:01:19.600 --> 0:01:20.080 I'm usual. 0:01:20.080 --> 0:01:22.000 I said this before, but people on the internet that 0:01:22.040 --> 0:01:24.679 don't know me, like on YouTube, will go, why does 0:01:24.680 --> 0:01:26.800 this chick look twenty and sixty at the same time? 0:01:28.959 --> 0:01:32.200 It's only because you're a white babe? 0:01:32.560 --> 0:01:36.039 Is it because no one else gets my treatment? What 0:01:36.200 --> 0:01:37.160 is it about my face? 0:01:41.120 --> 0:01:41.880 Not in this hair? 0:01:42.720 --> 0:01:45.880 No, yeah, it's the short hair. It's a Karen esque 0:01:46.080 --> 0:01:47.559 Karen adjacent hairstyle. 0:01:48.440 --> 0:01:50.640 Oh, I'm sorry they said that to you, babe. 0:01:50.760 --> 0:01:56.280 That's fine. Let's get to it. Flex and frooms. So 0:01:56.880 --> 0:01:59.640 I have a message from somebody. It is about their fiance. 0:02:00.000 --> 0:02:02.480 Their fiance does something that they're not very pleased with, 0:02:03.240 --> 0:02:04.960 and I want to know if you think what they're 0:02:05.000 --> 0:02:08.959 doing is wrong. Okay, my fiance poops in the shower 0:02:09.000 --> 0:02:12.120 and stumps it down the drain. Not a joke. She 0:02:12.200 --> 0:02:14.160 recently told me this, and I've been living with it 0:02:14.200 --> 0:02:16.840 for a few weeks now. Oh, she even broke the 0:02:16.880 --> 0:02:17.280 news to me. 0:02:17.320 --> 0:02:20.760 Wait wait wait wait wait no, no, no, So this 0:02:20.840 --> 0:02:24.360 is the man fiance is saying his woman fiance is 0:02:24.400 --> 0:02:25.160 the pooh stumper. 0:02:25.600 --> 0:02:31.679 Yeah, why is that worse. I think that's sexist. 0:02:32.120 --> 0:02:34.400 It is okay for good reason. 0:02:35.000 --> 0:02:37.799 She even broke the news to me while laughing about it. 0:02:38.320 --> 0:02:40.880 She goes, you know what a waffle stump is? She 0:02:41.000 --> 0:02:43.440 asked me, as she laughed and laughed. She laughed so 0:02:43.520 --> 0:02:49.000 hard she started crying rumies. I felt disgusted and betrayed. 0:02:49.400 --> 0:02:51.679 I can't even look at her over breakfast anymore before 0:02:51.720 --> 0:02:53.760 I head to work, And while at work, all I 0:02:53.800 --> 0:02:55.519 can do is man as to myself. Is she doing 0:02:55.560 --> 0:02:58.919 it right now? Apparently this has been going on for years, 0:02:59.600 --> 0:03:03.040 she said. She uses all the scented candles she obsessively 0:03:03.040 --> 0:03:05.960 buys online to mask the smell. I worked twelve to 0:03:05.960 --> 0:03:08.200 fifteen hour days, so plenty of time for her to 0:03:08.240 --> 0:03:10.920 cover her pooh stink. A few times we've had to 0:03:10.919 --> 0:03:13.200 snake the drain due to a clog. Now I know 0:03:13.240 --> 0:03:16.920 why I'm not try I can live this life anymore. 0:03:16.960 --> 0:03:22.760 Exactly, I understand. I don't know why this isn't so 0:03:22.919 --> 0:03:26.040 scary to you like I as I ate, I'm finding 0:03:26.040 --> 0:03:28.600 out too much stuff about the world, and it doesn't 0:03:28.639 --> 0:03:32.040 make it makes me fearful what fle stompers could be 0:03:32.080 --> 0:03:34.720 in and amongst us, everyone the way you're laughing. This 0:03:34.760 --> 0:03:37.080 is not foreign to you. The fact that you can 0:03:37.200 --> 0:03:39.480 even conceptualize what that looks like. I have to try. 0:03:40.200 --> 0:03:42.680 You'm just gonna have that sensation anyway. I just think 0:03:42.760 --> 0:03:46.440 this is the most terrifying thing I've ever heard of, 0:03:46.680 --> 0:03:49.400 and I've read some real cooked stuff in my lifetime. 0:03:49.760 --> 0:03:52.400 The thing that gets me is, like, let's say, you know, 0:03:52.520 --> 0:03:55.760 happens once or twice, you couldn't help yourself. I understand, Oh, 0:03:55.760 --> 0:03:58.440 that was a hand up from Ruby. That was a 0:03:58.840 --> 0:04:01.680 that was I can confirm it, so I understand that. 0:04:01.720 --> 0:04:05.880 But now it's something that she does regularly, so much 0:04:05.920 --> 0:04:07.840 so that she has a whole system in place, like 0:04:07.920 --> 0:04:11.120 she's bought She's got now a candle addiction to compensate 0:04:11.200 --> 0:04:16.520 for the wasting smell of pushing feces down the drain, 0:04:17.279 --> 0:04:19.960 like and I can imagine there must be so much 0:04:20.040 --> 0:04:23.320 excess poop attached to the sides of the drain because 0:04:23.720 --> 0:04:25.640 the flow from the shower is trickling. 0:04:25.920 --> 0:04:26.440 It's trickling. 0:04:26.520 --> 0:04:29.520 It's not the powerful flush of a toilet, so it's lingering. 0:04:30.960 --> 0:04:32.080 I'm not happy about it. 0:04:33.040 --> 0:04:38.120 Well, my defense for her, coming straight from through me 0:04:40.400 --> 0:04:45.839 sycrepiance is like the shower. You then put sense down 0:04:45.880 --> 0:04:48.760 the shower like you're doing your shampoo. You're doing a conditioner, 0:04:49.360 --> 0:04:50.760 you're a shaving lotion. 0:04:51.200 --> 0:04:55.200 It's not debto, it's not antibacterial. 0:04:56.000 --> 0:04:59.159 Well, I have done this before, not out of desire 0:04:59.200 --> 0:05:01.640 to want to do it, but from sickness. I'm in 0:05:01.680 --> 0:05:07.479 the shower, I'm vomiting. The pooh comes it started, I 0:05:07.560 --> 0:05:10.520 have to push it down. There's no way, how like, 0:05:10.560 --> 0:05:12.640 what am I supposed to do? Get out of the shower. 0:05:12.760 --> 0:05:16.159 I'm dripping wet, it's coming. Sit on the toilet, dripping wet. 0:05:16.520 --> 0:05:17.080 Exactly. 0:05:18.160 --> 0:05:22.159 Nah, you're in the shower, not in my recent house, 0:05:22.839 --> 0:05:24.039 the one before. 0:05:24.080 --> 0:05:25.880 To be fair, it's like, remember when you were tell 0:05:25.920 --> 0:05:28.000 me you vomited cocktail Frank quotes into the sink, and 0:05:28.040 --> 0:05:30.000 I was like, but why, because now you're trying to 0:05:30.080 --> 0:05:32.279 press them down to the drain. Was I not a 0:05:32.320 --> 0:05:33.159 toilet for you? 0:05:33.680 --> 0:05:36.440 I can't do that toilets freak me out, is all 0:05:36.480 --> 0:05:40.400 I want to say. I don't like the idea that 0:05:40.440 --> 0:05:42.080 I'm doing it where other people have done it, so 0:05:42.120 --> 0:05:45.200 therefore I do it elsewhere. Okay, I will no longer 0:05:45.279 --> 0:05:48.920 incriminate myself because I have a history, a storied history 0:05:49.240 --> 0:05:51.040 of doing things outside of bathrooms. 0:05:51.240 --> 0:05:56.080 This is just I cannot. I really feel for him, 0:05:56.120 --> 0:05:59.279 because as for me, I would I would really struggle 0:05:59.320 --> 0:06:01.520 with that. Like I'm even stuttering. 0:06:02.000 --> 0:06:03.440 It's just gross. 0:06:03.720 --> 0:06:06.840 And I again again, I empathize with people who've been 0:06:06.880 --> 0:06:10.160 in situations where it's necessary, and I think if I 0:06:10.160 --> 0:06:12.480 had to justify it, because you know, a great debate 0:06:12.560 --> 0:06:17.440 considers both angles, I guess showering straight after is very 0:06:17.600 --> 0:06:19.080 is a good thing for me. I don't like the 0:06:19.080 --> 0:06:23.640 fact that when you like, toilet paper should be moist 0:06:23.960 --> 0:06:26.480 so it can really get into the crevices. Why are 0:06:26.480 --> 0:06:29.800 we trying to clean with just some dry like imagine 0:06:29.839 --> 0:06:33.040 if you spilt something on your countertop and just wiped 0:06:33.040 --> 0:06:34.520 it up and then left the rend like. It just 0:06:34.520 --> 0:06:37.280 doesn't make me sense. However, I don't like this. 0:06:38.360 --> 0:06:40.800 Remember never flush wet wipes down the drain. 0:06:40.839 --> 0:06:44.400 No, I don't flush webs weteps. What I do, let 0:06:44.480 --> 0:06:44.680 me know. 0:06:48.800 --> 0:06:50.320 This is flex and frooms. 0:06:51.600 --> 0:06:54.200 It is not often that I come with a dilemma, 0:06:54.360 --> 0:06:56.360 not one that's rooted in reality. Anyway, I like to 0:06:56.400 --> 0:06:58.880 think about abstract concepts. I don't like to think about 0:06:59.240 --> 0:07:01.600 like real life from that way, and if I do, 0:07:01.640 --> 0:07:03.280 it's a quick thought and an action, so I don't 0:07:03.279 --> 0:07:05.840 have to think about it again. Okay, but recently I 0:07:05.880 --> 0:07:08.000 found myself in a little bit of a pickle. So 0:07:08.000 --> 0:07:12.520 what had happened was I had found myself in and 0:07:12.600 --> 0:07:17.080 around an attractive guy, one that interested me so much 0:07:17.120 --> 0:07:19.480 I said, I have to do something about this. After 0:07:19.560 --> 0:07:24.920 slide through anyway, So the initial meeting casual, casual humor 0:07:26.680 --> 0:07:29.680 no at a place that cannot be named to not 0:07:29.800 --> 0:07:36.440 identify a restaurant babes. Yeah, enough that this person is 0:07:36.560 --> 0:07:38.880 like visually interested me enough that I'm like, I like 0:07:38.920 --> 0:07:41.960 the outfit, I like the vibe. I want to do 0:07:42.000 --> 0:07:45.040 something with this, but I don't know what right, So 0:07:46.000 --> 0:07:48.000 I decided I'm going to do a DM slide. And 0:07:48.200 --> 0:07:50.920 we have spoken about before that, like five years ago. 0:07:51.360 --> 0:07:55.960 The DM slide tactic was sending a flower emoji. Yes, 0:07:56.080 --> 0:07:59.800 why because it's it's neutral, good, it's positive and friendly, 0:07:59.840 --> 0:08:03.760 and that it sparks the conversation for someone who's mutually interested, 0:08:04.440 --> 0:08:07.080 and if they're not, they'll be polite, or they'll ignore you, 0:08:07.160 --> 0:08:08.680 or they're like, what are you talking about? You know what? 0:08:09.040 --> 0:08:11.480 People who get it get it right, but I'm not 0:08:11.840 --> 0:08:12.960 twenty four anymore. 0:08:13.240 --> 0:08:13.960 She's old. 0:08:14.480 --> 0:08:18.119 I'm older. She's a lady. To be right, I can't 0:08:18.160 --> 0:08:22.360 allocate so much time for the like the banter and 0:08:22.400 --> 0:08:26.600 the directionless conversation. I just need to know that's my 0:08:26.680 --> 0:08:28.600 cron troll ISS's coming through. I'm like, is it a vibe? 0:08:28.680 --> 0:08:30.760 Is it not a vibe? You know whatever? But then 0:08:30.760 --> 0:08:33.600 I was like, wait a second, I'm having a secondary issue. 0:08:34.520 --> 0:08:37.319 My secondary issue is that I no longer want to 0:08:37.360 --> 0:08:41.920 be a what do you call them? An aggressor. I 0:08:41.960 --> 0:08:44.520 don't want to be the person who's like I am, 0:08:45.280 --> 0:08:48.400 I'm pursuing someone. I picked them, I chose them. I've 0:08:48.440 --> 0:08:51.160 done that. That's like we did that. I want to 0:08:51.160 --> 0:08:53.520 be a damsel, yes, you know what I mean, Like 0:08:53.520 --> 0:08:55.480 I want to just like kind of like loosely set 0:08:55.520 --> 0:08:57.400 things up and be like you know, just like heart 0:08:57.440 --> 0:09:01.600 and cute and like at the helm of somebody else's 0:09:01.640 --> 0:09:05.280 effort and also somebody else's steaks, Like the steaks need 0:09:05.320 --> 0:09:07.600 to be higher for them than me. Too many things 0:09:07.600 --> 0:09:11.200 to consider. So I did a round table at a 0:09:11.280 --> 0:09:15.920 restaurant that I was at, not with strangers, basically half 0:09:15.920 --> 0:09:17.520 a strangers, but from me and I were at this 0:09:17.640 --> 0:09:19.280 like dinner but through mere the left, so you'd a 0:09:19.360 --> 0:09:22.920 round tablested what would you all do? And the advice 0:09:23.080 --> 0:09:26.880 ranged from oh, just like reply to an Instagram story, 0:09:26.920 --> 0:09:30.040 which is just like what if they don't post Instagram 0:09:30.120 --> 0:09:31.840 stories that often, you know what I mean? Like that's 0:09:32.120 --> 0:09:34.800 taking too much time, And then somebody else was like, oh, 0:09:34.960 --> 0:09:36.680 just ask them out, Like Nope, we're in the wrong 0:09:36.720 --> 0:09:38.880 era for that, babe, We're in the wrong era. I'm 0:09:38.920 --> 0:09:42.160 just trying to set something up, you know, set something up. 0:09:42.360 --> 0:09:45.079 So after about an hour of consultation, we didn't really 0:09:45.080 --> 0:09:48.320 get anywhere. So I'm bringing this to you for me. 0:09:48.800 --> 0:09:53.400 I want to know what you think adult women date 0:09:53.480 --> 0:09:58.000 men I e. Mixed Flexiana should and would do because 0:09:58.000 --> 0:10:00.320 I already did it, but I want I don't know 0:10:00.440 --> 0:10:01.880 how you think I should have approached it. 0:10:01.920 --> 0:10:02.760 Has it worked? 0:10:02.880 --> 0:10:05.640 Well? Well, well wait a second, let me give a 0:10:05.679 --> 0:10:08.560 plot twist. I got bored and I saw too much 0:10:09.800 --> 0:10:13.040 not too much, I think, how do I explain it? 0:10:13.520 --> 0:10:16.760 I got distracted a splendor. I was like, this is 0:10:16.760 --> 0:10:21.719 not what I want. Then I just got like it 0:10:21.760 --> 0:10:22.959 was just no longer fun anymore. 0:10:23.280 --> 0:10:25.320 Okay, Well, just give me the context, like you follow 0:10:25.360 --> 0:10:25.720 each other. 0:10:26.080 --> 0:10:29.600 We were strangers. I just assessed him in a room 0:10:29.640 --> 0:10:31.560 and said I liked that one. Okay, can I just 0:10:31.720 --> 0:10:34.400 was it like a cafe. I will tell you the 0:10:34.440 --> 0:10:36.680 full story afterwards. You don't, you do not need that. 0:10:36.720 --> 0:10:39.400 It doesn't matter. You know, you're just forgotten anyway. So 0:10:39.440 --> 0:10:41.679 I had assessed this person in a room. 0:10:41.760 --> 0:10:43.120 I just want to know. It's not like a work 0:10:43.160 --> 0:10:47.240 setting or something inappropriate babes. 0:10:49.280 --> 0:10:53.360 Anyway, I sussed. I said I want that one please, 0:10:53.840 --> 0:10:56.480 and then I realized, like, we're just not in environment, 0:10:56.520 --> 0:10:58.000 so you can just have that one, like you need 0:10:58.040 --> 0:11:00.600 to like graft? Yes, yeah, I was like, okay, well 0:11:00.600 --> 0:11:03.520 how do I graft if my only access to this 0:11:03.559 --> 0:11:07.440 person is now their Instagram? Like, we don't for what 0:11:07.520 --> 0:11:09.360 I know, running the same secle. I'n't have seen you before. 0:11:09.520 --> 0:11:11.720 I'm not just gonna run into you. We don't have 0:11:11.840 --> 0:11:15.000 mutual friends. I just need to lock it in ands up. 0:11:15.360 --> 0:11:17.840 So all I had to me was a DM slide 0:11:18.040 --> 0:11:20.000 after a follow, naturally. 0:11:19.840 --> 0:11:22.960 A mutual follow, mutual follow, mutual follow, Okay, as soon 0:11:23.000 --> 0:11:25.240 as the mutual follow occurs. 0:11:24.800 --> 0:11:28.600 Yes, one might say that, but here's what I think. 0:11:28.920 --> 0:11:32.360 The mutual follow is like a stalemate. Yeah, because one 0:11:32.440 --> 0:11:35.719 person follows, you take the risk. Everyone just has to 0:11:35.720 --> 0:11:38.440 follow back, just respond to the initial risk taken. There's 0:11:38.440 --> 0:11:41.880 nothing much there to stalemate. Then one person can do them, 0:11:42.000 --> 0:11:44.920 you know, the three liking the three photos. It's so boring. No, no, no, 0:11:44.920 --> 0:11:46.880 I want to go straight to the DM. I want 0:11:46.880 --> 0:11:49.439 to go in. But my issue is because I'm doing damnsel. 0:11:49.960 --> 0:11:52.400 I don't want to be the aggressor. I don't want 0:11:52.400 --> 0:11:55.600 to ask you out. Maybe it's not twenty eighteen I 0:11:55.679 --> 0:11:58.720 did that. I want to do some fresh see. 0:11:58.720 --> 0:12:00.880 But I think you've gotten yourself into a trap because 0:12:00.880 --> 0:12:03.320 exactly people expect you to do that exactly. 0:12:03.520 --> 0:12:05.600 So then as I was thinking about what I would say, 0:12:06.880 --> 0:12:09.360 then I was like, doesn't matter, I'm over it. But 0:12:09.400 --> 0:12:12.520 then they posted a story. I said, this is perfect, 0:12:13.440 --> 0:12:15.959 this is exactly what I need. Look through the story 0:12:15.960 --> 0:12:19.160 and I'm like, okay, get what's happening here. You are 0:12:19.200 --> 0:12:22.240 like a capital C creative archetype, Like you are not 0:12:22.240 --> 0:12:24.400 going to post a picture of yourself ever, It's going 0:12:24.440 --> 0:12:27.240 to be like creative inspiration. So I'm like, there's not 0:12:27.320 --> 0:12:29.679 much to say here, Like you've posted a picture of 0:12:29.679 --> 0:12:35.000 a gradient background a spoon, like like the sky with 0:12:35.080 --> 0:12:37.000 a branch. I can't work with. 0:12:37.160 --> 0:12:39.719 This lines like buildings with lots of. 0:12:39.800 --> 0:12:44.080 Lines really like Jesus helped me anyway. So then they 0:12:44.160 --> 0:12:48.040 end up posting like this cute illustration of like cats 0:12:48.120 --> 0:12:50.000 or something like finally we can do something with this, 0:12:50.640 --> 0:12:52.480 and I said something like, oh my god, that's so cute, 0:12:52.679 --> 0:12:56.840 like adorable. I'm obsessed. Yeah, I can do that anyway. 0:12:57.120 --> 0:13:02.120 Benny starts talking about screen printing and he's like and 0:13:02.160 --> 0:13:06.480 I'm like, he wants your advice, but no, no, no, 0:13:06.520 --> 0:13:08.880 like it was like creative validation almost. He was like, 0:13:08.880 --> 0:13:11.040 oh you really think so, Like I took a photo 0:13:11.080 --> 0:13:13.040 of it because like I've got inspiration for this and 0:13:13.080 --> 0:13:15.680 like something something like it'd be great screen printed. And 0:13:15.679 --> 0:13:18.440 I'm like, oh, this is so like it had already 0:13:18.440 --> 0:13:20.680 gone down a really specific path. And I'm just like 0:13:21.000 --> 0:13:24.200 not that I don't care, but you're a capital C creative. 0:13:24.440 --> 0:13:27.240 I'm like a lowercase C creative. Whatever conversation we have 0:13:27.400 --> 0:13:31.360 is gonna escalate, and I just don't care that much. Anyway. 0:13:31.679 --> 0:13:33.680 Then we were having this like back and forth, small 0:13:33.679 --> 0:13:36.240 top conversation, and then I went to splendor with no reception. 0:13:36.679 --> 0:13:38.840 I came back and then I looked at this story 0:13:38.840 --> 0:13:40.520 again and I'm like, it's just it's fine. 0:13:40.800 --> 0:13:42.880 You've cooled off. It's a cooling because. 0:13:42.600 --> 0:13:46.040 I liked the in person vibe when I didn't have 0:13:46.040 --> 0:13:49.520 any context, and that's not real, like when I was 0:13:49.520 --> 0:13:52.560 able to project onto them, like what the vibe was. 0:13:52.880 --> 0:13:56.040 Now I have the vibe. Don't worry about it. 0:13:56.080 --> 0:13:58.440 People take, but my point remains. 0:14:00.600 --> 0:14:03.439 When I'd asked other people around, like none of them 0:14:03.440 --> 0:14:05.520 had a good approach to the DM slide, and I'm like, 0:14:05.800 --> 0:14:10.480 we're gonna be living in an ever increasingly virtual society 0:14:10.480 --> 0:14:12.560 where we should have these tactics on lock. 0:14:13.800 --> 0:14:16.120 I think Instagram did a lot when it brought in 0:14:16.200 --> 0:14:19.680 the reacts that are beyond the fire react yes or 0:14:19.680 --> 0:14:23.720 beyond just the like yes, i think you've got to 0:14:23.760 --> 0:14:24.400 be shameless. 0:14:24.840 --> 0:14:26.520 Yeah, but like I'm so bored of that. 0:14:27.640 --> 0:14:29.160 This is the things like, so you need to get 0:14:29.200 --> 0:14:31.880 over any ego that you might have, be shameless in 0:14:31.920 --> 0:14:35.440 the beginning, and then hoodwink and make them do the 0:14:35.440 --> 0:14:37.600 rest of the work you have to because you have 0:14:37.640 --> 0:14:40.360 the bold I don't have to have to, like in 0:14:40.480 --> 0:14:41.680 order for things to change. 0:14:41.720 --> 0:14:43.080 One must do things differently. 0:14:44.280 --> 0:14:48.240 But then what if no one comes, then so be it. 0:14:48.240 --> 0:14:49.960 It's quite a nice attitude. 0:14:50.160 --> 0:14:54.400 You know, because here's my thing when like the archetype 0:14:54.400 --> 0:14:56.280 of who I date, right if I'm like, we all 0:14:56.320 --> 0:14:58.640 know me, we all know the characteristics. I feel like 0:14:58.680 --> 0:15:02.240 I date people who are used to like going with 0:15:02.280 --> 0:15:07.200 the flow and like being agreeable and you know, being 0:15:08.920 --> 0:15:12.240 almost like being a support role to the main event. Right. 0:15:12.320 --> 0:15:15.160 But I'm like, that's not a partnership, that's a we're 0:15:15.200 --> 0:15:16.800 on the flex train. I'm like, I'm trying to do 0:15:16.840 --> 0:15:18.920 a team thing, trying to be a duo. 0:15:19.080 --> 0:15:20.040 Do you want a boy boss? 0:15:20.160 --> 0:15:22.560 I don't want a boy boss. I don't want to 0:15:22.600 --> 0:15:24.600 say I'm going in this direction. You're like, okay, I'm 0:15:24.600 --> 0:15:26.200 gonna switch around my plans to do what you And I'm. 0:15:26.120 --> 0:15:29.000 Like, what do you do? What are your goals? What 0:15:29.040 --> 0:15:30.080 are your interests? 0:15:30.160 --> 0:15:31.320 Like, let's do what you want to do. 0:15:31.360 --> 0:15:32.560 Okay, we're gonna find your people. 0:15:32.560 --> 0:15:34.760 It starts from like the very beginning, Like I think 0:15:34.840 --> 0:15:37.760 in those early stages you build habits that turn out 0:15:37.800 --> 0:15:41.120 to be foundations of your dynamic. So if in the 0:15:41.160 --> 0:15:43.160 initial stages, then like what are you doing where are 0:15:43.160 --> 0:15:49.560 we going. I'm gonna then like we're building patterns and traditions. Okay, 0:15:49.680 --> 0:15:51.040 I'll find a middle ground somewhere. 0:15:51.400 --> 0:15:53.480 I'm excited for this journey. I feel like you're really 0:15:53.880 --> 0:15:54.960 putting yourself out there. 0:15:55.200 --> 0:15:57.200 You said, like I've not been putting myself out there, babe. 0:15:57.200 --> 0:15:57.520 I did. 0:15:58.720 --> 0:16:02.000 I just I get like we have conversations, and this 0:16:02.080 --> 0:16:04.640 is coming up more in conversation. So I'm excited for you. 0:16:04.640 --> 0:16:06.680 You're inspiring me. You inspired me to get a dating 0:16:06.680 --> 0:16:10.160 app again, which will go through one day. It expires 0:16:10.200 --> 0:16:13.720 in probably two days, and then I'm not going to 0:16:13.760 --> 0:16:16.760 get it again. Pay But I put myself out there 0:16:16.800 --> 0:16:17.240 a little bit. 0:16:17.720 --> 0:16:19.120 I'm gonna figure it out. 0:16:19.400 --> 0:16:19.720 I look. 0:16:19.800 --> 0:16:23.080 So, I'm sure there's like a whole subgroup of like 0:16:23.800 --> 0:16:27.360 assertive girl bosses who like babes. I want to be 0:16:27.400 --> 0:16:33.040 a dumbda and I want to I want the option. 0:16:33.280 --> 0:16:34.840 Why can't I have options? Please? 0:16:35.240 --> 0:16:39.640 You're listening to flex and Frooms on Kta FLEXI again. 0:16:39.760 --> 0:16:41.440 I was on TikTok. That's going to be the story 0:16:41.440 --> 0:16:42.240 of my life there. 0:16:42.320 --> 0:16:44.480 I want to kick back every time we say that. 0:16:45.000 --> 0:16:49.160 Why Because I feel like I do so much TikTok converting. 0:16:49.360 --> 0:16:54.720 Like on Instagram as well. I'm constantly spooking TikTok people like, 0:16:54.720 --> 0:16:56.360 oh my god, I down wanted it because of you, 0:16:56.720 --> 0:16:59.960 and it's nice to hear that I have natural influence. 0:17:00.320 --> 0:17:02.320 But I'm also like mmm. 0:17:02.720 --> 0:17:05.760 Mmmm, I think they're going to come back at you 0:17:05.800 --> 0:17:07.680 when they find out that all their data has been 0:17:07.720 --> 0:17:08.840 mined allegedly. 0:17:10.000 --> 0:17:10.160 Oo. 0:17:11.119 --> 0:17:13.399 I came across you at TikTok and I thought it 0:17:13.440 --> 0:17:15.600 would interest you. I'm gonna open it for you. 0:17:16.080 --> 0:17:17.840 Why have I never seen an AI. 0:17:17.600 --> 0:17:23.440 That's a man, It's a voice activated digital assistant. These 0:17:23.440 --> 0:17:29.040 are crazy times for AI Personal assistance Siri, Krotana, Alexa V. 0:17:29.880 --> 0:17:33.399 Is there any reason you guys give them all female names, Like, 0:17:33.480 --> 0:17:44.560 I'm surprised there isn't one just called mommy, Mommy, where's 0:17:44.560 --> 0:17:46.880 the closest latte facts? 0:17:47.080 --> 0:17:48.000 And he hadn't thought of that. 0:17:48.560 --> 0:17:53.359 No, I guess because I know AI can be gendered. 0:17:53.400 --> 0:17:55.560 But when I'm speaking about AI, I'm speaking about like 0:17:55.840 --> 0:17:59.840 the concept, not like Siri. But now I think about it, 0:18:00.160 --> 0:18:03.000 this person is right like when you have a because 0:18:03.119 --> 0:18:06.200 people say the floor with AIS that it's built by people, 0:18:06.680 --> 0:18:10.760 namely men, and so all the biases that men have 0:18:10.880 --> 0:18:14.520 in society or people, whatever will be transferred onto whatever 0:18:14.520 --> 0:18:17.360 they build, because how can you separate yourself from who 0:18:17.359 --> 0:18:19.400 you are and what you believe and that will naturally 0:18:19.440 --> 0:18:22.560 go into what you create right with not anything, So 0:18:22.560 --> 0:18:26.680 in this instance it's like wha yeah, hold on a second. 0:18:27.000 --> 0:18:28.080 I'm not surprised though. 0:18:28.520 --> 0:18:28.760 Ex. 0:18:28.840 --> 0:18:33.360 Machina someone it's called Mackina, but Makina she was a chick. Yeah, 0:18:34.000 --> 0:18:38.120 she was a chick. I think it makes sense because 0:18:38.920 --> 0:18:41.600 it's you know, no, you know what. This really really 0:18:41.600 --> 0:18:44.399 interests me because the other day I saw you know, 0:18:44.520 --> 0:18:49.639 Jane from Glee, the really like the mean trainer woman 0:18:49.840 --> 0:18:54.359 with the she as a person on her on her 0:18:54.400 --> 0:18:59.400 Twitter wrote, can like female podcasters like lower their tone 0:18:59.440 --> 0:19:02.920 because listening to high voices is really annoying. But then 0:19:03.000 --> 0:19:05.120 on the other hand, all of the assistants are women, 0:19:05.200 --> 0:19:07.520 So I'm like there is some sort of divide. People 0:19:07.600 --> 0:19:08.360 often say. 0:19:08.320 --> 0:19:10.360 We're going to talk about this. Jane thinks the more 0:19:10.480 --> 0:19:14.320 that you put that down, please, can women lower their tones? 0:19:14.480 --> 0:19:15.440 That's what we should put down. 0:19:15.520 --> 0:19:18.439 On the one hand, women's voices are considered annoying, and 0:19:18.520 --> 0:19:21.199 I remember growing up, Dad used to always say that 0:19:21.359 --> 0:19:23.440 men say it women say it, I find as well. 0:19:23.440 --> 0:19:25.679 They're like, women are just more annoying to listen to. 0:19:25.800 --> 0:19:29.200 Remember I told you about that women who got surgery 0:19:29.240 --> 0:19:30.639 to deepen her voice because she was like, no one 0:19:30.640 --> 0:19:31.440 takes me seriously? 0:19:31.880 --> 0:19:32.120 Yes? 0:19:32.320 --> 0:19:34.880 Yes, When did we start finding them annoying? And then 0:19:35.000 --> 0:19:36.640 on the other hand, why is it that we want 0:19:36.920 --> 0:19:41.200 subservient women? Like why do we want women voices? Traditionally 0:19:41.200 --> 0:19:44.240 women voices as our ai. I believe it's because we 0:19:44.280 --> 0:19:46.639 want to hear women's voices when they suit us, when 0:19:46.680 --> 0:19:48.800 they're doing something for us. But we don't want to 0:19:48.840 --> 0:19:54.000 hear women's voices when they are simply enjoying having enjoyment, 0:19:54.400 --> 0:20:00.399 such as us. So if you're listening to this, eat it. 0:20:00.960 --> 0:20:03.800 I would love to have someone who's built an ai 0:20:04.760 --> 0:20:07.800 answer that question. Yeah, because part of me thinks it's 0:20:07.840 --> 0:20:11.439 an oversight. You know how people talk about you know, 0:20:11.520 --> 0:20:14.720 often when people talk about the way that men have 0:20:14.840 --> 0:20:18.000